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When the Truth Finally Comes Out: Lauren's Story of Reclaiming Life [Encore]
06 Mar 2026
00:55:32
In this encore episode, I sit down with Lauren, a former client who bravely shares her journey through discovering decades of hidden infidelity and the powerful transformation that followed. What began as a devastating revelation ultimately became a catalyst for profound personal growth, courage, and rebuilding a life on her own terms.
Lauren opens up about the moment she uncovered the truth about her husband's long history of betrayal and how she navigated the emotional shock, grief, and fear that followed. She shares the pivotal role that trusting her intuition, facing painful truths, and envisioning new possibilities played in helping her move forward.
Together we talk about the importance of reclaiming your voice, creating a plan for your future, and refusing to settle for a life that keeps you small. Lauren's story is a powerful reminder that even after deep betrayal, it is possible to rebuild a life filled with peace, confidence, and purpose.
If you are navigating infidelity or questioning what comes next in your life, this episode will remind you that your future is still yours to create.
In this episode, we cover:
Your body often knows the truth before your mind is ready to accept it
Healing requires feeling the pain rather than avoiding it
Creating a vision for your future opens the door to new possibilities
You deserve a life filled with peace, joy, and self-respect
If you're ready to reclaim your life after infidelity, I invite you to reach out and explore how we can work together.
Luke Shillings: A Man's Perspective on Betrayal and Healing [Encore]
27 Feb 2026
00:38:50
In this encore episode, I sit down with relationship and infidelity coach Luke Schillings to talk openly about betrayal from a man's perspective. Luke shares his experience of discovering his wife's affair, navigating divorce, co-parenting through heartbreak, and ultimately rebuilding his life from the inside out.
We talk about the shock of confirmation, the unexpected relief of knowing you weren't "crazy," the struggle with resentment when children are involved, and the powerful shift that happens when you focus on what you can control instead of what you can't. Luke shares how journaling, forgiveness, and personal responsibility became the turning points in his healing.
Most importantly, this conversation is about resilience — and hope.
In this episode, we cover:
Why confirmation can bring relief after suspicion
How to identify what you can and cannot control
The role forgiveness plays in your own healing
Why putting yourself first actually serves your children
How resilience is built one decision at a time
If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to reach out. You do not have to navigate betrayal alone.
How to Make Decisions When You're Afraid of Being Wrong [Encore]
26 Dec 2025
00:25:30
In this encore episode, I'm teaching you how to make decisions with clarity, confidence, and self-trust — especially when the stakes feel high and the fear of "getting it wrong" feels paralyzing. If you've ever second-guessed yourself, stayed stuck in indecision, or looked outside yourself for answers you already have, this conversation is for you.
I walk you through a simple three-step decision-making process: exploring your options, deciding deliberately, and then committing — again and again — even when your brain wants to panic or pull you backward. I explain why indecision often feels safer to our brains, how to recognize when fear is driving your choices, and how to reconnect with your wise, grounded self so you can move forward with intention.
I also share personal examples, including one of the hardest decisions of my life, and how learning to trust myself changed everything. You don't need perfect certainty to decide — you just need self-honesty and the willingness to follow through.
Key takeaways:
Indecision keeps you stuck, even when it feels safer
People-pleasing and Infidelity with Sara Fisk, Part 1 | Ep #133
12 Jan 2024
00:26:17
Do you struggle with people-pleasing? Is it getting in the way of making clear decisions for yourself in the after-math of infidelity?
In this 2-part series, Andrea and Sara Fisk talk all things people-pleasing. You will learn:
How we are all deeply wired to people-please
How it is likely affecting you post-infidelity to people-please
How taking responsibility for our own growth (and letting go of people-pleasing) is crucial to healing
Sara Bybee Fisk is a Master Certified Coach and Instructor who teaches women how to tame the rampant people-pleasing, perfectionism and codependency that is causing them so much frustration and resentment. She is an anxious optimist and born again feminist who listens to more books than she actually sits down to read. She loves a good hike, good dark chocolate and good conversations. Her big dreams include learning to sail and to sing and dance like JLo and helping thousands of women create the big, juicy lives they want to be living. She is a wife and mom of 5 and she enjoys those roles most of the time.
Rebuilding Your Life After Infidelity with Lauren | Ep #132
29 Dec 2023
00:56:49
In this episode, I interview a former client, Lauren. Be prepared for an episode you will go back to again and again as there were so many gems and truths in her words.
