Mattie Jo Cowsert and Amber Cantorna-Wylde grew up entrenched in purity culture, which impacted their relationship to sex, pleasure, and themselves profoundly. Their rocky paths to freedom shed light on the powerful role sexual self-discovery can play in our lives and relationships. 

This episode touches on:

Childhood trauma

Masturbation and self-pleasure

Ways purity culture harms women, men and LGBTQIA+ folks

A common female sexuality stereotype

Spicy exploration

Benefits of trauma therapy and affirming faith communities in dark times

Learn more from this episode’s storytellers:

mattiejocowsert.com/godsexandrichpeople

https://www.ambercantornawylde.com

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Suzannah Weiss learned to loathe her body during adolescence. After high school, a positive hookup experience helped her realize why, and set her on a path of sexual self-discovery with her pleasure and needs at the center. 

Learn about her journey, including standout sex-related experiences — such as a BodySex workshop and orgasmic meditation — plus the ideas around sex and gender that felt off to her. She also shares her top related advice for leading a fulfilling life, in and outside of the bedroom.

Learn more about writer, feminist, and resident sexologist for Biird Suzannah Weiss at suzannahweiss.com. Find her new book, Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject, most anywhere books are sold.

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Jennifer had built a successful career and a happy family life when she became deeply involved in infidelity. While the first affair ended rather quickly, the second led down a path she couldn’t have imagined.

This episode touches on childhood trauma, abuse and cheating. Please take care while listening.

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Alicia Davon was studying psychology when she met Erwan, a man who was teaching workshops about the “extended orgasm.” She’s since become a relationship coach who teaches others all about this sensual practice.

A few things you’ll learn about:

• Alicia’s first experience with extended orgasm
• How extended orgasms differ from traditional orgasms
• How Alicia and Erwan became more than acquaintances
• The stages of sexual arousal, according to Masters and Johnson
• Tips for getting started with extended orgasms
• Alicia’s biggest takeaway from the practice

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A few things you’ll learn about:

• How submission and powerfulness aren’t mutually exclusive!
• The pitfalls and pleasures of hers-and-hers squirting
• What it was like for Liz to pass as straight
• Ways sexual self-discovery and embodiment can enhance your life

Learn more about Lee Noto: 

https://www.leenoto.com 

Becomethehighpriestess.com

Learn more about Liz Asch and Your Salt on My Lips: https://lizasch.com/salt-lips

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A few things you’ll learn about:

• How With Pleasure came together, and turned into a “very meta” experience
• How Jamila came up with the title that stuck
• Why pleasure practices are important during difficult times 
• What “bodily divergence” means, in terms of sex and pleasure
• The importance of community while managing trauma
• Real pleasure practices, from several survivors featured in the book!

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Follow Jamila on Instagram: @jamila.thesextherapist

Learn about her therapy practice: fireandflowtherapy.com

Learn more about the featured interviewees’ work:

Jazz: https://jazzgoldman.com

Taylor: https://www.taylorliannechandler.com

Kimleigh: http://kimleighsmith.com

Jean: https://www.seeksafely.org

Check out books that Robert and Hannah found helpful for healing:

The Courage to Heal, by Ellen Bass

The Dance of Anger, by Harriet Lerner

I Thought We’d Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation, by Laura Davis

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A few things you’ll learn about:

• What the Clit Talk gals learned about sex early on
• The difference clitoris type and size make in pleasure
• How to give or receive more clitoral pleasure
• What you can expect from the Clit Talk crew’s sexual empowerment course
• Empowering sex tips from Lindsey, Katie and Sugar

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A few things you’ll learn about:

• A condition that can be a natural part of aging
• What makes penile symptoms signs of a “disorder”
• The basics of Balanitis, Priapism, Paraphimosis, Peyronie’s disease, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction 
• How porn use fueled Gabe Deem’s ED 
• How Peyronie’s disease impacted Don Cummings’ relationship with his partner and sense of self
• What inspired Dr. Gabal to become a urologist 

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Anal sex can be awesome with some smart planning. In this Girl Boner Radio episode, you’ll learn:

• Differences between anal sex in porn and in real life
• Ways to ensure cleanliness, especially if you're nervous about poo
• Painful mistakes to avoid
• Tips for maximizing pleasure and choosing an ideal toy
• More!

