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Ask Uncut - Would You Take Grandma's Urn?
27 Nov 2024
00:50:49
Hey Lifers! Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions.
PARENTS GAVE MORE MONEY TO MY SIBLING A couple of years ago, my sibling got married and my parents gave them a substantial monetary gift for their wedding (I got a 1/3 of the amount for my wedding the year before, but was still so grateful for anything). A few months after their wedding, they wanted to buy a house and were loaned the entire deposit from my parents to pay back. A couple of years on, they have not paid a cent back and my parents haven’t asked for it either. I have received approximately 50k less than them over the past 3 years and now that there’s been no repayments or discussions about this, I’m starting to become bitter. They seem to be living a comfortable life and can certainly afford to do more than my parents can. I’m frustrated at both my sibling and parents but don’t want this to seem like I am only chasing money- I want there to be accountability. How would you handle this with your family members?
GETTING FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE ELSE WHILST ENGAGED I am in a relationship of almost 9 years and we are engaged. He is the most amazing person ever and ticks all the boxes but the sexual attraction and lust has left for me. I’m starting to have feelings for someone else which is controlling a lot of my emotions at the moment and it’s clouding my judgement!! My fiance and I have just bought a house and have a 11 month old puppy. His parents have gone guarantors for our place too. I feel like I’m stuck in a rock and a hard place with which way to go about it. Do I stay with my current fiance because he is the sweetest guy who would do anything for me or follow my head and heart and take a chance on this other person or even just try it out being single for a while? I’m in my late 20s and just scared I might be stuck in the mentality that I have a lot to lose but also might not be in love anymore.
HOW TO RECONNECT AFTER HAVING A BABY I am a first time mum, our baby is now 10 months old. I have been really struggling with connecting to my partner in the last 6 months or so. He's a great dad and I love seeing him with our son but it feels like we've just lost the spark. I don't feel special or 'wanted' anymore. It doesn't help that he injured himself pretty badly in July and hasn't been able to carry his weight around the house - this has left me doing all the cooking, cleaning, bath and bed with the baby, etc. We live in a small rural town away from family so I don't have any help around the house as well, which adds another layer of stress. Months ago Laura mentioned something about just 'getting through those early years' when you have a baby in terms of staying with your partner. She said it gets a lot better once babies grow up a bit. I would love to hear more about this and I suppose my question is, how can I try to reconnect with my partner
The Truth About Addiction. Uncut with Kate DeAraugo
26 Nov 2024
00:43:17
We initially got to know Kate DeAraugo in 2005 when she won the crown of Australian Idol! She was just 18 years old. But her post Idol journey was anything but a fairytale; it spiralled into addiction and legal troubles. In 2017, Kate was convicted of drug possession, drug driving and weapons possession.
This conversation with Kate is a deeply honest recount of what it can be like when you live with addiction. Kate has what a lot of us would describe as an addictive personality, someone who took everything to the extreme. She says that when she drank, she drank too much. When she ate, she ate too much. When she loved, she loved too much. These behaviours took Kate to some fairly dark places.
Kate shares:
After winning Idol, the only thing anyone spoke about was her body
Record labels saying she needed to lose weight and having full body liposuction at age 19
The narrative of addicts being from ‘broken homes’ isn’t realistic
What led her to seeking out drugs in the first place and how that spiralled into more heavy substance abuse
The toll it took on her family
How families can help support an addict & what her family learnt that ‘worked’
How addicts think and what happens inside their minds
Addiction is a lifelong condition, but sobriety is a responsibility
Banning Kids Under 16 From Social Media, Forgetful Anniversaries & Saying Yes To The Dress!
11 Nov 2024
00:43:00
Hey lifers! Laura and Matt both forgot their 2nd wedding anniversary. Do you celebrate each year?Are you the person who remembers 'dates'? We're talking anniversaries, birthdays, 'firsts' etc. How about your partner? What happens if one of you is a date celebrator and the other isn't?
Britt has picked her wedding dress and Laura wants to see it! Did you share your wedding dress with your friends before your actual wedding day?
The government has announced proposed legislation to be introduced to parliament that would ban kids under 16 from using social media, even if they have parental consent. Initially we thought this was great. But once we scratched the surface we realised that maybe it wasn't as good as it initially appeared. We speak about the pros and cons of implementing age restrictions on social media, whether it's a bit of a performative action, how it would be implemented and if there are alternative ways to protect kids online.
Britt got to enjoy Coldplay and Laura got to enjoy Chris Martin walk solo down Bondi beach looking very, very 'cool'!
Ask Uncut - Ungrateful Mother's Day and is the dating bar too high?
15 May 2024
00:47:53
Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and dark dilemmas!
The first dilemma of the day is that Marlie Mae (Laura's 4 year old) has been watching Taylor Swift 'The Eras Tour' and she's learnt some questionable dance moves...
We have an ask uncut aftermath from a question last week!! We absolutely love finding out what happened next.
Vibes for the week:
Britt: pretty lazy magic wand hair perfector
Keeshia: The Mel Robbins Podcast with Dr. Jen Gunter MD How to Balance Your Hormones: What Your Doctor Isn’t Telling You About Menopause
GRANDPARENTS WANT WEIRD TITLES THAT WE HATE My husband and I have a problem, we are 5 months pregnant with our first child and my in-laws have been thinking about what they want to be called. Now, I’m happy for it not to be the typical grandma and grandpa etc if they don’t want but they have just called my husband to let him know that my MIL wants to be called cougey and my FIL has picked Ockey. (I don’t know how they would be spelt but they sound like koo ghee and ock ee.) We don't like these names and think they are weird, and could be confusing for our baby when she grows up. We don’t want to hurt their feelings but we also don’t want to have to refer to them as these strange names forever. How can we approach this with them or is it something they have every right to choose on what to be called by our child?
DO I PRETEND IT'S GREAT? If a partner plans something for an event such as birthday, Mother’s Day, etc and you are disappointed, do you pretend it’s great? Or let them know you're disappointed? A couple of times I’ve expected a bit more planning from my partner and been disappointed but felt guilty for feeling this way. Are my expectations too high and is anything better than nothing? I should mention I’ve told him that I’m a sentimental person when it comes to milestones
DO I CALL BULLSHIT OR IS THIS ‘NORMAL’ THESE DAYS?
I’ve been dating a guy for 6 months (after his marriage of 2 years ago and 2 kids ended). Due to this I’ve given him space in anything too heavy about committing etc. About a month ago I asked him if he was on the apps and he said no, we haven’t had anymore “exclusive” chats. I’ve found out this week that he has liked one of my best mates pictures on hinge (who he’s met). He says it was an accident & he went on there because he was bored. Do I call bullshit on this? My male friend says that blokes need validation and until you tell them your boundaries and commit, it’s fair game. He wants to talk it through and get on the same page but I am unsure if I want to bother. I have been single for 10 years and had hopes for this. He has all the qualities that I’m looking for but he seems emotionally immature. He hasn’t told me his feelings for me yet but he clearly likes me.
