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It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma - Trauma, PTSD, Abuse, Anxiety & Recovery - Joe Ryan

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Joe delves into the complexities of trauma and its impact on behaviors, emotions, and relationships. He emphasizes the importance of being authentically courageous and vulnerable. Joe shares his expertise and personal experiences to help listeners understand and overcome their struggles. The podcast provides a supportive and empathetic space for individuals to learn, reflect, and take steps towards a more authentic and fulfilling life. For access to all episodes and bonus content, subscribe at https://joeryan.com/subscribe

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EP 0088 - Fear Of Setting Boundaries

mardi 15 octobre 2024 • Durée 30:33

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Empowering Individuals To Break Free From Childhood Programming, Emotional Paralysis, and Family System Roles. This is not traditional talk therapy. Inner Work Coaching is a raw, honest, personalized experience.

It’s Not You – It’s Your Unfinished Abandonment

You keep hoping one more conversation, one more perfect boundary, one more explanation will finally make them see you, respect you, love you the way you deserved as a child. It won't. The only person who can give that to you now is staring back in the mirror, and until you stop running from that truth, the wound stays open and bleeding.

The Core Wound Keeps Getting Reopened

Joe lays bare how childhood abandonment doesn't vanish when you grow up—it just finds new hosts. Whether it's parents, partners, or bosses, you recreate the original betrayal by self-abandoning to keep others comfortable. The fear of setting boundaries isn't really about conflict; it's terror of reliving the moment love was withdrawn because you dared have your own needs. Healing begins when you stop outsourcing your worth and start feeling the rage, grief, and terror that protective people-pleasing has buried for decades.

Boundaries Are the Only Door Out of the Prison

Setting limits with the people who raised you is non-negotiable if you want freedom. Every time you visualize saying no, your nervous system screams abandonment all over again—that's the exact feeling you must learn to hold without collapsing into caretaking, rage, withdrawal, or dissociation. The work is brutal: sit in the body sensations, write the unsent angry letters, practice disappointing them in your mind until the shame loses its grip. No shortcut, no bypass, no amount of insight replaces actually doing it. The payoff is massive: you stop needing their approval to breathe, relationships become mutual instead of survival transactions, and the inner war quiets enough for real choice to appear.

Three Important Takeaways

Boundaries with parents trigger the original abandonment terror—you must feel and tolerate that bodily panic instead of soothing them to escape it
Self-abandonment is an addiction learned in childhood; breaking it requires weaning off external validation through repeated, uncomfortable practice
True healing is never intellectual or performative—it lives in grieving the unmet needs, accepting what cannot be changed, and taking full responsibility for your own nervous system regulation

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jeudi 10 octobre 2024 • Durée 00:52

Joe Ryan will host a sixty-minute Q&A session via Zoom once a month with limited spots to ensure full participation. If you'd like to join the discussion, please fill out the form below to receive an email notification when registration opens one week before the next scheduled session.
Topics: Trauma, False Self, Family Systems, Addiction,
Anxiety, Shame, Emotional Incest, Setting Boundaries

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EP 0075 - Family System Revisited

jeudi 26 octobre 2023 • Durée 21:37

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Family System Revisited builds off the Family Shame Episode (Episode 69), in which Joe elaborates on the pressures of family expectations and the toll it takes on a person in trying to fit into a family “system.”

When we're born, we're born into a system. We are thrown into an existing system and put into a slot. Family systems dictate how you are expected to act, appear in public and how you are supposed to handle actions and emotions from everyone within your inner circle. The pressure to act accordingly and do only what will get you positive attention becomes a burden you can only carry for so long. Eventually, the byproduct of all this shame, whether from someone else or your own self, as you feel you can’t live up to the standard set for you in this unhealthy system. What do you do to lose the feeling of worrying about what everyone wants, thinks, or expects from you? Learn what Joe had to do to teach himself to be ok with being able to survive and being seen in ways that weren't acceptable by his family system and move past all the guilt and shame he felt as a child for wanting things outside his place in the system.

In this Episode:

Learn to live a life outside of the role your family has set for you to live the life you want…one free of shame.

