Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered?

Have you done a lot of work on yourself this year, and fear that it may all fly out the window as soon as you're around your parents, neighbours, or distant relatives?

If so... I've got you!

This is the reminder we ALL need this time of year. 

Mentioned in this episode:

• Group coaching details

This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings.

People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!'

If your brain has offered a similar question...

This episode is for YOU!

Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself?

Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want?

Then this episode is for YOU!

I'm discussing:

• The reason why we challenge our thinking
• When fear of leaving a relationship gets in the way of making a conscious decision
• How the first thought your brain offers you isn't the ultimate 'true' thought

Interested in 1:1 coaching?

Email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you find yourself getting stuck in a cycle of comparing yourself to others?

Are they prettier? Richer? Funnier?

Is there relationship 'better'? Is there partner more romantic?

Whatever it is - this episode will help you understand WHY we feel the need to compare and how we can break out of the habit.

To join my email list for even more relationship tips and support, visit: www.rebeccaorecoaching.com

Once we learn that other people don't exist to 'make' us feel good and validate us, some clients tend to ask... 'so if my partner isn't supposed to make me feel secure and validate me, what's the point of relationships?'

If you wonder this yourself, you're in luck!

This episode talks about the way we're socialised to think about relationships, validation, and the reasons you may or may not choose to be in a romantic relationship. 

In this episode - I look at some of the common errors we make when trying to set boundaries, what a boundary actually is, and why it doesn't require anything from anybody else for it to be a huge success.

Struggled upholding boundaries in the past? This episode is YOU!

Do you often find yourself feeling anxious if you sense a change in mood in your partner, friends, co-workers, or family members?

This was probably one of my biggest struggles that I’ve really worked on during my own coaching journey. 

I would feel like in my relationships I was just constantly on red alert, monitoring if other people were ‘okay’ with me so that I could feel safe and secure.

Listen to this episode to find out how you can start overcoming this today! 

Do the things that happen in your life just constantly throw you and leave you feeling like an emotional boomerang? 

Feeling like you need things to change...

• Your partner to change
• Your job to change
• Your weight to change
• The world to change!!

.... so that you can start feeling BETTER. 

Then this podcast is for you.

Find yourself feeling angry about the way other people act? Or maybe you feel rejected, hurt or disconnected when people don't behave in the ways you thought they would.

Our brains naturally make assumptions about what other people's behaviour means - snap judgements that we rarely pause to question, and that cause so much havoc and disconnection in our relationships.

In this episode - we're going to talk about how curiosity is the secret weapon that will help you create more connection in your relationships.

If you're trying to improve your relationships in any way - DO NOT SKIP THIS EPISODE.

Your thoughts are what create the way you feel, which drive the way you act - which means they're verrrrrry important. 

And improving your relationship to your thoughts is something that will massively help you manage your mind, emotions and create relationships you love.

Do you find yourself wishing you could just get your partner or friends or family members to just STOP doing that thing, or START doing something else?

Do you wish you could just write them a guide for how they SHOULD act? 

Wouldn't it make life so much easier?!

In this episode, you're going to learn all about the concept of MANUALS. And why learning to let go of your manuals for others is the key to creating the most amazing relationships.

In today's episode, I answer six questions written in by people on my email list. If you're not on my email list already - head to www.rebeccaorecoaching.com and get on it!

Topics in this episode include:

• Getting over an abrupt breakup
• Dealing with cheating paranoia
• How to manage a spiralling mind
• Is he a narcissist or just an a$$ hole
• And more!

Do you HATE feeling anxious? Do you often react to your emotions in ways that create more drama in your relationships? Do you feel like your brain and emotions are the boss of you, and wish that you could be the boss of them?

Then this podcast is for you. 

I'm going to teach you how to stop reacting to, avoiding, and resisting negative emotion so that they no longer have to ruin your life.

Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel?

Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions?

Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions?

If so - this episode is for YOU!

Don't forget to leave a review or a rating if you found this episode useful!

Does somebody not liking you fill you with fear?

Does the idea that they might be mad at you make you extremely anxious?

Do you try and people please everybody so that EVERYONE will be 'okay' with you?

Then this episode is for you!

Here is a link to the Self Esteem Building Kit mentioned in the episode: https://mailchi.mp/rebeccaorecoaching.com/selfesteembuildingkit 

Do you struggle with trusting your partner? Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!!

