There’s one tool that shows your spouse you care about how they feel, helps rebuild trust, and creates the kind of emotional safety every strong relationship needs. And yet, it’s one of the most misunderstood (and misused) tools in marriage.

I’m talking about apology. Not the kind that shuts a conversation down or smooths things over quickly, but the kind that actually brings you closer. Whether you're someone who avoids saying sorry, finds yourself over-apologizing, or just wishes your spouse would do it better, I’m getting into why this skill is so critical for connection and how to use it well.

Tune in to discover:

• The surprising psychological reasons so many people struggle to apologize
• Why your spouse’s apology might not feel satisfying (and what to do about it)
• What research says about the way men and women apologize differently
• A 3-part formula you can use to give powerful, effective apologies
• How to get more of what you need even if your partner doesn’t apologize often (or at all)

The Us System: The Us System: https://marriedafterkids.com/the-us-system

FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Sometimes the biggest shift in your marriage starts with getting crystal clear on what you actually need—and saying it out loud.

In this special episode, I’m joined by the incredible Elizabeth Newcamp, military spouse, mom of three, and co-host of Slate’s Care and Feeding podcast, for a real, tender, and honest conversation about resentment, default parenting, emotional labor, and what it means to truly feel seen in your relationship.

We talk about the invisible mental load, how resentment shows up even when you want to be a team, and the surprisingly powerful thing Elizabeth did to shift how she and her husband communicate (it gave me chills).

Tune in to discover:

• Why resentment doesn’t mean your marriage is broken
• The invisible load of emotional labor and how to name it clearly
• What happened when Elizabeth wrote her husband the apology she needed to hear
• The surprising power of being explicit about what you need (even when it feels unfair to spell it out)
• Why real change in marriage takes intention, communication, and practice

Connect with Elizabeth:

• Care and Feeding Podcast: https://slate.com/podcasts/care-and-feeding

Connect with Lindsay:

• FREE Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

• Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

• Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you sometimes feel like, even after years of marriage, your partner still doesn’t know how to love you in the way you truly need? In this episode, I’m opening up about a pivotal shift in my own relationship—one that completely changed the way I felt seen, loved, and supported in my marriage.

If you’ve ever found yourself wishing your partner could understand your needs without you having to constantly explain them, or if you’ve felt the slow burn of resentment building, this episode will speak directly to your heart.

Tune in to discover:

• Why feeling unloved doesn't mean your marriage is broken
• What needed to shift in me before I could ever expect change in him
• The quiet ways resentment builds (and how I stopped it)
• How I helped my spouse understand the kind of love I actually needed
• What changed when I stopped dropping hints and started being clear

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Do you know why I typically sign off with “I hope you are taking care of yourself” at the end of each episode? Well, it’s not just a well-meaning gesture, but a powerful not-so-secret secret that holds the key for all military spouses - especially during those challenging times of separation.

Taking care of yourself is hard to do in the best of times, and deployment makes it that much more difficult because you're juggling not only your own responsibilities but also those of your spouse. But here’s the truth: Neglecting self care can have serious repercussions on both your health and your marriage.

In this episode, we uncover what it really means to take care of yourself, even when it feels like you have zero time or energy left in your day. But if you truly want to increase your happiness, strengthen your relationship with your spouse, and improve deployments, THIS is the way. 

Tune in to this powerful episode as we explore:

• Five signs that you are on your way to burnout (and how burnout can impact your health and marriage)

• The pivotal role of self care in fueling your ability to manage your daily demands and responsibilities

• Discovering what self care is (and how to incorporate it even with limited time and capacity)

• Why relying on your spouse for the same support during deployments may lead to disappointment and arguments

• How taking charge of your own happiness can lead to a stronger, happier you and a healthier, more resilient marriage

For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the often-overlooked phase known as the fourth trimester - the postpartum period.

In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Kristal Lau, a physician, postpartum wellness consultant, and author of Postpartum 30, shares personal stories from her own postpartum, sheds light on why this time can be uniquely challenging for military families, and educates us on the unmatched expectations couples often have when entering this significant phase. 

Tune in to discover how the postpartum period impacts mothers and their marriages, whether you have children, are planning to have them, or simply wish to better support and understand mothers during this transformative time.

We’re exploring:

• What you need to know about the postpartum period (and what “normal” and “abnormal” things to expect)
• Real talk on postpartum depression
• The fascinating changes that occur in a mother's brain during this phase
• One powerful way to decrease resentment in your marriage after having kids
• What most people don’t talk about when it comes to the postpartum period
• Preparing and planning for your postpartum period 

More resources for the postpartum period:

• 3 Essential Postpartum Changes That No One Really Talks About And What To Do About Them: www.mamaswingwoman.com/pplist1
• Dad University: https://www.daduniversity.com/
• Military Birth Resource Network & Postpartum Coalition: https://www.militarybirthresourcenetwork.org/
• Postpartum Wellness Consultant and Owner of Mama's Wing Woman
• Author of Postpartum 30
• Host of 'The Postpartum Wellness Show' on YouTube and Podcasts

For more support during deployment, check out my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Good news! You can raise incredible kids AND nurture a strong marriage within this extraordinary world of military life. However, let's be real - challenges are part of the package, too. But fear not, because this episode will empower you with strategies and insights to conquer those challenges and create a fulfilling military marriage as parents.

Discover how the joys and demands of parenting impact your relationship, uncover effective strategies for navigating deployments with children, and dive into a conversation on managing different parenting styles. 

We are also exploring:

• The impact of having children on your marriage and the challenges it presents

• Essential daily actions and tools to enhance your role as a spouse and parent

• Maintaining effective relationships without spending excessive time

• Nurturing your connection with your spouse amidst the demands of parenthood

• Prioritizing your marriage and finding time for each other, even when your schedule is packed

In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage course: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Marriage is hard. Add in military life and children, and we get an “extra, extra” marriage. 

