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| How Acceptance Changed My Life: Peace, Resilience, and Self-Love | Episode 297 | 30 Dec 2024 | 00:16:16 | |
Learning how to be accepting of myself and others was one of the most important things I learned in recovery. I have made several episodes on the life-changing impact of this acceptance, and today, I wanted to continue that by sharing the long-term impact of being accepting of the people, places, and circumstances of your life. This week’s episode 297 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how acceptance changed my life: peace, resilience, and self-love! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the profound impact that learning to be accepting has had on my relationships and circumstances in hopes that you, too., can move towards a more accepting, peaceful life. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program! After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll... *Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries *Know how to communicate directly with people *Your feelings will become more "right-sized" *Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated *Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that *Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful *Come closer to realizing your authentic identity Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 2: Acceptance CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery | |||
| The Ripple Effect of Gratitude- How Small Moments Spark Big Changes | Episode 296 | 23 Dec 2024 | 00:20:05 | |
The practice of keeping a daily gratitude journal has had such a considerable impact on my life that I now make a gratitude list both morning and night. I’ve found that the benefit of creating this list is that you have to search for things to be grateful for. You almost become wired to look for things to be grateful for in every moment, shifting your perspective to focus on the positives. This week’s episode 296 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the ripple effect of gratitude- how small moments spark big changes. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ Are you saying yes when you really want to say no? Are you putting yourself last? Perhaps you're the consummate accommodator whose people-pleasing ways are wearing you out. If so, you're a perfect fit for my 12-week private coaching program! After Participating in Private Coaching with Barb, You'll... *Be able to feel peaceful and calm when setting boundaries *Know how to communicate directly with people *Your feelings will become more "right-sized" *Do things because you really want to do them, not because you feel obligated *Live your life by your own values and feel proud of that *Learn to keep the focus on yourself and still be kind and helpful *Come closer to realizing your authentic identity Sign up for a free 30 minute Better Boundaries call with me at this link. https://calendly.com/barb-nangle/better-boundaries-call LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Simple Abundance: 365 Days to a Balanced and Joyful Life by Sarah Ban Breathnach Ep 11: Gratitude CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: | |||
| Overgiving No More- Part 1: Recognizing the Four Patterns That Drain You | Episode 287 | 21 Oct 2024 | 00:20:18 | |
I have always been a giver, but through recovery, I came to terms with the fact that I had been an overgiver. I felt obligated to drop everything and give to everyone at the drop of a hat, which was draining. However, through building healthy boundaries, I learned to give in a healthy way, pouring from the overflow instead of from an empty cup. This week’s episode 287 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 1 of Overcoming No More: Recognizing the Four Patterns That Drain You! If you feel like you don’t know how to be in your life, be in your feelings, feel situated within yourself or how to be in relationships or organizations, it’s probably because you’re more focused on others than you are yourself. If this is you, you are a perfect candidate for Boundaries by Design: A Blueprint for Life, an 8-week structured course for women. This group coaching program will give you the framework, coaching, and guidance to create a manual for your life. You’ll know where you end and others begin, what your responsibility is and what’s not, and what you like, want, need, and prefer. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Stay tuned for next week as I share how boundaries restore balance and energize your life. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 3: Victim Mentality Ep 10: My Tools of Recovery Part III: Focus On Me CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery | |||
| How to Change Your Behavior After 50 Years of Momentum in the Other Direction | Episode 198 | 06 Feb 2023 | 00:23:10 | |
Recently, I was talking with a friend and reflecting on how I managed to change some of my long-standing patterns of behavior and the methods for how that change process unfolds. This week’s episode 198 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to change your behavior after 50 years in the other direction! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing some of the big ways I have changed my life over the years and how learning to pause became the framework for every other tool I got from recovery. The framework I share for changing your behavior includes:
Understanding that you can stop and change directions is one of the secrets to living a life of contentment. You can learn how to stop doing the things that are not serving you, that are draining you, that are making you feel ashamed, unhappy, or unfulfilled. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 8 My tools of recovery series Part I: Pausing CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| Delayed Gratification- The Antidote to "I Want What I Want When I Want It" | Episode 197 | 30 Jan 2023 | 00:16:00 | |
Looking back, I can see I had this ‘I want what I want when I want it’ mentality in many areas of my life. But now that I’m in recovery and emotionally mature, I’m able to see that it had a lot to do with immaturity. I’m now able to delay my gratification and make life so much easier for myself rather than harder. This week’s episode 197 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about delayed gratification- the antidote to “I want what I want when I want it.” Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a story of the time I overlooked some major red flags and rented a camper van anyway because I wanted to fulfill my plan to go on a 6-week solo road trip. After many calls to mechanics and finally ditching the van, I learned a very valuable lesson about making my life easier by taking time and thinking critically. The secret here is delaying gratification long enough to look at the truth of things. Stop ignoring red flags and ask for help if you don’t trust your own judgment. At the end of the day, just because you want something doesn’t mean you should have it. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| Denial 4.0 | Episode 196 | 23 Jan 2023 | 00:23:30 | |
A few months ago I recorded an episode called “Denial 3.0” and said that I had no doubt that in the years to come, I will be recording even more episodes about me coming out of denial as this is a lifelong journey. Who knew that it wouldn't be in the years to come but actually sooner in the months to come? This week’s episode 196 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is more instances of me coming out of denial! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! I often share on the Fragmented to Whole Podcast my own experiences of coming out of denial to illustrate to you what this looks like and to help myself come further out of denial by bringing this stuff out into the open. This week, I’m sharing a couple of examples that have happened in my life recently where others have shed light on my part in things and helped me realize I was doing things I didn’t even realize I was doing. I also cover in this episode:
I want to thank all of the people who are helping me come out of denial and who will come to help me in the future. My hope for you is that hearing my experiences will help you come out of your own denial and if they already have, I would love to hear from you. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 99: How to Actually Understand the Difference Between Intention and Impact Ep. 1: My Story in Brief CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| Your Step-by-Step Guide For How to Mindfully Rekindle Old Friendships | Episode 195 | 16 Jan 2023 | 00:14:49 | |
