What if the biggest thing keeping you disconnected from your spouse isn’t about spending more time together or even putting in more effort? So many couples focus on what’s missing in their marriage, but what if the real secret to reconnecting is something completely different? In this episode, I’ll help you shift your mindset and show you a powerful way to start feeling closer to your spouse again—without forcing anything or twisting yourself into a pretzel.

Tune in to discover:

• Why feeling disconnected has more to do with how you see your spouse than what they’re actually doing

• How to stop your brain from only noticing the things they aren’t doing

• The subtle but powerful mindset shift that makes everything feel easier

• Why focusing on the proof of your spouse’s love can create a ripple effect of connection

• A simple challenge to help you start seeing your spouse in a new way—starting today

This episode will change how you think about connection in your marriage. Share it with a friend and don’t forget to send me your review of the podcast for my free gift to you to celebrate 200 episodes!

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Something sneaky is quietly eroding connection in so many marriages, and chances are, it’s happening in yours too. It’s not just the big fights or major betrayals. There’s something else that builds up over time, leaving you feeling frustrated, unseen, and disconnected. But here’s the good news—once you recognize it, you can clear it out and finally feel like you’re in this together again.

Tune in to discover:

• Something that happens all the time—intentionally or unintentionally—that creates disconnection (and what to do instead)

• Why missing your spouse’s bids for connection is more damaging than you think

• The shift that stops you from feeling like you’re carrying everything alone

• How to express what you need in a way that actually gets heard

• Simple strategies to replace resentment with real partnership and connection

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

The holidays can be an overwhelming time, especially for couples already feeling the strain of marriage shutdown. Many couples find themselves struggling even more during this season, and divorce filings spike right after the holidays for a reason. In this episode, I’ll share practical, research-backed strategies to help you avoid becoming part of that statistic, feel more connected to your spouse, and create the holiday season you truly want.

Tune in to discover:

• The staggering statistic about divorce after the holidays (and what it means for your marriage)

• Why holiday stress puts extra strain on marriages (and how to counteract it)

• How to avoid fights or de-escalate them before they spiral out of control

• The importance of clearly communicating your needs (and not assuming your spouse can read your mind)

• One simple question to ask yourself daily to ensure you’re staying aligned with what truly matters

• Why expert support can make all the difference when your marriage feels stuck

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Can our relationship really survive time apart from each other? Managing our day-to-day life on its own can be a challenge, but also remaining connected to our spouse while they’re away…it’s tough. And THRIVING in our marriage while apart... well, is that even possible?

I absolutely hate being separated from my spouse, but we have learned how to create positive and long-lasting benefits in our relationship during these times. We have core aspects of our relationship that we focus on every time we’re away from each other that not only keep us connected, but actually strengthen our relationship. Listen in to find out how! 

We’re exploring:

• How to get laser-focused on what your needs are in the relationship

• The one trap to avoid to prevent unhappiness while your spouse is away

• What factors are impacting your relationship negatively, even though they are often out of your control

• What you can do before approaching a difficult topic with your spouse to have the best outcome possible

• The key to having a successful conversation, even when you disagree

• Tips on what you can be doing to strengthen your marriage while your spouse is away

Celebrate this 100th episode with me! Two military spouses will be selected to access my new course for FREE when you join in! Click here for the details.   

Join the waitlist for my new course (coming VERY soon!), In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Curious about the #1 issue I work on with my coaching clients? I haven’t seen anyone else talking about this publicly, and yet it is something that can make the biggest difference between flourishing in your marriage or staying stuck (and having arguments over and over again).

In this episode, I am giving you the essential tools to get what you need from your spouse in the most productive and healthy way. Tune in if you are done with the criticizing and defensiveness from your spouse, and instead desire to listen openly to each other about issues, continue having conversations together, and create greater happiness in your marriage. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The role of defensiveness in your marriage (and what defensiveness can lead to)

• What a “soft start-up” is and why this is crucial in any marriage to get results

• How to start difficult conversations with your spouse so they actually want to continue talking instead of getting defensive and critical

• Guidelines to follow when having these hard conversations

• What research says about the link between conflict discussions and divorce

• Specific examples of how to approach your spouse when experiencing marriage issues

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

To be happy in your marriage, it’s incredibly important to first be happy yourself. In this episode, we demonstrate that our body health, mental health, and spiritual health, are all connected to our marriage. Listen for encouragement and ideas to incorporate healthier options into your day, even when it feels like there’s no extra time to focus on yourself.

Special guest Kristen Noriega is a registered dietician, nutritionist, military spouse, homeschooling work-from-home mom of 4, and essentially living proof that we can include good nutrition and movement even in the midst of chaos. Her goal is to empower busy moms and military spouses to feel their best NOW. 

We’re sharing:

• Kristen’s experience of trying to lose weight (and keep it off!) after having children

• The relationship between your health and your marriage

• Bite-sized health strategies to easily incorporate into your daily life

• How to maximize the hours in your day (and use pockets of time for your health)

• Tips for military spouses who want to start their health journey

• How to keep moving forward when you get off track

Connect with Kristen:

• Baby Weight Nutritionist Podcast

• Website

• Instagram

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

I’ve been holding something back from you. Something that’s been on my heart for a while, but I didn’t know how to share it until now. As vulnerable as it is, I am opening up in this episode because I know I’m not the only one feeling this way.  