Is my bar too high or is this just what we would expect nowadays?
Uncut with Stephen K Amos - The People Who Were the Butt of the Joke Now Have a Voice
14 May 2024
01:04:59
Joining the podcast today is comedian, TV personality and camp mate from the South African jungle Stephen K Amos! Britt got to know Stephen in their month in Africa together and they formed a special friendship built on some very personal and impactful conversations. Stephen joins us today with some of the funniest accidentally unfiltered stories (yes, plural) that we have ever heard! Stephen is such a laugh and a half and as funny as he is, he is equally as deep and thoughtful.
We spoke about:
Time in the jungle
His life growing up in a Nigerian family in South London
Expectations and being a ‘role model’ when he didn’t expect to be
Always being labelled as a ‘Black comedian’ and eventually ‘Black, gay comedian’
Push back on political comedy ‘ruining’ comedy
Stephen’s encounter with the Pope and his unexpected response to Stephen’s sexuality
Performing for the Royal family
Accepting himself and his body; wearing shorts for the first time EVER in the jungle
The real life Martha from Baby Reindeer and that Piers Morgan interview
13 May 2024
00:54:17
Hey Lifers, Today didn't quite go to plan! Laura's car broke down on the way to work so Producer Keeshia is filling in for her. Britt got ... locked in a sauna. She quite literally was stuck in there waiting for Wim Hof to finish his meditative ice bath! How do you feel about being in the background of someone's video at the gym? Keeshia found herself in this predicament and felt really uncomfortable.
Then we have a chat about Piers Morgan's interview with the woman who is being labelled as the 'real Martha from Baby Reindeer'. We question:
Whether interviews like this are exploitative and cross ethical boundaries
Whether she has the right to defend herself
Who is 'more' in the wrong; Netflix, Richard Gadd, Piers Morgan or the alleged stalker?
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Ask Uncut - Donor Eggs, Keeping My Ex's Surname & My Best Friend's Husband Tried to Cheat With Me
08 May 2024
00:52:43
Hey guys and welcome back to your therapy Thursday where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions! First up, we asked our partners what they would have called us on their sex list. Not sure if we are recommending this one or not to be honest! Bachie has been canned and we will well and truly miss the beautiful tones of Osher's "ladies".
HE WANTS TO CHEAT WITH ME My husband and I travel frequently with another family who have children the same age. It started out as my husband and his friends but over time the wife has become one of, if not, my best friend. They live interstate but we talk most days. We are 2 weeks away from an international holiday with them, when he asks me in a private message if I was with my husband at the time, and to message back when I was alone. He asked if I would like to ‘hook up’ whilst overseas and at the same time said don’t say a word to them (meaning his wife and my husband). I actually asked if he was joking to which he replied “no, but now it’s awkward”. I brushed it off and politely declined. As I stand, it’s nearly 24 hours after the message. I am planning on telling my husband that we will need to rearrange our holiday and accommodation plans. She is going to know something has happened, so when she asks me why we are cancelling on them what do I say? If roles were reversed I would 100% want to know. We have always suspected he’s probably not 100% faithful to her but to make matters worse she is pregnant. I know the information is going to ruin her life.
PARTNER DOESN'T WANT ME TO DONATE MY EGGS TO MY BROTHER I have two older gay brothers. Since I was about 16 (I am now in my mid 20s) I’ve said that I would like to donate eggs in the future to them, so they can have biological kids with their partner. (I always figured since we look very similar and I don’t plan on having kids it would be a nice way to have biological children in the family). One of my brothers and his partner are ready to start the process to have kids. However, my partner of 2 years that I plan on marrying is very uncomfortable and does not agree with this decision. He sees that it will be my kid. I am not sure what to do. Do I listen to my partner's concerns and come to terms with not helping my brothers or follow through with this said promise? What are your thoughts? Am I crazy for offering and not seeing it as being my child?
IS IT OK TO KEEP EX HUSBANDS SURNAME My ex husband and I split a number of years ago and had one child together. I took his surname when we married. We have both since re-coupled and he is now engaged. This has made me wonder - is it time to change my name back? The problem is, I LOVE my current name and it feels like a bit part of who I am; personally and professionally. I also really love having the same surname as the child we happily co-parent. Is it weird if I just keep the name? My new partner and I also have a child together, and marriage will be on the cards one day but I don’t want to change my name multiple times… and I much prefer my current name 😅
Laura is being gaslit by a sleep tracker and she is mad about it! She's also looking for which staff member (*allegedly) took her vibrator.
Britt has been seeing a particular ex ALL over the place on an unexpected publicity tour.
Do you keep a list of all of the people you've had sex with? Drew Barrymore did and she left it at Danny DeVito’s house! We share our ideas of lists, whether there are a few names that have slipped our memory and the nicknames you all have for the adventures you've been on!
Plus, we talk about the journey of celibacy that Craig David has been on. *There’s been no more ‘making love by Wednesday'.
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
SHE CHEATED WITH A SECOND COUSIN My cousin has come to me absolutely distraught. She confided to me that at a family wedding about 2 months ago she got very very drunk and had sex with our second cousin! Keep in mind she is newly married! She also told me that she is pregnant and not 100% sure who the dad is (her husband or the second cousin) . She has decided just to assume it’s her husband and is not looking into a paternity test. She is so ashamed and I think the only reason she has opened up to me is because of the pregnancy. Is it my place to tell the husband (who I’m close with too), for his sake and the baby’s sake (it could have serious health implications) or do I just pretend I know nothing?
AM I MEANT TO BE WITH MY EX?
I truly believe that my ex from 10 years ago is who I am meant to be with… We were really young and it just wasn’t the right time back then however, over the years there have been multiple times when we have talked about getting back together. There has always been something in the way like work commitments, personal reasons or one has been in a relationship when the other hasn’t. Only a few months ago when I was in a short relationship, I found out he was interested again. I'm not in that relationship anymore but he has just started seeing someone. What should I do? No matter how much I try to convince myself I’m wrong, my gut keeps telling me that it’s him and it will always be him who I am meant to be with. Should I try and talk to him about this (if so what the hell do I say) or just wait and see if time brings us back together again? Is he just the one that got away and it’s time to let that go?
HOW SHOULD COUPLES SPLIT PAYMENTS
I’m planning on moving out with my boyfriend and our two mates in three months into Sydney. For reference we’ve been dating for 6 years and I’ve been friends with his mates the whole time.I’ve been looking at places and am confused about how couples pay rent. Are we expected to split the amount evenly by all 4 of us even though my boyfriend and I are in the same room? Obviously bills are paid per person but I feel like it’s unfair when we are getting half the room. I haven’t moved out before so I'm not sure about roommate etiquette.
Is Ozempic The Magic Pill? Weighing Up Society’s Dysfunctional Obsession with Weight, Food and Our Bodies - Uncut with Johann Hari
30 Apr 2024
01:11:10
In 2022, coming out of lockdown, Johann went to a party with Hollywood celebrities. He noticed that unlike him and his friends who had all gained weight in lockdown, these people had all somehow lost a lot weight. It wasn't because they had taken up pilates. It was because of a new generation of injectable drugs, designed for diabetics, except that no one was speaking about it.
