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Kat and Alex look at a question from Explore More Intimacy:

“I don’t really feel anything during sex with my partner — is there something wrong with me?”

In this Quick Question, we talk about how personal sexual sensation can be, and how to approach the conversation with curiosity rather than blame or pressure.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just one real question, answered with care.

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Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

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Website: alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex answer three real questions from the Explore More Intimacy community:

• Why does my boyfriend take so long to finish — and does it mean I’m doing something wrong?
• I really like being spanked. Why do I enjoy it, and how do I tell a new partner I want it?
• I’m in a long-distance relationship. How do we keep the sexual intensity and connection alive when we’re apart?

A relaxed, honest conversation about delayed ejaculation, performance pressure, sensation and arousal, spanking, trust, consent, long-distance intimacy, anticipation, communication and keeping connection alive between visits.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

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Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: Alex Gear

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex look at one of the questions from Explore More Intimacy:

I know she likes oral. How can I get better?

In this Quick Question, we talk about taking the pressure off the finish, slowing things down, building arousal and paying attention to what she responds to.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just one real question, answered properly.

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy.podcast

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Website: Explore More Intimacy

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Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex answer a quick question from the Explore More Intimacy community:

“What’s the difference between a kink and a fetish?”

A short, relaxed conversation about what each term means, where they overlap, and why having a particular turn-on doesn’t automatically mean anything is wrong or unusual.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: Explore More Intimacy

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Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: Alex Gear

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex look at one of the questions from Explore More Intimacy:

Why can’t I orgasm with my partner?

In this Quick Question, we talk about why pleasure can feel different with a partner, even when you know what works for you on your own. We explore how pressure, feeling watched and trying to reach a goal can make it harder to stay with what feels good.

We also talk about sharing what you enjoy with your partner and finding a pace that gives you both room to explore.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just one real question, answered properly.

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy.podcast

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Website: Explore More Intimacy

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Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex answer three real questions from the Explore More Intimacy community:

• I know she enjoys oral sex, but I’m not helping her reach orgasm. How can I get better at it?
• Sex still hurts most of the time, even though I’ve had it medically checked. What can I do?
• I’ve always masturbated the same way and I get frustrated when I try to change it. Where do I even start?

A relaxed, honest conversation about oral pleasure, taking pressure off orgasm, painful sex, vaginismus, body tension, comfort, mindful masturbation and changing long-standing pleasure habits.

In Question 2, Kat also mentions Nuri by Tabu, a warming internal wand / dilator-style support tool discussed as an option for gentle internal exploration and comfort.

Nuri by Tabu

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

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Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: Alex Gear

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex look at one of the questions from Explore More Intimacy:

Lasting longer — what techniques actually work?

In this Quick Question, we talk about noticing when you’re getting close, changing pace, taking a pause and using your breath to stay present.

We also look at why trying to “last longer” can create pressure, and how to make room for pleasure and connection without watching the clock.

A relaxed, honest conversation about timing, pressure and finding what works for you.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just one real question, answered properly.

Send us a DM on Instagram — your question can stay anonymous.

Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy.podcast

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

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Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex answer three real questions from the Explore More Intimacy community:

• I don’t really feel anything during sex with my partner — is there something wrong with me?
• I fantasise about other people who aren’t my husband — does that mean something is wrong with my relationship?
• The guy I’m seeing loses his erection during sex — what does that mean?

A relaxed, honest conversation about sensation during sex, fantasy in long-term relationships, erection changes, and the worries we can attach to all three.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

Got a question for a future episode?

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex answer three real questions from the Explore More Intimacy community:

• How can I make her feel safe during sex when she’s worried about how she looks?
• We always do the same position — what can we try to make things more exciting?
• Lasting longer — what techniques actually work?

A relaxed, honest conversation about feeling safe and confident during intimacy, bringing more variety into the bedroom, and practical ways to build more control when it comes to lasting longer.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

Got a question for a future episode?

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex revisit one of the questions from Explore More Intimacy:

Should I Be Upset My Partner Watches Porn?

A relaxed, honest conversation about porn in relationships, trust, boundaries, attraction and when it may — or may not — become a problem.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just one real question, answered properly.

Got a question for a future episode?

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy.podcast

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Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex look at one of the questions from Explore More Intimacy:

If his erection softens, does that mean something is wrong?

In this Quick Question, we talk about why erections naturally ebb and flow, why a softer penis can still experience pleasure, and how quickly pressure can pull someone out of sensation and into their head.

We also look at what a partner can do in the moment — without panicking, making it awkward or turning the erection into the focus.

