Guide From The Perplexed – Détails, épisodes et analyse

This podcast episode features an interview with Daniel Mate, co-author of New York Times Bestseller -- The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture.  Daniel is a composer, lyricist, and accomplished playwright known for his work in musical theater. Daniel is also the creator of the Mental Chiropractic method.  Daniel discusses his musical journey, his unique approach to addressing challenges through mental chiropractic, and his insights into parent-child relationships. The episode offers valuable insights for listeners interested in mental health, music composition, and understanding parent-adult child relationship dynamics.

Daniel Mate shares his experiences and insights into his mental chiropractic process, a unique approach that helps individuals overcome their stuckness. He explains that mental chiropractic involves setting intentions, identifying and challenging perspectives that block those intentions, and gaining new perspectives and choices. Through several examples, Daniel demonstrates the transformative power of mental chiropractic in helping individuals align with their intentions and break free from limitations.

Daniel discusses his recent project, "Hello Again," which explores parent/adult-child relationships. The conversation delves into the complexities of adult parent-child relationships – an area that has been ignored in parenting literature, emphasizing the formative influence parents have on their children and the impact it has on individuals. Daniel explores the inherent structural imbalances in these relationships and highlights the need to examine one's childhood and past experiences to understand how they shape the present.

Overall, this podcast episode provides a wide-ranging conversation with Daniel Mate, covering his musical career, his unique approach to addressing challenges through mental chiropractic, and his exploration of parent-child relationships. The episode offers valuable insights for listeners interested in creative music composition, mental health, and understanding the complexities of family dynamics.

0.00 - Daniel Mate on speaking.
3:32 - Disillusionment.
16:53 - The power of collaboration in musical theater.
22:15 - What does alignment mean to you?
29:34 - What does mental chiropractic mean?
34:54 - Memorable conversations on walks.
50:43 - The relationship between the adult child and parent is unique.
55:26 - Writing the Myth of Normal with his dad.
1:00:34 - Triggers from an Adult Child

Check out this thought-provoking podcast discussing personality assessments and self-perception.  Join Mordecai, JD Stettin, and Joey Hirsh as they share their experiences with various personality assessments, like Kolbe and Enneagram, and explore why idealize certain personality types.   Dive into the conversation on self-acceptance, individuality, and the influence of cultural narratives on our perception of heroes.   

SUMMARY:
On this episode, Mordecai and JD begin their journey through A Course in Miracles and discuss why you should not believe everything you see.

TIMESTAMPS: 
0:00 - How would you describe A Course In Miracles?

8:06 - What does “nothing means anything” mean?

12:38 - When you’re in problem solving mode, everything is a way to help or get in our way

19:07 - When you’re communicating with someone who is upset, you don’t have to solve it

25:15 - The importance of label making in the natural world

30:14 - Changing the meaning of our thoughts and feelings

36:42 - We are the meaning makers in our lives

40:34 - Dancing to make life a dance

SUMMARY:
In this episode, guest Traverse Fournier joins JD and Mordecai as they discuss goals, loss and grief, and moving forward in life with a positive impact.

TIMESTAMPS: 
2:09 - When did you first start thinking that there was something else to this?
8:29 - What happens when you hit your stride and then realize you’re not going to be happy forever.
14:20 - How thought plays into the process of grieving.
18:45 - Grief and love are not the same.
28:36 - Can you just continue without a little bit of understanding?
31:36 - The intellectualizing of being in the woods. 
35:17 - What’s the purpose of your life?
38:22 - The problem with self-help is that it’s focused on yourself.
40:10 - The self is not an independent entity.
44:45 - The importance of having enriching experiences in your life.

JD and Mordecai discuss being vulnerable, connecting and sharing with others.

Timestamps:
0:00 - How much do you feel like this is a period of clarity?

5:01 - We are meant to spend a lot of our time in connection with others.

14:03 - Why we listen to podcasts.

19:56 - Letting go via connection and sharing.

28:01 - Taking an inventory of mental patterns and habits.

32:52 - What’s going on in our heads.

38:55 - Lead with what you want to share.

46:00 - Being vulnerable in the presence of others.

Mordecai and JD discuss the depths of relationships, the give and take, and effect of our emotions on those we are in relationship with.

Timestamps: 

0:51 - Positive Inward Feelings and How It Affects Others

8:19 - Giving vs Wanting

15:22 - Taking the Long Way

18:49 - We Create the Relationship by How We Hold the Other Person

21:50 - Seeing Your Value Through Someone Else's Eyes

27:22 - When You're Heart is Full, You Have More for Others

Timestamps:

Throughout all of their discussions regarding their own emotions, JD and Mordecai turn the tables a bit and examine their emotions toward others.

Timestamps:

0:08-02:10  Emotions/Feelings Toward Others

02:10-5:15 Desire to Elicit Reaction Through Emotions

05:15-09:08 Guilt: A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?

09:20-14:16 Fear and Jealousy

14:17- 15:56 Programmed Fear

16:41-18:50 Manifested vs Actual Threat

19:19-21:12- Nature vs Nurture, Programmed vs DNA/Genetics

Books Referenced:
The Body: A Guide for Occupants by Bill Bryson
Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David R Hawkins

In this shorter yet jam-packed episode, Mordecai and JD speculate on the mind and the body and how that contributes with letting go.

Books/Writers Referenced:
Bill Bryson - The Body: A Guide for Occupants

Michael A. Singer - The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself

David R. Hawkins - Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender (Not sure if this is the correct book)

Barry Magid - Ordinary Mind: Exploring the Common Ground of Zen and Psychotherapy (Not sure if this is the correct book)

Podcast:

The Tim Ferriss Show #485: Jerry Seinfeld — A Comedy Legend’s Systems, Routines, and Methods for Success

Resources:

Misophonia Institute: https://misophoniainstitute.org/

Yeiush as mentioned by JD Stettin: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yeiush

Timestamps:
0:01 - 4:40  Misophonia and Physical Response

4:41 - 8:00   When Physical Response Becomes Emotional

8:01 - 12:37 Where's the Line?

12:38 - 16:04 Learning Responses and Letting Go

16:05 - 18:26 Coaching or Psychotherapy?

18:27 - 22:56 Playing Whack-A-Mole

22:57 - 26:51 Embracing Yeiush

JD and Mordecai have reached the top of the mountain, they are committing to peace, analyzing their emotions, simply breathing, and enjoying the chaos of the human experience.

Timestamps
1:15    -  What is Peace?

12:24 - Managing Your Internal Experience With External Anger

15:11 - Everyone Has Experienced Some Sort of Peace

22:47 - Call to Action - Just Breathe

32:11 - Commitment to Finding the Peace

36:13 - Defining Success by Massive Accomplishments

42:25 - When, With Whom and What Do I Do?

53:36 - Enjoy the Chaos