For The Love Of Men Podcast – Détails, épisodes et analyse

This conversation is for the woman who’s been doing the inner work, building her standards, and calling in something real… but still feels caught off guard when it finally arrives. We’re talking about what it takes to actually receive a relationship that feels safe, healthy, and grounded in mutual respect, and how to recognize when old patterns might be trying to protect you from something that’s no longer a threat. 

We Talk About:

• Why emotional availability in men can feel destabilizing at first
  

• How polarity teachings sometimes oversimplify real human intimacy
  

• The skills women need to hold a man’s vulnerability without bracing
  

• Why emotionally mature men do want to be seen and witnessed
  

• How to support a masculine partner without overfunctioning
  

• What the “ick” actually signals, and how to alchemize it

• Containment and self-regulation as a feminine leadership skill
  

• Ways to create safety in yourself so you can be a safe space for others
  

• How to align with the kind of love and depth you actually desire

  
  

#feminineenergy #masculineenergy #nervoussystemhealing #secureattachment #healthyrelationships #innerwork #datingwithintention #emotionallyavailablemen

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In this episode, we're talking about the complexities of situationships. Because they are so common, we need to have a real conversation about the emotional dynamics, boundaries, and the importance of clarity in relationships so people who want a long-term relationship can make the adjustments to how they approach these conversations and feel empowered to be honest about what they want and know when to exit before falling into unfulfilling relationship patterns. Want to work with Bri and/or Courtney?Connect with Bri on Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@buildingbricoaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Courtney on Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@courtney_schand⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow the show on Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠@thefortheloveofmenpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Check out our website:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.fortheloveofmenpodcast.com⁠⁠⁠Looking for deeper support?Check out our Masterclasses:1️⃣ What Your Woman Wants Emotionally And How to Provide It: Unlock the secrets to fulfilling your partner emotionally! Join the Masterclass! https://9803apykilombg2reyim.app.clientclub.net/courses/offers/767199b5-47dd-4b08-a405-2854480607a62️⃣ Creating More Emotional Intimacy: Learn the art of building emotional safety for your Masculine partner! https://9803apykilombg2reyim.app.clientclub.net/courses/offers/344d8ff0-6c7f-4d83-909c-b1da3e4d2a1b3️⃣ Navigating Triggers in an Empowered Way: Transform your response to triggers and cultivate empowerment! https://9803apykilombg2reyim.app.clientclub.net/courses/offers/764d6284-6af5-456e-928f-14554f56c17f00:00 Introduction to Situationships07:29 The Importance of Boundaries in Relationships12:24 The Role of Emotional Depth in Dating19:48 Navigating Potential in Relationships27:09 Navigating Situationships vs. Long-Term Relationships35:32 Visceral Communication and Congruence44:02 Shifting Mindsets for Healthy Relationships

There’s a lot of talk about “princess treatment” right now. Some of it’s light and funny, some of it’s rooted in real desire, and some of it is missing the point entirely.

In this episode, we’re unpacking what’s underneath the viral reels, the lists, the standards, and what happens when a woman starts to base her worth on how much she’s being poured into without pausing to ask: Do I even want that kind of relationship?

Because yes, you can want to feel spoiled, cared for, and deeply cherished…And still make space for a man to feel respected, needed, and appreciated.

It’s all about getting honest with yourself and asking:

• Is what I’m asking for actually mine?

• Do I feel empowered asking for it or pressured to perform some version of “feminine”?

• And most importantly... what do I want to give in return?
  

When you approach relationships from an empowered feminine lens, the goal isn’t to demand more. It’s to ask better. To check in with your own heart first. To receive without entitlement. And to let your standards be rooted in self-respect, not fear.

We’re talking about all of that and more in this one.

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The intention of this show is to bring together men and women in harmony and honor each other's masculine and feminine energetic cores.

In this episode of For the Love of Men Podcast we discuss:

Characteristics of Feminine energy: playfulness, being in the moment, expressiveness, sensuality, pleasure, receptive, trusting, spirituality, free.

Feminine energy is fluid, and expansive in all directions.This is what allows “her” to flow with life, staying available in each moment to receive- emotion, pleasure, sensations, intuitive guidance, etc.

The powerful mindset shift: Trust your innate magnetism. How would you show up to dating, work, new opportunities, etc if you believed in your own abilities? Would you hide how much you know, what you instinctively want to do, or how deeply you feel things? Or would you feel relaxed and unguarded?

When you begin to believe that you are more attractive when you are in touch with your inner world, you feel safe to explore (and express) what makes you you. This gives you permission to acquaint yourself with your body in a new way- using all of your senses and sensations to receive information.

By practicing embodiment, you will naturally express more Feminine energy. Your emotions will animate your whole being from your sexuality, emotionality, vitality, to a general sense of well-being. You will have access to share more of yourself with others and this is how “being in your Feminine energy” creates connections.

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The intention of this show is to bring together men and women in harmony and honor each other's masculine and feminine energetic cores.