I recently talked to a friend from recovery who asked me if I had any advice or experience when it comes to rekindling an old friendship and of course I do so I wanted to share the advice I gave to her with you as well. This week’s episode 195 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is your step-by-step guide for how to mindfully rekindle old friendships! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the advice I gave to my friend for how to rekindle an old friendship and some example language to use if you’re just not sure where to start. I do what to make a disclaimer that in this scenario, my friend was the one who asked her friend for some space so this may look a bit different if it played out the other way around for you. The basic steps I have laid out for you to use if you’re planning to rekindle a friendship are:
I’d love to hear your feedback on what came up for you regarding your own relationships after listening to this episode. Especially if you’re someone like me who has changed and continue to change in recovery, I’d love to hear the things you’ve decided to say when you’re trying to rekindle old friendships or renegotiate the terms of your existing friendships. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| How to Know if You're an Adult Child- Part 2: The Other Laundry List | Episode 194 | 09 Jan 2023 | 00:17:54 | |
Although ACA started as Adult Children of Alcoholics, it is now referred to as Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families because whether your parents were addicts, alcoholics, chronically ill, mentally ill, militaristic, super religious, etc. any kind of family dysfunction can lead to the same set of traits. This week’s episode 194 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 2 of how to know if you’re an adult child- The Other Laundry List! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! Last week I shared what is referred to by the ACA fellowship as The Laundry List- the 14 traits of an adult child to describe the traits we as “adult children” take on as a result of our dysfunctional families. While the original laundry list describes how we are affected by alcoholism and family dysfunction, it does not mention how we might “act out” those traits by becoming victimizers and adopting the behaviors of our parents, and thus, the seed for The Other Laundry List was planted. The 14 traits on The Other Laundry List include:
Both parts of The Laundry List come together to fill the gaps and describe the traits that adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families often carry with them. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: | |||
| How to Know if You're an Adult Child- Part 1: The Laundry List | Episode 193 | 02 Jan 2023 | 00:16:50 | |
A huge part of my recovery has been coming out of denial and part of my denial journey is coming to realize that I am what’s called an Adult Child and then, once I realized that - that more traits of an adult child apply to me than I once believed. This week’s episode 193 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 1 of how to know if you’re an adult child- The Laundry List! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m reading what is affectionately called The Laundry List- the 14 traits of an adult child and sharing my experience of coming to realize how these traits apply to me- whether they were obvious to me at first or not. The 14 traits on The Laundry List include:
These are the survival traits we adapted to represent our “false self” and protect ourselves as a result of growing up in a dysfunctional family. If these don’t resonate with you, stay tuned for part 2 where I cover The Other Laundry List. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| My CEO Retreat Failed, But I Still Had a Great Day Thanks to Recovery | Episode 192 | 26 Dec 2022 | 00:22:25 | |
Earlier this month, I set aside one day where I planned to take myself on a CEO retreat and do a deep dive into a project for my business. When the day came, it was an absolute fail, and yet, my life wasn’t ruined because of it. This week’s episode 192 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the time my CEO retreat failed but I still had a great day thanks to recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m walking you through a day in my life where it felt like everything that could have gone wrong, did and sharing how recovery changed how I faced these challenges that would have otherwise ruined my day. This story is a perfect example that going through recovery doesn’t mean shit just stops happening to you. Shit still happens to me all of the time. But through recovery, I have changed how I approach and react to these situations so that I can still live a peaceful life. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 2 Acceptance Ep. 31 Overcoming unrealistic expectations Ep. 153 Learning to Have Realistic Expectations and Becoming Able to Let Things Go CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| How I Came Out of Denial- My ACA Story | Episode 191 | 19 Dec 2022 | 00:25:00 | |
I typically record myself when I share in meetings so I can listen back and see how things have changed - how my perspective has changed and how I’ve grown as a person. I’ve never considered sharing these recordings on the podcast until a fellow in recovery suggested the idea to me and I thought, why not? This week’s episode 191 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is a recorded sharing from a meeting and it’s my ACA story about how I came out of denial. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m doing something a bit different and sharing a recording I took from an actual ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families) meeting where I share my story of coming out of denial and how recovery shifted literally every aspect of my life. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
The biggest paradigm shift for me in recovery was coming out of a victim mentality. Before I could even begin to get myself out of it, I had to get out of the denial that I was participating in this mentality so that I could begin seeing the world through a different lens. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| Participate in Your Own Recovery with Dan Reeves | Episode 190 | 12 Dec 2022 | 00:37:04 | |
You can lie, pretend, and go through the motions for so long but until you make the decision to participate in your own recovery, you’re not going to see the life changes you’re looking for. This week’s episode 190 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about participating in your own recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, my guest Dan Reeves shares his story of how his dependency on alcohol started and the path it took him down and how, despite previous experiences with AA, it was one meeting that finally shifted his perspective and lead to his major life change. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Your job is to focus on participating in your own recovery. Leave everything else to your higher power. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH DAN REEVES: The Spiritual Underground Podcast Spiritual Underground on Facebook Spiritual Underground on YouTube Spiritual Underground on Instagram CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| How to Hold Onto Your Own Integrity-Set Boundaries Using "Blurry Truth" | Episode 189 | 05 Dec 2022 | 00:16:33 | |
Through recovery, we learn to tell the truth in order to live with integrity but sometimes, the full truth is not anyone else’s business. That’s where what I call the “blurry truth” comes into play. This week’s episode 189 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to hold onto your own integrity by setting boundaries using “blurry truth.” Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing how you can use “blurry truth” to set boundaries and find the balance between telling the truth without divulging all of the information and some ways I have practiced this in the past! Before recovery, I used to lie to people in order to set boundaries and that was because I didn’t know of any other way. Now I know there are alternatives to set healthy boundaries while remaining in my integrity and wholeness. Lying is not going to serve you in the long run. Your integrity matters and learning how to set healthy boundaries is all about living in integrity and living your life on purpose as the authentic person you really are and deserve to live as. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 39. Wholeness, integration and integrity CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| Build Bridges, Not Walls-How and Why Boundaries Bring Us Closer to Others | Episode 286 | 14 Oct 2024 | 00:17:03 | |