Join Elizabeth Newcamp and me as we dive into the complexities of military marriage, parenting challenges, and the unique hardships that arise in military life. Elizabeth shares invaluable insights on navigating disagreements, deployments, and difficult situations as a military spouse, offering practical ideas to foster a stronger marriage and family.

We’re exploring:

• Managing different parenting styles in a military family

• A solid framework for resolving disagreements in marriage

• Establishing guidelines for emotionally charged situations

• The transition period when your military spouse returns home

• One surprising way to help strengthen your military marriage

• How to have a successful marriage despite differences

Connect with Elizabeth:

• Mom and Dad are Fighting podcast: https://slate.com/podcasts/mom-and-dad-are-fighting

• Dutch Dutch Goose family travel blog: https://www.dutchdutchgoose.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ejdn/

For more support during deployment, check out In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Finding friends can be one of the most challenging aspects of military life. And yet it’s also the key to unlock more happiness, especially when your spouse is away.

It’s no secret that friendships are important. They make our lives more enjoyable and also help carry us through difficult times. So when you experience friendship drama, backstabbing, or anything that just doesn't feel good, you may find it extremely hard to build new friendships and avoid letting people get to know you.

In this episode, we’re exploring:

• Why it’s vital to have friendships, especially with other military spouses

• What you can do to feel empowered instead of anxious in difficult friendships

• How to manage your own emotions and mood in toxic situations

• The #1 way to navigate all spouse drama

• Tips to deal with cliques (and who to seek out to build new friendships)

FREE CHALLENGE! How to get through deployment without dread, resentment or fights: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/july-2023-challenge

Check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Not to get too therapist-y on you here, BUT your past can have a significant impact on your marriage (and your self). 

The unique moments and roles you experienced in your childhood are still influencing your marriage today. However, you're not stuck playing the same roles forever. You get to decide if the roles are still serving you and if you want to continue them or not. 

Let's dive into the nitty-gritty of how exploring your past can shed light on your current relationship dynamics and help you understand your partner on a whole new level.

In this episode, get ready for:

• Unveiling how your past influences your current relationship patterns and triggers

• Empowering yourself to shift (or embrace!) the role you play in your marriage

• Juicy real-life examples and stories from my clients and my own marriage

• The #1 golden nugget to remember when digging into your past 

• One key question that can help improve your relationship with your spouse

• Plus, a little secret sauce to strengthen your marriage as you explore your past

More resources to strengthen your marriage:

In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you craving better communication during your spouse's deployment or TDY? 

I'm breaking down the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to deployment communication, and providing actionable tips to improve communication that allow you to connect deeper with your spouse, even across different time zones and limited availability.

Deployments and TDYs bring unique communication challenges, but with the right mindset and strategies, you can maintain a healthy and meaningful connection with your partner. 

So don't just accept that deployment communication will not be great while they’re away. Join me in this episode as we explore:

• Four practical ways to improve communication during deployment

• How you can get what you need most when your spouse is away

• Ways to approach the conversation when there is something pressing you need answered or you have something bothering you

• An effective tool you can use anytime to improve communication

• How your mindset plays a crucial role in all of this

FREE CHALLENGE! How to get through deployment without dread, resentment or fights: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/july-2023-challenge

Check out my course for more support during deployment! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Ever have that sinking feeling when your spouse's promises start fizzling out?

We've all been there, wondering why they aren't following through after promising they’ll communicate at set times during deployment, or even pick up something they promised after work.

But here's the kicker: solving this problem doesn't have to lead to a fight! Join me as we dive into real-life scenarios, uncover the hidden negativity, and discover the secrets to rebuilding trust without causing a major meltdown in your relationship.

We’re exploring:

• Scenarios from my own marriage and my clients’ relationships (and how you can overcome and even grow stronger in the process)

• Why we try to make lack of follow-throughs mean something more than they really are

• How small things can chip away at the trust you have for your spouse and what you need to pay attention to for rebuilding that trust

• The best thing you can do to remain a solid team

• Five steps to successfully repair trust based on psychological research 

• Why it’s so difficult for our spouses to make a repair (and two ways we can make it easier for them to communicate about it)

Check out my course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you ever find yourself longing to rediscover the person you are beyond the role of a military spouse?

Our identities, goals, and dreams outside of being a military spouse are essential to our well-being, yet they can feel so challenging and even beyond reach at times. However, not pursuing our desires can negatively impact our marriage, and lead to resentment and conflict. 

Molly Rose has found a way to help us as military spouses have everything we want AND stay married. This is something that will allow us to show up more for ourselves, our marriages, and our families.

Her mission is to support military spouses by creating remote work and rewarding careers. She is the creator of Virtual Assistant Academy, which provides trusted virtual assistance solutions and flawless tech execution services for busy entrepreneurs and business owners. 

If you find yourself thinking, “I just need something for me”, you want to step into an exciting role outside of being a military spouse, or you desire to add extra income each month that allows you to get support however you need it most, then this episode is for you.

We’re exploring:

• Molly’s transition from climbing the corporate ladder to training others how to become Virtual Assistants

• What a Virtual Assistant is (and the various aspects of working from home)

• The benefits of being a Virtual Assistant (especially as a military spouse)

• How having a flexible job impacts our marriages

• The skills you have as a military spouse that you can get paid for RIGHT NOW

Learn more about Molly Rose at virtualassistantacademy.com

Connect on Instagram: @mollyrosespeed

Get the needed support during your next deployment: In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Maybe you have thought or even said out loud, “I can’t do this anymore”. We all know how challenging marriage can be, and trust me when I say I completely get it. Today I am sharing one of THE hardest moments in my marriage. The moment I felt the most uncertain. The moment I didn’t know if we were going to make it through.

