On this episode we speak with Mia Schachter about the interlacing of consent, sex, and spirituality.

Mia Schachter is an intimacy coordinator for film and television, and when they’re not on set, they’re your friendly neighbourhood Consent Wizard. They run workshops that highlight the creativity and magic of consent, so we had to know where that magic lies and how that ties in with sex and spirituality. This episode looks at Mia’s work and philosophy around internal and external intimacy.

Mia Schachter: @consentwizard

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On this episode we talk about what the future has in store for the podcast with some fresh talent that will highlight sex positivity from QT BIPOC perspectives. This podcast has been going on for over three years and it’s time that I pass on the baton, so to speak, to some fresh and creative voices from the sex positive communities. Isla Carlisle and Jura Hau have a lot to share from within the sex positive communities as QT BIPOC humans. In this episode we discuss their work, what it means for them to be non-binary, and what they want to bring to Intellectual Erection. Isla Carlisle: @cuddlesluut Jura Hau: @jurahau Kink Poc: @kinkpoc Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectualerection Twitter: @buttplugpodcast FB: @intellectualerecti0n

This is a trailer for the podcast to highlight some of the most fun, sexy, touching, and difficult moments on Intellectual Erection.

Intellectual Erection has been going strong for over three years. This trailer combines some of the funniest, sweetest, hardest, and most educational moments on the show. It is meant to bring some of you down memory lane and to give new listeners an idea of what the podcast is about. Please forward this short trailer to your friends and share it online to increate visibility for the sex positive voices that have shared so much on this platform. Thank you to all my guests and listeners for making this podcast what it is.

