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Ever wondered why your breakup hurt so much — even when they weren’t right for you? In this episode, we explore the real reason behind your pain: the unmet childhood needs that confuse safety with love. You were never "not enough" — and this shift will set you free. What if the pain of your breakup isn’t really about them at all? What if it’s about a much deeper, older wound — one you’ve been carrying since childhood? In this potent episode, I’ll guide you through the hidden reason your breakup hit so hard — even if the relationship was toxic or unfulfilling. Spoiler: It’s not because you weren’t good enough. It’s because, like so many of us, you were unknowingly chasing the feeling of love — which your nervous system confused with emotional safety and connection. We’ll explore: 💔 Why you may still be subconsciously seeking external safety that feels like love 🧠 How your childhood survival patterns became adult relationship struggles 🚩 Why you’re attracted to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners 🔥 The shift that sets you free: dating from joy and wholeness, not need 💡 How to stop confusing temporary relief with lasting love — and reclaim your worth This is the missing piece you’ve been searching for.  The wake-up call your subconscious has been hinting you need.  You were always lovable, even when your early life didn’t reflect that truth. 💫 If this resonates, please share it with a friend who needs to hear it — and leave a review so more women can find this work.

🧠 Want to go deeper? Explore coaching, therapy, and healing support at 👉 www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Thinking about saying yes to a friends with benefits (FWB) situation - but worried you might catch deeper feelings?

It’s a valid fear - especially if you’ve ever struggled with anxious attachment, emotional vulnerability, or are still healing from heartbreak.

In this episode, I walk you through how to stay grounded, emotionally safe, and in alignment with your true Self before you dive in. Because yes, the chemistry might be fire - but your peace matters more. 🔥💗

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Sometimes we’re just not in the mood to be our most loving self - how very 'normal human’ of us.

BUT, if you find yourself thinking and acting in these negative ways more often than not, it means you’ve adopted a mindset that just isn’t truly serving you. 

Tune in to this episode to take a deep dive into 4 narcissistic tendencies that we all do - and have the power to change. 

You’re here because you know you deserve a life that feels wonderful… not one that feels lonely, depressing and lacklustre. 

Ready to turn up the dial on the love you’re generating in your life, and make you more of a vibrational match for the warm, abundant, love-rich life you so totally deserve?  

Let’s get you closer to the love and life that’s here and waiting for you -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Sometimes, it can feel like what we want is so far out of reach that it’s impossible to get, ESPECIALLY when it comes to finding a loving partner and an aligned, healthy relationship. 

Even if you have done work on yourself and you thought you’d mastered manifesting, sometimes we’re still not experiencing a reality that reflects what we want.  It can feel very sucky indeed… ask me how I know!

The good news?  There’s a reason for it.

The even better news?  We have the power to change up our reality.

This episode explains how to use neuroscience and the nature of reality to unblock what we want most.  As an added treat, there’s a powerful guided visualisation folded in too.  Delicious. 

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369 Did you like today's episode?  If so, you'd be helping me out so much by leaving a written review on Apple Podcasts - thank you! Xx

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Hi Loving Soul, I'm honoured to be here serving you up everything you need to get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve! Let's get to it - 

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Music Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Breakups don’t have to break you.  In this episode, I share the raw truth about post-breakup panic and the paradigm shifts that helped me move from codependency to confidence — and attract aligned, healthy love. I’m the first to admit that I used to find it VERY hard to deal with breakups well.  I was an emotional wreck every. single. time. and spent most my waking hours consumed with sadness. No matter how unjust their behaviour was, how brutal the break up was and how poorly they treated me… the fact is I would have done ANYTHING to get them back.  Focusing on my situation this way made me feel lost, alone, and touched very raw childhood wounds around unworthiness and unlovability.  The shock of it all triggered my nervous system and I could only feel raw emotion - my prefrontal cortex literally couldn’t think straight because in this state of high emotional charge, our hard-wired survival instinct shuts down our executive faculties and focuses all our energy and resources on survival - cortisol, fight, flight, freeze, FREAK OUT.  It creates a sense of urgency in us - the reaction makes us feel like we have to take survival action STRAIGHT AWAY… so we make unintelligent, misaligned decisions out of desperation.  We stalk them on social media, we drive past their house, we think about how they’re feeling, we ruminate on what went wrong, we lament over things not being different.  We analyse, pull apart, blame, cry, numb ourself and we convince ourself that we have no control.  We feel so separated from them that the desire for re-connection - ANY CONNECTION!  - takes over. We feel in that moment that we have nothing to lose and so…. …we send them a message.  Then we hate ourselves because on some level we know we’ve just handed even more of our power away.  So how can we stop this yucky pattern, and choose self-empowerment instead? After all, there are people who handle breakups REALLY well (I know this because I became one of them).  In this episode I share the breakup paradigm shifts that helped me to drop codependency and become a magnet for healthy, awesome relationships.  🎧 Tune in now to learn how to reclaim your power and stop chasing the people who don’t deserve your love.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Ever feel like no matter how much you give in relationships, it’s never enough?

