Get Unstuck with Murielle Marie – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Yay. Finally, another podcast episode. I know it’s been too long. Life got in the way. And my creative mind, of course, came up with all these new projects and business ideas that were just screaming for me to do something with them. As a good creative generalist, I had to give them some attention. It’s a bit too much at times, I won’t lie, but it’s also incredibly rewarding. Building new things, starting new ventures, helping others… it’s all play to me; I consider myself extremely lucky to be able to do what I love every day. 

But so, yes, I’m back with an episode of the “Get Unstuck” podcast. My name is Murielle Marie, and I’m your host. A serial entrepreneur, creative generalist, writer, life-long learner, and career and business coach who loves to share the golden nuggets I pick up on how to do this thing called life.

This week’s episode is inspired by my recent absence from this podcast while building new projects. There are many things you need to keep going when you’ve decided to venture out as an entrepreneur or when you’ve decided to finally pursue your dreams, whatever they may be. But one of the things you need the most, and that is currently not talked about enough, is grit. That’s why today, we're diving deep into the power of grit, the secret sauce that can make all the difference in our lives and businesses. So grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and let's embark on a journey to discover how we can cultivate more of this invaluable trait.

Ok, Grit. It's a word that resonates with strength, determination, and unwavering resolve. Google speaks of courage, resolve, and strength of character. I believe it’s what separates the dreamers from the doers, those who succeed from those who fail. In a world where instant gratification often takes center stage, the importance of grit cannot be overstated. Truly.

I want to start with a real-life scenario highlighting the importance of grit in the workplace. Recently, a friend and client in his late thirties, who owns a chain of restaurants, shared a rather compelling story with me. One of his pizza places had just hired a new employee. It was her first week, and in the middle of a busy shift, she suddenly took off her apron and left on the spot, claiming that the hectic pace of the restaurant "was not good for her."

Now, this incident might seem like just a momentary blip, but it reflects a broader issue in today's world—a lack of grit and resilience in the face of challenges. In a society where everything should be frictionless, some people may struggle to navigate demanding environments like a restaurant.

As ambitious creatives, dreamers, careerists, entrepreneurs and business owners, we must recognize the significance of grit in our employees and ourselves. Grit isn't merely about tolerating difficult situations; it's about embracing them as opportunities for growth and learning. 

But what is grit, really? It’s an invisible force. Because I’ve witnessed its power in my life and that of so many of my clients, I believe it’s what keeps us pushing forward when everything seems to be against us. It's the unyielding fire that fuels our progress and pushes us towards our goals. Yet, in today's fast-paced society, it feels like grit is slowly fading away.

We live in a world where distractions are all around us and where the allure of immediate success can be tempting. We start something with enthusiasm, only to abandon it when the going gets tough. But here's the truth: true success rarely comes overnight. It's forged through tenacity, resilience, and, yes, grit.

When I was younger, I would start many things but never finish them. Of course, some of that resulted from my generalist brain (I have some podcast episodes about generalists and the creative brain, so be sure to check them out to learn more), but there was more than that going on. I believe at the time, I didn't have the resolve or the grit that is necessary to push through challenges and see things through to completion. I would often give up when faced with setbacks or when things became too difficult. It was easy for me to lose interest and move on to the next shiny object that caught my attention.

However, as I grew older, I realized the importance of finishing what I started and its impact on achieving success and personal growth. I began to understand that the habits that would allow me to succeed included perseverance, determination, and the willingness to do the necessary work, even when I didn’t feel like it or faced obstacles. I consciously decided to develop my grit and cultivate a mindset that would help me overcome adversity.

One of the ways I started building grit was by using Mel Robbins’ 5-second rule (I’ll add a link to her book and to her amazing TEDx talk in the show notes).  When I saw Mel Robbins’ Talk in 2013, 'How to stop screwing yourself over,’ I’d just embarked on my self-development journey. In the talk, she discussed her 5-Second Rule, which blew my mind. In this habit, the rule is that if you have the instinct to act on a goal, you have to physically move within 5 seconds of thinking the thought. If you don’t act within those first 5 seconds, your brain will kill the instinct. 

The moment you feel the instinct or desire to act on a goal or commitment, and you feel yourself hesitate, count 5-4-3-2-1-GO and move towards the action.

With the 5-Second Rule, you short-circuit the trap of overthinking that many of us fall into and push your body into taking action. You don’t have to wait till you feel ready; you simply have to move. 

Mel Robbins was one of the first inspirations to change my life, stop slacking, and finally do the things I always wanted. Her 5-second rule helped me build grit, and with that, everything shifted. It made me realize that being ready isn’t a feeling; being ready is a decision. Just like working your way through life, even when things get hard or aren’t going as planned. 

Another important aspect of developing grit was learning to embrace failure and setbacks as valuable learning experiences. Rather than seeing them as reasons to give up, I began to view them as opportunities for growth and improvement. I understood that setbacks were an inevitable part of any worthwhile pursuit and that they should be seen as stepping stones to success rather than roadblocks. 

When I fail, I don’t think what I’m trying won’t work or that I will never figure it out. No, what I do is realize I just haven’t figured it out or that it’s not working YET. Approaching what I do this way helps me to muster more grit to keep going, believe me. Because failure is an integral part of success and building pretty much anything new.  

I also looked for mentors and role models who embodied the qualities of grit that I admired. Some of the role models that I keep coming back to when I need more perseverance or a little kick in the butt are people who went through terrible hardship and came out stronger, more compassionate, and with incredible resilience. 

One such example is Nelson Mandela, the anti-apartheid leader and former President of South Africa. Mandela spent 27 years in prison for his activism, enduring horrible things and injustice. There is a song about his years in captivity from the movie Invictus (amazing movie, check the show notes, but also get your tissues because you WILL need them). The song is called 9000 Days. I can’t listen to it without crying my eyes out. It’s so powerful. I’m not crying out of sadness, but more out of hope, remembering the courage that Mandela had and that I can only aspire to. When he was finally released from prison, he came out with an unbroken spirit and an unwavering commitment to peace and equality. Mandela's ability to overcome adversity, his capacity to forgive, and his dedication to the freedom of his people make me want to have more grit and perseverance.

His story serves as a reminder that thriving is often born out of tenacity and the refusal to give up in the face of adversity.

Over time, working on having more grit this way, I noticed a shift in my mindset and behavior. I became more resilient, bouncing back from failures quicker and staying committed to my goals more easily. I developed a stronger sense of self-belief, knowing that I had the ability to overcome challenges and achieve what I set out to do.

Today, grit continues to play an important role in my life. It is the driving force behind my pursuit of excellence and my willingness to step outside of my comfort zone. I understand that true success is something that I make, but not without the determination to keep going - no matter what crosses my path. It’s also the reason why this episode exists, because even if I cannot keep the tight schedule I gave myself when I started my podcast (hello high achieving perfectionist!) I'm not giving up on it. Instead, I’m using grit to move forward with EVERYTHING I’m doing.

But my story is not unique. Over the years, as a career and business coach, I've witnessed countless individuals face similar challenges. And the ones who succeed are the ones who harness the power of grit. 

So how can we cultivate more grit in our own lives? Here are five tried-and-tested tips, so get ready to elevate your grit game big time!

Tip #1: The "Gritty Bucket" 

Find having a jar, a bucket, an envelope, or any sort of container dedicated to your grit. Whenever something isn’t going like you want it to go, when there’s a setback, or you start doubting yourself (like I do on a daily basis!), take a symbolic token, a small stone or a pebble, a feather, a little paper ball made out of a post it, whatever, and put it in your "gritty bucket." to remind yourself to not give up. When you drop the token in your bucket, visualize the progress you've made so far and get back to work. Over time, that bucket will be full with all the times you decided to keep at it instead of giving up.

Tip #2: The "Gritty Morning Ritual"

Start your day with a ritual that inspires grit. I always put something on my todo list that stretches me a little out of my comfort zone, or that feels uncomfortable, and I try to do it first thing when I get to work. By intentionally facing a small challenge right at the beginning of my day, I prime my mind and body in a powerful way. It sets the tone for what comes next and makes it much easier to stay determined throughout the day.

Tip #3: The "Gritty Playlist"

I use playlists for everything. If you’ve listened to this podcast before, you might know I have a writing playlist that gets me into flow almost instantly (which is the reason why I’m afraid to change it, even though I know it inside out and honestly I’m getting a bit tired of it). Well, I have a grit playlist too. The first song on it is “The Eye of The Tiger” by Survivor, the famous Rocky movie theme song. Whenever I feel my motivation waning, I put on my noise canceling headset, and let the music reignite my fire.

Tip #4: The "Gritty Buddy"

We become the people we surround ourselves with. This means, we also take on their grit - or lack thereof. It’s important to surround yourself with people who share your passion for growth and resilience. My "gritty buddies" are some of the most inspiring friends and entrepreneurs that I know. They’ve faced adversity but come out of it stronger every time. I love having them in my life to celebrate victories, brainstorm solutions, and provide support. They benefit from my grit, and I benefit from theirs. It’s a win/win for everyone. 

Tip #5: The "Gritty Gratitude Journal"

Every day, take a few moments to reflect on the progress you've made and the challenges you've overcome. Write down at least three things you're grateful for that showcase your grit. I’ve been doing this for many years now and it is absolutely life-transforming. It doesn't matter what it is, it could be a small win, a lesson learned, or simply the fact that you didn't give up. By focusing on the positive aspects of your grit journey, you'll train your mind to appreciate the process, not just the outcome. And you’ll build more grit! 

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That’s it. We’re at the end of this episode. Remember, grit is not a mystical unicorn reserved for a chosen few. It's a muscle that can be trained and developed by anyone willing to do the work.

So, before you go, here’s this week’s "f*ck it, let's do it" experiment: take on a challenge that scares you, something you've been avoiding or doubting yourself about. Whether it's starting a new project, having a difficult conversation, or pursuing a big dream, commit to taking the first step towards it. Embrace the discomfort, push through the fear, and remind yourself that failure is not the end but a stepping stone to growth. 

And if you’re feeling really gritty, here’s an act of daily rebellion for you: break free from your routine by doing something completely unexpected and unconventional. Step outside your comfort zone and challenge the norms that hold you back. Wear a bold outfit that expresses your unique style, speak up for what you believe in even when it goes against the grain, or take a spontaneous road trip to explore a new place. 

Remember, true grit requires breaking free from the status quo and daring to be different. So unleash your inner rebel and show the world what you're truly made of!

If you’d like to connect, share a personal story or ask a question about this episode, I’d love to hear from you! Feel free to reach out to me on Instagram @muriellemarie or via email at murielle@muriellemarie.com.

I hope you feel inspired and ready to embrace your inner grit. Until next time, stay gritty and keep pursuing your dreams!

Murielle

Just a heads up: I am not a therapist or doctor! If you're not feeling your best mentally or physically, and you need some help, please make sure to consult with a medical professional or a therapist.

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Welcome to a new episode of the "Get Unstuck" podcast, where we explore the limitless potential available to us and how to reach it. I’m your host Murielle Marie, and today, we're going to delve into a fascinating topic: the power of talking ourselves into things instead of talking ourselves out of them. So often, we find ourselves hesitating, doubting, and giving in to negative self-talk. But by shifting our mindset and embracing a positive self-narrative, we can unlock our true potential and achieve remarkable things. I’ve witnessed it in my life many times, and I see it in my coaching practice every day. That’s why I wanted to share about it in this episode. There is just so much to be gained from focusing on the positive instead of the negative. It’s truly life-changing. 

Let me start by sharing a personal story. When I decided to become a coach back in 2014 (I know that’s almost a decade ago, and I cannot believe it!), one of the things I had to do in order to get “the word out there” about my new career and work, was to start a blog. If you’ve listened to this podcast before, you might know that I’m a writer, currently finishing her second book - titled, tada - “Get Unstuck!”. By the way, I’ll add a link to a sign-up form on my website if you’re interested to know when the book comes out next month. So I write, and I love it - at least non-fiction. Fiction, which I’m also doing through the writing academy here in Antwerp, is a whole different thing. And something that still humbles me more than it enchants me, as I work to try and get a thriller about generational trauma on to paper. Anyway, back to the blog. 

When I first decided to start it, now almost 10 years ago, I couldn’t get a word onto paper. I spoke about this more in a previous episode of this podcast, especially about how it felt like I was battling a life-long writer’s block. The reason for it was: self-doubt and perfectionism crept in. So much so that I initially talked myself out of it, fearing failure and criticism. Luckily, I had a great coach at the time - my first one. Kate, this is a shout-out to you! I love you! She helped me see what was truly going on, and eventually got me writing. One of the things that helped the most was to shift the negative  self-talk around failure and criticism to positive self-talk about what the blog could mean for my business and my potential and future readers.

When I think back on those first blog posts and how hard it was for me to write them, I can’t imagine even having felt that way. I still publish a new article on my blog and write a newsletter every other week. I write books, social media posts and so much more. It comes naturally to me now. I sometimes wonder what would have happened if I’d allowed myself to buy into the negative self-talk. Would I have the business I have today? Would I even be speaking to you through this podcast right now? I don’t think so.

Negative self-talk can be incredibly detrimental. It plants seeds of doubt, limits our beliefs, and hinders - or sometimes even stops - our progress. Have you ever found yourself talking yourself out of something, only to regret it later? Perhaps it was a chance to pursue a new career path, start a business, or even ask someone out on a date. If you have, it's time to change that narrative.

The reality is: we all suffer from this. Every day in my work and my private life I am confronted with negative self-talk, doubts, insecurities, impostor syndrome. Just a few days ago, one of my strongest and most inspiring clients sent me a message telling me she was just a few inches away from throwing away all of the hard work she had done for her upcoming book. “I’m a failure, why would anyone want to read what I have to say, who am I to believe that I can offer something to the world, that my story matters?”

This is someone who is incredible: smart, capable, resilient, funny, compassionate, strong… I mean, I really love her so much. She’s an inspiration in my life. And still, even someone as strong and badass as her, feels like shit sometimes. That’s what negative self-talk will do to you. 

In fact, most (if not all) successful people have faced self-doubt at some point in their lives. But they chose to talk themselves into their goals and aspirations instead. 

Take Van Gogh, the famous french sunflower painter. He only sold one (one!) painting during his life. Even though he produced over 900 paintings over his lifetime, only “Red Vineyard at Arles” was sold while he was alive. Or think about Michael Jordan, the athlete and basketball player that led the Chicago Bulls to championship victory six times. He was dropped from the basketball team in high school. If he had let negative self-talk get the better of him, would we even know his name? Jordan isn’t shy about failure either (the subject of last week’s episode); he says he owes his success to all the missed shots he took during relentless practices – another life lesson he often shares. “I have failed over and over and over again in my life,” he said, “and that is why I succeed.”

Recognizing the impact of negative self-talk is the first step towards transforming our mindset. By becoming aware of the moments when we talk ourselves out of things, we can consciously choose to talk ourselves into possibilities, growth, and success.

Ok, enough about the negative stuff. What exactly is positive self-talk? And how can you start choosing it over talking yourself down? The essence of it is the practice of consciously choosing positive, empowering thoughts and affirmations to shape your mindset. Research has shown that positive self-talk can boost confidence, enhance performance, and improve overall well-being.

So positive self-talk not only affects your mental state but also influences your physical and emotional well-being. When we talk ourselves into things, we activate the reward centers in our brains, releasing dopamine, a feel-good neurotransmitter. This surge of positivity fuels motivation, resilience, and a greater belief in our abilities. Which, in turn, makes it easier to say positive things to ourselves in the future.

I talked about Van Gogh and Michael Jordan, but what about Thomas Edison. This is a famous story, so you might know it. It’s famous for a reason. It’s one of the most striking examples of resilience. Edison, even though failing thousands of times in his quest to invent the electric light bulb, continued to foster a positive mindset, saying, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that this won’t work." It was this unwavering belief in himself that eventually led to his success.

Someone else that really inspires me to talk more positively to myself and about my goals is Sir Richard Branson. I wear a necklace that says “fuckit” (link in the show notes if you want yours, it’s available on my website) and that’s a tribute to his “screw it, let’s do it” attitude - and his book by the same title that I highly recommend and will link in the show notes! That “fuckit” attitude is my way of pushing back on negative self-talk. Whenever my brain goes to all the reasons why something isn’t going to work or why I’m a big failure that will never make it and is about to be found it, saying “fuck it” to that voice really helps me to remember none of that is true. It’s important to remember this because if you don’t, that negative self-talk will get and keep you stuck!

Positive self-talk rewires our brains, enabling us to see opportunities instead of obstacles. It empowers us to step outside our comfort zones, to take risks, and pursue our dreams with tenacity (one of the most beautiful words in the English language if you ask me and such a great virtue to cultivate!). By embracing positive self-talk, we can tap into our inner strength and unlock the incredible potential that is within us.

So, the next time self-doubt creeps in, remember the power of talking yourself into things instead of out of them. Instead of saying, "I can't do it," remind yourself, "I can learn and improve." "I'm not good enough," remind yourself, "I have the ability to grow and overcome my limitations." The one that I love the most - and that I use daily - is this one: “of course I can, why couldn’t I?! It’s my go to whenever I worry about what I want to do, and it gives me just that little push I need not to think it over but to do it instead!

Ok, now that we understand the power of positive self-talk, let's explore some practical tips to help you cultivate this empowering habit. These are things that have worked for me (with varying success because, hey, #life) and for many of my clients. 

First, it's important to recognize when you’re talking negatively to yourself. What are your patterns? Pay attention to the voice inside your head. When is it showing up, to say what? Ask yourself, "Is this thought based on facts or my own fears? What evidence do I have that supports my capabilities?" By questioning these negative thoughts and reminding yourself of your past accomplishments, you can replace them with positive ones.

Second, daily affirmations and positive visualization can be incredibly effective. I have a little notebook that I read through every morning. I usually start a new one every few years. This one is from 2021. It has my life and career goals written in it, mantras, positive affirmations, prompts to meditate on every day and a few quotes that I want to remind myself of. Every day, with my morning coffee, I take a few moments to read through it and to repeat positive statements about myself, my abilities, and my goals. 

Visualizing yourself successfully achieving what you desire, and letting that image fuel your motivation really works. And it doesn’t cost you anything. So there’s really no excuse not to do it!

Third, surround yourself with a supportive network. I cannot stress enough how important it is to have people in your life. You can share your insecurities and truth with. The more authentic you can be with someone else, the more growth you can achieve. Look for encouragement from those who believe in you and your dreams, and who know how shitty it can be to feel the fear and do it anyway. Remember: EVERYONE feels that way! I do too! Just today I wanted to go and hide under a rock at least three times while thinking about the new start-up I’m building, the changes I’m going to make in my coaching business, and my new book which will be out in about six weeks… 

Having friends, partners and colleagues around you who are positive and believe in your abilities can be a powerful source of inspiration and motivation. I know this really works for me. When I know there’s someone besides me that I can lean on and that understands and can help, there truly is no limit to what I believe is possible. Don’t be afraid to share your goals and aspirations with the people closest to you, trusted friends, mentors, or a support group who can offer guidance and encouragement along the way.

Finally, remember that self-talk is a habit that requires consistent practice. All good things are hard to some degree, but that shouldn’t stop us from doing them. Good things also require patience, so give yourself grace and time as you develop this new mindset. It's normal to experience moments of self-doubt, but by consciously choosing positive self-talk, you can gradually rewire your thoughts and beliefs. Over time, talking yourself into things will become second nature, opening up a world of possibilities. You’ll see, it’s like magic! 

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Before you go, I want to leave you with this message: embrace the power of talking yourself into things. Negative thoughts and self-talk are just that: talk. They’re words, and often not your own. Don’t believe everything you think, and certainly not the crappy stuff you tell yourself. You are the leader of your life, and that includes your thoughts. By choosing positive and reaffirming thoughts, you can unlock your true potential and completely transform your reality. I’m a living testament to it, and so many others are too! Just remember that every great accomplishment starts with believing in yourself!

Here’s this week’s "f*ck it, let's do it" experiment: my invitation this week is to practice self-empowerment from the inside out by changing the way you speak to yourself. Every time you catch yourself thinking something negative, hit the pause button and reframe those thoughts into positive and empowering ones. For example, if you're thinking, "I'm not good enough," or “this will never work” flip the script and say, "I’m worthy of love, success, and all the good things life has to offer." If you catch yourself saying, "I can't do this," switch it up and proudly state to yourself, "I am capable, and I have the strength and resilience to overcome any challenge."

If you want to dive a little deeper, here’s an act of daily rebellion for you. Embrace the power of positive affirmations. Choose one affirmation each day that directly counters a negative thought or self-doubt you often think. Repeat this affirmation to yourself throughout the day.

Remember, the journey of transformation you’re on takes practice and patience. Don’t give up on the first few tries. Keep at it, and it will work for you! I promise!

If you have a personal story or questions about this episode or if you’d like to connect with me for any reason, I would love to hear from you! Feel free to reach out to me on Instagram @muriellemarie or via email at murielle@muriellemarie.com.

Wishing you a fulfilling and positively affirming week ahead. Bye for now, and may you think thoughts that reflect the rockstar that you are!

Just a heads up: I am not a therapist or doctor! If you're not feeling your best mentally or physically, and you need some help, please make sure to consult with a medical professional or a therapist.

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Today I want to focus on feminist marketing and inclusive principles and how I apply them in my business. The people in my life, my friends and family, know that I'm a feminist who hates injustice, ignorance and thrives for inclusion; that I do active antiracist work, and how important it is to me for that to be reflected in my work.

Although this episode will share my best practices as an entrepreneur, whatever your work is, or even in your personal life, principles that put forth equality and justice are always sound and help shape a better and more equal world.

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Creative generalists are among my favorite kind of people. They're people - and I count myself as one of them, and so do many of my clients and friends - with a broad range of interests and skills across different fields. They could be teachers, entrepreneurs, artists, engineers, mathematicians, scientists, or any combination. Anyone could be a creative generalist, it simply depends on how their creative brain is wired and the way they choose to use it.

If you've been listening to my podcast, you might have heard me mention creative generalists a few times, and you may have wondered what exactly it is. If so, you’re in luck! For after this episode you’ll know all about it!

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We all want to be liked and accepted in our lives, whether at work, in our family, at school, or socially. This is a natural and necessary inclination; we're born with it and develop it during childhood. But, when it reaches an excessive level, especially as adults, it can turn into a worrying and even paralyzing habit. 

Here's the thing: You cannot control what others think of you. 

The good news is it's possible to break free from this cycle of overthinking and worrying about what people think. That's what we explore in this week's episode.

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Let me state it loud and clear: You are allowed to love your job. It is your right to have a job that makes you happy. You don't have to stay stuck in a job that sucks the life out of you and doesn't fulfill you professionally or personally. 

Somehow, doing work I love is something I have never questioned. From my first freelance job to what I'm doing now, even though I often let opportunities guide me, I've never had a job I hated - at least not for a long time. When I was doing things I was not particularly eager to do, I quickly moved into doing something else. It's true that I've been a freelancer, consultant, and entrepreneur my entire life, but hating your job is not just something for people stuck in the 9-to-5 or working for someone else. I know many self-employed people, entrepreneurs who despise their jobs, and they don't have to stay stuck there. 

In this episode, I share how you can find and do work you love, even if it means leaving your current job. I discuss what steps you should take when looking for a new job, when you want to make the job you have more enjoyable, how to create your dream career, and how to set yourself up for success in a career that makes you happy.

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When working with people to help them get unstuck, I tend to return to what Jim Rohn, an American entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker, famously said: “We’re the average of the five people we spent the most time with.”

From personal experience, I believe that statement to be true. When I look back on the environments I was in at specific periods of my life and what I was doing, I see a direct correlation between the people in my life and the decisions I was making or the dreams I was having.

This is what I want to talk about:  that our environment influences our emotions, our emotions influence our thinking, our thinking influences our actions and our actions shape our life.

Let's do this!

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Are you someone who gets excited about new ideas? Do you easily get carried away with your enthusiasm? Are you the one, when something needs to be done, whatever it is, that will raise a hand and say "I'll do it!"

If you said yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you! Here I want to talk about something very important, both in your life and especially in your career or business, something that I took a long time to learn and that I tell creatives and entrepreneurs all the time: it’s not because you know how to do something, that you should actually do it.

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Being polite or nice can be a way to be civil and courteous but also a way to avoid real engagement or confrontation. It can be a way to avoid conflict, because it's easier sometimes not to face the situation in front of us. I know that's how I avoided painful situations in the past. Now, I still don't engage in conflict very much, but it's not out of fear, it's more in a "pick your battles" kind of way. I just decide when or not to engage in it. That is very different from avoiding conflict altogether or accepting other people's behavior without ever standing up for yourself. I don't want to talk about that type of culturally accepted politeness that’s a superficial way of being nice or courteous. I want to talk about the type of "being too nice" that affects you in a negative way, in your life and at work or in your business. Being too nice is the kind of attitude that makes you say "yes" to something you don't want to do, that makes you accept disrespect from others and that makes you put your own needs and beliefs aside in order to make someone else happy. The kind that makes a pushover out of you. That's the kind I’m talking about. Do you feel addressed? Then this episode may be useful for you!

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We’re going to talk about your inner rebel! You have one, trust me! It's a funny character. It's keeping you from doing the stuff you say you’re going to do, making trouble but also making sure you don’t get trapped into a life without freedom.

Do you feel like this is you? Then you are in the right place! We will go into more depth about your inner rebel and how you can deal with it to move forward in everything you want to do!

All of that and a step by step explanation of how I write everything out in a paper planner from StructuurJunkie (The business planner edition) and how you can use my unique freedom schedule strategy in this episode! Let’s get started.

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Check out my blog for more tips on how to get unstuck. Connect with me on Instagram or LinkedIN (don't be shy, I love meeting new people!). Sign up to be notified when my Get Unstuck! book is available.