Check out the featured guests’ work:

https://www.instagram.com/therealvickichase/

https://lunamatatas.com

https://www.twogirlsonemic.com/

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Some sexual escapades are wilder than fiction! In this “OMG” sex stories edition, August shares the voices and stories of three accomplished romance authors.

In addition to the titillating stories, you’ll learn: 

Tips for dating or hooking up while traveling

Potential benefits of angry sex

An erotic excerpt by Skye Warren, tied in to her IRL experience

This episode features the talents and work of voice over artist Rosa Delgado: rosamdelgado6@gmail.com

Check out the guests’ books:

https://www.karinakennedybooks.com

https://nanamaloneromance.net

https://www.skyewarren.com

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Do you ever find yourself thinking more about your appearance  than your own pleasure during sex? Or feel increasing pressure as time ticks by, wondering when you’ll finally reach orgasm?

If disruptive thoughts stand in the way of your or a partner’s pleasure, you’re not alone. 

Learn more from Kara Loewentheil + join her community: 

https://unfuckyourbrain.com/

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This Girl Boner Radio episode celebrates some of Dr. Megan’s most popular and beloved advice and sex tips (aka “Megan-isms”) including ways to turn up the heat in a monogamous relationship, many of which can apply to other relationship styles as well.

You’ll also learn about:

• Signs that it’s time to spice things up
• Scientific proof that many folks stay in love long-term
• Megan’s goal for her own relationship with her husband 
• A common belief that can interfere with relationship happiness
• The toughest part (plus good news!) about changing things up

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Sex is supposed to be noisy, unless silence is part of the fun or something you need for privacy. But what if a particular sound or bodily function makes you feel beyond embarrassed? Or if a partner hasn’t exactly welcomed your sounds?

This Girl Boner Radio episode features:

• An “OMG” sex story from Olivia, a professional dancer and Co-Creative Director for Colors Only erotica books
• Ways to degasify beans, with August’s mom
• A throwback clip on sex sounds with Passion by Kait founder, Kait Scalisi, MPH
• Dr. Megan Fleming’s thoughts for a listener who’s been feeling blah and disinterested in sex since shifting away from pandemic lockdowns 

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What “kind of woman” gets into threesomes and gang bangs? Do “good girls” even grow up to enjoy sex? These questions once lived in Casey Donatello’s mind. Little could she have imagined she'd one day delve into the swinger's community and hotwifing.

Today the sex-positivity advocate is passionate about play she once considered taboo and "dirty." Casey is equally passionate about busting related stereotypes and sharing related wisdom.

You’ll hear about:

Casey’s friend’s sexual experience that put her off of sex early on

How that very thing later became her fetish

What she’s learned about threesome, gang bangs and her desires

How she met her husband (and why she was so hesitant at first)

Hotwifing basics

Tips for delving into hotwifing, swinging or any fantasy 

More!

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The clitoris is only “mysterious” because it’s been culturally ignored for so long. This week’s stories illustrate how mighty the clit truly is and how impactful it can be to discover and embrace it!

You’ll also learn about ways to bring more pleasure to sex, two sex toys you may want to consider trying and some spicy game recommendations from Dr. Megan Fleming.

A few things you'll learn about in the episode:

• Some clitoris and female sexuality history
• An author and educator's experience growing up with a gynecologist father, whose medical books were missing something important!
• The life change clitoral pleasure led to for a comedian
• August's orgasm MRI experience
• What intersex means and a common related myth
• Ways an author and intersex activist has benefited from not being non-consensually operated on - and important takeaways for us all
• How a media personality shifted from envying penis-havers to embracing her body more fully 
• The lube August is loving!

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Tracy’s Dog:
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Learn more about this episode’s featured guests:

Joan Price:
https://joanprice.com

Emma Arnold:
https://www.emmaarnoldcomedy.com

Jean Franzblau:
http://www.jeanfranzblau.com

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A seemingly perfect date gone very wrong, powerful sex that involved no nakedness or penetration and a listener question on hands-free orgasms.

