Today's episode is another classic Q&A episode where we take questions you guys have sent us and we discuss our answers. You won't want to miss this spicy episode!

2:00 How do I help my wife be more confident to initiate more?

8:40 How do you maintain intimacy through stressful times?

11:10 How do I help my wife get out of her head during sex?

14:55 How to not be grossed out by bodily fluids in mouth during oral sex?

19:07 How soon can/should sex be re-introduced postpartum?

20:02 We struggle to communicate what we need/want. Any tips?

25:50 How do I talk to my spouse about doing something new?

28:43 Is filming sex with my spouse okay?

31:37 How to keep sex fresh when TTC for 2 years?

35:16 Advice for a husband and wife that want to finish together?

40:16 How do you know if you’re orgasming?

42:41 Our “long sex” is great but we don’t always have time, how to have good <30min sex w/o warmup?

 

Links from today’s episode:

• Flirtation Experiment- Lisa Jacobson, Phylicia Masonheimer
• Awaken Love- Ruth Buezis 
• My Counselor Online
• Better Sex Through Mindfulness  Dr. Lorri Brotto
• Coconu Lubricant
• Her Turn Sex Challenge
• Anatomy Of Us: Makin’ Sex Tapes

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Tune into this fun Q&A where the Kingdom Sexuality team asks each other some surprise questions they've always wanted to ask each other. Plus, the answer questions followers on Instagram sent in about the future of KS!

Links from today’s episode:

• My Counselor Online (get $25 off when you use our link!)
• 177: Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire
• His and Hers Sex Challenges
• “It’s Getting Hot In Here” Sex Challenge

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Kyle and Alana had an amazing time interviewing Josh Spurlock, founder of My Counselor Online. Tune in as they ask him some of the "hot topic" questions KS gets regularly!

• 2:56 How do you gain confidence in the bedroom? “Husband wants me to initiate more but I don’t know how/scared”
• 13:17 How to handle, mostly women, with body insecurities?
• 22:55 How to increase sex drive for males? “My husband isn’t interested in me sexually”
• 25:40 How to increase sex drive for females? “I used to want sex before we were married, now I have no drive.”
• 29:04 How do you deal with periods where you’re not attracted to your spouse? How to tell your spouse? Should you tell your spouse? What to do if your spouse tells you that?
• 34:55 My husband wants me to __ but I don’t want to OR I am nervous to try that - how to handle these situations? (Wearing lingerie, oral sex, toys, etc)
• 38:28 How to handle the postpartum period sexually?
• 42:00 Overcoming pornography in our marriage? How do we go back to a “normal” sex life?
• 45:35 How to resolve sex drive differences?

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• My Counsellor Online
• My Counsellor Online YouTube
• Josh Spurlock.com

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It's a long one, but it's a good one. Ruth Joseph joins Kyle and Alana and shares her story of being in an unequally yolked marriage, how it impacts her life, and so much more. Ruth answers big questions like "does being in an unequally yolked marriage have an effect on your sex life?" and "what would your advice be to someone who's considering getting into an unequally yolked relationship?" Ruth’s handle is @iamruthjoseph, check out more of her content!! As always you can find more of our stuff on Instagram @kingdomsexuality!

Today Kyle and Alana have the pleasure of chatting with Tony and Alisa Dilorenzo, hosts of the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast and authors of an amazing marriage book called 6 Pillars of Intimacy! They discuss emotional intimacy in depth; how emotional intimacy is connected to sexual intimacy, and what to do if only one of the couple in the marriage is putting in the word to cultivate it. They touch on scheduling sex, doing sex challenges, and how sexual intimacy can be a barometer for the rest of your marriage! You're not going to want to miss this one. 

Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We post weekly couples challenges, have Wednesday "Hump Day's", and even a day of the week devoted to the men! 

You can check out Tony and Alisa's content here! 

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Here's part two of our episode with Samantha Enns, Kyle's lovely wife! Alana asked her the questions that our followers sent over on Instagram. Sam tackles some big questions like "Did you struggle with comparison, knowing what he'd seen?" and "Did his addiction impact your sex life? How?". Again, we are so sorry for those of you who are going through this. We're praying that Sam's vulnerability and Kyle's testimony will encourage you.  

Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly "hump day" sex positions, content for the men on Thursdays, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more!  

