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In this episode I talk about the 5 types of dating burnout: 

• Dating pessimism 
• Going on lots of dates that don’t work out
• Dating avoidance
• Situationship burnout
• Life stress burnout

For each type of burnout, I share specific practices you can do to heal each one. 

Other podcast episodes mentioned w links: 

• Dating North Star Practice 
• Making the list of your dream partner & relationship qualities
• How to create a dating process that feels pleasurable for you 

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In this episode I talk about:

❤️‍🔥 Why we choose people who are bad for us (unavailable, non-committal, situationships, toxic people)

❤️‍🔥 Why you’re attracted to danger

❤️‍🔥 How to have compassion for yourself for being attracted to the “wrong people”

❤️‍🔥 How to break your patterns and start dating healthy AND sexy people

❤️‍🔥 The answer to: “do I have to just date all the boring people now?”

❤️‍🔥 How attraction will feel different with a safe, healthy person (& how not to sabotage it when it comes!)

Open to Love is a 6-month program where you’ll learn how to fall in your life partner by dating the pleasure-based way

You have 3 more days to join Open to Love

Join here or book a sales call with me to see if Open to Love is right for you ❤️

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In this episode, I talk about: 

• The difference between “I need to change myself because if I don’t I can’t be loved” & “I want to work on myself so I can give and receive love better”
• How to balance being loved for who you are & healing in the name of creating healthy, sexy partnership 
• Why it’s OK to want to heal for the other people in your life - and how I moved out of depression because of Kellen & my relationships 
• How hyper-independent feminism can get in the way of healthy interdependence
• How developing emotional maturity during your dating journey creates room for powerful intimacy with future dating partners 
• How your shit always comes out (& so do other people’s!) and how embracing your imperfection & caring for it makes you an incredible dating partner 
• How to know when to take breaks from dating without completely giving up on love

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It’s not always you boo, sometimes it is them 😹. In this episode I talk about:

❤️ How to stop reading through every text & ruminating on every interaction whenever things don’t work out

❤️ How to unhook from toxic personal development that tells you it’s all on you & your inner healing to be ready for love

❤️ The nuance of the “do your inner work” advice: what’s helpful, what else is needed

❤️ How women and men are socialized to see rejection differently

❤️ How to stop taking rejection so personally

❤️ Why developing rejection resilience will change your whole dating journey

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In this episode, you’ll learn: 

• Why falling in love is part of your life purpose and spiritual calling
• How give yourself a refreshed outlook on dating & relationships 
• How to see datingas a revolutionary act of self-love and collective healing

I also share my own stories of healing intergenerational trauma, wounds of patriarchy, self-worth and past trauma through my dating journey

This episode will reignite your passion and commitment to the path of love - even if you've been feeling pessimistic about dating or have been avoiding it altogether

This is a must-listen for anyone ready to wholeheartedly commit to one of the greatest list journeys of all: allowing yourself to love & be loved 

Timestamps: 

0:00:00 how to see dating as part of your spiritual growth path.
0:02:58 3 parts to dharma
0:07:00 Western view of purpose being tied to work v. Eastern view of dharma & life purpose

0:09:30 Ann’s conditioning to prioritize work and productivity over romantic relationships

0:12:00 Embracing the lover within you as a crucial part of your life purpose & unique expression.

0:14:13 Dharma as right action & how falling in love is a revolutionary act that aligns with truth, love, and consciousness

0:16:30 Ann’s story: how dating heals intergenerational trauma & patriarchal conditioning

0:23:08 Falling in love = dissolving the ego &realizing your divinity

0:25:30 Ann’s story: healing wounds of self-worth, trauma, and attachment issues

0:32:38 Challenges of the dharma path of love & how to not give up in dating

0:34:00 "Open to Love" program & details

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The 30-Day Pleasure Reset begins July 31st! 

Join here: https://thepleasurereset.my.canva.site/30daypleasurereset

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You’re getting homework today! (the pleasurable kind, of course)

In this episode I talk about:

- How work stress impacts your self-confidence and intimate relationships

- How I added 5% pleasure to my corporate job to enjoy it more without getting a promotion, raise, or new role

- 3 practical tips for applying the 5% pleasure rule to your job

- What to do if you feel like you’re wasting your life / purpose / talents at your job

Your work life impacts soooo much of your energy & spirit

Give your work life refresh without having to blow everything up & stress about changing careers

We’re gonna do it together in The 30-Day Pleasure Reset

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Are you intellectualizing your healing? Do you focus more on solving your issues than creating the love, sex & confidence you're looking for in your life? If so this episode is for you!