In an effort to be more open and normalize the difficulties in marriage (yes - even as a marriage psychologist I still have difficulties in my marriage!), I am sharing my struggle that I’ve safely kept behind closed doors, until today. I will take you on my personal journey of how we overcame the “this isn’t working anymore” moment in our marriage.

We’re exploring:

• A vulnerable story of when I wanted out of our marriage

• Four steps we used (and still use today in difficult times!) to overcome the biggest challenge in our marriage we’ve ever had

• What you can do to make your spouse feel confident in how they are supporting you

• How to turn TO each other and work as a team when you’d rather figure things out on your own

• What you can say and do for each other so you both feel better, faster

Looking for support during deployment? Look no further! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Mother’s Day is supposed to be a celebration of moms—but for many of us, it just ends up highlighting how much we’re carrying, how little help we’re getting, and how unseen we feel most of the time. While the cards and flowers are sweet, they don’t solve the deeper issue of the mental load so many moms are buried under.

In this episode, I’m getting real about what’s really going on beneath the surface, and why one day of appreciation isn’t enough when you’re carrying it all the other 364. I’ll walk you through the steps I took to get out of resentment, build true partnership, and create a system where I feel supported every day—not just on Mother’s Day.

Tune in to discover:

• Why the mental load is about way more than just household tasks
• What your heart is actually craving (and it’s not a better gift)
• How to feel more emotionally supported by your spouse
• The difference between a “manager” and a true partner—and how to shift out of that role
• What to ask for when you’re tired of holding it all alone

This episode is for every mom who feels like one day of celebration just isn’t enough (because it’s not). Let’s create the kind of marriage and support system that makes every day feel like you matter.

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Krista got the call. The one every single one of us dreads, the absolute worst-case scenario. Join us inside this courageous conversation where she shares her unimaginable tragedy and how she created something so beautiful from it. Together, we discuss the resources available to you in these situations, how to normalize moving through feelings of healing while reminding you to have the difficult planning conversations now so you can both be prepared for anything.

We’re exploring:

• How to give yourself grace when you feel the need to be strong all the time
• The ways the military community kept showing up for Krista when her direct connection to the military was gone
• Foundations and organizations every military spouse should be aware of for support on this journey
• Top questions to ask your spouse, so you both can have an extreme understanding should something happen to either one of you
• Resources to reach out to if you’re experiencing financial hardship 
• How to thrive in our role as a military spouse for ultimate preparation
• And so much more!

The Military Life Binder : ​​https://www.listandfile.com/

Keeper Security password manager: https://www.keepersecurity.com/ 

The Unquiet Professional, making noise for those who serve: https://www.theunquietprofessional.org/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Available now! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/44943126970086

What do you do when you want out of the military, your marriage… or both? 

Reaching this breaking point is all too common in military spouse life. You feel broken down, it seems impossible you’ll ever get out, and you have no energy or emotion left to give. 

Take heart, you’re not alone.

When you find yourself at your breaking point (or to prepare for next time you want out), this episode walks you through how to get in the best possible place yourself in order to make these hard decisions.

We’re exploring:

• The first thing you can do when you are at your breaking point

• One difference-maker that will help you feel better and have more confidence you are making the best decision

• What you should NEVER do when you are in a dark emotional space

• When to have conversations with your spouse about wanting out (and how to prepare for it)

• How to keep yourself from saying or doing something you’ll regret (and also how to better understand and support each other)

• One tool anyone can use to help you gain clarity on the best decision for you 

Come along with me while my spouse is deployed and we can support each other! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you dealing with a spouse who refuses counseling? I’ve been in your shoes and understand just how frustrating it can be. You feel completely stuck and not sure what to do to move your relationship forward. 

In this episode, we dive into why your partner isn’t accepting help and what you can do about it. Spoiler alert: It’s not about convincing them. Listen in to get a better understanding of what your spouse may be thinking and arm yourself with tools to communicate what you need for a stronger marriage.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The reasons why your spouse may be against marriage counseling or coaching

• Why friends and family are not the people who can best support you

• How to bring up the topic of counseling without causing a fight

• What we need to do to have a more productive conversation

• One game-changing tool to help you understand your partner better

• How to communicate (not convince!) your reasons for wanting to get support and why it’s important to you

In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage! Access now: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you struggling to maintain connection with your spouse, whether they are away or at home? 

I expect there to be dips in connection within every relationship, but it’s especially difficult in a military marriage. Figuring out how to feel more connected emotionally when you’re already feeling disconnected physically is HARD.

Good news! Military life does not have to impact the connection you have with your spouse if you are intentional about the five things I’m sharing in this episode. 

We’re exploring:

• What to do when you feel resentment towards the military for losing connection with your spouse

• One powerful decision that will change the way you show up for each other

• How your thoughts can work against what you really want in your relationship

• Two assumptions you can immediately put to rest to feel more connected to your spouse

• The danger of relying on other people to determine how you feel

• One key to making this lifestyle work for both of you

Join here for access to my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to know how we can better support the unique and diverse experiences of military spouses of color?

Joelle Clayborne is an advocate for mental health services, Gen Z military spouses, and military spouses of color. She is an expert in Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion, as well as a freelance consultant, author, content creator, and military spouse. 

For anyone wanting to bridge the gap in race, age, and diverse perceptions of the military, this episode is a must listen! From topics such as embracing our identities as military spouses, to addressing our biases, to starting conversations that support military spouses of color, you don’t want to miss this very important conversation. 