Immediately he felt conflicted about these drugs. On one hand, it seemed as though they may have the ability to significantly improve the health risks associated with obesity; but there was also a dark side that he felt the need to investigate.
Johann decided he would interview over 100 of the world's leading experts in science, medicine and the body positivity space to create his latest book "Magic Pill. The extraordinary benefits and disturbing risks of new weight loss drugs.”
In this episode, we speak about:
When Johann first became aware of drugs like Ozempic
Fatphobia, stigma and shame that we have been conditioned to experience in our culture
What these drugs could mean for people who already experience disordered eating
How these drugs work and Johann's personal experiences on them
The potential health benefits that they may have
The risks and unknown outcomes of this class of drugs
How weight is a 'status' symbol in our society
Whether these drugs should solely be available for diabetics
The potential future outcomes of weight loss drugs & what they could mean for our economy
You can find all of Johann's books including Magic Pill here
Britt is back baby! There are always so many questions about what happens 'behind the scenes' on any reality TV show & in today's episode, Britt answered a big bunch of your questions, truthfully! We unpack:
How 'time' and filming worked in the jungle (on camera/off camera)
How the food situation worked and what affect it had on each of them
What happens for the women on their period
Her realisations about having children in the future
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
MY PARTNER CONSISTENTLY WETS THE BED WHEN HE DRINKS & HE WON’T STOP DRINKING My partner (M37) is a big drinker and also has an overactive bladder which leads him to wetting the bed basically every weekend when he drinks. I’ve expressed my discontent with this numerous times throughout our three year relationship and have tried to help by buying nappies, setting alarms during the night and trying to trick him into sleeping in other rooms. I’ve also pushed him to see a urologist where he now takes medication to urinate less throughout the day however as the bed wetting is primarily a problem from alcohol, he’s still frequently wetting himself. This impact also extends to when we go away with friends, for weddings, on holidays etc and he makes no effort to drink less and I’m left to monitor him throughout the night to make sure he gets up to pee and doesn’t wet the bed as we have no where else to sleep.
I’m at my wit’s end and have even gone to see a relationship counsellor who basically said (long story short) that if I try to change the un-changeable then I’m going to drive myself crazy and I basically need to learn to live with it. My partner has an enormous victim mentality about this and his only emotional response is that “it’s not fair that his mates can drink as much as they want without this problem” and “why me, it’s not fair”. Am I being unreasonable in expecting him to drink less to stop this problem? If he was in his early 20s I’d give him time grow out of it, but at nearly 40, I’m heavily considering leaving the relationship because it’s so sad and unattractive, and I don’t want this for my future. Please tell me if I’m being too hard on him like he says that I am.
IS IT OK TO WANK AT WORK?
I randomly asked my husband when he last had a wank, to which he replied “uh, probably last week?” Me being a stay at home mum who is home…ALL THE TIME, then asked “was I home?” He so casually responded “oh no, nine times out of ten I’d have a wank at work.” Now, I’m NOT here to yuck someone’s yum, HOWEVER, this is NOT the first partner I’ve had to do this! My husband is a tradie, one was in real estate, another was in the medical area. My question is… is this normal? Why not do it at home? Is it a risk kink thing?
HUSBAND NOT REACHING OUT WHILST AWAY
My husband has gone to Darwin for a week for a friend's 40th (we live in NSW) which is fine. I encouraged him to go. I am at home with our 2 children, aged 2 and 4 months. I am feeling a little bit let down with how often he is checking in with me while he is away. I feel like I have been initiating all contact with him, sending messages with updates of the kids etc and he takes hours to respond if at all. He doesn’t bother to send good morning or goodnight messages or calls. And I can see that he has been active online. He is staying at his brother's house and I know for a fact they have just been sitting around drinking for the last few days. Am I being unreasonable thinking he should be checking in on us more? I have pulled back on how many times I initiate contact to see whether he would pick it up on his end, but he hasn’t. Should I bring it up with him or just let it go?
WEARING A BRA TO WORK
Do you always wear a bra to work? I haven’t a couple of times, I have small titties and wear normal neckline tops. I thought I could absolutely get away with it, but I did notice one of my male coworkers looking down and it made me feel a bit weird. I have a desk job and am worried it might not be very professional. Would love your thoughts!
Uncut with Sam Frost - When it's all too much. Talking depression, pile ons and walking away from a career she loved.
23 Apr 2024
00:49:48
Joining the podcast today is the wonderful Sam Frost. Sam is an actress, an author, a mental health advocate and a mum. She originally graced our screens on the bachelor 10 years ago when she was just 24 years old. Sam has had many ‘eras’ and we address all of them in today’s chat! We speak about:
Being so young when she entered the reality TV world and what those experiences were like
Being so open about the darkness of mental health and mental illness
Becoming an actress on Home and Away, and navigating the criticism of whether she was ‘worthy’ of the opportunity
The vaccination conversation and public backlash that Sam endured in 2021
Why she actually decided to leave Home and Away
The fear of becoming a mum as someone who already experiences mental illness
How motherhood has changed her life
What’s in line for her and her partner Jordy’s future with their son Ted
Producer Keeshia is still here... she's clinging on like a turmeric stain. Britt is spending the week with her mum over in South Africa. We get an update on Laura's kitten Raspberry and who her preferred parent seems to be!
In today's episode we take a bit of a shallow dive into the world of #smut, #smuttybooks & #booktok. If you've been wishing your libido would wake the f*ck up and resurrect itself, 'cliterature' might be for you! One of us has been doing some homework and has entered the world of erotic romance novels. We discuss how these books have been hugely popular amongst women, how they've helped pleasure back into their lives and explore worlds of fantasy in a safe environment.
Taylor Swift dropped two albums over the weekend and we know that everyone is talking about the feud with Kim, and which songs are about Joe Alwyn & which are about Matty Healy. BUT, fewer people are talking about Taylor admitting to still tracking her ex's location on Find My Friends because he forgot to disable it! We have a chat about whether we use location tracking services and how it can feel when you're the one in the break up who doesn't move on first.
The Best Of The PickUp - There's a button up my nose
21 Apr 2024
00:35:31
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Ask Uncut - Are You the Interruptee or the Interrupter?
17 Apr 2024
00:52:27
Hey Lifers!
Welcome to the episode where we unpack your deep, dark and burning questions. Britt's still in the jungle eating pig nipples. There's a sentence I never thought I'd write... Please keep voting to keep our girl in the jungle! VOTE HERE
Laura's brought her extra 4 legged child home. Buster is terrified and Matt is still in the 'dad who doesn't want the pet' phase. We all know that there's no one who will love a family pet more than the dad who initially said they didn't want them.