Then this episode is for you.

We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trusting THEM when you can trust YOURSELF. 

I believed for most of my 20's that other people were the source of my negative emotion. 

Thank god I was wrong! 

Listen to this episode to find out:

• The real source of your anxiety
• Why trying to control them won't help
• How to take responsibility and create changes

My very first podcast episode is here! This is a quick introduction to me, what I do, and how this podcast is going to help you finally master your relationship mind-drama. 

Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded.

Do you struggle with trusting your partner? 

Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!!

Then this episode is for you.

We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trusting THEM when you can trust YOURSELF. 

Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships.

If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU.

I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing.

Ready? LISTEN NOW.

Mentioned in this episode:

• MYFR - 8 week coaching programme - INFO
• MYFR - SIGN UP NOW

When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts...

- What if they break up with me?
- What if they're mad at me?
- What if they're lying to me?
- What if they leave me?

... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions.

In today's episode, I'm talking about:

• Why rejection seems so terrifying
• What we're actually afraid of
• How dirty pain is the cause of a lot of our suffering
• AND how to overcome your fears and feel confident and secure

Ready? LISTEN NOW.

Mentioned in the episode:

Sign up to the FREE master class: How to become rejection proof

Information on the 8-week group coaching programme: Master Your Fear of Rejection

Do you tend to take things personally?

Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable?

Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts?

Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good?

If so - you likely have a fear of rejection.

And in today's episode, I'm sharing 7 symptoms of fear of rejection and how each of them f*cks with our relationships.

Mentioned in the episode:

• How to become rejection proof - FREE master class
• Master Your Fear of Rejection - 8 week group coaching programme

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?

Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with?

And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think?

In today's episode, I'm talking about:

• Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from)
• Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughts
• And the two key components to creating unshakable confidence 

Mentioned in this episode:

• Self Esteem Building Kit

When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism?

Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' something about how you look in order to be 'good enough'? 

When you look at pictures of yourself - do you instantly hone in on what's 'wrong' and beat yourself up?

With my wedding coming up, I have had a similar experience of noticing increasing pressure from my brain to look and be 'good enough'.

And in today's episode, I share 4 steps for overcoming these thought patterns and getting out of the 'good enough' trap.


Mentioned in this episode:

• The Self Esteem Building Kit

There's a lot of talk in the online space about needs and the importance of finding partners that meet our needs.

But how do we actually go about asking for what we want?

In this episode, I'm discussing:

• What do we really mean by 'need'?
• Why we often don't just ask for what we want
• Why need entitlement causes issues in relationships
• How to see needs as a collaboration 
• How to meet your own needs when your partner can't

Ready?

Mentioned in this episode:

• Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you often avoid having the harder conversations with loved ones?

Not really being truly honest about how you feel and sweeping things under the rug to avoid conflict?

Or maybe you do bring up issues, but you do it in a way that doesn't tend to result in connection...

Then this episode is for YOU!

I'm going to talk you through some key steps for cleaning up your own mind before difficult conversations and some practical tips for showing up as your best self.

AND how to make the conversation a SUCCESS - regardless of their response.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach?

Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy? 

And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve? 

If so - this episode is for YOU.

I'm offering an opposing opinion on red flags and talking about why our obsession with them isn't actually helpful.

Listen to find out:

• Why the idea of red flags fuels anxiety
• What we're really most afraid of
• How self-certainty can be created, even in the uncertainty of relationships

Mentioned in the episode:

• Processing emotions meditation
• Group coaching programme

Do you ever find yourself obsessing over and trying to decipher how much someone else likes you?

Whether your partner loves you as much as you love them...

Or whether your friends feel as close to you as you do to them...

If so - this episode is for YOU!

We're going to talk about:

• Why answering the question isn't cut and dry 
• Why we're so obsessed with it in the first place
• A better question to focus on in your relationships instead

Mentioned in the episode:

• Self Esteem Building Kit

Do you find yourself being pretty critical of the people in your life?

Your partner, your friends, your family members...

Feeling frustrated and negative about the ways they show up or the things they do / don't do?

Our brains' habit of criticizing can cause so much unnecessary disconnection in our relationships.

Tune into this episode to find out WHY we're doing it and useful tips for how to stop.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

In this episode, I chat with the lovely Sarah Siegert - Expat Friendship Coach, on all things FRIENDSHIP.

