In this episode I am breaking down 5 anxious attachment style red flags. This is a super informative episode making you aware of how your anxious attachment is showing up & sabotaging your relationships! This is said with so much love from someone that was anxiously attached myself & is designed to give you the awareness you need to overcome your anxious attachment style & move to a secure attachment style! If you are enjoying the F*CK TRAUMA podcast, please kindly rate the podcast so that it helps others to find it & hit the follow button to ensure you never miss an episode! Thank you, I appreciate your support!

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In this episode I am joined by my incredible client Frida who recently finished my Anxious to Secure In Love program. Frida is kindly sharing her story of overcoming anxious attachment style as she knows it is so helpful for others to hear.

This is an incredible conversation with a diverse range of topics which makes it very clear just how much anxious attachment impacts our lives!

Topics covered:

• Anxious & Avoidant dynamic
• Hyper-independance
• Caretaking in relationships
• Setting Boundaries
• Dealing with emotions & triggers
• Communicating needs & boundaries
• Dealing with family guilt

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On this episode, I am joined by Andie Colleen who is a mindset coach specialising in overcoming self-sabotage.

In this episode we talk in depth about the ways that trauma can be causing you to self-sabotage your relationships, business, career & more and how to overcome this.

It's a very interesting conversation which I know you will love.

If you're ready to work on doing the inner work on your wounds & stop self-sabotaging then my signature group program Anxious to Secure in Love is enrolling now.

In this episode, I am joined by my client Maya, who participated in my Anxious to Secure in Love program 1 year ago.

In this episode she is sharing her experience of going from anxiously dating unavailable partners to becoming secure & finding a secure relationship. We talk about boundaries, overachieving, what secure looks like and dealing with anxious attachment whilst in a long distance relationship.

My signature group program that Maya did, Anxious to Secure in Love in 10weeks is enrolling right now.

In this episode, I am diving into the popular topic of the Anxious & Avoidant trap, two insecure attachment styles that are highly attracted to each other but struggle to meet each others needs.

This creates a painful push pull dynamic that makes getting their happy ever after a tricky road, full of triggers and lessons. Can they make it?

In this episode I will dive into 5 mistakes that the anxious attachment style makes in these relationships & what to do instead, as well as answer the popular question, can anxious & avoidant work together? If you're ready to work on your anxious attachment style so that you are less triggered and feel secure in your relationships, the Secure Mastermind has been designed to give you all the tools, teachings and support to move to a secure attachment style.

In this episode, I am sharing 3 key things I wish I knew when I was anxiously attached. I wish I had someone like me providing this invaluable direction & knowledge in my healing journey to secure attachment so I am sharing it with you now.

Let me know if you relate to any! I love hearing your feedback!

You can also watch this episode on my Youtube channel ⁠⁠@candicetamara_⁠⁠

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In this episode, I am giving you the low down on some of the most common root causes I see for Anxious attachment with my clients. I love talking about this topic as connecting the dots is my zone of genius & when you connect the dots from your patterns now to your childhood, it all makes sense & you can begin to break the pattern. Awareness of the root causes are KEY to overcoming your anxious attachment style.

Let me know if you relate to any! I love hearing your feedback!

You can also watch this episode on my Youtube channel ⁠@candicetamara_⁠

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In this episode, I am sharing about something I learnt recently that changed my life & healed another layer of my anxious attachment style/trauma. It filled a void inside of me that I had never been able to fill & had been causing me to sabotage all my past relationships.

I believe this is the key missing piece to overcoming anxious attachment style, so much so... I have added in whole modules of it in my Secure Mastermind programs & when working with clients. This gets even more insane results & I am sharing it with you!

You can also watch this episode on my Youtube channel @candicetamara_

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As anxious attachment style most of us will have the belief that we are not prioritised which causes us to sabotage our relationships & feel more anxiety in our relationships as we prioritise them, over us. In this episode, I am talking about that belief, how it shows up in your relationships, how it has impacted me personally & 3 ways to change this belief for yourself so that you start feeling like a priority.