You end up drained, anxious, or even resentful - despite your best intentions and big heart.

In this episode, we’ll unpack why over-giving and people-pleasing may be keeping you stuck in toxic relationship patterns, and how this subconscious programming could be blocking the love you truly want.

Most importantly, you'll learn practical tools to help you feel safe, loved, and powerful - without having to prove or earn it.

It’s time to stop over-functioning and start receiving.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly deserve -

Remy xox

✨ STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE ✨

1️⃣ Subscribe to the podcast for weekly episodes. 2️⃣ Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women: www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3️⃣ Ready to heal and attract aligned, healthy love? Learn more & book your first session: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching 💌 Need support or want to connect? Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61 452 187 369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Healing after a break up?  Sending you hugs - it can feel rough.  I know this first hand… I had A LOT of practice with breakups in the 13 years I was stuck in a toxic cycle. Believe it or not though, there came a time when I had successfully healed my wounded inner parts, and overcome my limiting love blocking beliefs to the point where I didn’t need a partner - even though I still truly dreamed of enjoying a loving long-term relationship when the time was right.   From that place, being free from need for the first time, I found recalibrating after a breakup to be a positive experience - rather than a the shocking time of deep sadness and anxiety that I used to go through.  It was such an amazing shift.  You might not be there yet, and that’s ok.  Where you’re at is where you’re at, and your journey is divine (just like you are).  No matter how dark, lonely or hopeless you’re feeling right now, this episode will guide you through your four best next steps to take before you do anything else. It’s tonic for heartbreak.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  It’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for.  Learn more & book in: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Are you keeping yourself hidden away behind a bullet-proof boundary that’s keeping you safe from heartbreak, but stifled from love? While building high walls might seem like the best way to keep you safe from potential pain,  there’s a better way to stay protected AND safely allow in abundant love… which is what your True Self wants, for all the right reasons - a.k.a. to experience the joy, growth and divine experience that comes from having an intimate relationship with an aligned partner. In this episode, we’re breaking down why staying ‘too safe’ is actually NOT serving you - and the 5 powerful shifts that will empower you to live aligned with your True Self instead.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

You are a loving, caring, loyal woman who is dedicated to your relationship. BUT you know in your heart that something’s not quite right here… Your partner is hard to deal with and their needs come first… but when it’s good, oh my! it feels AMAZING.  You think “If only I could fix them, this relationship could be amazing all the time” ...so you try everything to make them happy and support them, and yet you always seem to be doing it wrong, and feeling anxious all the time.  I see you, please know you’re not alone. It IS possible to be free of this bind - and this episode sheds light on exactly how.

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Have you come across one of the myriad of Toxic Relationship Recovery groups on Facebook?  Whether you are in a toxic relationship and looking for advice on how to deal with an abusive partner or narcissist, or if you are in the healing and recalibration phase after a breakup, it's likely that your search for answers may have led you to one.  As a relationship therapist and coach I dip into these groups every now and then to offer advice, and some of my clients have even been active members of these groups - so I’ve spent some time in these corners of the internet… and I have some insights you’ll want to hear about them when it comes to your own healing journey. It’s so important to get the right help and support when you’re in, leaving, or recovering from a toxic relationship - not to mention the support you need to do the work to overcome toxic relationship patterns altogether.  But are Facebook Groups the way to go?  Take a listen to find out!

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

School holidays are over - YIPPEE!!!  I can actually finish a thought and have time to do other things than make 25 snack plates a day and keep two children busy 😅   It's SO good to be back, podcasting and serving clients!  Thank you for listening and keeping in touch over the past few weeks... it totally filled my cup! It sounds like the rebrand resonated with many of you - although the podcast is no longer called Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns, believe me that this is still exactly what you will be doing by listening in 💯✨

Back to today's episode...

Do you feel like you keep attracting the same toxic partners who are emotionally unavailable?

Wish you could change the way you morph into an over-giving people pleaser in relationships?