In this episode of For the Love of Men Podcast we discuss:

Women will use their masculine energy as a shield when they instinctively do not trust masculine energy. This can come from a history of trauma, early family dynamics where emotions were not welcomed/safe/seen, or abandoment/emotional unavailability, etc. Because her felt-experience of being in her Feminine Energy (in relation to another person) was not one of safety, security, and sturdiness, she uses her own masculine energy with the hopes of creating that for herself.

Signs she may be leading with her masculine energy:

-She approaches everything with logic instead of trusting her heart

-Treating all connections like a business (very formal)

-Surrendering control feels terrifying regardless of how well her needs are being heard/honored

-Hyperindepence (so she doesn’t have to depend on anyone or feel disappointed)

-She pushes herself beyond her natural limits to compete with others for a sense of value (and safety)

-Experiences difficulty receiving- care, pleasure, love, results of her own efforts, etc

-She resents/distrusts men collectively

Hiding behind a shield keeps you “safe” and yet it dilutes your ability to discern who you feel authentically safe around.

The Feminine will only soften when she perceives safety. In order to shift into a more empowered energy, a woman has to learn to create safety in her body. This means she allows herself to release the triggers from her body (we both teach somatic release), begin to trust her own Masculine energy (aka boundaries) to create the safety she needs to keep her heart open, and start to see men differently out in the world (the “good ones” become protectors instead of perpetrators).

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The intention of this show is to bring together men and women in harmony and honor each other's masculine and feminine energetic cores.

In this episode of For the Love of Men Podcast we discuss:

1. Planning.

When the masculine partner takes the role of planner, the feminine gets to relax and trust your ability to lead. This can be really simple but knowing what to expect feels calming to the feminine (it creates contrast to the ever-changing experience of the feminine) and she will be more open to receive your efforts.

    2. Consistency.

Over time, the repeated experience of your actions and words lining up builds the foundation for deeper intimacy. To the feminine, this will be experienced as sturdiness and she will be more willing to reveal more of her heart.

    3. Communication.

We all have different needs/expectations for communication- what is enough, what is too little, etc. Getting clear on both of your needs to stay interested in the connection will manage expectations and keep her from feeling wobbly. If you have a busy day, let her know. If you prefer a phone call over text, ask him ;)

    4. Sharing long-term goals.

This is an opportunity to clarify what you want (for yourself- i.e. casual vs commitment) and practice communicating it. Even if you are not in alignment, it will create the experience of honor and respect. And it is not going to scare the right person away to share what you want from a relationship.

    5. Validating her emotions.

The Feminine feels safe when she experiences connection. If she is sharing something with you, it is because she is wanting to connect with you. When she’s sharing with you (even if it seems pointless to you) treat it as if she is saying, “I trust you” and listen with the intention of creating space for her to express herself (as opposed to solving a problem). This can look like asking follow-up questions or reflecting what you are hearing.

    6. Consent is empowering.

Physical safety can be a legitimate fear for many women (often at a rate that is surprising to men). When you verbally ask for consent, it is similar to making a plan- on a micro-level- she relaxes and trusts you more. It allows her to feel seen and valued and it gives her space to express her boundaries- to set you up to Win with her long-term by seeing the most authentic version of her. And it keeps you in the role of protector and not perpetrator (even if this is from past experience and not true about you).

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In this episode of For the Love of Men we discuss:

1. The Open Dating Phase can create a lot of anxiety for women because our idea of safety is usually (if you’re looking for a relationship) in a relational context. This gets to be an empowering opportunity for you to clarify your boundaries- which is how you create a feeling of safety for yourself without needing to control the situation. Focal Point: As you’re going on dates, make note- either written or mentally- when you experience safety and what works for you. THESE are your boundaries and they will keep you feeling empowered, in charge, and able to lean back and observe who is in front of you.
2. Exclusively Dating one person gives you the opportunity to see “who they are” in a more intentional way. Taking time to get to know someone doesn’t necessarily mean they are leading you on (assuming you both WANT a relationship). Codependency wounds can get activated very easily in this stage so it can be very empowering to continue to “date” them (not to collapse your boundaries to rush being “chosen”) to observe their consistent behavior. Focal Point: You are still responsible for your happiness and being the healthiest version of yourself, commitment or no commitment. Think of this phase as building a foundation for a relationship- how easily can you be yourself around them? Do you start dropping your hobbies/friends? Do you feel comfortable sharing your feelings/basic needs?
3. Commitment is what many women want because it feels like safety to the Feminine to be able to reveal her most authentic self and be accepted (the Masculine experiences safety in freedom so this may be when men feel most vulnerable). This phase opens up opportunities for deeper emotional intimacy and also comes with more responsibility in learning how to navigate triggers together and in front of another person. This is why the exclusive dating phase (the foundation building) is such a gift. Focal Point: This phase is where you can both grow most profoundly, if you can continue to see what they other person is revealing to you about your own triggers. Whatever the next phase looks like for you will be a conversation you can have together, as a team.

