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| Ep75: My Mother and I Both Ordained: She as a Nun, I as a Monk. Here's Why ft Phra Anandapanyo | 15 Oct 2026 | 00:32:54 | |
She raised her son while trying not to drown — fighting teachers, fighting her husband, fighting to keep her family afloat, and never once seeming happy. Years later, both mother and son would leave their old lives behind and ordain. In this raw conversation, Phra Anand traces his mother's journey from a decade of failed meditation teachers to the one who finally taught her wisdom before technique — and how watching her transform set him on the same path.In this episode:- Growing up in a "perfect" outside family that was a volcano inside the house- Why kids who are obsessed with their friends are often just avoiding an unhappy home- The rock-in-the-mouth story: why anger "tricks" never actually fix anger- The teaching that changed everything — "there's no finish line except in fixing yourself"- How his mother's transformation put both of them on the path to ordination- Learning that everyone has the right to their own choices — and their own consequences---About the Teacher 🧘 Phra Anandapanyo (Anandapanyo Bhikkhu)Anandapanyo Bhikkhu was born and raised in San Francisco to a Thai immigrant family, fluent in both Thai and English from childhood. Before ordaining, he earned a degree in Electrical Engineering from UC Santa Barbara and later pursued a Master's degree at San Francisco State University while helping run the family business.For ten years as a layperson, starting in 1999, he trained directly under Ācariya Thoon Khippapañño and one of Thoon's most devoted students — Mae Chee Yo, who is also his own mother. He ordained on May 20, 2009 at Wat San Fran Dhammaram, becoming the temple's first monk fluent enough in English to teach comfortably in both languages.He's since become known for delivering sermons and teachings that move fluidly between English and Thai, and — alongside his sister, Neecha Thian-Ngern — was personally entrusted by Ācariya Thoon to translate and spread his teachings to a wider audience. He is the author of Right Start, Right Finish.📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-75⏱Timestamps:(0:00) – Why arguments happen: one perspective vs. the full context(0:45) – "My mum brought me up while she was fighting"(1:31) – The AP calculus story: fighting the school system(2:37) – "She messed me up" — mistaking superhuman for normal(3:36) – The outside world's "perfect family"(4:30) – A hot house: why the kids kept leaving(5:33) – Planning to move away — until something changed(6:17) – The home shrine and midnight Dharma sessions(8:07) – Ten years of meditation, but "nobody changed"(8:57) – His father's intervention: one more teacher to try(9:43) – The "rocks in your mouth" anger story(10:44) – A teacher who taught wisdom, not technique(12:35) – "There's no finish line — except in the Dhamma"(13:30) – The Thai-writing board: seeing his father's side(16:49) – Everyone's entitled to their choices, and the consequences#HandfulOfLeaves #Buddhism #Meditation #Mindfulness #Forgiveness #FamilyTrauma #BuddhistTeachings #Dhamma #AjahnPranjana #InnerPeaceResources:https://watsanfran.orgSpecial thanks to our sponsors:Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Azraf Mahir ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Ng Yah Tyng 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan 📱 Get Connected Telegram https://bit.ly/hol-telegram Instagram https://bit.ly/hol-instagram-podcast Facebook https://bit.ly/hol-facebook-podcast Get connected here: Telegram Instagram YouTube Facebook | |||
| Ep 74: I'm Not Good Enough ft Angela & Cheryl | 17 Sep 2026 | 00:23:20 | |
Two Dharma friends, Cheryl and Angela, sit down to unpack everything their March meditation retreat with Ajahn Jayasaro taught them — and it wasn't the peaceful escape either of them expected.In this honest episode of the Handful of Leaves podcast, they talk through work burnout, losing parents to cancer, the "I'm not good enough" loop that followed them onto the cushion, and why chasing a peaceful feeling in meditation can actually work against you. They unpack Ajahn Jayasaro's teachings on contentment, patience (Khanti), comparison, identity, and what it really means to sit with difficult emotions instead of rushing past them.If you've ever felt burnt out, doubted whether you're "enough," or struggled with restlessness in meditation, this conversation is for you.In this episode:- Why meditation is about learning to observe, not chasing peace- How to work with burnout, doomscrolling, and restless thinking as habits, not character flaws- Sitting with grief and catching the stories the mind repeats- Ajahn Jayasaro's teaching: "We are a function of who we compare ourselves to"- Why patience (Khanti) is called the incinerator of the defilements- Letting go of identity and achievement to become "nobody" — and why that's freeing About the Teacher 🧘 Ajahn Jayasaro is a British-born monk of the Thai Forest Tradition and one of its most widely respected living teachers. He first joined Ajahn Sumedho's monastic community in the UK in 1978 before travelling to Thailand the following year to train under the renowned meditation master Ajahn Chah at Wat Nong Pah Pong. He received novice ordination in 1979 and higher ordination in 1980. From 1997 to 2002, Ajahn Jayasaro served as abbot of Wat Pah Nanachat, the international forest monastery founded by Ajahn Chah, guiding monastics from around the world under the tradition's strict standards of discipline and meditation. He is also widely recognized as Ajahn Chah's official biographer, writing Stillness Flowing. Since 2003, Ajahn Jayasaro has lived in a hermitage near Khao Yai National Park in Thailand. He has become one of the most respected contemporary voices of the Thai Forest Tradition, known internationally for his meditation retreats, talks, and writing. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-74 ⏱Timestamps: (0:00) Welcome and introducing the March retreat with Ajahn Jayasaro(0:28) The real reason Angela signed up: work burnout(1:53) Meditation isn't about peace, it's about learning to observe(3:45) "Okay shit, this wanting is not getting me anywhere"(5:47) Doomscrolling as dissatisfaction in disguise(7:59) Angela’s "fear monster" and fear of dying young(11:31) Reframing thinking itself as a reshapeable habit(15:11) Patience as Khanti, "the incinerator of the defilements"(17:00) "We are a function of who we compare ourselves to"(18:18) Choosing a wholesome idol to compare yourself to(21:02) Becoming "nobody" in meditation, and why it's freeing(22:24) Closing reflection: suffering and joy, together Resources: https://www.jayasaro.panyaprateep.org/en/about-us Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Azraf Mahir ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Ng Yah Tyng 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan 📱 Get Connected Telegram https://bit.ly/hol-telegram Instagram https://bit.ly/hol-instagram-podcast Facebook https://bit.ly/hol-facebook-podcast Spotify https://bit.ly/spotifyholep74 Get connected here: Telegram Instagram YouTube Facebook | |||
| Ep 71: From Princeton Graduate & Singapore Civil Servant to Buddhist Nun ft Venerable Damcho | 28 Jul 2026 | 00:28:27 | |
What happens when you follow the Singapore path, tick the right boxes, and still feel like something is missing? In this episode, Cheryl speaks with Venerable Damcho on her unexpected path into Buddhism, from heartbreak and anxiety in university, to meditation, retreats, ordination, and discovering a kind of happiness that did not depend on external success. Key takeaways: 🧭 I just felt like I had been cheated A raw reflection on chasing the life we are told will make us happy, only to ask: and then what? 🧘 My happiness is not dependent on all these external things A short-term novitiate showed her that peace could arise even while waking early, wearing simple robes, and cleaning toilets. 🔥It’s very difficult to identify the afflictions because I think they are true A practical reminder that anger, self-pity, and fear often feel logical until we learn to see them clearly. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-71 ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) Why the usual Singapore success path still felt empty (01:20) Growing up with zero interest in religion (03:21) How heartbreak and anxiety led her to meditation (04:29) Her first strange encounter with chanting and the Heart Sutra (05:21) The breathing practice that changed her response to fear (07:44) How the thought of monastic life slowly began (08:50) The friend who brought her into Bright Hill Temple (11:43) The hidden wish to become a nun (13:14) The Vesak aspiration that surprised even her (17:22) Why ordination is not a form you submit overnight (18:39) The short-term novitiate that changed everything (21:48) Sleeping on mats, cleaning toilets, and feeling unexpectedly happy (22:42) Why external success felt so unfulfilling (25:03) How a Theravada retreat opened the door to Tibetan practice (29:25) Her first visit to Sravasti Abbey was not what she expected (35:55) The breakup, the US ticket, and a decision that shocked her boyfriend (39:30) Becoming a novice and later receiving full ordination in Taiwan (42:10) Lojong: turning difficult situations into practice Resources: Sravasti Abbey Website: https://sravastiabbey.org/ Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Azraf Mahir ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Ng Yah Tyng🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan 📱 Get Connected Telegram https://bit.ly/hol-telegram Instagram https://bit.ly/hol-instagram-podcast Facebook https://bit.ly/hol-facebook-podcast Spotify https://bit.ly/spotifyholep71 | |||
| Ep 70: Harvard Monk’s Secret: How to Find Peace When Life Falls Apart? Explains Ft. Haenim Sunim, Zen Monk & Bestselling Author | 23 Jun 2026 | 00:14:23 | |
What if the peace you've been searching for was never outside of you? In this profound conversation, internationally renowned Zen monk and bestselling author Haemin Sunim shares timeless wisdom on navigating heartbreak, uncertainty, difficult relationships, and life's inevitable challenges. Drawing from Buddhist teachings and personal experience, he reveals how inner peace emerges not from controlling the world around us, but from trusting the strength already within us. Whether you're facing loss, struggling with difficult people, or simply feeling overwhelmed by life, this episode offers practical insights to help you find calm, resilience, and freedom amidst the chaos. #HaeminSunim #InnerPeace #SelfWorth #EmotionalHealing #PersonalGrowth #Boundaries #SelfCompassion #SpiritualGrowth ✨ Key Takeaways: 💎 You Already Have What You're Looking For Love, worthiness, security, and peace are not things we earn from the outside world. They already exist within us. External circumstances may amplify these qualities, but they never create them. 🌱 Every Challenge Reveals Your Inner Strength Life will inevitably bring heartbreak, failure, and uncertainty. Yet every difficulty you've faced has shown one important truth: you've survived before, and you can trust yourself to navigate what comes next. 🕊️ Compassion and Boundaries Can Coexist Understanding that hurt people often hurt others can help us respond with compassion. But true peace also requires healthy boundaries, protecting your well-being while allowing others to take responsibility for their own healing. About the Speaker: 👤 Haemin Sunim is a globally respected Zen meditation teacher and international bestselling author known for his deeply practical approach to modern spirituality. His books have sold over six million copies worldwide and have been translated into more than thirty-eight languages. Ordained in the Korean Zen tradition, Haemin Sunim received monastic training in South Korea before pursuing academic study in religion at the University of California, Berkeley, Harvard University, and Princeton University, where he earned his doctorate. Today, he continues to teach and inspire audiences around the world through international talks, retreats, and his widely read writings. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-69v ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) Stop Looking Outside Yourself for Happiness (01:42) The Breakup Myth: Can Someone Take Your Love Away? (03:18) Why You're Stronger Than You Think (05:40) How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You Deeply (07:46) The Secret Behind Negative People (09:13) Don't Take It Personally (09:46) Why Boundaries Are an Act of Compassion (11:30) The Backlash You'll Face When You Finally Say No (12:04) The Hidden Reason People Try to Control Others (13:12) The Path to Inner Freedom and Peace (13:41) Why Healing Yourself Changes Your Entire Life (14:00) Final Wisdom: The One Thing Haemin Wants You to Remember Resources: Haenim Sunim Website: https://www.haeminsunim.com/ Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor:Karen Law ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Ng Yah Tyng🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan Get connected here: Telegram Instagram YouTube Facebook | |||
| Ep 69: Why You Feel Unworthy? A Harvard Monk Explains Ft. Haemin Sunim, Zen Monk & Bestselling Author | 28 Apr 2026 | 00:28:39 | |
Why do we feel like we’re never enough even when everything seems “fine” on the outside? In this heartfelt conversation, Haemin Sunim unpacks the hidden roots of unworthiness, revealing how our deepest insecurities are often shaped by childhood survival instincts and our need to belong. Through gentle wisdom and practical insights, he shows us how to reconnect with our inner child, shift our attention away from negativity, and rediscover a sense of peace and intrinsic worth that has always been within us. ✨ Key Takeaways: 🧠 Why your brain is wired to seek validation Your brain is built to scan for threats. So approval feels like safety, making you rely on external validation. 👶 How childhood survival shapes adult anxiety As a child, you adapted to be liked and accepted to feel safe and cared for. This shows up in adulthood as anxiety, people pleasing, and fear of rejection. 🌱 The hidden link between belonging and self-worth When acceptance is at risk, it’s easy to believe “I’m not enough.” This is why self-worth often becomes dependent on feeling included and liked. ✨ A simple way to retrain your attention away from negativity Your mind naturally focuses on what’s wrong, overlooking what’s good. Where you place your attention shapes how you experience your life. #SelfWorth #InnerHealing #Neuroplasticity #InnerChild #SelfLove #HealingJourney #BuddhistWisdom #PersonalGrowth #HaeminSunim About the Speaker: 👤 Haemin Sunim is a globally respected Zen meditation teacher and international bestselling author known for his deeply practical approach to modern spirituality. His books have sold over six million copies worldwide and have been translated into more than thirty-eight languages. Ordained in the Korean Zen tradition, Haemin Sunim received monastic training in South Korea before pursuing academic study in religion at the University of California, Berkeley, Harvard University, and Princeton University, where he earned his doctorate. Today, he continues to teach and inspire audiences around the world through international talks, retreats, and his widely read writings. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-69v ⏱Timestamps: (00:22) Meet Haemin Sunim: From Harvard to Monkhood (01:02) The Hidden Loneliness of Your Inner Child (02:27) Why We Seek Approval (Childhood Survival Instincts) (04:20) The Fear of Rejection = A “Death Sentence”? (05:44) People Pleasing & Outsourcing Your Self-Worth (07:04) You Already Have the Love You’re Seeking (07:29) What People Secretly Hide Behind Their Smiles (08:47) Rewiring Your Mind: Escaping Negative Thinking (10:21) A Simple Night Routine to Train Gratitude (12:25) How to Reset When You’re Stressed (10 sec → 20 min methods) (15:19) Dopamine vs Serotonin: Why You Feel Empty After Scrolling (18:00) Addiction Isn’t the Problem—What Are You Avoiding? (19:30) Love = Attention (A Surprising Redefinition) (20:11) Relationships as Mirrors: What They Reveal About You (22:00) Healing Patterns: Why You Keep Getting Hurt (24:14) Reparenting Yourself: Giving What You Never Received (24:30) Cheryl’s Reflection: Letting Go of Validation (26:11) Cheryl’s Reflection: Love Was Never “Taken” From You Resources: Haenim Sunim Website: https://www.haeminsunim.com/ Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor:Karen Law ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Ng Yah Tyng🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan Get connected here: Telegram Instagram YouTube Facebook | |||