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In this episode, I am joined by my client Jess who shares her story of overcoming hyper-independence. When Jess came to me she was the poster child of overachieving and working hard for others approval, she quickly learnt that this was a trauma response from childhood as a result of her parents divorce and was part of her anxious attachment style

In this episode, we unpack the root cause of it & talk through her journey to overcoming it, finding wholeness in self, controlling her anxious attachment style & learning to act from a place of security in relationships.

Topics discussed:

• Working hard in relationships
• Overachieving for others approval
• Attaching her self-worth to her weight
• Learning to self-soothe her inner child
• Learning to detach
• Speaking up for her needs
• and so much more...

If you are interested in working on your anxious attachment style, my signature group program Anxious to Secure in Love is enrolling right now.

It follows my signature method that all my clients go through to get their epic transformations.

In this episode I’m speaking with my client Zaina who completed my Anxious to Secure in Love program not long ago. When Zaina came to me, in her words… she was the poster child for situationships. Always attracting partners that didn’t want to commit. When starting the program, she was anxiously attached & working hard for breadcrumbs in a SITUATIONSHIP. As the program went on & she felt more secure, she found the courage to walk away with confidence. This episode documents the whole journey & I know you will resonate with it! Not only that but she is a vibe so it’s a fun listen! Topics we cover: * Overgiving to people that aren’t giving more or committing * Learning to set boundaries with situationships & stop making excuses for breadcrumbs * The fear of speaking up & overcoming it * The fear of rejection & how it’s making you reject yourself * The Anxiety you feel in situationships * Walking away securely to find peace * The art of building self-trust & putting you first The exact program Zaina went through to feel secure is available in my Secure Mastermind which is enrolling right now!

In this episode I am joined by my client Keane who just completed my Anxious to Secure in Love program & is now in my Secure Mastermind, when he came to work with me 3months ago, he had just broken up with someone with Narcissistic traits. In this episode we talk about what it can look like to be in a relationship with someone with Narcissistic traits as an anxiously attached person, who is prone to attracting people with narcissistic traits & what you can do to avoid attracting people with narcissistic traits going forward. The Secure Mastermind that has access to my signature Anxious to Secure in Love program is enrolling now for August 1st start date.

In this episode, I am sharing how to set boundaries that actually get you what you want, without sending long texts about your feelings.

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In this episode I am talking about the GOODMORNING message that is always a popular subject in my content so I wanted to expand on the subject some more as I know there's questions around it. To be clear, I'm not against the 'goodmorning' message it's lovely to have BUT I am against getting attached to the message & the meaning we put to it, which leaves us riddled with anxiety & overthinking thoughts when we don't get it.

If you want to learn how to control these thoughts & overcome overthinking, join my masterclass OVERCOMING OVERTHINKING IN RELATIONSHIPS

Join me as I share with you very vulnerably my road from anxious attachment to secure attachment. How my childhood trauma created the patterns that would play out in my relationships & what I did to overcome this. I have no doubt you will be able to resonate with some of my story and I have shared this in a way that hopefully you will be able to see your own patterns showing up in your relationships & learn from it.

I just want to reiterate, this is shared with love, there is no blame for anyone that was a part of my journey, everyone has their own traumas, hence why I do the work that I do to help people overcome them so that they don't pass them on to others. I am extremely grateful for you taking the time to listen.

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In this episode I am joined by my guest & client Archana, who has an incredible story of anxiously attaching to emotionally unavailable partners & how she broke this cycle to date emotionally available, healthy partners.. that could actually meet her needs & wants to! We also talk a lot about the pressures put on women to be married with kids by a certain age, how that fear is impacting your dating decisions & the mindset shifts that need to happen to reframe this. If you are dating, or thinking to, you NEED to hear this episode!

Programs to enrol in now to create secure, healthy relationships with yourself & others:

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In this episode, I am joined my past client Ritchie, in this very honest chat, Ritchie shares his story on how he built self-worth after having no self-worth at all from being raised by a parent with Narcissistic traits that made him feel never good enough. Ritchie shares how his low self-worth impacted his sense of self, his relationships and his business & how very different things are now that he has self-worth. It's a really interesting conversation with lots of different topics that I am sure will resonate with you.