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On this episode I speak with Amy and Rob, a polyamorous couple who work together in a sex club and have quite a few stories about navigating their relationships, how they were introduced into the sex positive communities, and the fun and messy parts of working in a sex club. Amy and Rob share their stories with us about being initiated into the sex positive communities through relationships with interesting and caring people they’ve met early on in their lives. They’ve been in the communities for over a decade, navigating fetish events, sex clubs, and poly relationships. They discuss relationship anarchy, their preferred form of polyamory, and what that means for them, their other partners, and their emotional bond. Finally, they share some hilarious stories from inside the bowels of the sex clubs that are certain to make you laugh, or cringe. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Kit, a creative mixed bag of wonder, from being a daddy, a little, a dominatrix, kitty, web cam model, burlesque performer, masseuse, and spiritualist, to an overall fun and loving human who isn’t shy to talk about their multifarious identities and experiences. Kit opens up about some serious issues as well, like rape and mental health, and how these experiences have shaped who they have become, where they found strength in adversity, and how they’ve managed to overcome the suffering to be able to love, feel empowered, and share in sex positivity. Kit has a creative spirit that is brought to the forefront of their performativity in burlesque, stripping, drag shows, spectator sex, and web cam shows, as well as their most recent venture into spiritual meditation, tarot card readings, and massage. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Ace Allure, a professional tease, event coordinator and aquaflirt at Oasis Aqualounge, and burlesque performer, who opens up about how she became involved with the sex positive communities from an early age and what these experiences have helped her discover. Ace discusses her work and what she does at Oasis, the events she runs and participates in, and how her work helps fulfill the ever growing list of kinks she’s developed and discovered. She talks about her early sexual experiences and her very early interest in all things kinky and sexy, and how she began to realize that these experiences were accessible and eventually liberating. Ace is not shy about her love of all things pervy and her joy in exploring her body and celebrating pleasure in her weird and wonderfully sadistic ways. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Ashley, a webcam model, rope bottom, and overall kinky and sex positive human, who talks about her experiences entering into kink and bondage, and mastering sexual self-control through edging and periodic abstinence. Ashley talks about her early desires to be bound and restrained and how these manifested into her life almost by chance. She discusses how she found out about rope bottoming and what the experience was like for her. She talks about her work as a webcam model, and examines her sexual practices, like edging and denial as a spiritual form of sexual self-mastery. Ashley also opens up about polyamory, what it means for her, and how it liberated her from a feeling of feeling constrained, so that she could seek her desired constraints in bondage. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Pandora, a book keeper and personal trainer who has spent much of her life denying her polyamorous inclinations for the sake of satisfying the norms she grew up with surrounding love, sex, and pleasure. Pandora opens up about her experiences having been married and monogamous for most of her life, and having felt that she fundamentally denied her deeper desires to explore her sexuality, sex, pleasure, and the liberty to love multiple people. She examines the norms and pressures that prevented her from seeking multiple romantic relationships, which had for a long time been deeply rooted in her being. She talks about marriage and the performance of the good wife, while putting her own needs on the backburner, which have now become available once again after her divorce, and the challenges she now faces navigating the sex positive communities and poly relationships. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Lauren, an artist who crafts leatherwear, performs burlesque, is involved with the burning man community, and navigates the sometimes murky waters of poly, kink, and BDSM. Lauren talk to us about her work, what she enjoys most about creating, both in her workshop and on stage, and how her artistic life intersects with the sex positive communities. She examines the sometimes unpleasant aspects of navigating poly, kink, and BDSM, and opens up about how poor consent and dangerous practices in these communities can turn people away and make them hesitant to participate and to feel safe enjoying play. Find Lauren's work on: IG: @lavishleather Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Kat, an academic and sex therapist who offers some insight into why sex positivity is important for her, and how it helped shape her career choice and relationships. Kat discusses her academic and personal interests in polyamory, kink, and BDSM, although given her profession as a sex therapist, she ends up mostly questioning me. We discuss the nuances of polyamory and how it plays out in relationships, how people turn to polyamory as an independent choice and how sometimes people may see it as a way to solve issues in their existing monogamous relationships. Overall we get some insight on sex and relationships from someone who works with couples and issues around sex for a living. Find Kat @ https://www.katkovatherapy.com/ Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Dave and Gary, two cis men who cohabitate and have navigated the sex positive communities together to learn new things about themselves. Dave and Gary speak about their entry into the sex positive communities, their experiences navigating different aspects of these communities and how they have learned, broadened their perspectives, and experimented to discover what felt right for them. We get Gary’s perspective as a monogamous person on his understanding of polyamory and the people he’s met in the community, what it has helped him learn, and why monogamy works for him. Dave opens up about his feelings, and how he discovered new sexual horizons by exploring and experimenting with an open mind. Together, they paint an interesting picture on what it’s like to enter the sex positive communities as cis men, and what can be learned by navigating these communities respectfully. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Lewis, a fellow academic and professor, who opens up about how he navigates polyamory, kink and bdsm, with some academic nuances. Lewis discusses how he discovered non-monogamy fairly late in his life despite a persisting notion that monogamy never truly captured his way of being, dating back to high school. He dives deeply into his experiences, feelings, and pivotal moments that have shaped the way he now understands relationships, sex, and most of all himself. Lewis also challenges some of the ideas often taken for granted in the sex positive communities and gives us a chance to think about how we engage relationships, and others. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I talk with Eugene and Alexis, a married couple from Toronto, about what it's like to have a marriage and participate in the poly and kink communities, and how to navigate relationship communication about sex with others. Eugene and Alexis open up about their first sexual experiences, how they met, and eventually got married, and how their sluttiness developed communally as an activity that brought them even closer together. They discuss what it’s like to be married and play with others, how they handle jealousy and communication about group play, separate individual dates, and even dating other couples. They allow us insight into how love works between two people who are able to share it with others, along with some very steamy sex. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

Carling is a sex positive therapist specializing in sex and relationship therapy for polyamorous, LGBTQ+, and people living with STIs.

Having worked at an HIV support center and transgender clinic, Carling wants to provide therapy centered around sex and relationships for LGBTQ+ and polyamorous folx. We discuss her work and dive deeply into issues around sex addiction, INCELS, and misogyny, also looking at how toxic masculinity prevents men from seeking therapy

Shout outs in this episode:

Kat Kova (IG: @katkovatherapy)