Many people think that building boundaries is about building walls between us and other people. While this is true in cases where you may have a dangerous or toxic person in your life that you need to build a wall between, in the majority of cases, boundaries actually bring us closer to other people. This week’s episode 286 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about building bridges, not walls- how and why boundaries bring us closer to others! If you feel like you don’t know how to be in your life, be in your feelings, feel situated within yourself or how to be in relationships or organizations, it’s probably because you’re more focused on others than you are yourself. If this is you, you are a perfect candidate for Boundaries by Design: A Blueprint for Life, an 8-week structured course for women. This group coaching program will give you the framework, coaching, and guidance to create a manual for your life. You’ll know where you end and others begin, what your responsibility is and what’s not, and what you like, want, need, and prefer. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing examples of how I acted as a “chameleon” in past relationships, changing my interests and preferences to fit with my partners’ and how building healthy boundaries helps you understand yourself better and effectively communicate your likes, wants and needs. We are built to bond with other people and the best way to bond with others is if they know who we actually are. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery | |||
| Dysfunctional vs. Functional Tools- How to Stop Making Things Worse! | Episode 188 | 28 Nov 2022 | 00:19:45 | |
I realized recently that before recovery I had a set of dysfunctional tools that actually made my life worse and through recovery, I was able to replace those tools with functional ones that make things better. This week’s episode 188 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about dysfunctional vs functional tools & how to stop making things worse! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the counter-productive tools of gossiping, pretending, lying, stuffing my feelings down, shame, hiding and denial that I used to use to manage my life and the tools I use now to manage my life in a healthy and productive way. Obviously, there are far more dysfunctional tools I could list but you get the point. Through recovery, I have transformed my life from using tools that did not serve and actually made things worse, to me having a whole toolshed of functional, healthy tools that make my life better. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 2. Acceptance Ep. 12. Stop Gossiping Denial episodes: Ep. 16. Denial Ep. 23. Denial 2.0 Ep. 182. Denial 3.0 Life on Life’s Terms episodes: Ep. 51. Life on Life’s Terms Ep. 166. Here's What It Looks Like to Live Life on Life's Terms, Not Life on Barb's Terms Ep. 83. FLAWESOME Ep. 156. Info, Not Ammo CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| 41 Things I Didn't Know Before Recovery That Completely Changed My Life | Episode 187 | 21 Nov 2022 | 00:16:38 | |
I spent so much of my life searching for something and didn’t know what I was searching for until I found it in recovery. That’s right, these realizations never once came up in the 37 years of therapy, self-help, and self-discovery work I did before going into recovery. And THAT is why carrying the message of recovery is so important to me. This week’s episode 187 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the 41 things I didn’t know before recovery that completely changed my life. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a list of things that I genuinely did not know about myself, the world, and the way things worked until I found them through my recovery journey. Some of those 41 things are:
I understand that recovery is not for everybody but I believe that regardless of the want or need for recovery, we can all benefit from the wisdom that comes from it. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| The Origins and Effects of Adult Child Trauma Part 2 | Episode 186 | 14 Nov 2022 | 00:27:42 | |
When we’re little, we don’t know anything different than how we’ve been raised so for a lot of us, until we grow up and get into 12-step recovery programs, we don’t understand that what we endured as children was abusive and dyscuntional. Until we realize this and no longer adhere to the rigid beliefs we were taught as children, we remain stuck in this loop of dysfunction. This week’s episode 186 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is part 2 of the origins and effects of adult child trauma. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing more excerpts from the book Adult Children of Alcoholics, affectionately known as the “big red book,” and sharing the wisdom i’ve gained through my own journey on how you can begin putting the puzzle pieces together yourself and healing your inner child. Listen back to part one of this episode to hear more excerpts from the book and more about my journey and perspective of understanding adult child trauma. The excerpts I cover in part 2 of this episode include:
We are all beloved children of God. We are all deserving of love from God, from other human beings, and from our families. We didn't get that love from our families because they weren't capable of giving it to us, not because we were undeserving of receiving it. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 8. My Tools of Recovery Part I: Pausing Ep. 21. Isolation vs Healthy Alone Time CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb | |||
| The Origins and Effects of Adult Child Trauma Part 1 | Episode 185 | 07 Nov 2022 | 00:19:13 | |
I often get asked how we all got our adult child attachment and adult child trauma issues and the short answer is from not having our needs met as a child or what I used to think of as the absence of “good things” happening for me in my childhood. This can be anything from emotional invalidation or being gaslighted by our families, pretending things that are happen aren’t happening, or avoiding something big and horrendous happening and acting like everything is fine. The list goes on. This week’s episode 185 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the origins and effects of adult child trauma. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing excerpts from the book Adult Children of Alcoholics, affectionately known as the “big red book,” and my journey and perspective of understanding adult child trauma. Some of the excerpts I cover in part 1 of this episode include:
Healing your adult child trauma does not happen overnight. It is a journey. But the more you understand where it comes from, the closer you will be to growing from it.Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 10. My Tools of Recovery Part III: Focus On Me The Big Red Book Please note I said the section I read came from page 55, it was actually from page 355! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| If You NEED People to Need YOU, You're Codependent | Episode 184 | 31 Oct 2022 | 00:19:06 | |
Codependency doesn’t always exist as your need for someone else to do something for you, but as you subconsciously needing someone else to need YOU in order to feel worthy and valuable. This week’s episode 184 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I am sharing the realization I had myself that if you need people to need you, you’re codependent! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my own story as well as a client’s story where we realized our codependency through finding worth in being needed by others. I also encourage you to check in on the motives behind your behaviors and identifying which of your issues may be linked back to a lack of boundaries. When you get better with your boundaries, you suddenly have this energetic force field around you where you’re able to hold in the good energy around you and repel other’s negative energy, no matter the chaos surrounding you. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 27 Getting Out of Enmeshment Ep. 102 Why keeping the focus on yourself is the antidote to codependence Ep. 110 Codependency with Gail Ep. 115 Here's How to Leverage Those Codependent Powers for Good CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| Stop Gossiping About Yourself | Episode 183 | 24 Oct 2022 | 00:11:38 | |