We talk about:

• The manuals and expectations we have of our friends
• Friendship breakups
• When friendships change due to life circumstances
• Making new friends as an adult
• Why it's really all about our thoughts about ourselves

Mentioned in this episode:

1:1 coaching - Email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!

We're going to cover:

• Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with us
• Compromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will look
• Managing your anxious brain and processing your emotions
• The fears that often come up in long distance relationships
• Feeling pressure for the time you spend together to be perfect
• AND how you can feel connected to your partner, even when they’re not around or in contact

Ready? LISTEN NOW.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Processing emotions meditation
• Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

In this week's episode, I'm talking about how our upbringing, society, and external influencers can shape and determine the way we think about ourselves, love, and relationships.

• Do you automatically think being single in your 30s is a bad thing?
• Do you feel a bit shocked when you hear someone doesn't want kids?
• Do you find yourself behaving in ways that don't really serve you, but you're not sure why?
• Are you super hard on yourself? And feel like you're never meeting the standard you (or others) have set for you?

If any of these things relate, this episode is for you.

I will also be sharing 6 common beliefs I see screwing with my clients' brains and offering ways to challenge them.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet
• 1:1 coaching - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you try to use the tools and concepts I teach to manage your mind - but sometimes struggle to actually feel better?

Do you struggle to understand why something is bothering you and feel like you're skirting around the root of the issue?

Or often just have NO idea what you're thinking and where to even begin with thought work?

Thought work is the practice of working with our thoughts to change our emotional experiences.

As you may have heard before - our thoughts create our reality!

But often we can be so unaware of the thoughts creating our pain that we prevent ourselves from being able to address the real issue.

This episode is going to talk about moving past your surface-level thoughts to find the thoughts really creating your suffering.

Ready? LISTEN NOW.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
• Email about 1:1 coaching - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Are you often feeling disappointed, hurt, and rejected in your relationships?

And like the people in your life just don't make you feel loved and important?

You may be falling victim to the 'They don't care' trap...

Which is a pattern I see a lot of clients getting stuck in.

In this episode, find out:

• What the 'They don't care' trap is
• Why we end up there
• The problems it creates in our relationships
• And most importantly... how to get out of it!

Mentioned in this episode:
Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you find yourself often doing what others want you to do, without giving much thought to your own preferences and desires?

Do you tend to make decisions on what's more likely to be approved of, consciously or subconsciously trying to avoid the risk of people being mad at you?

If so - you're probably already familiar with the term 'People pleaser'.

And in today's episode, I'm talking about the different types of people pleasing, why we do it, AND why being willing to risk rejection will change your relationships for the better.

Ready? LISTEN NOW.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you have some issues in your relationship where household chores are concerned?

Do you just WISH you could get them to do their washing up faster...

Put a load of laundry on sooner...

Throw round a duster for once in their life?!

Living with another human being with a totally different brain than you is no joke.

But in this episode, we're going to:

• Uncover how socialization plays a huge part in the way each of us approaches responsibilities
• Clean up your thoughts about what their habits mean about you and your relationship
• Talk about how you can be direct and confident in asking for what you want 
• And how you can step out of frustration and resentment, and create the peace of mind you truly desire

Mentioned in the episode:

• Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you?

Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong?

And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short?

In today's episode, I'm talking about how self-acceptance will change your life - including:

• What self-acceptance really is
• Why we struggle to love and accept ourselves
• The excuses we make to not accept ourselves
• How to make shifts towards unconditional self-acceptance

Mentioned in this episode:

• Self Esteem Building Kit
• Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over?

Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle?

Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction...

And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many times before?

If so - it's time to break the cycle.

And this episode will help you do just that!

Mentioned in the episode:

Info on 1:1 coaching - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Link to group coaching info - Master Your Relationship Mind Drama

Do you want to open up to your partner about what you're going through but don't really know how?

Whenever you discuss your anxiety, does it tend to end in a huge argument?

Then this episode is for YOU.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Processing Emotions Meditation
• Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

Do you feel overly impacted by other people's bad moods?

Like if your partner is grumpy after work - YOU automatically feel annoyed or irritated?

Or if your friend is being a little short with you - YOU automatically feel anxious?

If so - this episode is for you!

I'm going to teach you why other people's moods are never what's actually determining the way you feel, what actually is, AND how to take back control over your own emotional experience.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Processing Emotions Meditation
• Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

Do you find yourself feel resentful in your relationships?