In this episode, I am joined by Katie Rose, Spiritual Healer, survivor of chronic illness M.E & an incredible, past client of mine. Katie & I talk about overcoming people pleasing in her relationships & her business. How Katie's childhood trauma was showing up in her body & sabotaging her relationships and how she learnt to express her emotions & needs in a healthy way in her relationship with her husband, who has an avoidant attachment style. It's a very honest conversation which I am sure you will relate to.  You can connect with Katie Rose here To learn more about how to navigate a relationship as an anxious attachment style with an avoidant attachment style in a healthier, less anxious way or how to avoid getting into this dynamic if you are single & dating so that you can attract a secure partner, join the ANXIOUS + AVOIDANT MASTERCLASS here

This episode is a mini-training with examples & journal prompts for you to take forward on the subject of giving with expectations. I guarantee this training will change your perspective on the way you're giving in your relationships & shine a light on how this can be improved so that you have healthier and balanced relationships with less anxiety. 

This mini-training comes straight from my brand new Secure in Love Membership which includes; monthly mini-trainings on different topics, a monthly Q&A session to ask Candice for my guidance, a supportive group chat of likeminded people & Candice PLUS.. exclusive access & discounts to events with me.. all for a super low cost monthly price so that it's accessible for everyone to get the guidance you need to navigate your dating and relationships from a secure place. 

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In this episode, I am joined by Keri Hope Richmond, a childhood trauma survivor, who was born into foster care & adopted into a family at a young age. In this episode she tells her story of childhood trauma, how anxious attachment shows up in her relationships & how she is working to heal her abandonment wound to find peace within herself. Keri is an incredible inspiration who is using her story to create change in the world with her non-profit organisation Unbelievably Resilient and she is also a lobbyist for legal changes in the foster system.

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On this episode, I am joined by my guest Becky, who has just completed my Anxious to Secure group programme. When I first met Becky just over 10weeks ago, she was anxiously attached to someone that was giving her breadcrumbs.. and was working hard for them & making excuses for them. After just a few weeks in the programme, she had the confidence to walk away but over the course of the programme, she was tested with other breadcrumbers & lovebombers. In this episode she shares her experience with dating as an anxious attachment, building her self-worth, walking away from breadcrumbs & where she is now... spoiler alert.. demanding the whole F*CKING Loaf! 

On this episode I am joined by my guest Emily, who has just completed my Anxious to Secure group programme. When she started the programme just 10 weeks ago, she had just freshly broken up with her fiancee, in this frank episode she talks about the different stages of the breakup as an anxious attachment style & how she found peace & security in herself over the 10 weeks, she also shares her tips on what helped her the most to get here. 

This episode is all about how to set boundaries as an anxious attachment style. The episode talks about why we find it so hard to set boundaries & say no and why it's so important that we must learn how to set boundaries in order to improve our anxiety in our relationships. 

Boundaries 101 workshop available now... www.candicetamaracoaching.com

In this episode, I am sharing my perspective on communicating boundaries in dating as an anxious attachment style to ensure you don't self-sabotage relationships.

To understand more about how your anxiety sabotages relationships & how to stop....

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This episode documents my incredible guest Emma Orlando's journey from Anxious to Secure in her relationships. 

Emma is my 1:1 client & a business woman that came to work with me as she was having challenges with her anxious attachment style in all her relationships. 

When Emma came to me she was attracting emotionally unavailable partners & working hard to please them. Together we worked on building her relationship with herself & whilst working together, she started dating & went into a relationship, and then walked away from it because it wasn't serving her. Something that is extremely hard to do when you have an abandonment wound but this just shows her incredible growth & healing of her attachment style. 

The conversation is very open, & discusses her entire journey of managing her anxiety in dating & in her relationship AND she explains exactly how she found that safety within herself. 

In this episode, I am breaking down 3 things I do everyday to keep my mind from overthinking.

These are easy things that you could incorporate in your daily routine to overcome thinking too.