One of my best friends constantly cuts people off while they are mid-sentence, sometimes when the person is answering the questions that she has asked them. She also will cut into other people’s conversations and start talking about something completely unrelated and making it hard to get the original chat back on track. Now that I’ve noticed she does this it drives me mental and makes me not want to have a deep engaged conversation with her, as it seems like she’s not properly listening or interested in what I have to say. Is there a way to politely tell her that she does this? Or is this a quirk of her personality that I need to let go?
ACCIDENTALLY PREGNANT AND HE'S NOT BEING SUPPORTIVE
I’ve recently moved interstate to a brand new city and I’m loving it. I met a guy pretty soon after arriving here, and he is amazing. Turns out on the first night we slept together, I fell pregnant. I am not in a position to keep the baby, and we’re aligned on that decision. However he hasn’t been as supportive as I would’ve hoped. I have been super sick, unable to work, bed ridden, and he hasn’t been replying for my messages for days on end. He hasn’t offered to bring me anything, or even just pay for appointments or supplies, or even just ask how I'm doing. I know we’re not together but I can’t help but feel disappointed in the way he’s handled this. What would your tips be before going forward in this situation? Should I keep seeing him after?
IS IT OK TO PEE WITH YOUR PARTNER IN THE SHOWER?
Please help me settle this debate between my boyfriend and I! Is it okay to pee in the shower when I shower with my boyfriend? For context, we shower together every night and he always finds it weird and gross that I have to pee in the shower. But I think It’s fine as it ends up going down the same pipes and to the same destination as the toilet. Should he just get over it or should I stop peeing in the shower when he is in there with me?
DO I TELL HIM ABOUT MY FAMILY CONDITION?
I lost my dad when I was a teenager from a neurodegenerative disorder. This disorder is genetic and each child has a 50/50 chance of inheriting it with it being a dominant gene. There is no cure or treatment so it is essentially a death sentence. My sister is in the later stages of the disease having been diagnosed in her mid 20s. I haven’t been tested due to not feeling ready but I’m starting to look into testing now as I’ve started to realise how much it has held me back in things such as relationships and career. At this stage from our family history, it’s looking like I don’t have it. I have been single for a long time because of this and not wanting to bring someone in just in case I have it or for them to have to witness what my family is going through. I’ve been on a few dates recently but a lot of the time people ask why I’ve been single for so long. At what stage do I tell them my family history? I don’t want to scare people straight away but also don’t want to misinform them.
Here is the link to the episode that we mentioned with Megan Marx
Uncut with Tara Rae Moss - The Halo Effect, Pretty Privilege and "Ugly Laws"
16 Apr 2024
01:07:57
Tara Rae Moss is a chronic pain and disability advocate, keynote speaker and bestselling author of 14 books. It’s likely that you originally know Tara Rae from her life as an international model, but her life took an unexpected turn 8 years ago when she developed a chronic pain condition known as CRPS.
In this chat we speak about:
Her experiences in the modelling industry as a teenager
Why she has returned to using her birth name Tara Rae
The halo effect, pretty privilege, the ugly laws and how it all is connected to ableism
How opportunities dried up once Tara Rae said that she had a disability
What living with CRPS was like and her journey to remission
Having to take a lie detector test to prove that she actually wrote her novels
Bondi Tragedy - Losing the Importance of Truth in the Race to Be First
15 Apr 2024
00:37:14
Hey Lifers, Today's episode was particularly difficult to record. The whole nation is grieving the loss of 6 people in our community after a horrific act of violence on Saturday afternoon at Bondi Junction shopping centre. Within our team, we have personal connections to some of the victims and we want to send our most sincere love and support to the families and loved ones who have had one of the most horrific events imaginable take place. Today we speak about the way that this incident was reported in the media, and the lessons that we can learn from it. In a time where we are so demanding of instant information, it seems as though respect, permission, grace and importantly the need for the information to be true has been lost.
And, on a lighter note we also have a chat about how to know whether you should invite your partner to an event/hang out. In this conversation we spoke about an episode that we recorded about askers and guessers. You can listen to that here
The best Of The PickUp radio show - Who moved the bed?
14 Apr 2024
00:37:38
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
My husband and I have two kids. I would happily have another but he doesn't want another. I've become comfortable with this being our family unit. As such, I have broached the conversation of him having a vasectomy because I don't feel as though I should be responsible for contraception given that he is the one who has made this decision. He has completely taken the idea of a vasectomy off the table and said that he will not have one. Although I feel he should have bodily autonomy, I think it is an unfair expectation that he won't have one when I have already given birth to our two children.
I was house/pet sitting while the owners were away on holidays. I just discovered an indoor camera in the kitchen / living area - after having a very hot sex with my partner pretty much right in front of it! I have also been walking around naked or just undies when it’s hot. I did ask the owners about cameras/security before agreeing to the house sit and they only informed me about a front door security camera. What do I do now?? Do I ask them about it or should I just ignore it and pray that the camera wasn’t recording, nobody saw anything and they don’t have first class porn stored somewhere on their cloud?
Do you think sexual chemistry can grow? I met up with a guy from Hinge, had a great chat, lots of laughs and things in common but couldn’t picture myself kissing him. I usually rely on it from the get go but I’m trying to date guys I wouldn’t usually initially pick since the guys that I do feel instant chemistry with haven’t worked out.
My boyfriend just told me that when he was at his best friend's house the other night he lost track of the odds and had to drink his bestie's baby mama's breast milk. We don’t have kids yet and I always thought mine would be the only breast milk he tried. Idk how to feel about it. I'm kinda grossed out and feel upset that he tried another woman's breast milk but don’t know if I’m overreacting or not. He also thinks it’s fine cos it’s the same as drinking female cow milk.
Hey lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions!
First question of the day is who is your 'hear me out' character (which fictional character are you attracted to)? Laura revealed her attraction to Barney the dinosaur by accident the other day and Britt is quite the fan of the ninja turtle Leonardo who would be in their 40s/50s now...
Keeshia has a question about tipping etiquette; how do you feel when the tip is automatically applied when it comes to pay and if you don't want to tip, you're expected to select to remove it?
HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO USE OUR EMBRYOS My ex husband left me & after 4 years of IVF. We have embryos in storage (we have one beautiful little IVF baby girl) who is my entire world. But I would love to make her a big sister one day too! He has so easily just said let’s donate the spare embryos. I am mortified by how easily he has suggested this and absolutely not interested in donating, I want them! They’re my babies. I walked through the toughest times of my life undergoing IVF and on my 8th transfer, I got my beautiful girl. I’m 33 and I don’t know if I should freeze my eggs and get a donor sperm .. or wait till I ‘might’ meet someone. PSA - I will continue to pay for storage for my embryo babies as I love them too! I also didn’t see our marriage being something that would end but he clearly fell out of love with me & left me 10 months postpartum.
CHRISTMAS WITH PARTNER’S FAMILY I have been invited to spend Xmas with my partner's family interstate (we are mid 20s and dated for almost 6 years). My family has been disapproving/disappointed when I told them about not having Xmas at home and tried to guilt trip me out of accepting the invite. However, I really do want to go. How do I approach the topic again with them and is it wrong to spend one Xmas away from your family?
