Honey You're Ruining Our Kid – Détails, épisodes et analyse

We are back. Season 3 kicks off with a bang after a long summer break Honey! You’re Ruining Our Kid! has a bulging sack of emails from parents with all kinds behaviours they need to sort out. Get involved and email us at honeyyoureruiningourkid@gmail.com or follow us on Instagram.

Question 1 Restoring Boundaries When Tantrums Break Them Down!

Is your child testing your boundaries? Has your patience worn thin? You are not alone. In this week’s episode Tina tries to help a mum who is struggling with meltdowns, tantrums and risk taking. How can she bring some balance back into her home? How can she reset the boundaries and return her house to the calm she is craving? 

Question 2 Throwing It Back In Your Face!

Children all experience different phases in terms of the interest in developing or acquiring new movement skills. Developing your child’s ability to throw something is actually a huge milestone. However what do you do when your 1 year old seems to have an innate ability to throw. Not just balls, but everything. This behaviour can quickly become out of control and sometimes dangerous. How do you go about redirecting the interest whilst still nurturing the skill? 

Question 3 I Think My Child Is Gifted!

Navigating your child’s development can be so incredibly stressful. Worrying about them reaching all their milestones so the health-nurse can tick her/his agenda for ‘normal’ development off her chart. What do you do and where do you go if your child is showing signs of giftedness? Everyone will have advice but like everything, is it your mammy gut that should guide you in deciding how best to approach this with your child. There are always other areas that children need to develop. So if learning is coming easy, use that free time to help them grow their interests in sport, music, social and emotional areas. 

Finally a parent gets in touch about their 9 year old boy who is terrified of putting on weight. What can you do if a negative body image had taken hold this early in life. Tina has seen this a lot and has a few excellent strategies that might be able to help.

Thank you for supporting our podcast. If you want to hear more why not head over to our Patreon to listen to the extra large episode and our archive of episodes. This week a parent gets in touch about her 7 year old who is terrified about putting on weight. What can we do if our kids already have a negative relationship with food and their body image.

We cannot believe it’s the final episode of season 2 of Honey You’re Ruining Our kid. 

We will be back in September with a brand new season for you all to enjoy. Thank you for supporting our show, you guys are just the best. Our show has grown because you guys have supported it and we are so appreciative. Emails will stay open all summer long, you need me, I’ll be there for you, that’s the whole reason for our show. I want mums and Dads to feel less alone. 

Question 1 "The Worst Waiting Game"

Waiting for your child to have their needs assessed is the longest waiting game you’ll play as a parent. While you wait the feeling of isolation and worry can be overwhelming. This week a mum gets in touch wondering how she can help her son while they wait. There are so many online resources available to us these days. Once we know how to access them we can absolutely take control and try different things while we wait for the assessments teams to catch up. 

Question 2 "My Kid Is Worried At Night"

If your child is complaining of a pain in their belly and the doctor can’t find a reason why, then anxiety probably is the reason. We see it all the time, children who are feeling worried but that worry is manifesting as a real pain in their stomachs. How do we help them through? How do we teach them how to cope? When it starts affecting their sleep, then this rolls out to affect the house, what can you do to both help your child and get the house back on track?

Question 3 "My Kid Is Testing The Limits"

How do you get your out of control 5 year old back on track. If he’s exhibiting new behaviours and testing your limits how do you get him back to being a calm and happy boy. Fair rules, set boundaries and seeing through consequences can change your life. Listen in to hear how best to put them in place. 

We wish you guys a happy summer ahead. Emails will remain open, pop one over whenever you need us and we will try our best to be there for you - honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com. 

Why not play catch up while you wait for the next season? Season 1 and 2 are available wherever you get your pods. 

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Tina has three coping strategies for three parents trying to get on top of their little angels’ persistent behaviour. With 20 years in education, special needs and severe behaviour schools, she has seen it all. However gentle parenting seems to be getting bad wrap. Is it for you? Is it a misused term? Where are people going wrong with it? We think it’s just generally misunderstood. 

Question 1- 

What do you do when your six year old son is still pooping in their pants. When your head is melted and you’ve exhausted every toilet training trick in the book, is there any hope? Jarlath and Tina assess the options available.

The excellent Dr David Coleman has sparked a discussion about kids and their right to defend themselves if being bullied. This is of course an every day worry for parents and kids alike. How do you deliver the permission for your child to hold strong though? When your words carry such weight, you need to tread carefully with your delivery. 

Question 2- 

This week a dad gets in touch concerned with what he sees as his daughter’s imminent weight gain. He is looking for ways to educate her so that she does not develop an eating issue. Currently she has no issue and exercises regularly. We get the feeling it’s dad who needs to reflect on his relationship with food. Maybe if we as parents are worried about the food our kids are eating in the home, we should stop bringing those snack foods into the house.

Question 3. 