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⁠Stop Sabotaging Relationships With Anxiety⁠

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In this episode I am sharing the NO BULLSH*T ANSWER to what to do when the pull back. This is the exact answer I give to clients. FREE MASTERCLASS: Stop Sabotaging Relationships With Anxiety Work with me live... SECURE MASTERMIND: Enrolling now Connect on IG

In this episode, I am sharing about my recent break from social media where I learnt I was out of alignment and burnt out. I am sharing it with you as you may be experiencing the same thing but it’s hard to know when you have an anxious attachment style and are disconnected from yourself.

This episode will help you to know if you may be burnt out too from people pleasing in all areas of your life and what needs to change.

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This episode is different to other episodes, I felt compelled to share a message from my heart to yours as a fellow anxious attachment style.

I strongly feel this is the message that someone needs to hear, it could be you. My hope is that it makes someone feel just that little bit more seen, heard & understood.

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In this episode, I am sharing ways to communicate better with an avoidant attachment style to avoid triggering each other & being in conflict!

These are the exact things I wish I knew when I was anxiously attached & in a relationship with an avoidant attachment style, as it would have made a big difference to the overall state of our relationship.

I am sharing them with you, in the hope that you adopt them & have more harmonious relationships.

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In this episode, I am breaking down 3 core differences between Anxious & Secure attachment. This episode was prompted by a comment on my content asking, would a secure attachment not feel hurt & abandoned if someone left them? this episode answers this & more!

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In this episode, I’m joined by Sarah, a former student of my Anxious to Secure in Love program. Sarah shares her inspiring journey of doing the inner work to heal her anxious attachment. By overcoming self-abandonment, she built a secure and loving relationship with herself, which transformed her relationship with her partner. Not only that, but Sarah also found the courage to quit her job, start her own business, and begin living life on her own terms instead of for others. Her story is a testament to the power of prioritising self-growth and self-love.

Topics Covered in This Episode:

• Breaking free from anxious attachment and rediscovering yourself
• Reconnecting with your inner child and nurturing your emotional needs
• Practical strategies for cultivating self-love and true self-acceptance
• Creating and maintaining healthy, secure relationships

• Embracing growth, change, and stepping into your authentic self

• The transformative power of mentorship and guidance
• Facing fear and discomfort as the gateway to lasting transformation

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In this episode, we dive deep into attachment styles, focusing on the fearful avoidant and anxious attachment dynamics.

I’m joined by Thais Gibson, a bestselling author, keynote speaker, and renowned personal development expert, who brings her profound insights into these attachment styles. Thais has built a remarkable platform with The Personal Development School on YouTube, where she explores healing and transformation.

In our conversation, Thais shares her journey from a fearful avoidant attachment style to a secure attachment, offering an inside look at the mindset of a fearful avoidant and how it affects relationships with anxious attachment types.

Through Thais’s wisdom, we uncover the surprising connections between fearful avoidant and anxious attachments and provide practical strategies to improve your relationship dynamics.

✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Insights into the fearful avoidant attachment mindset and its impact on relationships

• How anxious and fearful avoidant attachment styles interact and influence each other

• Practical strategies to heal and foster secure connections, whether for yourself or in understanding your partner

This conversation provides invaluable takeaways, including practical strategies to improve your relationships, whether you're navigating your own attachment style or understanding a partner's. It’s an insightful listen that sheds light on healing and growth within relationships.

More on Thais Gibson:

Thais’s groundbreaking research on the subconscious mind and personal transformation has been recognized by major outlets like Time Business News, The New York Post, and Yahoo! News. Her eloquent public speaking has inspired audiences worldwide, including her keynote at Google for International Women’s Day 2022.

As the founder of Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory, Thais empowers individuals to heal their attachments and reprogram limiting beliefs and behaviours for a more fulfilling life.

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• New Book: Learning Love | Take the Attachment Quiz

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On this episode, I am answering a question I get asked often around how to manage being around family that trigger you.

 

I am sharing practical tips that you can implement now to ensure you stay grounded in your relationships, whilst maintaining healthy relationships with family without compromising you & reverting back to your old self!

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On this episode, I am joined by Hayley Lloyd a 7-figure Business & Authority mentor, and my personal business coach.

 

Hayley is an incredible mentor & CEO grounded in her own inner authority and I can't recommend her enough

 

BUT... it hasn't always been this way for Hayley.

