In this episode we discuss our experiences with Prodommes, and the extent to which the they can reasonably be considered to be professionals.

Episode Art: Unknown Woman,  Artist: Lavinia Fontana, c. 1600

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In this episode we discuss an official anti-misogynistic scolding from Sadiq Khan, the current Mayor of the City of London, England.

Episode Art:  Lord Mayor of London Sir William Craven, Marcus Gheeraeerts II,  1610

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In this episode we discuss our favorite parts of Season V. 

Episode Art: Fredrick, Frieseke, 1911

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In this episode, we discover south Denver's own Garden of Eden, only to have it snatched away from us by Devil Weed.

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In this introduction to Season 2, we discuss what we'll be doing (travelling, trying new things)  as the world opens up again, as well as our personal goals for the coming months. 

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In this episode we discuss sexual sublimation and the eroticization of revolution. 

This is the last episode of Season 1. Season 2, in which we explore the re-opening of the kinky universe, will begin in the first week of July, 2021. 

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EXPLICIT:   In this episode, we discuss our thoughts and feelings about pegging--including which positions are the most powerful, and the relationship between pegging and Dominance/submission. 

Episode Art: Nineteenth Century Monk Dildo

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In this episode, we discuss what feels like love to us in our BDSM-based power exchange relationship. And what doesn't. 

Episode Art: "Romeo and Juliet," Frank Dicksee, 1884

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EXPLICIT:   In this episode, we discuss the value and meaning of domestic discipline (i.e., adult corporal punishment) in our relationship. 

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Explicit:   In this episode, we discuss the value of protocols and good manners to the success of our power exchange relationship.

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In this second episode in our series on kink and spirituality, we discuss the power and beauty of several ancient goddesses, and how they are used as kinky and spiritual role models for self-creation and self-understanding.

Episode Art: Kali Lithograph, 1895, British Museum

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EXPLICT: This episode is the continuation of last week's discussion of CBT.

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EXPLICIT:   This is the first in a two part episode about CBT, in which we discuss a variety of forms of CBT that may not be mentionable in a public episode description.

Episode Art: "Boxer of Quirinal," Greek Hellenistic bronze, 100-50 BC, Palazzo Massimo alle Terme, Rome


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In this episode, we discuss a variety of fictional and real-life sexual utopias.

Episode Art: Oneida Offspring, 1898, Artist Unknown

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In this episode we discuss two great supportive men: the first Second Gentleman Doug Emhoff, and Prince Albert, royal consort to Queen Victoria of England.

We also discuss two powerful women--the artist Frida Kahlo, and the legendary samurai warrior Tomoe Gozen.

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In this episode, we introduce  a new series on kink and spirituality. We also provide an overview of how many kinksters re-purpose and transform religious practices and religious dogma to make them more meaningful to our own lives and loves. 


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In this episode, we discuss the cultural origins  and unique delights of our favorite types of impact play--including whipping, flogging, caning, and spanking.

Episode Art: Etruscan fresco from the Tomba Della Fustigatione in the necropolis of Tarquinia in Lazio, Italy.

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EXPLICIT:    In this episode we discuss different perspectives on the intersections between kink and trauma.

Episode Art: Black Mahakala--A Tibetan Wrathful Tantric Deity

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This is the first in a new series of episodes in which we discuss discuss historical and fictional figures we who we find to be sexy and seductive and/or good kinky role models.

If you have any kinky crushes or role models of your own, please let us know, and we may share them on future episodes.  You can contact us on Fetlife, at rockadopoleis@gmail.com, or or on our podpage at www.rockadopoleis.com.

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In this episode we talk about stereotypes of submissives, dominant men, and how male supremacy affects our BDSM relationship.  We provide a brief history on men's groups, its original ties to feminism, and how these groups changed over time.  We also discuss how the pressure to be "heteronormative" men affects us as people and how it affects our relationship. 

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Explicit Content:   In this episode we discuss the differences and similarities between feminism, femdom, and female supremacy. 

Artwork:  1565 Elisabeth de Valois by Sofonisba Anguissola (Prado)

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EXPLICIT:   In this episode, we resume our discussion of male chastity: it's potential costs and benefits to both the caged and they keyholder, as well as some of the myths and falsehoods that about male chastity that circulate among kinky and kink-curious people.

Episode Art: Sir Galahad Receives the Key to the  Castle of Maidens, Edwin Austin Abbey, c. 1880

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EXPLICIT:   In Part 1 of our two part discussion of male chastity, Jislaaik provides a brief historical overview of how and why powerful social institutions attempt to control the who, what, when, where, and why of human sexuality. Then Lance provides an overview of the kinky, consensual use of sexual control, focusing on the current popularity of male chastity. 