This episode is to show you the reason you are attracted to the same type of partners over and over again, even if the relationships don’t make you feel good and aren’t serving your highest and best vision for yourself.  I know you’re hating on yourself for it but, believe it or not, like everything that is keeping you stuck, its just a learned way of being that you taught yourself as a child to keep you safe - and over the years you’ve held onto it so tightly that it has formed a part of your belief system.  But don’t worry - just like a cocoon around a butterfly - when you were young and vulnerable you needed the safety of (what you thought was) a reliable method of fostering connection with your caregivers, BUT, now you’re ready to spread your wings, the cocoon feels like more of an uncomfortable trap.   The good news is that, just like a butterfly, you have the resources to break free and embrace the life and love that’s waiting for you. 🦋✨ If you feel stuck in a cycle of relationships that suck you dry, bruise your heart and damage your self esteem, this episode could be the key to you having greater control over who you are attracted to, and who your are attracting into your life. 

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Are you suffering with physical tension and discomfort caused by the heartache of a breakup?  When our emotions manifest somatically, it can be a powerful sign that our unconscious is trying to tell us something very important.  So how do we listen in? My favourite way is this easy, gentle and loving 5 step process - and I'm delighted to share it all with you in this episode!   Honour your wonderful self by giving it a little time and quiet space to engage in this powerful 5 step process.  It's a great way to release physical discomfort brought about by anxiety and stress caused by any number of things, although this episode is focussed on easing the physical discomfort caused by a breakup in particular. 

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Are you wondering where to begin when it comes to meeting someone new?  Does it feel like meeting someone who is worth your time and energy is almost impossible?  Maybe you’re even doubting whether you’re meant for love, or thinking that the only people left are the dregs that no one wants… While you might have spent much of your late teens and 20’s hitting bars and clubs, these days an ideal night out is more about delicious food and amazing conversation - but who meets someone at a restaurant?! Online / app dating might seem boring at best and completely soul destroying at worst… so that doesn’t feel aligned either. So then what? where?!  and who decent is single and available anyway?!?  If this is where your head keeps looping, take a sigh of relief because there’s a paradigm shift waiting for you in this episode 💗 If you are ready to learn more about how you can use the powerful nature of our reality to meet someone new in a more aligned, joy-filled way, this episode is for you!  

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

I know you’re scared about being burned yet again… pouring time, energy and love into a relationship that ends up causing heartache and sometimes in quite a traumatic way because you’ve felt blindsided in the past.

Cutting yourself off from love might feel safer, but there’s a part of you that still truly wants a loving, kind partner to dance through life with.  That part is your True Self, and it knows better than that fearful ego of yours - which is trying to keep you safe by completely clipping your wings.

So how can you confidently embrace the desires of your True Self AND stay safe?

Well, by understanding the warning signs to look out for so you can spot those red flags, and then have the right mindset to take appropriate action... and Ep. 12 will explain the surprisingly easy way to do this. 

After all, what is a life without love?! 

Thankfully, you never have to find out :)

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Need more clarity before you break up with your partner?  This one’s for you. Tune in to Ep.11 for 3 powerful tools that will help you to make a decision that you’re at peace with. It took me YEARS and many failed relationships (including a marriage!) to work out these gems, and I’m so excited I get to share them with you to save you the time, energy and heartbreak. Should you decide your current partner isn’t aligned with your highest and best vision of your life, here’s your permission slip to let them go with love and gratitude. Remember, letting them go and gleaning the lessons and learnings from the experience makes space for bigger and better things in your life.  If there’s anything you’d like more help with, send me a DM (@loveupgradecoach), email (remy@herloveupgrade.com) or WhatsApp message (+61452187369).  It's my greatest pleasure to support women like you to step into their highest and best love lives!  

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Do you wish Christmas lit you up like fairy lights, instead of reminding you of the loving partner you don’t have?   Is your beautiful smile at gatherings starting to feel a little… strained?   Maybe you find yourself sobbing at Xmas rom-coms, wondering WTF you need to do to get some real good authentic loving in your life.   Lovely lady, I am sending you hugs and so much love… and an entire stuffed-stocking episode full of joy-inducing treats for you!   Crank up your energetic dial and let’s start 2025 off  with the high-vibe  TUNE UP you deserve.  Woot woot!!!   Listen in to Ep 10 - live now on your favourite podcast app.  