Lauren not only shares in depth her personal story with her spouse's infidelity, but she shares her journey of coming back to herself after years of feeling like she wasn't enough.
I guarantee you will relate to many of the things she shares, and feel inspired by how she has taken charge of her own life to make it something beautiful.
Sometimes we can use popular opinion against ourselves. We can listen to the opinions of others, rather than deeply searching our own hearts for what is true.
In this episode, I use a powerful analogy to teach you how to do your own "investigating" into what is true, beyond what outside sources may tell you.
You will learn how to see the full scope of your situation, rather than focusing only on the things that feel the biggest or scariest.
When we learn to get a broader view, we make more informed decisions that become easier to back up over time.
Romantic infidelity and financial infidelity often go hand in hand. Money is frequently spent on the affair partner, and in high-control relationships, spouses can feel like they have no say about where the money goes.
In this episode, guest Tracy Coenen and I discuss:
Hidden money
Financial rights for stay-at-home moms
Divorce settlements
Financial options, even if you are staying married
Tracy has been investigating fraud for more than 25 years, but she didn't always want to be a forensic accountant. With a dream of one day being a prison warden, Tracy went to Marquette University in Milwaukee, WI to get a criminology degree. A class on financial crime investigations reminded her how much she loved Encyclopedia Brown books as a kid. She continued her criminology degree but added accounting and economics courses so she could become a CPA ... and here Tracy is, finding money in cases of corporate fraud, high net worth divorce, and other financial shenanigans.
Infidelity is one of the few things that can change everything, forever. There is no going back.
How we deal with the "after" in infidelity is crucial. It presents an opportunity to change old patterns, learn new ways of being, and new ways to interact with one another.
In this episode, you'll learn how changing up the old patterns will serve you, whether you stay with your current spouse or not. You'll understand why the only way forward is if both partners commit to being vulnerable, clumsy and to putting their best foot forward.
Do you often feel like you "should" try to stay after infidelity? Or maybe you feel pressure from others telling you to leave because, as the saying goes, "Once a cheater, always a cheater?"
In this episode, I shine a light on how to listen for what is actually true for you. Other well-meaning people will always have their opinions, but in the end, you are the one that has to live in your life.
Desire is a strong indicator of the direction your wisest self wants to go. When you learn to listen to it, it will become your compass, and all you need is just a spark of a desire for it to get you moving.
This desire can cut through the noise of your own mind, others' opinions, and your intense emotions.
Make sure to tune in to better understand the power of desire and how it can get you moving forward.
Schedule a free call to join my new group, "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity."
In this follow up to my last episode, "Intrusive Thoughts," I go into more depth as to how to navigate the thoughts that seem to take over and rob you of your peace.
I share two points that will help you gain some traction and direction the next time an intrusive thought shows up.
Point one is about how intrusive thoughts can keep us stuck in the past rather than seeing what is in front of us. I also talk about how sometimes staying in this space can keep us from our own growth and development.
Point two is about allowing the thoughts that come up to show us what we need to do to close "open loops" in our mind. This part is about leaning into the things we need to be looking at to set down the thoughts that keep showing up.
Don't miss this episode, as you will leave with even more direction and actionable steps to take that will help you quiet your mind and move forward.
Schedule a free call to join my new group, "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity."
Do you struggle with intrusive thoughts? These are the ones that pop up, seemingly out of nowhere, and can derail your whole day.
In this episode, I cover where these thoughts come from, and how to process them so they no longer have a hold on you.
You will learn a strategy that will:
Help you bring more awareness to the thought
Give you direction as to what to do with it (so you are in charge of the thought rather than it being in charge of you).
If you are like every client I have ever worked with, you have unwanted thoughts, and are tired of the hold they have on you. Don't miss this episode to learn how to get a hold on the thoughts that can disturb your peace.
Want to work with me? Schedule a free call to join my new group, "Get Your Life Back After Infidelity."
Why Healing Feels Impossible After Betrayal [Encore]
19 Dec 2025
00:20:41
Feeling stuck after infidelity doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. In this episode, I explain why feeling frozen, conflicted, or unable to move forward is actually a normal response to emotional trauma—and how your brain is trying to protect you, even when it's keeping you trapped.
I walk through three common scenarios I see again and again: staying when you're afraid to leave, being left and drowning in self-doubt, or choosing to stay but feeling unable to trust or feel peace. If any of these sound familiar, you're not broken. Your brain is wired to seek ease, avoid pain, and cling to what feels familiar—even when that familiarity hurts.