A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:

• Why we need to take care of ourselves after breakups
• The importance of feeling, rather than ignoring, our feelings
• The importance of feeling in your body, aka embodiment
• A simple breathing/energetic sex exercise
• A throw-back “think-gasm” story
• Hands-free orgasms tips

Updated on 10-11-21:

The original version of Dr. Megan’s clip in this episode included three paragraphs from an article, without credit. Find that article, written by science writer, Benjamin Taub, here: https://www.iflscience.com/brain/give-yourself-orgasm-using-only-mind/all/

Learn more about breathwork app and download the Pause Breathwork app at pausebreathwork.com/app. 

Learn more about GS Youngblood at gsyoungblood.com. 

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Have you ever felt frustrated, alone, anxious or depressed while using dating apps? Or wondered why swiping has led to a lot more swiping than actual dates? If so, you’re far from alone and there are reasons (that have nothing to do with you!) for all of that. 

While some people do find healthy, happy experiences and relationships through the apps, Nancy Jo Sales asserts that the big corporations running them are more interested in getting you hooked than finding lasting romance or love—and that using these apps is actually nothing like meeting someone in a bar (as many folks suggest), unless that bar were racist, transphobic and dangerous.

In her new memoir, Nothing Personal: My Secret Life in the Dating App Inferno, Nancy Jo shares her own experience using the apps starting at age 49 and investigates the impact of Big Dating. And she recently joined August to discuss its themes and happenings.

A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:

• A few of Nancy Jo’s sex and dating via app experiences, from funny, sicy and fun to dark and terrifying
• The harm these apps can do if you keep on swiping
• How “technoference” impacts intimacy and relationships
• The impact of sexualization of girls from a young age
• Why Nancy Jo decided to write such an open, honest book and what she hopes readers will glean from it

Learn more about Nancy Jo Sales:
nancyjosales.com

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If you’ve experienced unwanted pain during sex, you’re far from alone. Take it from psychologist Dr. Nazanin, who knows a great deal about it from personal and professional experience.

A few things you’ll learn in the episode:

• What Dr. Moali learned about sex growing up in Iran 
• How sexual pain started impacting her life and relationship
• How she found her way to more pleasurable, adventurous sex
• How sex therapy changed her life 
• Common causes of sex-related pain
• Her advice for anyone going through similar sexual challenges

Learn more about Dr. Moali: https://sexologypodcast.com

Check out Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks 

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Amy Baldwin and April Lampert weigh in on genital praising! A few things you’ll learn in the episode:

• What Amy and April learned about sex early on
• How their paths met (Hint: it involved April spanking herself in a kitchen!)
• What genital/pussy/penis praising is 
• Benefits of this type of "dirty talk"/sexy talk
• Simple ways to get started 
• What to do if you feel pressured or obligated to have sex routinely, despite your health issues and lower libido

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Did you know the first fairy tales were written by women as feminist critiques? Fairy tales of all kinds can influence what we believe and experience around sex and relationships. Take it from August, a power dynamics expert/former dominatrix and a giantess dominatrix with over 20 years of experience. 

 A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:

• The original fairy tales, which were written as feminist critiques of patriarchy 
• The storyline of the first fairy tale, by Baroness Marie Catherine d’Aulnoy
• How “Sleeping Beauty” parallels power struggles many women face today, with thoughts from Kashia Urbaniak
• How a Mother Goose story brought out kinky curiosity in Goddess Severa early on
• How Goddess Severa went from broke in NYC to a thriving dominatrix career, how her first session went down and what she loves about her work

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Checked out Dr. Megan’s Pleasure Picks!

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Are you having the sex you desire, or has sex lost something over time - or perhaps seemed lacking to begin with? Ever wonder what actually happens in sex therapy?

Whether you’re having sex with a long-time partner(s) or having hookups, you have what Ian Kerner, PhD LFMT calls a sex script, both your own and one you co-create with your partner(s). And gaining awareness about your scripts can go a long way.

A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:

• Why Ian says to all of his sex therapy patients, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex (which is also the title of his new book!)
• What a sex scripts entails
• How David and Kate, a couple in their mid-30s, found their way to pleasurable sex by unpacking their personal histories
• How Jonathan and Chris, a couple in their 40s, saved their relationship and sex life by cultivating a “rec-relational” style
• Dr. Megan Fleming’s tips for finding an ideal therapist

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Sophie Saint Thomas, journalist and author of Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection, grew up in a sex-positive household and now embraces witchcraft and science. And she has a lot to say about cultivating the sex and love life you desire.