| Ep 68: Do We Really Need Another Monastery? Ft. Ajahn Nisabho from Clear Mountain | 24 Mar 2026 | 00:30:54 | |
In this episode, Cheryl sits down with Ajahn Nisabho to explore a powerful question many practitioners quietly wrestle with: with so many Buddhist paths available, why commit deeply to one? Drawing from his journey in the Thai Forest Tradition, Ajahn Nisabho shares how commitment is less about limitation and more about depth and sincerity. Through his experience training as a monk and helping to build a monastery in the West, he reflects on how practice, service, and community are not competing priorities, but interconnected expressions of the same path. This conversation offers a grounded look at how the Dhamma can remain authentic while meeting the needs of a modern, diverse world, showing that with care and clarity, depth and accessibility can coexist without losing the essence of the teachings. ✨ Key Takeaways: 🧘♂️ I don’t think the Dhamma makes us choose. True Dhamma doesn’t force a choice between inner practice and outer service. When held wisely, both can deepen each other. A powerful reminder that practice and service, seclusion and community, can coexist when held with wisdom. 🤝 This hunger for… spiritual friendship and community is very deep in people’s hearts. In a disconnected world, kalyanamitta is not optional, it is essential to the path, especially in a fragmented, modern world. 🌱 Give where you feel inspired. Whether through time, energy, or intention, true generosity (dāna) begins with genuine inspiration not from pressure or obligation. #Dana #Generosity #HeartLedLife #Balance #DhammaInLife #Community #Kalyanamitta #SpiritualGrowth About the Speaker: 👤 Ajahn Nisabho is a Buddhist monk in the Thai Forest Tradition and a founding teacher of Clear Mountain Monastery. After completing college in 2012, he left his native Washington to ordain in Thailand, seeking a life dedicated to meditation and the pursuit of liberation. He received full ordination the following year under Ajahn Anan, a senior disciple of the renowned meditation master Ajahn Chah. Over the next several years, Ajahn Nisabho trained in forest monasteries across the world under respected teachers including Ajahn Pasanno and Ajahn Jayasaro. In 2021, he returned to the United States and began laying the foundation for Clear Mountain Monastery in Seattle, with the aim of creating a place where the timeless teachings of the Buddha can take root and flourish for contemporary practitioners. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-68 ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) Why commit to one Buddhist path? (00:25) Podcast intro & guest introduction (00:56) Ajahn Nisabho’s journey into monastic life (02:52) Vision of Clear Mountain monastery (03:47) Balancing practice, service & responsibility (05:21) The joy of giving (Dāna) & community role (07:55) Building a community-first monastery (10:33) The modern need for spiritual community (13:36) How to support the monastery meaningfully (18:35) Balancing accessibility vs deep teachings (22:11) Insights from science, interviews & tradition (25:25) Teaching without compromise & closing reflection Resources: Clear Mountain Project: https://www.friendsofclearmountain.org/ Clear Mountain Youtube : @ClearMountainMonastery Clear Mountain Website: https://www.clearmountainmonastery.org/ Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Dexel Loo ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Ng Yah Tyng 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 67: Why Buddhist Couples Stay Happier – The Surprising Truth | 12 Feb 2026 | 00:32:13 | |
Many couples don’t fall apart because of a lack of love — they drift because they stop listening, growing, and meeting each other where they are. In this episode, Cheryl sits down with Angela, founder of Almost Peaceful, to explore why some relationships deepen over time while others quietly disconnect. Drawing from lived experience, Buddhist principles, and years of working with couples, Angela shares how mindfulness, curiosity, and honest communication can transform conflict into connection — and why lasting love is less about grand gestures and more about daily intention. ✨ Key Takeaways: 💬 Listening Over Fixing — Most relationship tension comes from rushing to solve problems instead of first offering presence, empathy, and a listening ear. 🌱 Love Is a Verb — Healthy relationships are built through consistent effort, curiosity, and small daily actions — not assumptions or mind-reading. 🧘 Non-Attachment Strengthens Love — Honouring impermanence, personal space, and emotional awareness helps couples grow together without clinging or control. #MindfulRelationships #BuddhistWisdom #ConsciousLove #EmotionalConnection #HandfulOfLeaves About the Speaker: Most relationship experts either focus on therapy (fixing what's broken) or surface-level advice (communication tips that don't stick). Angela bridges the gap with relationship mastery - the systematic approach to building extraordinary partnerships. Her unique combination:
📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-67 ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) Why many couples drift apart despite loving each other (01:02) From problem-solving to deep listening in relationships (03:14) The turning point before marriage and choosing commitment (05:00) What it really takes to know someone is “the one” (07:10) Why busy lives quietly erode relationships (08:20) Love as a daily practice, not a feeling (11:04) Monthly relationship check-ins that rebuild connection (13:21) Conflict patterns: avoidance and mind-reading (15:06) Communicating needs without blame or defensiveness (17:05) Hyper-independence and learning interdependence (19:00) Creating space without disconnecting from your partner (21:44) Impermanence, compassion, and choosing wisely at crossroads (27:27) One small daily habit to feel more connected Resources: Zen-inspired marriage preparation workshop - https://almostpeaceful.sg/pages/marriage-success Get in touch with Angela via - https://www.instagram.com/almostpeaceful.sg/ Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Havalooka Studios ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 66: Alone But Not Lonely ft. Ven Sumangala | 29 Jan 2026 | 00:14:10 | |
What does it mean to be alone without feeling lonely? In this episode, Venerable Sumangala reflects on solitude, companionship, and the inner stability needed to stand confidently on our own. Drawing from Buddhist teachings and lived experience, she shares why learning to be at ease with oneself is essential for mental freedom, emotional resilience, and genuine connection with others. ✨ Key Takeaways: 🧘 Solitude Is Not Loneliness — being alone becomes nourishing when the mind is trained to be steady, kind, and present. 🤝 Right Companionship Matters — wise friendships support growth and values, without creating dependence or fear of being alone. 🌱 Inner Stability Creates Freedom — when we are rooted within ourselves, we relate to others from wholeness. #AloneButNotLonely #BuddhistWisdom #MindfulLiving #InnerPeace #SpiritualFriendship About the Speaker: 👤 Venerable Sumaṅgalā Therī is the Abbess of Ariya Vihara Buddhist Society. She embarked on her spiritual journey in Buddhism at the age of 19, inspired by the serene sight of a monk and people meditating, which deeply delighted her heart. This initial inspiration led her to actively pursue, learn, and practise the Buddha’s teachings, with a particular focus on meditation. She holds a B.A. in Psychology and in 1999, she completed her M.A. in Industrial and Organizational Psychology, both from Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia. Furthering her academic and spiritual education, Ven. Sumaṅgalā Therī obtained an M.A. in Philosophy (Buddhism) from the International Buddhist College, Thailand in 2011. Currently, she serves as the Abbess and President of Ariya Vihara Buddhist Society and is an advisor of Gotami Vihara Society in Malaysia. Ven. Sumaṅgalā Therī is actively involved in conducting meditation retreats and giving Dhamma talks in various centers and camps, sharing her deep understanding and experiences in the Dhamma with others. She is one of the recipients of the 23rd Anniversary Outstanding Women Awards (OWBA) 2024, in honour of the United Nations International Women’s Day. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-66 ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) Being alone versus feeling lonely (02:05) Why modern life amplifies loneliness (04:30) Learning to be comfortable with oneself (07:10) Solitude as a spiritual training (09:55) The role of spiritual friendship (12:40) Boundaries, dependence, and healthy connection (15:20) Loneliness as a teacher (17:45) Cultivating inner refuge (20:10) Living fully alone but not lonely Resources: Ariya Vihara Buddhist Society website - https://ariyavihara.org/ Ariya Vihara Building Project - https://ariyavihara.org/ariya-vihara-building-project/ Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Hong Jiayi ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 65: The Buddhist Path to Finding Your True Purpose ft. Ven Sumangala | 30 Dec 2025 | 00:19:04 | |
What gives life true meaning beyond achievement, comfort, and success? In this episode, Venerable Sumangala reflects on purpose, happiness, and the Buddhist path—challenging modern ideas of fulfillment and inviting us to look inward. Through teachings on non-attachment, mental training, and the Noble Eightfold Path, this conversation explores how lasting happiness comes from freedom of mind, not endless striving. ✨ Key Takeaways: 🧭 Purpose Beyond Success – Why ambition and “becoming someone” never fully satisfy. 🌿 Non-Attachment, Real Peace – How letting go leads to calm, clarity, and inner happiness. 🧘 Train the Mind – Meditation and mindfulness as practical tools for daily life. #BuddhistWisdom #PurposeInLife #InnerPeace #MindfulLiving About the Speaker: 👤 Venerable Sumaṅgalā Therī is the Abbess of Ariya Vihara Buddhist Society. She embarked on her spiritual journey in Buddhism at the age of 19, inspired by the serene sight of a monk and people meditating, which deeply delighted her heart. This initial inspiration led her to actively pursue, learn, and practise the Buddha’s teachings, with a particular focus on meditation. She holds a B.A. in Psychology and in 1999, she completed her M.A. in Industrial and Organizational Psychology, both from Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia. Furthering her academic and spiritual education, Ven. Sumaṅgalā Therī obtained an M.A. in Philosophy (Buddhism) from the International Buddhist College, Thailand in 2011. Currently, she serves as the Abbess and President of Ariya Vihara Buddhist Society and is an advisor of Gotami Vihara Society in Malaysia. Ven. Sumaṅgalā Therī is actively involved in conducting meditation retreats and giving Dhamma talks in various centers and camps, sharing her deep understanding and experiences in the Dhamma with others. She is one of the recipients of the 23rd Anniversary Outstanding Women Awards (OWBA) 2024, in honour of the United Nations International Women’s Day. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-65 ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction to the episode & Venerable Sumangala (01:30) – What is true happiness and freedom from suffering? (02:11) – Non-attachment as the key to peace (03:17) – Why ambition and “becoming someone” never satisfies (06:37) – The Noble Eightfold Path explained simply (08:17) – Training the mind through meditation and loving-kindness (10:54) – Happiness from within vs sense pleasure (12:45) – Living simply in a consumer-driven world (17:27) – Redefining success as inner peace and happiness Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Hong Jiayi ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 64: Why Buddhism is the best career investment in your 30s ft. Chade-Meng Tan | 27 Nov 2025 | 00:23:23 | |
In this energizing conversation, Meng — Google’s former “Jolly Good Fellow” and co-founder of buddhism.net — breaks down how Buddhist practice can boost happiness, success, and emotional resilience. From the “minimum effective dose” of meditation to the surprising technique of “suffer later,” Meng shares practical tools anyone can use to feel calmer, think clearer, and live wiser — without needing hours of practice a day. ✨ Key Takeaways: 🧘 Meditation Makes Life Better – Even small, consistent practice creates clarity, calm, and emotional strength 💛 Kindness = Real Power – Why compassion makes you more likeable, more effective, and a better leader ⚡ Tiny Tools, Big Impact – Quick practices like 6-second meditation, “suffer later,” and micro-Metta can transform your day #MindfulLiving #BuddhistWisdom #EmotionalResilience #LeadershipSkills #MeditationTools About the Speaker: 👤 Chade-Meng Tan (Meng) is an award-winning engineer, international bestselling author, movie producer and philanthropist. Meng led the creation of the groundbreaking mindfulness-based emotional intelligence course at Google called Search Inside Yourself. He retired from Google as its Jolly Good Fellow at the age of 45 but is far from retired in his pursuit to spread peace, kindness, and mindfulness around the world. He is Co-chair of One Billion Acts of Peace, which has been nominated by Archbishop Desmond Tutu and seven others for the Nobel Peace Prize. He was also Executive Producer of the movie Walk With Me, and Adjunct Professor at the National University of Singapore. Meng delivered a TED talk on compassion at the United Nations, spoke about the development of kindness at the White House, and led mindfulness practice at the Vatican. The Dalai Lama gave him a hug for his 40th birthday. President Carter once gave him a standing ovation. He jokes that he is a Buddhist “on most weekdays, especially Mondays.” His personal motto is, “Life is too important to be taken seriously”. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-64 ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) – Are you happier? Meng’s unexpected opening question (00:23) – Meng’s background: Google, Buddhism.net & his mission (01:38) – Why young people postpone Buddhism (and why it’s a mistake) (02:39) – Early practice = lifelong benefit (fitness & investing analogy) (03:45) – How meditation improves success at work & relationships (05:47) – Leading with kindness: why people help those they like (07:16) – Leadership under pressure + Meng’s lesson from IBM’s CEO (10:00) – “Suffer later”: Meng’s surprisingly effective stress technique (11:40) – Two parts of Buddhism: transformation & transcendence (13:22) – 6-second meditation experiment (Cheryl tries it) (16:17) – Minimum effective dose: only 100 minutes needed (17:59) – 3 simple practices: Breath, Metta, Waiting-awareness Resources: Links to the ‘Buddhism for All’ series - Website: Buddhism.net Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/buddhism_dot_net/ Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee, Kayliam, Darren 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Brian (Pasadhi), Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 63: Emma Slade - a Bhutanese nun's solo journey across 12 mountain passes | 16 Oct 2025 | 00:15:52 | |