I also share how real change begins by reconnecting with your future self—the version of you who already knows what's possible. When you get clear on what you want and why you want it, you can start creating movement, even in small ways, and reclaim your power.
Key takeaways:
Feeling stuck is a protective brain response, not a personal failure
Avoiding pain often keeps us locked in familiar suffering
Clarity about what you want is the way out of stagnation
What happens when something you believed as true is challenged? Or when you make up your mind about something and immediately doubt it? Does it mean you made the wrong decision, or is something else happening?
In this episode, you'll learn all about cognitive dissonance and how it is an indication that something is out of alignment for you. It may be that your beliefs need to be reevaluated or expanded. It may be that you are being led into deeper self-trust and wisdom.
While cognitive dissonance can be quite uncomfortable, it can lead you into a place of deep peace, knowing that your internal values match your external actions.
After infidelity, the decision needs to be made whether to stay or go. But for most people, that is only half the decision.
Many people go through life being physically in a relationship but emotionally out. Some leave marriages physically but cannot separate themselves emotionally from their spouse, so they don't really move on.
In this episode, I help you identify exactly where you are in your process forward. I help you know how to more fully commit to getting where you want to go so you can have real peace.
This is deep emotional work, and this episode can help you understand not only why it has been so difficult to go all in, but how you can help yourself get there.
Join me for my free webinar, HOW TO GET YOUR LIFE BACK AFTER INFIDELITY, on August 26th at 2 pm MST. You can register here.
When you think of yourself, do you identify more with being someone who has been traumatized, or as someone who is incredibly resilient, despite your trauma?
Humans all experience trauma. It is inescapable. But what we forget is that as humans we are built to be resilient, and to rise above our trauma- not get stuck in it.
In this episode, you'll learn how to create more resiliency as you navigate the choppy waters of infidelity. You will understand how you are getting yourself stuck in the story of your trauma, and leave with a clear path of how to grow stronger, despite your challenges.
Interested in my coaching program? Schedule a free 1-1 call with me below to see if it would be a good fit for you.
Most of us understand the importance and significance of courage. It is an emotion that can help us to look at hard things in our lives. But if we are unwilling to take action based on our feeling of courage, we end up right where we started.
In this episode, I share some ideas pertaining to infidelity about some of the ways we need to not only have courage, but to turn that courage into action to ultimately have what we want.
I use specific stories and analogies to help my listeners know how this applies to them, and things they can start doing today.
Ways to work with me:
Want to know how to decide to stay or go after infidelity? Join my free class here.
Interested in my coaching program? Schedule a free 1-1 call with me below to see if it would be a good fit for you. https://andreagiles.com/know-in-90/
How much pressure do you put on yourself to "Keep the Peace"? Maybe there are things you don't say because you don't want to create conflict. Maybe you just stuff things down rather than speak up and make others uncomfortable.
In this episode, I discuss the concept of keeping the peace and where it often backfires. What if there is something better than keeping the peace? What if protecting your own peace over others' is the best work you can do?
If you want to understand areas you are hiding to maintain peace, listen to this episode. You will grow in your courage and strength to stand up for what you want most, even if it means temporarily rocking the boat in the name of creating long-term peace.
Ways to work with me:
Want to know how to decide to stay or go after infidelity? Join my free class here.
Interested in my coaching program? Schedule a free 1-1 call with me to see if it would be a good fit for you. https://andreagiles.com/know-in-90/
In the aftermath of infidelity, it can feel like your life has been blown up, and our spouse sometimes does not seem to understand how much their choices impacted us.
This episode discusses the importance of knowing that our spouse "gets it" in order to really move forward and build trust. I also discuss growing our capacity to look at ourselves and how the things we say and do affect others.
Solid relationships are built on both people taking responsibility for how we each impact each other.
In this episode, I welcome guest and self-advocacy expert, Samantha Nielsen to the show. If you have ever struggled in knowing how to speak up for yourself, this episode is for you.
Samantha shares her own experience with watching herself shrink and be miserable until it became unbearable. She had an amazing transformation and completely changed her life. More about Samantha:
Samantha is the happiest divorced woman on the planet! She believes that divorce is a necessary resource, gift and tool. Divorce, while difficult, allows people to move beyond hopeless situation and create new and better outcomes. While finding the courage to leave a difficult relationship can be one of the most difficult decisions, it is also incredibly empowering. Samantha holds a degree in Interpersonal Communications. She's also a Certified Life & Divorce Coach. Samantha offers private coaching to both men and women in all stages of the divorcing process. Connect with Samantha at www.moderndaydivorce.com or on Instagram at: @modern.day.divorce.