Typically we think about gossiping as something we do about other people, however, I realized that some of the behaviors I’ve engaged in in the past might be considered gossiping about myself. In this week’s episode 183 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing that means (AND telling you to stop gossiping about yourself!). Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing what thoughts or actions I consider to be gossiping about myself and how when I started to consider it as gossip, it was much easier to stop- especially after I learned to stop gossiping about other people. Gossip is not a solution-oriented practice and only has ill effects. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 12. Stop Gossiping Ep. 111. How and Why to Stop Dragging the Story with You CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com | |||
| Denial 3.0 | Episode 182 | 17 Oct 2022 | 00:22:56 | |
Denial is so pervasive and insidious that it takes a long time to come out of it. When you’re recovering from family dysfunction, it’s one of the most important tasks you’ll have to accomplish. This week’s episode 182 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about coming out of denial! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a story from my weekend where I noticed I am still coming out of denial from my past life even though I have been in recovery for 7.5 years. I also share what denial might look like in your life and the types of denial we must work through in recovery. When we go to meetings and hear other people’s stories, we can start putting the pieces of our own stories together, realize we are not alone and use this to come out of denial bit by bit. We realize we’re not alone, we’re not uniquely flawed, we’re not beyond hope, and we’re not terminally unique - but we are beloved children of God. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 16. D-E-N-I-A-L Ep. 23. Denial 2.0 CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| Methods for Reparenting Myself- What That Looks Like for Me | Episode 181 | 10 Oct 2022 | 00:23:19 | |
Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of doing inner child work to heal the parts of you that were left behind and actionable steps you can take right now to reparent yourself in a way that works for you, as simple or complex as necessary. 5 things I have done to reparent myself and what they’ve done for me
All of these practices work but the most important thing I do to reparent myself is to continue being good to myself, speaking kindly about myself, and showing up for myself.. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above.
“The Reason” by Hoobastank “Second Chance” by Shinedown
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| Addiction and Survival Traits with Craig Radix | Episode 180 | 03 Oct 2022 | 00:26:54 | |
More often than not, addiction and survival traits come with this negative connotation but today’s guest wanted to bring a new perspective to the intelligence that comes with these survival tactics. This week’s episode 180 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about addiction and survival traits! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, my guest Craig Radix shares how his life experiences lead him to adapt for the better and how acknowledging his past has given him a new perspective on addiction and survival. Some of the talking points covered in this episode include:
Everyone has their own journey but sometimes it’s about your perspective on the journey that makes all the difference. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH CRAIG RADIX: CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| Freedom from the Lie of Shame- You're Not Inherently Flawed | Episode 179 | 26 Sep 2022 | 00:19:30 | |
Many of us in recovery use drugs or alcohol to temporarily avoid the feeling of shame, but the thing about addiction is it fuels the shame we feel about our behaviors and leads us into a dangerous cycle. That’s why it’s so important to deal with the underlying shame, put a stop to the cycle and avoid potential relapse. This week’s episode 179 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about freedom from the lie of shame- you’re not inherently flawed! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing my journey of understanding shame through recovery and actionable steps you can take right now to set boundaries and remove shame from your life. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
I am not shame. I am a beloved child of God and so are you. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 17. Guilt and Shame Ep 83. FLAWESOME Ep. 9. My Tools of Recovery Part II: Reaching Out CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Boundaries Group Coaching program starts Sept. 28 (promo code mybetterboundaries22 for $150 off through 8/31/22) “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| When Gifts Become Trauma- Emotional Invalidation in Relationships | Episode 285 | 07 Oct 2024 | 00:20:50 | |
Since getting into ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families), I have come to understand that I have gift trauma. This is a form of relational trauma (sometimes referred to as little t trauma) that is a result of something happening in the context of a relationship over time. For me, this came as a result of feeling emotionally invalidated through gifts in my past relationships. This week’s episode 285 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about when gifts become trauma- emotional invalidation in relationships! If you feel like you don’t know how to be in your life, be in your feelings, feel situated within yourself, or how to be in relationships or organizations, it’s probably because you’re more focused on others than you are yourself. If this is you, you are a perfect candidate for Boundaries by Design: A Blueprint for Life, an 8-week structured course for women. This group coaching program will give you the framework, coaching, and guidance to create a manual for your life. You’ll know where you end and others begin, what your responsibility is and what’s not, and what you like, want, need, and prefer. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing some examples from my life where I have felt emotionally invalidated when family members or romantic partners have bought (or not bought) me gifts, how my relationship with my sweetheart is healing this trauma for me, and the importance of releasing expectations of others to find peace. Let this be your reminder that you do not have to stay in relationships with people who continually invalidate you, whether it has to do with gifts or not. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 131: Let Go of Your Expectations of Others and Meet Your Own Needs CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery | |||
| How Fixed Versus Growth Mindset Affects People in Recovery | Episode 178 | 19 Sep 2022 | 00:11:30 | |
The difference between fixed mindset and growth mindset is that if you have a fixed mindset, it means you think you are the way you are and there's no possibility of changing. Your personality and abilities are fixed. But if you have a growth mindset, you believe that change is possible, you believe your intelligence can grow, and you believe you have the ability to change your long standing behaviors. This week’s episode 178 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how fixed versus growth mindset affects people in recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing where the ideas of fixed versus growth mindset comes from, the research that backs this mindset shift, and how you can shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset to make changes in your own life. A huge part of recovery is coming to understand that we have certain underlying beliefs or subconscious scripts about the nature of reality and about ourselves, other people, the world, and what kind of change is possible. Then we can work on learning that many of those beliefs and unconscious scripts are bullshit and were making our lives unmanageable. And finally, we go about the business of changing those beliefs to better oursevles. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Boundaries Group Coaching program starts Sept. 28 “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| What Balance Really is and How to Get There and Stay There | Episode 177 | 12 Sep 2022 | 00:12:11 | |