In this inspiring conversation, Buddhist nun and author Emma Slade (Lopen Ani Pema Deki) shares how compassion fuels her work through Opening Your Heart to Bhutan, a charity supporting children with special needs. From surviving a life-changing hostage experience to preparing for a 37-day trek across Bhutan, Emma reveals how resilience, faith, and kindness can transform both personal suffering and the lives of others. 💪 Resilience in Adversity – Lessons from Bhutanese children and Emma’s own journey through trauma. 🌏 Compassion in Action – Why widening our hearts creates true peace and supports those in need. 🧘 Progress, Not Perfection – How practice and service are about gradual growth, not instant enlightenment. #CompassionInAction #BuddhistWisdom #OpeningYourHeart About the Speaker: 👤 Lopen Ani Pema Deki (Emma Slade) was born in Kent, and was educated at Cambridge University and the University of London where she gained a First Class degree. She is a qualified Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA) and worked in Fund Management in London, New York, and Hong Kong. A deep seated desire to enquire into the deeper aspects of humanity arise following a life-changing business trip to Jakarta, where she was held hostage at gunpoint. She resigned from her financial career and began exploring yoga and meditation and methods of wellbeing with the ultimate aim of turning a traumatic episode into wisdom and conditions for thriving. Her interest in Buddhism as a science of the mind strengthened after meeting a Buddhist Lama (teacher) on her first visit to Bhutan in 2011. This crucial chance meeting led to her studying Buddhism with this Lama and, eventually, led to her becoming the first and only Western woman to be ordained in the Himalayan Kingdom of Bhutan as a Buddhist nun. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-63 ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction to Emma Slade: Buddhist nun, author, and charity founder (00:47) – Opening Your Heart to Bhutan: supporting children with special needs (01:40) – Preparing to walk the 37-day Wild Bhutan Trail for fundraising (01:59) – Emma’s hostage experience and empathy for children lacking autonomy (03:21) – Story of a boy walking on his knees who now trains for the Paralympics (04:17) – Mindset and resilience: lessons from Bhutanese children (05:14) – Struggles, fundraising challenges, and not giving up (06:08) – Expanding compassion as mental training and peace (07:05) – Following the Bodhisattva vow with aspiration despite obstacles (09:11) – Skillful means: helping others when they are ready to receive (10:49) – The “cup” analogy for openness to Dharma (12:12) – Progress is gradual: not expecting perfection in practice (12:44) – Redefining suffering as mental states, not just physical (14:02) – Preparing physically and mentally for the Bhutan Trail (14:31) – Stretching beyond comfort zones to truly help others (14:40) – How to follow Emma’s journey and support the cause Resources: Emma Slade’s website: https://www.emmaslade.com/ Emma Slade’s charity fundraiser: https://www.openingyourhearttobhutan.com/ Facebook/Instagram: @openingyourhearttobhutan_ More about her journey being held at gunpoint: My Path To Becoming A Buddhist | Emma Slade | TEDxSevenoaksSchool Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Hong Jiayi ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Why a 31-year old Singaporean Techie Chose the Monk Life | 14 Oct 2025 | 00:15:18 | |
From dating to reading about Elon Musk to politics, he was in search of meaning in his early 20s. That all changed when he read about the Buddha and his monks. We had the awesome opportunity to speak with Phra Ryan before he took on full ordination. Here’s his story of becoming a monk at the prime of his career in the tech industry. This is also how he, as an only son and having family members of a different faith, arrived at this path. #BuddhistWisdom #MindfulLiving #FaithAndPractice About the Speaker: Halfway through university, Ryan embarked on a spiritual journey into the deeper meaning of life, and found himself drawn towards Buddhism during a silent retreat in the Australian bush, which marked the beginning of an eight-year long journey into monkhood. This is his story. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-phra-ryan ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) – First week as a novice monk: nerves and relief (01:30) – Meeting Ajahn Dhammasiha and first retreats (03:00) – Life as an Anagarika and family’s reaction (05:00) – Growing up privileged but searching for meaning (07:05) – Parents’ and friends’ response to ordination (09:10) – Luang Por’s teaching: life without mindfulness is crazy (10:00) – Goal of practice: freeing the mind from attachment (11:15) – Wearing the robe and facing “imposter syndrome” (12:09) – Choosing Wat Marp Jan under Luang Por Anan Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Hong Jiayi ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 62: A Narrow Heart Is a Fragile Heart | How to Stop Feeling So Alone | 24 Sep 2025 | 00:15:40 | |
In this episode, Lopen Ani Pema Deki (Ven Emma Slade) — a former London investment banker who left after a near-death experience in Jakarta to ordain in Bhutan — explores what it means to widen the heart and become truly unbreakable. She contrasts fleeting, manufactured happiness with the effortless joy that arises from practice and explains how small acts of kindness build resilience. Perfect for listeners curious about practical spirituality and living with purpose. Key Takeaways: 🧭 Choose Liberation, Not Comfort — Why training the mind matters, and how practice aims for freedom from samsara rather than temporary ease. 💫 Real Joy vs. Manufactured Bliss — The difference between practice-born joy (stable, effortless) and short-lived worldly pleasures. 🤝 Small Acts, Big Heart — Two-minute kindnesses, widening your circle of care, and the role of faith/teacher in sustaining practice. #OpeningYourHeart #BuddhistWisdom #MindfulLiving #FaithAndPractice About the Speaker: 👤 Lopen Ani Pema Deki (Ven Emma Slade) was born in Kent, educated at Cambridge University and the University of London where she gained a First Class degree. She is a qualified Chartered Financial Analyst (CFA) and worked in Fund Management in London, New York, and Hong Kong. A deep seated desire to enquire into the deeper aspects of humanity arise following a life- changing business trip to Jakarta, where she was held hostage at gunpoint. She resigned from her financial career and began exploring yoga and meditation and methods of wellbeing with the ultimate aim of turning a traumatic episode into wisdom and conditions for thriving. Her interest in Buddhism as a science of the mind strengthened after meeting a Buddhist Lama (teacher) on her first visit to Bhutan in 2011. This crucial chance meeting led to her studying Buddhism and becoming the first and only Western woman to be ordained in the Himalayan Kingdom of Bhutan as a Buddhist nun. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-62 ⏱Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction to Lopen Ani Pema Deki (Ven Emma Slade), former banker turned Buddhist nun (01:00) – The challenge of practicing Dharma in a busy modern life (02:31) – Are we seeking comfort in samsara or liberation? (02:51) – What happiness really means from a Buddhist perspective (03:40) – Joy and bliss: natural results of Dharma practice vs. worldly joy (05:28) – Reflections on Bhutan and why happiness can’t be measured easily (06:20) – Mental resilience and faith in Bhutanese life (07:17) – Small daily acts of kindness in a busy life (07:53) – Expanding motivation beyond yourself and loved ones (08:52) – Why bother about anyone else besides your loved ones? (09:20) – Why widening your heart supports resilience (10:24) – The Bodhisattva path: stretching beyond your comfort zone (11:14) – How Lopen Ani Pema Deki became a Buddhist and later a nun (11:40) – Meeting her teacher in Bhutan (12:24) – Moments of clarity and deep spiritual connection (14:27) – Karma and how Lopen Ani Pema Deki ’s path ripened in Bhutan Resources: Lopen Ani Pema Deki (Ven Emma Slade) website - https://www.emmaslade.com/ Lopen Ani Pema Deki (Ven Emma Slade) charity fundraiser - https://www.openingyourhearttobhutan.com/ Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Hong Jiayi ✍️ Transcribers: Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 61: How I Built a $200M Business Without Crossing These 5 Lines | 15 Aug 2025 | 00:23:59 | |
How can Buddhist principles guide tough business decisions, build trust, and create a healthier workplace culture? In this episode, Glints co-founder Ying Cong shares real-life lessons from 11 years of leading a startup—navigating challenges from employee boundaries to co-founder conflicts—while staying grounded in his “inviolable principles.” His reflections show how mindfulness and compassion can be powerful tools in leadership and life. 🛑 Boundaries Build Respect – Why not treating employees as “family” can actually strengthen trust and fairness. 🗣️ Truth as a Leadership Asset – How radical honesty during crises kept the team united and loyal. 🤝 Compassion in Conflict – Using empathy and gratitude to resolve disagreements without breaking relationships. #MindfulLeadership #BuddhistWisdom #StartupLessons #TruthAndTrust #DharmaInBusiness About the Speaker: 👤 Ying Cong is a long-time meditator and the co-founder of Glints, a leading career platform in Southeast Asia. Over the past decade, he helped scale the company from an idea incubated by JFDI to a regional startup featured in major publications like The Straits Times and Yahoo News. As Glints’ former CTO and current machine learning engineer, he has worked on recommender systems, fraud detection, and data infrastructure—though he jokes that most of it is just “glorified data cleaning.” His Dhamma journey began in his teenage years and continues to deepen through regular meditation, observing the precepts, and periods of monastic training in the Thai forest tradition. He is quietly exploring how to balance the responsibilities of lay life with the path of practice. 📄 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-61
(00:00) – Introduction to Ying Cong and Glints (00:46) – Why “treating employees like family” caused challenges (02:34) – Setting healthy boundaries while staying compassionate (03:34) – Listening deeply to uncover unspoken struggles (05:24) – How personal connection creates meaning at work (05:54) – Translating individual meaning into team culture (07:04) – Leaders setting the tone for company culture (08:13) – Avoiding the trap of hiring people just like you (09:59) – Using “inviolable principles” as a leadership foundation (10:38) – Close calls with breaking the precept on truthfulness (12:14) – Learning to package truth wisely for investors (13:02) – How truthfulness builds long-term trust with employees (15:02) – Radical transparency during financial crisis kept the team together (16:04) – Biggest co-founder disagreement: shutting down a business unit (19:00) – Applying Buddhist wisdom to make difficult decisions (20:14) – Compassion in execution: acknowledging effort and gratitude (22:23) – Stepping down as CTO and learning from different roles (23:26) – Final reflections and key takeaways
Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong, Dennis Lee 🙏 Sponsor us: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ 🎬 Editor: Aparajita Ghose – Website | YouTube ✍️ Transcribers: Hong Jiayi, Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay 🎨 Visuals & Sound: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 60: The $200M Entrepreneur who meditates two hours a day | 17 Jul 2025 | 00:23:55 | |
What does it mean to build a $200M startup while staying grounded in Buddhist values? In this episode, Ying Cong, co-founder of Glints, shares candid stories from his entrepreneurial journey—from navigating PR crises to letting go of ego and status. With wisdom drawn from his daily two-hour meditation practice and real-world experience, he explores how Dhamma can shape leadership, decisions, and even definitions of success. 🧘 Meditation in the Startup World – How mindfulness helps in managing crises and emotional highs and lows 💸 The Joy of Giving – Why true generosity pierces the ego and transforms workplace culture 🌊 Samsara on Steroids – Lessons in impermanence from building (and rebuilding) a company over 11 years #StartupWisdom #MindfulLeadership #BuddhistEntrepreneur #SamsaraOnSteroids #DhammaInBusiness About the Speaker: 👤Ying Cong is a long-time meditator and the co-founder of Glints, a leading career platform in Southeast Asia. Over the past decade, he helped scale the company from an idea incubated by JFDI to a regional startup featured in major publications like The Straits Times and Yahoo News. As Glints’ former CTO and current machine learning engineer, he has worked on recommender systems, fraud detection, and data infrastructure—though he jokes that most of it is just “glorified data cleaning.” His Dhamma journey began in his teenage years and continues to deepen through regular meditation, observing the precepts, and periods of monastic training in the Thai forest tradition. He is quietly exploring how to balance the responsibilities of lay life with the path of practice.
Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-60 Timestamps: (00:00) – Startup life as “samsara on steroids” (00:50) – Introduction to guest: Ying Cong, co-founder of Glints (02:02) – Ying Cong’s Buddhist background and early monastic experiences (02:48) – Why he meditates two hours a day and how he finds time (04:34) – How meditation helped during a major PR crisis (05:00) – The PR crisis story: a job listing gone wrong (07:31) – Learning to face problems directly, like in meditation (08:46) – Reputation: years to build, seconds to lose (09:37) – The joy of giving and overcoming stinginess (11:15) – A COVID layoff decision and the pain of letting go (13:48) – Choosing compassion: giving severance from personal funds (15:10) – Letting go of attachment to money and ego (16:21) – Building something meaningful through self-development (16:50) – Startup life and the eight worldly winds (17:23) – From financial freedom to finding deeper meaning (18:01) – “Making it” then losing it: a funding disappointment (19:38) – People come and go: the pain of team members leaving (21:05) – Impermanence and the constant cycle of change (21:47) – Reflections on the Buddha’s noble search (23:02) – Developing wisdom and seeing patterns of impermanence (23:36) – Closing Reflection Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong Sponsor us here: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ Editor of this episode: Aparajita Ghose Website: aparajitayoga.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClLdn8TJKbY1uQ9PQr5AUsA Transcribers of this episode: Hong Jiayi, Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay Visual and Sound Effects: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 59: Buddhism Saved My Life ft. Hary Ho | 18 Jun 2025 | 00:28:50 | |
How do we grow through trauma and find clarity in the midst of chaos? In this heartfelt and honest episode, Hary Ho opens up about his journey through childhood trauma, depression, and a life-changing medical condition that forced him to confront impermanence head-on. His story is a powerful reminder that healing isn't linear—but it is possible. Tune in for raw reflections, unexpected insights, and gentle encouragement for anyone navigating darkness. 🔹 From Abuse to Awakening – Hary shares how childhood trauma shaped his worldview and his eventual path to inner freedom 🕊️ 🔹 Facing Illness and Impermanence – A serious medical condition became a turning point for reflection and transformation 🏥 🔹 Letting Go and Letting Be – Insights on acceptance and finding peace in the present moment 🌿 #MentalHealth #TraumaRecovery #FacingImpermanence #HealingJourney #BuddhistWisdom About the Speaker: 👤 Haryono (Hary) is currently Senior Director in P&G, he has 14 years of experience working across APAC markets and lived across Singapore, Indonesia and Philippines. He had a near-death experience, having a coma during his teenage life and now living with type 1 diabetes. Buddhism has helped him understand that there is always peace in whatever suffering and unhappiness with regards to mind and body and it's up to us on how to make sense of it.
Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-59 Timestamps: (00:00) – Introducing Hary and today’s topic (01:12) – Hary’s childhood (02:16) – Events that started to unfold after Hary’s move to Singapore (04:16) – Deep depression and suicidal thoughts (05:38) – Turning to Buddhism and spiritual inquiry (06:57) – Starting his journey with meditation (08:01) – Letting go of expectations and control (10:15) – How did meditation help with his diabetes management (13:09) – Watching the heart (14:10) – The equation of suffering (18:38) – Be kind to yourself (19:50) – What is a meaningful life? (22:49) – Challenges faced in letting go (26:22) – Closing reflections and message to others Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong Sponsor us here: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ Editor and Transcriber of this episode: Hong Jiayi, Cheryl Cheah, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay Visual and Sound Effects: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 58: What Vesak Means to Us ft. Jiayi and Soon | 29 May 2025 | 00:35:01 | |
What does Vesak mean beyond flowers, incense, and rituals? In this warm and insightful conversation, the HOL team reflects on their childhood memories, evolving understanding, and personal aspirations for Vesak. From funny temple stories to deep reflections on renunciation, this episode explores how we can live the true spirit of Vesak — not just on one day, but every day. Key Takeaways: 🌱 From Ritual to Reflection – How Vesak transformed from a cultural event into a meaningful spiritual practice. 🧘 Practice Over Offerings – Why the Buddha taught that our actions — not flowers or incense — are the highest form of respect. 💛 Faith in Human Potential – Vesak is a reminder that we too can walk the path the Buddha walked. #VesakReflections #EverydayDharma #ModernBuddhism #HandfulOfLeaves #BuddhistWisdom About the Speakers: 👤 Hong Jiayi works in communications. She began her Dhamma journey last year, a path that has since become a grounding presence in her life. She volunteers with DAYWA, a community for young Buddhist working adults in Singapore, and serves as an editor on the podcast team at Handful of Leaves. Outside of work and Dhamma, she trains in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, a sport that keeps her humble, grounded, and occasionally squished. 👤 Teo Heng Soon (known as Soon in short) graduated from the University of Melbourne and is now a human capital consultant. Passionate about people, he has been a leader with multiple volunteer organisations like the Dyslexic Association of Singapore. Buddhist Fellowship Youth has been his Dhamma home for 12 years. Honing his leadership skills, he has learnt to give Dhamma talks and conduct workshops and sutta discussions. On a personal level, Soon is passionate about the arts - from Karate to Photography. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-58 Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction: Gratitude for the Buddha and what Vesak means (00:56) – Hosts share their backgrounds in Buddhism (03:00) – Childhood memories and early Vesak experiences (06:45) – How understanding of Vesak deepened over time (07:55) – From taking to giving: Vesak as spiritual transformation (10:05) – Honoring the Buddha through practice, not just ritual (11:15) – Why precepts matter and how they bring freedom (13:58) – Restraint vs. comfort in modern life (15:45) – Redefining happiness: freedom from craving (16:15) – Letting go of ego and being present with others (17:30) – Daily check-in: living wholesomely beyond Vesak (21:15) – Faith in the Buddha and our human potential (24:13) – Practicing Vesak meaningfully for the first time (26:38) – The Buddha’s compassion and sacrifice (29:28) – Seeing the Buddha as a relatable human (31:19) – Aspirations: letting go, gratitude, compassion (34:45) – Closing: What does Vesak mean to you? Resource: The Snake Simile where the Buddha calls someone foolishhttps://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/mn/mn.022.nypo.html#:~:text=6.%20%22Of%20whom,time.%22%5B3%5D Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong Sponsor us here: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ Editor of this episode: Aparajita Ghose Website: aparajitayoga.com Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClLdn8TJKbY1uQ9PQr5AUsA Transcribers of this episode: Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay Visual and Sound Effects: Anton Thorne, Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| This is Goodbye | 27 May 2025 | 00:37:43 | |
In this heartfelt farewell episode, Kai Xin shares her personal journey of stepping away from Handful of Leaves to fully pursue the spiritual path. Together with Heng Xuan, they reflect on the early days of HOL, the community they’ve built, and what lies ahead. Whether you're a long-time listener or new to the platform, this episode is a touching reminder of purpose, presence, and legacy. Key Takeaways: 🙏 Honoring a New Chapter – Kai Xin shares her decision to step down from HOL to focus on formal Buddhist practice. 💡 Legacy & Letting Go – Reflections on building HOL and trusting the team to carry the vision forward. 🌱 What’s Next for HOL – Heng Xuan shares how the platform will evolve and continue to serve the Buddhist community. #MindfulTransitions #BuddhistWisdom #SpiritualJourney #HandfulOfLeaves #DharmaInAction About the Speakers: 👤 Koh Kai Xin is a co-founder of HighSpark, a strategic communications consulting and training agency. She started her Dhamma journey at the age of 17 with Buddhist Fellowship Singapore and has been volunteering her time at various Buddhist organisations. She's now a mentor under the SBM mentorship programme. Her perfect holiday is a long meditation retreat in the forest monasteries. 👤 Teo Heng Xuan works as a senior associate in an investment firm. He is also the co-founder of DAYWA, a community for young Buddhist working adults in Singapore & Handful Of Leaves, a popular Buddhist media platform that publishes insightful articles and a podcast series. He is also a mentor for the BFY youth group. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-this-is-goodbye Timestamps: (00:00) – Kai Xin announces her departure from Handful of Leaves (01:26) – Origin of HOL and vision to make Buddhism accessible (06:17) – Why Kai Xin chose to step down (08:28) – Emotional struggles and clarity while in Thailand (11:51) – Heng Xuan reflects on the impact and future without Kai Xin (13:54) – Transition planning and empowering the team (15:40) – Financial sustainability and staying true to Dhamma (17:51) – Confidence in the path and finding support in Thailand (22:29) – Milestones and meaningful community impact (26:05) – Kai Xin’s commitment to practice and simple living (28:32) – The future of HOL: new formats, new contributors (30:30) – Parting advice: use the three poisons as a guide (35:06) – How to support HOL: skills, donations, and personal practice Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law, Shin Hui Chong Sponsor us here: https://handfulofleaves.life/support/ Editor and transcriber of this episode: Hong Jia Yi, Ang You Shan, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay, Cheryl Cheah HOL indent visuals: Anton Thorne Jingle and Sound effects: Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 57: From Dog Shit To Amitabha ft. Venerable Sumangala | 22 Apr 2025 | 00:12:19 | |
In this enriching episode of Handful of Leaves, Venerable Sumangala shares how Buddhist wisdom can be applied to everyday challenges—whether in the workplace, in speech, or in balancing spiritual life with modern demands. With heartfelt stories and practical guidance, she offers a grounded path toward wisdom, mindfulness, and right living. Key Takeaways: 🗣️ Right Speech Matters – How the words we use can either uplift or harm, and ways to speak with intention and compassion. 🧘 Mindfulness in Daily Life – Practical tips to integrate Dhamma into your workday, commute, and even lunch breaks. 💡 Simple Principles, Deep Impact – Why values like generosity, morality, and clarity of mind are essential for lasting happiness. #RightSpeech #ModernMindfulness #BuddhistWisdom #DhammaInDailyLife #LiveWithCompassion About the Speaker Venerable Sumaṅgalā Therī is the Abbess of Ariya Vihara Buddhist Society. She embarked on her spiritual journey in Buddhism at the age of 19, inspired by the serene sight of a monk and people meditating, which deeply delighted her heart. This initial inspiration led her to actively pursue, learn, and practise the Buddha’s teachings, with a particular focus on meditation. She holds a B.A. in Psychology and in 1999, she completed her M.A. in Industrial and Organizational Psychology, both from Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia. Furthering her academic and spiritual education, Ven. Sumaṅgalā Therī obtained an M.A. in Philosophy (Buddhism) from the International Buddhist College, Thailand in 2011. Her formal journey into monastic life began in 2005 when she left the household life to become an Anagarika. Her ordination as a Dasasil (akin to a Sāmaṇerī) took place in November 2008 under the sacred Sri Mahābodhi at Bodhgaya, India. Her preceptor-teacher was Ven. Mahinda Mahāthera, a proponent of Mettā and one of the early disciples of the late Ven. Dr. K. Sri Dhammananda Nāyaka Mahāthera from Malaysia. Her meditation teacher was Ven. Nadimale Sumedhā Maniyo of Sri Lanka, who guided her in samatha-vipassanā meditation practices. On 21 June 2015, she took her higher ordination under the guidance of preceptor Ven. B. Sri Saranankara Nāyaka Mahāthera – the Chief Judiciary Monk of Malaysia, and bhikkhuni preceptor-teacher Ayya Santinī Mahātherī of Indonesia. Currently, she serves as the Abbess and President of Ariya Vihara Buddhist Society and is an advisor of Gotami Vihara Society in Malaysia. Ven. Sumaṅgalā Therī is actively involved in conducting meditation retreats and giving Dhamma talks in various centers and camps, sharing her deep understanding and experiences in the Dhamma with others. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-57 Timestamps: (00:00) – Power of speech and first impressions (01:00) – Ego and decision-making in teams (02:00) – Communicating with clarity and empathy (03:00) – Leading with Dhamma and unity (04:00) – Right speech in difficult situations (05:00) – Transforming unwholesome language (06:00) – Speech as a source of harm or healing (07:00) – Choosing words that reduce negativity (08:00) – True meaning of “being busy” (09:00) – Mindfulness in everyday routines (10:00) – Practicing generosity and morality (11:00) – Living by the five precepts (12:00) – Simplicity, health, and presence Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law Editor and transcriber of this episode: Hong Jiayi, Ang You Shan, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay, Cheryl Cheah HOL indent visuals: Anton Thorne Jingle and Sound effects: Tan Pei Shan, Ang You Shan | |||
| Ep 56: Is Letting Go = Laziness? ft. Venerable Sumangala and Soon | 28 Mar 2025 | 00:15:28 | |
In this episode of Handful of Leaves, Venerable Sumangala shares insights on the practice of letting go and renunciation, emphasising the importance of inner transformation and understanding suffering. She explains how letting go of attachment to ego and external perceptions leads to true freedom and happiness, while still pursuing goals with a balanced approach. Key Takeaways: 🧘♀️ Letting Go of Ego – True liberation comes from letting go of the ego and not creating more attachments to identity, fame, or success. 🌱 Understanding Suffering – The Four Noble Truths guide us to understand that suffering is a result of attachment, and by letting go of desire, we can end suffering. ⚖️ Balancing Desire and Detachment – Achieving goals and success is natural, but it is important to not become attached to the outcome. Focus on the process and the wellbeing of others. #LettingGo #InnerPeace #EgoFree #Buddhism #Renunciation #Mindfulness #FourNobleTruths #Balance About the Speaker Venerable Sumaṅgalā Therī is the Abbess of Ariya Vihara Buddhist Society. She embarked on her spiritual journey in Buddhism at the age of 19, inspired by the serene sight of a monk and people meditating, which deeply delighted her heart. This initial inspiration led her to actively pursue, learn, and practise the Buddha’s teachings, with a particular focus on meditation. She holds a B.A. in Psychology and in 1999, she completed her M.A. in Industrial and Organizational Psychology, both from Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia. Furthering her academic and spiritual education, Ven. Sumaṅgalā Therī obtained an M.A. in Philosophy (Buddhism) from the International Buddhist College, Thailand in 2011. Currently, she serves as the Abbess and President of Ariya Vihara Buddhist Society and is an advisor of Gotami Vihara Society in Malaysia. Ven. Sumaṅgalā Therī is actively involved in conducting meditation retreats and giving Dhamma talks in various centers and camps, sharing her deep understanding and experiences in the Dhamma with others. She is one of the recipients of the 23rd Anniversary Outstanding Women Awards (OWBA) 2024, in honour of the United Nations International Women’s Day. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-56 Timestamps: 00:00 – Intro & Guest Host 00:32 – What is Letting Go of Becoming? 01:33 – Renunciation in Buddhism 03:20 – Letting Go of Ego 04:00 – Personal Story: Shaving Head 08:10 – Internal Transformation & Liberation 09:02 – Letting Go of Outcomes 12:13 – Focusing on Process & Wellbeing 13:22 – Bhikkhuni Training Center Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law Editor and transcriber of this episode: Hong Jia Yi, Ang You Shan, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay, Cheryl Cheah | |||
| Ep 55: Gay, married with a family. Buddhism taught me self-love | 27 Feb 2025 | 00:13:58 | |
In this deeply personal episode, Julian opens up about his journey of self-discovery, struggles with self-acceptance, and how Buddhism transformed his perspective on life. He shares his battles with fear, vulnerability, and self-doubt, offering valuable insights on resilience and personal growth. Join us as we explore the power of kindness, healing, and embracing one's true self. #SelfDiscovery #MindfulnessJourney #HealingThroughVulnerability #BuddhismAndLife #OvercomingFear Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-55 Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction & Disclaimer (01:37) – Julian’s Journey into Buddhism (02:13) – Learning from Buddhism & Personal Growth (03:40) – Losing Everything & Finding Purpose (04:11) – Facing Fear & Coming Out (05:27) – Overcoming Judgment & Self-Doubt (07:37) – Battling Negative Self-Talk (08:42) – Vulnerability & Family Support (09:55) – The Power of Self-Kindness (10:10) – Understanding Ego vs. True Kindness (12:08) – Taking the Leap to Be Vulnerable (12:56) – Buddhist Teachings & Overcoming Suicidal Thoughts (13:45) – Closing Reflections & Gratitude Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee, Amelia Toh, Hannah Law Editor and transcriber of this episode: Hong Jia Yi, Ang You Shan, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay, Cheryl Cheah | |||
| Ep 54: Chords of Connection: Music, Mindfulness and Friendship ft Plum Village | 16 Jan 2025 | 00:15:39 | |
In this insightful episode of Handful of Leaves, we held a conversation with Brother Duc Pho - a monastic from Plum Village - to explore the powerful connection between music and mindfulness. Discover how music can enhance meditation, help transform suffering, and cultivate a more joyful, present life. Brother Duc Pho also shares personal stories, practical tips, and reflections on balancing silence with song, making this episode a harmonious blend of wisdom and melody.