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On this episode I speak with Greg and Edith about their relationship as polyamorists, their former marriages, and how they envision a future for poly folks. Greg and Edith open up about their former relationships, having been married and monogamous, and how their divorces led them to seek other opportunities in the sex positive and poly communities. They discuss their first date at Oasis Aqualounge, and how that first experience led them to form a relationship where they seek to explore their hedonism together. They examine what happiness means for them, what constitutes love and good sex in their relationship, and what they’re looking for in building a future together. Finally, they provide some insight into the sociopolitical issues faced by some poly folk and how the future might look brighter given certain changes. Find Edith's sexy fitness and kink pics on: IG: @edendeplume Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I chat with Lilly, a Swedish ballerina, who emigrated to Toronto and discovered her kinks and fetishes in the process. She takes us through her experiences and how she navigates all her intersecting dynamics. Lilly discusses how she became a “kinky, polyamorous, slut” after a Tinder date in Toronto. How a kink/fetish test awakened her interest in BDSM and moved her interests away from vanilla sex. She captures the nuances of polyamoury from her experiences and relationships, and gives us insight into the dynamics she’s experienced—what she liked and hasn’t liked. Lilly also describes the intricacies of rope bondage, being submissive, receiving pain, and dealing with the bruises in the aftermath and at work. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Nick about monogamy, and why it sometimes fails, how he discovered polyamory and came out, and we discuss some issues of consent. Nick gives us the lowdown on having been married for 17 years, having a child, and then realizing that monogamy did not work for him. He opens up about the difficulties of transitioning from monogamy to polyamory and the sense of relief at having discovered a space to feel good, physically and emotionally. He talks about his experience coming out as pansexual, and how this liberating experience has led him to a happier, more authentic life, and improved his sex life enormously. Finally, he talks about some matters of consent, and how consensual, intimate sex far outweighs the alternatives, for him. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with Cupcake, a human from Toronto who shares some insights on the experiences, dynamics, and politics of being in polyamorous relationships. Cupcake delivers a very well versed understanding of polyamorous relationships, from her experiences, readings, and having been around a diverse array of poly folks. She displays some of the communication techniques that are especially valued in the poly community, from being open minded, honest, critical, and unassuming. In this way, she allows us insight into what it’s like to be in the sex positive poly community, and how these relations play out to negotiate feelings, needs, and good sex. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On the first ever episode of intellectual erection, I interview Toronto based webcam model Vixen Vu about her experiences with pornography, web cam modelling, sex, kink, bdsm, and relationships. Vixen Vu talks about what it’s like to play with herself on camera, how she got into the industry, what her kinks and fetishes are, and where all this sex originated from in her life. She also discusses what it’s like to be polyamorous, the liberating and enjoyable aspects of her romantic relationships, and some of the difficulties she’s encountered in the poly community. Overall, we get a good insiders perspective of what it’s like to live the sexy life of an amateur porn star and cam girl, and what things look like behind the scenes, which may surprise some listeners. Find Vixen Vu on: E-mail: TheRealVixenVu@gmail.com Twitter: @TheRealVixenVu Public Snapchat: @TheRealVixenVu Tumblr: vixenvu.tumblr.com Instagram: @VixenWithClaws MyFreeCams: www.mfc.im/VixenVu ManyVids: vixenvu.manyvids.com Reddit: www.reddit.com/r/TheRealVixenVu Youtube Channel: VixenVu Blog: www.vixenwithclaws.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection

On this episode I speak with stripper extraordinaire, Mona Lott about what her vision of an ideal strip club would look like.

We begin this episode talking about squirting because Mona’s been doing it since she was 11! Sex work then came to her quite organically and she’s hopped around a lot of North American strip clubs. With a ton of diverse experience in the industry, Mona talks about why Toronto strip clubs were closed on the pretext of Covid safety while restaurants remained open despite a stronger infection risk. We end the episode by building Mona’s vision of an ideal strip club and talking watersports.

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@asabovesobehoe

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On this episode I speak with Jade Synn about her kinky gay witch self and how it came to be.

Jade Synn is a BIPOC, queer, witch from the US who started out as an erotica writer before moving into sex work and the sex positive communities. Jade shares some insights on intersectionality and cultural appropriation in spirituality, witchcraft, and the sex positive communities with a titillating personal tale at the end.