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

If you are spending precious hours of your week at work, you NEED to make sure that your workplace isn’t negatively affecting your vibration. Why is this important?  Well, a couple of reasons:   1.) It’s our responsibility to be true to ourselves and shine the loving nature we’ve been gifted in this life so that our light can illuminate the world as much as possible, and 2.) because we get what we ARE, not what we WANT - and it is our responsibility to make sure we are living in the state we want to be in, instead of being the low vibe victims of our surroundings.  Living in dread, anxiety and resentment serves no-one, particularly not ourselves.  To manifest the life we want, we need to take inspired action that comes from feeling invigorated, loving, joyful - this is the space from where our true creativity and power flows.  Want some ideas on how can you close the gap between your warm heart-centred loving nature and the ‘corporate brand’ you need to portray at work? I got you! Listen in to Ep. 9 to hear four ways you can raise the vibration of your workplace, so your own energetics aren’t negatively affected. 

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

 *** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community  3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com   WhatsApp: +61452187369

Intro/Outro Track: Sweet Memory by JayJen & Enine

Do you keep looking for the reason you’re not attracting the right parter?  You might find your brain looping, trying to work out what it is you’re doing ‘wrong’.  Maybe other people have told you you’re ‘too picky’, or seem too this and not enough that… one gorgeous lady I work with said people told her she was too TALL!  As if!!!    The answer seems so elusive that sometimes we just assume it’s something inherent in us, like we’re just not meant to find a partner… like we’re not made to be loved or something. We forget how divine we are. What miracles for being here we are. As babies we know how loveable we are without fear or shame - we demand love, affection, nourishment and rest all day long without a doubt that it is our birthright.  Babies remind us of the hope, the possibility of our own human experience - they actually remind us of everything we have inside us too, because everything we see and love about someone else is always a reflection of a part of us that holds the same qualities (otherwise we couldn’t recognise it).  The problem though is as we grow up, our fearful ego mind develops and tries to make a rule book for life so that we stay alive… and the main way our brains are wired to do this is via human connection, which requires being accepted. We become more self-aware and learn that some things we do are accepted by our adult caregivers… and some are not.  So, some things we do result in a response from them that make us feel loved, and some do not.  We (incorrectly) make that mean that some things we do make us loveable - and some do not.  You might have spotted the error here in how our child mind has interpreted things; we learned that being loved had to be earned, it wasn’t just inherent in us.  In short, we separated ourselves from our inherent lovableness.  SO… there’s a very good reason searching for an answer to what’s wrong with you makes your brain loop and trip like a DVD with scratches on it. There’s nothing wrong with you - it’s the wrong question! It’s time to let go of those incoherent, limiting beliefs and to start asking better questions that elevate you - listen on in to Ep. 8 to discover exactly what those are.  I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for - Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61452187369

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Want to avoid falling into a toxic relationship? Here’s what you need to know… In Ep 7 you will gain 3 powerful tools that will protect you from getting involved with someone who isn’t in alignment with your highest and best wishes for your life.  If you’d like to feel more confident about avoiding heartbreak, and have the ability to navigate dating with a sense of inherent power - this episode is for you lovely soul! x I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for- Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61452187369

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When my marriage ended, I felt like I’d been kicked off a cliff…

How did I get here in this mess?

Why had I found myself in this situation?

Where was I going wrong with what I was attracting into my life?

This episode I’m sharing a pivotal story from my life, one that turned out to be so valuable that it propelled me into becoming aware of unconscious beliefs that I had been unknowingly holding to be true, so that I could reassess them and let them go. 

When I did this, my reality very quickly reflected this mindset upgrade… and a few months later I was on the extended holiday I manifested into my life, where I literally summoned - and then a week later, met - my forever life partner.

If you need reminding that there is always hope and a way out of the rut you find yourself in, this episode is for you.

I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -

Love is limitless, and so are you gorgeous lady,

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61452187369

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Feeling like you are giving away your power and are left feeling anxious and depleted?

If you want to enjoy more equitable relationships, this episode will help you to become more aware of codependent thoughts you may be unconsciously harbouring, and teach you how to build effective boundaries. 

You will learn three important factors to infuse into your boundary, so it serves you effectively - acting as a filter that protects you and gives you the confidence to pursue loving relationships in a healthy, interdependent way. 

Is this the first time you’ve done boundary work?  Perfect!  We will also do a powerful visualisation exercise where you will build your very own bespoke boundary - just in time for the holidays! 