We’re exploring:

• How being a military spouse impacts Joelle’s mental health (and what helps her improve mental wellness)
• Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in the military
• What Joelle believes is massively helpful for military spouses of color 
• How to start conversations that support military spouses of color
• Joelle’s three steps to addressing race and inclusivity

• Website: https://www.joelleclayborne.com/
• Podcast: Business DEI Under 5

• Harvard Implicit Bias Test: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/user/agg/blindspot/indexrk.htm

• I'm a Black Military Spouse—Here's How Our Family Navigates Life as a Black Military Family
• Down in the Trenches…. Life as a Black Military Spouse
• BLACK HISTORY MONTH THROUGH THE EYES OF A MILITARY SPOUSE
• SPOTLIGHT ON BLACK/AFRICAN-AMERICAN MILITARY FAMILIES
• Fostering an Inclusive Community for BIPOC Spouses
• The struggles of Military Spouses of color

• Blackmilitarywives.com | Black Military Wives Instagram
• Esposas Militares Hispanas

• Does Ethnicity Affect the Coping of Military Spouses?
• Understanding Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in Defense Communities
• Diversity in U.S. Military Families

• The Mocha Manual to Military Life: A Savvy Guide for Wives, Girlfriends, and Female Service Members

In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage (available now!): https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

I love research y’all. I stumbled across an 85 year Harvard study recently that blew my mind. It sent me into deep-dive research mode, and I came out of that wanting to share what I learned with you in this episode: what will make you happy, healthy, and live longer.

This episode validates what I have personally learned and experienced as a Military Psychologist and Marriage Coach. I only want to share things with you that are backed by research and apply to ALL of us, not only a handful of my clients. This is something we need to be prioritizing and talking about more with those around us. So, listen in to learn what makes the biggest difference in our happiness above anything else, so you can start implementing this in your life today.

We’re exploring:

• The #1 thing that contributes to us living happier, healthier, and longer

• What does NOT make us happier (that most of us think will)

• How our mood and experience of physical and emotional pain are impacted by relationships

• Harmful thinking that prevents couples from getting what they want

• What we need to be prioritizing over everything else for the biggest positive change in our lives

• Why this is crucial for military couples specifically

AVAILABLE NOW! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Have you ever thought about getting support in your marriage, but thought, “our relationship isn’t THAT bad?”. Yet nothing changed, and if anything, it’s now worse? 

It’s normal to have anxiety and worry about what will happen in your marriage if you do decide to ask for help, but we were never taught how to figure out relationships all on our own. And it doesn’t have to mean anything that you are trying to improve your relationship.

Instead of wondering if your relationship is going to make it, listen to this episode to hear my answers on when to move forward with the divorce process, and when your marriage can be repaired (this often surprises people!).

We’re also exploring:

• What makes getting support in your marriage so difficult
• The scenarios when I recommend (and don’t recommend) divorce with my clients
• My take on issues like infidelity, addiction, physical or emotional abuse, and more
• What happens if neither of you are willing to have tough conversations together
• Encouragement to get support and make small shifts toward a healthier marriage

Be brave and reach out for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

NOW AVAILABLE! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Make the ask. That’s just one piece of advice from Dr. Sharita, who is with Mission:Milspouse, an organization that empowers military spouses with resources, supporting them to conquer adversity, foster confidence, and thrive in this military life. 

Making the ask means having the courage to reach out and ask for what you need. That’s how you can improve military spouse life, and we want to encourage you to do just that. We talk about this and so much more in this episode.

We’re exploring:

• What lessons Dr. Sharita has learned in her 12 years of being married to military
• The importance of finding your tribe in new places (and advice if you don’t feel in alignment with the new people you meet)
• The difficulties of sharing our struggles as military spouses
• What Mission:Milspouse is and how it can benefit us
• How to find the resources you need when you’re not sure where to look
• What will help make military life easier for us all

Connect with Mission:Milspouse

Website: missionmilspouse.org

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/missionmilspouse/

Available now! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Wondering how to make deployments smoother? It's natural to reflect on previous deployments and wonder what you could have done better, what you could have done differently, and what strategies you can implement to make the next deployment smoother. And if you've been through it before, you know deplyment is a challenging experience. 

Today, we are diving into the five hardest parts of deployment. My aim is that this episode will validate your experience of deployment and help you prioritize where to focus your energy and attention during your next deployment to make it the best it can be. Whether you're a seasoned deployment veteran or a first-timer, these insights will help you improve your deployment experience, and support you in feeling more confident in yourself and in your relationship with your spouse.

We’re exploring:

• How loneliness impacts our life and relationships

• What to do when the stress and pressure of deployment feel like too much

• Frustrations, barriers, and challenges of communication during deployment

• The painful gap between our expectations and our reality of deployment

• How to move through not feeling like you are a cohesive team

• What to prioritize to have the biggest impact on creating a more positive deployment experience

NOW AVAILABLE! In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Can our relationship really survive time apart from each other? Managing our day-to-day life on its own can be a challenge, but also remaining connected to our spouse while they’re away…it’s tough. And THRIVING in our marriage while apart... well, is that even possible?

I absolutely hate being separated from my spouse, but we have learned how to create positive and long-lasting benefits in our relationship during these times. We have core aspects of our relationship that we focus on every time we’re away from each other that not only keep us connected, but actually strengthen our relationship. Listen in to find out how! 

We’re exploring:

• How to get laser-focused on what your needs are in the relationship

• The one trap to avoid to prevent unhappiness while your spouse is away

• What factors are impacting your relationship negatively, even though they are often out of your control

• What you can do before approaching a difficult topic with your spouse to have the best outcome possible

• The key to having a successful conversation, even when you disagree

• Tips on what you can be doing to strengthen your marriage while your spouse is away

Celebrate this 100th episode with me! Two military spouses will be selected to access my new course for FREE when you join in! Click here for the details.   

Join the waitlist for my new course (coming VERY soon!), In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you find yourself spiraling after a single comment, text message, or weird tone from your spouse—wondering what it meant, why it happened, and if your marriage is okay? If you’ve ever found yourself overanalyzing or panicking that you’ll never feel truly loved or happy again, this episode is for you. I’m sharing exactly how I stopped freaking out about my marriage (yes, even when things feel hard!) and how you can too.

This isn’t about ignoring real issues. It’s about building systems, tools, and a mindset that help you feel calmer, more secure, and able to respond in a way that creates the connection you’re really craving.