Step aside guilt and shame - I’m only allowing room for acceptance and validation of my opinions and feelings from now on.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

• What I am REALLY feeling these days (and why I refrained from sharing this until now)

• How to not make yourself wrong for what you are feeling (and what to do when you find yourself spiraling)

• The truth about unpopular opinions (and how to accept them)

• How to stay on the same team as your spouse (or in any relationship) even when you have different opinions

• The one question that will shift your focus toward marriage growth

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Military life is hard enough, without the added layer of marriage problems too. 

I get how frustrating it is when there seems to be no solution to the problems you’re facing, or your spouse is not doing what you think they should be doing to solve those problems. But in this episode, I challenge you to look at marriage problems differently. 

If you feel like you have a lot of problems in your marriage or are often anxious about something in your relationship, you’ll want to tune into this episode. I have helped numerous couples make sure they are solving the RIGHT problem, which isn’t always what couples initially think it is. I want you to get comfortable looking at your marriage problems this way, so that you and your spouse can feel closer than ever before!

In this episode, you will hear:

• How to view problems in your marriage through a new lens

• Lots of examples to help you understand problems vs. tradeoffs and solidify why this is so important

• What solving the right problem looks like, no matter how strong your marriage is

• How to identify the goal of your arguments to create more understanding and connection

• One simple and effective tip to help you work on problems and increase joy in your marriage

• The secret to getting your spouse to be more vulnerable

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

If you're looking for the secret ingredient to overcome the challenges and loneliness of military life, this episode is for you. Building resiliency is key as a military spouse to identifying your needs, finding your community, and tapping into needed available resources. 

Joining me in this episode is Manda McVey, a resilience and wellness coach and community building expert. We share ways to feel more included and understood in your community, as well as what you can do when loneliness and unhappiness creep in (especially when moving somewhere new). Don’t miss out on hearing Manda’s inspiring stories as a military spouse and how she makes this lifestyle work for her when challenges arise. 

In this episode, you will hear:

• The difficulties of finding your community as a “late career” spouse

• Manda’s ultimate dream of sharing resources with other military spouses

• What she recommends for building community, no matter how long or little you are in any installation

• Our challenge to you if you feel like you already have enough friends and don’t need any more

• What to expect when moving somewhere new (and what can motivate you to get connected!)

Connect with Manda:

• Website: https://www.thehealitaryspouse.com/

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thehealitaryspouse

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Feeling a bit more like roommates rather than lovers these days? 

We’re bringing the heat and getting spicy in this episode! I’m sharing my version of what leads to long-term happiness and how to maximize the time you spend with your spouse, whether at home or away, regardless of how busy your schedules are. Step out of your regularly scheduled routine and breathe fresh air into your relationship, starting today. 

In this episode, I’m exploring:

• The key to bringing more fun into your relationship

• What a recent study shares in the correlation between chores and sex

• Two small yet effective things you can do physically to improve your relationship now

• One way to bring back those early lovey-dovey feelings in your relationship

• How to become a calm space for each other (and bond deeper as a team)

• Why planning for spicy moments is so important in long-lasting marriages

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you ever feel like family and friends just don’t understand what you are going through as a military spouse? They have their own ideas and thoughts about what it's like being married to military, but how can we get them to understand and support us during difficult times?

This episode will help you rise above the thoughts, feelings, and perceptions of others when it comes to the military and your role as a military spouse. Listen for a huge dose of encouragement in making the best of the situation you are in, and ways you can get support now and in the future. Whatever you are feeling and experiencing is right and true. Please don’t make yourself wrong for any of it.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Military 101: SGLI (Service Members Group Life Insurance)
• Five common perceptions that family and friends have about us as military spouses 
• How to gain support from friends, family, and your spouse when your spouse is away
• Tips to ride the emotional rollercoaster that is the military
• Permission to feel like you don’t need to be stronger than everyone else
• One phrase I hear so often that is wildly unhelpful when trying to be supportive
• Why you don’t need to completely sacrifice your life and dreams for the military and your spouse

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

If you are feeling overwhelmed, insignificant and disconnected as a military spouse and instead want to feel empowered to live your best life confidently, this episode is for you! With the constant moving, starting new relationships, beginning new jobs, and growing a family, it’s no wonder we feel lost and even have a hard time identifying who we are and what we enjoy. 

Sherry Eifler joins us in today’s episode to talk about finding your passion and overcoming the overwhelm and loneliness we all are familiar with (yet don’t talk about often enough). After years of struggling through 8 deployments and moving over 17 times as a military spouse, Sherry believes “there’s always a way” to find your passion and feel truly fulfilled in life. 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Taps
• How being a military spouse enriches Sherry’s life (and how this role led to a purposeful career) 
• Tips to get your needs met as a military spouse (especially when you often find yourself saying “I can’t”)
• The hurdles it took for Sherry to find her passion (these are so relatable!)
• What can help you identify who you are to bring more purpose to your life
• How to handle being rejected or burned in relationships
• The surprising impact that finding Sherry’s passion had on her marriage (and the key to overcoming relationship struggles)

Learn more about Sherry at her website https://sherryeifler.com and check out her free CORE assessment “Who am I?” at https://mailchi.mp/sherryeifler.com/where-are-you-core

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Want to know how you can make a big difference in your community? By getting involved!