In this episode I talk about:

- How pleasure is crucial to supplement talk therapy & trauma resolution

- how sneaky perfectionism keeps you from giving yourself love & intimacy now

- how digging into your problems 24/7 is hindering your healing process

- how pleasure helps you have deeper healing

- why the 5% pleasure rule is so effective on a nervous system level & makes your healing 10X more effective

Stop obsessing over every past trauma you’ve had before you let yourself date confidently

Stop chasing a perfect body before you let yourself have lots of great sex with your partner

Come practice 5% pleasure with me & let yourself have the pleasure, the orgasms, the beaming confidence when you look in the mirror - now

The 30-Day Pleasure Reset starts in 7 days

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Chit chatting w you from bed as I take in the news this morning

We (me & you amazing folks in this community) chat about:

♥️ Why it’s so important to practice pleasure as someone who cares deeply about the world

♥️ Pleasure as a liberatory practice especially for women, queer folks & black & brown people

♥️Pleasure as a way to sustain your activism

♥️ Buddhist mindfulness practice & how thich nhat hanh’s teachings influence my view on pleasure

♥️ Dealing with guilt & pleasure - especially as children of refugees / immigrants

Come practice your pleasure with me & a community of other folks who care deeply about what’s happening in the world

You don’t have to lose hope or do this alone

It is actually critical that you hold onto your joy right now

Join me in The 30-Day Pleasure Reset

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Dating doesn’t have to suck!

Practicing the 5% pleasure rule (asking myself in every moment: how can I add 5% more pleasure to this?) changed everything for me:

• I stayed confident even when I was being rejected

• I made dating apps fun for me so I didn’t give up on finding love..

• Pleasure kept me in the game for long enough to meet my life partner (fucking worth it!)

You deserve a dreamy AF partner who will love you & hold you & walk through this wild journey of life with you

No more feeling like your love life is doomed every time it doesn’t work out with someone you’re into

No more checking your phone every 5 seconds to see if they’ve texted back

You can design your dating life around your pleasure

The 30-Day Pleasure Reset is where you’ll do that

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In this episode, Rachel Rae Halder (who was my coach when I was in depression) and I talk about the freeze response (aka stuckness in your life) and how you can work with it on your healing journey. 

Rachel is a holistic sexuality, soul embodiment & trauma resolution guide - and someone whose work and genius I respect and admire very much.

We talk about: 

• How the freeze response can show up as stuckness, burnout, depression, resistance to intimacy, or resistance to doing the things you want to do in your life

• The shame that comes with the freeze response and how to un-shame it

• The importance of love, curiosity, and small, doable steps to move through freeze into action 

• The different kinds of freeze that can happen and how you can identify them in your life as a tool for self-understanding and compassion 

• I talk about my journey working with Rachel through my depression from burnout to the small, doable steps I took to slowly unthaw the depression 

• The wisdom and power that can come from going down into  the Underworld

• Why this work is so important for creatives, leaders, and for people going on a journey of deepening their capacity for pleasure, intimacy & love 

How to work with Rachel: 

Rachel’s website

Rachel’s Instagram

Why we Freeze: a 2 hour workshop on Unshaming This Intelligent Trauma Response ($15) https://rachelhalder.podia.com/why-we-freeze

Finding Flow: Rachel’s 8-week course on Advanced Nervous System Care for Thawing Freeze Dynamics: https://rachelhalder.podia.com/finding-flow

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In this episode, I share:

• How to have compassion for yourself if you feel of resentful or shut down around BJs
• Basic principles for processing emotions and sexual trauma you might be carrying (consciously or subconsciously) to open to true sexual desire again 
• How to process unfelt feminine rage / grief via a dance / movement practice (& how it’ll free up so much energy for your sex life) 
• How to talk to your partner about past trauma so it stops blocking you in your current your sex life 
• How addressing your pent up feelings can create more intimacy, love, safety, & better sex in your relationship
• How being honest with your partner helps your intimacy deepen & helps you receive the depth of love you’ve been craving from your partner 

