Join David as he delves deep into the ability to make smarter decisions. Discover how to overcome biases, navigate psychological hurdles, and understand why a good decision remains valuable even if the outcome isn't favourable. David shares practical strategies to mitigate confirmation biases, combat hindsight bias, and manage the paradox of choice. Gain insights on balancing luck and strategy, the importance of opportunity cost, and how to leverage diverse perspectives for more informed, confident choices in life. Key Takeaways ·      Mitigating Confirmation Bias: Learn techniques to challenge your own beliefs by considering opposing viewpoints and leveraging diverse perspectives. ·      Navigating Psychological Hurdles: Understand and overcome hindsight bias and the paradox of choice to make more confident decisions. ·      Balancing Luck and Strategy: Recognize the role of luck in decision-making and how to stack the odds in your favor by balancing proactive and reactive approaches Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: A free download that explains the difference between belief and confidence. It gives insights to help personal and professional growth - https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/get-your-free-mini-book Connect with David Sammel: ·      Share your thoughts and connect with David on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/david_sammel/?hl=en ·      For more valuable content, subscribe to the Nuggets Podcast on your favourite platform. ·      Leave us a review on all popular podcast platforms and share how this episode has impacted you. ·      Subscribe to our YouTube channel for visual content and more engaging discussions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever felt trapped by the invisible barriers in your life? Join David as he dives deep into how our upbringing and environment shape our paths, often in ways we’re unaware of. Through compelling metaphors like the tethered elephant and the trapped fleas, David illustrates how our perceived limitations can hold us back from achieving our true potential. David shares personal stories and practical advice on changing mindsets, experimenting with new ways of living, and breaking free from feeling stuck. Whether it’s changing your wardrobe or altering your perspective on life and relationships, you’ll discover actionable steps to take control of your destiny. Ready to redefine your life's journey? Tune in now and take the first step toward a more fulfilling life!    Key Takeaways ·      Power of Decisions: Understand how a single choice can completely redefine your life's journey. ·      Overcoming Mental Barriers: Learn how perceived limitations, like the tethered elephant and trapped fleas, can hold you back. ·      Practical Mindset Shifts: Discover actionable steps to change your mindset and experiment with new ways of living. Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: A free download that explains the difference between belief and confidence. It gives insights to help personal and professional growth - https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/get-your-free-mini-book Connect with David Sammel: ·      Share your thoughts and connect with David on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/david_sammel/?hl=en ·      For more valuable content, subscribe to the Nuggets Podcast on your favourite platform. ·      Leave us a review on all popular podcast platforms and share how this episode has impacted you. ·      Subscribe to our YouTube channel for visual content and more engaging discussions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, David dives deep into the concept of hindsight, the complexity of human relationships, and the art of making judgment calls under pressure. Download the free guide on distinguishing between belief and confidence from the show notes, and let's navigate these thought-provoking insights together! Don't forget to leave a review and subscribe for more engaging content!  Key Takeaways 1. Hindsight and Decision-Making: Hindsight can teach us valuable lessons, but it doesn’t guarantee flawless future decisions. 2. The Role of Perspective: Our backgrounds and experiences colour our advice and perceptions, making complete objectivity impossible. 3.Importance of Questioning: Questioning helps gain deeper insights and promotes self-reflection, though it can never be entirely unbiased. Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: A free download that explains the difference between belief and confidence. It gives insights to help personal and professional growth - https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/get-your-free-mini-book Connect with David Sammel: ·      Share your thoughts and connect with David on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/david_sammel/?hl=en ·      For more valuable content, subscribe to the Nuggets Podcast on your favourite platform. ·      Leave us a review on all popular podcast platforms and share how this episode has impacted you. ·      Subscribe to our YouTube channel for visual content and more engaging discussions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bloody emotions! Today's episode comes to you courtesy of Justin who lives in America. He's wanting some advice on how to manage his emotions under pressure. Whether it's playing his club tennis, or just sometimes in life when things seem to be building up, he feels like it's very difficult for him to manage his emotions and sometimes on the tennis court it results in outbursts of anger or frustration. Thanks to Justin as I'm grateful for any topic suggestions.  There was a very interesting story I once heard about a gentleman and his wife standing in line to buy tickets to see a show in the theatre, which was very popular. And the line was pretty long and moving slowly. They were just three from getting tickets when a man pushed in in front of them. Naturally his blood was boiling and he's just about to take him on when he noticed that the guy was wearing dark sunglasses and had a white stick and immediately the anger and the boiling desire to take this guy on disappeared as he probably doesn't even know that he's pushed in the line. He became sympathetic and was about to offer to gift him a ticket when guy behind him suddenly said, “Oh, wow, he's done it again, this guy is not blind. He always uses this trick to cut lines. Immediately the chap was absolutely fuming again and ready to take the fake blind man to task. So, within the space of a minute, he went from being extremely angry to calm and empathetic to blood boiling again. How you interpret a situation can take us from blood boiling, to calm to upset again. This means that when anything happens, there is a short window where we have a choice in how we're going to react and to try and evaluate a situation to deal with it in the best way possible. Managing your emotions, really comes down to how well you manage that space between what happens, and the immediate emotion felt…… to deciding how you're going to react to it. We cannot control our emotions we can only train them to be less severe. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I'm gonna talk about hypocrisy. I have a belief that hypocrisy stems from the ego which is within all of us, and our ego projects its job as protecting us and keeping us strong. The two powerful tools that it uses are beliefs and identity. We believe certain things and we think we're certain types of people. As an example, if you think you're a good person, you might say I don't hurt people, but the reality is, this is hypocrisy because there's no one on the planet who's never hurt another person’s feelings. Different situations will bring out disparities in how we think especially when under huge pressure, maybe to keep a job or to protect a loved one. People will tell lies, to protect the identity that they have cultivated and the image they want other people to have of them. There are times in life where people do not live up to their image or stay true to beliefs because when we feel intimidated, then to protect ourselves, to fit in, or to impress others we can turn our backs on our beliefs and assume a different persona.  Many believe that every man has his price, others believe not. Until faced with a situation where a great gift or horrible threat is posed in return for compromise, no-one can say for sure that they will stick to principles that severely tests that belief. And that is the crucial thing. Try to get rid of some of your hypocrisy by really examining your beliefs and testing and researching them in your mind. Explore where they come from and if they are appropriate and even if you actually agree with them rather than having them because everyone you hang round has them. Each culture or group has its beliefs about others and what is right and often dismiss another way of life as definitely not for them only to alter their whole viewpoint when they experience another way. The moment you judge others by your standards and experiences you are a hypocrite because this is akin to believing you would be the same person no matter where you were born. The ego lacks humility and therefore will defend the indefensible to be right. So often when our beliefs don't stand up under scrutiny, we are so wedded to them that we employ another human trait which is the ability to justify anything. At the end of the day, I think it is healthy to say there are certain things that I believe in and to the best of my knowledge I believe I will be able and want to stick to them when tested but until I'm in that position, I cannot categorically say that I will react the way I believe I will.  It is the human condition to bend and there are people who bend more than others. Therefore, the amount of hypocrisy depends on how much self-awareness and strength of mind we develop to stick to beliefs we have examined as right for us from those imposed on us by our upbringing and society. I certainly believe to evolve as a human being we need to examine beliefs and give up the ones that no longer make sense. Otherwise, hypocrisy will grow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Whether you are the coach, teacher, or learner the following will help. As a learner try find environments and coaches who tick these boxes and if you are a teacher then this has worked for me on both sides of the fence.  In my experience how well we learn boils down to the simple practice of: There must be a want, curiosity, or interest in order to learn anything. Learning something in which we have little, or no interest is very rough. Having a good teacher or mentor (not always essential as DIY can work but warning as from personal experience of DIY story. Taking time is inevitably faster than rushing) In teaching try hit as many senses as possible and gamify as much as possible. Repetition. Do things over and over again until it seeps into your psyche and becomes pretty much automatic.  If you're looking to teach people, especially kids you need to stimulate them by taking them to see something with their own eyes and if it grabs them then you can introduce some discussion about it. Once you have peeked their curiosity to the point where the answer to “how would you like to do this?” is a resounding yes, only then move to introduce some instruction and coaching from an expert in the field who will make it fun. Great teachers are knowledgeable and fun teachers. They inspire people to want to do the work to get better in an environment that is not onerous but in large part, enjoyable. There's almost nothing worse than an expert who really knows their stuff yet bores the pants off people.  Once you've learned the fundamentals it is so important to practice. As an example, I'm trying to learn a new system of keeping track of what I'm doing and came across a brilliant method that was taught to me by a coach via video and PowerPoint slides. I'm at the stage that I know it and can do it but if I don't do it again for two or three days I will have to refer back to my notes or to the videos to refresh myself.  I have no doubt that after couple of months the sequence and the system will be a part of my life and unforgettable for a fairly long period of time. There is nothing truer and what you don't use you lose. Today, it is so easy to teach people through a combination of audio, visual and kinetic senses enabling them to gravitate naturally to their favourite style of learning.  When I read books, I've gotten a lot better at stopping and writing down in my phone any notes I wish to remember. So often in the past I vaguely remember something and then it takes me ages to track it down the underlined bits or highlights in a book. One of the downsides of audio books, especially when listening whilst driving is it is impossible to take the notes. However, I now stop the audio book and dictate something important I want to remember, recording important bits of information to go back to later.  Some great ways of internalizing any learning are to write about it, teach it to others or use the information over and over again until it becomes part of what you know without having to refer back to notes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