One time I was coaching a client who expressed that every time she got close to finding balance, something would happen and it would throw her off. I replied that balance is not getting to a certain point or a certain set of behaviors and staying there; it’s not a static point but rather a constant adjustment. This week’s episode 177 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about what balance really is, how to get there, and how to stay there! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of looking at the bigger picture of your balanced life rather than focusing on the day to day balance and actionable steps you can take right now to make small pivots and adjustments to get and stay in balance. Stop thinking that life balance is a static point that you’ll achieve and stay there. Real balance requires constant motion. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 42. Why Take a Daily Inventory CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Boundaries Group Coaching program starts Sept. 28 “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| What is the Dreaded Drama Triangle and How to Get Out of It | Episode 176 | 05 Sep 2022 | 00:19:21 | |
The drama triangle is a dysfunctional pattern of interaction that perpetuates dysfunction rather than changing it. This week’s episode 176 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the dreaded drama triangle and how to get out of it! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of recognizing when you're in a drama triangle and what role you’re playing in it, then actionable steps you can take right now to break the cycle and turn this into a positive outcome for everyone. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
It is important to note that healthy people can engage in this too from time to time. Understanding the drama triangle and knowing how to escape it is beneficial for everyone to know and utilize. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 44. Comfortable vs Comforting Ep 3. Victim mentality Ep. 172. Seven steps to coming out of victim mentality Email me at Barb@HigherPowerCC.com for access to the handout mentioned in this episode. The Empowerment Dynamic (TED) book by David Emerald CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Boundaries Group Coaching program starts Sept. 28 “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| Dan Made Me Feel Like a Criminal When I Filmed Him Drunk | Episode 175 | 29 Aug 2022 | 00:17:04 | |
The thing with codependence is we feel this compulsion to get in between other people and the consequences of their behavior. When we do this, we become resentful of THEM and make THEM the entire problem when it is us who was enabling them all along. This week’s episode 175 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I am sharing the story of the time Dan made me feel like a criminal when I filmed him drunk. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a situation I was involved in at the height (or I guess you could say the bottom) of my codependence and my journey in learning that we cannot blame people for the actions that we are enabling them to continue. No matter how much we love or care for someone, we cannot change other people and we especially cannot change other people who are addicts. The only thing more powerful than addiction is God but the person must seek God and welcome in God’s guidance. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 140 Guest Jane M - Loving Someone through Addiction Ep. 68 How to Stop Enabling Other People’s Dysfunctional Behavior Ep. 73 Understanding Natural Consequences Ep 10 Focus on Me CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Boundaries Group Coaching program starts Sept. 28 (promo code mybetterboundaries22 for $150 off through 8/31/22) “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| The Golden Chunk of Time- Using Boundaries to Get Shit Done | Episode 174 | 22 Aug 2022 | 00:26:58 | |
When I coach my clients one of the metaphors I use with them is this idea that you can think about your precious resources of love, money, energy, and time as your “property.” I encourage them to put a boundary around that property, much like you’d put a fence around your house. This week’s episode 174 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the golden chunk of time - using boundaries to get shit done! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of protecting the limited time you have and actionable steps you can take right now to set boundaries around that time so that you can be purposeful and focused to get shit done. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
I’ve proven over and over again that I can count on myself to follow through for myself because of the healthy boundaries I have put in place. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep. 168. Why Consistency Is So Hard and How to Get Over the Hurdle CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Boundaries Group Coaching program starts Sept. 28 (promo code mybetterboundaries22 for $150 off through 8/31/22) “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| Daily Success Habits to Keep You Happy, Joyous and Free | Episode 173 | 15 Aug 2022 | 00:17:55 | |
I’ve had a number of people ask me what I do on a daily basis for my recovery. After being inspired by a business podcast where the woman talked about daily success habits for successful entrepreneurs, I thought I’d share my foundational daily habits as well. This week’s episode 173 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about my daily success habits that keep me happy, joyous and free! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of building a daily routine that keeps you grounded and aligned with your goals and actionable steps you can take right now to take inspiration from my daily practices and put together your own constellation of daily habits that work for you! The 3 daily habits I practice every single say to keep me happy, joyous and free are:
If you’re trying to figure out what habits work best for you, find someone who has what you want and ask them how she or he got it. I did this when I first got into recovery and truthfully, I still do. Both in recovery and life, if there is someone I admire, I want to find out exactly what they’re doing so I can do that too. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Boundaries Group Coaching program starts Sept. 28 (promo code mybetterboundaries22 for $150 off through 8/31/22) “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” online course BetterBoundarieswithBarb.com Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| Seven Steps to Coming Out of Victim Mentality | Episode 172 | 08 Aug 2022 | 00:21:05 | |
It can be very difficult to recognize when you are in a victim mentality, but it is the most important and the first step in getting out of this mentality. I had no idea I was in a victim mentality. I could identify others who were playing the victim, and yet I couldn’t identify it in myself. It wasn’t until I started doing the steps that I realized that I had this mentality. It didn’t mean I was weak, just that I had this mentality. This week’s episode 172 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the seven steps to coming out of victim mentality! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of identifying if you have a victim mentality and why you should get out of it, and actionable steps you can take right now to stop blaming other people for everything in your life and actively take control of your life. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
The seven steps are: #1 realize you have victim mentality #2 look at who you’re blaming # 3 become proactive rather than reactive #4 make decisions ahead of time #5 reach out for help #6 set boundaries #7 discern where you’re making choices Most people think boundaries are a reaction to other people’s actions, but it’s not actually the case. We can set healthy boundaries as a proactive way of determining who owns what, and we can act accordingly. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS: Ep. 3. Victim mentality Ep. 8. Pausing Ep. 9. Reaching Out CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| Five Methods for How to Make Decisions for People in Recovery | Episode 171 | 01 Aug 2022 | 00:19:12 | |