#MindfulMusic #TransformWithMindfulness #JoyfulPractice About the Speaker Brother Đức Phổ (徳普), born in the Netherlands in 1985, first got in contact with Buddhism while traveling in South-East Asia. Later he found a practical and applied form of Buddhism in Plum Village France and has been practicing and building sangha as a lay practitioner in this tradition since 2010 and continues to do so since being ordained as a monastic under Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh in 2016. He currently practices with the monastic sangha of Thai Plum Village International Meditation Practice Center in Pak Chong, Thailand. Brother Duc Pho enjoys sitting meditation and slow walking outside in nature, drinking tea in mindfulness, playing music and offering his presence as an authentic human being and practitioner with people of all ages including young people and children. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-54 Timestamps: (00:00) – Introduction (01:15) – Fun Question (02:30) – Music and Mindfulness (03:20) – Mindful Music vs. Obstacles (04:10) – Music as a Double-Edged Sword (06:15) – The Eight Precepts (07:30) – Music Choices and Intentions (09:10) – The Three Complexes (10:00) – Music for Healing (13:20) – Final Advice (14:35) – Music as a Community Builder (15:25) – Closing Thoughts Resources: Plum Village Thailand https://www.thaiplumvillage.org/ Joyful Garden Sangha Singapore Plum Village Malaysia https://www.instagram.com/plumvillagemalaysia?igsh=MWN1amV1OWoxNzJ2eQ== Plum Village Indonesia https://www.instagram.com/plumvillageindonesia?igsh=bmg5bzVxNWppdjd0 Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen, Nai Kai Lee Editor and transcriber of this episode: Hong Jia Yi, Ang You Shan, Tan Si Jing, Bernice Bay, Cheryl Cheah | |||
| Ep 53: Reframe & Rise: Transforming Feedback into Fuel ft. Jeraldine Phneah | 19 Nov 2024 | 00:20:54 | |
In this inspiring episode, we explore how to rise above criticism, face unfairness with courage, and grow into a stronger, more resilient version of yourself. Join host Cheryl and guest Jeraldine Phneah, a top tech sales leader and content creator, as they share transformative insights on navigating challenges, embracing forgiveness, and thriving in an often judgmental world. 💡 Key Takeaway: Learn to use criticism constructively and grow from it, while maintaining emotional resilience and self-worth. 🌱 Themes: Overcoming unfairness, cultivating forgiveness, and embracing personal growth. 💪 Empowerment: Navigate life's challenges with mindfulness, self-compassion, and skillful relationship management. #CriticismToGrowth #MindfulnessMatters #selfcompassion About the Speaker Jeraldine Phneah is a Singaporean tech sales professional and content creator, passionate about helping others become the best versions of themselves in their careers, finances, health, and relationships. Through her own journey, she shares practical, actionable solutions to alleviate the pressures of modern life. Listed as one of LinkedIn’s Top Voices in Singapore, Jeraldine has been featured in prominent media outlets such as Channel News Asia, Dollars & Sense, and Her World. She has also spoken at high-profile events, including the YWLC/Grab Future Women Leaders Forum 2022, E27 Echelon Asia Summit 2023, and the Endowus Wealthtech Conference 2023. In her professional role, Jeraldine works at an AI SaaS startup, where she focuses on scaling their business across the APAC region. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-53 Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (02:00) Defining Unfairness (03:30) Facing Appearance-Based Criticism (06:30) Listening Without Losing Yourself (08:00) Managing Emotions: Mindfulness and Detachment (09:30) Loving Kindness: A Buddhist Approach to Feedback (11:00) Validating Criticism: When to Act and When to Let Go (14:00) The REACH Model for Forgiveness (18:00) Wisdom in “Forgive, Not Forget” (19:30) Thriving Despite Unfairness: The Power of Compassion (20:30) Closing Resources: - Jeraldine’s website https://www.jeraldinephneah.com/ - Akkosa Sutta https://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/sn/sn07/sn07.002.than.html Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Soh Jun Xing, Cheryl Cheah, Bernice Bay, Tan Si Jing, Susara Ng | |||
| Ep 51: The Most Precious Commodity in Life ft. Sylvia Bay | 22 Oct 2024 | 00:29:13 | |
In this episode, Cheryl and Sister Sylvia discuss practical ways to avoid critical judgment, cultivate compassion, and align our actions with the Dhamma for a more peaceful life. Some key takeaways include: 🧠 Understand why judgment is instinctual and how it stems from our survival mechanisms. 🧘 Learn how to be mindful of your feelings and reactions, turning judgment into compassion. 💭 Embrace the power of reflecting on impermanence to shift your perspective and reduce suffering. #BuddhistWisdom #MindfulnessMatters #LifeTransformation About the Speaker Sylvia Bay has been dedicated to the study and practice of Buddha's teaching since 1992. She graduated with a B.A. (Hons) First Class, in Buddhist Studies, from the Buddhist and Pali University of Sri Lanka in 2000 and joined the teaching staff of the Buddhist and Pali College (Singapore) in 2001. Since 2002, Sylvia has also been a regular speaker on Buddhist doctrine, Buddhist history, and the practical application of the Buddha's teachings in daily life, at the invitation of various Buddhist organisations in Singapore. She published her first book in May 2014: the 1st volume of a 2-part series on the life of the Buddha which is titled, "Between The Lines: An Analytical Appreciation of Buddha's Life". Volume 2 was launched on Vesak day of year 2015. Sylvia also holds a B.Soc.Sci (Hons) from NUS and a Masters in International Public Policy (M.I.P.P) from School of Advanced International Studies (SAIS), Johns Hopkins. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-51 Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (03:30) Perceiving vs. Judging (09:20) Converting Judgment into Compassion (13:45) Five Conditions for Character Change (16:05) Becoming a Positive Example (19:17) Material and Spiritual Success (24:11) Five Precepts (26:32) Mortality and Impermanence (28:27) Kamma and Merits (29:03) Conclusion
Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Bernice Bay, Eng Yean Khai, Tan Si Jing | |||
| Ep 50: Between the Lines ft. Heng Yeh | 08 Oct 2024 | 00:26:44 | |
Join us in this conversation between Cheryl and Heng Yeh —an award-winning poet, writer, and translator, as we discuss grief using poetry as a means to unpack the nuances. The conversation feels like peeling an onion , unfolding the layers of this complex human experience, and we hope you take a ride with us on your morning or evening commute! We talk about grief 😢, pain 💔, loneliness 😔, and everything in between. There's a little bonus 🎁 at the very end, so make sure you don't miss that 😉 #griefjourney #poetry #copingwithgrief #healingafterloss About the Speaker Yee Heng Yeh is a writer, translator, and poet from Malaysia. His poetry has appeared in various publications and was twice nominated for the Pushcart Prize. He also contributes to Penang Monthly, writes for the theatre, and runs workshops. Last year, he did a residency in Rimbun Dahan and was a Writing Fellow at A Public Space. He is currently the poetry editor of NutMag, a Penang zine. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep50 Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (01:45) Poem analysis (04:05) Impact on identity (07:35) Buddhist perspective on impermanence (12:15) Contrasting responses to grief (15:45) Heng Yeh's grief experience (18:05) Neurological basis of grief (19:50) Practice of Metta (24:30) Conclusion Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng Get connected here: Telegram Instagram YouTube Facebook | |||
| Ep 49: Oh No, One Day Our Parents Are Going to Die ft. Sis. Sylvia Bay | 04 Sep 2024 | 00:22:52 | |
Navigating conversations about death can be challenging, especially with ageing parents. In this poignant episode, Sis. Sylvia Bay, esteemed Dhamma Scholar shares insights on how to approach the topic of death with our parents, particularly in cultures where discussing death is considered taboo: 🕊️Learn when is the best time and ways to discuss death with loved ones. 😔How to address feelings of regret and inspire ongoing positive actions in your loved ones. 🌱Understand the comforting concept of rebirth can transform the way we view death and mortality. #FilialPiety #Family #Wisdom #ParentChild #Death About the Speaker Sylvia Bay has been dedicated to the study and practice of Buddha's teaching since 1992. She graduated with a B.A. (Hons) First Class, in Buddhist Studies, from the Buddhist and Pali University of Sri Lanka in 2000 and joined the teaching staff of the Buddhist and Pali College (Singapore) in 2001. Since 2002, Sylvia has also been a regular speaker on Buddhist doctrine, Buddhist history, and the practical application of the Buddha's teachings in daily life, at the invitation of various Buddhist organisations in Singapore. She published her first book in May 2014: the 1st volume of a 2-part series on the life of the Buddha which is titled, "Between The Lines: An Analytical Appreciation of Buddha's Life". Volume 2 was launched on Vesak day of year 2015. Sylvia also holds a B.Soc.Sci (Hons) from NUS and a Masters in International Public Policy (M.I.P.P) from School of Advanced International Studies (SAIS), Johns Hopkins. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep49 Timestamps: (00:00) Introduction (00:20) Discussing Death with Loved Ones (04:18) Addressing Regret and Making Amends (08:01) Role of the Sangha (10:02) Coping with Grief and Attachment (13:20) Letting Go as an Expression of Wisdom (18:06) Understanding Attachment and Self-Love (22:07) Conclusion Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng Get connected here: Telegram Instagram YouTube Facebook | |||
| Ep 48: Parenting the Parent ft. Sis. Sylvia Bay | 13 Aug 2024 | 00:22:54 | |
In this thought-provoking discussion between Cheryl and esteemed Dhamma Scholar Sis. Sylvia Bay, we explore the vital Dhamma principles that guide us in our relationships with our parents and the deeper aspects of filial duty while staying true to our principles! Highlights include: 🌱 The Buddha’s teachings on honoring our parents and fulfilling our filial duties, both materially and spiritually 🌱 Balancing personal well-being and parental expectations 🌱 Exercising wisdom and setting boundaries in familial relationships #FilialPiety #Buddhism #Family #Wisdom #ParentChild #HandfulOfLeaves About the Speaker Sylvia Bay has been dedicated to the study and practice of Buddha's teaching since 1992. She graduated with a B.A. (Hons) First Class, in Buddhist Studies, from the Buddhist and Pali University of Sri Lanka in 2000 and joined the teaching staff of the Buddhist and Pali College (Singapore) in 2001. Since 2002, Sylvia has also been a regular speaker on Buddhist doctrine, Buddhist history, and the practical application of the Buddha's teachings in daily life, at the invitation of various Buddhist organisations in Singapore. She published her first book in May 2014: the 1st volume of a 2-part series on the life of the Buddha which is titled, "Between The Lines: An Analytical Appreciation of Buddha's Life". Volume 2 was launched on Vesak day of year 2015. Sylvia also holds a B.Soc.Sci (Hons) from NUS and a Masters in International Public Policy (M.I.P.P) from School of Advanced International Studies (SAIS), Johns Hopkins. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-48 Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction 00:45 - Dhamma Principles For Filial Buddhists: Honouring and Fulfilling Duties to Parents 01:00 - Setting the Cause and Condition for Parents to Cultivate the Five Mental States (Faith, Morality, Learning, Generosity and Wisdom) 09:32 - Balancing Personal Well-Being and Parental Expectations 10:18 - Fair Play in Filial Duties 14:10 - Filial Piety ≠ Fulfilling Our Parents’ Every Desire 17:47 - Exercising Wisdom and Boundaries In Familial Relationships 20:58 - Seeking Guidance from Wise Individuals on Navigating Family Dynamics 22:23 - Conclusion and Recap Resources:
Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| Ep 47: Strength in the Sangha: Growing Together as a Buddhist Community ft. Bro. Chye Chye | 03 Jul 2024 | 00:21:36 | |
🤔 Ever wondered what it truly means to take refuge in the Sangha? 🌱 In this episode, Cheryl and Brother Chye Chye explore the importance of this practice for personal and communal spiritual growth by understanding: ☸️ The significance and qualities of the noble Sangha 🙏 How we can find balance in relating to the Sangha 🔍 Checks and balances within the Sangha ecosystem #TakingRefuge #Sangha #Buddhism #Mindfulness About the Speaker Chye works in the wealth management industry. He not only plays the role of a banker to his clients but often as a counsellor, friend, confidant etc. As a trained engineer, he will often try to make Dhamma learning as simple and logical as possible. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-47 Timestamps: (00:00:00) Introductions (00:01:39) Significance of Taking Refuge in the Sangha (00:06:45) Qualities of the Ideal Sangha (00:09:07) What Makes a Sangha Member Inspiring? (00:11:33) The Dangers of Over-Attachment to Teachers (00:12:55) Balancing Guidance from the Teacher vs. Self-Reliance (00:16:22) Addressing Criticism and Feedback in the Sangha (00:18:53) A Layperson's Role in Providing Feedback to Monastics (00:20:59) Book Recommendation: The Bhikkhus' Rules - A Guide for Laypeople Resources: The Bhikkhus' Rules – A Guide for Laypeople https://www.buddhanet.net/pdf_file/bhkkrule.pdf Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| Ep 46: Dhamma vs. Adhamma ft. Uncle Vijaya | 13 Jun 2024 | 00:41:47 | |