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Covenant Eyes use the code: KS30 for 30 days free!

Big thank you to this episodes sponsor, Faithful Counseling! Looking for some affordable Christian counseling? ⁠Use this link to get 10% off your first month!

If you haven't listened to Kyle's Sextimony episode we would highly recommend you do that before listening to this one! In this episode Alana interviews Kyle's wife, Samantha, asking her the questions that our followers sent over on Instagram. Sam tackles some big questions like "How do I check in without accusing him/prying too much?" and "How can you trust him after his struggles with porn?". We are so sorry for those of you who are going through this. Emotions are raw and it’s extremely difficult. But there is so much hope for you! We trust that Sam's vulnerability and Kyle's testimony will encourage you.  This will be a two part series with the next segment coming out next week, so stay tuned for more!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll see weekly "hump day" sex positions, content for the men on Thursdays, connect questions, couples challenges, and so much more!  Links from today's episode: Covenant Eyes use the code: KS30 for 30 days free!

Sex is everywhere we turn. Whether it's in a show we're watching, the latest Netflix release, on our feed as we're scrolling Instagram, on a billboard by the highway, or in the book we're reading. So many forms of media give us access to things that can often leave us wondering... does this count as porn? You're not going to want to miss this episode where Paris and Alana chat about: how do we know when the media we are watching goes too far? We might think "Everyone does it. It's not a big deal, it's not like I'm addicted to watching porn or something like that..." BUT, could what you're watching be breaking Holy Spirit's heart? Listen in to hear some ways you can protect yourself from this!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! We post weekly connect questions, "Hump Day" Wednesday's, share content directed to men on Thursdays, couples challenges, and lots more!!  Links from the episode: Plugged In IMDB VidAngel

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Let's get to know the latest KS team member, shall we? In this episode, Alana chats with Kyle and he shares his journey of overcoming a pornography addiction. Kyle goes into detail explaining his struggles, when he realized he needed to seek professional help, and gives really practical tips to overcome a pornography addiction. Have any porn related questions you'd like answered? Feel free to direct your messages to Kyle on the Kingdom Sexuality Instagram account @kingdomsexuality or shoot him a DM on his personal account @kyleenns.  And if you're not following the KS team already, go check out the Instagram account! That's where they'll share latest episodes, Wednesday "Hump Day" positions, connect questions, Thursday's "for the men", and so much more!  Links from today's episode: Covenant Eyes (use the code KS30 for your first 30 days free!) 30 Prayers For Your Husband Ebook 30 Prayers For Your Wife Ebook

Tune into this episode where Kyle interviews Dr. Cameron Staley to talk about his new porn recovery programs: The Life After Pornography online program and the Life After Pornography Coach app! Dr. Staley has a background in porn research and ACT therapy for overcoming porn addiction. If pornography is a struggle for you, or someone you know this is definitely an episode for you to listen to and share!!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! From weekly connect questions, "Hump Day" Wednesdays, to Thursday's for the men- there will be something for you!  Covenant Eyes is also an incredible program that helps by restricting access to pornographic websites on your devices, helping you to end your pornography addiction! Use to code "KS30" when you sign up to get your first 30 days free!! 

Due to an internet issue this once full-length episode has been cut in half and turned into a "teaser episode" of a more in depth one to come! Listen in as Alana, Paris, and Kyle chat about masturbation and sex toys and their roll in the marriage bed. Have some questions for the team around this topic? Shoot us an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com and we'll do our best to address it in our later episode! Thank you for your grace and patience!  Links from today's episode: Faithful Counselling Evelyn James: betrayal coach

Don't miss this in depth episode that covers SO many good topics! Alana and Kyle tackle the questions you sent us on Instagram- we had put up stories asking what women would want to ask a man, or what questions men would want to ask us. And they were really great questions, so we're going to break it up into a bunch of parts and tackle them over time! So if your question didn't get answered this time, make sure you listen to our upcoming episodes and we'll likely answer in the future! Kyle and Alana discuss a lot about cultivating emotional intimacy, communication, orgasms, pornography effects on your spouse, and so much more!!   Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! You'll find weekly connection questions, Wednesday "hump day" sex positions, "Men's Day" Thursday's, and so much more! Links from today's episode: Purity Culture Episode 1 Purity Culture Episode 2 The Womanhood Diaries: Orgasms Let's Chat Orgasms- the how, techniques, + more.

