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Mom guilt can feel SO heavy in one season of life, and lighter in others. If you’ve yet to feel one of the lighter seasons, today’s episode is for you. We are here to tell you that we see you and we hope that today’s episode helps to open up the conversation about mom guilt.

In today’s episode we both share how our mom guilt has changed over the years from when our children were infants to their ages now. For Abby, mom guilt currently shows up with her children’s involvement in sports and being able to spend time at practice and games with all the other life things going on creating schedule conflicts. Amy shares that having one child who is a deep feeler and big reactor requires a lot of hands-on parenting and how that has affected her other children and the guilt that comes along with making each of her three children feel special. 

Something both of us can relate to is the guilt that comes along with being a working mother. Amy finds encouragement thinking about the other working moms in her life that are both amazing career women AND amazing mothers! Seeing the proof you can be both at the same time and reminding yourself that your work is important for your family makes the guilt a little less heavy. Whether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, working to release the mom guilt will lead to a happier life!

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Divorce is a heavy topic, but it happens and that’s why we thought it was important to bring you this episode. We are so lucky to have Kate Anthony as our guest for today. Kate is a divorce coach who helps women decide if they should stay or leave their marriages and is a wealth of knowledge of the divorce process. Whether today’s episode applies to you personally or not, it could be helpful for your sister, friend, or other family member. We hope you take what you need from today’s interview with Kate and pass this episode along to someone you know who may need the information too.

There are two big common misconceptions about divorce that Kate breaks down for us. Lots of people think that couple’s therapy may be the first step towards reconciliation. However, it is not always the answer and Kate tells us which marriage scenarios should actually avoid it. If divorce is the route you choose, Kate shares with us how she thinks you should go about the first steps of the process as well as some important “do’s and don’ts” of divorce. 

If you, our listener, is living in an unhealthy marriage, we want you to know that you deserve to be happy. Reach out to a marriage coach, someone like Kate, who can help you discern what your next steps should be and utilize their resources. You deserve happiness and we support you! 

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After seeing some of Lindsay’s work through a friend, we knew we needed to have her on our podcast. Lindsay Bryan Podvin is a licensed social worker turned financial therapist, and the first of her kind in Michigan! As a financial therapist, Lindsay’s job is to look at the emotional side of money and help others with their mind/money connection.

Money is a hot topic whether you’re single, partnered, or married. Sometimes we think we are doing worse financially than we really are. Lindsay’s work with individuals and with community groups has shown that you may not be as bad off as you think! It’s important that we understand our emotions behind money and understand things like why it may be hard to stick to a budget and why we feel the way we do about money. And it’s people like Lindsay that can help you figure that out!

If you have a partner, discuss and get clear on what your financial goals are as a couple. And if one partner makes more than the other, it’s important to have a game plan on how your finances will be shared. Making sure that you are being transparent about your debts, salary, and spending habits is part of financial fidelity. 

Lindsay touches on other trending topics like “loud budgeting”, 9 financial goals for couples in their 30s and 40s, her financial type quiz and book titled “The Financial Anxiety Solution”, and even gives us a mini therapy session! You won’t want to miss today’s episode, and you’ll probably want to pass this along to your partner too! 

Links & Resources:

Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course

Follow Lindsay Bryan Podvin on Instagram

Lindsay’s Website

Listen to Lindsay’s Podcast: Mind Money Balance

Purchase Lindsay’s Book; The Financial Anxiety Solution

Lindsay’s What’s Your Financial Archetype Quiz

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Before we jump into this episode, we wanted to let you know that it is longer than our usual episodes, and we talk about some heavy stuff in this one. In fact, this might be the type of episode where you take a couple of breaks while listening, and one that you send to your partner to check out. Today, we’ll be talking about what would happen if we should die, which is a topic that could take a while for you to process, because as you’ll hear, there is a lot to consider here. 