In the vast ocean of teachings, how do we discern the true Dhamma from the false? 🌊 In a recent conversation with Uncle Vijaya, we explore essential ways to anchor ourselves in the Buddha's timeless wisdom by 📜 Staying Faithful to the Buddha’s Words and 🙏 Seeking Guidance from Wise Teachers. About the Speaker Vijaya Samarawickrama, fondly known as Uncle Vijaya, is a respected figure within Buddhist communities, delivering countless inspiring Dhamma talks at universities, schools, and Dhamma centres throughout Malaysia, as well as in Singapore and Australia, spanning over six decades. In addition to his speaking engagements, he held the role of Patron at the Sasana Abhiwurdhi Wardhana Society in Kuala Lumpur and served as the Chairman of Nalanda Institute's Education team. He represented Malaysia in various Buddhist conventions and conferences, both locally and internationally. He has authored over a dozen booklets, with more than 150,000 copies distributed worldwide. Before his retirement, he held the position of a senior lecturer at Universiti Teknologi Malaysia and worked as a lecturer in Drama and Theatre, Public Speaking, and World Religion at Taylor's University American Degree Program. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-46 Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction [00:01:11] Definition of Adhamma and its challenges during Buddha's time [00:03:31] The story of Maha Brahma pleading with the Buddha to teach the Dhamma [00:08:00] The importance of the First Council in preserving the Buddha's teachings [00:10:15] Authenticity of the Dhamma and the Buddha's approval [00:13:39] The complexity of Dhamma and the importance of competent teachers [00:17:26] How to identify genuine Dhamma teachers [00:21:33] Examples of modern misinterpretations of Dhamma [00:24:55] The use and potential misuse of mindfulness in modern times [00:25:02] How to skilfully handle friends with wrong views [00:28:26] Guarding the mind against self-righteousness [00:29:28] Strategies to support those who lose faith in Buddhism due to wrong teachings [00:31:13] The story of Punna: Using Brahmaviharas as an antidote to antagonistic treatment [00:34:12] The Buddha’s words on telling true Dhamma from false Dhamma [00:39:15] Using this rare human rebirth for meaningful self-practice Resources:
Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| Ep 45: Building a Buddhist Chatbot (NORBU-AI) ft. Lim Kooi Fong | 25 Apr 2024 | 00:12:11 | |
Bro. Lim Kooi Fong shares the inspirational story behind NORBU, a pioneering Buddhist AI chatbot designed to promote mindfulness and spiritual growth through open dialogue. He was inspired by the Dalai Lama's call to spread the Nalanda tradition of Buddhist learning through open discourse. This led him to create NORBU, a pioneering AI chatbot that provides a safe, non-judgmental space for individuals to explore personal struggles, ethical dilemmas, and spiritual questions related to Buddhism. Drawing from diverse traditions and authoritative sources, NORBU guides users through a process of honest self-reflection, applying Buddhist teachings to cultivate greater mindfulness and facilitate positive growth. With its commitment to inclusivity, accuracy, and the principle of Brahma Vihara, NORBU represents an innovative approach to making the Dhamma accessible and fostering mindful conversations that can spark personal transformation. About the Speaker: Bro. Lim Kooi Fong has been a student of Buddhism and Dharma teacher for more than 30 years. He is the founder of the Buddhist AI Chatbot NORBU (https://norbu-ai.org), the Buddhist Channel (buddhistchannel.tv) and Buddhist Travel (buddhistravel.com). He is a life member of Upakara Kalyana Mitta Buddhist Assocation (UKMBA). He currently manages a bioinformatics company based in Cyberjaya. He actively conducts Dharma talks for Buddhist societies around Kuala Lumpur in Malaysia. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-45 Timestamp: 00:00:00 - Introduction by Cheryl on the Handful of Leaves podcast 00:00:30 - Introduction of Brother Lim Kooi Fong, founder of NORBU AI 00:01:00 - Brother Kooi Fong shares the inspiration behind NORBU AI 00:02:00 - Discussion on Nalanda tradition and its importance 00:04:00 - Initial responses to NORBU AI beta version 00:05:00 - NORBU AI provides a safe space for discussing sensitive topics 00:09:00 - Diversity in the team handling source data for NORBU AI 00:10:00 - NORBU AI as a tool for building mindfulness and awareness 00:11:00 - Discussion on the purpose and potential impact of NORBU AI Resources: For individuals: Use Norbu-AI https://norbu-ai.org/ For Buddhist societies: Integrate NORBU-AI Chatbot on your webpage. Contact Bro Lim here: kooifong.lim@gmail.com Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| Ep 44: Buddhism vs. Spirituality: When to Call Yourself A Buddhist? | 11 Apr 2024 | 00:29:59 | |
In our newest episode, we delve into the intricate journey of spiritual identity with our special guest, Ray Choo, director and producer of Waking Up 2050 🎬. From his personal experiences to the broader concepts of Buddhism, Ray sheds light on embracing the Buddhist identity as a commitment to the path of wisdom and compassion, and unravel the evolving perceptions of religion and spirituality in today's world. About the Speaker 👤 Ray Choo Hongrui was born and raised in Singapore. He studied Communications Design in Berlin, Germany, at HTW Berlin-University of Applied Sciences where he had the opportunity to try his hand at filmmaking and storytelling and experience a world where Buddhism, its meanings and functions are not established. The conversation in the West is just gaining momentum and presence. In trying to contribute to this dialogue, Ray redefined for himself what it actually means, to walk the path of Dharma. Through WAKING UP 2050, he met his teacher Lopen Pema Deki with whom he took his precepts and continues to study the Dharma. Ray currently works and resides in Berlin as a motion designer. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-44 Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction 00:21 - Waking Up 2050 01:08 - What it means to Identify as a Buddhist 06:19 - Practicing for the Benefit of Oneself and Others 11:38 - What Defines a Good Buddhist? 13:00 - The Practical Application of Buddhism 15:02 - Navigating Social Perceptions 19:44 - Religion vs. Spirituality from an Academic Standpoint 24:23 - The Beauty of the Buddhist Journey 26:13 - From Identification to Letting Go 27:32 - Final Advice: Walking the Path of True Freedom Resources: 💡 Thus Have I Seen (THIS) Buddhist Film Festival 2023 https://thisfilmfest.com/2023/ 💡 Waking Up 2050 https://thisfilmfest.com/2023/films/waking-up-2050/ Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| Ep 43: Reflecting on our Buddhist Journey ft. Kai Xin & Cheryl | 21 Mar 2024 | 00:28:43 | |
In this episode, Cheryl and Kai Xin reflect on their ever-evolving journey of deepening their Dhamma practice—a lifelong quest for true happiness! We speak about: 🧘♂️ How practising Dhamma is not just on our butts and cushions! 🌿 Kai Xin's journey from escaping reality to understanding reality 😇 Who is Cheryl's greatest Buddhist teacher? #DhammaJourney #DhammaPractice #SpiritualTransformation #InnerPeace #Meditation #SelfReflection #LongRetreats #MonasteryLife About the Speaker 👤 Koh Kai Xin is a co-founder of HighSpark, a strategic communications consulting and training agency. She started her Dhamma journey at 17 with Buddhist Fellowship Singapore and has been volunteering at various Buddhist organisations. She's now a mentor under the SBM mentorship programme. Her perfect holiday is a long meditation retreat in the forest monasteries. Timestamps:
Resources: 💡 Ep 1: Balancing Contentment & Ambition (Ft Tan Chade Meng) https://handfulofleaves.life/podcast-balancing-contentment-ambition-ft-tan-chade-meng/ 💡 Ways to support our efforts: https://handfulofleaves.life/support Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye, Melvin, Yoke Kuen Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| What does it take to be The "Tough" Guy? ft Gonzalo Ruiz Calavera (Director of Google Recruiting) | 18 Mar 2024 | 00:26:04 | |
Google was known to be the "goldenboy" in the tech industry, and many NEVER saw the layoffs coming. How was it like for Gonzalo as one of the key decision makers for the layoffs in APAC, and to lead the team that was most impacted by the layoffs? In the ever-evolving realm of global business, leadership demands the ability to make challenging decisions. Gonzalo Ruiz Calavero, the Director of Recruiting at Google APAC, boasts 37 years of diverse global experiences and shares invaluable insights on navigating difficult decisions in both personal and professional spheres. This blog post delves into Gonzalo's wisdom, acknowledging his missteps and learning experiences. Gonzalo Leads all Recruiting activities of Google in APAC since April 2021. In this role he is responsible for connecting the world’s most innovative people with opportunities across Google, fueling the future of Google’s products and services in APAC. He currently manages Google’s largest HR function in Asia with teams spread across multiple geographies. He is helping scale Google’s operations in APAC which is also the fastest growing region for the company globally. Previous to joining Google, he worked at Siemens, a German Technology conglomerate active in the fields of Energy, Healthcare, Industry Automation and Transportation, as the Global Head of Talent Acquisition. In his 35 year long career, he has lived and worked in the US, Spain, Greece, Germany and in the last 13 years in Singapore. He has led teams at Country, Regional and global level, within the full spectrum of the HR areas, from HR operations, Centers of Expertise, Business Partnering and was a member of the Global HR Leadership Team of Siemens for 11 years. He is strongly devoted to the development of the Human Resources practice through numerous engagements, organizations and activities. Gonzalo graduated with B.Sc. in Economics and Master in International Economic Structure from the University Autonoma of Madrid. He is married with 3 children. | |||
| Ep 32: SG's favourite Vegetarian Cai Png CEO (Greendot) on Growth, Purpose, Balance | 18 Mar 2024 | 00:26:00 | |
We speak to Greendot Singapore's CEO, Yong Hong on growth, balance and purpose. Discover Green Dot's rise from a veggie stall to a beloved meat-free empire and we cover personal learnings, such as
🫡Personal growth: Yong Hong's vegetarian transformation. ⏳ Patience for success: Valuable long-term insights. ⚖️ Balanced living: The four pillars of purposeful life. 🧠 Mental wellness: Practical healthy mindset tips. Stay tuned till the end for Yong Hong's tailored advice for young adults finding purpose in life. Tune in for growth and inspiration 🎧🌱🚀 About our Guest: Yong Hong is an ordinary young entrepreneur, he started Greendot at the age of 22 with his good friend Justin. Green Dot was started with the thought to help professional women to stay healthy and love themselves. With this as motivation, it has grown from a small vegetarian stall to a vegan food restaurant chain in Singapore. As a young CEO at age 33, Yong Hong currently manages a team of 200 staff. He is responsible for Green Dot 15 stores, including 12 Green Dot outlets Lotus Heart Vegetarian Chinese Restaurant, Greendot Patisserie, and a central kitchen. To him, work is a journey to cultivate himself and an opportunity to find insights within. Yong Hong has a great passion for yoga and music. He hopes to learn n grow with the people he meets. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-pod-ep-32 Timestamps: (00:00) : Introductions (00:45) : The story behind Green Dot, Singapore's largest meat-free chain (04:29) : Three phases of Green Dot, Work > Career > Mission (11:07) : Becoming a better person after becoming vegetarian (13:53) : Patience is key; the result will come, but it's not immediate (16:15) : How parenthood changed my perspective on mission, meaning and priorities (19:15) : Building the four pillars of priorities in the right order for a balanced life (22:14) : Tips on taking care of our mental hygiene (25:00) : Advice to young adults who are trying to find purpose Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Loo Tiong Ngee Editor and transcriber of this episode: Tee Ke Hui, Cheryl Cheah, Koh Kai Xin | |||
| Ep 42: Exploring Right Sense Restraint: Liberating Yourself from Self-Torment! | 20 Feb 2024 | 00:28:27 | |
🌟 Discover the Power of Sense Restraint: Your Path to Inner Peace and Spiritual Liberation! 🌟 Are you feeling overwhelmed by the chaos of modern life? PJ and Cheryl unveil the secrets of sense restraint – a revolutionary concept that promises harmony and balance in a distracted world. Through mindfulness and wisdom, unlock true freedom and happiness, navigating life's challenges with grace and equanimity. Hear inspiring stories of individuals transformed by sense restraint, from overcoming addiction to finding peace amidst chaos. Dive into guided meditations, educational resources, and real-life case studies to empower your journey. Embrace sense restraint and unlock inner peace, wisdom, and spiritual liberation today! 🌟 About the Speaker PJ is someone who discovered Buddhism while procrastinating as a student and later discovered Ajahn Brahm and the Suttas in the executive retreat of 2010 in Chiang Rai. He procrastinated again on the spiritual path through various roles with the Singapore Economic Development Board (EDB), including industry development and strategic planning. He's taking his time now working towards being a nobody. 'Restrain' in this modern world of freedom and enjoyment seems like a curse word. So when one says restrain leads to peace, to calm and to stillness, what does that truly mean? Cheryl and PJ discusses this. Timestamp: - (01:08)🧘 Right restraint in Buddhism is not about self-restraint but sense restraint, where one avoids getting caught up in sensory experiences. - (19:02) 🚪 Cutting off distractions helps in spiritual practice. - [19:28](https://youtu.be/FLnvx_M5xtw?t=1168s) 🧘♀️ Awareness of mental state is crucial for sense restraint. - (20:11) 🍽️ Extreme sensory restriction can lead to counterproductive reactions. - (21:08) 🚴♂️ Buddha's journey highlights the importance of the middle way. - (22:32) 🍴 Extremes in self-restriction are common but unwise. - (24:32) 📚 Recommended starting points for studying Buddhist texts. - (27:34)💡 Practice restraint by being kind to yourself and others. Resources: PJ Recommends to get started here: Bhikkhu Bodhi: In the Buddha's Words Bhikkhu Nyanamoli: The Life of the Buddha SuttaCentral , https://www.accesstoinsight.org/, https://suttafriends.org/ Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| Ep 9: Near Death Experience Ft Amy Edelstein- #1 Amazon Bestselling Author) | 20 Feb 2024 | 00:47:03 | |