You're not going to want to miss this incredible episode on navigating sexual rejection! It's time to have a real moment with yourself next time your partner initiates intimacy and you decline the offer... take a moment to ask yourself: WHY though? If I'm too tired to do this or am I just wanting to do something else? Is this really a 'not tonight's moment' or can it simply be a 'not right now, let me decompress from a hard day' moment?Are you up for other things? A naked body massage, cuddling and kissing, etc. We're NOT saying you have to say "yes" every time if you're not actually in the mood. But sometimes it's VERY easy to 'just say no'. We have to remember that this isn't something that if you tell them no they can go ask one of their buddies if they want to go and do this with them. This is something only you can give. It's a gift that only you can give them they cannot find satisfaction in anything else without breaking God's covenantal design for marriage. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more of our content! And check out our website to see our KS merch and incredible ebooks! Links from today's episode: Emotional Intimacy Episode

Continuing on with the premarital conversation from a few weeks ago but in a new light: "what if we've already had sex?" Today's guest and former KS host, Rusti, talks us through her story and journey to finding healing from the shame of her past.

Links from today’s episode:

• Intimate Issues
• Starting Life Together Bundle

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We have a HUGE announcement at the end of this episode so make sure you listen to the end to find out what's new in the KS world! Did you know 1/3 of our followers are guys?! We noticed that we've been getting more and more messages from the men asking questions, or women asking things on behalf of their husbands. So we had Kyle come on so we could pick a man's brain on some of the questions we've been working through! Things like: is it valuable for men to be listening to our episodes? and how can men be having more of these intimate conversations with their wives? So guys, we hear you, and we’re here for you! Shoot us your messages on Instagram @kingdomsexuality, and we'll get back to you! Be sure to follow so you can see weekly couples challenges, Wednesday "hump day" sex positions, our "men's day" Thursday's- and so much more!!

Time to tune into another Q&A episode!! Alana and Paris discuss some of your most asked questions like: how to stay connected (non-sexually) with your spouse when you have little ones, how to bring up the topic of intimacy with your spouse without it being awkward, what to do if you're struggling with arousal, and so much more! If you're a fan of Q&A's feel free to send us more questions on our Instagram account! Go follow us @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see weekly couples challenges, Wednesday "hump day" positions, connection questions, and so much more!  Links mentioned in today's episode: Great Sex Rescue- Sheila Wray Gregoire  Nitty Gritty Wedding Night Run Down Taking Charge of Your Fertility

EVERY one of us has differing sexual desires and libido, it’s unique to us, just like our finger print. Yet so many couples struggle and feel isolated when they have varying sex drives from one another. One spouse is typically labeled as "high drive" and the other is "low drive". But should we even be using the term high and low drive? Could it turn into a label that can potentially carry identity? Listen in as Paris and Alana dive deep into varying sexual desire, debunk myths, and shed light on topics usually kept in the darkness. Follow us on Instagram @KingdomSexuality to see so much more! We share weekly couples challenges, connect questions, a Wednesday "Hump Day" sex position, and much more! Check out our website for more resources and our shop: www.kingdomsexualityministry.com Links from today's episode: 30 Prayers For Your Wife Ebook Cultivating A Missional Marriage Episode

Listen in to another episode of the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast as Alana and Rusti ask each other the question: is sexy just a state of mind? It's time to ask ourselves some questions too! Like, what does it even mean to be sexy? Or to FEEL sexy? Does it have to do with appearance or is there more to it than that? What's something my spouse does that I find sexy- and do they know it??  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to join the community! We share connect questions, couples challenges, "hump day" Wednesdays, and so much more! Don't forget to check out our website as well we're you'll find out more about us and you can see resources that we love and trust! www.kingdomsexualityministry.com

Are you in those first fresh years of marriage? When everything is shiny and bright with the future wide ahead of you? Such a precious and exciting time in life! But it can also be a season filled with unmet expectations, struggle, and unanswered questions. Like many, maybe you're sitting there wondering: "Why don't I want sex as much as I thought I would?" or "How can I go about telling my spouse if I'm not feeling completely satisfied where things are at right now?". Pop in your headphones and listen in as Paris and Rusti chat though those questions and so much more!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see when that new resource is live!! You'll also see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, Wednesday "Hump Day" positions, and more! 