EP 0073 - Recovery Requires Action

mercredi 19 avril 2023 • Durée 15:06

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It’s Not You – It’s Your Refusal to Be Seen

You already know something is seriously wrong inside. You’ve read the books, saved the posts, journaled the insights, yet you still wake up in the same emotional prison. The brutal truth is that healing doesn’t happen in your head or through more information—it only begins when you finally let another human being witness your deepest shame and pain.

The Myth of Solo Healing

You cannot think, read, meditate, or affirm your way out of developmental trauma. Your nervous system was never taught how to feel safe while feeling. That capacity was supposed to come from consistent, attuned caregivers who mirrored your emotions with warmth and acceptance. When that didn’t happen, you froze emotionally while your body kept growing. Decades later you’re physically an adult but emotionally still a terrified, abandoned child trying to manage overwhelming feelings alone. That strategy has never worked and it never will. Real change requires being seen—really seen—by someone who can hold space without flinching, without fixing, without abandoning you when it gets ugly.

Why You Keep Avoiding the One Thing That Works

Reaching out feels like walking naked into a room full of people who might hurt you again. Your system remembers betrayal, rejection, and humiliation. Asking for help triggers the same terror you felt as a child when vulnerability led to pain or neglect. So you stay in the familiar hell of isolation, convincing yourself that more podcasts, more books, more self-help will finally be enough this time. It’s a lie you tell yourself to avoid the risk of being seen and potentially hurt again. But staying hidden keeps you stuck exactly where the trauma wants you—alone, ashamed, and small.

Series - Role Of Community - Part 2

mercredi 8 mars 2023 • Durée 08:28

Can I Recover On My Own?

Joe Ryan is a Certified Peer Support Specialist who knows trauma because he’s lived it and learned to live beyond it. Joe has been on a lifelong journey to overcome trauma, shame, and the demons that plagued him from early in life. Joe is turning his mission outward, helping others conquer their traumatic experiences through his podcast (“It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma“) and one-on-one coaching.

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Drew Linsalata, creator and host of The Anxious Truth. I am a full time graduate student in clinical mental health counseling on the way to being a licensed therapist. I’m an author, a speaker, and proud to be both an educator and advocate in the anxiety, anxiety disorder, and anxiety recovery community. I am also a former sufferer, having struggled with anxiety disorders and clinical depression for more than 25 years of my life before finally fully recovering around 2008.

- https://theanxioustruth.com/

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Series - Role Of Community - Part 1

mardi 7 février 2023 • Durée 08:36

Joe Ryan is a Certified Peer Support Specialist who knows trauma because he’s lived it and learned to live beyond it. Joe has been on a lifelong journey to overcome trauma, shame, and the demons that plagued him from early in life. Joe is turning his mission outward, helping others conquer their traumatic experiences through his podcast (“It’s Not You, It’s Your Trauma“) and one-on-one coaching.

- Website: https://joeryan.com

- Instagram: https://instagram.com/joeryan

- Subscribe: https://joeryan.com/subscribe/

- Coaching: https://joeryan.com/coaching/

Drew Linsalata, creator and host of The Anxious Truth. I am a full time graduate student in clinical mental health counseling on the way to being a licensed therapist. I’m an author, a speaker, and proud to be both an educator and advocate in the anxiety, anxiety disorder, and anxiety recovery community. I am also a former sufferer, having struggled with anxiety disorders and clinical depression for more than 25 years of my life before finally fully recovering around 2008.

- https://theanxioustruth.com/

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EP 0070 - Sitting With Uncomfortable Feelings

mardi 10 janvier 2023 • Durée 17:15

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It’s Not You – It’s Your Unfelt Grief

You've spent years running from the knot in your gut, the tightness in your chest, convincing yourself that staying busy or numb will make it disappear. But the truth is brutal: every distraction is just another way to delay the grief your body has been begging you to feel—and until you stop pretending it's not there, freedom stays out of reach.