Our expert guest today is attorney Eric Christoffersen, who has been with the law firm Grams & Christoffersen for 13 years and counting. He started as a law student, clerking for Founder, David F. Grams who established the firm nearly 30 years ago. After graduating law school, cum laude from the University of Wisconsin Law School, he became an associate attorney and then later a shareholder. Now with 11+ years of practice experience he is the Managing Shareholder of Grams & Christoffersen, S.C., leading a great team to serve their clients into the future.

We think this episode with Eric is a really important one, and we discuss something that a lot of people will go through in their lifetimes. We feel that thinking about the future is worth having an entire episode on, and we hope you get a lot from this interview with Eric, who was in charge of helping Amy plan for her future. 

If you found this episode informative and helpful, we would love it if you shared it with your friends and loved ones, and let us know your biggest takeaway by tagging @gcestatelaw and @herselfpodcast on Instagram! 

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Their Instagram & Facebook

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Today’s episode expands on the feelings of burnout and overwhelm that we’ve been talking about, and our hope is that it will give you some tangible tools and ideas for how we’ve worked through it in different seasons of our lives. 

Both of us are moms of 3 children, with careers, partners, houses and laundry. We get it! We’ve been through all the tough seasons where we just weren’t asking for help or accepting it from others. In this episode, we reveal some personal stories of times where we were really overwhelmed, and we share what worked, what didn’t quite work, and how we have been able to get to where we are today in this area. 

As you may know by now, our self-care course is live, and you can go to https://herself.teachable.com/ to register now! We have made this course to help women take better care of themselves by using research, quotes from experts, what our community has told us and from our own experiences. We’ve built this course to be something tangible that you can use not only today, but for days and weeks on end! If you go to https://herself.teachable.com/ and use the code ‘earlybird’, you’ll get 30% off the price of the course, which is the biggest discount we will offer on it, but hurry as this code will expire next Monday, October 17th, 2022! We can’t wait to start this journey with you, to a more fulfilled you! 

We’d love it if you could share this episode and message with anyone you feel could benefit from it, because overwhelm is such a relevant topic today for so many people. Don’t forget to tag us, @herselfpodcast, and let us know what resonated the most with you! 

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Links & Resources:

Register for our Self-Care Course now (and get 30% off with code ‘earlybird’)

149. Amelia Nagoski on Overcoming and Preventing Burnout

106. HERself Expert: Author Eve Rodsky on Sharing the Load at Home 

Big Little Feelings

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Today we are diving into the all-too-familiar topics of stress and burnout with our special guest, Amelia Nagoski. Amelia is an author, speaker and conductor who holds a Doctorate in Music from The University of Connecticut. She wrote the New York Times bestseller, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, with her identical twin sister, Emily. The book contains science and stories for people, especially women, who have felt exhausted and overwhelmed by everything they have to do, yet they still feel like they’re not doing enough. 

This conversation with Amelia is a reminder to take yourself seriously and to start listening to that voice inside of you. You won’t be able to show up fully in this world until you begin taking this thing called burnout seriously, and by figuring out what your needs truly are! 

We’d love it if you could share this episode and message with anyone you feel could benefit from it, because burnout is such a relevant topic today for so many people. Don’t forget to tag us, @burnoutbookgroup and @herselfpodcast, and let us know what resonated the most with you! 

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Links & Resources:

Get Your Copy of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle 

Amelia’s YouTube Channel, Autistic Burnout

Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne

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Is clutter holding you back? Would you like to have less clutter in your life? This is something many of us face, and we have a super tangible and relatable episode for you today about this topic! Katy Wells is a declutter expert who has turned her own life from cluttered to peaceful using the practical tips that she shares today, along with giving herself a ton of grace in the process. She’s helped thousands of families gain control of their households through solving their clutter problems at the root. She’s also helped them generate momentum towards building a home they love, and that allows them to focus on what really matters. 