Gearing up to your wedding night and not sure what to expect? Do you have some big questions but don't know who to get to answer them? Tune into this fun episode where Alana and Rusti share the nitty gritty's about the wedding night! They discuss pain, condoms, lube, and so much more! If you're engaged and getting married soon you're not going to want to miss this one!  We also have an amazing in-depth resource coming for you soon, so keep your eye's out for that!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see our latest posts, reels, and giveaways!  Links from today's episode: COCONU (use our code: kingdomsexuality for a discount!) GLYDE CONDOMS Love Your First Year: Premarital Course

Are you in a season of waiting? Maybe it's waiting for a boyfriend. Or perhaps you're waiting for your wedding day! Listen in as Alana and Paris chat about these seasons, share their hearts on the periods of waiting, and where to focus your heart in these times. They also discuss boundaries- what does it look like to have boundaries before you're married? What lines are okay to cross? How far is too far?? You're not going to want to miss it!  Be sure you're following them on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to be where the action is happening! You'll see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, "Hump Day" Wednesdays, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for them? Feel free to send a DM on Instagram or send an email to: kingdomsexuality@gmail.com Links from today's episode: Singleness: Interview with Jody Nagyl Singleness, Sexuality, & Confronting The Past with Jody Nagyl Premarital Preparation... God's Way The Ultimate Premarital Chat Authentic Intimacy Singleness Blog Post

YOU asked and THEY answered! Tune into this amazing episode with the whole KS team; Alana, Paris, and Rusti, answer questions that were submitted over on Instagram. They answer questions like "how can I get my mind into love making?", "what does intimacy look like once you've got little ones?", "how do you navigate differing sex drives?", and so much more! The team gets real, sharing their hearts on some big questions!  Anything else you'd like to ask the team? Feel free to send them an email kingdomsexuality@gmail.com or DM on Instagram @kingdomsexuality. Be sure to follow Kingdom Sexuality on IG to see weekly couples challenges, connect questions, Wednesday "hump day" sex positions, and so much more!  Links from today's episode: Praying For Your Wife Ebook Mentionables (use code KINGDOM10 for a sweet discount!)

Last week the Kingdom Sexuality Team went over a bunch of things that sex is! So this week, Alana and Rusti chat about some of the things that sex is NOT. Things like: sex is not a form of currency, it's not something you have do so you're spouse doesn't have their needs met somewhere else, and it's not always clean and comfortable! Sex is a bunch of things, but there are a lot of things that sex is not. So listen in as we get super honest and open about some lies floating around about intimacy!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more! We post weekly "hump day" sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! 

The world around us displays sex in a very specific way. It's glamorized to look like this erotic, romantic, perfect, multiple-orgasm experience every. single. time... And so many of us say "I Do" and expect that to be what goes down in the bedroom but we're hit with the realization that sex, like everything else in life, is a learned skill that you'll get better at over time!  So put in those headphones and listen in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti get back to the basics and go over the fundamentals of what sex really is. Sex is a gift from God, a learned skill, a covenant reflection of Christ's love for us, a means of fighting spiritual battles, and SO much more!  Be sure to follow along with us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see more! You'll find weekly challenges, sex position ideas, connect questions, sweet discounts, and so much more!  Links from today's episode: KAC Podcast: Sex and Marriage- Paris Simpson & Alana Martens Ultimate Intimacy App

The Purity Culture conversation continues! This time Alana and Tiera are joined by Hanna from the 'Say What?' podcast! They chat purity culture, vaginismus, pleasure, orgasms, and more!