THE SEX ISN'T GOOD. HOW DO I NAVIGATE THIS?
I've been in a relationship with this guy for 6 months and everything is great. He is a wonderful guy and we share the same sense of humour. He could be my person, however there is one glaring problem. The sex is not good. He's a jack hammer kind of guy where he seems to only be interested in pleasing himself. I have done all of the things that you would normally recommend; we have had the conversations and I have tried to softly guide him to do the things in the way that I like it. The problem is that he does the things I like for about a week and then goes back to the jack hammering. How do I navigate this? How important is having great sex in a relationship?
Uncut with Diana Nyad - Creating Lasting Friendship & Unapologetically Chasing Your Dreams
09 Apr 2024
00:42:05
You might have heard a few weeks ago, Laura recommended we all watch Nyad on Netflix. Nyad was nominated for an Oscar and the film told the story of Diana Nyad, who first attempted to swim over 100 miles, which is 170 km, from Cuba to Florida in her 20s. One her first attempt, she was unsuccessful. At the age of 60, she decided to complete the feat she wasn’t able to when she was 28. She decided to do it without a shark cage. She also had to navigate dangerous marine creatures like box jellyfish, which can transfer enough toxin to paralyse and kill you.
On her 5th attempt, at the age of 64, Diana completed the 170km swim alongside her best friend and coach Bonnie.
This is a story of resilience, defying society's limitations of age and one of female friendship! Diana also shares why she spoke publicly about the s*xual assault that she experienced at the hands of her coach from age 14 in an effort to help other victims not live in shame and be able to find their voice too. Diana has such an energetic and inspirational attitude to life!
Living In a Glass House of Accountability, a Feminist Talk and the Inspired Unemployed
08 Apr 2024
00:57:36
Hey Lifers!
Britt is still in the jungle & we'd love, love, love for you to vote to keep her in (10 times if you can endure the ads haha) VOTE HERE
Do you go to sleep angry with your partner or do you resolve it all before the zzzs?
Also very curious to know if you have certain activities that are laptop only, or if you're comfortable doing it all on your phone? What's your 'limit' of the depth of the activities?
On today's episode we have a meaty chat about accountability culture. Last Wednesday feminist authors Antoinette Lattouf, Clementine Ford and Yumi Stynes held a free event with a special guest that turned out to be Jack Steele from the Inspired Unemployed. The event turned out to be a bit of a prank for the TV program Impractical Jokers. People who attended the event have reacted with mixed emotions; mostly being shock, disappointment and anger.
We dive deep into the complexities of accountability culture, and what it means to live in a "glass house" where transparency and self-awareness are key. We chat about the nuances of why some people choose to address indiscretions, and why others don't. We talk about intent vs impact, calling in vs calling out and whether there's room for grace when someone in the public space f*cks up.
Ask Uncut - My Partner Does Drugs on Special Occasions
03 Apr 2024
00:46:54
Hey Lifers! Welcome to your weekly therapy session where we answer all of your deep, dark and controversial questions (today). Laura is in Bali and has been making her sister bank roll the trip. Britt is still in the jungle and we can keep it that way by voting to save her!
Vibes for the week: Laura - Brittney Saunder's new business pod Big Business
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. We’re 24, we live together & share a pet. I’m a hyper romantic & an extrovert. He’s pretty negative & modest at times. He doesn’t like to show his affection unless he’s drunk or we are alone. Over the past year our sex life has gone from weekly to 1-2 times a month. I love him so much & despite our arguments I want this to work. When I questioned him as to why we aren’t having more sex he said “you nag me about it too much & it seems like you’re forcing the seductiveness”. I pulled back any attempt to be overly sexual or touchy & nothing changed. I even put on lingerie, wore his favourite perfume, lit candles and he still said no he didn’t feel like it. I understand but I’m so lost. I’m so young to be in this position because I know that nothing will change. But I don’t know what else to do.
I recently went on a 3rd date with a guy, which so far everything was going well with - he was ticking many boxes in terms of constant communication, making plans etc … and on this night he had initiated dinner, booked the restaurant and was even there early … and the date went fabulous. At the end of the night , after going to a bar for more drinks we decided we wouldn’t go home together. By this point all we had done was kiss. As we were exiting the bar - I saw him on his phone, but little did I know he was already booking his Uber. Once we get outside (it’s around 1am) he tells me his Uber is nearly here, I quickly book mine but mine says 9 minutes away.. His Uber arrives and without hesitation he just jumps right in - I thought surely he’d check how far mine was or wait for me but no. He didn’t. He just left me standing on the street alone waiting 8 more minutes for mine … I thought I’d at least get a message from him asking if I got home safe, but nothing. He couldn’t have cared less how or if I got home. But still messaged me the next day asking to see me again. Chivalry is HUGE for me but sadly his lack of care here has given me the major ICK. Do you think this is bad behaviour / a red flag or I should just carry on seeing him and hope it was a simple mistake?
My partner & I are planning to start our lil fam. After a recent miscarriage, he was the most supportive person & outside of this, we have the best relationship. I know he will be such a great parent. He will be the stay at home parent after my paid leave finishes as I earn more. I am just not sure where I sit with this one thing. I know it’s common and almost normal these days, but every 6 or so months, he uses cocaine on a “special occasion” with friends. This isn’t really my thing, which he respects, but I appreciate that he’s always been open when he has used them. He agreed without hesitation not to use it while we try again, but I get the impression that he may still use it on rare occasions in the future. It’s not a deal breaker, but I just have a mind-set that it’s something you ‘weed out’ out of your life when you become a parent.
How to Manage a Break Up & Why You Seem to be Dating the Same Person Over and Over- Uncut with Jillian Turecki
02 Apr 2024
00:54:03
How the f*ck do you move on when you're in the depths of a relationship?
Today's episode is with the incredible Jillian Turecki!
Jillian Turecki is a certified relationship coach, teacher and writer. She has helped thousands of people be better in their relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself, and has helped just as many people manage the aftermath of a relationship breakdown.
We ask for Jillian's advice on:
How to know whether you should break up with your partner
How do I know if it's just a normal relationship lull or if it's actually the end of the relationship?
Do you know when you've found 'the one'?
Are break ups always devastating or are they an opportunity?
When it's actually not them, it's you. You're the problem
Patterns in your dating and relationships
You can find more from Jillian on her website and on her Instagram
We did an episode on break ups back in 2020! You can listen here!
Another episode that we did on break ups with Alexis Fernandez on break ups is here!
Are You the Friend Who Disappears When You're in a Relationship? Lizzo Has Quit & Laura's Questioning Plane Etiquette
01 Apr 2024
01:01:16
Hey Lifers,
We hope you all had wonderful Easter weekends; whether that is with or without egg hunts and hat parades! Laura shares her feelings around adding magic to special events so that they become your really important memories.
Laura is in Bali and has had quite an eventful plane ride. She's curious as to how you'd handle this plane etiquette and Keeshia thinks the passive aggressive route is best.