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In this episode I talk about how to date if your standards are “too high”

I also talk about:

❤️‍🔥How to set your standards from openness v. your wounds

❤️‍🔥 How to hold high standards AND believe that there are so many people who can meet those standards

❤️‍🔥How to be flexible and open without compromising your standards

Open to Love is open for 3 more days! Join or book a sales call with me here: https://calendly.com/theannnguyen/otl-cal ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

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In this episode of the BJ series (where I share all about BJs and how you can genuinely fall in love with giving them), I share: 

• The mindset and Tantric philosophy behind cock worship 
• How to make a blowjob sacred for you and your partner
• How sacred blowjobs can reignite the spark in your relationship
• How sacred blowjobs can be incredibly healing for people with penises 

*This is taught in a gender-fluid manner, and the philosophy and practices can be used with energetic cocks, strap ons - however you desire to explore! 

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In this episode I share: 

• How I went from feeling insecure to confident & in love with giving BJs 
• How connecting to my own sexuality & turn on allowed me to show up in amazing ways in my sex life with my partner
• How integrating past conditioning and mindset about BJs changed the game for me 
• How learning about men and their sexual trauma / conditioning made me a better sex partner 
• How to use techniques in a way that’s actually effective, enjoyable - and helps you be creative in BJ giving! 

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Do you ever feel guilty for wanting to say no to sex? Are you scared of hurting your partner’s feelings? Do you judge yourself for your no and spiral between wanting intimacy and your body saying no? 

Well, I got you boo! 

In this episode we’re going all in on how to create safety & pleasure to say no to sex when you don’t wanna do it

I share: 

• A personal story of saying no to sex to my partner 
• Navigating missing your partner’s sex initiation cues
• 1 powerful question to ask yourself when you feel a no in sex that will help you move past shame and into solutions to move forward 
• How saying no to your partner can make your relationship stronger & more sexy 
• A step-by-step practice you can bring to your relationships to feel SAFE & CELEBRATED for saying no

What I share in this episode is one of the most crucial things you can do to create a sex life where you can surrender and drop into deeper levels of pleasure, orgasm & intimate connection.

Tune in to learn along! Let’s create a culture of sexy no’s in the world - together <3 

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I share a Buddhist concept from one of my spiritual teachers, Thich Nhat Hanh around love, compassion, and taking action in our burning world. I talk about mature feminine leadership & how you can find the medicine you’re meant to give & actions you’re meant to take in the world during this time. 

This episode is for you if:

• You’re struggling to balance life, work, your relationships - your sanity - amidst all the crisis that’s been happening in our world
• You’ve felt guilty about how much you’re showing up, or not showing up 
• You feel angry or confused about how to relate to other people during this time
• You’re conflicted about activism, the polarization you see happening in the world, showing up and speaking online or offline, and it all just feels like way too fucking much

I share how I’ve been navigating through all of this (in my own messy, confused, hopeful human way) & how Buddhist wisdom anchors me in showing up. I also share encouragement and love to you to contribute whatever gifts you’re called to give during this time. 

References and sources:

•  “In Search of the Enemy of Man” (Full letter from Thich Nhat Hanh to Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.) https://plumvillage.org/about/thich-nhat-hanh/letters/in-search-of-the-enemy-of-man
• Peace Begins Here: Palestinians and Israelis talking to each other: https://www.parallax.org/product/peace-begins-here/ 

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I'm sharing with you my #1 relationship connection tool: Fears, Loves & Desires. This is a super simple communication practice you can use to connect more deeply with your partner, create safety to talk about sex, keep the spark alive in your relationship, and soooo much more! 

In this episode you'll learn: 

• Why it's so important to create a culture of radical honesty and emotional safety in your relationship
• How to make it safe for your man to express his emotions (if you're into them, ya know) 
• How to share your needs with your partner & make it safe for them to share their needs 
• Why verbally sharing appreciation for one another is CRUCIAL for happiness in long-term relationships 
• How to see your partner as interesting and exciting in long term relationships 
• How to invite your partner to do this practice 
• Things to be mindful of (a few words of wisdom before you dive in) 

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Been in a sex rut with your partner? Do you wanna bang but you're kinda frustrated and resistant? In this episode I share my concept of "fuck it" sex - and when it's good to have it, and when it's not. 