 

On this episode, Hayley shares her story vulnerably of overcoming addiction, anxious attachment style, depression, sexual abuse to become the incredible 7 figure CEO she is today, sober, in a healthy relationship & grounded in her power!

 

It's a conversation with many topics that I am sure you will be able to relate to!

 

Just some of the topics we cover...

> Overcoming anxiety & anxious attachment style to now be engaged in a healthy relationship

 

> Beating alcoholism & addiction to now being sober for many years

> *TRIGGER WARNING* Healing from sexual abuse & the shame that comes with it

 

> Rebuilding healthy relationships with parents where you don't get triggered into your old self

> Dealing with triggers & Integrating inner authority

 

> Learning to set boundaries with confidence -

SIDE NOTE: I have NEVER known anyone to set boundaries like Hayley does with such assertiveness but kindness BUT, she was once a people pleaser too!

 

> Creating healthy communication in relationships...

SPOILER: Hayley shares 2x epic techniques you can start using in your relationships right now to stop arguing & create healthy communication where you both feel heard

 

P.S You can now watch the episode as a video podcast too!

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In this transformative episode of the F*CK Trauma Podcast, we’re diving into the surprising connection between anxious attachment styles and your relationship with money.Special guest Helena Grace, a renowned money mindset expert, shares her proven strategies to help you remove subconscious money blocks and unlock financial abundance with ease.💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:✔️ How anxious attachment influences your financial habits and self-worth.✔️ Practical mindset shifts to move from scarcity to abundance.✔️ The role of unresolved trauma in shaping your money mindset.✔️ Self-soothing techniques to ease money-related anxiety.✔️ Steps to build a secure, thriving relationship with money.If you’ve struggled with limiting beliefs about money or felt held back by emotional patterns, this episode offers actionable tools to help you heal and grow. Break free from money blocks, rewire your mindset, and step into financial empowerment today.

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If you have an anxious attachment style, you’ve probably found yourself chasing, overgiving, and trying to get someone to change only to feel more drained, more confused, and more disconnected.

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In this episode, I’m showing you how to change the way someone treats you in a relationship without chasing, using the law of assumption and self-concept work.

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Because here’s the truth:You don’t need to have the same conversation over and over again.You don’t need to beg or your needs to be met.And you don’t need to wait for someone else to change.

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👉 You change and the dynamic changes.

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Inside this episode, I break down:

• Why your relationships keep repeating the same patterns

• How your self-concept is shaping how people treat you

• The truth about avoidant behaviour (and what it’s really reflecting)

• How to shift inconsistency, lack of effort, and emotional unavailability

• Why you’re not being prioritised (and how to change that)

• How to stop feeling unsupported in relationships

• The real reason you’re chasing commitment — and how to become chosen instead

• How to stabilise your nervous system so you stop reacting and start creating

• Practical steps to shift your relationship without chasing, begging, or over-explaining

This is the work that changes everything.

When you shift your identity, your beliefs, and your nervous system…people naturally show up differently.

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My program Create Your Secure Relationship shows you exactly how to rewire your self-concept, regulate your nervous system, and shift your relationship dynamic in as little as 8 weeks.

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Includes a pathway specifically for:

• Shifting a current relationship

• Reconnecting with someone from the past

• Attracting a completely new partner

Plus if you join now, you'll get a live group call with me to personalise the work to your situation.

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Anxious attachment can make it feel impossible to reconnect with someone from your past - especially when you’re stuck in no contact, obsessing over what happened, or wondering if your anxiety pushed them away. In this episode, I’m breaking down how to reconnect with someone from your past using the Law of Assumption, self-concept work, nervous system regulation, and my Secure Method approach.

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I share the exact shifts I would make if I wanted to reconnect with someone from the past, including how to change the old story, stop focusing on the 3D, regulate an anxious nervous system, and start embodying the version of you who feels chosen, secure, and deeply loved.