Tune in to discover:

• Why spirals and freakouts happen—and why they don’t mean something is wrong with you or your marriage
• What I realized in one powerful moment that changed everything for how I show up in my relationship
• The mindset shift that keeps me grounded and out of panic-mode (even during conflict)
• The exact tools I use when I start to spiral—so I don’t push my spouse away when I’m actually craving closeness
• How to create a system with your partner to get through tough moments together

This episode will help you replace panic with peace—and feel more secure, connected, and loved in your marriage. Share it with a friend or partner who needs it too!

Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Curious about the #1 issue I work on with my coaching clients? I haven’t seen anyone else talking about this publicly, and yet it is something that can make the biggest difference between flourishing in your marriage or staying stuck (and having arguments over and over again).

In this episode, I am giving you the essential tools to get what you need from your spouse in the most productive and healthy way. Tune in if you are done with the criticizing and defensiveness from your spouse, and instead desire to listen openly to each other about issues, continue having conversations together, and create greater happiness in your marriage. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The role of defensiveness in your marriage (and what defensiveness can lead to)

• What a “soft start-up” is and why this is crucial in any marriage to get results

• How to start difficult conversations with your spouse so they actually want to continue talking instead of getting defensive and critical

• Guidelines to follow when having these hard conversations

• What research says about the link between conflict discussions and divorce

• Specific examples of how to approach your spouse when experiencing marriage issues

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

To be happy in your marriage, it’s incredibly important to first be happy yourself. In this episode, we demonstrate that our body health, mental health, and spiritual health, are all connected to our marriage. Listen for encouragement and ideas to incorporate healthier options into your day, even when it feels like there’s no extra time to focus on yourself.

Special guest Kristen Noriega is a registered dietician, nutritionist, military spouse, homeschooling work-from-home mom of 4, and essentially living proof that we can include good nutrition and movement even in the midst of chaos. Her goal is to empower busy moms and military spouses to feel their best NOW. 

We’re sharing:

• Kristen’s experience of trying to lose weight (and keep it off!) after having children

• The relationship between your health and your marriage

• Bite-sized health strategies to easily incorporate into your daily life

• How to maximize the hours in your day (and use pockets of time for your health)

• Tips for military spouses who want to start their health journey

• How to keep moving forward when you get off track

Connect with Kristen:

• Baby Weight Nutritionist Podcast

• Website

• Instagram

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

I’ve been holding something back from you. Something that’s been on my heart for a while, but I didn’t know how to share it until now. As vulnerable as it is, I am opening up in this episode because I know I’m not the only one feeling this way.  

Step aside guilt and shame - I’m only allowing room for acceptance and validation of my opinions and feelings from now on.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

• What I am REALLY feeling these days (and why I refrained from sharing this until now)
• How to not make yourself wrong for what you are feeling (and what to do when you find yourself spiraling)
• The truth about unpopular opinions (and how to accept them)
• How to stay on the same team as your spouse (or in any relationship) even when you have different opinions
• The one question that will shift your focus toward marriage growth

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Military life is hard enough, without the added layer of marriage problems too. 

I get how frustrating it is when there seems to be no solution to the problems you’re facing, or your spouse is not doing what you think they should be doing to solve those problems. But in this episode, I challenge you to look at marriage problems differently. 

If you feel like you have a lot of problems in your marriage or are often anxious about something in your relationship, you’ll want to tune into this episode. I have helped numerous couples make sure they are solving the RIGHT problem, which isn’t always what couples initially think it is. I want you to get comfortable looking at your marriage problems this way, so that you and your spouse can feel closer than ever before!

In this episode, you will hear:

• How to view problems in your marriage through a new lens

• Lots of examples to help you understand problems vs. tradeoffs and solidify why this is so important

• What solving the right problem looks like, no matter how strong your marriage is

• How to identify the goal of your arguments to create more understanding and connection

• One simple and effective tip to help you work on problems and increase joy in your marriage

• The secret to getting your spouse to be more vulnerable

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

If you're looking for the secret ingredient to overcome the challenges and loneliness of military life, this episode is for you. Building resiliency is key as a military spouse to identifying your needs, finding your community, and tapping into needed available resources. 

Joining me in this episode is Manda McVey, a resilience and wellness coach and community building expert. We share ways to feel more included and understood in your community, as well as what you can do when loneliness and unhappiness creep in (especially when moving somewhere new). Don’t miss out on hearing Manda’s inspiring stories as a military spouse and how she makes this lifestyle work for her when challenges arise. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• The difficulties of finding your community as a “late career” spouse

• Manda’s ultimate dream of sharing resources with other military spouses

• What she recommends for building community, no matter how long or little you are in any installation

• Our challenge to you if you feel like you already have enough friends and don’t need any more

• What to expect when moving somewhere new (and what can motivate you to get connected!)

Connect with Manda:

• Website: https://www.thehealitaryspouse.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealitaryspouse

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Feeling a bit more like roommates rather than lovers these days? 

We’re bringing the heat and getting spicy in this episode! I’m sharing my version of what leads to long-term happiness and how to maximize the time you spend with your spouse, whether at home or away, regardless of how busy your schedules are. Step out of your regularly scheduled routine and breathe fresh air into your relationship, starting today. 

In this episode, I’m exploring:

• The key to bringing more fun into your relationship

• What a recent study shares in the correlation between chores and sex

• Two small yet effective things you can do physically to improve your relationship now

• One way to bring back those early lovey-dovey feelings in your relationship

• How to become a calm space for each other (and bond deeper as a team)

• Why planning for spicy moments is so important in long-lasting marriages

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you ever feel like family and friends just don’t understand what you are going through as a military spouse? They have their own ideas and thoughts about what it's like being married to military, but how can we get them to understand and support us during difficult times?