Do you often wonder how you'll know the difference between a truth and a lie? It is a common question after infidelity, since the very nature of infidelity includes deceit.
In this episode, I share a powerful analogy that will help you discern for yourself between truth and error. You will come away from this episode wiser, more in tune with your own truth, and with a higher commitment to seeking truth, at all cost.
In this episode, you'll learn how grandiosity can lead to affairs. If we think we are better than others, we tend to excuse our behavior and make exceptions for ourselves.
You'll learn what grandiosity is and how it can show up for the betrayed partner as well as the one who betrayed.
You'll have a clear understanding of how the mindset of grandiosity gets in the way of real transparency, connection and healing and what to to about it.
In this episode, I talk about the patterns so many of us find ourselves repeating after infidelity — the emotional loops, the unspoken agreements, and the old roles we unconsciously keep stepping back into. I explore why these patterns return even when we believe we've healed them, and I share how breaking these loops requires something deeper than waiting for someone else to change. It requires choosing differently for ourselves.
I walk you through how relational contracts form, how they expire, and why trying to rebuild inside an outdated contract keeps you stuck in pain. I share what it means to create a new contract — one based on truth, self-responsibility, and clarity — whether with the same partner or within a new chapter of your life entirely.
My intention is to help you see your patterns with honesty and compassion so you can step into a more empowered way of relating to yourself and others.
Takeaways:
Old relational contracts can expire long before the relationship ends.
Loops break when I stop abandoning myself.
A new relationship contract requires truth, clarity, and personal power.
Are there things in your life you want to change? Do you want your spouse to change?
In this episode, you will learn the fast-track to how to really, deeply, fundamentally change. Instead of just believing that you can't change or that you are simply a failure in aspects of your life, you'll understand why change has not "stuck" in the past, and how to move forward in becoming who you want to be.
You'll also learn how to see if someone else is just going through the motions, or deeply changing.
There is a lot of discussion about infidelity, but what about fidelity? What does it even look like to live in a high fidelity marriage?
In this episode you will learn about five elements that have to be present to have a high fidelity marriage.
Even if you have already experienced infidelity, fidelity can be learned. It can become your new reality, and it begins with becoming 100% faithful to yourself.
Have you ever wondered if what you experienced is infidelity? For some situations, there is no doubt. But for many others, there is a lot of nuance.
In this episode, you'll learn exactly what infidelity is. When you have the words to define your experience, it is empowering. You are able to see more clearly why your experience felt like a violation, and what to do with that information.
As the saying goes, knowledge is power. The more you know, the more you will be able to confidently advocate for yourself.
Often times, in an attempt to avoid temporary pain and discomfort, we avoid hard conversations, stuff down our own feelings and hide how we really feel from others.
In this episode, you'll learn about how to create long term healing by practicing the concept of sustainability. By looking down the road at what we may have to deal with if we put things off today, it can give us the courage to do the hard things now, knowing we are ultimately creating something lasting.
Most of all, you will learn how to help create sustainable practices of healing that will help you truly transcend infidelity and use it for your good.
This episode is all about why we excuse bad behavior. Whether it be from our kids, spouse, co-workers, boss, etc., there are reasons we allow people to treat us the way they do.
When you know what to look for and how to deal with the discomfort of teaching people how to treat you, life gets a whole lot easier.
Most of us are conflict-averse and put up with behaviors that aren't helping anybody. You can learn how to lovingly hold people accountable while growing your own self-respect.
2022 was one for the books for me personally. I started the year with a new baby, launched a new program, and grew in ways I didn't know I needed.
In this episode, I share my biggest lesson from the year: one that, when practiced, can bring relief and peace even in the midst of uncertainty and discomfort.
The lesson is around the concept of duality: The ability to hold onto two opposing views at the same time.
Don't miss this episode if you want help navigating the things that don't make sense or don't have an easy answer.
In a world that praises extreme independence, many of us don't know how to help each other calm our nervous systems. We may even think it is co-dependence to try to help each other in this way.
In this week's episode, we will take a deep dive into what it actually means to co-regulate, and how it can bring deep healing. We will also take a look at how our parents help us to learn how to settle ourselves down by first regulating with us.
You'll understand what healthy co-regulation means as opposed to co-dysregulation.
Don't miss this episode- first to understand your own patterns better, and to learn how to ask for the help you need.