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Inside this episode, we cover:

• how anxious attachment patterns recreate abandonment, ghosting, and inconsistency

• why your self-concept affects how people show up for you

• how the Law of Assumption applies to reconnecting with someone from your past

• why no contact, being blocked, or what they said does not have to be the end

• the role of EFT tapping and nervous system rewiring in manifesting love

• why holding on to the old story keeps people from coming back

• what it really means to “live in the end” when manifesting a relationship

• how to stop chasing, checking, and looking for validation outside of yourself

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If you’ve been asking questions like:
Can I manifest someone back?
Can I reconnect with someone from my past?
How do I use the Law of Assumption when I have anxious attachment?
How do I stop abandonment patterns from repeating in love?

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This episode is for you.

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If you want to go deeper, my programme Create Your Secure Relationship is designed to help you rewire anxious survival patterns, shift your self-concept, and apply this work to one of three outcomes: reconnect with someone from your past, attract a new secure relationship, or transform your current relationship.

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Listen now if you’re ready to stop repeating the same painful cycle in love and start becoming secure, chosen, and deeply loved from the inside out.

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If you struggle with anxious attachment and relationships that feel like a rollercoaster… this episode will change EVERYTHING.
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Because no matter how hard you try, you can only attract what you believe you deserve and the Law of Assumption shows you exactly how to shift that.

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In this episode, I’m breaking down how your assumptions about love, connection, and self-worth create the relationship dynamics you keep ending up in - even the ones you hate.
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I’ll share the exact mindset and healing shifts that helped me go from anxious and overlooked… to engaged to a secure, loving partner.

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You’ll learn:✨ What the Law of Assumption actually is (beyond the “think positive” stuff)
.✨ How your subconscious beliefs are choosing partners for you
.✨ Why avoidants and pullbacks keep showing up (it’s not your fault)
.✨ How to reprogram your self-concept so secure love becomes your new normal
.✨ The exact approach I’ve used with clients to transform their relationship patterns

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This isn’t spiritual bypassing.
.This is trauma-informed manifestation - for people who grew up in survival mode.

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You are not at the mercy of old patterns or past.
.You can change your assumptions…
.and your entire relationship reality will change with them.

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Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live.

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Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns. 

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Have you ever noticed that every time you get closer to someone, emotionally or physically - they suddenly pull back?

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If you have an anxious attachment style, it can feel like a nightmare. You start wondering: Did I do something wrong? Were they just avoidant? Did I scare them off?

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In this episode, I’m breaking down the truth about why they pull back after intimacy - and how this pattern has nothing to do with them and everything to do with you, but not in the way you think.

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You’ll learn:
✨ What’s really happening when avoidants distance after intimacy
✨ How your inner state creates that push-pull dynamic
✨ Why anxious attachment gets triggered when things feel good
✨ The mindset shift that stops the cycle - so intimacy brings you closer, not apart

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This one’s raw, honest, and deeply freeing - because once you see that you hold the power to change it, you’ll never fear vulnerability again.

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Want to go deeper? My masterclass Stop Attracting Avoidants is now live.

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Break the cycle of chasing avoidant, emotionally unavailable love and become the secure version of you who only creates consistent, available relationships.
This masterclass works whether single or in a relationship to stop avoidant patterns. 

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If you live with anxious attachment, you might think anxiety only shows up in toxic relationships - but it can sabotage healthy love too.

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In this episode, I’m sharing three real moments when my own anxiety tried to push away the secure relationship I’d worked so hard to manifest.

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You’ll learn:
✨ Why certainty and consistency from a partner can actually feel unsafe to an anxious nervous system
.✨ How hyper-independence and fear of losing control can push them away when things get serious
.✨ Why big milestones (moving in, proposals, marriage) can trigger past trauma and make you want to run - even when love is good
.✨ Practical ways to regulate your nervous system, change the story in your head, and stop sabotaging the healthy love you deserve

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If you’re tired of overthinking, pushing good partners away, or testing people to see if they’ll stay - this episode will help you feel safe to receive love without losing yourself.

Want to go deeper?My masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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Struggling with anxious attachment and tired of avoidants pulling away?

This episode is not what you think. And it’s exactly what you need to hear.

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If you’ve ever spiralled after being ghosted, obsessed over why they suddenly pulled away, or questioned whether you’re too much, this is your wake-up call.

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But be warned:This isn’t the same surface-level advice telling you to “just act cool” or “don’t double text.”