5 Simple Ways to Kill Impostor Syndrome We often hear people talking about ‘imposter syndrome.’ This phrase refers to a feeling of being an impostor, unable to take credit for your own success and believing that you are a fake. Impostor syndrome is commonly experienced by high-achieving individuals, especially those who have recently experienced a great deal of personal success or recognition. It’s almost like a defense mechanism that kicks in when we feel like we cannot handle the pressure of the new level or the expectations that come with success. Unfortunately, this syndrome can be quite detrimental to your career and personal growth. If you want to learn how to kill Impostor Syndrome and prevent it from affecting your performance going forward, listen on! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Expectations are a close cousin to comparison. Both will eat away at you and hurt you if you apply them wrongly, not only as a person, but in whatever you're trying to accomplish. The key takeaway is to remember that all expectations are future based and therefore subject to assumptions. Under normal circumstances we can assume but history is littered with black swan events that blow away expectations. Listen to the 22nd Panzer div story! Don't get me wrong. There is a good side to expectations and comparison. It is healthy to expect better of yourself. It is healthy to strive for things that mean something to you and if there is someone who is already achieving what you want, learning from them and comparing the standards that they set for what you want to aspire to is beneficial but expecting to be like them and comparing yourself to them is detrimental because you will always feel bad if you cannot replicate or have what they have. Having high expectations is fine if you are forgiving of yourself when things go wrong because resilience is easier when we are realistic about things going wrong. We control far less than we imagine. Thinking it is all in our hands feels safe, but perhaps if we see expectations as motivation rather than definite, we become psychologically more prepared to handle problems. If you invest in the stock market and you have high expectations of a “sure bet” it will encourage arguably too much risk. There is no way anybody can tell the future and what will happen in the world so, if you have expectations that things will go very well, you must consider the alternative and then invest whatever you're comfortable with losing. Historically if you stay invested for a long time the odds turn in your favour but if you're looking for a short term gain, disaster can easily happen. Similarly, in your career, you need to invest in yourself and have expectations of bringing high standards for a long time. Compound work over a long period pays the best dividends and early on the progress is often hard to notice.  Setting realistic expectations of what you can achieve with a clear understanding that these are assumptions makes it more like a puzzle that you are trying to solve or conquer. It becomes unhealthy when you start to measure these expectations against timescales which don't consider unimagined problems. When you expect things to turn out a certain way then you’re setting yourself up without the flexibility of having to deal with a totally different landscape if the black swan event occurs.  Expectations are a particularly a problem when working with other people especially if we expect them to behave in a way that we would behave or how we expect them to act, which is rare. We each see the world with our own logic, and it is arrogant and foolish to believe that our view of the world is best and right for others to follow, which they can’t anyway because their life experiences are so different from ours. Communication of each person’s expectations, their assumptions brings understanding and a better chance of a good outcome. We must check in regularly and keep updating our expectations for healthier relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We can put a goal out in the universe and focus on it, but there is no guarantee we will achieve it. What is guaranteed is we will learn and to come out with more experience. Life is a series of destinations, some of which we will have the pleasure of reaching and some not but every goal that we work hard for is worth it’s weight in gold in self worth. An important distinction is to forever understand that what we do, what we chase and what we achieve is not who we are, just what we do. Our kids don’t care if we are a CEO or cleaner, they only care if we are a good parent whose actions show and give them happiness and love. Likewise with good friends. Therefore working towards a goal will benefit our self worth if it is based upon expanding ourself, not as a mission to define our identity. We cannot be so flimsy as to be a good person, parent or example of positive self worth when we succeed and a bad one if not. Part of self worth is to care about others and ourselves, but not care about what others think about us, which is always based on variable circumstances. What we think about ourself is our worth and our attitude and actions to working for a goal is what will affect our worth, not achieving it, which is a temporary high. Our actions will reflect our beliefs and attitude and therefore our world will reflect back what we think of ourselves. Often the media tries to make us believe that others can make us who we are, damage our self worth, but the stark reality is - we can choose to own our worth or give it away. Just as we are responsible whether we can receive unconditional love, because we cannot expect this if everything we do is conditional to how others will perceive us or what they can give back to us. It is so simple yet so hard to continually accept that we are responsible for our lives. It is so easy to blame and find excuses. The easiest thing to find are people happy to play this game with us as long as we reciprocate and let them off the responsibility hook, until it becomes so believable that we forget we can and for our self worth must take responsibility for our decisions and choices. It is this journey that I’m continually working to achieve, to cut out any blame or excuse. This constant awareness is starting to pay dividends when I have a decision to make - which is to ask myself “am I prepared to accept the outcome?” This in turn forces me to analyse the consequences more thoroughly. I will end with a question that I grapple with, that is both wonderful and ugly! - What is it that I really want and am I prepared to take responsibility for the life it brings me? If you want a deeper dive into goal setting and self worth I have an special offer on my book where you have access to both the digital and audiobook by following the link in the show notes. Locker Room Power book: https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/offers/TZyNbjEu/checkout   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Have you ever noticed that if you're looking to buy a certain car, how you suddenly notice how many they are on the roads, and they seem to be popping up everywhere? Equally, when you focus on a project that's been hanging over your head and you've been procrastinating and when you finally settle down and really start working at it, how the focus you suddenly bring to the project brings you answers and ideas and it no longer seems as big or as impossible a task as you first thought.  I would say focus is the biggest factor in determining a person's success. There are so many distractions in the world that it is sometimes very difficult to focus on the one thing that is gonna help you be successful. I too have suffered from this, where I have too many projects on the go and therefore the focus is too diversified. The bottom line is none of them turn out as well as the one that I maybe put more focus into. The trick, however, that I'm still learning is to have less projects and to focus on them one at a time and not grasshopper from one to the other. This is a constant struggle for me and from hard earned personal experience, I know how difficult this is, because things come up all the time and often there are opportunities where I think - wow this could be cool and if I can I just juggle this and that I can help a lot here and this opportunity could be great fun. Everything we take on will diminish something else, so learning to prioritise and what to say NO to is so valuable because time is finite each day and we always think we can fit more in than is actually possible. Focus is our number one commodity, and we need to treat it with the respect that it deserves and understand how powerful it is when we fully focus on one thing at a time. People who are laser focused on the objective that they are trying to achieve and stick to it until completed or work to master their talents have the inside track. We are human but seldom deviating too far an objective is an advantage.    I’m working on a two-pronged approach which is to separate long-term objectives from daily tasks. I’m much better at keeping long term goals in mind and working towards these, far less good at starting and completing individual smaller tasks without either being distracted away by messages coming in or suddenly thinking of something else I need to do and rather than making a note, I can stop what I’m working on and go do that instead. This hurts my productivity because getting back my train of thought when I get back to the original task is not so easy and can take a bit of time to refresh myself on what needs to be done – effectively double work.    The other thing that hurts my day and week is when I fail to plan the priorities and when I will do them. The day or week becomes way more reactive, and things slip through the net which annoys me because I know this situation is avoidable. Bad planning affects focus more than anything because it lays us open to distractions, the panic of forgetting something and days we feel have largely been wasted on everything but what really matters. I urge you to not make the excuses I made to myself for years that I hate routine and that spontaneity will be lost or the classic I don’t have time to plan in detail. Whilst I’m not amazing at this yet, having improved dramatically I can honestly say that preparation has become a real pleasure and helps my life run so much better and I’m still able to put people first and have more fun because less things hang over my head because I know I have either done them well or when I will do them. Unplanned stuff is what wakes me some nights! Focus – a cliché thrown around like confetti but don’t be fooled this is one cliché that truly improves your life. Improving you focus means you are improving your greatest power! If you like what I have to say please follow me on the usual socials, subscribe and don’t be shy – I love receiving ideas and questions via email. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The word gift means that you're given something for nothing. It is a blessing that requires no work, and you don't have to earn it. It is simply a gift. Talent is a gift! When people are gifted in any field, whether it be in sport, acting, plumber, electrician, looks, anything that we value in any field, it has been freely given to us and most of us are talented at something, often not that noticeable like a great parent or a person of great empathy that make others feel good. This is not something to be proud of. This is something to be grateful for and this is what the myth of talent is, when people feel in some way that they're entitled to do well, admired or respected just because they are talented and gifted. No. Talent is only the starting point! How hard we work, the way we go about honing our skills to enhance the talent and what we build on top of the talent is what we can be proud of, because this is the work that we've put in to honour the talent that we've been given. Talent does not determine whether we make it or not. It is an element of helping us get higher than we might have done with less talent. It is work, dedication and resilience that determine whether we make something of our talent. The world is full of people with talent. Every single person pretty much has something that they're good at, so why do some succeed and others not? It is simply because they are willing to go through the disappointments willing to learn and improve on their talent. So it's a myth that we need oodles of talent to make it in life. It is work ethic and actions that is the final determinant as to how well we do in life. Sure, when the most gifted work the hardest, they become superstars. It's an amazing gift that they've been given but the rewards that they earn is because of the incredible work that they've put in in order to exploit that talent to its highest abilities. Thanks for listening and get out there and happily do the work and see where it gets you because the most important thing is that you enjoy the fruits of what you earn from nurturing your own talents. Happy to work hard is what will bring you good things in life and remember hard work is mostly fun unless you perceive the word hard as anything else other than the path to feeling great about yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How to deal with nerves: Before we perform as an athlete, actor, presenting, a job interview or in any given situation where there is pressure to do well, even if it is a small audience of one, like a first date, as humans, we will have nerves. The best of the best in the world will all all say that before a big event or match that they are nervous. It is part of the human condition. So what determines who can perform under pressure and those who struggle? Confidence is key but what makes us confident? Are some people born more confident than others? I doubt this and beside many have proved that they have learned to be confident. So what is the difference that gives some the confidence to perform even though they're nervous? Here are some key pointers: The first thing is to understand that what you think about is what makes or breaks your confidence. If you focus and put all your attention on all the perceived disasters that can happen fear, worry and overwhelm will grow. If you focus on all the success you have had to get you to this point and go so far as to write down 5 things that you do well, that make you proud your energy will change. We do indeed reap what we sow in our own minds. Negative thinking stops you from being who you are. If you think about all the things that can go wrong, the fact that you will possibly perform very badly rather than thinking about the sorts of things that build your confidence you are creating your own disaster and may I add taking the situation out of perspective, because even if you do flop - what will happen?Instead ask yourself some great questions.Do I know my stuff?Am I competent? It is doubtful that you would be in the position that you're in, if you didn't believe that you were competent enough, that your skills were not up to scratch. If on a date you clearly are good enough for the person to have agreed to meet you so they are wanting you to be someone they like. Why not immediately give yourself credit for the fact that you have the knowledge, the skills, probably worked hard over time to become good enough to be in this pressure situation.So why would you be afraid of giving people what they've shown up for? People show up to see you succeed or to find that great employee!Ask this question. How do I want to remember myself after this occurrence? Will you enjoy the memory of a scared mouse, someone who didn't show their true value, who didn't show their true competence and skills?ordo you want to be remembered as somebody who had the discipline to do their job and to not put the audience or the other person through the embarrassment of feeling sorry for you?Are you so selfish that you're unwilling to share happily your knowledge and skills?Did you not train and spend hours honing your skills only for when the moment arrives you deprive others of the opportunity to enjoy, be inspired, or whatever other good feelings you can bring out in your audience.By doing well everyone wins. Surely this is the aim? Sharing is caring so take good care of your audience no matter how big or small it may be! I will be nervous before my first Case Study Group session this week. I have huge experience, done it many times before so what makes me nervous? My nerves are amazing - they are the very thing that force me to prepare well, to have a huge desire to give the group who are investing time and money into learning from me a wonderful experience. This is why we get nervous. If we don’t get nervous we probably don’t care. As always please subscribe and if you are new please listen to previous episodes and connect with me on social media or via email in the show notes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The fact that “How we undervalue ourselves Part 1” is the most listened to of all my podcasts is an indication that many of us fall into the trap of undervaluing ourselves. I'm a big believer that much of undervaluing ourselves comes from overthinking and believing that other people think more about us than they actually do! Athletes are often very aware of who is watching them and get distracted when the reality is that more often than not the people watching are only vaguely interested and thinking about or discussing other things. We undervalue ourselves when we think others are judging us and zeroing in on all our mistakes when very often, they are equally worried about how we are judging them. A good step forward is to stop overthinking and overestimating how much you feature in other people’s thoughts. It is invariably less than you imagine. Often in a crisis when we really have to act such as if we see a kid fall into a swimming pool or someone in trouble, we immediately go into action and without thought, go and help them and invariably do a very good job. Parents and especially mothers fret over how well they are doing with their kids and forget that young children live in the present and most upset is quickly forgotten and that if the environment is full of love, that is enough and they don’t register our imperfections until much older when we can discuss our actions with them. In areas of life where we are very capable, especially when we get into a flow state, operating on auto pilot, and love what we are doing we can accomplish really good stuff. However, a throw away comment or criticism by someone else, can cause doubt and fear that we are not good enough to creep in and crazily the comment can come from people we don’t respect or not qualified to pass judgement and still we take it to heart. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, David shares his experience in sports and business to give you tips that will improve your teaching and communication skills. Say goodbye to old methods and learn how asking good questions and using storytelling can create a positive learning environment. Tune in for practical tips, personal stories, and wisdom you can use right away in your coaching or mentoring. Don't miss this valuable conversation to help you connect, teach, and grow with those you support!  Key Takeaways  1. Effective Feedback Techniques: Learn how asking good questions and storytelling can improve learning and understanding.  2. Positive Learning Environment: Understand the importance of keeping a positive attitude and getting permission to keep people open to learning.  3. Practical Coaching Tips: Get actionable tips to improve your communication and mentoring skills, making your guidance more effective. Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: A free download that explains the difference between belief and confidence. It gives insights to help personal and professional growth - https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/get-your-free-mini-book Connect with David Sammel: ·      Share your thoughts and connect with David on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/david_sammel/?hl=en ·      For more valuable content, subscribe to the Nuggets Podcast on your favourite platform. ·      Leave us a review on all popular podcast platforms and share how this episode has impacted you. ·      Subscribe to our YouTube channel for visual content and more engaging discussions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Reflections. I grew up in South Africa with two very unorthodox parents who for example adopted six children to make a total of 10 of us. They had a strong belief that rules are man-made and needed to be tested until proven to be valid, valuable and not harmful to the greater good. This stayed with me, and I would say that I've always been a risk taker who challenged authority. Inexperience meant I made many mistakes when I was younger and fought battles that were not mine to fight but with age, I was able to see less black and white and more grey, more of the mosaic of life. Over time my interpretation of what challenge meant modified. There is unfairness in the world everyday and therefore energies need to be focused on that where we have expertise and can make a difference. This podcast is an extension of my mindset to confront perceptions and focus on the small differences I can effect on an individual which in turn can impact those around them. If I say something that shifts your mind and improves your day or more than that, then surely producing this podcast is worth the effort. I believe that most people want to help other people and I'm trying to do this in a tangible way. This podcast is an example of that. As I said in “Fuck the why” podcast I don’t have any great calling or amazing why that compels me to do this or any illusions that this, like most things, will by and large be lost in the ether of information overload. I do it because I know what I say can help and maybe it cheers up or helps someone have a better day or life and selfishly it forces me to reflect on my own thoughts and actions once a week. We are all the product of our environment, how we grew up and I think it is of utmost importance to work on our self-awareness. How else do we challenge the scripting of our youth by parents and teachers? Surely evaluating our beliefs to make sure they are truly what we believe rather than blindly accepting the things that we grew up being told is part of owning ourselves? Identifying beliefs that are helpful to us or not must surely be a priority as we mature? If learn about ourselves and the things that are not so helpful and try to alter those, then we stop perpetuating the baggage of our parents through ourselves and onto our kids. At the same time, we want to pass on the things that have fortified us and helped us throughout our lives that came from our parents. Most parents want to do their best and nobody has a blueprint with answers to their children’s needs but I believe that if we can implant in our children the ability to think, change and evaluate then they have a healthy way to develop their own beliefs and philosophies and each generation going forward can be better. Ultimately, despite all its problems the world is a safer and better place now than it was a century ago, or 500 years or 1000 years ago. Parents, teachers, mentors, and coaches are just people and fallible, so I challenge you to reflect on anything I say in these podcasts. I remain and always will be an optimist that most people are doing their best to be good people and have empathy for each other and whilst this is the case the world is wonderful and if we choose to focus on the magic without being naïve about horrible realities, we can navigate a healthy mindset for ourselves. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I want to talk about owning your own space. There is a big difference between respecting other people for what they've done and what they've achieved and owning your own space. In other words, is when you encounter an impressive person, remember that he or she is only another person. The fact that they've mastered their art, maybe exceptional in their field or happen to be in a high position of influence or very well known, at the end of the day, they are still people who live personal lives with their own problems and struggles. Whilst it’s important to have manners and remain respectful for all that they've achieved, you can't allow them to dominate you and expect you to defer to them in every situation. If you've got something to offer, you stand your ground and you say your piece and if you happen to disagree or believe something different, you have as much right to your opinion as somebody who is well known in their particular field. Obviously, you're not going to argue with them about something that you don't know anything about but if you're sure of what you are talking about, then they need to have the respect for you and listen to you. If they expect you to respect them purely for who they are or their position rather than because they are very competent then the problem lies with them. Good people understand this and no matter how famous will be grounded and respectful of another’s experience and expertise. I hope this makes sense. I'm going to end with a quote from the from Buddha, which I think is fantastic. “Do not believe in anything simply because you've heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumoured by many, do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. After observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.” This is exactly what I'm talking about in terms of owning your own space. Analyse and listen and it is imperative to take advice but then make your own decisions, take your own path, and trust your own instincts. No one can own you unless you let them, and no one knows you as well as you know yourself. Please share this podcast if it adds value to your thinking as my experience is shared to help others get a little boost or insight into my lens of the world which has been an enjoyable life so far. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning. Good afternoon, good evening, wherever in the world you are, this is David Sammel, with another nugget. I'm going to talk today about how you can really help yourself to feel good. Think of your brain as a well-trained and highly tuned athlete that needs the right stuff to perform at its best. To do that, your brain needs to not only be in great shape but operate in a way that helps you to feel good about itself. Therefore, what you know, how you speak to yourself and what you do for yourself does matter. So, in no particular order, things that you really want to look to be doing well are mostly obvious. However, scrutinizing the basics that affect your brain and how you feel is always a useful exercise because it is easy to get caught up in life and stray away from good habits such as: How well are you eating? Are you drinking enough water? Do you exercise enough? Do you get enough sleep? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good afternoon. Good evening, wherever in the world you are. This is David Sammel with another nugget. I'm coming to you from the mini paradise of Riverside, Connecticut, where I've been enjoying some family time which has been a a bonus. The downside being that Liam couldn’t qualify for the US Open, which was somewhat disappointing. But it gives me this family time, which is highly enjoyable. Anyway, I'm going to talk to you about life happening so just get on with it. My take on it is that I've gott a lot better at understanding life when I realised that humans love solving problems that they like, crosswords, Wordle, games, puzzles, figuring out how things work, inventions to solve problems. All of these are problems of choice that we absolutely love. However, life is a problem machine and, in my programme, mindset college, I delve deep into the subject. But suffice to say that every day we wake up, problems come our way, some invited, some not. When I realised that it's possible to tackle uninvited problems with the same attitude as invited problems, I stopped moaning about them, and decided to accept them as part of life and that they will always exist. Who has ever had the pleasure of sending things back that are faulty or having to deal with bad service or having to fight a shoddy workman to come back and redo a bad job, or even find new workmen and have has wasted money on a problem that could have been solved easily if you'd gotten the right person in the first place. Finding the right people is often a problem to solve. These are often seemingly unnecessary problems that we must fight and solve. But the thing is, because life is a problem machine, I had to get rid of two fantasies. Why does this always happen to me, and always seems to happen more to me than to other people, which is just a myth. And these things when you speak to people actually happen all the time to everybody. Many people feel like they're personally singled out for an extra dose of this stuff. And it's just a myth. The other myth is that one day, you know, I'll be rich enough or know enough of the right people that almost all these problems will be avoided or feature less than in my life. The reality is, especially if you travel problems come up all the time like delays, baggage disappearing, all sorts of things in travel, which before I used to rant about and think, why is this happening now, and I'm not going to get a decent night's sleep at two in the morning, rather than 11 at night, all of these things actually just are part of life and problems that come up that you just have to solve and deal with, and get on with it. Sometimes the problems we face can be incredibly unfair, but that is life. We must accept that life is not always fair. However, for many of us, we are very privileged and have less life threatening, life comforts or life dangers to deal with for which we can be extremely grateful. Do what you can to help where you can. A fantastic exercise to try is to pick a day where you catch yourself and stop yourself from moaning or complaining about any routine life problems that come up. If you can do this, more and more, you'll find you begin start to really relax into them, and just say, I’ve got to deal with it, so just get on with these daily problems. Whilst we can choose many of the problems to solve, we can choose to be relaxed and stoic about the unnecessary problems that come with life and sometimes these trivial problems give us a good laugh or it's a good story to tell afterwards. Sometimes the problem can lead you to meet somebody who you would never have met, which can be very life enriching. Basically, life happens, embrace it, the good and the bad and try to have an attitude that says, I'm going to be accepting of daily hassle and remain relaxed about most problems. Thanks - Hope that helps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good day, good evening, wherever in the world you are. This is David coming to you from New York after a disappointing tournament for Liam, and that's the subject of this week's nugget. Basically, how to get over terrible disappointment. Disappointment happens to everybody. And whilst it's easy to say think positive and just carrying on, I think it's important to actually acknowledge disappointment and that sometimes it really does hurt badly, like you want to turn the clock back and have another chance. When things that you work hard for, and strive for a goal that doesn’t turn out it can temporarily be crushing and demoralizing. The important thing, though, is that, once over the initial shock of missing out find someone you trust and understands what it means to you and talk through your disappointment, which from personal experience I have found helps. So often the seeds for what you must do next germinate from this ‘venting’. As soon as you have something tangible to do, start to immediately to plan for the next step, because ultimately, it is very rare, where a goal that is not met, cannot be gone after again. Obviously, if you can't go after the goal again, and it's just totally done, it can be temporarily pretty much devastating. But in devastation, comes renewal, renewed thinking, and again, looking for the next thing that you can aim for. The reality is in life we all set goals and have dreams and some people are very fortunate, and I don't mean lucky in the sense that they don't work hard for things but that they have a talent that combined with huge desire and all the work, they attain many goals and many dreams. All of us can attain dreams to a greater or lesser extent, but not everybody is and can be prolific. Even those who attain many dreams, achieve almost everything that they set out to achieve, will have misses and disappointments. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good day, good evening, wherever in the world you are, this is David Sammel with a new nugget. Today I'm going to talk about the fact that everything passes. Nothing is permanent. Think about it in your history, the good things, and the bad things. Nothing lasts forever. So, you can have some wonderful things happen to you, and they pass. And then you can have some negative things happen to you and they too pass, nothing is permanent. We've all heard the saying, if you don't plan, plan to fail. And whilst there is truth in this, there is also an element of chance to it. So, if you plan, and you have a long term plan, you will keep heading towards it. However, you may not land up where you thought you would, because whilst you're working towards these plans, life happens. And life doesn't always happen and in fact, mostly doesn't happen exactly as we plan it. I'm not saying at all that you shouldn't dream plan, and work towards goals, because I think it's very important that that we have direction. But at the same time, when it's not going according to plan, there's no need to panic, because that time will pass. And there's a chance that you'll get back on plan, or your life will take a different direction that you actually like, and can work towards new goals. And if it's something that turns in a direction that you don't like, of course, it's in your hands to change that direction again. And therefore, it is really important when things aren't going well to kind of breathe, breathe in, breathe out and try to relax about it, stay cool about it, and calm about it. Because whatever difficulty it is, it will pass and all wars come to an end. Everything in life, including different civilizations have come to an end and species even come to an end. So, you know, what I'm basically saying is, make your plans, have your goals, have your dreams, go after them but also remember that it is part of the process of maybe or maybe not achieving the goals but nobody achieves all of their goals, that's just impossible. Enjoy the process as much as you can. And when things get very sticky remember that it will pass and the good times will happen again. Hope this helps in a small way. And thanks very much. And remember if you're really enjoying these nuggets, and you know I'm starting to get some good comments, which is really appreciated, please pass it on and share and I'll speak to you next week. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good day, good afternoon, wherever in the world you are. Today, I'm going to talk to you about poise, poise for thought. If somebody has good poise, it means that they're basically look calm under pressure. How do people with poise do this? Well, one of the important things, I believe, is that we need to resist the urge to reply immediately to a question or say something immediately when someone else has spoken. It is important to think before you speak, yet, we're so used to automated responses that we tend to talk before we think, and a good habit, especially in an important conversation, is to resist the urge to reply instantly. State, something like this. Give me a minute to think about what you've said, this is perfectly understandable. And you don't need to be rushed. You need to own your own space, and not allow people to rush you into answers. You can if you're not quite sure of exactly what they've said, you can say, could you explain further? Or let me see if I understand you correctly, what you're saying is, and then you repeat what they've said, to make sure that you do understand exactly what they've said. So my understanding of what you said is, and then you can clarify, which also gives you time to think about the answer that you'd like to respond with. So overall poise for thought, is taking that little bit of time to think, to understand, and then to respond effectively, and respond with what you really want to say, given some thought. We've all watched movies and see how amazing the the rhetoric is, and movies. But of course, these are lines that are learned. And then we all think, oh, wow, if only I could be that quick. Well, the reality is, very few people are always that quick. In fact, nobody's always that quick. So when we need time, we need to take the time so that we're not always saying to ourselves, ah, if I only thought about this, I'd only thought about that, I would have said this or that. Take the time in the moment to think about what you really want to say. And it doesn't matter. There's no rush. You know, this urge to fill, the space of silence is so strong within all of us. And if we can learn to resist that urge, we will have poise for thought. Thanks very much. And again, please subscribe, follow what ever you would like to do. And any feedback is always welcome. And if there's any topics that you'd like to hear about, please reach out to me, David at mindset college.co.uk and let me know your thoughts. Thank you Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Egos can make us think we are so fucking clever! Whilst my nuggets are intended to offer insights I’m well aware that sometimes I may stray into telling and therefore coming across as being clever. I apologise for these lapses because I know coaching is more about offering perspectives, allowing others to reflect, consider and then choose their own path. The fact is we are not that great at giving advice - our egos make us think we are better than we are when in reality no one knows better what they should do than each person for them self. If we are forceful and confident we can persuade others to take our advice yet as well meaning as we might be the truth is we can often be wrong because we are seeing the solution from our lens and experiences not through theirs. Going back to last weeks nugget - offering advice assumes a helluva lot of mind reading and arrogance that we know best. If someone asks directly for your advice and you have experience and expertise then it is fair to reply “In my experience this is what I would do but emphasise that the decision still resides with them. Naturally this applies to adults because asking a young child to make their own decisions in situations that they cannot understand or where their driving emotion of want will win no matter what the danger or folly, would of course be irresponsible. This is one of the most difficult judgments parents have to constantly make - the timing of how much liberty to give and which decisions we can safely allow children to take? This is a constantly evolving boundary that requires on going and thoughtful evaluation. What I’m working on is to master the skills of asking the right questions to help others decide for themselves or to offer an alternative perspective through a story that relates to their predicament. One question that helps people down the path to their own solutions is “what options do you have?” If they run dry quickly a good follow up question is “what else could you do?” and if you feel there is another burning option ask the person if they would like you to give them another option to consider? This leaves the power in their hands. The finest compliment any coach can get is if someone says to you - “wow I knew what the right thing to do was, and what I had to do and you helped me get the clarity to take the decision.” Finally, join me in a challenge to avoid as much as possible the trap of thinking - “I’m so fucking clever and know what is best for another person.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good day, good evening, wherever in the world you are. This is Dave with another episode of my Nuggets, you'll be happy to hear that feeling a lot better a week on. I'm still here in Connecticut, I fly to Chicago next Friday. Today I'm going to talk about how we just cannot read minds. So we need to ask the question, What am I talking about here? Well, we all tend to waste a lot of energy and time making up stories and assumptions about situations and what we think people are thinking about. And we feel like because we can pick up so many clues through body language, through situations, and also, we have gut feelings. That and, and we know that energy does travel. So, if something's not really right, between yourself and someone else, we get the vibe. But although all these cues and signals can give us an inkling into what other people are thinking, it's not always very reliable. Because sometimes what they're expressing or their body language is to do with somebody else, some other situation that we're not aware of. And because we just happen to be part of their story for a day, or whatever it is, we think that it's all about us. In reality, it's about somebody else. So, you know, you can waste a lot of energy thinking “What have I done wrong? What did I do to make them feel bad?” There's a myriad of things that we can always be blaming ourselves for or thinking that we're responsible for when the reality is we're not. I always find that the best policy is when you're just not sure of a situation. Just ask a good question, like, I'm just curious, you seem to be a little bit troubled today. Is there anything that I can do to help? Or is there something that, you know, I've done to upset you, and hopefully, they will tell you the truth, if you feel like they're not? Well, that is their problem. And, you know, just when they ready, they may tell you, they may never tell you, but then you can just kind of box it, and leave it alone and not waste further energy on it. Also, we can't assume that we understand how other people think everybody has different values, beliefs. Totally different upbringings. So, when you think about a situation, so for instance, I find it impossible to get my head around the fact that some people can actually sit down and plot and plan how to, you know, hurt somebody else, you know, in their job or in their careers or in their relationships. Now, that kind of mindset. I don't know how it comes about, how you formulate that. And therefore, it's impossible for me to understand that there are people who simply think that way. You just have to deal with the consequences. Because it's very, very difficult to make up in your mind, a process that they've been through, because you just do not think like that. And there's a lot of situations in life, where you look at what people do, and you cannot fathom it at all. And that's because you cannot relate at all in any way to how they think. So again, don't fall into the trap that somehow you can truly understand where they are coming from. The fact that you can't also don't fall into the trap, that you somehow have the power to change the way say that they think. You do have the power to offer them a different perspective for them to choose themselves, whether they want to change the way they think. But that's the max that we can do. So anyway, the bottom line is, Do not assume that you can always read other people's minds. And no matter what the cues are telling you, if you're not sure, just ask. And there are ways of thinking that your brain just cannot get around. And therefore, you just got to say, okay, that's the way they are, and I can steer clear, or I'm aware of it, and, you know, be careful in those certain situations around certain people. I hope this makes sense. Sometimes, when you're talking, it just gets a little bit jumbled. But I hope the message is clear enough to understand, and I'll speak to you again next week. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever in the world you are, you might notice this week that my voice is a little different. That's because I'm struggling a bit with a sore throat and a little bit under the weather. Luckily, it's coincided with a two week break from the tour which I'm spending it with the family in Connecticut, which is very beautiful and extremely hot, like many parts of the world. I will have some fantastic family time over the next two weeks. Anyway, today, I wanted to talk to you about the positive outcomes that I can see from COVID. And whilst I'm in no way diminishing the problems that COVID has caused, and, you know, the heartbreak and all the terrible things that happened to people affected by COVID. Like everything in life, there are some, I believe some great positives to come out of it. The first thing is, I think the world has been stuck in a traditional way of working for a long time, probably a century or so, where people go into the office, work long hours and commute home. Also a lot of flying around the world happened in order to do business, that some of it possibly and a lot more could definitely be avoided. Overall, I think the traditional model, whilst there were some companies already trying to break this, in the main, it was just business as usual. COVID has changed that! COVID has forced companies to trust their employees to get on with the job at home and of course, the realisation comes that people can be effective under a different model. And I think that people have realised that effective work is far more important than just putting in the hours and if you work effectively, that frees up time to spend with family. I think COVID gave a lot of people the time to reflect and actually see firsthand, from working from home, how things could be different and how they could spend more time with their family. And also, for those working incredibly long hours, actually see for themselves what they've been missing out on and find ways to be more effective, to still get the work done and have family time, which I think is a huge positive. I think that new models are going to emerge that we haven't really thought of yet, but because the tradition is broken, people's imagination and creativity will kick into place. Clearly, there's definitely a need for human interaction. And if you're going to build teams and have great teamwork, it's impossible to do that without human interaction. So therefore, whatever happens needs to be a mixture of in office, and, and your meetings and get togethers, as well as working from home or remotely. And I think this is going to be a huge challenge for companies to build an environment and culture that they want with less human contact in terms of person to person or in groups. And that challenge is to find that happy medium of where you can still talk together because nothing can replace the personal touch the personal nuances that happen when you meet and how relationships are built through. mixing together that cannot happen in the same way over things like zoom. But overall, I think that the change in working practices is a huge positive for the world, and that the new models that emerge will be Be extremely exciting. Speak to you again next week Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we unpack the complexities of texting and messaging in a world where emojis replace emotions and tone is lost in translation. David brings his personal anecdotes straight from the heart of a WhatsApp misunderstanding, offering invaluable insights on how to avoid the pitfalls of instant messaging. Join us as we learn to read between the lines and find clarity in the chaos of digital conversations. Hit play and transform the way you text today!  #DigitalDialogue #CommunicationRevolution  Key Takeaways  1. Start to Spark Inspiration: David emphasizes that when you're stuck, the best way to find inspiration is simply to begin. Taking that first step can lead to unexpected breakthroughs and solutions.  2. Call Over Text for Clarity: To avoid misunderstandings in delicate situations, it's often best to pick up the phone. Voice calls convey emotional nuances that text messages can't, reducing the risk of misinterpretation.  3. Trust Your Gut Instincts: Listening to your gut can prevent negative spirals in communication. If something feels off about a text message, address it directly with the person involved to clarify intentions and maintain positive relationships. Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: A free download that explains the difference between belief and confidence. It gives insights to help personal and professional growth - https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/get-your-free-mini-book Connect with David Sammel: ·      Share your thoughts and connect with David on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/david_sammel/?hl=en ·      For more valuable content, subscribe to the Nuggets Podcast on your favourite platform. ·      Leave us a review on all popular podcast platforms and share how this episode has impacted you. ·      Subscribe to our YouTube channel for visual content and more engaging discussions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good afternoon, good evening wherever in the world you are. Today I'm coming to you from a Shake Shack in Indianapolis. My bags didn't make it through yesterday on the flight, so I had to pick them up from the airport today. It's a usual travel story as to why it wasn't delivered to my hotel, but I took advantage of the trip on my way back to stop and check out a little if Indianapolis. Walking around at over 90 degrees the thought of a cookies and cream shake from Shake Shack loomed large in my head and had to be the order of the day. Anyway, today I'm going to talk about complacency and how at the highest level you can never take anything for granted. Even when things are going well such as Liam Broady making 3rd round of Wimbledon, beating Diego Schwartzman, the number 12 in the world and then qualifying for Newport only to lose a close match, we enter this week conscious of how dangerous round one will be, given it against Max Purcell the recently crowned Wimbledon doubles champion who is full of confidence. The pressure at a high level of any profession is that every day you have to be on it or you can and most probably will lose. The level is extremely high. In Indianapolis he starts again Monday or Tuesday and whilst this is a challenger you can take nothing for granted because you start fresh, nervous, eager to do well but given the margins are so small it is difficult to feel comfortable even if you're favoured to win. There's a different pressure when you know and believe that winning the tournament is a distinct possibility but only if you put in the relentless hard work and that a little luck falls your way. The acceptance that many crises will develop in almost every match and certainly over the course of five matches there is going to be adversity to overcome. Knowing this, you still must believe and remain confident that you have the mindset, the resilience to overcome every obstacle. The only time that you know that you have not overcome all the obstacles is if you shake hands having not won any one of the hopefully five match journey. I will end with this – complacency of any kind, taking any challenge for granted, feeling entitled to have an easier time of it because of previous success will bite you in the ass. The greats in all fields of life know this well and whilst they can relax and enjoy downtime, they never take winning or their job for granted. This is the pressure that must be endured and put on yourself. The diamond that emerges is because of the ability to sustain a work ethic through success and learning.(Listen to episode 2 - the myth of failure) If you like my work and you think my nuggets can help others please share on social media and as always I would love to hear from you about anything that’s on your mind, with ideas, questions, love or any opinions on ways I can do better! Email me at: david@mindsetcollege.co.uk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning good day good evening wherever you are this is David Sammel with another nugget. Today I’m going to talk to you about insecurity which is very pertinent to Liam after a very good Wimbledon. I have purposely planned a quick turnaround because after the highs and loss in the 3rd round of Wimbledon, it is a sign of confidence and maturity to put that all aside and focus on the next step here in Newport. I’m pleased to tell you that he started well and focused with a win today. While it may be difficult for us to accept, insecurity is a universal human condition. No matter how successful a person becomes, insecurities may arise quickly when faced with a new challenge. If we recognise that when these insecurities emerge, we don't have to be afraid of them, then we can learn to manage them. They can be the fuel we require to realise that if we focus on our job and know that it is normal to doubt, then it is equally normal to know that despite our insecurity we can perform and get through the challenge and emerge stronger than ever. A tennis player begins each week in round 1 of a tennis tournament, regardless of whether they won the previous one. Players often obsess over their game leading up to a tournament, to the detriment of their performance. When a player begins a match, they are almost always nervous, even if they have been winning a lot. It is important as a coach to help players recognise and accept insecurity as normal and to use it as motivation to focus on their processes, the things they can control. This brings stability and calmness because good routines are a source of comfort and familiarity. As our performance improves the more confident we are in our abilities. When a tennis player trusts their game it is far easier to get some rhythm going and slip into a flow state. When we are in flow all our insecurities disappear. We are able to focus purely on the job at hand. Because nothing in life is certain we will always be plagued with some insecurity. Personally, I think this is life’s way of keeping us humble and from complacency, teaching us to take nothing for granted. A big part of mental strength is acceptance and then learning how to manage ourselves through various challenges and adversity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning. Good day. Good evening, wherever in the world you are. I’m coming to you from Wimbledon where we've had a pretty successful week with Liam Broady making the third round and taking out the number 12 seed in the process. My reflections on the tournament come down to what we can teach and what we have to learn through experience. Liam played back-to-back five set matches. Whilst he had done all the training in order to be able to play with that intensity for over four hours, twice in three days with a three-hour doubles in between he still didn't know if he could truly trust his body to carry him that far without feeling fatigue that would affect performance. Now that he has been through this experience, he can truly trust his body to cope with the stresses and strain that these matches produce, and no one could teach him this. He had to learn it through going through the experience. As parents or as coaches I think it's so important to understand this aspect of life so that you don't think that your kids or students are automatically able to cope with different situations without having the experience of living through them. Last year, Liam went through the experience of over four hours and still didn't quite have the confidence because he felt cramp and struggled with the relentless intensity that a great player brings. He had to go through it again to learn if he could ever do it without struggling to that extent and cope when he's feeling stressed that he might cramp. This year, he proved he could cope with two five set matches both over four hours and one of them against one of the fittest and most successful 5 set players in Diego Schwartzman. It was an exact replay of the second round of the 2021 Wimbledon and this time, not only did he cope but didn't have any of the problems that he had last year. Nothing can replace experience in certain situations. You can only give students a glimpse and an insight into what is to come, but people so often must go through it themselves to truly understand what they can and cannot do. I hope this makes sense and the message is to allow people to have experiences which maybe they need more than once or twice to get truly confident in those situations. In fact, sometimes it takes many times and many years because some things in life just must be felt. Speak to you again next week. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning. Good day. Good evening, wherever in the world you are. I'm back this week. I hope you enjoyed my ATP podcast from last week. I didn't send out a nugget because I'd already done a podcast with ATPmedia and sent that out instead. But back to the nuggets this week. This week I'm going to talk about how to prepare for something huge, like Wimbledon. Obviously, this is the pinnacle of the sport and if you're good enough to be here, that already in itself is a huge achievement. But how do you prepare to play well, in this tournament? Well firstly, stick to your routines.When the nerves hit, accept them without suddenly panicking and feeling like you have to do things differently.Trust yourself and your team.Be yourself and don't feel like you suddenly have to do more to win. If you're good enough, you will give yourself the best chance to win.By doing what you do all through the year, you don't have to suddenly become a much better player in order to win. Put your game on the court and see where it takes you just like any other tournament.Go into every match with no thought of losing. no possibility of losing. The only time you accept a loss is if you have lost the last point and you're actually out of the tournament. Until that last point is lost, you have to believe that even the slimmest chance can still be turned into a victory. Sometimes to win from the edge of losing.Try everything in your power to convert the chance. What in the world would prevent anyone from not enjoying playing at Wimbledon, a dream achieved something that people who get there have worked for all of their lives. This is a privilege that you've earned to try and win the biggest tournament in the world. No one imagines as a child that they would play Wimbledon one day full of fear and playing really badly. Protect your mind from a thought of failure and instead focus on delivering and expressing yourself and your level of expertise in the way that you saw you would in this position. The closest you can come to feeling this huge desire to succeed in life at a tournament like Wimbledon, outside of sport, like a World Cup, or whatever the pinnacle of a sport is; the Olympics is a job interview for a job that you really, really want or an exam that you must pass or a huge deal that you want to pull off. And similarly, you have to approach these situations relaxed and calm, focused on what you need to say or do with a body language that reflects confidence that you're the right person in the right place. I hope whatever you trying and striving to achieve that some of these thoughts resonate with you and can help you get possibly a little more clarity in how you approach a difficult yet wonderful opportunity. If you entertainers enjoy Wimbledon because it's fantastic to watch. And if you're lucky enough to be there in person even better. And I hope you spare a small thought to wish myself and Liam all the best so that he can perform to the best of his ability in this tournament and see where that takes us speak to you next week Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good day, good evening, wherever in the world you are, this is David Sammel with another nugget. What is success? Everyone talks about success. Usually, it means what can be shown to others as a success. money, status, power, things.And there are 1000s of people and organisations all over the world getting rich, by teaching us all, how to get these symbols of success. What I propose is sit down and decide, first and foremost, what will make you feel successful, what your success looks like, and work towards these goals. If good relationships are important, then this must be one of your measurements for your success and then go out and do the work to nurture and nourish your relationships. Understand that this is a never-ending process with your measure of success based on your communication and effort given to relationships. You know, there are many examples and I'm going to give you a few here that I would say are a measure of success. Peace of mind. Over the years, I've improved my ability to say no to things that potentially can and probably would cause me unnecessary problems or stress. Whilst I remain ambitious, I appreciate where I am, what I've achieved, and happy with the process of progress, rather than the goal. Each goal will be reached when I'm ready to reach it. Nurturing family relationships and close friends is really important to me, and a measure of success. Also, just being as nice as possible, to as many people and in as many interactions that I can remember to push myself to be nice about things, and patient with people. I find if I'm, thinking patient and good thoughts about other people, I feel better. So that's a successful day for me if I feel good throughout the day. I accept that financial and work success whatever that means for you is important and that achieving financial freedom is not easy, but keep in mind that it's also not the only destination. So, decide what level of sacrifice is worth it for you. This does not mean that sacrifice is not fun. that hard work is not satisfying but work takes time. And where you spend your time is the most important choice of all because it has to be decided. Where you spend your time must be divided. So, I'll end with this thought, “What, where and with whom you spend your time is what you value the most no matter what you say. Where you spend your time and what you spend your time on is truly what you value.