Have you ever felt as though a friend bailed on you when they got in to a relationship? Has this become a bit of a pattern? Are you possibly the friend who deprioritises friendship when you get into a relationship? We discuss the difference between a natural evolution of a friendship, a shift in life stages and expectations of the intensity of friendship.
We spoke with Dr Hannah Korell about breaking up with toxic friends here
Plus we speak about Lizzo quitting. Is it the result of being guilty in the 'court' of public opinion or have problematic trolls just been given the green light to attack her because of the allegations against her? Is she cancelled? Do you think someone should be hired to perform at an event like a political fundraiser when they have active allegations such as sexual assault allegations against them?
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Hey Lifers! Producer Keeshia is filling in for Britt while she hangs out with all of the creatures in the jungle! But I'm a celebrity had us thinking about a particular insight into all of our relationships and it's one that will be polarising!
My boyfriend (31) and I (28) started dating in June last year, we made it official at the end of July. Since the very beginning we’ve been very happy. We are both super committed to our relationship and each other, we communicate really well and he shows me every day how much he loves me. I truly thought I had found my penguin. However… I just found out he cheated on me 2 times just when our relationship started. He cheated on me with a girl he met back in June. She was away in Europe for a bit so when we started our relationship she wasn’t around but they were still texting. When she was back they met up 2 times and had sex. This was 1 week, and 2 months after we made it official. All of this came out because the girl reached out to me to tell me everything.I confronted him, he felt really guilty and owned his mistakes. He said it absolutely didn’t mean anything. He was lost and scared and he said he could never do that to me now because we are in such a different stage of our relationship. I can see how our relationship has changed in the last 4 months. He says he has changed and did the inner work after the cheating. I think he still needs to work on himself to potentially continue the relationship. And he agrees. My question is how bad are the red flags? I know you can recover from cheating but can you when you started the relationship and fell in love with the person when he was cheating? I think I really want to make this work and give him another chance
HOW DO I ASK IF HE'S SLEEPING WITH OTHER PEOPLE
I’ve been seeing this guy for a month so far so good - convos, good hobbies align, values align and watching him work out was a beautiful sight. BUT he is going away in two weeks for a 2 month trip with a mate. Usually it would be way too soon to define the relationship but with him going away my question is do I ask are we not sleeping with other people during this time I feel like it’s usually too soon to ask but I also think if he likes me he shouldn’t want to. He has also told me he’s deleted all the apps (which is how we met) Do I have the convo?
BLOW JOB ETIQUETTE
I was in a 17 year relationship, married with 2 kids. It was a tough time when we separated and I gave myself a year before I started dating again. I hadn't dated a lot before I got married. I have dated a bit now and it has been fun and hard and an emotional roller coaster. But my question is, what is the etiquette when giving a guy a blow job? Should he ask you and/or tell you before he cums in your mouth? I went out with a guy on a few dates and the first time we were intimate together I was quite surprised when I went down on him and a short time later he just came in my mouth without saying anything until after he came he said 'Good girl'. I felt degraded and a bit used to be honest. I usually don't mind this happening but previous guys have always asked or warned me so I can make a choice. What do you think?
Uncut with Tones and I - "You’ve Got to Be the Whole Package and I Just Wanted to Be the Music"
26 Mar 2024
00:56:25
Today's interview felt like such an honour. It's with one of the most successful Australian artists, who likely needs little introduction, Tones and I! She has over 10.5 billion streams worldwide. Her songs have been number 1 in 31 countries and she was the first female artist to reach 3 billion streams on spotify! But, Tones rarely does media and we feel so lucky that this is her first ever long form podcast. We chat about:
Why Tones felt like hiding from a public life was a safer option
How she grew up and why she worked so hard for what she wanted
Dance Monkey catapulting her into the public space and what that felt like behind closed doors
Being in her sequin, confidence era
Choosing to go sober
Living as a married person with a bunch of friends
Touring with P!nk after offers from Robbie Williams
Announcing her OWN national tour!
You can find everything about her tour at her website!
Should We Feel Guilty For Speculating About Princess Catherine?
25 Mar 2024
00:45:12
Hey Lifers!
Britt has gone into the jungle!! She's petrified of heights and we don't know why she didn't lie about her fears. It's Laura's 38th birthday!!!! (It's possibly her 37th but we've referred to google for reference). Laura speaks candidly about not being a birthday person and why she feels a little bit indifferent to gifts; unless they are plants. We speak about being in certain places of life by a certain time as the years click over.
Over the weekend, Princess Catherine announced that she has been battling a cancer diagnosis and undergoing preventative chemotherapy treatment. We question whether people in positions like hers are entitled to privacy just like everyone else, and whether we should feel bad for contributing to the public speculation. Did she feel as though she had to come out with this information because of public harassment or because the PR team royally f*cked up so many times that it pushed her into a corner?
The best of The PickUp - Britt's a celebrity get her out of here
24 Mar 2024
00:35:53
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Single Needs A Rebrand. Uncut with Elizabeth Gilbert. Eat, Pray, Love.
05 Nov 2024
01:04:07
Elizabeth Gilbert is one of the most brilliant authors of our time. She authored ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ which sold over 12 million copies and was then turned into a movie starring Julia Roberts. She’s also written books like ‘Committed’, ‘Big Magic’ and ‘City of Girls’.
Elizabeth shares so many teachings around vulnerability, connectedness, living a life that is led by love, and now how to become ‘a relaxed woman, pushing back on the expectations of what society wants from you’.
Today we spoke about:
Being an award winning writer who wrote about men and was sympathetic to the male experience, until she wrote the number 1 ‘chick-lit’ book of our time. Funnily enough, the award nominations dried up.
The shared experience of having everything that we are meant to ‘want’ and feeling so deeply unhappy.
How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships, and how free she now feels being emotionally autonomous
The facts about how marriage affects women: married women don’t live as long as single women, they’re more likely to report being depressed and anxious, they are more likely to have autoimmune conditions, more likely to be addicted to substances etc.
How all of our lives could be titled ‘not exactly what I had in mind’
The complexity of falling in love with someone knowing it will hurt other people that you care about
We will get to your questions but firstly, BRITT IS GOING TO SOUTH AFRICA and entering the "I'm a celebrity, get me out of here" jungle! We talk about how it came about, what it's going to entail and which charity Britt is going into the jungle for! You can check out the charity Rize Up Australia
Vibes for the week:
Britt - watch I'm a celebrity on channel 10. It starts on Sunday!
-Last month my family & I were at the beach and we set up our Cool Cabana and 3 beach chairs. We were there for a few hours but decided we wanted to have lunch so we packed up our beach towels but just left the cabana and beach chairs underneath it. A few hours later we returned and a whole family was sitting under our cabana on our beach chairs. They had their rash shirts all hung up on our cabana. We said ‘what are you doing here?’ and they said they asked people nearby if anyone owned it and when they said they hadn’t seen us in a while they thought it was fine to use. When we asked them to leave the mum rolled her eyes at us and only the young boy apologised. When I told my friend about this she said they had every right to use our cabana and beach chairs. This isn’t correct beach etiquette is it?