Links from today’s episode:

• Hanna Say What? Website
• Hanna’s IG
• Subscribe to Hanna's YouTube Channel
• Her Turn Sex Challenge
• His Pleasure Sex Challenge

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The long anticipated, much requested, birth control episode is finally here! After numerous attempts at recording this, Rusti swooped in and did a beautiful job breaking down natural family planning, how you can go about tracking your cycle, gauging when your ovulation is happening- all to help prevent pregnancy or assist you if you're trying to conceive! If you have any questions about today's episode feel free to shoot us a message on Instagram!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see all of our weekly challenges, "hump day" sex positions, connect questions, and so much more! Have a topic request for us? Feel free to DM us on Instagram or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com Links mentioned in the episode: Taking Charge of Your Fertility Paris' personal Instagram account: @sheswildandwell

Tune into this amazing episode that was requested by YOU! Alana and Rusti chat about some "do's and don't's" when it comes to conversations with your friends about your intimate life! What's okay to share? How do I even bring this topic up with friends? What if everyone judges me for asking this question? They cover all those questions and more! Be sure to listen till the end to hear the "practical application" side as Rusti and Alana share some things that you could bring up in conversation with trusted friends.  Are you following us on Instagram? Check out our page @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, connect questions, discounts on amazing products, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion? Shoot us a DM on Instagram or an email to kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! 

Listen in as Alana and Rusti share their hearts and chat about spiritual gifts, what it looks like using them in your marriage, and how to begin walking in a missional marriage. They also share some advice for those in the relationship who are the ones running hard after Jesus and how to navigate life if your spouse isn't on the same page as you yet. If you’re not following us on Instagram be sure you check us out @kingdomsexuality! You’ll see weekly challenges, “hump day” sex positions, exciting discounts, and so much more!! Have a topic suggestion for the KS Team? Shoot us a DM or an email at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com!

THE BIG QUESTION: Is your marriage reflecting Jesus’ love to those around you? If you’re unsure of how to answer that question, I think it’s time to do some heart work. Think about it! You and your spouse were put together for a purpose. You each individually have a specific calling and gifts that were given to you and passions that get you fired up. So then, when you put those gifts, callings, and passions and combine them with your spouses- you become a powerhouse for Jesus! So tune in as Alana and Rusti chat through what it looks like to have a marriage on mission! (Part two of this conversation will be coming next week!) Join the community of likeminded believers on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Can't wait to see you over there. 

Ready to have a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist answer YOUR questions?? Callie Teel, PT, DPT is a dedicated follower of Christ and a long time Kingdom Sexuality fan. She has a passion for helping women overcome dysfunction and embrace the sexual beings God created them to be. She graduated from Texas Tech university Health Science Center with her doctorate in physical therapy and then trained to become a pelvic health specialist. She now works in Amarillo Texas, helping women with all kinds of things like; pain with intimacy, difficulty climaxing, pre and postpartum care, incontinence, constipation and so much more. She did a beautiful job answering your questions and sharing her wealth of knowledge with us- this is an episode you're not going to want to miss!! Callie and a coworker created their own podcast “Pelvic Service Announcement” to educate and empower others about their pelvic health! Be sure to check it out!  And if you're not, be sure to follow us on Instagram as well @kingdomsexuality where you'll see all of our latest updates, weekly sex positions, connect questions, discounts on great products, and so much more!! 

YOU ASKED and WE ANSWERED! Here are some of the questions we've received on our Instagram account about the three of us! So we; Alana, Paris, and Rusti, share more about who we are! We chat about what we do on the daily, if we were virgins when we got married, what our love languages are, favourite part about doing this ministry, and more! Put in your headphones and get to know us better!!  Feel free to share some of your own answers with us over on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! Over there you'll see us share weekly sex positions, connect questions, and so much more! Have any more personal questions for us? Shoot them our way either in our DM's or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! 

Does your sexuality need a life preserver? Has purity culture, church culture, LACK of of information, or trauma creeped its way into your sex life and you feel like you're about to drown? In this interview Paris and Rusti interview Sheila Gregoire, author of "The Great Sex Rescue" ( and many others, check out her new revised version of 'The Good Girls Guide To Great Sex' ) and chat with her about her study of over 20,000 women with the goal of getting to the heart of our struggle with sexuality. You guys are NOT going to want to miss this one!  If you're not already be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality where you'll find weekly couples challenges, connect questions, sex position ideas, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send us a DM on Instagram or an email: kingdomsexuality@gmail.com! 