When they are small we break our backs establishing the perfect bedtime routine only to let it slide away as they grow up. But we all need a bedtime routine. So how to we re establish one? This week a mum gets in touch because her 9 year old daughter thinks her 9pm bedtime is too early! In this episode we try and help this mom reintroduce an age appropriate bedtime routine so that she can have some well earned ‘me’ time at the end of her very busy days. 

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Is your husband trying to turn the kids against you? Is your kid in a toxic friendship and needs your help to get out of it? Does your kid have an unhealthy obsession with your new partner? Yes? No? What the hell? Either way today's HYROK episode is a scandalously good listen with Tina on form answering some of the toughest questions we have ever received.

Question 1- 

A single mum gets in touch wondering how she can best protect her children while coping with her ex husband’s negative behaviour towards her. 

Parental alienation is thankfully a recognised crime now. Are there enough supports out there when it happens at a very early age and hard to pin point what’s actually happening. Who can you ask for help? How do you survive and maintain your mental health. Moms tend to only care about the welfare of their children but sometimes putting yourself first really matters too. 

Question 2

Friendship issues are a daily worry for most kids. A lot of the time it is agonising to observe as a parent. What is the best approach? Shut down the friendship? Go to the parent? Or get the school involved? An incredibly hard one to navigate but arming our children to stand up for themselves and to be happy in their own company is equally important. 

Question 3

What do you do if your child think he’s in love with your new partner? For this listener the crush might have developed into an infatuation and their child's entire behaviour is changing. How do you get them back on track? How do you curb their new obsession while teaching them boundaries and respect? This week a stressed out dad gets in touch with this exact problem.

Easter break is in the books. Maybe you got a rest. Maybe your kids ran you ragged and their return to school is your first chance to breathe out. According to the recently published Aldi Mammies and Daddies Report into the lives of Irish parents the later is probably the case if your're the Mammy. Jarlath was invited onto Jen Hogan's "Mamia And Me" podcast panel to discuss the findings to see if they match up to what we are seeing here on Honey! You're Ruining Our Kid. Along with our 3 brilliant questions from the listeners, this week we dive into those findings and the disproportionate impact parenting has on women rather than men. How important is it for us to change the old school views that form the seed of these problems. Shout out to the amazing little toddler who brought the entertainment on the day of the live recording. She won the room.  You can listen to the episode very soon here.

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This parenting lark isn’t getting any easier this week we have a host of questions from our lovely listeners. Ranging from hair problems to potty mouths. There's a heap of great recommendations and big laughs in this fantastic episode.

Question 1-

A single dad gets in touch looking for advice on how best to care for his little girl's hair. Luckily we have the best solution for this particular question. Braid Maidens! An online or in person braiding tutorial to suit all parents including the ones who have never brushed long here before. It's allrun and created by the lovely Annis. Her success rate is 100 percent. https://www.braidmaidens.com/

Question 2- 

How do you clear your name if your reputation in your home is "Evil Step Dad"? Can the relationship with your step kids be saved if they’ve already decided their new dad is a big ogre. Does the problem stop with you or them? Who needs to take action? Can it be fixed? 

Question 3- 

For whatever reason when children curse we find it adorable. Obviously a potty mouth toddler isn't ideal but who can you stop the habit before it's too late. Is it ever too late?

Are you in a situation with your kids? Drop us an email honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com

Every week the extended cut of our episode is available on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad - this week we hear from a Dad who is simply not enjoying fatherhood. That sense that being parent is not what was advertised can leave you feeling very low. You are not alone if you're feeling this way.

Welcome back to another episode of Honey You’re Ruining Our kid. Slightly delayed episode this week but totally worth the wait. We have a new segment as Jarlath starts this week's episode with some of the weirdest shit of the week. From being Papped to children on planes to saving a kid from drowning - this episode is great craic and has heaps of helpful information regardless of what relationship you have with the kids in your life.

Question 1- 

If you have a kid who is struggling with anxiety don't worry an all too common problem for our children these days. A wonderfully generous mother has gotten in touch with a portfolio of help for us all. How do we help our kids push through? Should we make our kids push through? Are we actually building resilience by forcing our kids to take part or are we adding to the problem. All of us are flying blind when it comes to equipping our children for this modern world so it’s so incredibly helpful when parents come together to pool their resources. 

Question 2-

Bed wetting is everyone’s nightmare problem. Nothing makes a morning more stressful than additional showers, more laundry and mattresses hanging out windows in an effort to get them dry for round 2, later that night. How can we help our kids get through the night without having an accident? I believe a consistent plan is key, but how can an already very tired parent push through with a consistent plan? Is the return of some sleep motivation enough? 

Question 3- 

Everybody poops but goodness is it stressful when your kid starts refusing to. Holding onto their poos is a very common early childhood problem. How can we help our kids navigate this uncomfortable phase.  When they are teeney tiny we absolutely encourage you to bring them to the GP. Is there anything else that can help?