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In this episode, we riff off of Part IV of the book More Than Two.

Episode Art: Antoni and Eliza Radziwill, c. 1820, Artist Unknown

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Happy New Year Everyone!

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Explicit Content:   In this episode we explore different ideas from cultural and rhetorical theory for deepening our power exchange dynamic.

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EXPLICIT CONTENT:   Join us around the Christmas tree as we sip Frangelico and try out our  new toys. 

Episode Art: "Ghost of Christmas Present," John Leech,  1843

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In this episode, we discuss social stigmas associated with kink, and the  potential costs and benefits of coming out kinky to ourselves, our friends, our family, and our coworkers.

Episode Art: "The Armed Maiden," Friedrich von Amerling, c.1850

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Explicit Content:   In this episode, we continue our conversation about sex, kink, and self-creation. 

Episode Art:  "Mask Still Life III," Emil Nolde, 1911

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Explicit Content:   In this episode, we introduce Foucault's theories of sexual  identity and practice, and then discuss how prolific kinksters are in the art of self-creation.

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EXPLICIT CONTENT:   Jislaaik and Lance discuss historical practices and theories of sadomasochism, as well as our own respective experience of  a sadism and masochism.

Episode Art: 19th-century "French postcard" from the personal collection of the German-Austrian psychiatrist and early sexologist Richard Freiherr von Krafft-Ebing.

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EXPLICIT:    In which we rum-inate over the things we are most thankful for in each other. 

Episode Art: "A Bar at the Folies-Bergère," Eduard Manet, 1881-82 

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In this episode we talk about social, cultural, relational, and religious transgression as a sexual kink, and about the extent to which the "kink community" does and does not support transgression of its own social and cultural norms, especially with regard to how we think and talk about kink.

Also Note: We quote Midori, the well-known kink educator, artist, and "irritant to banality," in the episode.  Check out her work at  www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori !

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In this episode, we discuss how we practice Total Power Exchange in our relationship, including how we got started and how our power exchange dynamic has evolved over time.

Episode art: "Circe Offering The Cup to Ulysses," John Waterhouse, 1891

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In this episode we discuss Part 3 in More Than Two, focusing on differences between power dynamics in polyamory and our 24/7 TPE dynamic.
 
Episode Art: Louis XIV,  Hyacinth Rigaud, 1701

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In this episode, we talk more about the physical aspects of our relationship: how they have evolved over time, and how they influence and support our relationship as a whole.

Episode  Art: "Male Nude With Arms Outstretched," William Etty, 1828

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This episode provides a brief overview of who we are and what we enjoy doing together, including both kinky and regular-people stuff.

Episode Art: "La Belle Dame Sans Merci," Frank Dicksee, c. 1901

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In this episode, we discuss the book The Leather Couch, by the kink positive sex therapist Stefani Goerlich.

Episode Art: Portrait of Riri [detail], Guiseppi  Amisani, 1900

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In this episode, we discuss our experiences at a local Femdom event.

Episode Art: No Title, Dorothea Lange, 1939,  Yale/Library of Congress

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In this episode, we discuss Jislaaik's penchant for breaking rules. 

Episode Art:  Isabella Stewart Gardner in Venice,  Anders Zorn, 1894

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In this episode, we discuss the uses of nakedness in our power exchange dynamic. 

Episode Art: Study of a Nude Man, Gustave Corbet, c. 1840s

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In this episode we discuss a variety of relationship tools that could be useful to both polyamorists and polyandrists.

Episode Art: Bacchus [detail],  Michelangelo Merisi da Caravaggio, 1596

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In this episode, we discuss the extent to which we can adapt ideas and strategies from the world of polyamory to our future polyandrous relationships. 

Episode Art: Polyamory Symbol, Artist: Opensofia, Wikimedia Commons

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This episode is the first of a two-part episode about the kinkification of misogyny.

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In this episode with continue our discussion of developing world views. 

Episode Art: Drawing of Sigmund Freud, artist unknown

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In this episode we discuss creating our vanilla and kinky world views from a variety of philosophical lenses.

Episode Art: Plato in The School of Athens, Rafael, c.1510 (detail)

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In this episode, we discuss generational differences and attitudes toward power and power exchange in age gap relationships.

Episode Art: Cougar and Her Cubs, Public Domain, Date and Artist Unknown

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This episode is Part I of a two-part episode about the pros and cons of age gap relationships, especially in power exchange dynamics.

Episode Art: Japanese Pather Ocelot Cougar and Jaguar (detail), Artist Unknown 

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In this episode we continue our discussion of  Robert Greene's book, The Art of Seduction.

Episode Art: Lady Lilith, Dante Gabriel Rosetti, 1866

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