-I had a friendship of 10+ years who was my best friend and had been through everything with me, this friendship ended last year. The friendship in itself got quite toxic towards the end so it’s definitely a relief that we are no longer friends, however it’s hard to not look back on all the good memories and good times we had. I feel like I’m coming out of a toxic romantic relationship. I know I'm better off without her but it’s still sad. Now that I'm out of this friendship, I find myself looking around at other female friendships and feel sad. I have friends but I feel like it's all on a superficial level, and I'm never truly myself like the way I was with her. My question is how do people make good pure friendships in their 20’s? It's just making me so sad lately
-My partner has had a declining sex drive for a while now. I've noticed that his instagram explore page is full of raunchy bikini models. After confronting him about this, he admitted that he jacks off to these pictures. I want to know whether this is a problem to most people or if it's me overreacting?
'I Couldn't Save Her, But She Saved Me' - Fighting Leukaemia Uncut with Nikiya Love
18 Mar 2024
00:49:33
Today's episode felt like such a privilege. We finally got to meet lifer Nikiya Love in person! You may have gotten to know Nikiya in the life uncut discussion group. Over the years Nikiya has brought us along for the ride throughout her fertility journey and her leukaemia diagnosis while she was pregnant with her beautiful daughter Lexi.
In this chat we speak about:
-Nikiya's IVF process -How her leukaemia diagnosis happened -Losing her beautiful daughter Lexi -What fertility looks like after chemo -The stem cells from a stranger that saved her life -How important blood donations are
Nikiya has a gentle strength and a grasp of what's truly important in life. This chat has left us feeling forever changed.
First up today, we've got two very special (s-paw-cial if you like a pun) guests in with us today. We go through the worst things you've done to get revenge on one of your exes and you are all very CREATIVE!! We also promise that we won't report any of you because some of these things are borderline illegal.
Plus we unpack the big changes that Meta is about to make to your instagram and facebook news. Things could be really changing next month. But who is in the wrong here? Is it the government for legislating something that benefited some news providers (but not all), or it is Meta for wanting to save themselves from paying Australian news providers a lot of money. There are a few independent news players in this game that are really going to be affected by this change, despite them never benefiting from the agreement that was made in 2021.
We also speak about our desire and ability to pay for content such as news. If we eventually did need to pay for this type of content to keep these news organisations going, would you be willing to? Would you only pay for some or the types that you liked and enjoyed? Would that make you end up in an echo chamber?
The Best of The PickUp - International day of the spiders
18 Mar 2024
00:32:45
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Ask Uncut - My Husband Slept with a Sex Worker at His Bucks Party
13 Mar 2024
00:52:36
Hey Lifers!
Britt is very concerned about where Kate Middleton is. Laura and producer Keeshia are much more distracted by the free water station at Fred Again. Different strokes for different folks ya know?
My husband and I got married 6 months ago. He left his laptop with his WhatsApp open and there were messages from his friends saying they were clear from STIs and for my husband it wouldn't matter because he would "only be passing it on to one person". That message made me feel weird. We’ve spoken about boundaries before. I was fine with strippers and a lap dance at his bucks. I checked his phone and have now since learnt he slept with a sex worker on his bucks. I don't know how to feel about it, do I confront him about it? I've done the wrong thing by checking on his phone without him knowing. I just feel gross and disrespected.
If a guy asked you what your favourite flowers were and you told him a specific flower, but he bought you another flower instead because it’s HIS favourite, is that a red flag? I know it’s the thought that counts but why ask someone for their favourite flower if you’re not going to listen to them?
My partner and I are having a ridiculous argument. It has been 40 degrees here and we're renovating so we don't have any aircon at the moment. I have been walking around naked and just did the dishes. He told me he didn't feel comfortable with me doing everyday things when I'm naked because it ‘leaves nothing up to the imagination’. He thinks if I continue doing it then it will impact our intimacy. He's used the analogy, 'a chef who cooks all day, doesn't want to go home and cook'. I don't see a problem with it and wouldn't care if the roles were reversed. What are your thoughts?
The Playboy Mansion , Hugh Hefner and the 60 Year Age Gap - Uncut with Crystal Hefner
12 Mar 2024
00:44:33
The playboy mansion and playboy empire is surrounded by so much intrigue and controversy. Today we got to chat with Crystal Hefner. Crystal became a sexual icon of the 2010’s when she entered the playboy mansion at only 21 years of age. When Crystal turned 26, she married Playboy tycoon Hugh Hefner who was 86 years old and news of this wedding circulated to every corner of the globe.
Crystal has just released a tell all memoir titled “only say good things” about the truth of what really happened behind closed doors of the elusive playboy mansion.
We chat about:
How Crystal initially entered the Playboy Mansion
What life was actually like day to day
How the exploitation of such young women was in plain sight to the entire world
Finances inside the house and how much the girls actually got paid
Sex inside the mansion
The ‘reality’ of original reality TV - The girls next door
Seeking Revenge on a Cheater & Are Dating Apps Addictive?
11 Mar 2024
00:44:10
Hey lifers!
Laura is ready to rave! She's got a week in her house solo for the first time since having kids and she's going to a school night party. What in the 37 years old?? Britt's bucking the latest trend but maybe you'll be interested in a merkin.
What length would you go to to get revenge on your friend that cheated with your partner? Would you attempt to take their eyebrows? Someone on the internet has tried and personally we're going for the passports. What's the worst thing you have done for revenge on an ex that mistreated you?
There's a class action lawsuit going on in the states against dating app company Match Group (Hinge, Tinder & the League owner) claiming that they falsely advertise by saying that their aim is to get you off the apps and actually into relationships, when their algorithms are designed to keep you on the apps.
We unpack whether dating apps are designed to be 'gamified' and should be looked at as something that is addictive. If this is the case, should we be having more transparency over how the algorithms work like we do for gambling apps or alcohol?
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our radio co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
Are you wearing eye shadow? Apparently we are not fitting in with the youth anymore, but we certainly have the 'tired eyes' look covered!
Britt is sad that she's missing out on some family memories. Laura's kids picked their cat, but Matt has rules and we're not sure if it will be cat or cats...
I went out for a first date with a guy for a drink! I drove there so I was expecting to have 2 glasses of wine MAX over a possible 2 hours. He sat down, said we would be getting a bottle of wine - not even asking about my preference. I told him, I would prefer a glass as I was driving and he said “no that’s definitely going to change. You’ll be drinking more and staying for the bottle and eventually we will go back to yours.” I immediately felt uncomfortable and was very shut off from wanting to get to know this person which I eventually voiced. After I finished my one glass, (he on his third) I very respectfully said that I would be heading off and to be polite I said, let me know your bank details so I can transfer you for half the bottle. This morning I woke up to his bank details and he told me the bottle was $90! This is probably one of the worst dates I have ever been on so how much do I send him if any?