.This is the truth that will set you free.

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In this raw, no-BS episode, I reveal 7 tough truths about avoidants that most people will never tell you - because they haven’t lived it, or they’re still stuck in the same patterns.

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Inside this episode:

• The real reason they pulled away (and how your energy shifted first)

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• Why it’s not about them abandoning you - it’s about you abandoning yourself

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• How anxious attachment manifests as self-rejection, not just “neediness”

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• Why even when you stop texting… you might still be energetically chasing

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• What it actually takes to stop attracting avoidants - for good

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Want to go deeper?My masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing, “Will they come back?” after someone pulled away, ghosted, or ended things - this episode is for you.

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When you have an anxious attachment style, the loss feels unbearable. You replay every text, every moment, and convince yourself that if they came back, it would finally prove you’re wanted, chosen, and enough.

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But here’s the truth: chasing them only pushes them further away. In this episode, I share why your anxious patterns are manifesting abandonment, why no-contact rules and text tricks don’t work, and how to shift your self-concept and energy so that love - whether with them or someone better — has no choice but to come back to you.

Inside, you’ll learn:
★ Why anxious attachment makes you feel so desperate when they leave

★ The real reason chasing, texting, and overthinking never works

★ How to stop obsessing over them and rewire your self-concept

★ Why changing your energy makes love reflect back to you differently

★ How to embody being chosen, secure, and unforgettable

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Want to go deeper?My brand new masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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⁠Click here to join Stop Them Pulling Away now⁠

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If you have an anxious attachment style and keep finding yourself stuck in painful push-pull dynamics, this episode is going to shift everything.

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You keep asking, “Why do they always pull away just when things are going well?”
.And the internet keeps telling you “They’re just avoidant.”
.But in today’s episode, I’m giving you the real reason they pull away and it’s not what you’ve been told.

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I’m walking you through:✨ The micromoment where your anxious energy subtly changes—and starts pushing them away
.✨ Why your nervous system is expecting abandonment (and how that expectation gets reflected back)
.✨ The reason love feels easy with people you don’t like, but chaotic with the ones you do
.✨ The subconscious identity that’s keeping you stuck in hot-and-cold relationships
.✨ How to stop abandoning yourself—so they stop abandoning you

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We’re not blaming them. We’re not blaming you. We’re taking your power back.
.And if you’re ready to finally end the cycle of people pulling away, this episode is your wake-up call.

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Want to go deeper?
My brand new masterclass Stop Them Pulling Away is now live.

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You’ll learn exactly how to shift the anxious energy that’s subtly pushing people away, so you feel secure, wanted, and deeply met in love.

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This is a special bonus guided tapping session from my full conversation with Brad Yates (Episode 42).

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In this 10-minute video session, Brad leads us through tapping for:
.✨ Calming anxiety in love and relationships
✨ Releasing fear and overthinking
✨ Reconnecting with self-worth and peace

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For best results, use this tapping everyday for 21-30days for deep transformation.

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If you’re listening on Spotify, you can watch the full video here in the app.
.If you’re listening on Apple or another platform, this will play in audio - but if you’d like to watch and tap along, head to YouTube

For the full interview with Brad, go back to Episode 42.

Why do we keep sabotaging the very things we want most — love, success, money, and happiness?

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In this powerful episode of the F*CK TRAUMA podcast, I sit down with the legendary Brad Yates, the creator of over 1,600 tapping videos that have helped millions clear anxiety, fear, and self-doubt.

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Together, we dive deep into:💜 Why self-sabotage is actually misguided self-love
💜 How anxiety in love is your nervous system trying to protect you
.💜 The hidden ways fear blocks you from money, success, and being seen
.💜 The truth about self-worth (and why you’re already enough)
.💜 Why resistance shows up right before your biggest breakthroughs

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Plus - Brad guides us through a live tapping session for love and anxiety that you can join in real time. (If you can, watch this one on video to tap along with us!)

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This is more than a conversation about EFT. It’s a conversation about freedom, self-love, and reclaiming the life you deserve.