I hear often from people in recovery that they have a hard time with making decisions. I have found that having some methods to make decisions makes it so much easier for me. In fact, many of the tools we talk about here on the podcast are methods for making decisions. This week’s episode 171 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about five methods for how to make decisions for people in recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of making decisions, why choosing not to make a decision is a choice, and actionable steps you can take right now to make decisions easier. Sometimes it’s not even the decision we make, but the work behind the commitment of that decision. I have learned that if I don’t know what to do, I will do nothing, and wait for something to happen. I have learned that I don’t have to always be the decision maker. The five methods for making a decision:
I still can’t always make snap decisions all the time, but it is so much easier than in the past with these methods. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave LINKS MENTIONED: Ep 5. Affirming Ourselves Bonus ep between episodes 31 & 32. Bonus: Affirmations for Addicts Online course: “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” Promo code for “6 Weeks to Better Boundaries with Barb” is LaunchPromo100off Good for $100 off through August 2, 2022 at 11:59 p.m. EDT | |||
| I’m More Than Just an Addict with Nicholas Cialdella | Episode 170 | 25 Jul 2022 | 00:49:01 | |
Warning: This episode contains discussions of suicide, sexual assault and trauma, childhood abuse, drug and alcohol abuse, and depression. There are a lot of stigmas around addiction that stop people from getting the help they need for recovery, or even talking about their experiences. Nick knows both sides; being an addict and going through recovery, as well as helping others no matter their financial situation get the help they need through Never Alone Recovery. Nick also knows what it means to help the family unit, not just the addict, when it comes to the recovery journey. This week’s episode 170 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the power of a united family recovery journey! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding the shame around addiction and actionable steps you can take right now to start to unearth the route cause of the emotions you feel before and during recovery. Some of the talking points I go over with my guest Nick in this episode include:
There’s a lot of work in recovery, and it’s not just with the person who has addiction but also for the family involved in that person’s life too. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave LINKS: Text NAR: 844-364-4445 | |||
| Top Apps to Keep You Happy Joyous and Free (Revisited) | Episode 169 | 18 Jul 2022 | 00:24:51 | |
In 2020, I shared my top apps to keep you happy, joyous, and free. Recently, I was asked to share some more of the apps I frequently use to help keep my life and business organized while keeping things simple and fun. So, this week episode 169 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about my top apps to keep you happy, joyous, and free! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! Here are the apps that I use most frequently:
Don’t forget that you can go back to episode 69 and episode 70 for more apps. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate, and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE:
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| Control, Fear, Faith and the Power of Boundaries- Gems from My Recovery Journal | Episode 284 | 30 Sep 2024 | 00:22:39 | |
Throughout my recovery journey, I have gotten into the habit of writing down personal revelations or impactful quotes that I come across to document my experiences and insights. Many of these made a profound impact on my perception of things, so I wanted to share some of them with you today. This week’s episode 284 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about control, fear, faith, and the power of boundaries- gems from my recovery journal! If you feel like you don’t know how to be in your life, be in your feelings, feel situated within yourself, or how to be in relationships or organizations, it’s probably because you’re more focused on others than you are yourself. If this is you, you are a perfect candidate for Boundaries by Design: A Blueprint for Life, an 8-week structured course for women. This group coaching program will give you the framework, coaching, and guidance to create a manual for your life. You’ll know where you end and others begin, what your responsibility is and what’s not, and what you like, want, need, and prefer. In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a series of quotes that resonated with me, as well as some of my own personal revelations that helped me along the path of my recovery journey. Some of the themes I go over in this episode include:
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery | |||
| Why Consistency Is So Hard and How To Get Over The Hurdle | Episode 168 | 11 Jul 2022 | 00:13:26 | |
I’ve been thinking a lot about consistency lately. One of the things I’m able to do now that I have been in recovery, and now that I have healthy boundaries, is I’m able to be consistent in my self-care, and I trust myself now. I was incapable of doing things consistently before recovery. This week’s episode 168 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about why consistency is so hard and how to get over the hurdle! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of consistency and actionable steps you can take right now to get over the hurdle of becoming consistent. If you are trying to accomplish a big task, like getting through to school or being healthy, consistency in small things, like homework and healthy meals, is far more important and more achievable than doing grand gestures. The beginning step is always harder, because it takes a lot of mental energy to get over the inertia of going from nothing to something, and this is why developing good habits is really important. They help you get past that inertia by developing momentum. Consistency over time gives you momentum of the habit, and it *does* become easier over time. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| Don't Go To The Hardware Store for Milk | Episode 167 | 04 Jul 2022 | 00:09:29 | |
I was having lunch with a friend recently and she was really agonizing over whether or not she should leave her job. She’s torn because the circumstances she’s under aren’t great but she loves the work. In recovery we have a saying that applied to this situation: “Don’t go to the hardware store for milk.” That is, stop expecting someone or something to give you something they’re not capable of giving! This week’s episode 167 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about accepting things as they are. Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of accepting things as they are - like that the hardware store doesn’t sell milk; it sells hardware. So don’t go there expecting milk! I also talk about how to focus on one day at a time, and one situation at a time. I share actionable steps you can take right now to allow things to be as they are, and be present because the present is the moment of power. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links Mentioned: Ep. 18 One Day at a Time | |||
| Here's What it Looks Like... | Episode 166 | 27 Jun 2022 | 00:18:48 | |
I heard someone ask the other day, “Are you spiritually fit, or are things just going your way?” and this past week things just didn’t go my way. This proved to me that I am far more spiritually fit than I used to be. I’ve learned to live life on life’s terms. This week’s episode 166 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about living life on life’s terms, instead of on Barb’s terms! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of letting shit go and actionable steps you can take right now to get spiritually fit through re-defining how you react to things when shit happens. I had a bad week. Things that may not be a big deal to you that were a big deal to me, happened. In this episode, I share my personal story from trying to see the new Top Gun Maverick movie, and why I am so proud of myself for how I handled the whole situation. I didn’t know it was an option to be serene when shit happened before recovery. That was victim mentality. When we have the perspective of a victim, we see that things are just plain happening as happening TO us, instead of things just happening. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| What Most People Don't Know About Physical Addiction vs Process Addiction | Episode 165 | 20 Jun 2022 | 00:18:07 | |