There is no one better to share their insight and experience than 2022 Armed Forces Insurance Navy Spouse of the Year, Sergio Rodriguez. His perspective as a male military spouse (and also a veteran) who volunteers with multiple military-based organizations is SO inspiring. Whether you have a lot or very little availability, this episode is sure to motivate you to be a difference-maker as a military spouse in your community.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Colors
• How the transition from active member to veteran impacted Sergio personally and professionally
• The challenges of being a male military spouse
• What prevents male military spouses from getting involved (and what we can do as female military spouses to break these barriers)
• What Sergio does and why (and how this affects his community)
• What the research says about altruism and helping others
• Sergio’s message to anyone who is curious about volunteering

Connect with Sergio:

Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/sergiomsoy2022/

Website https://www.sergio-rodriguez.com/

Connect with Lindsay:

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Parenthood is a never-ending grind, and the stress of it all can often feel overwhelming. But did you know that how good you feel as a parent is directly impacted by one key thing? In this episode, I’ll reveal what that is and show you how to create more capacity for joy in parenting by prioritizing this often-overlooked area of your life.

Tune in to discover:

• The connection between the quality of your marriage and your happiness as a parent

• Why resentment, disappointment, or frustration with your spouse depletes your capacity to parent at your best

• How to prioritize fun with your spouse, even when resentment feels like a barrier

• The tools you need to switch the dynamic in your marriage instead of focusing solely on what your spouse isn’t doing

• Why the thoughts you have about your spouse might not be true (and how reframing them can strengthen your bond)

• The #1 tip to take your marriage from struggling to thriving

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

I’m betting reintegration is a challenge for you, too.

The adjustment period when you and your spouse come back together again after being apart for a length of time (no matter how long or little) can be really difficult.

My spouse, Sean, joins me in this episode to share our experience of previous reintegrations, what it’s like currently as we are in the thick of it, and so much more!

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Deployment
• How to best prepare for reintegration as a spouse to make the transition easier
• Tips for reintegrating with children
• The biggest challenges we experience during reintegration periods (and what you can be on the lookout for during this time)
• Permission to give ourselves so much grace in it all

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The #1 issue I hear my clients speak about as a Military Marriage Coach is that you want to improve communication with your spouse. Today I’m sharing five steps that will teach you how to go deeper on an emotional level, even if your spouse is completely uncomfortable with emotions. My aim is to equip you to build your spouse’s confidence in handling and talking about emotions AND have him actually want to do it more, too!

In today’s episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Ditty Bopper
• How our past impacts the person we show up as in relationships
• The role the military plays in influencing emotions
• What is emotional safety (and what you need to do to create space for emotions)
• A personal share of how I began the process to create emotional safety in my own marriage
• The biggest obstacles facing military couples when creating emotional safety

Join the waitlist for my new course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you experiencing the closeness you desire in your marriage? You may wonder how it’s even possible to feel close and connected to your spouse, whether they are away OR at home. In this episode, I am sharing three ways that will help you feel good, less alone, and more like your spouse truly cares about you. So, tune in to learn how to strengthen your marriage as we dive into developing more connection.

In this episode, you will hear:

• Military 101: Military Police
• Why even the best marriages need connection
• What you can do (starting today) to increase your connection with your spouse 
• The basis of connection and how to apply this in every negative scenario
• How to take conscious effort to bring you and your spouse together, even when you are busy and it’s hard to do
• Why you don’t need to wait until your spouse is on board or you have more free time to improve your marriage

Hop on the waitlist for my self-paced course, In The Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches 

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

How do you want to experience your marriage in 2023?

The new year is a great time to evaluate your marriage and figure out what you want to carry forward into the year ahead and what you want to change. If you want to feel more loved, more connected, and happier overall in your marriage, be sure to listen to this episode. I’m sharing my top three marriage resolutions that are easy to implement and will set your marriage up for success in 2023. 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: COLA (Overseas Cost of Living Allowance)
• Why I have a love-hate relationship with resolutions
• The importance of having dedicated times throughout the year to assess what is working well and identify where we can grow personally and in our marriage
• How to apply goal setting principles to ANYTHING you want to improve (and how to create better habits in the new year)
• Three of the biggest difference makers that will have you feeling so good in your marriage, whether your spouse is home or away
• The key to setting marriage resolutions that you will actually want to work on all year

Join the course waitlist for big savings! In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The holiday season presents many challenges when you’re Married to Military. From deployments to pressure from family to visit, there are so many decisions to make, and it can feel really overwhelming. Been there? In this episode, I’m sharing all of my tips and tricks to overcome any family frustrations, my FAVORITE ways to keep communication open between you & your spouse, and the TOP 5 ways you can bring joy into your holiday season!

I released this episode last December, and still believe it applies today and will support you through this holiday season, whether your spouse is home or deployed.

Tune in to hear:

• Married to Military 101: TSP (Thrift Savings Plan)
• How to manage BIG feelings that get magnified by the holidays
• Why THIS is one of the most common arguments during the holidays (and how to work through it!)
• My 3 BEST recommendations to help tackle feelings of frustration
• 7 things to try when you want to support someone whose spouse is deployed
• And much more!

Join my new course waitlist for big savings! In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Today you are in for a treat! This is the FIRST time I am introducing one of my clients on the podcast to share her story and experience coaching with me. If you are curious to learn more about marriage coaching and how I work with others, be sure to listen to this episode!

Kassie is a military spouse, entrepreneur, photographer, and mama to two girls, and I commend her for sharing so openly and vulnerably with us about her journey and biggest lessons learned through coaching.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Military 101: Discharge Classifications
• How Kassie felt reaching out for marriage support
• Her experience through marriage coaching, specifically with me
• Kassie’s thoughts about our calls, communication, and length of the program
• How to make marriage coaching work with your hectic schedule (and other tips for military spouses thinking of getting support in their marriage!)
• The biggest takeaways and results of Kassie’s experience and how she is now, 6 months later

Don’t forget to show Kassie some love and tell her what you thought of the episode!