A few things you'll learn about in the episode:

• How a penis candle spell she performed panned out
• What "love spells" in general are really about
• A powerful way to use tarot cards (that doesn't involve fortune-telling)
• Why monogamy and polyamory aren't your only relationship choices and how to choose your best format
• Sophie's take on post-breakup revenge
• Dr. Megan and August's thoughts for a listener whose demisexual boyfriend doesn’t desire sex very often

Follow Sophie on social media: Twitter: @TheBowieCat  Instagram: @TheBowieCat

Celebrate Masturbation May with a new toy from The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com

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Interested in starting a self-pleasure practice or getting more out of your single or dating life? Dr. Megan Stubbs’, author of Playing without a Partner: A Singles’ Guide to Sex, Dating, and Happiness, has so much to say about all of this!

A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:

• What Dr. Megan Stubbs was surprised to learn about sex early on
• Beginner’s masturbation tips
• Why large dildos are so popular
• Casual sex tips and whether it’s smart to add your COVID vaccine status to your dating profile, with thoughts from Dr. Megan Fleming

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“Claiming space is living your life unapologetically and bravely. And it sounds so much easier than it is.”  So says Eliza VanCort, and for good reason! The author, mentor and speaker speaks about her personal journey to claiming space and practical tips, particularly for women and anyone reared as a girl.

A few things you’ll learn in the episode:

• Childhood experiences that made Eliza especially passionate about claiming space
• The role posture can play in self-confidence and perception
• A few wonky messages we learn about gender 
• How to claim space during sex
• Masturbation tips and products worth embracing

Learn more about Eliza VanCourt and her book:

https://www.elizavancort.com

Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Picks: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks 

Celebrate Masturbation May with a new toy from The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com

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Pamela Madsen was a happily married mother of two with a successful career when she felt drawn to an erotic experience that made her jaw (and clothes) drop. The experience launched a life-changing journey of sexual exploration that continues today — her “nutrition,” as she calls it. 

Some of the topics you’ll hear about:

Sexological bodywork and massage

Erotic self-pleasure trans states

Incongruent desire in a relationship

Sexual self-embracement for eating disorder healing

Female sexuality

Sexual empowerment

D/S dominance/submission and sensation play

Learn more about Back to the Body: Sensuous Retreats for Women.

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If you’ve struggled to ask for what you want sexually or aren’t even sure what to aim for, you are far from alone. Kait Scalisi, MPH, founder of Passion by Kait, grew up in a household where no conversation topics were taboo, but conflict was. She now helps others find freedom in pleasure.

A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:

• Positive versus negative messages about sex and conflict Kait absorbed growing up
• Kait’s advice for figuring out what you actually want in bed
• Kait’s thoughts on listeners’ desires and how to bring them up
• A sex communication tip Kait feels is super impactful and underexplored 
• Why slipping out during sex happens and what to do about it

Learn more from Kait and her team and get awesome related resources at passionbykait.com!

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Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

Jordan Power discovered a family secret that changed the course of his life. Shana James realized she was bringing more to the bedroom than her body and desires.

Dr. Megan weighs in for a listener who’s curious about “dirty talk.” How can you get started, years into a relationship?

Learn more about Jordan on Instagram: @jpowercomedy  

Watch Shana’s TEDx Talk: shanajamescoaching.com

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Promescent CEO Jeff Abraham speaks about his sexual empowerment journey, benefits of delay spray and his top sex tips for men and couples! 

A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:

• What Jeff learned about sex, growing up in the 1960s and ‘70s
• What led him from small town life to bigger pastures
• A few ways to keep sex exciting long term!
• How delay spray can help penis owners and their partners, whether they’re dealing with premature ejaculation (PE) or not
• Promescent’s mission and the tragedy that fuels Jeff’s work

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Save $50 on Yarlap with promo code GB50! Learn more at greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks or yarlap.com. 

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Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber.

Desiree has lived with incontinence for about two decades, since age 6. She wanted to share her story with August because her symptoms have played a big role in her life, including her sexuality, relationships and self-esteem. 