I was listening to another recovery podcast the other day and this other person was talking about how they had no idea where to find resources. It occurred to me that it would be beneficial to discuss the 12 step recovery process for those of you who aren’t familiar with it so you can see if it’s right for you or not. I really didn’t “get” addiction until I was in my second recovery program. This week’s episode 165 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about understanding the difference between a physical addiction and a process addiction! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding the two-fold nature of the addiction illness and actionable steps you can take right now to better understand if a 12 step recovery program is for you. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
We find healthy calmness in recovery, and it can take time to get used to that peacefulness. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links to recovery resources: Alcoholics Anonymous: https://www.aa.org/ Narcotics Anonymous: https://www.nar-anon.org/ Cocaine Anonymous: https://ca.org/ Al Anon: https://al-anon.org/ Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families: https://adultchildren.org/ Co-Dependents Anonymous: https://coda.org/ Overeaters Anonymous: https://oa.org/ Debtors Anonymous: https://debtorsanonymous.org/ Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous: https://slaafws.org/ We The Village: https://wethevillage.co/ Faces & Voices of Recovery: https://facesandvoicesofrecovery.org/ | |||
| Why People Pleasing is Dishonest and Manipulative and How to Stop | Episode 164 | 13 Jun 2022 | 00:15:07 | |
When I first got into recovery, I remember saying that I was confused on where the line was between being helpful and being rescuing. I was asked what my intentions were behind my actions, and that’s how I realized that I was doing things because I was anxious about how people perceived me. Turns out, I was doing it because I was hoping others would think good things about me, and not because I was necessarily trying to be helpful without it being about me. I didn’t want to look bad. This week’s episode 164 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about understanding your own motives to stop being manipulative and a people pleaser! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of stopping your people pleasing behaviors and actionable steps you can take right now to stop the manipulation. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
What’s clear is that people pleasing is a sure sign of codependency; you’re putting the weight of the world on what others think of you more than what you think of you. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave LINKS MENTIONED: Ep 98. My two most important questions for guiding my behavior | |||
| Feelings Aren't Facts But They're Still Real and They Matter | Episode 163 | 06 Jun 2022 | 00:16:36 | |
There’s a thing that people in recovery like to say, and it really used to piss me off. The saying is, “Feelings aren’t facts,”. While it may be true, I know my feelings are real, and I just didn’t get it when people said this. Usually it was in an accusatory manner, like, “How dare you have those feelings!” I now have a better handle on my feelings, both in recognition and understanding them. This week’s episode 163 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to validate and understand your feelings and create emotional sobriety! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding your feelings and actionable steps you can take right now to validate your feelings without overreacting and letting emotions take the driver’s seat. A lot of the times our emotions and our reactions to those feelings are directly related to the things we’ve experienced in our past. In my case, that’s trauma. Without recognizing this in the present, you could have something trigger a fault-line in your soul that causes a different reaction than the situation actually warrants. This is not to say that your feelings don’t matter; they do and we should feel them. Where we get into trouble is when we mistakenly believe the emotion we’re feeling now actually relates to the current situation, and not from our past, and then act on that feeling. We instead need to focus on what we want, not what we don’t want. We want to live our lives on purpose. This means identifying not what we don’t want, but what we DO want, in order to get to peace. Focusing on other people and what they’re doing is not going to get me peace. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| The Progressive Nature of My Illness | Episode 162 | 30 May 2022 | 00:21:03 | |
One of the things that we’re told about recovery is that the disease is progressive; meaning, if left untreated, the disease gets worse and worse and worse. My experience is that this progressive nature is also true about codependency. I recently started thinking about how my life would be different if I was never in recovery, given how progressive things got with both my addiction and my codependence at the end there. This week’s episode 162 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the progressive nature of our illnesses! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of reflecting on where you’d be if you didn’t get into recovery and actionable steps you can take right now to recognize the pressive nature when it rears it’s ugly head. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Even if I wasn’t just generally grateful for recovery, which I am, I look for that gratitude every day. This is an emotional episode of my own journey through recovery and how I was before recovery. This shit is fucking real. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave LINKS MENTIONED: Ep 23. Denial 2.0 | |||
| How to Care More What You Think Of Yourself Than What Others Do | Episode 161 | 23 May 2022 | 00:14:44 | |
Caring more about what I think of myself than what others do is by far the biggest thing that has enabled me to go from having no boundaries to having really healthy boundaries. Keep in mind, this doesn’t mean I don’t care at all what others think of me, but it has become lower on my list of priorities. Experimentation is required when developing healthy boundaries, and I want to show you what that looks like. It will help you shore up your integrity. This week’s episode 161 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how to care more about what you think of you than what others think of you! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of standing up for yourself and giving a shit about yourself and actionable steps you can take right now to care more about what you think of you. I was willing to throw my integrity out the window for the chance that people would like me. I would lie to get others’ approval, which ended up with me not liking myself, or my life. I was trying to live a bunch of other people’s lives instead of my own. I started to live in alignment with my values and, now, I like me and my life, since I’m no longer lying. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links: Link to a free 30-minute coaching session | |||
| Recovering Shit Show Andrea Ashley | Episode 160 | 16 May 2022 | 00:35:55 | |
I’m super excited today to have Andrea Ashley as my guest, she’s the host of the Adult Child podcast. I was in a step study group and somebody messaged me about her podcast. I listened to the trailer and after listening to two episodes, I knew she had to be on the podcast. She shares raw stories of recovery like you rarely hear outside of a meeting and she’s also able to pull concepts together in a way that are really understandable. She's also incredibly vulnerable and authentic with her own personal stories. Plus she uses the f-word more than I do! This week’s episode 160 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about Andrea Ashley’s story as a recovering shit show! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m with Andrea Ashley sharing the importance of therapy and 12-step recovery in her journey to unearth her true self, and the healing modalities she’s used to address the trauma of her past. She also shares actionable steps you can take right now to start living for yourself, as well as identify triggers and symptoms of childhood trauma through her story. She shares how her life is now, after finally finding a therapist who’s a good fit four years ago, and ways she’s recognized her true self. Andrea identifies as a recovering shit show and says the word “fuck” more than I do! So I know you’ll find her story compelling and her honesty refreshing. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH ANDREA ASHLEY: CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links Mentioned: Book - The Abandonment Recovery Workbook | |||