This episode will help you rise above the thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of others when it comes to the military and your role as a military spouse. Listen for a huge dose of encouragement in making the best of the situation you are in, and ways you can get support now and in the future. Whatever you are feeling and experiencing is right and true. Please don’t make yourself wrong for any of it.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Military 101: SGLI (Service Members Group Life Insurance)
• Five common perceptions that family and friends have about us as military spouses 
• How to gain support from friends, family, and your spouse when your spouse is away
• Tips to ride the emotional rollercoaster that is the military
• Permission to feel like you don’t need to be stronger than everyone else
• One phrase I hear so often that is wildly unhelpful when trying to be supportive
• Why you don’t need to completely sacrifice your life and dreams for the military and your spouse

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

If you are feeling overwhelmed, insignificant and disconnected as a military spouse and instead want to feel empowered to live your best life confidently, this episode is for you! With the constant moving, starting new relationships, beginning new jobs, and growing a family, it’s no wonder we feel lost and even have a hard time identifying who we are and what we enjoy. 

Sherry Eifler joins us in today’s episode to talk about finding your passion and overcoming the overwhelm and loneliness we all are familiar with (yet don’t talk about often enough). After years of struggling through 8 deployments and moving over 17 times as a military spouse, Sherry believes “there’s always a way” to find your passion and feel truly fulfilled in life. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Taps
• How being a military spouse enriches Sherry’s life (and how this role led to a purposeful career) 
• Tips to get your needs met as a military spouse (especially when you often find yourself saying “I can’t”)
• The hurdles it took for Sherry to find her passion (these are so relatable!)
• What can help you identify who you are to bring more purpose to your life
• How to handle being rejected or burned in relationships
• The surprising impact that finding Sherry’s passion had on her marriage (and the key to overcoming relationship struggles)

Learn more about Sherry at her website https://sherryeifler.com and check out her free CORE assessment “Who am I?” at https://mailchi.mp/sherryeifler.com/where-are-you-core

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to know how you can make a big difference in your community? By getting involved!

There is no one better to share their insight and experience than 2022 Armed Forces Insurance Navy Spouse of the Year, Sergio Rodriguez. His perspective as a male military spouse (and also a veteran) who volunteers with multiple military-based organizations is SO inspiring. Whether you have a lot or very little availability, this episode is sure to motivate you to be a difference-maker as a military spouse in your community.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Colors
• How the transition from active member to veteran impacted Sergio personally and professionally
• The challenges of being a male military spouse
• What prevents male military spouses from getting involved (and what we can do as female military spouses to break these barriers)
• What Sergio does and why (and how this affects his community)
• What the research says about altruism and helping others
• Sergio’s message to anyone who is curious about volunteering

Connect with Sergio:

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/sergiomsoy2022/

Website https://www.sergio-rodriguez.com/

Connect with Lindsay:

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

I’m betting reintegration is a challenge for you, too.

The adjustment period when you and your spouse come back together again after being apart for a length of time (no matter how long or little) can be really difficult.

My spouse, Sean, joins me in this episode to share our experience of previous reintegrations, what it’s like currently as we are in the thick of it, and so much more!

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Deployment
• How to best prepare for reintegration as a spouse to make the transition easier
• Tips for reintegrating with children
• The biggest challenges we experience during reintegration periods (and what you can be on the lookout for during this time)
• Permission to give ourselves so much grace in it all

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

You know something feels off in your marriage—but where do you even begin? When you’re not fighting, but also not feeling close… when you’re carrying the load and still feeling unseen… it can feel overwhelming to figure out what to do next.

This episode answers one of the most common questions I hear: “Where do I start if I want things to change?” I’m breaking down where to focus your energy (especially if your partner isn’t on board yet), and how just one shift can start bringing you back to a place of connection and support.

Tune in to discover:

• What to stop focusing on when you want things to improve
• The mistake many couples make when they’re feeling disconnected
• Where to start when your partner isn’t doing their part
• Why your emotions are the key to reconnecting (yes, even the hard ones)
• The first step toward a marriage that feels more loving, supportive, and connected

If you’ve been stuck in “I don’t know where to begin,” this episode will give you the clarity and encouragement to take that first powerful step forward.

Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

The #1 issue I hear my clients speak about as a Military Marriage Coach is that you want to improve communication with your spouse. Today I’m sharing five steps that will teach you how to go deeper on an emotional level, even if your spouse is completely uncomfortable with emotions. My aim is to equip you to build your spouse’s confidence in handling and talking about emotions AND have him actually want to do it more, too!

In today’s episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Ditty Bopper
• How our past impacts the person we show up as in relationships
• The role the military plays in influencing emotions
• What is emotional safety (and what you need to do to create space for emotions)
• A personal share of how I began the process to create emotional safety in my own marriage
• The biggest obstacles facing military couples when creating emotional safety

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you experiencing the closeness you desire in your marriage? You may wonder how it’s even possible to feel close and connected to your spouse, whether they are away OR at home. In this episode, I am sharing three ways that will help you feel good, less alone, and more like your spouse truly cares about you. So, tune in to learn how to strengthen your marriage as we dive into developing more connection.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Military 101: Military Police
• Why even the best marriages need connection
• What you can do (starting today) to increase your connection with your spouse 
• The basis of connection and how to apply this in every negative scenario
• How to take conscious effort to bring you and your spouse together, even when you are busy and it’s hard to do
• Why you don’t need to wait until your spouse is on board or you have more free time to improve your marriage

Hop on the waitlist for my self-paced course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches 

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

How do you want to experience your marriage in 2023?