Check out her website: kassielayne.com

Join the waitlist for my NEW course In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Do you ever wonder how it’s possible to have a strong marriage while your partner is deployed?

In this episode, I share the toughest parts of my husband’s current deployment, similarities and differences between past deployments, how I got through it all, and what I will change next time. 

Tune in to hear:

• Military 101: What is POM leave (Prior/Post Overseas Movement) and how it works
• What to do when you and your partner feel “against” each other when prioritizing different things (and how to get on the same page)
• The game-changer when it comes to making compromises and elevating your mindset
• A common challenge we all face as military spouses (even those of us who have worked on it for years, and continue to work on it today)
• How to make the most out of your (limited) calls together, especially when you are feeling frustrated or upset
• How to stay on the same team when your spouse is gone

Get through deployment stronger! Check out In the Trenches: Mastering Deployment for a Stronger Marriage https://lindsaycavanagh.com/in-the-trenches

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

The busyness of military life can make it that much harder to find extra time to take care of ourselves and prioritize our own wellness. But I truly believe that when we’re happier, feeling good, and well-cared for, everything else gets easier. So, finding a wellness strategy that works for YOUR unique body and life? It’s a game-changer. 

In today’s episode, Lauren Chante, wellness strategist specializing in military spouse health & wellness, shares her inspiring take on milspouse wellness, why she ditched traditional diet culture and diet damage (and why you should too!), and how she helps women find wellness with ease while focusing on the unique challenges in the military experience. 

A one size fits all approach to health and wellness just doesn’t work - especially for us, Married to Military™ family! Join us for some important tools to find a wellness strategy that works for YOU. 

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: BEQ & BOQ
• Lauren’s struggles with body image & an eating disorder
• Diet culture and the threat to women’s mental health
• How she makes getting started in your journey to wellness SUPER easy (you don’t want to miss her take on this!)
• Diet Damage - what it is, how to avoid it & ways to heal
• The gap that’s created between service members and their spouses around wellness & physical fitness (and how to deal with it!)
• And more

Connect with Lauren:

Website: https://laurenchante.com/

Podcast: https://laurenchante.com/index.php/category/wellness-podcast/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurenchanteofficial/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Does it feel like you’re always bickering with your spouse, or they’re always pointing out your mistakes (or they express that you always do this), or that you can’t catch a break and nothing is getting better?

Even though these ruts are totally normal, I know they just don’t feel very good. So, this week I want to give you the KEY to getting out of these ruts and avoiding falling into them as often.

In today’s episode of The Married to Military Podcast™, I’m sharing how to build a culture of appreciation in your marriage and why this is the antidote to divorce. Ready to learn more about why you might be falling into these rough patches and shift to establishing a foundation of appreciation and gratitude for your spouse (and them, for you) instead? Join me!

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: Military Childcare and access to the resources you need
• 4 steps to help you create a foundation of gratitude in your marriage
• The medicine & vitamin of gratitude and appreciation
• One of the BIGGEST causes of divorce - and my favorite way to avoid it
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

When you’re in the midst of an argument it can sometimes be really hard to see the end, right? Problem-solving can feel impossible (especially if you have a defensive partner) and distance can exacerbate these issues if you’re disagreeing during a deployment. 

But I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again - conflict is necessary for healthy relationships! We aren’t trying to eliminate the conflict, just the parts that are unhealthy and unhelpful. 

So, are you ready for the SECRET WEAPON you need for better arguments with your spouse? 

It’s an apology!! I know it can seem almost too simple, but stick with me - it’s actually A LOT more complicated than it seems. In today’s episode, I’m diving into the apology, how you could be doing them wrong (yes, there is a wrong way to do it!), and what you need to know to start using the apology as the surefire secret weapon to ending an argument and moving towards compromise in a real way. 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: How many people are actually in each US branch and abroad?
• My surefire secret weapon for better arguments & less defensiveness with your spouse (and how to do it right!)
• How to know if you’re the under-apologizer or over-apologizer in your relationship
• Some examples to help you work through arguments & apologies with your spouse (to reduce damage to your connection and work towards resolution)
• TOP TIPS to make sure you are apologizing effectively - and the kind of apologies you should be avoiding
• The 5 Apology Languages and how these can help you avoid miscommunication with your spouse
• And more

Sign up for my FREE training to bring more ease into your holiday season while strengthening your marriage in the process (you’ll also get some free journal prompts as a special gift!)

Managing Holiday Stress: Military Marriage Edition: https://lindsaycavanagh.com/masterclass

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

62% of couples polled on my Instagram admitted to fighting with their spouse most of the holiday season. 

Holidays are supposed to be joyful, but the stress can bring out the worst in even the happiest couples. In this episode, I’ll show you how to stop feeling like enemies and start working as a team to handle the most common holiday stressors—so you can actually enjoy the season together.

Tune in to discover:

• What to discuss before the chaos begins (so no one ends up disappointed)

• How to handle family dynamics as a team—even with triggers, in-law drama, or differing traditions

• Tips for navigating holiday parties to avoid tension, misunderstandings, or solo parenting

• The one thing couples often neglect during the holiday rush—and why it needs to stay a priority

• A simple approach to gift-giving that feels fair and stress-free

• Scripts and exact words to get on the same page with your spouse about it all

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Money tends to be one of the biggest things that couples struggle with - and TAXES can play a pretty big role in this (especially if you’re in the military and aren’t familiar with the tax code!)