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@notjadesynn

@jadeday11

Jadesynn.com

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@submissivetiger666

@rubyrestrained

@ohmynoho

@makesperfectsex

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On this episode I speak with actor and writer Evan Spergel about navigating the entertainment industry as a gay man.  Evan has known he was gay since he was four. He has also known his strong pull toward the arts, especially in performance and writing. However, the entertainment industry has posed some obstacles in trying to market Evan’s image as sexually ambiguous, if not straight. These issues have inspired Evan’s writing and ambition to produce his own projects that he tackles with sexual energy. He recommends using sexuality in healthy ways like approaching your passion projects with the same sexual energy as you would a potential conquest. This, along with his dyslexia, makes Evan an unconventional and often poetic thinker, which makes this episode especially pleasant to listen to.    Find Evan Spergel at:  @evanspergel   Support Intellectual Erection at:  patreon.com/intellectualerection   Find Intellectual Erection on:  IG: @intellectual.erection  Twitter: @buttplugpodcast  FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with a panel of sex workers to create a guide for beginners interested in becoming sex workers. I have previously interviewed Lola Cheeks in an episode called “Miss Lola Jean the Sex Machine”, as well as LooLoo in an episode titled “LooLoo Sex working Through Tourettes.” Madison Rexx joins us for the first time on the podcast to create a panel of experienced sex workers providing advice for baby sex workers. We cover topics such as setting boundaries, knowing your worth, maintaining safety on and offline, client hygiene, vetting clients, and money matters. Overall, this episode serves to offer some advice for anyone interested in getting into camming, online content creation, massaging, stripping, and some full-service sex work. Featuring: @the_real_lola_cheeks @the_real_madison_rexx @techincallylooloo Sponsored Toy Review of @satisfyercom by @remedymoore for @redroompleasures Go to redroompleasures.com and use the code 'intellect10' to get 10% off your order.  Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual.erection Twitter: @buttplugpodcast FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Madison Winter about her decision to become an escort and advocate for sex work. Madison went to school for business and finance and began working in investment banking in the financial district. However, being a desk jockey under fluorescent lights wasn’t cutting it—she wanted something more exciting. So she took her transferable skills in client relations into the “bedroom” and began escorting. Today, Madison Winter is an outspoken advocate for sex work. We discuss whether sex work is subversive to capitalism, how the SESTA-FOSTA bills affect Canadian sex workers, and the humanity behind sex work. Shout outs in this episode: @weenerwoman @samanthaxreal Find Madison Winter at: @madisonwinterto Madisonwinterto.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey about her therapy, coaching, and trauma work with sex positive humans. ⁣ ⁣ Dr. Bisbey specializes in trauma care and clients with PTSD, because she has experienced PTSD as a survivor of sexual assault. As a member of the sex positive communities, she is able to address the specific needs of clients from the kink, BSDM, polyamory, and sex worker communities. In this episode Dr. Bisbey discusses how her trauma therapy is structured, and how a restorative justice model operates for perpetrators of sexual violence and their victims, in contrast to a “cancel culture” model.⁣ ⁣ Shout outs in this episode:⁣ @sit_with_kit⁣ ⁣ Find Dr. Lori Bisbey at:⁣ @drbisbey⁣ Drloribethbisbey.com⁣ ⁣ Support Intellectual Erection at:⁣ patreon.com/intellectualerection⁣ ⁣ Find Intellectual Erection on:⁣ IG: @intellectual_erection⁣ Twitter: @intellectual_EP⁣ FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Violet Hart about online sex work and foot fetishism. I also discuss the launch of my new Instagram @aesthetic.erection for selling sex positive fine art prints.

Violet talks about how she became involved in the sex positive communities with a very early interest in the fetish community and group play. Eventually she got involved in sex work through online camming and content creation, which allowed her the opportunity to engage in the niche market of foot fetishism. Violet loves the liberty and creativity of sex work where she’s free to express her quirks in porn and live cam shows. Overall, she only wishes she would have gotten into sex work sooner.

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@curtmontgomerytattoos

@jamesthefootguy

@zoeybellexoxo

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On this episode I speak with DJ Sofia Fly about how cis people can better approach discussions with Trans women around pleasure, intimacy, and their bodies.

Sofia fell in love with music and entered the Queer scene as a DJ to find a place of acceptance where she felt comfortable and ready to transition. As a Trans woman undergoing hormone replacement therapy, she discusses the changes she’s experienced in her body, her arousal, and sexual needs. Sofia talks about dealing with the internalized and misplaced homophobia of cis men in pursuing romantic relationships. We get into some etiquette for cis men around discussions about sexual interest, bodies, and genitals with Trans women. We end off talking about passability in the trans community, Trans representation in media, and Sofia’s music.