In this episode I will cover: 

• What "fuck it" sex is 
• Relating to sex as a lifelong practice 
• How to work together with your partner to keep your sex life alive
• How to have sex with your partner even if you've been fighting and processing a lot in your relationship 
• When NOT to have "fuck it" sex
• The benefits of "fuck it" sex 
• A story from my own "fuck it" sex experience 

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Get to know me! I'm sharing the full story of how I became a sex, love & relationship coach, how I healed my own sexual trauma, reconnected with my sensuality, and how I healed patterns in toxic love.  We go way back on this one and start from my childhood til now! Topics I cover include: 

• Witnessing abuse in my household as a kid 
• My childhood connection to spirituality and healing
• Navigating sex and relationships as a teen 
• Sex and relationships in my 20s
• Working with my first coach to heal sexual trauma and relationship trauma
• How I became a coach 
• Why it's important to share our stories as women to unshame 
• A practice that you can do to heal your sexuality by witnessing your own story 

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In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to break free from the toxic dating culture and become the Creatrix of your own dating experience 
• How to design dates that are tailored to your interests and bring you joy
• The art of asking for what you want in a date and communicating your needs with confidence
• Creative ways to meet potential partners beyond dating apps
• Strategies for being more approachable in real life and confidently asking people out
• The power of "dating for the one" and how it can help you cultivate mature, healthy partnerships
• Strategies to build dating stamina and resilience, even in the face of heartbreak or disappointment
• How to overcome the exhaustion and stress of traditional dating and make it a fulfilling journey

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In this episode, you'll learn:
• How to reframe your perspective on the dating process and approach it with realistic expectations
• Strategies for defining your must-have qualities and "cherry on top" characteristics in a partner
• Techniques to cultivate your own inner radiance and become the partner you seek
• Practical rituals to prepare for and recover from the emotional journey of dating
• The importance of setting boundaries and aligning with partners who share your long-term goals

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Open to Love - a 6 month program to date the pleasure-based way & call in your dream partner is open for enrollment! See all program details & join here

In this episode, you'll learn:

• The transformative power of cultivating inner radiance through self-love and pleasure practices

• How to become your own dream partner and attract the relationship you desire

• How to expand your capacity for receiving love and affection from others

• Effective ways to overcome dating anxiety, insecurity, and self-doubt

• The keys to developing magnetic, confident, and authentic presence in the dating world

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In this episode, you'll learn how to overcome dating insecurity and cultivate the confidence to attract the healthy, fulfilling connections you deserve. 

Discover the power of clearing your emotional baggage and embracing your authentic self

You'll learn:

• The neuroscience behind why you're drawn to the "wrong" partners, and how to redirect that energy
• Practical techniques for clearing past heartbreaks, shame, and self-deprecating narratives
• How becoming your own best lover & tending to your emotional needs will completely transform your dating life
• How to extract valuable lessons from past dating failures and turn them into your strengths
• How clearing can help you navigate conflicts and challenges in relationships with greater ease
• Tips for making your dating experience feel lighter, more enjoyable, and free from emotional turmoil

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Open to Love - a 6 month program to date the pleasure-based way & call in your dream partner is open for enrollment! See all program details & join here.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to create a "Dating North Star" to bring deeper fulfillment in your dating life. 
• How your Dating North Star will also help you continue on your dating journey - even when you’re exhausted and want to quit
• Why common reasons for wanting a relationship, like loneliness or the desire for validation aren’t sustainable motivators 
• How to connect to your deeper values and the profound meaning of love to guide your dating journey
• The revolutionary potential of love to heal both personal, intergenerational, & societal issues
• Why falling in love can be seen as fulfilling your life's purpose or "dharma"
• How partnership can become a container for you to become your best self and support your partner's growth
• Strategies to overcome self-judgment and societal pressures that can arise when dating without a clear purpose
• The benefits of approaching dating with a mature, inspiring view of love that makes you more attractive to future partners

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Open to Love  - a 6 month program to date the pleasure-based way & call in your dream partner is open for enrollment! See all program details & join here

In this episode, I share:

• How I went from anxious attachment & insecurity on dates to calling in my dream partnership
• Learning about trauma & why I kept choosing people who were unhealthy for me
• How I experimented in dating: from hoe phases to trying to date "safe" people
• How I struggled to apply the self-love principles I was learning in self-help dating content
• Creating boundaries in dating & how it helped me attract higher quality dating partners
• How exploring my own sexuality & sensuality helped me reclaim my inner radiance & transform my insecurities
• Getting clear on my dream partner & what my dream relationship looks like 
• The time when I was super into a guy, planned to fly out to see him, and how he rejected me (& how it became the moment I stopped defining my worth based on what other people think of me)
• How I started dating Kellen & how all my work during my dating journey paid off 
• Continuing to create my dream relationship 7 years in - using all the skills I learned during my dating process 

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In this episode, I interview my long-term 1:1 client Stephanie about her dating journey. We talk about: 

• How pleasure-based dating helped Stephanie heal from toxic situationships
• Breaking unhealthy dating patterns and the moment Stephanie said no to someone who was attractive but wasn’t a right fit 
• The pros and cons of consuming dating self-help content online
• Releasing shame around being a smart, ambitious, successful woman who still makes mistakes in love
• Embracing her desire for a relationship & the desperate / so far behind narrative that society puts on women who are single 
• Embracing her journey and feeling confident as a single person in her late 30s 
• How authentic self expression through pleasure practices & self-adornment have boosted her dating confidence 
• How she’s keeping her heart open to love while surrendering to the timeline of how long it takes 

Episode highlights: 

0:02:03 - Stephanie shares where she was on her love journey before working with Ann, including hitting "rock bottom" in a situationship

0:05:35 - Internal feelings and shame that come up when you’re in unfulfilling relationships

0:08:51 - how consuming self-help content on social media can send you into a spiral around dating

0:11:55 - Cultural attitudes towards single women in Western vs. non-Western societies

0:15:00 - The societal double-bind of being desperate for wanting a relationship / shame for not already being in one 

0:19:52 - Stephanie shares her surprises and shifts during the pleasure-based dating process, including letting go of timelines and expectations

0:25:00 - Stephanie talks about surrendering her timeline and preconceived notions about where she "should" be at her age

0:27:33 - Stephanie discusses the resilience she built to handle disappointment in dating

0:32:08 - Stephanie elaborates on the role of disappointment and how she learned to navigate it

0:35:00 - Stephanie describes making different dating choices, such as saying no to an attractive but unhealthy person

0:41:07 - Stephanie shares how her self-expression, style, and pleasure practices have been transformative for her dating life 

0:49:37 - Stephanie's advice for someone nervous to invest in this inner work

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A quick 8-minute lesson on how to find your turn on again 

In this episode, I talk about: 

• The celebrity crush I fantasized about daily when I was depressed - and why that was a good thing for my sexuality at the time 

• How most women make their sensual expression / turn on wrong because they're comparing it to male-centric societal sexual standards 

• How your turn on isn't as far away as you probably think - and how you can start to celebrate your sensual self today - even if you feel like you've been disconnected from your sexuality for a while 

When you start to celebrate and notice your turn on now - you melt away the shame that keeps you from moving forward towards a sexual Spring / Summer in your life again. 

Tune into the episode now and listen to it while you wash the dishes or go on a walk today - I hope it serves you! 

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In this episode I share: 

• The truth about my own struggles with self-doubt and how I work through them

• How self doubt can show up as judging your goals & desires as "too much" or "too selfish" or "too unattainable" 

• My perspective on why your goals matter & how they're a part of your dharma

• How to loosen self-doubt by embracing "failure" 

• The Inner Mother practice I've been doing for 2 years to meet my self-doubt with love & compassion 

I also share a free guided meditation that you can use when you're in moments of freeze: stuck shaming yourself for not doing the thing you set out to do 

Get the Inner Mother meditation here

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Revolutionize your approach to goal-setting by creating Pleasure Goals - centering your life around what actually brings you joy & fulfillment and helps you connect with your erotic self

You'll learn how to: 

• Reframe Goal-Setting: Move beyond optimization and productivity goals to include pleasure quotas alongside traditional metrics like protein or fiber intake

• Identify Your Pleasure Menu: Review the past 6 months for moments of genuine happiness, listen to your daydreams, and focus on feelings rather than expensive activities