It is our hope that this conversation with Katy inspires you to tackle one room, or even just part of a room in your house today! Tag us, @katyjoywells and @herselfpodcast, with your pics of these projects because we want to see the transformations we can all start to make not only in our homes, but also our mental space. After listening to what Katy shares, you’ll see that decluttering truly can impact our lives for the better! 

MEET Katy: https://www.instagram.com/katyjoywells/ 

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Links & Resources:

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Katy’s Podcast & The No-Think Solution to Simplify your Wardrobe Episode 

Artkive

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Welcome to this bonus episode of HERself! It is our dream to someday bring you two episodes each week, so today is the test for that. What you might not see behind the scenes is that our amazing sponsors want a certain amount of downloads, so we have an ask of you. If we do go to two episodes a week, it’s important that you keep listening and sharing these episodes to help us accomplish this dream! With that being said, we’re excited to continue providing you with the best resource that we can to support you along your journey. 

Today we want to reflect on Episode 146 with Dr. Becky, because Dr. Becky is someone who meets people where they are, and she’s not the type of expert who will shame you by pretending there is a “perfect” way to parent. Rather, she is trying to come alongside you and to help wherever you are. 

Implementing some of the things that we talk about in this episode can make such a difference in helping you and your kids to get through the tougher times, by you providing support but not solving every problem for them. It might not show up at that very moment, but little by little you’ll start to see that all these hard conversations will lead to some really amazing transformations! 

Again, we would be so grateful if you could text, email, and share this episode so that we can bring you even more content weekly. As always, we want to hear your biggest takeaways and how this has helped you, so please tag us at @herselfpodcast! 

Feeling burnt out? Longing for more time and energy for yourself? Don’t know where to start? We’ve been there. Let us help you navigate this busy season while making yourself a priority. Go to https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6324c8a1821b5d8e1a7d5466 and be the first to know when the doors open on our new self-care course! 

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Links & Resources:

Join the Waitlist for Our New Self-Care Course! 

146. HERself Expert: Clinical Psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy on How You and Your Child can Feel Good Inside & Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

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You are in for a treat today! We are so excited to be bringing you our conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy, who is a clinical psychologist, mom of three, and founder of Good Inside, the expert-guided, community-powered platform equipping parents with a new way of seeing and solving challenges at home. 

Dr. Becky meets parents where they are at, and it’s so refreshing to get her insight on parenting, because a lot of these conversations are often happening behind closed doors. Today’s episode is a reminder that wherever we are in motherhood, we can start over right now by re-evaluating and changing our behaviors. By doing so we’ll not only help our kids, but we’ll start to help ourselves in the process. 

We encourage you to visit Dr. Becky’s website at https://www.goodinside.com/ and check out all the amazing resources that she has available for moms, and if you enjoy this episode, we’d be so honored if you shared it on Instagram, tagging @drbeckyatgoodinside and @herselfpodcast. 

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Her Instagram 

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One subject that comes up over and over again with our community is friendship, so we’re excited to bring Dr. Marisa Franco, a psychologist and friendship expert, back on the podcast today!

Some of the things we cover in this episode include keeping friendships healthy when we’re in a busy season of life, tools for navigating conflict in friendship (and why conflict isn’t necessarily a bad thing), and ways to approach ending a friendship if the time comes for this to happen. Dr. Marisa also shares her best tips for making new friends, what to say when first engaging with new people, how strong friendships benefit our overall well-being, and so much more. 

We really want to make friendship uncomplicated for you and meet you where you are, because it’s normal to feel nervous about these topics. If friendships are something that you’re working on, like we are, we are proud of you because we recognize that this can be hard! 

If you enjoy what Dr. Marisa shares today, you’ll want to get a copy of her brand new book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends, which is available now! As always, we also want to hear your biggest takeaways from this episode, and you can tag us on Instagram, @DrMarisaGFranco and @herselfpodcast. We’d love for you to share this information with others, because it’s so important for us to work on and build the friendships we all have in our lives! 

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Get Dr. Marisa’s Book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends (available now)! 

59. HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships

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