The new year is a great time to evaluate your marriage and figure out what you want to carry forward into the year ahead and what you want to change. If you want to feel more loved, more connected, and happier overall in your marriage, be sure to listen to this episode. I’m sharing my top three marriage resolutions that are easy to implement and will set your marriage up for success in 2023. 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: COLA (Overseas Cost of Living Allowance)
• Why I have a love-hate relationship with resolutions
• The importance of having dedicated times throughout the year to assess what is working well and identify where we can grow personally and in our marriage
• How to apply goal setting principles to ANYTHING you want to improve (and how to create better habits in the new year)
• Three of the biggest difference makers that will have you feeling so good in your marriage, whether your spouse is home or away
• The key to setting marriage resolutions that you will actually want to work on all year

Join the course waitlist for big savings! In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The holiday season presents many challenges when you’re Married to Military. From deployments to pressure from family to visit, there are so many decisions to make, and it can feel really overwhelming. Been there? In this episode, I’m sharing all of my tips and tricks to overcome any family frustrations, my FAVORITE ways to keep communication open between you & your spouse, and the TOP 5 ways you can bring joy into your holiday season!

I released this episode last December, and still believe it applies today and will support you through this holiday season, whether your spouse is home or deployed.

Tune in to hear:

• Married to Military 101: TSP (Thrift Savings Plan)
• How to manage BIG feelings that get magnified by the holidays
• Why THIS is one of the most common arguments during the holidays (and how to work through it!)
• My 3 BEST recommendations to help tackle feelings of frustration
• 7 things to try when you want to support someone whose spouse is deployed
• And much more!

Join my new course waitlist for big savings! In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Today you are in for a treat! This is the FIRST time I am introducing one of my clients on the podcast to share her story and experience coaching with me. If you are curious to learn more about marriage coaching and how I work with others, be sure to listen to this episode!

Kassie is a military spouse, entrepreneur, photographer, and mama to two girls, and I commend her for sharing so openly and vulnerably with us about her journey and biggest lessons learned through coaching.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Discharge Classifications
• How Kassie felt reaching out for marriage support
• Her experience through marriage coaching, specifically with me
• Kassie’s thoughts about our calls, communication, and length of the program
• How to make marriage coaching work with your hectic schedule (and other tips for military spouses thinking of getting support in their marriage!)
• The biggest takeaways and results of Kassie’s experience and how she is now, 6 months later

Don’t forget to show Kassie some love and tell her what you thought of the episode!

Check out her website: kassielayne.com

Join the waitlist for my NEW course In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you ever wonder how it’s possible to have a strong marriage while your partner is deployed?

In this episode, I share the toughest parts of my husband’s current deployment, similarities and differences between past deployments, how I got through it all, and what I will change next time. 

Tune in to hear:

• Military 101: What is POM leave (Prior/Post Overseas Movement) and how it works
• What to do when you and your partner feel “against” each other when prioritizing different things (and how to get on the same page)
• The game-changer when it comes to making compromises and elevating your mindset
• A common challenge we all face as military spouses (even those of us who have worked on it for years, and continue to work on it today)
• How to make the most out of your (limited) calls together, especially when you are feeling frustrated or upset
• How to stay on the same team when your spouse is gone

Get through deployment stronger! Check out In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The busyness of military life can make it that much harder to find extra time to take care of ourselves and prioritize our own wellness. But I truly believe that when we’re happier, feeling good, and well-cared for, everything else gets easier. So, finding a wellness strategy that works for YOUR unique body and life? It’s a game-changer. 

In today’s episode, Lauren Chante, wellness strategist specializing in military spouse health & wellness, shares her inspiring take on milspouse wellness, why she ditched traditional diet culture and diet damage (and why you should too!), and how she helps women find wellness with ease while focusing on the unique challenges in the military experience. 

A one size fits all approach to health and wellness just doesn’t work - especially for us, Married to Military™ family! Join us for some important tools to find a wellness strategy that works for YOU. 

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: BEQ & BOQ
• Lauren’s struggles with body image & an eating disorder
• Diet culture and the threat to women’s mental health
• How she makes getting started in your journey to wellness SUPER easy (you don’t want to miss her take on this!)
• Diet Damage - what it is, how to avoid it & ways to heal
• The gap that’s created between service members and their spouses around wellness & physical fitness (and how to deal with it!)
• And more

Connect with Lauren:

Website: https://laurenchante.com/

Podcast: https://laurenchante.com/index.php/category/wellness-podcast/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenchanteofficial/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Does it feel like you’re always bickering with your spouse, or they’re always pointing out your mistakes (or they express that you always do this), or that you can’t catch a break and nothing is getting better?

Even though these ruts are totally normal, I know they just don’t feel very good. So, this week I want to give you the KEY to getting out of these ruts and avoiding falling into them as often.

In today’s episode of The Married to Military Podcast™, I’m sharing how to build a culture of appreciation in your marriage and why this is the antidote to divorce. Ready to learn more about why you might be falling into these rough patches and shift to establishing a foundation of appreciation and gratitude for your spouse (and them, for you) instead? Join me!

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: Military Childcare and access to the resources you need
• 4 steps to help you create a foundation of gratitude in your marriage
• The medicine & vitamin of gratitude and appreciation
• One of the BIGGEST causes of divorce - and my favorite way to avoid it
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

When you’re in the midst of an argument it can sometimes be really hard to see the end, right? Problem-solving can feel impossible (especially if you have a defensive partner) and distance can exacerbate these issues if you’re disagreeing during a deployment. 

But I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again - conflict is necessary for healthy relationships! We aren’t trying to eliminate the conflict, just the parts that are unhealthy and unhelpful. 

So, are you ready for the SECRET WEAPON you need for better arguments with your spouse? 