We’ve done an episode on “spicing it up” in the bedroom before, but now that we’ve got Rusti here and since it’s been a long time since that episode came out (fun fact, that was our 4th episode to be released) it seemed like a good time to make a “spice it up 2.0”! If you’ve been married for any length of time you’ll know that sex can easily become routine. We’re busy people! The list of things to do is never ceasing and ever growing- we need to pick kids up from school, take out the trash, get food on the table, spring clean, and see friends… so when there is a spare moment to be intimate it can easily turn into a 10 step list of things you do every time. And a routine can be great, but maybe you’re ready to try something different or long to add some fireworks and butterflies again! So we’ve compiled a little list of some ways that you can go about spicing things up! If you're not, be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! That's where you'll see weekly couples challenges, "Hump Day" sex positions, connect questions and so much more!  Link to our ebook: HERE

Recently on our Instagram Rusti shared a handful of hindrances very briefly that could impede us from that body shuttering, skin tingling, hair raising prize. Today we're going to go a little bit more in depth, give some more background information that will hopefully help gain more wisdom when it comes to understanding why we might be struggling to reach orgasm. We absolutely want to preface this with the fact that we will be discussing sexual trauma a bit and so this is a trigger warning in case you are still going through your healing. We want to be sensitive to those listening who are working through trauma, so the KS Team wanted to make sure you had ample warning! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to join the community! You'll see couples challenges, weekly sex positions, connect questions, and so much more! 

Tune into this fun interview with author, Karin Freeland! Karin has published a book called "The In's and Outs of My Vagina: A Penetrating Memoir", and she shares how she came to write this book, some of the hilarious and relatable stories in it, and so much more! You can find Karin on Instagram @karinfreeland, and her book is on Amazon and BarnesandNoble.com!  Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and more!

So many of us enter into marriage only to then realize that how sex was taught to us- impacted us! Is pleasure possible after purity culture? Tune in to find out!

Links from today’s episode:

• Episode with Jess Seitz

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It’s about time the KS team did an episode solely on this topic! We’re not sure why it seems to happen this way, but there is this switch that so many of us come across as newlyweds. We go into marriage assuming that this magical switch is going to flip and that they can go from thinking that sex is bad/dirty/something we shouldn't want… to thinking that it’s incredible and love every minute of it. That’s a big switch to flip!! So tune in as Alana and Rusti tackle this big topic! Links from today’s episode: @loveyourfirstyear Find our ebook on our website: www.kingdomsexualityministry.com! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You’ll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more!

What does your dream date look like? What does your spouses dream date look like? Are they similar or super different? Tune in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti share what their dream dates were and what their husbands were! Have the chat with your spouse, then after doing the date try out some new sexual technique! The KS team goes through 4 different techniques that can be helpful to try in the bedroom, so listen in to hear those after they share their dream dates!  Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see when we're uploading new episodes, weekly sex positions, couples challenges, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send us a DM on Instagram or shoot us an email kingdomsexuality@gmail.com, we'd love to hear what your dream dates were!! 

Kyler and Britt from @loveyourfirstyear take this episode over and tackle some amazing questions that you guys sent in specifically to be answered by a man! They did an incredible job sharing their hearts and answering your questions around sex and marriage. Be sure to follow them on Instagram @loveyourfirstyear to see all of their content that's geared towards engaged couples and making your first year of marriage a fantastic one! And be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and so more!

Happy Valentine's Day, Kingdom Sexuality listeners! They decided to switch things up and go a different route for this Valentine's Day episode! Listen in as Alana and Rusti chat about the slightly less glamorous side of intimacy. They go over an array of sticky situations that can occur, common hiccups that can throw a wrench in your sexy plans, embarrassing things that are totally normal to occur during lovemaking sessions. So buckle up, get ready to laugh and let's go! Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more!!

Tune into this incredible episode where Alana and Paris interview Dan Purcell from Get Your Marriage On! about all things sexual confidence. Dan shares so much incredible wisdom around navigating confidence in the bedroom and what you can do if that's something your spouse struggles with! Be sure to follow Dan @getyourmarriageon, and be sure to check out the "14 Days of Sextimacy" challenge as well, he shares more on that over on his account. Be sure to follow the KS Team on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Links from todays episode: -Great Sex Rescue: Sheila Wray Gregoire -Celeste David: Marriage Labratory -Intimately Us App

The KS team put a questions box in their stories over on Instagram asking if you guys had any questions around the upcoming holiday of Valentine's Day! So tune in as Alana, Paris, and Rusti tackle these amazing questions! They talk about ways to spice your Valentine's Day up, how you can celebrate if you're long distance, gifts ideas for him & her, and so much more!  Make sure you're following them on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! Come join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and tons more! Links from the episode: Melt Massage Mentionables Honoring Intimates