| Boundaries in the Bedroom | Episode 159 | 09 May 2022 | 00:23:48 | |
I’m kind of surprised that boundaries in the bedroom is just now touching the podcast; and even more surprised that I just now realized that what I am talking about in this episode is even boundaries at all. Setting healthy boundaries in all aspects of a relationship, including in the bedroom, is so important! This week’s episode 159 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about trusting yourself and setting boundaries for the bedroom! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of trusting yourself and your boundaries and actionable steps you can take right now to build and set healthy boundaries around sexuality. I learned how to set boundaries in my 12 step recovery journey. Boundaries are one of the most important gifts I got from recovery, and they’re one of my most important tools of recovery. I was really attracted to my partner in the beginning because of his healthy boundaries. It was through his expression of healthy boundaries, as well as my own recovery journey, that I was able to set my own in the relationship. I also talk about the value in setting healthy boundaries in your own life and in your relationships with others. It’s one thing to be told to set healthy boundaries, and it’s another thing to hear the building blocks someone’s journey to build a healthy relationship for the very first time. That’s what you’ll hear on this episode! Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Links mentioned: Ep 107. The importance of boundaries in recovery - learning from the outside in Ep 125. Top 12 Lessons on Dating and Relationships from 12 Step Recovery | |||
| Addicted to Chaos: How Rumination and Catastrophizing Hijack Your Peace (and How to Stop) | Episode 283 | 23 Sep 2024 | 00:18:30 | |
I recently came across the phrase, “Stop extending the life of your problems.” This resonated with me because before I got into recovery, I hadn’t realized I was massively extending the life of my problems for DECADES on end by ruminating on the past and catastrophizing about the future. This, I have come to realize, is a very common trait for those of us in ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families). This week’s episode 283 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about how rumination and catastrophizing hijack your peace (and how to stop)! If you feel like you don’t know how to be in your life, be in your feelings, feel situated within yourself or how to be in relationships or organizations, it’s probably because you’re more focused on others than you are yourself. If this is you, you are a perfect candidate for Boundaries by Design: A Blueprint for Life, an 8-week structured course for women. This group coaching program will give you the framework, coaching, and guidance to create a manual for your life. You’ll know where you end and others begin, what your responsibility is and what’s not, and what you like, want, need, and prefer. Some of the talking points I go over in this episode include:
Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! Learn more about Fragmented to Whole at https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/ LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 42: Why Take a Daily Inventory When Food is Love by Geneen Roth CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Subscribe to “Friday Fragments” weekly newsletter Get a free chapter of my upcoming book: Roadside Recovery | |||
| How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others and Make the Most Out of Your Recovery | Episode 158 | 02 May 2022 | 00:10:33 | |
Stop comparing yourself to others! It’s typically going to either lead you to feeling like shit about yourself, or it’ll make you feel like you’re better than others. Either way - not good. Instead, the power is in keeping the focus and the comparison on former you and where you are now. Most of us have gotten better throughout our lives, but it’s not always linear. This week’s episode 158 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about making the most out of your recovery by not comparing yourself to others! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of keeping the focus on yourself and your own recovery and actionable steps you can take right now to compare yourself to former you, and not focus on others. What *you* think of yourself should matter more than what others’ think of you. What really matters is how you feel about yourself. If you’re comparing yourself to your former self, and don’t like what you see, then use that desire to make the comparison to be better. However, if you are comparing yourself to shit on yourself, that’s not the point either. What you learn when making the comparison is info, not ammo. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave Podcast Episodes Mentioned: Ep 66. Stop comparing your insides to other people’s outsides Ep 135 Go from Envy to Inspiration with One Simple Mind Shift Ep. 156. Info, Not Ammo | |||
| Tips on How to Find the Right Sponsor in 12-Step Recovery | Episode 157 | 25 Apr 2022 | 00:23:09 | |
I’ve been asked how to find the right sponsor for you in recovery, and as a sponsor myself I thought I would also share how my process for sponsoring. Just like everything in recovery, take what you want and leave the rest. This episode covers information for those new to recovery looking for their first sponsor, as well as those deeper into their journey too. It also helps those looking for a sponsor, as well as sponsors themselves,. This week’s episode 157 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about Tips on How to Find the Right Sponsor in 12-Step Recovery! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of doing what works best for you as both the sponsor and the sponsee and actionable steps you can take right now to pick the best sponsor relationship for you. Some of the tips I go over in this episode include:
I would be happy to help answer questions about sponsors, however, I’m not able to be your sponsor or help you find one. I hope this episode helps you make the right decision for a sponsor for yourself. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||
| Info, Not Ammo | Episode 156 | 18 Apr 2022 | 00:12:03 | |
I can’t believe I have never done a podcast on the concept of info, not ammo. When you learn something negative about yourself, instead of using it as *ammunition* for you to beat yourself up, use it as *information* to integrate about yourself. This is so important especially in the 4th step inventory of 12-step recovery. This week’s episode 156 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about learning to use negative information about yourself as info to learn and grow from instead of ammunition to beat yourself up! Support the show by becoming a Patreon member! In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of understanding the difference between taking information as information only, versus using it as ammunition to attack yourself. I also cover actionable steps you can take right now to be honest with others and yourself and stop manipulating information. I give the example of how I used this “info not ammo” principle when I learned that I was a people-pleaser, and that people-pleasers were dishonest and manipulative. I immediately wanted to use it to beat myself up over it - I couldn’t believe it! When I first started changing my ways to telling the truth and communicating directly with others, I felt like it was going to kill me! But I got used to it and now I feel so much better about myself and about who I am as a person. This concept of “info not ammo” can be a gamechanger for you too. Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on living a more whole life and to hear even more about the points outlined above. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me! And don’t forget to follow, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH BARB NANGLE: Membership Community, Secure, Loved & Brave | |||