• Set Actual Pleasure Goals: Create specific, measurable pleasure targets (like calling a friend monthly or taking weekly solo time) and treat them as seriously as other life goals

• Overcome Common Time & Money Blocks: Address time & money constraints by integrating pleasure into existing responsibilities and focusing on the emotional experience rather than costly activities

• Pleasure as Foundation: Recognize that peripheral pleasure (non-sexual enjoyment) builds the foundation for reconnecting with sexuality and intimacy

• Benefits for Relationships: Practicing personal pleasure makes you more interesting to date, creates capacity for dating challenges, and can reignite spark in existing relationships

• Nervous System Impact: A pleasure-oriented nervous system is more open to deep intimacy and amazing sex

Pleasure is your birthright, not something to earn - it's medicine, healing, and spiritual practice all in one

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In this episode, I share my personal journey of struggling with feeling unattractive during a difficult period of depression

[0:00-9:50]  I open up about how I lost my sense of radiance, gained weight, and felt disconnected from my sexy self, especially in my relationship with Kellen

[9:51-19:07] I dive deep into what really makes someone attractive (it's not about body type or external beauty standards). I explain how true attractiveness comes from your life force energy, your Shakti, and being authentically yourself

[19:08-28:39] I provide practical tips for reconnecting with your inner radiance, including gentle self-touch practices and the importance of grieving your disconnection from yourself. I share how even small, compassionate practices can help you rebuild your sense of attractiveness

[28:40-35:37] I discuss how engaging in activities you love naturally increases your magnetism. I introduce the concept of "letting pussy dress you" - choosing clothing and self-expression that genuinely feels good to you, rather than trying to meet external standards

[35:38-End] I wrap up by sharing my own transformation, from feeling completely disconnected to reclaiming my sexiness. I offer listeners hope and practical strategies for feeling hot again

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In this episode, I share about my engagement story - especially from the perspective of someone who never thought a healthy marriage would be for me, and what it took to get to this chapter in our relationship. 

Key highlights from the episode: 

0:00:00  - How I transformed from someone who never thought marriage was possible to someone excitedly planning a future with my partner Kellen

0:09:40  - Overcoming past relationship traumas, including my anxious attachment style and fears about marriage, explaining how couples therapy and honest communication helped us grow together

0:19:37 - I talk about reaching a point where I became ready for marriage, feeling a shift in our relationship and wanting to start a family, which led to me actually getting excited about the engagement

0:29:22 - The story of our actual proposal day - my lessons in surrendering control, being on day 2 of my period, getting caught by surprise, and being hype AF to be engaged! 

Key themes: vulnerability, growth, and unexpected joy

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This week's episode covers: 

• An intro to sacred sexuality 
• The differences between sacred vs. mainstream sexuality
• Benefits of sacred sexuality & how to apply it to your life 
• The collective, societal impact of sexual wellness for women of color 

After listening to this episode you'll learn how to: 

• Develop a more positive & sacred relationship with your body
• Understand sexuality as a spiritual practice of self-love
• View romantic partnerships as spiritual growth opportunities
• Understand pleasure as a pathway to spiritual awakening
• Explore sexuality as a form of personal and collective liberation

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DOWNLOAD YOUR AUTHENTIC EROTIC IDENTITY WORKBOOK HERE In this episode, you'll learn:

[0:00-5:00] The concept of Erotic Identity and how transforming how you see yourself as a sexual being impacts your sex & love life 

[5:00-10:00] How to overcome internalized sexual shame and expand your definition of eroticism

[10:00-15:00] Defining eroticism: how it's about aliveness and passion beyond sexual acts, using examples like Jane Goodall's connection to nature

[15:00-17:30] Techniques for creating a personal erotic archetype through visualization and identifying meaningful qualities

[17:30-19:00] How you can play with archetypes like the lover, witch, crone, wise woman, wild woman, queen, and warrior to expand your sexual expression

[17:30-20:00] Specific questions to ask to discover your erotic identity, including:

• How does your empowered erotic self dress?
• How does she move?
• How does she interact with her partner?
• What are her values around sexuality?
• How does she navigate challenges?

[20:00-25:00] How erotic identities evolve through different life stages and personal growth

[25:00-end] Ways an authentic sexual identity can transform your confidence and relationships

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