About Amy Edelstein:
Transcript: here Timestamp: (02:46): Amy and why she spent her 21st in the Himalayas (09:04): What is wisdom? (12:19): Learnings & experience in Zanskar (19:06): Do you need to go to the mountains to experience inner awakening? (22:41): Tapping into love amidst rising gun violence in the neighbourhood (26:44): Increasing our capacity to love ourselves (30:02): Severe Car Crash and mindfulness to rise above anxiety (36:13): Making meditation possible even if we're busy (40:12): How to choose your spiritual teacher to guide you (43:40): Where to find Amy's work and her new book More from Amy: Book: Adventure to Zanskar - A young woman’s solitary journey to reach physical and metaphysical heights Book: The conscious classroom - The Inner Strength System(TM) for Transforming the Teenage Mind FB: https://www.facebook.com/AmyEdelstein.Educator IG: https://www.instagram.com/innerstrengtheducation/ Insight Timer Guided meditation August Lum for creating the new sound track for our podcast: His work here Sopisa for editing the transcript for this episode Special thanks to the sponsors of this podcast
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| Ep 41: Revealing the unexpected insecurities of HOL founders | 20 Feb 2024 | 00:21:32 | |
🍵 Join us in this episode as we spill the tea with HOL Co-Founders, Heng Xuan and Kai Xin! 🤝 Learn how this Dhammatic Duo navigate disappointment and conflict in their collaboration, emphasizing open communication and shared commitment. 💬 Gain valuable insights from the co-founders as they unveil and reflect on their insecurities and vulnerabilities as leaders. 🧘♂️ Discover the mindfulness practices the co-founders use for dealing with difficult emotions. #HandfulOfLeaves #Leadership #Mindfulness #Vulnerability #Communication #Buddhism About the Speakers 👤 Koh Kai Xin is a co-founder of HighSpark, a strategic communications consulting and training agency. She started her Dhamma journey at the age of 17 with Buddhist Fellowship Singapore and has been volunteering her time at various Buddhist organisations. She's now a mentor under the SBM mentorship programme. Her perfect holiday is a long meditation retreat in the forest monasteries. 👤 Teo Heng Xuan works as a senior associate in an investment firm. He is also the co-founder of DAYWA, a community for young Buddhist working adults in Singapore & Handful Of Leaves, a popular Buddhist media platform that publishes insightful articles and a podcast series. He is also a mentor for the BFY youth group. Timestamps: (00:00) Introductions (01:02) Exciting Plans for the Future: Moving Abroad, Buddhist Pilgrimage and more! (03:01) Unveiling Insecurities and Vulnerabilities (06:55) Navigating Personal Struggles and Balancing Priorities in Leadership (11:08) Handling Disappointment and Conflict in Collaboration (16:57) Mindfulness Techniques for Dealing with Difficult Emotions Resources: 💡 Ways to support our efforts: https://handfulofleaves.life/support Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei, Ong Chye Chye Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| Ep 29: Authenticity IS NOT a fallacy? (Ft Anthea Ong, former Nominated Member of Parliament) | 12 Feb 2024 | 00:41:23 | |
Resilient. Strong. Got their sh*t together. Are these words used to describe you? But deep down, do you struggle with embracing vulnerability, fearing you'll become a burden, to even the closest around you?" She was the epitome of success—thriving in the corporate world, a respected Nominated MP, and happily married. Yet, life had its own plans and threw her into a “colossal collapse” of a broken heart, a broken marriage, and a broken bank account. And that deep dark place was also the birthplace of wisdom for her when she realised that she didn’t have to do it all, alone. Join Anthea Ong on her empowering journey as she unveils:
Bonus: Feeling like you’re a burden to others? Anthea offers two refreshing takes on this! Transcript here: https://bit.ly/hol-giveaway-29 About Our Guest: Anthea Ong served as a Nominated Member of Parliament from 2018–2020 in the 13th Parliament of Singapore. As a self-described “fultime human being, part-time everything else”, she is a mental health advocate, social entrepreneur and impact investor, life and leadership coach, strategy consultant, yoga and wellness instructor and author, amongst many other roles. She is never seen without headgear to match her multiple hats. WIN A FREE EXPERIENCE: We're giving away 1 complimentary seat (worth $68) to the Hush Tea Bar experience that's happening on the 29th July 2023. It's a 90-min experience with tea appreciation, sign learning and mindful reflection led by the Deaf. To stand a chance to win this. Check out our Instagram to learn how. Timestamps: (00:00): Introductions (01:49): Vulnerability means Love and Relief / We are never so vulnerable as when we love (05:37): Overcoming the shame of being vulnerable (08:50): Vulnerability is key to human connection (10:03): Vulnerability with boundaries (15:11): Using Vulnerability to understand and end one’s suffering (16:48): Vulnerability with Purpose (25:34): Helping others feel more comfortable with vulnerability (29:18): Vulnerability at the workplace (34:34): Seeing our leaders as humans too (37:50): Ideas for book titles on vulnerability Resources: Hush TeaBar - HUSH started in 2014 as a volunteer-run ground-up initiative before becoming a social enterprise in 2016 where we have mostly given employment and empowerment opportunities to Deaf persons and Hearing persons in recovery from mental health conditions. SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang Editor and transcriber of this episode: Tee Ke Hui, Cheryl Cheah, Koh Kai Xin | |||
| Ep 28: The Mindful CEO of a $200M International Education Group, Etonhouse | 12 Feb 2024 | 00:41:51 | |
In episode 28, we speak to the Group CEO of Etonhouse International Holdings - Singapore, Ng Yi-Xian who oversees schools from infant care to high school in 11 countries across 120 campuses. We discuss how mindfulness has changed his life, shaped his leadership and a lot more: 🧘🏻How mindfulness supported him in the toughest time in his career 🤟🏻The idea of stupid grit 👔How he balances advocating mindfulness and respecting boundaries in the workplace 👨👩👧👦 How he manages to find time to meditate while taking care of 22,003 kids under his care Mr. Ng Yi-Xian oversees the operations of the EtonHouse International Education Group which runs schools from infant care to high school in 11 countries across 120 campuses. As a second-generation entrepreneur and son of founder Ng Gim Choo, he is driven to take the group to the next level — he has been instrumental in the creation of new brands such as the Middleton International School, a revolutionary niche of affordable international schools in Singapore and The Eton Academy, that provides inquiry-led academic enrichment programmes from Nursery to Primary 6. Prior to joining EtonHouse, Mr. Ng worked in a Hedge Fund in the United States. In his free time, he enjoys the outdoors, adventure sports, and pursuing mindfulness as he leads the culture of mindfulness and well-being in the organisation. A father of twin boys and a girl, Yi-Xian is experiencing the joys and challenges of parenthood while he also oversees the education and well-being of more than 20,000 students in the EtonHouse schools. Transcript here: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-28- Timestamps: (03:00): Challenges faced in taking over Etonhouse (06:00): Knowing your red zone and staying out of it (07:30): Mindfulness as a lifetime adventure to Yi-xian (09:17): Near-Death Experience (12:00): As a Father of 3, where do you find time to go for retreats? (13:08): Burnout and retreats. Different experiences from each experience (19:49): Two would-be lies and being called a hypocrite (21:00): Respecting other people’s boundaries with mindfulness in the corporate setting (22:30): God and mindfulness (25:43): Who would you be without mindfulness? (26:51): Cheryl’s perspective on the question (29:00): Kai Xin’s AnE experience (20:59): Does mindfulness make one more obedient? (33:05): Stupid grit (35:27): Yi-Xian’s experiences with the Jhanas (40:58): Enlightenment, maybe not Resources: About Jhanas: https://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/authors/gunaratana/wheel351.html SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw. Editor and transcriber of this episode: Tee Ke Hui, Cheryl Cheah, Koh Kai Xin | |||
| Ep 40: Family Drama or Family Dhamma? Ft. Phimol Suwanarat | 21 Dec 2023 | 00:32:31 | |
🧘♂️ In this episode, Phimol and Cheryl candidly share their experiences navigating familial conflicts and healing generational wounds in pursuit of inner peace through the practice of mindfulness, loving-kindness, and wise reflection. 💖 Explore practical advice and valuable insights on fostering family harmony and creating lighter, more open connections with your loved ones. 📜 Discover the Buddha’s teachings on building endurance amidst provocation and nurturing the elements conducive to harmony! #Family #Parents #Harmony #Buddhism #Mindfulness #Podcast #Dhamma #InnerPeace #Acceptance #Kindness #Wisdom #NonSelf #MentalWellness #Healing
About the Speaker: Phimol Suwanarat, a son, a boyfriend and a brother aspires to live life with mindfulness, one breath, one moment, one day at a time. Resources: Kakacūpama Sutta: The Simile of the Saw (Majjhima Nikāya 21) https://suttacentral.net/mn21/en/sujato?lang=en&layout=plain&reference=none¬es=asterisk&highlight=false&script=latin Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| Ep 38: Three Decades of Inspirational Buddhist Music ft. Imee Ooi (Singer, Composer, Producer) | 16 Nov 2023 | 00:41:48 | |
Ever wondered about the soothing voice behind “The Chant of Metta” or “Heart Sutra” often heard at Buddhist events? 🎵 In this episode, we get up close and personal for the first time with Imee Ooi, the talent behind many well-known and internationally acclaimed Buddhist songs. Discover how her soundscapes of serenity have opened Dhamma doors for people across borders and cultures! 🕊️ Gain insights from her journey and mission as a full-time Buddhist musician and a devoted Dhamma practitioner. #ImeeOoi #BuddhistMusic #HeartSutra #ChantOfMetta About the Speaker: Imee Ooi is a Chinese-Malaysian record producer, composer, and singer who composes and arranges music for classic Buddhist chant, mantra, and dharani. She performs her compositions in Sanskrit, Pali, Tibetan, and Mandarin. In 1997 she founded a record label, I.M.M. Musicworks, to publish her music. She has released more than 50 albums (55 between 1998 and 2020). She has also composed and directed three highly acclaimed stage musicals: Siddhartha, Above Full Moon, and Princess Wen Cheng (aka Jewel of Tibet). More about Imee Ooi https://www.immmusic.com/imee-ooi Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-38
Resources: 🎧 Listen to Imee Ooi's Music here https://www.youtube.com/@IMMPACARTS-imeeooi Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee | |||
| Ep 37: 84 Years A Buddhist - Profound Lessons on Life, Death and Kamma ft. Uncle Vijaya | 01 Nov 2023 | 00:51:50 | |
What do taxes, death and kamma have in common? 🤔 You can't escape them!! Join us in this inspiring episode with Uncle Vijaya who shares candidly about his learnings as a practitioner for 84 years and how the Buddha's teachings guide him through the journey of life, and death. #Kamma #Intention #Action #Death #Life #Gratitude #Buddhism #Dhamma #LifeLessons #WellBeing #InnerPeace #PresentMoment #LifeJourney About the Speaker Vijaya Samarawickrama, fondly known as Uncle Vijaya, is a respected figure within Buddhist communities, delivering countless inspiring Dhamma talks at universities, schools, and Dhamma centers throughout Malaysia, as well as in Singapore and Australia, spanning over six decades. In addition to his speaking engagements, he held the role of Patron at the Sasana Abhiwurdhi Wardhana Society in Kuala Lumpur and served as the Chairman of Nalanda Institute's Education team. He represented Malaysia in various Buddhist conventions and conferences, both locally and internationally. He has authored over a dozen booklets, with more than 150,000 copies distributed worldwide. Before his retirement, he held the position of a senior lecturer at Universiti Teknologi Malaysia and worked as a lecturer in Drama and Theatre, Public Speaking, and World Religion at Taylor's University American Degree Program. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-37
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| Ep 36: From Ideas to Impact - Founding Journey of Handful of Leaves | 19 Oct 2023 | 00:33:15 | |
Join us for an enlightening journey with HOL's co-founders, Heng Xuan and Kai Xin, as they evolve from nominal Buddhists into a passionate Dhamma-tic Duo.
#HOLJourney #WisdomUnleashed #ResilienceMatters #Service About the Speakers
Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-36
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| Ep 34: Leading with Mental Vulnerabilities | 18 Oct 2023 | 00:29:26 | |
In Episode 34, 🎙 Sis Ching Wi shares her journey of leading with mental illness. She highlights the importance of boundaries, compassion, and nurturing potential in leadership roles. Tune in for insights on authentic connection, equanimity, and self-compassion, and her heartfelt encouragement for those silently battling their mental health. 🌟💪 #Leadership #MentalHealth 🧠 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-34 (00:00) Introductions (01:21) Intersection between your personal journey with mental illness and your leadership role (09:30) Leadership with boundaries and shared responsibilities (15:24) Loving Kindness and Compassion as a leader - Developing authentic relationships and holding space for others (17:40) Doing good by nurturing our teammates' potential (19:58) Developing interconnectness and rejoicing in each other’s growth (21:23) Practising equanimity to stay within a healthy emotional spectrum (24:35) The “Take it Easy” Action Plan in 3-Steps - Reframing, Making it Fun, Self-Compassion (26:35) Celebrating victories, lowering the ego, being more attuned to others (29:25) Words of encouragement to all those who are suffering silently Helpline: Counseling: https://www.ojoy.org National Care Helpline: 1800-202-6868 SOS 24-hour Hotlines: 1800-221-4444 SOS 4-digit hotline: 1-767 Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019 Institute of Mental Health: 6389-2222 (24 hours) Tinkle Friend:1800-274-4788 (for primary school-aged children) Care Corner Counselling Centre (Mandarin): 1800-353-5800 Resources to read: https://www.sos.org.sg/blog/i-want-to-help-someone-who-has-suicidal-thoughts https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/if-youre-worried-about-someone-else/supporting-someone-suicidal-thoughts/ ---- Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei. Editor and transcriber of this episode: Cheryl Cheah, Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee Get connected here:Telegram Instagram Facebook YouTube | |||
| Ep 35: Altered States: A Drug Addict's Journey to Dhamma | 03 Oct 2023 | 00:24:16 | |
Dive deep into the riveting narrative of personal transformation in this podcast episode, as we explore the gripping story of conquering addiction with the power of mindfulness and wisdom. 🌟 Discover the secrets to sustainable joy and the art of harnessing higher values to triumph over life's challenges. Join us on this transformative journey of self-discovery and compassion. 🎙️ #AddictionRecovery #Mindfulness #Wisdom #PersonalGrowth 🌱 Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-35 (00:29) Curiosity's Grip: How I Got Hooked (01:44) Emerging from the Abyss: Right Effort and Right Resolve in Overcoming Addiction (08:50) Spiritual Practice, Teachers, and Friends: My Guardians and Refuge (09:55) Discovering Sustainable Joy through Mindfulness, Wise Reflection and Meritorious Actions (15:14) Transcending the Past & Planting Wholesome Seeds in the Present (18:30) Seeking Help & Moving on with Diligence (20:32) Harnessing Higher Values to Triumph Over Addiction (22:04) Transforming Anger and Blame into Compassion and Forgiveness with Wisdom Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Wang Shiow Mei. Editor and transcriber of this episode: Susara Ng, Ke Hui Tee, Cheryl Cheah Get connected here:Telegram Instagram Facebook YouTube | |||
| Ep 33: Ghost Month Special (Real Ghost Stories, Hell, Buddhism) | 03 Sep 2023 | 00:39:16 | |
Have you ever wondered why do people offer food in ghost month? Can ghosts eat them? Join our lovely podcast co-hosts Kai Xin and Cheryl on an engaging chat exploring Buddhism's take on the origins of ghost month, ghostly encounters and hell. To make this episode even more terrifying or interesting (depending on whether you are a scaredy cat like Cheryl or a brave soul like Kai Xin), we are also going to read real life ghost stories submitted from our audiences. Stay tuned and learn more about ghosts! Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-ep33-ghost Timestamp: (02:11): The background of the Hungry Ghost festival (08:08): The dead teach us how to live (11:30): Does hell exist? (13:50): Ghost food (18:46): Recollecting our own virtues (21:51): Army ghost story (27:30): The nature of fear (31:59): Virtue and fear (34:55): Ghost story II : A possession near Bukit Timah Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Loo Tiong Ngee Editor and transcriber of this episode: Ng Yah Tyng, Cheryl Cheah, Koh Kai Xin Get connected here:Telegram Instagram Facebook YouTube | |||
| Ep 31: Cheating on others and being cheated on | 20 Jul 2023 | 00:18:52 | |
It's easy to condemn the actors as 'selfish', or 'stupid' to throw everything away, including their careers, reputation and one can only imagine the negative consequences on their families and spouses. What is really going on in the mind of people who have affairs? In the latest episode, we speak to Jason*, who has both been someone who cheated on as well as someone who was cheated on in his past relationships to understand what's beneath the surface, to see the human behind the 'cheater', and explore what we can do to move forward and forgiving oneself and others. Note: this episode was recorded before the recent scandal and aimed to offer a different perspective and reflection on the same topic. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-pod-ep-31 Timestamps: [00:00] Introductions [00:54] Experience of cheating and being cheated on [05:49] Getting to the root cause [08:57] Creating the conditions to not hurt others [09:48] Mind is the forerunner of all states [10:15] Morality and Right Effort [11:31] Moving on with forgiveness, self-love and Right Effort [15:32] Finding closure with your ex-partner [16:23] Giving yourself closure [17:34] Summary and wrap up Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Loo Tiong Ngee Editor and transcriber of this episode: Tee Ke Hui, Cheryl Cheah, Koh Kai Xin | |||
| Ep 30: The Mindful achiever - balancing striving and letting go (Ft Venerable Damcho) | 04 Jul 2023 | 00:42:52 | |
Are you someone who constantly seeks to go above and beyond, setting high standards for yourself? Join us as we delve into the fascinating world of overachievers with Ven Damcho and explore the intricate dynamics that drive their relentless pursuit of success. 🔍 Explore the hidden manifestations of overachieving and learn how to recognise them. 💪 Harness pain as a catalyst for success and avoid the traps that lead to more pain. ⚖️ Find your centre amidst the Eight Worldly Winds. ✨ 4 essential aspects of striving skillfully. Transcript: http://bit.ly/hol-pod-ep-30 About our guest: Venerable Thubten Damcho is a Buddhist nun residing at Sravasti Abbey, one of the first Tibetan Buddhist training monasteries in the United States. Born and raised in Singapore, she graduated from Princeton University in 2006 and worked as a high school teacher and public policy analyst in the Singapore government before returning to the U.S. to take novice ordination in 2013. She tells her story in The Straits Times Singapore. Venerable Damcho's monastic life is rich and varied. She serves as assistant to Sravasti Abbey’s founder, author and well-known Buddhist teacher Venerable Thubten Chodron. Her other responsibilities range from translating Chinese texts into English to removing weeds from the Abbey's 300-acre property. Venerable Damcho has given Dharma talks in Spokane, Idaho, California, India, and Singapore. She was the Chinese-English interpreter at a full ordination program in Taiwan in 2019, and has studied Tibetan through Maitripa College and with other teachers since 2017. Timestamps: [00:00:16] Introductions [00:01:34] Do you consider yourself an overachiever? [00:05:03] Recognising one’s overachieving tendencies & manifestations [00:10:57] Pain leading to more pain. Pain leads to less pain. [00:12:57] Finding one’s centre amidst the Eight Worldly Winds [00:17:02] Internal and External Drivers of Skillful and Unskillful Striving [00:28:15] Finding a balance between Striving and Contentment [00:31:47] Internal signpost for skilful striving [00:33:40] Understanding the competitive mind [00:36:48] Sympathetic Joy as an Antidote to Jealousy and Arrogance [00:40:18] Aspects of Skillful Striving - Aspiration, Reflection, Joy, Rest Special thanks to our sponsors: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Arif, Bernice, Wee Teck, Andrew Yam, Kan Rong Hui, Wei Li Quek, Shirley Shen, Ezra, Joanne Chan, Hsien Li Siaw, Gillian Ang, Loo Tiong Ngee. Editor and transcriber of this episode: Tee Ke Hui, Cheryl Cheah, Koh Kai Xin Get connected here:Telegram Instagram Facebook YouTube | |||
| BONUS Episode: Fire-round QnA on Sex (ft Venerable Damcho) | 16 May 2023 | 00:13:10 | |
In this fire-round episode, Ven Damcho will answer 5 top-rated questions you asked on Telegram about masturbation, lust, kinks and more! Join our Telegram Handful of Leaves to be part of the conversation! ABOUT OUR GUESTS: Venerable Thubten Damcho is a Buddhist nun residing at Sravasti Abbey, one of the first Tibetan Buddhist training monasteries in the United States. Born and raised in Singapore, she graduated from Princeton University in 2006 and worked as a high school teacher and public policy analyst in the Singapore government before returning to the U.S. to take novice ordination in 2013. She tells her story in The Straits Times Singapore. Venerable Damcho's monastic life is rich and varied. She serves as assistant to Sravasti Abbey’s founder, author and well-known Buddhist teacher Venerable Thubten Chodron. Her other responsibilities range from translating Chinese texts into English to removing weeds from the Abbey's 300-acre property. Venerable Damcho has given Dharma talks in Spokane, Idaho, California, India, and Singapore. She was the Chinese-English interpreter at a full ordination program in Taiwan in 2019, and has studied Tibetan through Maitripa College and with other teachers since 2017. ---- Wilson Ng: Navigating the uncertain waters of love and lust while learning to accept his sexuality, Wilson has learnt a lot from the mistakes made. He is learning to accept himself for his attachment to lust and to see the inherently unsatisfactory nature of sex and lust. Transcript: https://bit.ly/hol-bonus-ep (0:00) What does Buddhism say about Masturbation? (2:46) How do monastics skilfully relate to sexual desire? (4:20) Importance of spiritual friendship in navigating desire-related afflictions (6:14) Dealing with lustful thoughts while in a committed relationship (9:31) Self-awareness of own identity & respect for others’ identity SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Tan Key Seng Editor and transcriber of this episode: Tee Ke Hui, Cheryl Cheah Get connected here: | |||
| Ep 27: Sex and the Buddhist (Ft Ven Damcho and Wilson Ng) | 02 May 2023 | 00:48:02 | |
"Sex" and "the Buddhist." Two words you rarely hear in a sentence! Buddhism is always associated with meditating or chanting and "purity." While that is an important path of the practice, let's not forget the human behind the Buddhist, where our sexuality, sexual relations and desires can play a big part of our lives as we navigate sometimes messy and chaotic adulthood. We'll do the topic that nobody wants to talk about. In this episode, you will be hearing new voices on the show! Wilson and Cheryl will be partnering up as co-hosts, and we dive into this topic with Venerable Damcho, a nun based in Sravasti Abbey. 🧐What can we learn about sex from a fully celibate monastic? Keep an open mind and come and find out for yourselves! We cover: 🤭What's a healthy way to think about sex? 🙀Is porn destroying your sex life? 🙂Don't settle for Grade F Happiness 😩If lust is consuming your mind.... here's the antidote And many more! ABOUT OUR GUESTS: Venerable Thubten Damcho is a Buddhist nun residing at Sravasti Abbey, one of the first Tibetan Buddhist training monasteries in the United States. Born and raised in Singapore, she graduated from Princeton University in 2006 and worked as a high school teacher and public policy analyst in the Singapore government before returning to the U.S. to take novice ordination in 2013. She tells her story in The Straits Times Singapore. Venerable Damcho's monastic life is rich and varied. She serves as assistant to Sravasti Abbey’s founder, author and well-known Buddhist teacher Venerable Thubten Chodron. Her other responsibilities range from translating Chinese texts into English to removing weeds from the Abbey's 300-acre property. Venerable Damcho has given Dharma talks in Spokane, Idaho, California, India, and Singapore. She was the Chinese-English interpreter at a full ordination program in Taiwan in 2019, and has studied Tibetan through Maitripa College and with other teachers since 2017. ---- Wilson Ng: Navigating the uncertain waters of love and lust while learning to accept his sexuality, Wilson has learnt a lot from the mistakes made. He is learning to accept himself for his attachment to lust and to see the inherently unsatisfactory nature of sex and lust. TRANSCRIPT: https://bit.ly/hol-ep-27 (0:00) Introductions (1:07) How is sex different from other sensual pleasures? (5:09) Why is sex such a taboo in the education system and in society? (8:32) Helpful conversations to understand the causes, conditions and effects of our sexuality (13:52) Living with our desires as lay Buddhists with kindness and wisdom (18:03) Reflecting on the kindness of others to remedy a transactional mindset (21:23) The mind of attachment projects unrealistic expectations of others (26:45) The drawbacks of porn consumption on individuals and society (33:22) Impact of Pornography on Masculinity and Treatment of Women (37:33) Facilitating discussions on sexuality in the classroom with mindfulness (39:59) Wisdom as an Antidote to Attachment, Craving is never satisfied by fulfilling it (43:44) Don’t settle for Grade F happiness, strive for Grade A happiness! RESOURCES: Exploring Monastic Life program at Sravasti Abbey Our abbess Venerable Thubten Chodron teaches often on the kindness of others Her book Guided Buddhist Meditations is a great resource for analytic meditation SPECIAL THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Buddhist Youth Network, Lim Soon Kiat, Alvin Chan, Tan Key Seng, Soh Hwee Hoon, Geraldine Tay, Venerable You Guang, Wilson Ng, Diga, Joyce, Tan Jia Yee, Joanne, Suñña, Shuo Mei, Editor and transcriber of this episode: Tee Ke Hui, Cheryl Cheah Get connected here: | |||