I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -

Love is limitless, and so are you gorgeous lady,

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61452187369

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Welcome to part two of a powerful pair of episodes, dedicated to helping you move on from your ex partner.  If you haven’t heard Ep 3 yet, you will get the best experience by listening there first.  These episodes will begin to train your subconscious to think about your breakup in a new way that allows you to experience it as being full of expansive possibility - a level up into the life that is your true, aligned preference.  Part two explores:

• unwrapping your attachment to your ex relationship
• developing conscious awareness of beliefs rooted in fear and scarcity that keep you stuck
• assessing the health of your past relationship
• the truth of what’s available to us
• how to manifest in alignment with our highest and best life

If you want to heal heartbreak and ease your mind- these episodes are for you. I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for - Love is limitless, and so are you gorgeous lady, Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61452187369

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e FB group: www.herloveupgrade.com/community

It’s a completely free, safe space to find support, encouragement, motivation, and practical tools to:

- Heal from heartbreak and move forward with confidence

- Understand why you’ve been attracting unfulfilling relationships

- Step into your truest, most empowered Self and develop authentic self-love

- Understand what a healthy, loving relationship is and how to navigate dating with joy and ease

You’ll also find a circle of like-minded women who truly understand your journey and are here to grow alongside you.

2. >>>  Book in for a one-on-one Love Block Breakthrough Session so you can stop second-guessing why you’re stuck with a less than ideal love life.  Yaaassss!  This is GOLD - for real!   Together we will take a dive into your mind and your past, and find the KEY BLOCKS that are keeping you in a negative attraction loop with the partners (or singleness) that you don’t want.  Book in today: www.HerLoveUpgrade.com/breakthrough

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Ep's 3 & 4 are a powerful pair of episodes, dedicated to helping you move on from your ex partner.  Listening in will begin to train your subconscious to think about your breakup in a new way that allows you to experience it as being full of expansive possibility - a level up into the life that is your true, aligned preference. 

Part one covers:

• reframing your past
• the truth about why our minds keep us stuck in undesirable situations
• the magic wand we all have that creates our highest and best lives
• mastering our monkey mind
• recoding the way you are thinking about your previous partner and relationship

If you want to heal from your breakup and heartbreak - these episodes are for you.

I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for -

Love is limitless, and so are you gorgeous lady,

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61452187369

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We are moving on to the 4 CHEC nutrients all relationships need to maintain the 5 healthy root FACTR's we explored in Ep 1.

We kicked off in Ep 1 talking about the 5 VERY important essential roots of a healthy relationship - go take a listen if you want a clear benchmark for: 1.) how healthy your current relationship is, or 2.) to understand what was missing in your previous relationship. or 3.) to know what you actually want from the healthy, loving relationship you are getting ready to attract!  Before you make like a tree and leaf, take a listen to see why you need to CHEC yo’self!! If you want to grow and nurture sustainably healthy relationships - romantic and otherwise - this ep is for you! I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for - Love is limitless, and so are you. Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching

Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61452187369

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There’s a very important reason I had to make my first episode in this podcast all about the 5 Roots of a Healthy Relationship - because they are ESSENTIAL to know if you want to attract and grow a healthy, loving relationship… a.k.a. the relationship you actually, truly deserve! If your past relationships have been missing the mark, it’s pretty much certain that its because at least one of these three roots were damaged, shrivelled or just plain non-existent.  Once you know these benchmarks, it becomes so much easier to know with confidence from the get-go whether or not a relationship is healthy.  It’ll also help you to be able to confidently spot red flags and gaslighting without any second guessing.  Because who has time for that shizzle?! Think of these roots as the ingredients that make up your favourite dish… if you don’t know the recipe then you don’t even know the ingredients you need.  But once you are across the ingredient list, you can start to pay close attention to their quality, making sure they are up to scratch and worthy of your dish.  If you want to get clear on the benchmarks for a healthy relationship, this is for you! I hope this brings you closer to the love and life you’re meant for - Love is limitless, and so are you. Remy xox

Let’s get you closer to the love and life you truly want -

Remy xox

*** STEPS TO BEGIN YOUR LOVE UPGRADE *** 1.)  Subscribe to the podcast for new episode releases. 2.) Join our free community of like-minded, supportive women:  www.herloveupgrade.com/community 3.)  Feeling stuck in your love journey? No matter where you’re at, the profound inner work we’ll do together will close the gap between the love life you really want vs your current reality.  If it’s your turn to heal, align and attract the healthy relationship you have waited a lifetime for, learn more & book in here: www.herloveupgrade.com/coaching Need personal support or have something to share? Get in touch: Email: remy@herloveupgrade.com  WhatsApp: +61452187369

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