Shout outs in this episode

@jadenunfiltered

@poseonfx

@euphoria

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@djsofiafly

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On this episode we discuss everything from dirty talk to polyam communication, jealousy, and compersion with one of our favourite sex educators.

Niki has been on the show several times before to talk to us about consent, sex education, and dirty talk. You will definitely remember her bubbly personality and fun-loving approach to sex ed, and this time it's no different. We dive into all the lovely talk that happens in and around sex, from the things that make it work to the things that make it stop.

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On this episode I speak with foot fetish content creator Foot Guy James about creating ethical porn in collaboration with other sex workers. James gets into the origins of his foot fetishism in childhood and how that fetish materialized in adulthood and became a prominent part of his content creation. He discusses how his personal fetish and his hobby for producing porn transitioned into sex work. James also offers advice for men wanting to get into porn, particularly focusing on how to ethically engage with other sex workers for collaborations and general ethical practices in content creation. Overall, James demonstrates that sex work is work even though it can be simultaneously fun and pleasurable. Shout outs in this episode: @the_real_lola_cheeks @technicallylooloo @goddessvainx Find Foot Guy James on: @jamesthefootguy Twitter: @footguyjames Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with the wonderfully charismatic Jaden about their transition during the Covid-19 pandemic. Transitioning during the pandemic and the resurgence of the Black Lives Matter movement has been both challenging and powerful for Jaden. The amount of activism springing from the Black community has created an atmosphere of empowerment to embrace the body as a site of political activism against oppression. We discuss the complex interaction between the sex positive communities and Queer Black Trans bodies, with a focus on the infamous dynamics of race play. Finally, Jaden discusses their recent top surgery and what it’s like undergoing hormone replacement therapy to provide insight for other humans in transition or considering transitioning. Shout outs in this episode: @will.power.lavinia @noxshop @adriennemareebrown Find Jaden at: @jadenunfiltered Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Vanessa Vain about all things sex work, from camming to nude modeling, to full service sex work and porn production, with a focus on the activism in sex work. Goddess Vanessa Vain has done it all—cam model, nude model, full service sex work, porn, and content creator. We discuss what it’s like for her as a woman of colour to navigate sex work while some family and friends provide obstacles and other support, while her online activism dives some white men away and brings other clients in, and how race play comes into the work, which dives the question—Can race play be consensual? We cap off the episode with some dos and donts for clients seeking sex workers and end with a very sexy story. Listener question of the week: Can race play where a white male dom enacts white supremacist power over a BIPOC body ever be consensual? (Answer in comments on Insta @intellectual_erection) Find Vanessa Vain on: @goddessvainx Onlfans/manyvids @thevixenfiles Shout outs in this episode: @misslolacheeks @technicallylooloo @jamesthefootguy

On this episode I speak with Antuanette Gomez, CEO of the sex and cannabis company Pleasure Peaks, about the sexual health and cannabis. Antuanette Gomez is a Toronto based entrepreneur hoping to help humans with vulvas experience enhanced pleasure and decreased inhibitions. Her products focus not only on pleasure but also helping vulva owners with endometriosis, chronic pain, and trauma rediscover pleasure and improve their sexual health. Antuanette delivers on sex and cannabis from years of personal experience in kink, BDSM, and ployamorous relationships as well as the testimonials from her clients on her podcast Pleasure Talks. Her products range from lubricants, sublingual sprays, and topical creams, infused with CBD and THC, which she also teaches classes on using during sex. We also talk about the politics of drugs at the intersections of race and end, of course, with a sexy story. Find Antuanette on: IG: @antuanetteg Antuanettegomez.com PleasurePeaks.com Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