It’s an apology!! I know it can seem almost too simple, but stick with me - it’s actually A LOT more complicated than it seems. In today’s episode, I’m diving into the apology, how you could be doing them wrong (yes, there is a wrong way to do it!), and what you need to know to start using the apology as the surefire secret weapon to ending an argument and moving towards compromise in a real way. 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: How many people are actually in each US branch and abroad?
• My surefire secret weapon for better arguments & less defensiveness with your spouse (and how to do it right!)
• How to know if you’re the under-apologizer or over-apologizer in your relationship
• Some examples to help you work through arguments & apologies with your spouse (to reduce damage to your connection and work towards resolution)
• TOP TIPS to make sure you are apologizing effectively - and the kind of apologies you should be avoiding
• The 5 Apology Languages and how these can help you avoid miscommunication with your spouse
• And more

Sign up for my FREE training to bring more ease into your holiday season while strengthening your marriage in the process (you’ll also get some free journal prompts as a special gift!)

Managing Holiday Stress: Military Marriage Edition: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/masterclass

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Money tends to be one of the biggest things that couples struggle with - and TAXES can play a pretty big role in this (especially if you’re in the military and aren’t familiar with the tax code!)

In today’s episode, I invite military tax expert Judy Gilmer, EA, USTCP, to guide us through the MOST IMPORTANT things to know about the tax code as military members so we can avoid any potential tax problems, and maximize the benefits available to us. 

Ready to prepare yourself for this next tax season? She’s sharing some of the most common issues that come up with military tax returns and her biggest tips for avoiding them. You don’t want to miss this. 

We’re exploring:

• The 2 MOST common tax problems that come up for Judy’s clients (if you’re thinking about buying a home or renting out your home, this one’s for you!)
• What you need to know about tax protections & The Military Spouse Residency Relief Act
• Using free software vs. paying a professional to do your taxes - what really is the difference?
• Some of the BIGGEST errors Judy sees in military members’ tax filings (and how you can avoid them)
• Tax provisions for when you’re in a combat zone (extensions and suspensions)
• What you need to know about your taxes if you’re planning to get married to a military member
• And more! 

Connect with Judy:

Website: https://judydoesyourtaxes.com/

Email: admin@judydoesyourtaxes.com

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

You’ve probably heard of attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure — and maybe you’ve even taken a quiz to figure out your own. But what happens after that? Does knowing your attachment style actually help your marriage… or can it do more harm than good?

In this episode, we’re unpacking what attachment theory really means in real life and whether it can be the key to a stronger relationship — or just another label that keeps you stuck.

Tune in to discover:

• Why understanding your attachment style can feel validating and frustrating
• The most important mindset shift if you want to use this info to improve your marriage
• How knowing your partner’s attachment style can reduce conflict and increase connection
• What to do if you’re “insecurely attached” and don’t know how to change it
• The #1 way to avoid using attachment styles as an excuse for disconnection

Whether attachment theory is brand new to you or you’ve gone deep into it, this episode will help you use it as a tool — not a limitation — to grow a more connected, resilient relationship.

Marriage Shutdown Checklist: https://marriedafterkids.com/marriage-shutdown?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=links&utm_campaign=MSoptin

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Hello hello, Married to Military™ family! 

If you’ve been listening to the show, you know how passionate I am about helping military spouses feel good in the lives they are living. This includes making sure ALL parts of our identities are being taken care of. 

This week, Army military spouse, coach, and podcast host Jayla Rae Ardelean, shares her story of embracing the identity of a Late Career Army Milspouse, how she coped with being flung into the new military world (and motherhood!) later in life, and the challenges she faced in her life & marriage as a result. You don’t want to miss this unique military spouse perspective - come join us!

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: USS - a navy term
• The Late Career Milspouse identity and its unique challenges
• Why Jayla had to beg to do laundry (this is good!)
• The path to creating “The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast” and documenting the deployment journey
• Jayla’s BEST advice for other Late Career Milspouses
• And more

Connect with Jayla: 

Website: https://www.jaylarae.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mil.spouse/

Check out “The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast”: https://www.jaylarae.com/podcast

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Let’s talk about sex! 

I know this can be an emotionally charged subject for a lot of us, but talking about sex is the KEY to increasing the satisfaction and sexual connection in your marriage. 

In today’s episode of The Married to Military™ Podcast, I’m sharing some of the MOST IMPORTANT factors to building a healthy sex life with your spouse and some powerful tips and tools you can use to have these important conversations with your partner so you can improve your sex & intimacy. 

I’m exploring:

• What the research has to say about building sex & intimacy in your marriage
• Why focusing on romantic feelings, technique, or even frequency ISN’T the best way to have better sex (and what is!)
• The BEST way to increase your sexual connection - and my TOP TIPS for doing it
• Keeping intimacy alive, even when you’re apart
• Some questions to ask yourself (and your spouse!) to help improve your sex life
• The biggest barriers in the way of deeper sex & intimacy in your marriage
• Why I encourage my clients to schedule sex (hint: spontaneous sex isn’t the only path to a fulfilling sex life)
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

As you know, military life requires us to wear a lot of hats. Wouldn’t it be a lot easier to juggle it all if we were working together to lift each other up? This is something that’s incredibly close to Monica Fullerton’s heart, today’s guest on The Married to Military® Podcast! 

Monica is an ambitious entrepreneur, twin mom, and Air Force spouse who created a business that is filling a giant need for us as military families - and she’s here to talk all about it! Join us to learn more about Spouse-ly, a unique platform designed to offer products and services created by military and first responder families. It’s an amazing creation that has landed her on the Forbe’s Next 1000 list and many other large platforms & publications. 

Ready to find out more about this trailblazing idea and how you can contribute (whether you’re a military family with a business/product or simply looking to support those who are)? Let’s go to the show!

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: The Salute and its historical context
• What is Spouse-ly? And why it’s so impactful for military families
• Monica’s take on the secret to military retention
• Collaboration over competitiveness (and how Spouse-ly does this so well)
• Growing a successful business as a parent and Air Force spouse
• The opportunities at Spouse-ly for vendors, customers & supporters (it’s a place for everyone!)
• And more

Start shopping on Spouse-ly! https://spouse-ly.com/

Follow Spouse-ly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spouse.ly/?hl=en

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call: https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869