In today’s episode, I invite military tax expert Judy Gilmer, EA, USTCP, to guide us through the MOST IMPORTANT things to know about the tax code as military members so we can avoid any potential tax problems, and maximize the benefits available to us. 

Ready to prepare yourself for this next tax season? She’s sharing some of the most common issues that come up with military tax returns and her biggest tips for avoiding them. You don’t want to miss this. 

We’re exploring:

• The 2 MOST common tax problems that come up for Judy’s clients (if you’re thinking about buying a home or renting out your home, this one’s for you!)
• What you need to know about tax protections & The Military Spouse Residency Relief Act
• Using free software vs. paying a professional to do your taxes - what really is the difference?
• Some of the BIGGEST errors Judy sees in military members’ tax filings (and how you can avoid them)
• Tax provisions for when you’re in a combat zone (extensions and suspensions)
• What you need to know about your taxes if you’re planning to get married to a military member
• And more! 

Connect with Judy:

Website: https://judydoesyourtaxes.com/

Email: admin@judydoesyourtaxes.com

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Hello hello, Married to Military™ family! 

If you’ve been listening to the show, you know how passionate I am about helping military spouses feel good in the lives they are living. This includes making sure ALL parts of our identities are being taken care of. 

This week, Army military spouse, coach, and podcast host Jayla Rae Ardelean, shares her story of embracing the identity of a Late Career Army Milspouse, how she coped with being flung into the new military world (and motherhood!) later in life, and the challenges she faced in her life & marriage as a result. You don’t want to miss this unique military spouse perspective - come join us!

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: USS - a navy term
• The Late Career Milspouse identity and its unique challenges
• Why Jayla had to beg to do laundry (this is good!)
• The path to creating “The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast” and documenting the deployment journey
• Jayla’s BEST advice for other Late Career Milspouses
• And more

Connect with Jayla: 

Website: https://www.jaylarae.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mil.spouse/

Check out “The Heart of a Milspouse Podcast”: https://www.jaylarae.com/podcast

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Let’s talk about sex! 

I know this can be an emotionally charged subject for a lot of us, but talking about sex is the KEY to increasing the satisfaction and sexual connection in your marriage. 

In today’s episode of The Married to Military™ Podcast, I’m sharing some of the MOST IMPORTANT factors to building a healthy sex life with your spouse and some powerful tips and tools you can use to have these important conversations with your partner so you can improve your sex & intimacy. 

I’m exploring:

• What the research has to say about building sex & intimacy in your marriage
• Why focusing on romantic feelings, technique, or even frequency ISN’T the best way to have better sex (and what is!)
• The BEST way to increase your sexual connection - and my TOP TIPS for doing it
• Keeping intimacy alive, even when you’re apart
• Some questions to ask yourself (and your spouse!) to help improve your sex life
• The biggest barriers in the way of deeper sex & intimacy in your marriage
• Why I encourage my clients to schedule sex (hint: spontaneous sex isn’t the only path to a fulfilling sex life)
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

As you know, military life requires us to wear a lot of hats. Wouldn’t it be a lot easier to juggle it all if we were working together to lift each other up? This is something that’s incredibly close to Monica Fullerton’s heart, today’s guest on The Married to Military® Podcast! 

Monica is an ambitious entrepreneur, twin mom, and Air Force spouse who created a business that is filling a giant need for us as military families - and she’s here to talk all about it! Join us to learn more about Spouse-ly, a unique platform designed to offer products and services created by military and first responder families. It’s an amazing creation that has landed her on the Forbe’s Next 1000 list and many other large platforms & publications. 

Ready to find out more about this trailblazing idea and how you can contribute (whether you’re a military family with a business/product or simply looking to support those who are)? Let’s go to the show!

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: The Salute and its historical context
• What is Spouse-ly? And why it’s so impactful for military families
• Monica’s take on the secret to military retention
• Collaboration over competitiveness (and how Spouse-ly does this so well)
• Growing a successful business as a parent and Air Force spouse
• The opportunities at Spouse-ly for vendors, customers & supporters (it’s a place for everyone!)
• And more

Start shopping on Spouse-ly! https://spouse-ly.com/

Follow Spouse-ly on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spouse.ly/?hl=en

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Are you solving the right problem in your marriage?

If your marriage isn’t getting any better, it’s common to think the problem is with your partner, or you two just aren’t right for each other - but I don’t want you to fall into this trap! If you want to improve your marriage and really see results, you have to solve the right problems. 

In today’s episode, I’m talking about why your marriage isn’t getting better, the MOST COMMON issues that I see getting in the way of having the marriage you desire, and the important work you can do to have the happy marriage & life you deserve! 

I’m exploring: 

• Military 101: Commissary & Exchange, and something you might not know that will change the game!
• Why your marriage may not be getting better - and what to do about it!
• One of the MOST common traps you can fall into if your marriage isn’t going the way you want it to (and how to avoid it)
• The 3 C’s of marriage problems
• Avoiding marriage comparison and shame around marriage issues
• The 1st thing I want you to do if you feel your marriage isn’t getting better
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

What happens when you get to your next duty station - and you just don’t like it?