This is a rebroadcast of an episode I published in December 2019 with Mimi. I’m bringing this conversation back to the front because it needs to be heard again. I am also offering my platform (podcast) to BIPOC folx interested in amplifying their voice—interviews, prerecorded audio, podcast episodes—I’m happy to rebroadcast on your terms. From the original episode description: On this episode I speak with Mimi, otherwise known after dark as Miss Storm, about the her involvement in the BDSM, kink, fetish, and burlesque communities. Mimi talks about her complex intersections with sexual identity, BDSM, and her muggle life that certainly doesn’t permit her alter ego Miss Storm to surface. Her compartmentalized life is at times difficult to navigate but we get a small glimpse into her worlds that would possibly combine to form something like a submissive homoflexible dancing sex kitten. In the midst of it we talk about whether BDSM and sex can be cleanly separated, some fun stories, and a dark past. Shout outs in this episode IG: @remedymoore IG: @maisonchardonofficial IG: @tayloroakes IG: @yaz.thehuman Find Mimi on: IG: @_miss.storm Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with pornstar extraordinaire Malcom Lovejoy about the intersections of race, gender, and sexuality in porn and the sex positive communities. Malcom started doing sex work after a career in journalism and hip-hop, but he credits making porn as the best decision of his life. He discusses his experiences as a queer Black man making fem-oriented porn and how race and Black masculinity operate in the sex work industry. We have a long and intimate discussion about race play and racism in general in the sex positive communities toward a more intersection approach in sex positivity. Finally, Malcom ends off with a very sweet and sexy story that captures much of the magic of who he is as a human. Shout outs in this episode: IG: @1marlastewart IG: @taty_k_king IG: @bipoccollective IG: @sit_with_kit Find Malcom Lovejoy on: IG: @mindbenderlovesyou Twitter @mindbendermind Fetlife: lovejoyride Bandcamp: mindbendersupreme Malcomlovejoy.net Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with sex blogger Tatyannah King about race and sex positivity, Black Lives Matter, Covid-19, sex and pleasure, communication, watersports, and a surprise orgy. Tatyannah is working on her Masters in human sexuality while working on sex blogs, an app to support the Black community called Blex, and attending conferences and sex shows to network with sex educators. Together, we discuss how intersectionality could make the sex positive communities more inclusive, especially now that the Black Lives Matter movement has created space for Black voices to be heard. We also talk about how the covid pandemic has impacted Tatyannah’s work, we discuss pleasure, communication, and end with some wild stories involving pee and surprise orgies. Find Tatyannah King on: IG/Twitter: @taty_k_king Shout outs in this episode @1marlastewart @blex_app @satisfyercom @womanizerglobal Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Marla Renee Stewart about the broad range of sex positive work she does in sex education, writing, conferences, therapy, media, and advocacy. Marla’s resume is far too long to list here or to even cover meaningfully in the podcast, but we do dive into key sections of her work on sex education, writing, conferences, lecturing, and how intersectionality plays a role in all of her work. Marla discusses the work that she does with joy and passion, elaborating on her early inspirations and the continued meaning that is revealed in her efforts to enable intersectionality in the sex positive communities. We also discuss how her work has been impacted by COVID-19 and the resurgence of Black Lives Matter movement. Citations in this episode: Montañez, A. (2017). Beyond XX and XY. Scientific American, 317(3), 50-51. Accessible public article: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/beyond-xx-and-xy-the-extraordinary-complexity-of-sex-determination/ Find Marla at: @1marlastewart @velvetlipssxed @sdscon @sexdownsouthatl Velvetlipssexed.com Sexdownsouth.com Velvetlipssexed (youtube) Shout outs in this episode IG: @killermike IG: @lunamatatas IG: @sexwithdrjess Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

This is a remastered rebroadcast of an episode I published in June 2019 with Isla & Ruby, discussing sex work at the intersections of race, disability, and asexuality. I’m bringing this conversation back to the front because it needs to be heard again. I am also offering my platform (podcast) to BIPOC folx interested in amplifying their voice—interviews, prerecorded audio, podcast episodes—I’m happy to rebroadcast on your terms. From the original episode description: Isla is young, away from home, and about to get married, when she realizes there must be more to life than this. She’s already been making some money doing online sex-work, when, enter Ruby, she’s introduced to the possibilities available through full-service sex-work. Ruby had been working through an agency and showed Isla the ropes, a sort of mentorship. Eventually, Ruby went off to do independent sex-work and Isla has remained with the agency for the community and experience. They’re both good friends and here to share their individual takes on sex-work. Isla talks about what it’s like being an asexual Black woman and a sex-worker, and Ruby discusses her invisible physical disabilities and how they intersect with her sex-work. Together, they have found ways to help one another and advocate for healthy and informed ways to enter the matriarchy of sex-work. Find Isla on: Twitter: @ittybittyisla Fetlife: cuddlesluut Find Ruby on: Twitter: @ruby_rosegold Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear the second volume of sexy stories from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans that have been on this podcast. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! I am also offering my platform (podcast) to BIPOC folx interested in amplifying their voice—interviews, prerecorded audio, podcast episodes—I’m happy to rebroadcast on your terms. This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from my interviews on this podcast over the last two years. It’s a nostalgic trip down memory lane to help feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about orgies, gay rabbit holes, sploshing, squirting, DDLG, D/S, anal only, backward panties, bi threesomes, bus stop orgasms, making porn, gay threesomes, sex parties, edge play, and fingers in bums. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Tales from episodes with: IG: @charredcoalandgold IG: @will.power.lavinia IG: @ladydelphineto IG: @sit_with_kit IG: @aceallure IG: @ceciliamorrell.tv IG: @house.of.the.hanged IG: @amber_emery_ IG: @existentialcarousel IG: @ryzekink IG: @ryzeonline IG: @technicallylooloo IG: @yogiboyvance IG: @curtmontgomerytattoos IG: @50plusatip IG: @miaschachter Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode we get a deep dive into Lola Jean’s work from squirting champ to seven days of domination.