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Kids can be very mean - even tiny little ones! What do you do when you find out your kid is being isolated by her "new best friend". Flying into a fit of rage is one option but Tina has a few other approaches that won't land you in front of a Judge. Today on HYROK a lot of the conversation is around confidence and how to build it in a child. Don't let anyone tell you that self-belief is organic or just in their DNA. It is a learned behaviour and a quality we can help grow in the younglings! Having a fungal infection sure won't help. One Mom gets in touch with a very tricky skin situation. As a very sweaty man, Jarlath knows the pants this kid should be wearing and as a child behaviour expert with 20 years of experience in the business, Tina knows what steps to take to help this kid through this.

Over in the extended cut on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad you can hear Tina's ultimate life hack for parents with kids that won't sleep. Come on over and join us. Come see Jarlath live on tour - his new show is all about growing up and coping with the world. www.jigser.com/gigs is where you can find all his tour dates. Move fast they are all selling out - he's added two more dates at Dublin's 3Olympia!

Boy do we have a banger of an episode for you. Not only have we three great questions, we also have advice on what questions you should ask your kids to get them to reflect and open up to you.

Question 1.

Phobias, we all have one - don't we? If you don’t, well well done on your mental health and/or living in denial. This week a mother gets in touch about her daughter’s phobia of stickers. Tina knows only too well the hell of pittakionophobia. She has suffered with it for years. Maybe you are dealing with it too. Listen and maybe get in touch with your ideas to how to move through a phobia with a small child.

Question 2.

Eating disorders are so scary and as parents we all have the responsibility of feeding our kids but also keeping a watchful eye for any dysfunctional thinking around food. How do we teach our kids about fuelling? How do we help our children to be happy and at home in their miraculous individual bodies? Where do we go for help if and when we need it? We absolutely recommend going to your doctor and seeking a referral if you feel like you need that.

Question 3.

When a loved one suddenly passes how do you help your kids cope with their grief while you manage your own? What do you share, how do you share? We think you just try and be as open and honest as possible. Find your comfort level. Allow them to be part of the funeral celebration, try not to exclude them from the mourning, instead help them feel part of the goodbye.

If you have questions ping them into honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com.

There's even more of this episode and all our episodes on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad - pop over and see what you're missing. This week Tina follows up on a previous email and we get to hear the most imporatant question you will ever ask your child.

Does your kid refuse to do any chores around the house and if they do, it's a HUGE deal? Was your kid an angel last week but now won't listen to a word you say? Take a deep breathe. The kids back at school. Now it's time to examine what the hell happened over the midterm. Jarlath and I have a banger episode to help you make sense of it all.

Question 1- 

No matter how much they might want you to believe it, getting your child to pull their weight around the house is not a violation of child labour laws. If you’re raising your children on a farm how do you get them to be stake holders in the farming process? Motivating our kids to be active participants in how the family runs it’s day to day is a major issue in almost every house. Have we unwittingly raised entitled kids who don’t think they have to help out in the home? Children who don’t even consider that to be one of their responsibilities? How can we get that them involved and get everything back on track. 

Questions 2- 

The Terrible Threes are a real thing. This week we hear from a mom whose behaviour has flipped upside down. She’s gone from being overly obedient toddler to a completely independent young woman toddler who can’t be reached. Tantrums for days and a mom struggling to cope. How can we help her and get her three year old to be reasonable and approachable again? 

Question 3- 

Picky eating kids are a dime a dozen but that doesn't have ot be a reality we accept. Today we hear from another exhausted mom who is worried about how little her kid eats. Tune in to hear how Tina’s Tapas technique can change your life! No exaggeration this technique works every single time. 

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If you're exhausted and out of ideas, if you can't summon the energy to deal with another one of your kid's tantrums, if you feel like you just need 30 minutes with people who get it. You are in the right place. Welcome back to another episode of Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid. Thank you to the legend that is Bridget for this extra Monday off in Ireland. If you're not in Ireland, take today off and say it's part of your religious beliefs.

Question 1- 

A parent gets in touch about a teenage sleep over dilemma! What do you do when your daughter wants a sleep over with 4 of her close friends but one of them is her girlfriend? Is it okay to say no to partners in the house before the age of 16. How do you navigate this intimate situation when other parents have expressed their approval. Do you dig the heels in or is there another way?

Question 2 - 

How do we help our children understand what they are feeling? This week a mum gets in touch exhausted by her child’s dramatic outbursts. How do you educate your child about their feelings and how to navigate the constant emotional waves? 

Question 3- 

Weight issues are the thing that’ll keep any parent up late at night. Trying to get your child to love themselves and be body proud is a constant battle in the current image obsessed media age. What do you do if you uncover that your child is secretly eating while you all sleep?

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If you are having any parenting nightmares, if they just won't listen, if some shit just hit the fan and you have nowhere to turn...get those parenting questions into honeyyouareruiningourkid@gmail.com.