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is Dave Sammel coming to you from Great Britain, and the grass court season. So, the grass court season has just kicked off and it's an exciting time of the year for all British players and coaches. I'm looking forward to seeing how the whole season plays out and then on to the hardcourt season in America. But keeping that aside, today, I'm going to talk to you about letting people down and how we so often feel really badly about certain situations like we're letting other people down. I have this a lot with athletes who feel like they're letting parents down or coaches or their support team. I always say to them, “do you have a little brother or an older brother or sister? And are they trying to achieve anything in their lives? If not, then a friend who is trying to achieve something in their life?” If they do badly at it, how do you feel about it? Well, obviously, you try to help them, try to pick them up. You really feel like you want to do everything you can to support them. So, if your reaction is to support people close to you trying to achieve things if they fail, but failing is just learning really, basically you don't get it right the first few times, why do you imagine others will react differently? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION I can’t think of a better way to start a podcast than with a quote from one of, if not the greatest mind in history. "The only real valuable thing is intuition." Albert Einstein . We all need to learn to listen to their inner alarm system often referred to as intuition or gut instinct. We are all aware of the little inner alarm that makes us uneasy about a situation or person. The reasons we give for too often ignoring this feeling are: o The need to fit in and be part of something (peer pressure) o Seduced by a person, situation, or place o Want a certain outcome so badly and ignore the warning signs and the feelings of “this is wrong” in the hope that it will turn out all right. An example of this was my wife and I falling for a timeshare in Florida -> the idea of this idyllic place on the beach where we could come whenever we wanted for cheap and make money the rest of the year seemed an amazing deal. Our desire to see it work overrode a niggle in my brain saying “if its too good to be true, then it is” so we signed up. Luckily before the 14-day cooling off period ended I had done the math and it wasn’t great, so we asked to cancel and get our deposit back. They offered a better deal which annoyed me because I was told we had the best deal available originally further proving my intuition right. The hassle we went thru to get our deposit back was exceptional and wasted a couple days of our holiday – if only I had listened to my instinct all of that would have been avoided. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good day. Good morning. Good evening, wherever in the world you are. This is David Sammel, coming to you from the UK after a short trip to Paris, where Liam lost a very close, second round qualifying match. He started poorly, but fought back well, and seem to be on top, when a little bit of luck, and good play from the opponent ended up in him losing his serve and unable to break back went down 64 in the 3rd set. He had a couple of break back chances but buoyed by the partisan French crowd his French opponent was inspired and it just didn't fall for Liam, which brings me to the subject of relativity. It doesn't matter how successful you are, there are always setbacks and the best people in the world in any field, understand this, and know that you don't get it right all the time, that you don't win all the time. So, when somebody looks at a career, such as Novak Djokovic’s, and thinks, how amazing, with everything that he's achieved, it is easy to think that he had very little disappointment. Relative to most players this is true, but for him as an example looking at a tournament like the French Open, his record is won two out of six finals in 17 attempts and Roger Federer one win in five finals in 21 years. Many players like an Andy Murray lost more Grand Slam finals, than won. If you look back in history, this is not uncommon. Whatever level you're playing at losing is disappointing and often when you're striving for something it's only afterwards that you realise how long it has actually taken for you to achieve the result that you wanted. The famous “I’m a twenty-year overnight success” has been uttered by many stars. The other thing to come to terms with is it's not all in your hands. Other people have great desires for success and working equally hard, trying everything that they can to win, to succeed. Certainly, in tennis, there can only be one winner each week. But with everything in life, you're not going to win every deal, you're not going to be able to succeed in everything that you try. Whilst success is relative, feelings are not! Just because someone is extremely successful, their feelings of disappointment are no different from anyone else. When a 16-year-old loses a final, her feelings don't have more or less depth than a pro losing a final, given that both wanted desperately to win. Feelings are feelings, and as human beings it doesn't matter how wealthy or good at anything you are, you will have feelings just as angry, disappointed, sad, or happy as someone who is poor. Feelings are not linked to success or wealth; feelings are just feelings and therefore everything is relative to the depth of emotion invested in a situation rather than the result. Whatever happens what we feel is the same. As for me and Liam it is onward to the grass court season, the disappointment of the French quickly transformed into a desire to get some success on the grass. Thanks, and please follow the podcast and any reviews more than welcome as are suggestions about topics for the future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Why you need to be a good parent to yourself Why is it important to be good to yourself especially when competing? When you understand how much easier it is to boost your confidence when you are kinder to yourself, then it becomes easier to be a good parent to yourself in the heat of the battle. Think about it - how well do children respond if you shout at them whenever they make a mistake, or keep telling them that they are useless? Yet as adults we somehow think it will help us succeed if we treat ourselves like s*&^, that somehow, we will respond better and be more motivated by insults than kids? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

The power of mantras: Good morning good afternoon good evening thanks once again for listening and I hope you enjoy today’s podcast. I’m not doing much to promote this podcast I would be grateful that if you enjoy it and get something out of it if you could please give us a shout out on any social media platform or leave a comment wherever is appropriate for you. It’s amazing how you can calm your mind by thinking about things differently and creating helpfully mantras for yourself. As an example when we experience a disruption in our life either beyond our control or one that we have created, we are forced into chaos whilst we try to make sense of what is happening, find a way to navigate a way out or need time to think how to respond to the event. Normally we see chaos as something to avoid and as a negative but what if we had this mantra about chaos? What if we saw chaos as simply a signal that we had more to learn or if we said to ourself - The leap into the unknown is usually where the treasure is buried? How about - I thrive under pressure and in chaos. Unknown and new environments excite me and the pathway there is often thru chaos! How about mantras about other subjects such as;Money is my friend and comes often and easy.Hard work is fun.What are the facts without assumptions?I calm myself quicker than most. Whatever situation you struggle with or when you want to do well create a one line mantra that uplifts, inspires, grounds you or calms you every time you say it. Couple a good mantra with good posture and body language and I guarantee you will feel more positive and ready to take action. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Get ready to supercharge your mental toughness with David who shares his insights on building mental resilience. Listen as we unravel the art of conquering challenges and unlocking your untapped potential. This isn't just talk – it's a transformational journey that will leave you armed with daily practices to skyrocket your fortitude and triumph over procrastination. If you're ready to turn avoidance into achievement and learn the strategies that successful people use to dominate their day, then this is the interview you can't afford to miss! Tune in now and prepare to be inspired! Three Key Takeaways Building Mental Muscle: Discover how pushing through discomfort in activities like exercise and journaling can boost your brain's resilience. –  Identifying Growth Opportunities: Learn to recognise tasks that are crucial for growth, even when they're the ones we tend to avoid. –  Strategic Planning: Uncover the power of scheduling and prioritising challenging tasks to enhance productivity and foster personal development. Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: A free download that explains the difference between belief and confidence. It gives insights to help personal and professional growth - https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/get-your-free-mini-book Connect with David Sammel: ·      Share your thoughts and connect with David on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/david_sammel/?hl=en ·      For more valuable content, subscribe to the Nuggets Podcast on your favourite platform. ·      Leave us a review on all popular podcast platforms and share how this episode has impacted you. ·      Subscribe to our YouTube channel for visual content and more engaging discussions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today I’m going to talk about panic. Panic is normal and very common. It is something that everybody experiences if we caught unawares or really want to achieve something. Anyone can be put into a state of panic if suddenly overwhelmed or before a big match, presentation or any major event because suddenly we worry about the outcome and how we’re gonna perform. Here are some simple techniques to help you overcome panic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good day. Good evening, wherever in the world you are, this is David Sammel with another weekly nugget, having had two weeks with my wife in Greenwich, Connecticut, where my daughter Roxanne of @roxyfitblog and her family just moved to start a new life in America. It was a very hectic but pleasurable time helping look after my grandkids whilst they had small challenges like finding a house and buying cars and furniture etc. I'm now back on the tour in Belgrade, which is an excellent tour stop for me, because a very good friend of mine, Igor Tomasevic, who worked with me in the Monte Carlo tennis academy lives. It gives us a chance each year to catch up, have a couple glasses of wine over a few dinners. Belgrade is a really nice city. It has come on leaps and bounds since I first came visited many, many years ago. And, yeah, if you get a chance, visit this really vibrant city with its ever-evolving modern Waterfront now packed with restaurants, apartments and a fantastic Galleria Mall Today I'm going to talk to you about the fact that everything takes longer than we think or want. I've worked with many players for several years, and they all have certain goals, some which are reached, not all of them, but almost always, results take longer than anyone would like. When people build businesses or start big projects there are always delays in how fast things happen. It's very pleasurable when things happen earlier than you think they will but it's rare. Anybody who has been involved in any major building project or building a business or working towards becoming a world class athlete, will all know very well that resilience is such a big part of the process, because inevitably the timescale with which things happen, is always so much longer than you would like it to be. Even if you want to write an essay, or have any project to complete, basically overestimate the time it's going to take because even that is often an underestimate. If you are chasing a lofty long term goal where the ability to succeed is going to take huge effort and expertise, learning these things will take time, not only to put together, but also for us to truly understand it all in our own heads. So often we think we know what we're getting into but once we get into it, we suddenly find that it's a lot more complex than we thought it was going to be. It can take us a lot longer to simplify it in our mind so that we truly understand what we're aiming for or exactly how we're going to get there. What I will say is this is the key is to know up front that this is probably gonna happen so when delays do happen, you don't get too frustrated. Equally to understand the process of, I suppose life, is the understanding that to do things properly, does take time. There is no set formula for how long anything should take. You just got to get into it and keep going with it until something happens and takes you forward. This process goes on and on. The key message is, whatever you're attempting to do, there's a damn good chance that it's going to take longer to achieve than you think it will, but hey, that's okay because that generally is life and dealing with new problems is normal. Very little in life happens just ultra ultra smoothly all the time from beginning to end. It is a joy when it does happen, and some days run beautifully well so cherish them always mindful that we need to take joy out of facing challenges as well. Good luck and if this podcast can help you relish and enjoy the delays as part of an expected process then it has hit the mark. Speak to you again next week. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good day. Good afternoon, wherever you are, this is David Sammel. With a nother weekly nugget. I would just like to say that it's been a pleasure bringing you these nuggets. And I hope that those of you who do listen and download, these podcasts are enjoying them. I would love some feedback as to what I could do differently what you'd like to hear about just absolutely anything. So David at mindset college.co.uk, or contact me on social media, Instagram, Twitter, whatever is your preferred way of contacting, but please engage with me. Let me know your thoughts. Anyway, without any more meandering. I'm going to talk today about what happens behind the curtain. What I mean by this, well, this is basically where all the work takes place. So if there's a theatre production, or you see, you know, players on a centre court or your favourite team out on the pitch, that is Showtime, and it's a place where people have to perform, and hopefully perform well and give the fans spectators a fantastic experience of expertise, and competitiveness, and all the drama that goes along with sport or theatre or anything where there's a performance involved. But naturally, when you sit and watch these razzmatazz events, what you don't see is what happens behind the curtain, all the work, the preparation, the sweat, and tears that go into putting together any kind of production or performance. But what I will say is, if the attitude is right with the individual, what goes on behind the curtain, can actually be one of the real pleasures of striving for a fantastic performance. Because a lot of the work whilst difficult if your attitude is one of just doing it, because you really, really just want to get better and all the focuses on how you can improve. Then when you get the knockbacks, you don't really see them as knockbacks. It's just that disappointing. But learn from it, and move on and try to get better. And I can honestly say that in the last, you know, 18 months to two years, with Liam, it's been a real pleasure because no matter what happens, win or lose, I remember in Helsinki, recently he lost 7/6 in the third set after two watchpoints, of course, very disappointing. The spectators cleared and we went on the same court and did about 20 minutes of work on something that I felt in the match, he could have done better. And then off we go to shower change and dinner. And it was just part of the process of yes, you win and lose matches, whether you like it or not. And you just keep working hard to get better. But certainly never think that what happens behind the curtain is easy, because it definitely is not easy. But at the same time, I don't think it's has to be painful. You just get on with it, keep doing it and your vision is in becoming the best that you can be. However long that takes is how long it takes. As long as you enjoy doing it, keep doing it and don't see it as a trauma every time you don't perform like you would like to because all you got to do is get back on the horse and go again. Remember when you spectating or if you're a fan, that there is a lot of work that goes on behind the scenes and of course, once that has been done It is very disappointing for anybody, if they don't perform to the level that, you know, they or you expect them to. They're not there to disappoint you, they're there to make you happy. But of course, you have opponents, you have all sorts of things that can affect performance and if it does, it's just a shame. But, you know, keep supporting because if people are doing their best, that's all they can do. I hope you enjoyed this episode. And as I said, please get in touch. And thanks very much. I value your time and try to keep this short, so that I don't take too much of your time and hope that out of all of the nuggets that I give that a few of them resonate with you and give you something that can help you in anything that you're pursuing. Thank you very much. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning. Good afternoon. Good evening, wherever in the world you are, this is David Sammel with another Monday Podcast. Today, I'm going to talk about the reasons why I created mindset college, my online life skills programme for competitors. It's because I understand, from my own journey, some of the pain that you might be going through, and that I definitely went through. This is, was really brought home to me, at a challenger in Phoenix, where a guy I used to play against in college, who was all American and number two in the country. We talked about our college careers. I said to him, "Well, you know, you were really tough to play against." And he said, Well, Dave, you know, you were too! One of the things a lot of us top guys in college used to say, is "Wow Dave is really intimidating, big serve and forehand. Thank goodness, he doesn't really know what he's doing on the court." And whilst this was not news to me, hearing it again, really stuck to me. And that is, had I had possibly some better information fed to me, had I maybe been sharper in my own brain in figuring out what needed to be done, rather than much later in my career, I would have been much more aware of my own weapons, and not continually over estimating my opponents and worrying about what they could do to me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good day, good evening, wherever in the world you are, this is David Sammel.Why do resolutions fail? Well simply put, the people that we can let down the most, or the person we can let down the most is ourselves because we are not accountable, other than to ourselves unless we tell other people, what we're planning. One of the key areas that we can improve is to learn how to trust ourselves, and therefore, do not over promise ourselves what we're going to do. Start off under promising and delivering, so you can develop trust in yourself, by doing what you say you're going to do. Would you trust someone who rarely did what they promised?Clearly not so I challenge you to hold yourself to the same standards you expect of others. For instance, if you say, I'm going to run every morning, and you know, damn, well, when you say it, that there's no chance that you'll run every morning, don't Promise yourself that you're going to do that. Rather say, I'm going to run once a week. And when you start achieving that, and you need to achieve that repeatedly, after maybe three or four weeks or so you will be ready to say, I'm ready to commit to twice a week. Slowly build trust in yourself by delivering what you say you're going to deliver. Think about it. How can other people really trust in you if you don't trust yourself?This is one of the areas in life that is often missed, because it's easy to forget that we've said we're going to do this and that to ourselves and not delivered. It's also one of the reasons why we think we can do more than we actually can with the time available. So, we say, okay, I'm going to finish this project by the end of the week, because it's going to take six hours and I can easily fit that in. And the reality is you probably can double that to 12 hours, and there's no chance you're going to fit it in in a week. So, try to be realistic and say okay, even if I think it's going to be six hours, I'm going to deliver it in two weeks. I hope this makes sense because it's one of the things that really does improve the quality of your life. When you know 80 or 90% of the time you deliver for yourself what you say you're going to do. I've noticed with athletes, that when they start to stick to their routines, which I spoke about last week, and do them consistently that after time, when they totally buy in and realise how impactful consistent routines are, that's when things really start to change for them in a competitive arena. That consistency and that trust in themselves to deliver somehow shows in crisis and under pressure, where they need to deliver some bravery and because they've delivered consistently on their routines, it is far easier for them to do so in a competitive situation, what they really know what they must do and have to do. This trust that they've asked of themselves to do it. bears fruit in those moments. I hope I'm making sense. If I'm not, I apologise but take care and speak again next week. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

www.mindsetcollege.co.uk Good morning, good day, good evening, wherever in the world you are. This week, I'm going to focus on routines and preparation. Whilst I'm going to use tennis as an analogy, because that's where I have so much first-hand experience, I'm also in my job as a coach have mental skills for other athletes and for people involved in business and entrepreneurs. See the similar and same traits of those who succeed. During lockdown, I had the time to create mindset College, which is a programme dedicated to not only how to compete, but also how to take care of all of the worries and fears and doubts, before you go into competition before you go into that meeting. And this is something that I've noticed with elite performers. For example, Marcus Daniel, who won a bronze medal at the Olympics, and has been in quarterfinals of several grand slams, and won five tour events, developed his routines over time. And every day, he goes through them, whether it's his meditation is stretching. All of his journaling and mental routines are the same every single day. Of course, he is adaptable. And if he's travelling or got less time, he will shorten them, or lengthen them. But essentially, he will do them every day. And if you listen to podcasts of successful people, they will all tell you that they have very good routines in order to prepare for what they've got to do. And these routines are consistent. That is the key. So mindset College is a programme that helps you not only develop these routines, but also to understand the mindset needed to take full advantage of it. So I urge you to go and have a look at this programme. And to really get involved with it, because it will help you in whatever you do in life. So thank you very much for listening, and take a look at your routines. Do you have any? And are you consistent with them? This is the key. And I promise you, if you develop even small routines like in the morning, having a list of what you got to do. That alone will help you or if on a Sunday evening you have a look at the most important things you need to accomplish in the week and put them down to the day that you're going to do them. There's far more chance of these things happening. And when you competing in your preparation, you actually think about what you have to deliver out there on the court on the field. You know, in the ring, you've got a far better chance of delivering what you what you intend to do, if your mind knows and is prepared to put it out there. Thanks a lot and speak next week. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Good morning, good day. Good evening, wherever you are in the world you are. This week, I'm coming to you from the Phoenix Country Club, where Liam is going to be playing the semi finals this afternoon. And I'm going to talk to you a little bit about resilience, which, of course, is a buzzword, and many people talk about being resilient. And my interpretation of what resilient is, may may help you. So basically, this week has been going very well. And obviously, through Liam's career, we've been together for pretty much seven, eight years, and it's been a very, very long road. So that is something you know, sticking around and stickability and just keep improving on what you do is one side of resilience. But the the other side of resilience, I'd like to talk to you about is when things go wrong in other parts of your life. So, for instance, you know, this week, managed to come out of a parking space and, you know, run into another car wasn't bad, nobody hurt. But it's definitely something that that is an issue that needs to be dealt with, there's a problem with insurance. And it's gonna be big, big hassle. Now think that resilience is being able also to put things in a box, and not let them affect the rest of your life and the rest of your day and all the things that you've got to do. So whilst I've got this thing hanging over my head, I put it in a box and just say, you know, it's something that, you know, will have to be dealt with, and it will be dealt with. And while I'm focusing on that, when I'm dealing with it, the rest of the time, I just put it in the back of my mind and, and don't really worry about it. And I think you know, part of resilience, which allows people to continue and have a good attitude to everything that they do is being able to put tough stuff in boxes and, and deal with them as and when necessary, and not have them, you know, impacting every other area of their life. So, I think, you know, by interpretation of resilience is is is simply that is keep things separate as much as possible. Not saying everything can be in that there's never any seepage, but definitely, I find that helps me. Anyway. Thanks very much for listening, and I'll speak to you again next week. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Fuck the why.I'm getting a bit fed up with advertising and articles on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and all the gurus and experts telling us that we need to know our why, why we do things, the why that is our driving force and if we know what it is then we will find it easy to imagine and see exactly what we want in the future and that without the why we will be less motivated in our work. It is such a buzz thing to do now - to find your why! I find this just ... Well, in the beginning when I first heard this, I kinda bought into it and did quite a bit of work to find my big why. But you know what, after 42 years of adulthood I can honestly say I have no big why! No matter how hard I looked within to find this revelation no lightning bolt struck! Life is an adventure and if you enjoy what you're doing do you need to know exactly why you do it? You do it because you enjoy it so does there need to be a great destination behind our lives? I know all the research behind the success of people who plan their lives and I’m not advocating no plans at all, but what I am saying is that whilst the general direction of your life can be planned, how it happens, who you meet who will influence us and what happens to our journey cannot be planned. Surely remaining open to change is also important because as we age and mature what we want and like also evolves, so sticking pedantically to a plan, a career, a country, or any plan so as not to be a quitter can be a huge cause of unhappiness. Deep down we all know whether we are quitting or whether we actually prefer to do something different. I'm not so sure that a good life can be planned, because what and why we do things surely will vary in different circumstances? Our ambitions are only a part of our life. Spontaneity so often brings the greatest pleasures or changes to our lives that the caution of sticking to our why and our plans can deter spontaneous action and can work against us. I think sometimes wanting to live this perfect life underpinned by a powerful why so as to achieve everything that we want with all these fantastic goals fails to recognise the beauty of flow. If we work hard, stay relaxed and ask the universe to fulfil our desires, many will just flow to us, but never lose sight of the reality that whilst many things will work out, many others won’t because that is what it should be otherwise, we wouldn’t appreciate the wins. I do believe if you do the work, good things will come to you even if it is only a good lesson. The big point is that we just never know when we will reap the rewards of our work, in what form we benefit or how much reward will come back to us. I think a lot of people that have worked incredibly hard and gotten into privileged positions forget the one element that is part of it, which is a bit of luck in hitting the right thing at the right time. One example is doing something or selling something that captures people's imagination. This is rarely planned and known. We can have an inkling that success will follow a good plan but nothing in life is guaranteed, and most great businesses or people could never envisage the size of their success.Yeah, I'm just getting a little tired of the pressure to find my big fucking why, that somehow we are less if we don’t have one. The only why for me is to enjoy my life, and what brings me enjoyment does vary. My life evolved into coaching, and it feels good to share and help others have empathy, have a sunny outlook and be resilient through difficult times. There is no cosmic why behind my choices and there are many other things in life I may try. If you do know your big why, congratulations. It is personal and your own gift that drives you forward but remain humble because knowing your why does not make anyone a special human being or entitle anyone to anything. If you like my stuff email me at david@mindsetcollege.co.uk and let me know what topics you would like to hear about. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