In my years of coaching, one thing I have heard too many times to count is, "I don't like conflict." My clients use this as a reason to not take bold action, not speak the things that need to be said, and ultimately to hide from discomfort.
In this episode, I cover conflict with a new lens; one that helps my clients lose their fear about stepping into conflict with the intention of getting to the other side with problems solved.
Listen to this episode to see where you are hiding from conflict, and to learn how to face it head on.
For many people, D-day, or discovery day (the day they found out about their spouse's infidelity) is a heavy, traumatic day. When they have the anniversary of that day coming up, it can fill them with dread.
In this episode, I'll be sharing ways to think about discovery day that can bring relief, and even hope.
It does not have to be an awful day. It can be a day with some emotion as you remember what happened, but it can be many other things as well.
Listen to this week's episode to learn how to think about this (and other) potentially hard days in ways that help you move forward.
Reclaiming Strength After Betrayal: My Story [Encore]
05 Dec 2025
00:17:07
In this very first episode of my podcast, I share my personal story and the experiences that shaped the work I do today. When this show originally launched, I opened with my journey because I wanted listeners to understand not only what I teach, but why I teach it.
Today, I'm presenting this episode again as an encore because so many new listeners have joined us, and this story continues to be the foundation for everything we talk about on the podcast. My hope is that hearing where I came from will help you feel more grounded, more supported, and less alone in your own healing.
In this encore replay, I walk through the early years of my marriage, the painful moments that led to my awakening, and the decision to rebuild my life from the inside out. I also share the fears, doubts, and turning points that taught me how to trust myself again and ultimately led me to coaching.
Takeaways:
Why my personal story is the foundation of this podcast
How fear and indecision kept me stuck for years
What finally empowered me to rebuild my life
Why I'm sharing this as an encore for new listeners
If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to reach out. I'd love to help you get your clarity and your life back. https://andreagiles.com/
Resentment. This is an emotion I see in almost all of my clients, whether they be the one who was betrayed or the one who did the betraying. While it is a common emotion that many of us struggle with, it can be deadly if left unchecked.
In this episode, I'll cover where resentment comes from and why it can be so tempting to hold on to it. You will hear real life examples of clients I work with who are grappling with this and seeing how it is keeping them from moving forward.
You will also learn what to do with this powerful emotion. Listen to learn how to cut through resentment and turn it into something much more useful and sustainable.
Many would agree that infidelity can be one of the most painful experiences to endure. In this episode, rather than taking that statement at its word, I dive into the impact of infidelity and the ways it affects us.
Just like all things in life, there are some things that are out of control, and some that are very much in our control. Even with infidelity, there is much that we can choose. We can choose just how much we allow the choices of another to impact us. This episode will help you see where you are making the experience more painful for yourself and what you can do about it.
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In this episode, I interview Luke Schillings about his personal experience with experiencing and healing from infidelity. He has used his own painful experience to now work with men who are navigating that space. Listen for some amazing wisdom of how to let go, heal, and move on.
Luke is a 40 something father of two who recently escaped the 9-5 to chase his dreams of becoming a relationship and infidelity coach. UK based and Lincolnshire born and bred, he can often be found running in the countryside, volunteering, drinking coffee or engrossed in an Excel spreadsheet. He now takes much of his life experience, combined it with his unique coaching skills to help those who have been through infidelity trust again and move forward with their lives."
To celebrate 100 episodes, tune in to hear snippets from the top 5 episodes thus far. You, my dear listeners, have been a delight to show up for, and I want you to know which episodes have been the most listened to. You may just learn that others are right where you are, and that you are not alone in struggling with the same things.
Thank you for your love, support, shares, and reviews. Here's to the next 100!
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A question I get asked a lot is, "Will it always hurt?" For most people, infidelity is one of life's experiences that can shake up your very foundation. It can be hard to imagine a time when it doesn't hurt every day.
In this episode, I share not only the good news that you won't always hurt, but steps to take to make sure you don't. Your healing does not have to be outsourced to anyone but you -- you can do things right now that will help you feel peace, calm, and start healing your heart.
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When you think of the future, do you feel a sense of foreboding, or hope?
Much of what you anticipate can be traced to past, unresolved experiences with your partner. In this episode, you'll learn what probably happened and didn't happen before the infidelity that is creating problems now.
Once you understand what is happening and what you can do about it, you'll be able to choose how to view the future and be very intentional about what you are creating.