In today’s episode, I want to talk about the ways you can navigate feeling unsettled or unhappy in a new duty station - because moves are hard enough, we shouldn’t have to worry about feeling at home too, right? Join me for my favorite PCS mindset tips and THREE important action steps that will greatly improve your experience in a location that you’re just not digging. 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: Boot Camp, where the term came from
• Permanent change of stations (PCS) & the hardship it can have on military families
• Some real-life examples of military families who did not like their duty stations - and what they did about it!
• The 1st thing you should do if you really dislike your duty station & my BEST mindset tips to help you do it
• The 3 IMPORTANT actions you can take to start enjoying your new duty station
• And more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

We know military life can sometimes be really hard and feel very serious. 

And that’s why this week, I’m challenging you to add more humor into your military life & marriage - because it really can do wonders. (Like how today’s guest literally got me through my postpartum experience with her hilarious reels!)

In today’s episode, I invite stand-up comedian and fellow military spouse, Ashley Gutermuth, to share her bright light and refreshing insights with our community as we discuss bringing humor to military life - and using it to strengthen our marriages. 

We’re exploring: 

• Military 101: JAG, why you should start here for any legal expertise you need
• Ashley’s life as a military spouse and how it impacts her work as a stand-up comedian
• How her hilarious reels helped me through my challenging postpartum
• Being chosen to win a contest by Jimmy Fallon & Jerry Seinfeld - and what opened up for Ashley because of it!
• How humor plays a role in her marriage (and why you should try it in yours)
• And more

Connect with Ashley: 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashgutermuth/

Website: https://www.ashleygutermuth.com/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

***Needs to be rewritten but here are her links****

ashleygutermuth.com @ashgutermuth on TikTok, twitter, instagram, and Ashley Gutermuth on Facebook

I have a highly requested episode for you this week, Married to Military family!

Today, I’m bringing on a guest who literally made me Married to Military - active duty U.S. Navy pilot and my husband, Sean Cavanagh. We’re diving into all the tough topics as Sean answers questions submitted by you - my incredible audience! We discuss prepping for deployment and long separations, reintegrating into the family after time away, what it’s like being married to a psychologist and coach (I was really interested to hear this one!), and so much more. Wondering how Sean feels about airing our “dirty laundry” on the podcast? Join us for this one. 

We’re exploring:

• Military 101: QLE (I’ve had 5 of them in the last 12 months!)
• Sean’s military journey in the U.S. Navy 
• One of the BIGGEST changes we’ve had to make in our marriage because of the military
• How military members can better support their civilian spouses in acclimating to the military lifestyle
• Some of our favorite tips around communication when your spouse is away (for the good stuff & for when you’re struggling!)
• The MOST challenging part of coming home (from deployment and TDY’s)
• And so much more

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Sometimes your marriage isn’t going to feel good.

BUT whether you feel like your relationship isn’t working, you’re simply in a rut, or things are going well, but you want them to be better - there is ONE important thing you can do to jumpstart your marriage. 

This week, I want to talk about why we tend to stop taking action in our marriages (even when we know it would help!) and why loving action is the quickest and MOST IMPORTANT tool to making a shift in your marriage. 

Let’s talk about the real, practical ways you can incorporate more loving actions into your daily life - and improve your marriage!

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: DOD & a helpful fact about government jobs and being a military spouse
• The fastest way to get out of a cycle of unsatisfaction in your relationship
• Why we STOP taking loving action
• Examples of how you can start actively communicating love to your spouse (even when you just aren’t feeling it!)
• Two military hurdles that could get in the way of this shift - and how to work through them
• Why I am prescribing THIS to you if you are having trouble taking consistent, loving action with your spouse
• And more

Come join my “Create a Happier Military Marriage NOW” challenge: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/marriage-challenge

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Building community and connection when you’re starting over in a new place can be really tough. And it’s especially hard when you’re doing it every 2-3 years! So, what can we do to make starting over after a military move a little easier on ourselves? This week, military spouse & podcast host Alison joins me to share the good, the bad, and the ugly of “starting over” as a military spouse - and what she created to provide more support to our community during these times of transition. 

We’re exploring:

• How we can support each other as military spouses during (and after!) a move
• Thinking outside the box in military life
• How Alison is contributing to the military spouse network with her podcast, The Unspoken Life of the Military Wife
• Some of the BIGGEST struggles that can come up with frequent moves, and finding resources to help!
• Moving to a new duty place as an introvert
• One of the BEST pieces of advice Alison was given when she was put on her first ship
• And so much more!

Connect with Alison on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themilspousepodcast/

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Feeling unseen, invalidated, or completely shut down in your marriage? You’re not alone—and there’s a way to feel connected again (and it’s simpler than you think).

Marriage isn’t about perfection. It’s about learning, growing, and showing up for each other, even when it’s hard. In this episode, I’m diving into the powerful reactions to one of my viral reels about feeling lonely, unvalued, and disconnected in marriage. Let’s explore what these struggles have in common and, most importantly, how to move forward.

Tune in to discover:

• How societal themes around marriage shape our relationships and expectations

• Why it’s okay to need more than your spouse to feel fully supported

• How to take control of your happiness in marriage—without waiting on your partner to change

• The key to building a stronger connection (and the do’s and don’ts of listening, validating, and understanding your partner’s perspective)

• Why timing matters and how waiting for calm can transform tough conversations

• The importance of developing the skills that will not only ease conflict but also make you feel better in your relationship

FREE TRAINING! The Three Secrets to a Happier Marriage: https://marriedafterkids.com/3-secrets

Get your FREE EBOOK! 3 Ways To Connect More With Your Spouse (In 5 Min or Less): https://marriedafterkids.com/freebie

Connect with me for a FREE Married After Kids Intervention Call: 

https://marriedafterkids.satoriapp.com/offers/277730-married-after-kids-intervention-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! www.instagram.com/marriedafterkids

Get ready for a giant permission slip as we debunk some post-deployment myths! You’re not alone if you’ve experienced pressure to fill countless desires either before or after your spouse's deployment. Get ready to set some new boundaries! In today’s episode, we are discussing decorating for homecoming, hosting family and friends, sex, cooking ALL the meals and everything in between!