You heard bits of this interview with Lola (@lolajeandotcom) in our “What You Want to Know About Squirting” episode, and here you get the full conversation along with her discussion about sex work and domination (previously unreleased). This is part of a set of two episodes we’ll release this month as we prepare more juicy thematic episodes for you.

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This episode is a Facebook Live recording of a webinar I did on polyamory for Do More Photographers. I discuss my own experiences and lessons as well as those of the guests I have interviewed on my podcast on navigating polyamory. The title of this talk is “Polyamory: Or, how to love a lot of fucking humans” and it covers some polyam 101 information, such as definitions and types of polyamory, before engaging work on critical polyamory, misconceptions, challenges and rewards, communications, and most of all—Ethics! I discuss particular topics like decolonial polyamory, toxicity in polyamory, bullshit rules, radical honesty, and creating ethical polyam agreements with your polyfam. Shout outs in this episode: IG: @domorephotographers IG: @tinytayloroakes IG: @briannaphelan IG: @bofiguratif IG: tallbear_on_interestingwhites IG: @ihartericka IG: @house.of.the.hanged IG: @yaz.thehuman Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear the first volume of sexy stories from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans that have been on this podcast. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from my interviews on this podcast over the last two years. It’s a nostalgic trip down memory lane to help feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about car sex, train sex, scat play, the ol’ Eiffel tower, rope bondage, domming cis white men, sex with disabilities, an oasis orgy, on stage sub play, Montreal Fetish weekend, how not to anal, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Tales from episodes with: IG: @ceciliamorrellofficial IG: @sonicsensations IG: @theladyhenry IG: @meggwin IG: @freya_mcfarlane IG: @yaz.thehuman IG: @lettereleven IG: @torontodeadpool IG: @nicolledoublel IG: @taramansler IG: @_miss.storm IG: @tinytayloroakes Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear volume 5 of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 5 of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about sex while travelling, secretly getting off at home, gangbangs, unicorns, sex in nature, bondage threesomes, surprise guests, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Non-anonymous tales from: IG: @theboundrose (Fet: a-typeSub) Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with intimacy coordinator and fellow podcast creator Mia Schachter about creating intimacy and consent for film and television in the #MeToo era. Mia has been navigating sex positivity through art, performance, philosophy, and most recently in coordinating consensual boundaries around intimacy for film and television. She also offers classes online to help people understand and communicate their own boundaries. We discuss her work and its relevance in the #MeToo era to understand the emergency and necessity for intimacy coordination in media. We also discuss Mia’s podcast, Share the Load, which focuses on the invisible forms of labour diving in relationships. Find Mia on: IG: @miaschachter IG: @sharetheloadpod Twitter: @miaschachter Web: sharetheloadinc.com Shoutouts in this episode: IG: @curtmontgomerytattoos IG: @sho_theaffair IG: @insecurehbo IG: @twentiesonbet Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with (remotely) with Danica Darling, a sex worker, advocate, and fellow podcaster, all the way from Vancouver. Danica has been a sex worker for over 7 years and more recently has become a sex work advocate and podcaster to help destigmatize, decriminalize, and humanize sex work. We talk about her venture into sex work and how she became a regular university guest lecturer on sex worker’s rights after graduating with a psychology degree. We also discuss how COVID-19 has impacted sex workers from losing clients, to moving content online, and applying for the relief fund, which for some sex workers is inaccessible. Find Danica Darling on: IG: @danica_darling_ig IG: @50plusatip Twitter: @danica_darling Book Reference: Bullshit Jobs by David Graeber (2018) Shout outs in this episode: IG: @nicolledoublel IG: @girlswhosayfuck IG: @menwhotakebaths IG: @theorgasmbook IG: @weenerwoman Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear volume 4 of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 4 of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about sex in the corridors in highschool, poolside spectator sex, teasing for a threesome, stormy beach sex, transforming one person’s moans into genital stimulation, getting creative when you’re poor, scandalous teachers, an all-out bisexual orgy, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Non-anonymous tales from: IG: @damsel_avamoen IG: @theboundrose (Fet: a-typeSub) Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear yet another collection of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 3 of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about hot tub exhibitionism, accidental double-penetration, sex with the mover, swapping partners at a sex party, a burningman orgy, a kinky wedding, Russian tigers, summer flings, a Tinder date, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear another collection of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. Please send me your sexy stories (audio recording) to intellectualerection@gmail.com to be featured in future episodes! This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 2 so far of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about shibari, sex club adventures, near-death experience, sybian karaoke, BDSM, bondage, public homoerotic encounter, unicorn erotica, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Non-anonymous tales from: IG: @damsel_avamoen IG: @spiritsexlab Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode you will hear a collection of anonymous sexy tales from the lived experiences of fellow sex positive humans. This episode features sexy, fun, and outrageous stories from listener submissions. It is volume 1 so far of an ongoing collection of tales that will be released weekly to help you feel connected during the corona pandemic. You will hear stories about magical moments, pervy house guests, birthday orgies, threesomes, ex-boyfriend kinks, first encounters, erotic tales of domination, and some comic relief. Stay safe and healthy during this pandemic with some arousing stories to make your isolation a little less alienating. Non-anonymous tales from: IG: @sonicsensations IG: @damsel_avamoen IG: @spiritsexlab Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode I speak with Insta famous tattoo artist Curt Montgomery about his journey into the sex positive communities, as we isolate and continue to fight COVID-19. Curt Montgomery has been creating fine art for a long time. After partying away his 20s, then going sober for 18 years, he got into the tattoo scene and eventually realized there was a niche for highly sexual monochromatic tattoos. More recently, Curt’s tattoos have come to life as he’s embarked on a journey through the sex positive communities, experiencing for the first time in all their glory the erotic and perverse sex scenes that his tattoos depict. Now as he sits in quarantine and occupies himself with his art, his drawings and acrylics are inspired not by imagination but by memory. Find Curt Montgomery on: IG: @curtmontgomerytattoos IG: @sexyacrylics Email: curtmontgomerytattoos@gmail.com Shout outs in this episode: IG: @tinytayloroakes IG: @insideouttoronto Support Intellectual Erection at: patreon.com/intellectualerection Find Intellectual Erection on: IG: @intellectual_erection Twitter: @intellectual_EP FB: @intellectualerecti0n

On this episode we talk all about online sex work with some of your favourite humans, Isla Carlisle, Bailey Archer, Camden Peach, Ravyn Alexa, Cam Damage, and Ten Against.

We start this episode by going over the laws, bills, and legislations in North America that attempt to tackle issues of human trafficking and underage porn, while having serious consequences for sex workers, especially in terms of their ability to exist online. Then we discuss the work, challenges, and rewards that go into online sex work with some of our favourite sex workers that we highly recommend you follow.

Guests:

Isla Carlisle IG @cuddlesluut Twitter @ittybittyisla

Bailey Archer IG @bb.archer Twitter @bbarcher_

Camden Peach IG @camdenpeachxo Twitter @camdenpeach

Ravyn Alexa IG @ravynxalexa Twitter @ravynalexa

Cam Damage IG @notcamdamage Twitter @hannibaldamage

Ten Against IG @ten.against Twitter @tenagainst

Shout outs:

Zenaya Rose IG @ittybittynotitties

Pineapple Support IG @pineappleysw

Vespa IG @latexvespa

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