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In this episode of For the Love of Men we discuss:

1. “Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free”. This phrase is disempowering to both men and women because it reduces them to their sexual value as currency. Action Item: this is can be an empowering exercise to get clear on what you want out of a relationship experience so you can lead with *those* boundaries (and increase the chances of getting what you most need) vs bargaining for it with sex.
2. The person that “cares” the least has the most power. If you act out of this belief, you create a power dynamic (struggle) that brings up the wounds of the partner- not their best. Action Item: Notice when you feel the need to use this strategy and get curious. Playing hard-to-get will repel empowered partners- and pull out their wounded self -because this is a lose-lose situation (love is about learning how to be vulnerable AND safe, and *this* is what is attractive to a potential partner).
3. Empowered partners are looking for emotional availability (not someone who plays hard-to-get or someone they “can’t have”). When we play hard-to-get, it is a giant red flag to a healthy partner because it is a sign that they won’t get their needs met (or make you happy) so why would they invest their best. Action Item: Our work is to release the traumatic patterns we unconsciously recreate of earning love and of not owning the powerful impact our presence has on the people around us.
4. Discernment is an empowered characteristic. This means understanding- and asking for- what you need to feel in integrity as the relationship unfolds is part of being the healthiest version of you (and therefore, creating a healthy relationship). Empowered partners don’t want you to violate your own boundaries to please them (like, ew.), and the more you can practice sharing what you need, the easier it will be to discern if you are a good fit. Action Item: If you are afraid that a partner will leave if you have sex, it is an indicator that you need to have the conversation not that you need to “hold out” until X date.

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In this episode of For the Love of Men we discuss:

Receiving. Women are natural receivers. When it’s not coming naturally, there are often some experiences from her past that are causing her to interpret the world in a way that actually closes her off from her feminine energy (natural receiving capability). In this paradigm, receiving feels VULNERABLE and she will (often unknowingly) resist voluntarily being in this role.

There are many reasons women struggle with receiving, here are a few:

1. Emotional. Many women have an experience where operating in a masculine paradigm that celebrates performance and achievement, they trade (or aren’t taught how to use it in the context of work or family life) their authentic receiving energy for more masculine tendencies. This acts as a shield that serves them in the corporate setting but deflects reaching her heart. This also causes her to overextend her natural capacity in an effort to be seen as more worthy.
2. Mental. Other women have shared the experience of general unawareness when it comes to receiving. Because we are socialized differently from men, we don’t understand the experiences leading up to their offers to help and interpret them incorrectly. They often don’t understand (much less intend) that men experience this as rejection. This misunderstanding is deeply unsatisfying for both parties.
3. Biological. Finally, there’s is a biological component to struggling to receive where she experiences greater feelings of safety (in her body) when she doesn’t “take” from someone who needs it more than her. So when she doesn’t receive from you, it may be because she isn’t sure it is safe to accept it or that it will be depleting resources that are vital to someone else (i.e. you).

Action Item:

If you want to be generous in helping heal this with her, you can:

-Verbalize your desire for her (i.e. “I want you to have this”, “I want to do this for you”, “I want to take something off your plate”, etc) this will help her nervous system come off autopilot (masculine in nature) and increase the chances of her feminine energy coming online (a genuine response).

-Express the experience of her receiving. This is brave but if your woman is receiving, a simple smile will let her know that this is safe for her and the receiving ends the exchange (it won’t be held over her head when she least expects it).

-Understand this is her work, you’re supporting her healing by staying present and creating a corrective experience for her. It is important to understand your boundaries and take care of yourself too, modeling healthy behaviors can be very healing.

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In this episode of For the Love of Men we discuss:

1. Many women believe that in order to feel safe receiving, she needs to have an equal payment available just in case the favor is “called in”. This actually keeps women from being fully present to the experience (that she most desires) and so the gift isn’t allowed to be absorbed before giving back. To flip this, so receiving becomes a nourishing exchange, you have to understand that men give because they want to and begin to trust that.
2. The masculine longs to be received. The “repayment” of a man’s effort and gift is the gracious receipt of it. They give generously with the hopes of simply experiencing you receiving him.
3. Men mean what they say. When they offer something, it is because they are willing to give it to you (it is either from overflow or a calculated sacrifice but it is intentional either way). Women have a hard time trusting this because we often offer things half-heartedly (litmos test: “I hope you say ‘No’”). This sets us up to believe we are “putting him out” if we accept his offer but we are really missing an opportunity for both of us to be deeply nourished (you get what you need and gets to feel of service- aka “points”).
4. Your expression of happiness and receiving what you need is highly attractive and motivating to the Masculine. Many women have the experience of this vulnerable experience being unsafe and have to allow their nervous system to recalibrate in order to open up instead of reacting and shutting down.
5. Nothing will increase your self-worth like allowing yourself to absorb the gifts that are available on a daily basis. When women show up to life in this paradigm she will be someone that is innately more attractive to men because she registers as someone they can “win points” with (see episode 1). This will set you up to give “cleanly” because you have enough to give from overflow instead of overextending ourselves to buy love.

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