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: POV: What this stands for specifically as related to the Military
• How to NOT feel bad about your boundaries
• Top 5 Tips to navigate common requests in a way that feels good for both of you
• What to do if your spouse is using their return as an excuse to do ONLY the things they want to do
• Decorating for your spouse’s return and how to get signs made for free
• The psychology behind THIS does not lead to great things
• What you AREN’T responsible for when it comes to their demands
• And so much more! 

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

It's easy to get caught in the magic of planning for homecoming, almost creating this fairy tale in our heads of how great it will be. I don't care how many deployments you have done, this adjustment period of reintegration can be COMPLICATED. There are not enough people talking about HOW to deepen your marriage with someone you haven’t seen or talked to in months and WHAT the appropriate preparation is. Let’s dive into this episode, where I’ll help you set realistic expectations so it can go smoothly for you.

I’m exploring:

• Military 101 - O.H.A - What this stands for and when you can use it
• Why you will have to learn how to live together again and my best tips for this
• How our expectations might not match the reality of what will happen
• The TOP questions you can start asking your spouse in the weeks leading up to their arrival
• The story of our first reintegration and how it was NOT what I expected at all
• My BEST tip that can help you avoid this type of fight altogether
• Ideas for reintegration with kids
• And so much more! 

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Being a Military spouse is not your ONLY identity, but it is a big part of it. This is something that other people might not understand because they aren’t exposed to this type of lifestyle. Joining me today are Kodie and Felicia, two Military spouses who built a deep and fast relationship because of this lifestyle and have created a safe space for you to come and feel inclusive while normalizing everything that’s going on. Through curveballs that are thrown your way during deployment, negative experiences you might be going through or finding your own support system, we will cover IT ALL to help you be prepared, find friendship and have fun!

We’re exploring: 

• Military 101: A.I.T: what it is and what it stands for
• How Kodie & Felicia became BFFs 
• Organic Friendship and Military challenges 
• How being a Military spouse impacted them professionally and personally
• Kofe Confessions and how it’s a space where comments can be demystified 
• Their TOP tips for deployment and how communication plays a key role
• How knowing the stages of deployment will help you
• And so much more!

Check out Kodie & Felicia: ​​​​https://msha.ke/kofeconfessions/#links

Connect with them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kofeconfessions/

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Whether you’re prepping for your first deployment or you’ve been a part of the Military for 30 years, the gift behind what Becky & Joanna have created is something we ALL can benefit from! Join us as we discuss taking deployment from a season focused on counting down the days for your spouse to return into a season where you can be focused on making every day count! Whatever season you're in, we're going to make it easier for you.

We’re diving into:

• Military 101: The term ‘down range’ and what it means if you hear the phrase
• How Becky & Joanna started their businesses and blog 
• The story behind Military life bringing them to their dream career and how they had to take that first step
• An uplifting, encouraging and forward-looking space you can join (I’ll be there, too!)
• Their TOP 8 tips for getting through deployment
• Tons of free resources you can start using today
• And so much more!

Follow them on IG: https://www.instagram.com/pillardeploymentretreat/

Jo’s personal blog: https://jomygosh.com/

Get a deployment countdown box: https://bravecrates.com/

Sign up for the 2022 Retreat: https://pillardeploymentretreat.com/

Listen to workshops from 2020 & new episodes every month: https://pillardeploymentretreat.com/podcast 

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

Follow me on Instagram so you don’t miss a thing! https://www.instagram.com/marriedtomilitary/

Continue the conversation in my private Facebook group Married to Military: https://www.facebook.com/groups/449431269700869

Deployments are hard. ESPECIALLY if you're going in blind and trying to figure it out as you go, which is what happened with today’s guest, Meredith Snyders. She’s sharing her story about overcoming mistrust in friend circles and how she turned that negative experience around so we can benefit from it. Whether you’re looking for a distraction from the struggles of deployment or a way to admit that you’re tired of pretending to be doing great when you’re not, this episode is for you.

We’re diving into:

• Military 101 - F.O.U.O - what it stands for and when you might see this
• How normalizing Meredith’s difficulties turned into a workbook for others
• Isolating situations and relatable early experiences during deployment
• A healthy way to stay busy as a positive distraction while you’re struggling
• What can happen if you don’t feel like you have a community you can trust
• And so much more! 

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Are you worried about a lack of communication while your spouse is gone? Do the thoughts of dealing with challenges while they’re away bring you all sorts of uneasy feelings? Today, I will help you work around the most common communication challenges during deployment, different types of scenarios you can expect and how to maximize ALL of the options that you DO have so you can feel better, more prepared and with surprises along the way! 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: FA or Field Artillery Branch
• My 4 BEST Tips for managing deployment communication
• Learning to build a strong foundation with words
• What you can do if you HAVEN’T heard from your spouse 
• Who you can call on for support while your spouse is away
• Being careful what you say during deployment and my secret workaround 
• And so much more!