The Body Holds What the Mind Refuses

Sitting with uncomfortable feelings means stopping the endless escape into thought, phone, work, or substances and turning toward the physical disturbance you've ignored for years. You locate the tension, anxiety, or ache—maybe your belly, chest, or shoulders—and breathe into it without running. This is grieving the losses no one ever let you mourn: innocence, safety, dignity. You allow the sadness, shame, and hurt to surface instead of shoving them down. The practice starts tiny. Lie in the dark, notice where the discomfort lives, and stay with it even when your mind screams to analyze or distract. When you drift into thinking, gently return to sensation. Three minutes counts. It's gym work for a soul that's been sedentary for decades.

Three Important Takeaways

Your body stores unresolved grief and pain as chronic tension or anxiety; avoiding it through distractions only makes it persist and distort your life.
Sitting with discomfort builds tolerance, spreads the held energy evenly, reduces overwhelm, and shrinks the power of fear, panic, and old reactions over time.

Interview - Adult Child Podcast

mercredi 7 décembre 2022 • Durée 01:29

A new episode will be out in a few days. Until then, you can listen to my interview on the Adult Child Podcast. In the interview, we discuss navigating dating with CPTSD, attraction vs. attachment, the importance of developing an unshakable sense of self., setting boundaries with family members, and the importance of sitting with our feelings. Listen On Apple Listen On Spotify

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EP 0068 - Grieving Loss

mardi 1 novembre 2022 • Durée 26:30

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It’s Not You – It’s Your Unfinished Grief

You finally let the walls down, showed every raw edge of yourself, and still got left bleeding. The brutal truth is that real vulnerability always risks devastation, yet staying protected guarantees you’ll never taste the depth you crave. Passive bandaids and spiritual bypassing won’t touch this wound—you have to feel every excruciating layer to come out stronger.

Grieving the Death of Who You Thought You Could Be With Them

This episode rips open the reality of loss—not just losing a person, but grieving the version of yourself that finally dared to be fully seen. Vulnerability isn’t a buzzword; it’s the terrifying act of handing someone the map to your deepest insecurities and hoping they don’t weaponize it. The host walks through his own brutal breakup after a year of unprecedented openness, showing how staying past the cut-and-burn point forces you to face denial, rage, despair, and eventually a hard-won acceptance. Grief isn’t neat or linear; it’s a chaotic soup of every emotion you’ve spent decades burying.

Turning Exposure Into Inner Strength

Most people slam the door the second vulnerability feels dangerous because old survival wiring screams that openness equals annihilation. But every time you cut and run, you reinforce the same small, defended self. The host reveals how leaning into fear, surviving the humiliation of being truly known and still rejected, dismantles the invisible shield piece by piece. You emerge with a quieter self-trust, less terror of being seen, and the ability to show up without the old armor. No one else can do this work for you; partners, success, or distractions only delay the inevitable confrontation with your own unprotected heart.

EP 0066 - Finding Joy

mercredi 14 septembre 2022 • Durée 21:58

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It’s Not You – It’s Your Fear of Joy

You stay perpetually braced for the next hit because joy once left you exposed and unprepared. Happiness feels dangerous when your nervous system learned that being present invites pain, so you trade aliveness for safety, scanning every room, every moment, for threats that might never arrive. The real tragedy isn't the losses you've survived—it's the life you're still losing by refusing to risk feeling good.

The Armor That Kills Joy

You've built an entire existence around staying guarded. Constant preparation for hurt, scanning for danger, staying busy or overwhelmed so feelings can't land. Joy gets squeezed out because being in the moment means dropping the vigilance that once kept you alive. Childhood taught limited joy, conditional on others' permission, and unexpected losses later reinforced that openness equals devastation. You ration happiness to match how much pain you think you can handle, burying a natural reservoir of joy under layers of fear, defenses, and external fixes that only numb the bad without ever creating the good.

Three Important Takeaways

Joy isn't the absence of fear—it's learning to move through fear instead of letting it dictate your capacity for presence and aliveness.
Safety built on avoidance and external crutches creates a small, boring prison; real freedom comes from stripping away the false self, sitting alone with the pain, and rebuilding authentic trust in yourself.

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