My boyfriend of 15 months is sweet, kind, generous and patient. I, on the other hand, am passionate and fiery. I crave excitement and stimulation but find my relationship very comfortable and complacent. My boyfriend has a good job and studies, but is happy to live a fairly simple life and doesn’t push himself too hard. Despite this, he always goes above and beyond to make me feel special and loved. It hurts so bad to admit but I find myself feeling a bit bored and underwhelmed, almost as if I’m missing that spark. I know (from you guys) better than to dream about the greener grass or go chasing butterflies and thrills but I can’t help but feel as if there’s a relationship out there that would make me happier. Am I being unappreciative? What should I do; Stay with the sweet boy who is comfortable and safe? Or find someone who can match me intellectually and who I feel more chemistry with?
Someone I follow posted trying to set her husband's best friend up on a date - she listed qualities of him etc. Fast forward, I’m texting this guy and we go on a first date. We both have busy schedules which are opposite which means we only share a few messages a day (I’m a fitness instructor so work mornings/nights). After not speaking to him for a whole day (he might be ghosting me) I accidentally sent my location on my way to work. MY LIVE LOCATION AT 5 AM in the morning!!! When he hasn’t even replied to my last text.How do you recover from this? I am mortified. I wanted to see this guy again
Can you guys settle a debate between me and my boyfriend? Is peeing in a pool gross? He thinks the ocean or river is fine but a pool is too far 😂 I think a pool is fine because it’s usually treated for that stuff right? Thought this was a good poll question!
American Nightmare. The Truth About the Wrongfully Labelled "Real Life Gone Girl". Uncut with Denise Huskins
05 Mar 2024
01:09:11
We are so grateful to have been able to speak with Denise Huskins. Far too often victims of assault are not believed. The story of what happened with Denise's kidnapping and assault is harrowing. However, in this chat Denise articulates that what happened next from law enforcement, the media and the public was worse.
In March 2015, in Vallejo, CA, Denise Huskins and her boyfriend Aaron Quinn awoke from a sound sleep when armed men bound and drugged them, and then abducted Denise.
Aaron was warned not to call the police, or else Denise would be killed. Aaron trusted law enforcement and called the police to try and find Denise. But instead of searching for Denise, the police accused Aaron of her murder. They said that his story was just unbelievable. When Denise was released alive, the police turned their fire on her, dubbing her the "real-life 'Gone Girl'" who had faked her own kidnapping.
In this chat Denise answers so many of our questions like:
Why were you and Aaron targeted?
If law enforcement thought your statements were too inconsistent and unreliable to believe you, then why were you later seen as a reliable witness in court?
Why have the other kidnappers not been pursued and prosecuted?
Did the police ever take accountability for their mistakes?
We speak about Denise and Aaron having to decide whether to speak out publicly to clear their names of creating a hoax kidnapping OR be used as witnesses in court to help prosecute Matthew Muller.
We also discuss how Denise and Aaron were able to help each other heal and went on to get married and have two beautiful daughters. Denise is remarkably resilient.
You can watch "American Nightmare' on Netflix or read Denise and Aaron's book here.
Please note that this episode discusses violent and sexual assault. If you are listening from Australia, you can find free help by calling 1800-RESPECT.
If you enjoyed this episode, you might like some others that we recorded with two of the wonderful women from The Tinder Swindler You might also like the episode that we recorded with Kayla Laws from the Netflix Docu series Is Anybody Up?
Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater at the Wicked Premiere & Should You Loyalty Test Your Partner?
04 Nov 2024
00:40:20
Hey guys! Britt and Keeshia have spent the entire weekend together and they're the friends that ask you if you can come to Africa tomorrow. Laura shared a story about some of the early days of Marlie's life that aren't quite her best moments! Laura would love to know how many times your kid accidentally rolled off the bed?
We unpack the goss from the Wicked premiere! We were interested in how they would approach the PR of the film given the reputational damage that Ariana Grande and Ethan Slater suffered after having a rumoured 'affair.' We wondered whether they would take a 'Don't Worry Darling" approach (Harry Styles and Olivia Wilde) where they kept space from each other in public, or if they would lean in to their romance! There was one line in the movie that we are shocked they kept in!
Plus, what would bring you to 'loyalty test' your partner? We speak about the 'how' and the 'why' you may get to a place where you consider conducting a loyalty test. Is the entrapment just as bad as the potential cheating?
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Age Gaps & When You Just Don't "Feel The Connection" With Your Kid
04 Mar 2024
00:53:48
Hey lifers!
Last week we accidentally breadcrumbed something but we are so excited to tell you that we now have a youtube channel!!! You can watch our episodes HERE! Please note that for our hard of hearing or deaf friends, you are able to turn on captions in your settings.
Lots happening in our personal lives with pets this week - Britt got into a brawl because Delilah apparently likes digging holes & Laura is adopting a cat.
When it comes to age gaps, how much is too much and do gender dynamics matter? We speak about KristinCavallari's (37) new boyfriend Mark Estes (24), and why the world seems to be up in arms about their relationship. We unpack the general perceptions of age gaps and our own experiences dating 'up' or 'down' age ranges.
Bradley Cooper has spoken out on a podcast saying that when his daughter was initially born, he did not feel a connection with her & it took him months to 'love' her. As outrageous as it might be to hear it, how common is this experience? We speak about how very common this seems to be for both mums and dads with their babies and why this seems to be the case.
The best of The PickUp - Give the woman her baby back
03 Mar 2024
00:32:27
It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.
Every week we are joined by our co-host Mitch Churi at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week! For more follow @THEPICKUP on socials.
I’ve been officially dating someone for about four months, but we were in a bit of a situationship for about 5 months before that and we were friends for about 3 years before that. We have already said ‘I love you’ and talked about the future, so we’re quite serious. The only thing is, after we had been officially dating for a month, he said that the ‘honeymoon phase’ was over and that he needed to start taking a bit more time to himself. It has caused a few issues, because he’s 30 and I’m his first partner, so he’s quite a solitary person, but I need quite a bit of attention. I’m starting to regret deciding to be exclusive, but it’s a bit too late to backtrack from that now. I’m not sure how to handle this situation, because I don’t want to be the nagging girlfriend who asks for more time, but I’m also starting to get resentful about not having more of his time.
A few weeks ago you answered the question to another listener about the girl who’s fiancé was going to propose to her when / after she gets her license. And an engagement under certain conditions, that was okay. My friend is in a similar situation with her boyfriend of 1 year. However, her boyfriend has said openly to her that he wants to marry her, but won’t propose to her until she gives up vaping and drinking on weeknights. I thought personally this could be problematic and potentially manipulative to have a promised engagement under certain conditions. I am dying to hear your take on this.
I feel like this is a stupid question but I have been out of the dating game for so long and I need to know what's normal. I went out on a first date with a guy and it was absolutely amazing. I was lucky enough to get a kiss at the end of the date and nothing else! We are going on a second date next week. Do I kiss him on the lips when I see him next or be polite and give him a kiss on the check?
When is 'too soon' to ask the person you've been going on dates with whether it's exclusive?
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