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Whether this is your first deployment or your tenth, I want to give you a REALISTIC picture of what goes on during deployments and help you prepare to better manage them with more ease and happiness. Join me as I unpack the MOST common myths and fears associated with deployment, discuss the top things that people worry about, and debunk a few not-so-good rumors.

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: Statistics of women in the Military
• Top 7 MYTHS about Deployment that you need to know about 
• Discussing the TRUTH about long and short deployments
• What to do when communication feels out of your control
• How recognizing that it WILL be challenging can help you feel BETTER 
• Cheating in the Military and stats that might SHOCK you
• And so much more! 

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It's one thing to miss your significant other on a normal day but another thing entirely to miss them on holidays or other important dates. Whether you’re heading into your first holiday without your spouse, are as prepared as you think you can be or have recently been totally caught off guard with it all, I can’t wait to share my tips with you! You will learn how to ask for help when you need it, set boundaries without feeling bad and figure out your own unique and special ways to feel connected while they are away.

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: AOR: what it is and why it’s important
• My top 6 tips for getting through and THRIVING during the holidays 
• How you can ask for support and set boundaries with those you love
• Things to look out for when it comes to arranging holiday plans
• My own deployment holiday examples and what I do NOW
• How to prioritize YOUR needs during big events (without feeling guilty)
• This ONE expectation to help you through the day
• And so much more!

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

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If you’re wondering WHAT to prep for and HOW to make sure nothing gets forgotten, I’ve got you covered! From everyday decisions to the BIG life changes that can happen without warning, I’ll break down the top questions to discuss BEFORE your spouse leaves and everything in between! By the end of this episode, your deployment will run smoother, you’ll feel WAY more confident to deal with it and both of you will manage the deployment in a way that feels good.

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: I'm covering theater and how it relates to the Military (it’s not where you go watch plays or musicals!)
• TOP Logistical things to set up ahead of deployment
• The secret code that my husband and I use to discuss dates (and where you can find it)
• 5 categories to cover ALL your bases before and during deployment
• From every day tasks to BIG life decisions and how to create a game plan for them all
• Examples of conversations I have with my husband before deployments, as well as some examples from my clients
• And so much more! 

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In this episode, we’re diving into something I know so many of us feel but don’t always talk about: that deep need to feel supported and truly connected with our partner. Sometimes, it’s not about what your partner does or doesn’t do; it’s about the little moments that either build trust or chip away at it.

Remember that classic line from The Break-Up with Jennifer Aniston? “I want you to want to do the dishes!” It’s a funny moment, but it’s also deeper than that. We're exploring what this really means when it comes to feeling supported by our partners.

Tune in to discover:

• The 3 most common reasons couples feel unheard and disconnected - and what you can do about it

• How small, every day promises (like showing up on time or picking up groceries) can significantly impact whether we feel truly supported and seen

• The truth about the “mental load” and why an imbalance here can lead to resentment

• Practical tips for creating a fair, flexible system at home where both partners feel valued

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Whether this is your first deployment or tenth, the news can hit hard and the challenges are all too common for us Military Spouses. Inside this episode, I will break down what you can expect during each stage of deployment while giving you my TOP tips to manage and prepare for them so it’s easier and more enjoyable for you. 

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: POA or power of attorney: Why you need one and when you might use one
• TOP ways to help you thrive during a deployment 
• The BEST questions to ask yourself to figure out your REAL expectations
• The 5 Stages of deployment and how to prepare for each
• Common challenges that may come up and how to navigate them
• Ways to keep yourself busy but NOT burnt out while they are away
• Reintegrating once they are back home and the top challenges you can prepare for
• And so much more! 

Grab the Deployment Survival Guide Here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

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Welcome to the Deployment Series! Deployment doesn’t have to be a dreaded time that’s completely horrible. Although it can be difficult and there will be more on your shoulders than usual, my aim is to make it EASIER for you while ensuring that you are setting realistic expectations for this time. In this episode, I am breaking it ALL down for you so you can set yourself up for success with my best mindset shift ideas, the facts behind how we think, aligned affirmations to help you stay on track, and everything in between!

I’m exploring:

• Military 101: What OPSEC is and why it’s relevant to deployment
• BONUS: Deployment Survival Guide discount and details
• The Mindset you will need for the deployment to be successful
• Top questions to ask yourself to really dig into how you’re feeling
• The BEST ways to get you from surviving to THRIVING during this time
• How changing your thoughts will make ALL the difference (and how to do it)
• And so much more! 

Grab my Deployment Survival Guide eBook here: http://lindsaycavanagh.com/deployment-survival-guide

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Whether you’re on a good stretch with your spouse or in the middle of a challenging phase, in this episode, you will learn how to recognize and troubleshoot the most common challenges I see in Military marriages. As a military psychologist and marriage coach for over a decade now, there are DEFINITE themes that I’ve seen as to what troubles military marriages, and the SAME things that keep popping up for many of us. I’m sharing them with you so you can make sure to avoid them and put in the right ingredients in your marriage!

I’m exploring:

• • Military 101: Cover: what it is, when it’s needed and why you might receive a panicked phone call
• Top 5 Themes to recognize and course correct in your marriage
• The MOST common pitfalls I see when it comes to expectations for your spouse
• How to have more fun with the challenges of the Military lifestyle
• Why troubleshooting what’s coming up in your marriage right now is VERY doable
• Figuring out what fuels your marriage so you can do MORE of it
• And so much more! 

Connect with me for a FREE Military Marriage Breakthrough Call:  https://marriedtomilitary.satoriapp.com/offers/236651-military-marriage-breakthrough-call

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