Feeling like you need other people to change so that YOU can feel better?

If so - you need to listen to this episode!

Mentioned in the episode:

• MYRMD - Group coaching details
• MYRMD - SIGN UP NOW
• Email - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you find yourself worrying about what your partner might do on a night out? 

Or getting paranoid and anxious about their new co-worker?

Or ruminating about what if they cheat with that old family friend of theirs? 

Constantly being triggered and worrying about situations that could lead to them cheating on you or leaving you? 

In today's episode - find out WHY are brains are doing this and how you can finally stop making it YOUR job to stop them cheating on you.

Mentioned in this episode:

• MYRMD - 12 week coaching programme - Information
• MYRMD - SIGN UP NOW

In today's episode - listen to me chat with dating expert, Talia Koren - host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, about all things dating & mind drama!

We cover a range of juicy topics, including:

• How to enjoy dating
• Being in a rush to meet someone
• Rejection
• Apps vs meeting people in real life
• Outdated dating rules

And so much more!

Mentioned in the episode:

• Sign up for the FREE Facing Your Fear of Rejection master class
• Information on the group coaching programme

Meet Talia Koren:

• Instagram
• Dating Intentionally podcast

Are you terrified of your partner cheating on you or leaving you... because you're convinced you could NEVER be happy with someone else?

Does your brain tell you the dating pool is too small? Or you'd be too old to find someone else?

Or that no one would EVER be as good as your partner?

These scarcity beliefs fuel so much anxiety in our relationships.

And in this episode I'm going to discuss them in detail AND offer you 3 new beliefs that will help you break out of scarcity thinking.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Master Your Relationship Mind Drama - group coaching programme
• My email address: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

We're often told we need to validate ourselves - and not rely on our partners or friends to validate us.

But.... how do we actually do that?

In this episode I'm talking your through 4 simple steps for validating yourself in any situation - so that you can stop relying on other people to say the right things in order for you to feel good.

Ready?

Mentioned in this episode:

• My email address: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
• MYRMD - 12 week group coaching programme - Info and waitlist

Ever find yourself wondering if what you're asking of your partner is 'reasonable' or 'unreasonable'?

And asking 10 friends their opinion about who's right and who's wrong in an argument you're having?

Do you and your partner have different opinions about a certain situation and you're stuck debating which one of you is in the right? Or who's to blame?

Then this episode is for YOU!

I'm going to teach you something that changes the way you think about 'reasonable' vs 'unreasonable' and help you decide on purpose how you want to think and feel about any situation in your relationship.

Mentioned in the episode:

• My email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
• MYRMD - group programme - Waitlist and info

Are you continuously feeling pretty terrible in your relationships, knowing you need to change the way you think, but have no idea where to start?

Are you showing up in ways you don't like and want to get address the root cause?

Or have you been following this podcast for a while and feel like you need a little more help on actually changing the thoughts creating your pain?

Then this episode is for you!

Mentioned in the episode:

• Drop me an email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
• MYRMD - 12 week group coaching programme - Info and waitlist

Are you going through a breakup right now? 

In this episode, I chat with amazing break-up coach, Lucy Price, on all things HEARTBREAK.

We talk about:

• The common thought errors that come up during breakups
• Calling out your brain's painful stories
• Getting closure
• Processing and allowing your pain
• Supporting yourself (even when your circle of friends aren't being supportive)
• And how to take back control and write the next chapter of your story

Find out more about Lucy:

• Website: www.shiftyourstory.net
• IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucy.m.price/
• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lucy.m.price
• Podcast: Shift Your Story 

We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all!

But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships. 

• Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you?
• Do you instantly feel anxious if you think someone is mad at you?
• Do you often blame other people for how you're feeling or for the choices you're making?

If so, this episode is for YOU!

In today's episode - I'm sharing some examples of codependent thinking and revealing the thought errors driving them.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Find out more about 1:1 coaching by emailing rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you find yourself getting anxious about...

• Who your partner follows on social media?
• How often they like your pictures?
• Whether they like certain other people's pictures?
• How often they post about you to their social channels?
• Or some other kind of variation...

If so - this episode is for YOU!

I'm calling out one of the main thinking errors that creates this kind of anxiety and teaching you how to coach your brain around it.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Self Esteem Building Kit
• MYRMD - Group coaching waitlist