Welcome back to another episode of the Kingdom Sexuality podcast! This episode is extra special because Alana and Paris have the opportunity to chat with Rusti (our newest KS team member) and introduce her to all of you! You'll get to hear Rusti share her beautiful sextimony and encourage those of you who maybe feel easily replaceable, or like they have a void in their life.  Get excited to hear from Rusti more! She has such a heart for this ministry and is going to bring a new angle to the podcast, and we can't wait to see how the Lord uses her in this ministry. Following us on Instagram? Check us out @kingdomsexuality to see weekly couples challenges, Hump Day sex positions, connect questions, reliable Godly product recommendations, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion or question for us? Shoot us an email: kingdomsexuality@gmail.com

The sexual relationship thrives when a marriage is safe, honest, and full of selfless love. But what does a thriving sex life look like in a Christian marriage? Or should we even be asking that? Maybe instead we need to dig into the word and see what the Bible says marriage and intimacy needs to look like. So get comfy and join Paris and Alana as they get back to the basic fundamentals and go through 4 important cornerstones that a thriving sex life always includes! (4 core points shared by @evelynjames) Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community of like-minded believers who are also journeying through this with you! You'll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connection questions, and more!

You want a bomb, spicy, solid, exciting marriage for 2022? We love it. But maybe you’re in a place where you have no idea where to start. Maybe there’s some deep pain, insecurities, or just an overall feeling of being ‘lost’ within your own marriage and you're not sure how to get from point a to b. So tune in Alana and Paris dive into 5 super practical ways you can up the emotional connection in your marriage. Follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more! Have a topic suggestion for us? Send your email to kingdomsexuality@gmail.com!

BONUS EPISODE! Since Alana and Paris now put out episodes bi-weekly they realized that you were only going to get one podcast episode before Christmas, and that didn't seem okay. So here's a special bonus episode chatting about a topic that YOU requested! Alana put a questions box on Instagram asking for Christmas episode suggestions and many of you were wanting tips for how to stay intimate with your spouse during the business of the holiday season. So if you're wondering what remaining intimate looks like while traveling, staying with family, having less than ideal sleeping situations, or having family over for Christmas- this episode is for you! Links mentioned in the episode: Get Your Marriage On! app Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality! You'll see weekly challenges, "hump day" sex positions, connection questions, and so much more! Have a topic you'd like to have us chat about? Shoot us a DM on Instagram or email us at kingdomsexuality@gmail.com. 

The newlywed season is such a sweet season in life! We get this precious time to learn so much about each other. But how do we navigate the difficulties well? Tune in to find out!

Links from today’s episode:

• Spontaneous vs Responsive Desire
• Love Language Quizzes
• Engagement Guide
• Wedding Night Guide
• Newlywed Guide
• Starting Life Together Bundle

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The Christmas season is upon us! Which means that life might be getting a smidge chaotic. Maybe you're staying at your in-laws over the holidays or have piles of family coming up to visit- this episode is hopefully going to help you become more intentional about carving out time with your spouse despite what's going on around you.  Links mentioned in the episode: -The Next Right Thing with Emily P. Freeman -"Not Your Mama's Holiday Traditions" Kingdom Sexuality episode Follow us on Instagram? Check it out @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, date night ideas, and so much more! Join the community and say hello! Have a topic suggestion you'd like us to tackle? Feel free to DM us!!

Every couple goes through crises in their marriage, whether it's big or small. But are we equipped to stay connected when life gets shaky? Is our first response to choose connection with our spouse when our negative emotions come bubbling up or do we disconnect from them- creating a gap between us? Listen in as Alana and Paris discuss some roots of crisis that often show up in our marriages and some reminders for you to stand on when you’re in the thick of it. This episode is packed FULL of valuable information, you’re not going to want to miss it!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality and join the community! You’ll see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, date night ideas, and so much more!!

Does sex ever feel more like something you have to check off a list and less like something you look forward to? Join in as Alana and Paris as they chat about why sex might be feeling like a chore and some really practical ways for how you can work towards changing that!! Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kingdomsexuality to see weekly sex positions, couples challenges, connect questions, and so much more!