A relaxed, honest conversation about erections, pleasure, pressure and connection.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just one real question, answered properly.

Send us a DM on Instagram — your question can stay anonymous.

Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy.podcast

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex answer three real questions from the Explore More Intimacy community:

• What’s the difference between a kink and a fetish?
• I’ve just started seeing someone I really like and we’ve got loads of chemistry — can having sex too soon ruin it?
• My libido feels really flat at the moment — is there anything I can actually do?

A relaxed, honest conversation about sexual curiosity, new relationships, timing, desire and what can affect libido when it suddenly feels lower than usual.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

Got a question for a future episode?

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

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Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex revisit one of the questions from Explore More Intimacy:

Would you swallow?

This time, we put the question to YOU — and the answers weren’t quite what we expected.

A relaxed, honest conversation about preferences, pressure, boundaries and why there’s no one “right” answer when it comes to intimacy.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just one real question, answered properly.

Got a question for a future Quick Question?

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy.podcast

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex revisit one of the questions from Episode 2 of Explore More Intimacy:

Why do I feel nervous every time we have sex?

A relaxed, honest conversation about sexual anxiety, pressure, confidence and what can help you feel more comfortable and present during intimacy.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just one real question, answered properly.

Got a question for a future Quick Question?

Send us a DM on Instagram — your question can stay anonymous.

Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy.podcast

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex answer three real questions from the Explore More Intimacy community:

• My boyfriend says I’m boring if I don’t swallow — am I?
• I want to bring a vibrator into bed, but I’m worried how my partner will react.
• Does everyone just want casual hookups? Where do I actually meet someone who wants more?

A relaxed, honest conversation about sexual pressure, introducing something new into intimacy, dating, connection and what we actually want from relationships.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

Got a question for a future episode?

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

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Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex revisit one of the most-listened-to questions from Explore More Intimacy:

Does penis size really matter?

A relaxed, honest conversation about confidence, pressure, pleasure and what actually matters when it comes to intimacy.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just one real question, answered properly.

Got a question for a future Quick Question?

Send us a DM on Instagram — your question can stay anonymous.

Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacypodcast

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex answer three more real questions from the Explore More Intimacy community:

• Should I be worried that my boyfriend watches porn?
• I’m tired of always being the one who initiates — what do I do?
• Why do I feel nervous every time we have sex?

A relaxed, honest conversation about porn in relationships, the pressure of always being the one to initiate intimacy, sexual anxiety and what can help create more confidence and connection.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

Got a question for a future episode?

Send us a DM on Instagram — your question can stay anonymous.

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Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

A bonus follow-on conversation with Kat and Alex, answering three more real questions around intimacy, desire and connection.

In this episode, they explore:

• Can you naturally increase testosterone?

• What happens when one partner is more adventurous than the other?

• How do you reignite intimacy when things have gone a little flat?

A relaxed, honest conversation about desire, confidence, mismatched wants and finding your way back to each other.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

Kat — Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exploremoreintimacy_

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/exploremoreintimacy

Alex Gear — Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

A bonus conversation with Alex Gear on performance anxiety, confidence and what really happens when pressure gets in the way of pleasure.

Before Kat and Alex started recording Explore More Intimacy together, Alex joined Kat as a guest for an honest conversation about performance anxiety.

They explore:

• What performance anxiety actually is

• Why it can affect erections and ejaculation

• How pressure and overthinking can disconnect you from your body

• Why lasting longer isn’t always the answer

• What can help you feel more relaxed, present and confident during intimacy

A relaxed, honest conversation about performance, pressure, confidence and why sometimes trying so hard to “get it right” is exactly what gets in the way.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real conversation.

Kat — Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exploremoreintimacy_

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/exploremoreintimacy

Alex Gear — Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.

Kat and Alex answer three real questions from the Explore More Intimacy community:

• Does penis size really matter?
• Why can’t I orgasm with my partner?
• Do we actually need to be sexually compatible?

A relaxed, honest conversation about confidence, pleasure, communication and what really matters when it comes to intimacy.

No judgement. No awkwardness. Just real questions and real conversation.

Got a question for a future episode?

Send us a DM on Instagram — your question can stay anonymous.

Explore More Intimacy Podcast

Kat – Explore More Intimacy

Instagram: @exploremoreintimacy

Website: https://www.exploremoreintimacy.com

Patreon: Explore More Intimacy Members

Alex Gear – Intimacy Anxiety Coach

Instagram: @intimacyanxietyalex

Website: https://www.alex-gear.com

For educational and conversational purposes only. This podcast is not a substitute for individual medical, psychological or professional advice.