Connect with Brad Yates

Youtube: TAP WITH BRAD

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Try Brad's FREE: Tap Into Best Self Program

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In this deeply personal episode, I share the real story of how I went from anxious attachment and relationship anxiety to creating the secure, committed partnership I had always dreamed of.

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It’s a love story that starts with my beautiful cat, Bleu, and ends with meeting my partner - but more importantly, it’s a roadmap for how you can call in a healthy, lasting relationship without games, anxiety, or chasing.

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Inside, I share the three exact shifts I made and the practical tips, questions, and exercises you can use too to finally feel safe to love, be loved, and keep the healthy love you create.

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If you’ve been stuck attracting emotionally unavailable partners, overthinking every text, or wondering why “love” feels so unstable for you - this episode will help you change the patterns for good.

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This is Episode 4 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on the other episodes to get the full experience.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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If you're tired of chasing love, overgiving in relationships, or settling for breadcrumbs - this episode is for you.

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In this episode, Candice dives deep into the real reason you feel stuck in love: low self-worth.

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You’ll learn:

✨ The sneaky signs you have a self-worth wound (you might not even realise it)
.✨ Why your relationships mirror what you believe you deserve
.✨ How the “fixer identity” keeps you manifesting people to fix
.✨ The #1 belief anxious attachers must shift to stop chasing love
.✨ 4 powerful ways to rebuild your self-worth from the inside out

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If you constantly feel too much or not enough, struggle to set boundaries, or stay in situations hoping to be chosen - this episode will open your eyes and give you practical steps to shift.

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Because when you believe you're worthy, everything changes - and love finally feels secure.

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Join the WORTH AS F*CK workshop to fully rewire your self-worth & become magnetic in love.

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💥 This is Episode 3 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on episode 1 & 2 if you haven't already.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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If you have anxious attachment and you’re trying to manifest love, this episode will explain exactly why it can feel harder for you - especially when using the Law of Assumption.

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You’ve been told to “just assume you have it.”

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To “live in the end.”

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To “stop checking the 3D.”

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But when you’re in no contact… when you’re trying to manifest your SP back… when you’re shifting a current relationship… or when you’ve never experienced healthy love before - it doesn’t feel simple.

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In this episode, I break down:

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• Why anxious attachment makes it harder to stay in the state of the wish fulfilled.

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• How hypervigilance and checking the 3D delays your manifestation.

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• Why your nervous system is wired for loss (and how that affects manifesting an ex back or new love).

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• The real meaning of “feeling is the secret”.

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• How self-concept and safety within yourself changes everything

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I share my own journey from severe anxious attachment to manifesting my fiancé, shifting past relationships, and helping clients reconnect with someone from the past, attract secure love, or transform their current dynamic...

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If you’ve been doing the affirmations, the techniques, the Law of Assumption work - but still feel anxious, triggered, or stuck - this will give you the clarity you’ve been missing.

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You’re not failing at manifestation.You just need it explained in a way that understands your nervous system.

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And if this resonates, join my free 7-day series: Seven Manifestation Mistakes Anxious Attachment Makes When Manifesting Love - where I break down the patterns that could be blocking you without you even realising.

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What if I told you your breakup wasn’t random… you manifested it?

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In this vulnerable (and wildly eye-opening) episode, I share the story I’ve never told publicly before - the exact moment I realised I had manifested my own heartbreak… word. for. word.

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And how it taught me the truth about anxious attachment, self-concept, and why you keep attracting people who can’t choose you.

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And before you panic - this isn’t a “it’s your fault” kind of story.

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This is a “your trauma has been scripting your love life and no one told you” story.

I’ll walk you through:
✨ How your self-concept is shaping your relationships
✨ Why ghosting, breadcrumbs, and rejection aren’t coincidences
✨ The moment I flipped my story—and manifested my dream relationship instead

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If you’re tired of heartbreak, patterns, and being “too much” for love - this is for you.

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💥 This is Episode 2 of the Your Secure Era series - catch up on episode 1 if you haven't already. coming up next: why self-worth is everything, and the real story behind manifesting secure love.

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FREE MASTERCLASS: Becoming Secure You

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→ Learn your exact chasing archetype & the root of your anxious patterns

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→ Includes my signature inner child healing + secure self tapping method

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