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After infidelity, it can be really easy to feel like your spouse owes you something. He needs to make it up to you, right? It makes sense that one might feel this way, but in this episode you'll learn how this attitude can keep you from the very things you want most - peace, calm, and healing.
Entitlement is also what can set some people up to cheat in the first place and keep them stuck after infidelity. This episode will be useful for both the one who strayed and the one who was betrayed.
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Validation is something we all enjoy as humans. We want to feel connected, heard, and seen.
For many of us though, especially if we were shot down a lot as kids, we grow into validation dependence and have difficulty functioning if someone is not constantly telling us how great or right we are.
In this episode, you'll learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy validation, how to spot it in yourself and your partner, and how to strengthen your own sense of self so you won't be as reliant on others to validate you.
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Intimacy After Infidelity with Amanda Louder | Ep #95
29 Jul 2022
00:39:58
Some questions that come up a lot with clients is, "What about sex after finding out? Is it bad to be intimate? What if I don't want to? What if I do?" To answer these questions, I interviewed sex coach Amanda Louder.
Amanda Louder is a Certified Life Coach who helps women from conservative Christian backgrounds love their sex life. She helps women embrace their sexuality to help them strengthen their relationship with themselves, their spouse, and God.
In addition to being a coach, Amanda is also a wife to Kevin, and mom and step-mom to 5 kids, ranging in ages from 14-22. In her spare time, she enjoys reading, watching her kids play sports, fishing, and camping.
To hear more from Amanda, you can find her on Instagram @AmandaLouderCoaching, on her podcast "Sex for Saints" where she talks about all things sex and marriage, or on her website AmandaLouder.com.
A question I get asked regularly is about letting go - how to let go of the pain and hurt of infidelity.
In this episode, I will cover things we hold on to, why we hold onto them, and how to let them go. You'll learn how your brain is trying to protect you from future harm and what to do to quiet it down.
Infidelity can be trauma-inducing, and the more you understand the ways this shows up for you, the easier it will be to heal.
Interested in joining the August group of Know in 90? Come talk to me here.
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Am I Co-Dependent? How to Know if You're Losing Yourself in the Relationship
28 Nov 2025
00:29:01
In this episode, I'm diving into a topic that sits quietly underneath so many of the patterns that show up after infidelity: codependency. This isn't about weakness or being "too much." It's about the survival strategies many of us learned long before betrayal ever entered our lives. For me, this past year has been one of shedding—shedding identities, patterns, and ways of disappearing inside relationships. I'm inviting you into that same gentle, honest exploration so you can begin reclaiming your own energy, boundaries, and clarity.
I share the real signs of codependency, why it intensifies after infidelity, and how to begin unhooking from patterns that pull you away from yourself. You'll learn how to shift from survival mode into a grounded, independent place where your choices come from truth, not fear.
Takeaways:
How codependent patterns form (and why they're not your fault)
Seven signs you're losing yourself in the relationship
How to begin reclaiming your energy and boundaries
Why independence is a necessary step before rebuilding trust
If something in this episode stirs something in you, that is not a problem. It means you're waking up. If you're ready to untangle these patterns and rebuild trust in yourself, I'm here to support you. Reach out — I'd love to help you get your clarity and your life back. https://andreagiles.com/
Shame. An emotion we all feel but no one wants to talk about. It's heavy, all-consuming, and keeps us isolated and stuck.
This episode is all about letting go of shame. First, you'll learn about the origins of shame and how it often pretends to be useful. You'll learn how shame sabotages our efforts to heal and doesn't allow us to see things as they really are.
Want to know what the cure is to shame? Give this episode a listen and you'll have real steps to take to manage the shame of your spouses' infidelity. It will set you free!
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In the aftermath of infidelity, there can be a period where you wait and watch.
Sometimes there is waiting to see how much initiative our partners take, and sometimes we are just waiting to feel calmer before we make big decisions.
Either way, there are things you can do to help settle your mind during this space.
In this episode, you'll learn four things you can do during this time to help keep your mind focused on why you are waiting and what you are waiting for.
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Do you ever wonder if you can ever really truly move forward from the darkness you are feeling?
A question I get a lot is, "Can I really do this?" and "Will I ever feel normal again?"
Yes, my friend. I promise.
In this episode, you'll hear the stories of four past clients of mine who have moved forward and are thriving. Some stayed in the marriage, some did not. But all are happy and doing well.
There is hope, and they all did some things that ensured that they were moving forward from the strongest place. Listen to this week's episode to learn what those things are.
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