A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:

Desiree’s experience with urinary incontinence, including challenges and ways she’s learned to manage

How she navigates sexual intimacy amid her symptoms

Facts about urinary incontinence, including the 4 types and how prevalent it is

Awesome accessible toys/accessories, available at The Pleasure Chest

Dr. Megan’s latest Pleasure Pick, Yarlap. Save $50 at checkout with the code GB50! greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasurepicks

This episode features voice over artist Rosa Delgado: rosamdelgado6 at gmail dot com

Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin.

Have you ever felt as though you’ve lost yourself or your confidence after a relationship? Or wondered how a romantic relationship that started out like a fairytale spiraled into lies, gaslighting and pain? If so, you may be one of the many people who’ve grappled with narcissistic abuse syndrome. 

August has been there, as have numerous of her past guests. For this week’s episode, she explores the impact of narcissistic abuse with Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a sex therapist and psychologist who specializes in treating people on both sides of the equation.

A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:

• What Kate learned about sex and sexuality growing up
• Common signs of narcissistic abuse syndrome
• How gaslighting can impact sex and intimacy
• Kate’s thoughts for a listener whose controlling ex restricted sex and affection
• Dr. Megan’s thoughts for a listener who’s haunted by her ex’s “porn addiction”
• How trauma can impact sex and pleasure
• Important truths about healing from trauma
• A few powerful things healing can bring to our lives

Save 15% on your first order of lube, arousal gel, delay spray and more at Promescent with promo code august 15: delayspray.com

Check out Dr. Megan’s FREE pleasure challenge: greatlifegreatsex.com/pleasure

Join August on Patreon to get an upcoming bonus episode on this topic and more!: patreon.com/girlboner  

Instagram:

 @themodernintimacy @drkatebalestrieri

@GirlBonerMedia  @dr.megan.fleming

Girl Boner Radio is hosted and produced by August McLaughlin, with transcript support from KM Huber. Learn more and find lightly edited transcripts at augustmclaughlin.com. 

Self-love plays an important role in everything from pleasure and intimacy to our everyday interactions. But how do you cultivate it, especially when things feel difficult? 

In this Girl Boner Radio episode, Mike Johnson, author of Making the Love You Want, speaks about his childhood, how he’s cultivated self-love and the impact self-love has had on his life. He also answers Girl Boner listeners’ questions, reflects on how he was depicted on The Bachelorette, and shares his top tips for sexual empowerment!

A few things you’ll learn about in the episode:

• Why Mike describes his mom as a shining star of resiliency, determination and persistence
• Gender roles Mike feels we should do away with, including personal examples from his life
• How Mike felt revealing the sexual assault he endured during childhood in Making the Love You Want
• The difficult breakup that brought Mike lengthy grief and how he found healing
• How he feels about how he was depicted on The Bachelorette
• Mike’s answers to listeners’ questions!
• Why he prefers the term “rising action” over “foreplay,” and how he defines it
• How self-love can enhance pleasure + tips for cultivating it from Dr. Megan Fleming

LEARN MORE:

Order a signed copy of Mike’s book at mikejohnsonsmile.com. Follow him on Instagram at @Mike_Johnson.

Check out the latest specials at The Pleasure Chest! thepleasurechest.com

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If you’ve ever had a one night stand and then felt like you shouldn’t talk about it, worried that you cared too much about sex outside of a relationship or acquired an STI from an abusive partner, you’re not alone. Ella Dawson experienced all of these issues and writes about them, both so she can process it all and to help others who relate.

A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:

• Why Ella believes “casual sex” is a misnomer
• A few experiences from her life that illustrate major gaps in what we’re taught about physical intimacy outside of relationships
• The link between intimate partner abuse and STIs
• What you can get by joining Ella’s Patreon community!
• What to do when you start falling for your “friends with benefits” pal, with Dr. Megan Fleming

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Ever wondered why sex used to feel easy and pleasurable and gradually, or suddenly, that stopped? Or wished you could experience orgasms or great sex in the first place? 

Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, sex therapist and author of SEX POINTS, believes everyone who wishes to can have “rockin’ sex” and that all related challenges are surmountable. She spoke with August about her personal journey and lessons we can all learn from challenges she’s encountered in the lives of her clients, as well as her own.

A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:

• Unforgettable sex-talk stories from Dr. Marcus’s childhood
• Why it’s important to consider sexual arousal, desire and functional challenges beyond the psychological
• Ways birth control can influence sexual desire and orgasms
• What many of us get wrong about fantasizing 
• The myth that women do better with monogamy than men
• Common factors that can lower what Dr. Marcus calls “sex points”
• What led her to “lose her orgasms” twice, and how she found her way back to that pleasure
• Dr. Megan Fleming’s thoughts for a listener who wants to experience orgasm (and for her partner to, too) during intercourse, versus only through masturbation

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Does great sex start at 50? It sure can, according to Tracey Cox, a renowned bestselling author and expert about sex and relationships. 

A few things you’ll learn in this episode:

• What leads to sexlessness in relationships
• When to accept or change that dynamic
• Myths about sexless marriages
• How to talk about low sexual desire or frequency, even if years have passed without sex
• The truth about “lesbian bed death”
• How to fuel female sexual desire
• The role body image can play in pleasure and desire
• How Tracey went from high to low libido, then to some of the best sex of her life
• Her top advice for anyone struggling in these areas
• What struck Tracey most while completing Great Sex Starts at Fifty
• Dr. Megan Fleming’s Pleasure Pick of the Month! And how you can enter a very special giveaway.

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Curious about threesomes? Or ways to make your next one better? 

Stella Harris, a Certified Intimacy Educator, Sex Coach and author of The Ultimate Guide to Threesomes, is expert at ways to effectively become “a threesome person,” benefits of thoughtful threesomes and how to decide whether or not to bring this type of play into an existing relationship or your life in the first place.

A few things you’ll learn in the episode:

• What many folks get wrong about threesomes
• Questions to consider before deciding on a threesome
• Why jealousy isn’t the worst thing (or unusual) 
• How intoxication can impact threesome play
• Ways to more comfortably ease into your first one
• Where to meet people for a threesome
• Dr. Megan Fleming’s thoughts for a listener who’s struggling after a threesome didn’t go as she had hoped

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Lala didn’t realize she could experience one orgasm, much less multiple, until she had the “best sex [of her] life” with her now husband – so why aren't serial Os her favorite? Lora found her way to multiple Os using one of the most popular sex toys among women. (The same didn't work for August...) And Yuval and Court are proof that O after O isn’t just a “female experience.”

In this Girl Boner episode, you’ll hear these stories plus related tips, multiple orgasm myths, busted, and more!

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Have you ever wondered if you orgasm “weird?” August hears about that a lot. The truth is, there are many ways of experiencing orgasm and all of those Os are valid.

A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:

• First orgasm stories of Lynn Anderton, Dr. Lanae St. John and Jayne Renault, all of which took them by surprise
• 7 types of “female orgasms,” including sleep-gasms, back-gasms, cervical orgasm and more
• What we tend to get wrong when talking about “clitoral” and “vaginal” orgasms
• 3 types of orgasm penis owners may experience
• Dr. Megan Fleming’s thoughts for a listener who wonders if using a vibrator consistently can make it difficult to climax without one

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Have you ever felt let down because your partner doesn’t meet your expectations? Or wondered if you’re having enough sex? 

Dr. Gary Lewandowski, psychologist and author of Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship...and How to See Past Them, has been studying relationships for years through his Relationship Science Lab. He’s also been featured by The New York Times, NPR, The Atlantic and Cosmopolitan. His empowering TEDx Talk, “Break-Ups Don’t Have to Leave You Broken,” has been viewed nearly 2 million times.

Dr. Lewandowski joined August recently to explore several common relationship myths that can really cause problems, if you buy into them—which is easy to do! He also shared his own love story, including how he met his wife, some of the challenges they’ve faced and signs they’re on the right track.

A few things you’ll learn in the episode:

• The difference a maximizer and a satisficer in terms of relationships, and which is a better aim
• Why a “sex challenge” isn’t usually helpful
• What’s most important about your sex life for boosting relationship satisfaction
• A common misbelief about breakups 
• 5 ways to heal and move on after a break up, with tips from Dr. Megan Fleming 

Support the show and/or sponsors + have more fun:

Join August on Patreon! patreon.com/girlboner. 

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Have you felt a more or less sex-inclined lately? Or wished you could have more spicy fun and pleasure during these zany times? If your answers are yes or yes, this episode is for you.

A few things you’ll learn:

• Ways the pandemic and social distancing are impacting sexuality, including thoughts from listeners
• Awesome sex toys for clitoris, penis and couple’s play
• How to set the stage for spicier scheduled sex
• A sensual way to spend Valentine’s Day at home
• Some of Dr. Megan Fleming’s top sex advice 
• More!

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Have you ever wondered what it would be like to talk to strangers about their sexual experiences? Julia Rothman and Shaina Feinberg did just that, and more, for their new book, Every Body: An Honest and Open Look at Sex from Every Angle. 

A few things you’ll hear in this episode:

• An excerpt from August’s first time hitting the streets to ask people, “What’s a Girl Boner?”
• What Julia and Shaina recall learning about sex early on
• What struck them most about the books’ stories about masturbation, Shaina’s Betty Dodson interview, body acceptance and religion
• What takeaways they want you to embrace from their experience creating Every Body 
• What numerous listeners wish others knew about sex or their sexuality
• The role attention can play in arousal, pleasure and desire

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S and C are scientists and foodies who share a deep love. One thing they don’t share is an equal desire for sex. While S is pretty much always “ready to go,” her partner C desires sex less often. And when he does desire it, his wants aren’t always those that S can fulfill. 

Shan is a virtual assistant and mother of two homeschooled teens who consistently desired sex less often than her beloved late husband, Jim. Navigating these differences well came in waves, she said, as they learned what did and didn’t help over the years.

For this Girl Boner Radio episode, August spoke with S and C and with Shan about their journeys and ways to manage mismatched libido in a loving relationship.

Content note: This episode includes mentions of abuse, miscarriage and death.

Correction: Shan is a "widowed mother of two teens who never went to school," meaning she homeschools them. Shan did go to traditional school.

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Have you sent intentions for 2021? How about sexual intentions? As we make our way into a new year and reflect on what hasn’t worked so well in the past, we shan't forget our sex lives!

A few things you’ll learn about in this episode:

• A common lube mistake to avoid
• A type of harmful self-talk that’s super easy to fall into
• What to do when you feel uncomfortable during sex
• Which fantasies to speak up about (and ways to do so)
• Ways to feel more sex-inclined, if or when you wish to
• More!

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Brought to you a day early, in light of Inauguration Day on 1/20!

Produced and edited by August McLaughlin

Sex-Positive Parenting, Fetish Play and Sexual Liberation with Jet Setting Jasmine

As a trauma-informed clinical therapist, sex worker, parent of three and woman of color, Jet Setting Jasmine knows a great deal about these topics, from personal and professional experience. 

A few things you’ll learn in this episode:

• What Jasmine learned about sex early on and ways she challenged the negative messages early on
• Benefits of sex-positive parenting and ways implement it
• How kink and fetish play can support healing from trauma
• What the hashtag #pornandparenting is all about
• Ways racism and racist stereotypes harm folks in the BIPOC community
• Jasmine’s top advice for sexual liberation
• Dr. Megan’s thoughts for a listener who wonders what to do when a couple is compatible in every way, except sexually

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Ever considered putting a ring on it? On a penis, that is... Or wondered about reaching climax in "perfect time" with a partner? (Hint: simultaneous Os are pretty rare, but that doesn't mean you can't invite or embrace them.)

A few things you’ll learn in this episode:

• Sexual trends during the pandemic
• A bit of cock ring history
• The best cock rings for beginners
• How cock rings can help in the erection + pleasure departments
• Facts about simultaneous orgasms
• August and Dr. Megan's tips for a listener who wants to experience simultaneous orgasms with her husband
• The role edging, aka orgasm control, can play

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They aren’t all holidays-themed, but some fun distraction may be just what 2020 ordered! August wraps up the Girl Boner Radio year by sharing the voices and stories of librarian Jess Witkins, publicist Will Armstrong, sex educator Angelique Luna and #open's Maile Manliguis.

A few things you’ll hear about this episode:

• Some intense improv (and okay, lies) that fueled romance
• Attraction that was finally acted on, after a date with someone else
• A play date that turned into a lengthy therapy session
• An odd kind of handsy-ness at the end of sex
• Wild animals on a wild night
• Why "green flags" are important in relationships
• How to navigate sexual dysfunction or low desire after an ex’s infidelity (and then some), with Dr. Megan
• A fun and spicy gift to consider for you and/or a partner

The show will return on January 6th. Wishing you meaningful holidays!

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Long-time sex therapist Tara Galeano, speaks about her a journey to rediscover her body after difficulties in her personal life and health served as a major wakeup call. She now approaches her life and her work very differently. 

A few things you’ll learn in this episode:

• How Catholic messaging early on impacted Tara’s ideas about sex and marriage
• How she (and her body) responded to learning about her then husband’s deceptions
• Body mapping basics and how it plays out in group therapy
• How you can try body mapping at home
• Benefits of body mapping, from stronger intimacy to kinkier sex
• The basics of touch starvation (“skin hunger”) and 6 ways to manage it with Dr. Megan Fleming
• About Tara’s new book, Rediscovering My Body

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For years, Leah Carey felt equal parts shut down and obsessed re: sex. Meanwhile, she chose terrible partners. Then in her 40s, during her final session with a therapist, she revealed a long held sexual secret. 

Leah’s admission marked the start of what would become an across-the-country sexual awakening adventure. She eventually landed on desires that surprised her and began transforming her life into helping other women find similar healing.

Learn more from Leah: leahcarey.com

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Thien-Kim Lam, founder of Bawdy Bookworms, and Nhakia Outland, founder of Prevention Meets Fashion, run sex-positive businesses that stem from personal experience, as well as passion for cultivating needed change. 

A few things you'll hear in this episode:

• About Thien-Kim and Nhakia's sexual empowerment journeys
• Thien-Kim's top sex toy tip for newbies, plus pleasure advice for us all
• Nhakia's thoughts on fashion as a powerful form of self care, activism and personal identity
• Dr. Megan Fleming's thoughts for a listener who’s struggling with anxiety around anal sex and penis size

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There are not easy times, especially for anyone who was struggling with mental health issues before the pandemic. Whatever you’re feeling is valid and all of us at Girl Boner Central hope this special pre-holiday episode brings you some comfort and light. 

In this episode:

Ellen Kahn, Senior Director of Programs and Partnerships for the Human Rights Campaign, speaks about her background and work with the Human Rights Campaign, and ways COVID-19 is impacting the LGBTQIA+ community, especially trans and queer people of color.

Thomas Davis, Founder/Artistic Director & Project Lead for The Creative Remedy & Education Workshop, speaks about his personal journey, from growing up as one of the only Black kids in his school and learning perplexing information about sex and sexuality to realizing he was HIV positive and becoming an outspoken advocate. He shares how the pandemic has been impacting his own mental health, as well as what’s been helping. 

Dr. Amelia Burke-Garcia, program area director at NORC at the University of Chicago and director of How Right Now, talks about the research behind the initiative, its aims and ways we can all benefit from it. The guests also share messages of hope for anyone really struggling and what they’re most grateful for lately.

Dr. Megan Fleming weighs in for a listener whose primary relationship is strained by pressures to attend group holiday gatherings. How can she smoothen things out with her wife, protect both of their health and ensure special holidays?  

A few things you’ll learn:

• Ways COVID-19 is impacting mental health, wellbeing, coping and resilience
• Unique challenges folks in the LGBTQIA+, BIPoC and poly communities are facing
• How to talk to a partner about tense pandemic-related challenges
• COVID-19 safety tips related to gatherings
• What it’s like to use the How Right Now website 
• More!

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Have you ever wondered what it’s like to live with bipolar disorder or wished that you didn’t feel alone in your mental health journey? Or wondered what it’s really like to make out with a fellow actor on camera? If so, pull up a chair!

In addition to being an established actress, Alessandra Toressani speaks about her journey with bipolar publicly and advocates for mental health awareness on her podcast, Emotional Support. And she had so much wisdom to share for listeners.

A few things you’ll learn in this episode:

• How bipolar presents in Alessandra and the surprising way she was diagnosed
• How bipolar has impacted her sex life and relationships
• Her thoughts on three listener questions on mental health, sex and dating
• How she feels about kissing and make out scenes
• Dr. Megan’s thoughts on the importance of explicit sex advice
• A spicy clitoral play activity for big time pleasure
• About a FREE upcoming workshop for more sex hacks, featuring Dr. Megan and Kenneth Play
  
  

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