One of the most common human conditions that I encounter is capable people, including high level athletes and highly trained individuals who are successful, falling into the trap of undervaluing their expertise. Naturally, when we’re very good at something it comes easily to us and because it feels so easy, we automatically think that it comes easy to everybody and that our information is common sense, or that our level is normal. It’s amazing because so often when I’m doing a podcast, presentation, blog or release anything public I can have a mini panic and think “Why would anybody listen to this because surely everyone knows this already?” One of the biggest challenges is to keep realizing that information that I have delivered often, which has become so ingrained in me that nothing is fresh about it to me, is the danger that I no longer value the information and feel that it will be no good or help to anyone. How do I get over this? What experience has taught me that because I know something so well that it has become basic to me, it does not mean it is basic to everybody. Also, learning takes time and whilst something is second nature to me and maybe not unique to me it still takes hearing things or seeing things many times before it is automated in our minds. This can lead to serious consequences like not volunteering their expertise when needed, failing to go for promotions, undercharging or losing through self-induced poor performances all because they overvalue the quality of their opponents. People find ways of stepping back from a challenge all because of the assumption that they are not good enough. It is so easy to imagine that others are somehow better for various reasons, which so often is based purely on assumptions made up in our own minds. In sport it shows when athletes assume the underdog position based on a self-assessment or because of a ranking position when the reality is at every level the margins are small, so it takes very little for a result to change. The trick is to just compete and never assume anything. If we're really talented at something, then we so often default to automatically thinking that others around us are also very good. The reality is so often what we have to say or what we can do is not common sense or easy for others and they need our help. The thing to remember is, if you're really good at something, there are probably very few people in the world who are up to your level. Equally you are unique so the way in which you present what you know and what you're an expert at, is totally different from anyone else. It'll have its similarities, but ultimately, your blueprint, your fingerprint, on the way that you do things, is uniquely yours. Keep reminding yourself to not discount your own value to the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Saving people from situations or problems may seem like a wonderful thing to do but very often it is an ego trip, a deflection from a person’s own problems or to create a form of control through dependency. Good teachers from caring parents to coaches understand the importance of care and guidance to help others, especially young people who learn so much better through their own experiences and by doing things for themselves. It is essential to not fall into the trap of caring so much that you feel like you must bail children out of every difficult situation and prevent them from making mistakes. Give people the tools to handle their mistakes and to learn from their mistakes. It is so important not to consider yourself as somebody who can prevent others from making mistakes. People only learn resilience through making mistakes and having to bounce back. I think too often in society right now there is a tendency to try to short circuit all potential hazards. This has been described as helicopter parenting and when this happens it is doing young people a disservice. Owning and taking responsibility for mistakes is an important part of the maturing process. When you can own a mistake and learn from it that is powerful. As teachers, parents or coaches, our job is to question people, helping them to conclude that possibly a decision needs to be different, either this time or the next time. If people work things out for themselves that is really effective. For sure we can bring our experience and expertise into the conversation to give pointers, ideas, comparison and perspective which is especially powerful if we do it through stories. Learn how to ask the right questions and not allow people off the hook with soft questions. Saving people is an ego trip because that means that they need you. And when people need you, that massages the ego. It somehow puts you in a position of power above them. And that is not what we want. What we want is for people to be open and to learn how to challenge things and challenge other people with good questions and inquiring minds no matter what their position. Thanks for listening. I respect the fact that you have taken time out of your day to hear these nuggets and take the responsibility of giving you all I have seriously. My hope is that in a small way I can shift your thinking about a topic that helps you in your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week we look into the complexities of family dynamics that unravel the journey from idolising our parents as infallible heroes to embracing them as fallible humans. In this intimate and revealing conversation, David shares his personal experiences and insights, guiding us through the transition from childlike admiration to a mature, empathetic understanding of our parents. Whether you're an adult child struggling with shifting familial roles or someone looking to foster a deeper connection with your parents, this video is a must-watch. Join us as we explore the delicate balance of respect, love, and independence in the parent-child relationship.  Key Takeaways Understanding Parents as Humans: Realize that our parents, much like ourselves, are not perfect. They have their own insecurities, fears, and doubts, and acknowledging this can deepen our relationship with them. Empathy Over Criticism: Approach conversations with your parents with empathy and curiosity. Asking questions to understand their perspectives can be more enlightening than rushing to judge or fix their issues. –  Generational Wisdom: Recognize the value in your parents' experiences and the generational wisdom they hold. Engage in dialogues that bridge the gap between your understanding and theirs, fostering mutual respect. Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: A free download that explains the difference between belief and confidence. It gives insights to help personal and professional growth - https://www.mindsetcollege.co.uk/get-your-free-mini-book Connect with David Sammel: ·      Share your thoughts and connect with David on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/david_sammel/?hl=en ·      For more valuable content, subscribe to the Nuggets Podcast on your favourite platform. ·      Leave us a review on all popular podcast platforms and share how this episode has impacted you. ·      Subscribe to our YouTube channel for visual content and more engaging discussions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This is a magical lesson. Things have value whereas your peace of mind is priceless. Never ever sell out what is priceless for what is valuable? So, if you lose something valuable, leave something behind or break that which is valuable to us, we can really get upset and experience feelings of regret, guilt, anger, frustration, and loss for the item. We will often go to enormous lengths to buy something we really want like a sports car, diamond ring, house or whatever we desire that we think will make us happier. It is easy to slip into feelings of jealousy or inferiority if we compare our possessions to others. The reality to consider is how much we can use possessions and how much we are in love with the idea of having things and how it will cause others to admire and envy our status when the fact of the matter is we can only drive one car at a time, use one room at a time, wear one amazing outfit at a time and imagine in our minds how much people admire our beautiful things. I’m in no way advocating blunting ambitions and enjoying rewards for hard work but what I am saying is that possessions are all replaceable, upgradeable, and breakable. They can have great monetary or sentimental value, but they are just things and even though relationships can suffer the same fate as possessions they are not easily replaced like possessions. Your key relationships are priceless. If we sell our soul by neglecting or destroying priceless relationships for things, it is a mistake because in the one bed where we sleep, surrounded by our own thoughts or in the mirror we use, the one relationship we cannot escape is the relationship we have with ourselves! The peace or lack of peace within our minds lives with us every day and if we have no peace then redemption is hard to find and takes way more time than causing the damage with no guarantees of repair. When justifications ring hollow and we are forced to brush poor relationship decisions under the carpet, where we must accept our own lies in order to function, surrounded by beautiful things and broken loyalties, then our mental health suffers more than we care to admit. Remember, understand that which in life is valuable, versus that which is priceless. Ultimately peace of mind is everything and it cannot be bought! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Quit or carry onWhen I work with sportsman often you get to a situation where they talk about quitting because things are so tough and it's not going their way. I'll always say to them, "Let’s not be flippant about quitting. This is a serious statement so if you genuinely want to quit then do it, don’t just talk about it. There are only two answers to this. You either quit or you carry on, but if you carry on, you carry on with a positive attitude. Working towards a goal with a negative attitude is living in a horrible environment, one that will never succeed, especially when tough challenges occur as they most certainly do. When it gets difficult the idea of quitting cannot invade the mind."I worked with a company director who basically was telling me his story, and wow this was a massive moan. Basically it seemed to me like he carried the company on his back. He was doing everything, other directors were lazy, they weren't pulling their weight, and he was the guy who was always having to deal with the staff, and he was the guy who was always having to motivate people, and it was just way too much for him.I came with the same thing, I said, "Well there's only two answers to this, quit or carry on. If you choose to carry on, you have to also choose to have a different attitude and stop behaving like it's not a choice. Nobody likes a moaner."You can bet your bottom dollar that if he's moaning to me, he's probably moaning to different people in the company and that's terrible for morale. That is not leadership. Leadership is sticking to a really good attitude as an example to everybody around you.He is a bright guy and understood what I said and decided to carry on and work on his attitude.I said to him, "A key ingredient to the success of this transformation is to realise you that you're senior enough to choose what you're going to focus on."Then we started to talk about what he really wanted to focus on and what he was really good at and where he could influence and where he couldn't. He started to say no to certain things. Where he couldn't influence, he stopped interfering and worrying about these issues or moaning about them. He began to realise that often he had made no positive impact to certain areas because usually they weren’t even his forte and he had been stifling others. He started to focus on his priorities and strengths and forget about the rest, and of course that kind of tidied up his life because he wasn't worrying about things that really had nothing to do with him. I said, "Look, if people don't pull their weight and that messes up, not your problem, relax about it. Somebody will have to tidy it up or they won't, but make sure everything you do is positive and good." The reality was he began to trust his colleagues when they began to manage just fine without his interference.It's a fantastic story of what getting the right mindset can do. The benefits that began to flow through by tidying up his life were certainly better for him, for his colleagues and family as well. Happy people are more productive and fun to be around.The nugget for this week is to think carefully before you say you have to do things like you have no choice. Often it is a poor habit or an excuse when the fact is it is your decision whether to take on a project, accept an invitation or simply say yes because you are too afraid to say no!You can quit your job completely or as with this director, quit certain elements of your job in order to do better in other areas. What in your life do you need to quit and where you are committed do things with a positive energy?Check out MindsetCollege.co.uk where you will find a pathway to help you navigate your way to a successful mindset for elite performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

As head coach of the Bath Academy, I prided myself with the help of Barry Scollo in building what we call a team of leaders that encourages everybody to be every open and not afraid to speak their minds, and by and large people do speak their minds, especially with big issues. But we've had a couple of situations which really proves how quickly fear can grow in an organisation that is very open and it all comes down to the hierarchy. I'll give a quick example. A senior coach took a player to a tennis tournament who was battling with his serve. The junior coach in charge of this player was not present so the senior coach took matters into his own hands to try solve the problem to help him win his next match and altered the serve. What happened next..... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices