Gay Men's Life Lab with Buck Dodson – Détails, épisodes et analyse

As I say at the end of my coaching and therapy sessions, “we’ll have to stop here.”  Join me for this final episode as I wrap up the podcast.  Tune in to hear about my decision, what’s next and how I hope to stay in touch. You may even hear some inspiration on approaching endings and new beginnings in your own life.

To stay in touch with me and be notified of future offerings from Gay Men’s Life Lab, please join my email list by visiting www.buckdodson.com.  

Even though there won’t be new episodes, I encourage you to ‘gay it forward’ by sharing any episode you think would help someone in your life.  

To gay superpowers! 
Buck

In this episode, I talk with sought-after coach, speaker, professor, and author, Dr. Joel A. Davis Brown about his new book, The Souls of Queer Folk.  

Join me as I talk with Joel about:

• What it means for leaders to be “Queer-minded”  
• How growing up LGBTQ teaches us to be leaders in life
• Queer culture as a wisdom tradition with value for all people, especially organizational and business leaders
• The 9 values that express the beauty of LGBTQ+ people 

Get your copy of Joel’s book, The Souls of Queer Folk and learn more about Dr. Joel A Davis Brown at:

• Linkedin
• Pneumos

Stay subscribed or start following to be notified when new episodes come out.  You can also join my email list by visiting www.buckdodson.com.  

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Thanks!
Buck

In part two of my pro-dating, pro-relationship guide, I dive further into energizing your dating and relationship life. I cover the key topics my clients and I work on and offer practical ways you can beef up your relational dating skills. 

Check out the episode to hear…

1. How to approach pacing in dating so you can stay “sober” in the early stages of love
2. My suggestion for approaching sex 
3. The communication styles and skills you need for dating and relationship success
4. How to work with unfinished business before you start dating or when you’re dating
5. Why we don’t find Mr. Right, we create Mr. Right

Resources:

Check out Wired for Dating by Dr. Stan Tatkin for more detail on secure functioning dating. 

Want to share your thoughts? Have ideas for episodes? Leave a message on the Phone Line at 512.808.0849 .

Learn more about me and how I help gay, bi and queer men – and allies too - live, love and lead powerfully by visiting www.buckdodson.com and Gay Men’s Life Lab on Facebook. 

If you found this episode helpful, please ‘gay it forward’ by subscribing and leaving a quick review and rating. This helps more gay men find Gay Men’s Life Lab! 

Thanks!
Buck

In the first of this two-parter, I invite you into a conversation about becoming or rediscovering hope and eagerness about dating. Join me for this deep dive into how becoming “pro dating” and a pro at dating means could radically shift your perspective on dating and creating long term relationships. 

Tune in to hear…

1. What it means to be Pro-Relationship rather than Pro-Self
2. How to approach dating like you would in a relationship
3. The 5 characteristics of “Secure Functioning Dating”
4. Developing a Pre and Pro-Dating Mindset
5. Ideas for meeting dating partners IRL rather than relying solely on apps

Resources

Check out Wired for Dating by Dr. Stan Tatkin for more detail on secure functioning dating. 

Want to share your thoughts? Have ideas for episodes? Leave a message on the Phone Line at 512.808.0849 .

Learn more about me and how I help gay, bi and queer men – and allies too - live, love and lead powerfully by visiting www.buckdodson.com and Gay Men’s Life Lab on Facebook. 

If you found this episode helpful, please ‘gay it forward’ by subscribing and leaving a quick review and rating. This helps more gay men find Gay Men’s Life Lab! 

Thanks!
Buck

Join me for this engaging and important conversation about porn, sex, masturbation, and most importantly, pleasure. I’m talking with Don Shewey, a psychotherapist, pleasure activist and author of The Paradox of Porn: Notes on Gay Male Sexual Culture.

Tune in to hear Don and I discuss:

• His journey to being a pleasure activist and Sacred Intimate
• The integral yet complex role pornography plays in gay men’s self-discovery
• How porn both helps and hinders our views of our bodies, sexuality, and relationships
• Learning to distinguish sex, porn and masturbation
• The role of pleasure and desire in addressing issues with porn

RESOURCES:

Learn more about Don Shewey at http://bodyandsoulwork.com.

Purchase your copy of The Paradox of Porn here.

Gay Men’s Life Lab Phone Line – 512.808.0849

What do you think about this episode? I’d love to hear your thoughts about the role of porn in your life and in gay make sexual culture. Drop us a line at 512.808.0849 .

About Buck Dodson, Host

Learn more about how I help leading edge gay, bi and queer men and allies find joy, deep connection and gay superpower by visiting www.buckdodson.com and following Buck Dodson Coaching on Instagram.

If you found this episode helpful, please ‘gay it forward’ by subscribing and leaving a quick review and rating. This helps Gay Men’s Life Lab reach more men like you! 

Thanks!
Buck

Join me for this enriching conversation with licensed psychotherapist, Brian Torres, on what it means to be a Highly Sensitive Person and how embracing this part of your nature can help you create a more optimal lifestyle.  

Some of the topics Brian and I discuss:

• The core traits of highly sensitive people
• What D.O.E.S. - Depth, Over-Arousal, Emotional Responsiveness, and Sensitivity to Subtleties – has to do with high sensitivity
• Misconceptions that high sensitivity isn’t backed by science, is the same as introversion or is a mental health diagnosis
• The parallels of living with high sensitivity and living as LGBTQ individuals
• The “Five to Thrive” tenets of self-care for Highly Sensitive people

RESOURCES:

Learn more about Brian Torres and his work with HSPs at www.briantorrestherapy.com. 

Read about HSPs in Dr. Elaine Aron’s book, The Highly Sensitive Person. 

Check out Dr. Aron’s documentary, Sensitive: The Untold Story featuring HSP, Alanis Morissette 

Gay Men’s Life Lab Phone Line – 512.808.0849

What do you think about this episode? I’d love to hear your thoughts about Highly Sensitive People. Drop us a line at 512.808.0849 .

About Buck Dodson, Host

Learn more about how I help leading edge gay, bi and queer men and allies find joy, deep connection and gay superpower by visiting www.buckdodson.com and following Buck Dodson Coaching on Instagram.

If you found this episode helpful, please ‘gay it forward’ by subscribing and leaving a quick review and rating. This helps Gay Men’s Life Lab reach more men like you! 

Thanks!
Buck

You won’t want to miss this enlivening conversation about tapping into your erotic energy as a pathway to healing, aliveness and joy. Join me and my guest, Craig Cullinane from The New Body Electric School as we dive deep celebrating our erotic potential. 

Some of the topics Craig and I discuss:

• The role of “conscious eroticism” in self and collective healing
• His own journey from body shame to celebration
• The intersection of pleasure, desire, power, and unmet needs
• The foundational tool that superpowers inner growth 
• Healing that happens when erotic exploration is not limited by physical attraction
• The dance of shame and pleasure that builds intimacy with ourselves and our bodies
• How Body Electric courses help GBQT write new stories about our lives through erotic liberation practices

Learning more about Body Electric and other resources discussed in this episode:

The New Body Electric School

Easton Mountain

Healing Body Shame Online Course 

Gay Men’s Life Lab Phone Line – 512.808.0849

Want to share your thoughts on your conscious eroticism, self healing and body transformation? Drop us a line at 512.808.0849 .

About Buck Dodson, Host

Learn more about how I help leading edge gay, bi and queer men and allies find joy, deep connection and gay superpower by visiting www.buckdodson.com and following Buck Dodson Coaching on Instagram.

If you found this episode helpful, please ‘gay it forward’ by subscribing and leaving a quick review and rating. This helps Gay Men’s Life Lab reach more men like you! 

Thanks!
Buck

In this episode, I unpack codependence, developmental trauma and love addiction with Jodi White, a psychotherapist, sober recovering love addict and host of “Journals of a Love Addict.” 

Jodi and talk about:

1. The 5 core symptoms of codependence
2. How dysfunctional families set the stage for being over or anti-dependent
3. What love addiction is and how it’s different from codependency
4. Developing a Functional Adult Self to care for our “inner woundeds”
5. How experiential learning bypasses the ‘thinking brain’ to heal trauma
   
   

Jodi White, LPC
Learn how you can work with Jodi White, LPC at www.jodiwhitelpc.com
Subscribe to Jodi’s podcast Journals of a Love Addict.
Follow Jodi on Instagram. 

Read Pia Mellody’s books on Codependency, Love Addiction and Intimacy. 

Gay Men’s Life Lab Phone Line – 512.808.0849

Want to share your thoughts on codependence or love addiction? Have ideas for episodes? Leave a message on the Phone Line at 512.808.0849 .

Have you had experience with codependent relationships or love addiction? Let us know your thoughts about this episode or any other topics by leaving a message on the Phone Line. 

About Buck Dodson, Host

Learn more about how I help leading edge gay, bi and queer men and allies find joy, deep connection and gay superpower by visiting www.buckdodson.com and following Buck Dodson Coaching on Instagram.

If you found this episode helpful, please ‘gay it forward’ by subscribing and leaving a quick review and rating. This helps Gay Men’s Life Lab reach more men like you! 

Thanks!
Buck

Gay Men's Life Lab is all about trying things out, and since we have a lot of new listeners in the last year, we’re experimenting with a new Relationship Replay Series which features some of our earliest episodes on all things relationships such as…

• How to handle conflict
• Communicating your feelings 
• Navigating relationship dynamics
• How to identify your needs and get them met 

If there’s one thing I’ve learned on my own relationship journey and in those of my clients, it’s that we’re always learning and we can all use a refresher now and then. So even if you’ve already heard these episodes, you might discover something new if you take another listen.

We'll feature Relationship Replay episodes from time to time, but we'll also continue to have fresh content and new episodes for you every two weeks, so if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe.

Now, let’s go to Relationship School.

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Episode 8 Replay
"Get Closer" with Jeff Chernin, PhD

Hey guys! This episode is all about improving communication patterns and dynamics in your relationships. I dive deep with L.A.-based psychotherapist and author, Dr. Jeff Chernin, about his must-read book, “Get Closer: A Gay Men’s Guide to Intimacy and Relationships.”  If you’re in a relationship, you want to be in one or you’re learning from one that just ended, this episode is for you. 

Tune in to hear Dr. Chernin and I talk about…

• What to do when you and you’re man are in a “Pursuer-Withdrawer” pattern
• How to balance out differences in power that show up around money, status
• Taking responsibility for our part in unhealthy dynamics including infidelity
• Setting your partner up for success to meet your needs
• Identifying your “hidden goals” and “secondary gains” that block your intimacy
• What contribution you’re making to your “not enoughness”
• The benefits and advantages of being gay couples
• How gay, bi and queer men are leaders of negotiating healthy sexual lives together

Learn more about Jeff Chernin’s work, his books and articles at jeffreychernin.com and on Facebook.

Get your copy of Get Closer here and start learning how to have healthy relationships and more intimacy with your man. 

Learn more about me and how I help gay, bi and queer men – and allies too - live, love and lead powerfully by visiting www.buckdodson.com and following me on Instagram and Facebook. 

If you found this episode helpful, please ‘gay it forward’ by subscribing and leaving a quick review and rating. This helps more gay men find Gay Men’s Life Lab! 

Thanks!

Buck

Gay Men's Life Lab is all about trying things out, and since we have a lot of new listeners in the last year, we’re experimenting with a new Relationship Replay Series which features some of our earliest episodes on all things relationships such as…

• How to handle conflict
• Communicating your feelings 
• Navigating relationship dynamics
• How to identify your needs and get them met 

If there’s one thing I’ve learned on my own relationship journey and in those of my clients, it’s that we’re always learning and we can all use a refresher now and then. So even if you’ve already heard these episodes, you might discover something new if you take another listen.

We'll feature Relationship Replay episodes from time to time, but we'll also continue to have fresh content and new episodes for you every two weeks, so if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe.

Now, let’s go to Relationship School. 

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Episode 1 Replay
Rupture and Repair: How to Handle Conflict in Your Relationships

Stop avoiding conflict and repair your relationship wounds. 

Conflict sucks. Nobody likes it, and we’d all avoid it if we could. But when we face it head on, conflict is healthy and helps us build trust. Since most of us were never taught how to handle conflict, this episode I'm talking about what to do if you keep arguing about the same issues in your relationships. I’m chatting about some of the skills you need to resolve conflicts: 

• stop playing the blame game; 
• take responsibility for your part; 
• own your feelings; and 
• get curious about what the other person feels.  

Check out this episode for practical ideas to move you guys out of rupture and into repair.

Learn more about me and how I help gay, bi and queer men – and allies too - live, love and lead powerfully by visiting www.buckdodson.com and following me on Instagram and Facebook. 

If you found this episode helpful, please ‘gay it forward’ by subscribing and leaving a quick review and rating. This helps more gay men find Gay Men’s Life Lab! 

Thanks!

Buck