In today’s conversation we discuss whether men deserve a voice, sensitive men, rolemodels, social media and the influence of the manosphere, how to bring men into the conversation, how men can advocate for men’s issues and hold feminist ideals in tandem, the importance of men expressing affection, the role of a competitive nature in masculinity, why every man must own a lamp, how Liam’s masculinity impacts on his metamour relationships, and Liam and I have a bust-up that is mediated by James over how Liam makes my tea…

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In today’s episode we discuss one of our favourite New York experiences… a photoshoot that was impossible to forget… on the Brooklyn Bridge with Kenn Lichtenwalter.

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Laura Boyle is an educator, podcast host of “Ready for Polyamory” and author of the book “Monogamy in this Economy?” You may have seen this book recently featured in the New York Times Article titled “6 Books About Non-Monogamy, Recommended By Therapists”.

In today’s conversation we discuss common polyamorous living arrangements, Conflict resolution tools, blended families, the rental market for polyamorous people, parent teacher interviews when polyamorous, de-escalating relationships and so much more.

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Abbey and Liam discuss red flags in non-monogamy, before the episode takes an unexpected turn...

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Together for fifteen years and parents to three children, Andrew and Christina’s relationship is a wonderful example of consciously choosing monogamy.

In this conversation we cover the role of independence in romantic relationships, exploring compersion in a monogamous context, maintaining the erotic connection over time, what constitutes an infidelity in their relationship, flirting, honesty and trust, what monogamous couples and non-monogamous couples can teach each other and so much more.

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In today’s episode we discuss our first play party experience in New York, eating sushi off naked bodies, human candelabras, play party nerves, etiquette of group play environments and so much more…

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In today’s episode we discuss things we wish we knew before opening up our relationships. We cover managing the misconceptions of others, savoring the first experiences, triggers in solo dating, planning and preparation before opening up, the non-monogamy escalator and so much more.

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In today’s episode we chat with Emma and Fin from the “Normalising Non-Monogamy” podcast. 

We discuss the common denominators in successful non-monogamous relationships, building community and support networks, their opening up journey, exploring the importance of self and the individual, the role of kindness in non-monogamy, mistakes and growth, their OCD and ADHD diagnoses, the importance of living an examined life, opening your relationship together or separately and so much more.

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In today’s episode we wade into pop culture to discuss Dave Grohl and his recent public statement….

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Women's Retreat - 25th-27th October 2024

In today’s episode we discuss our non-monogamy before and after parenthood, feeling protective during pregnancy, maintaining our erotic connection through the early stages of parenthood, the freedom of exploring before parenthood and so much more.

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In today’s Premium episode we discuss “negging” as a form of relating, privacy and dating, the responsibility of vouching for lovers, safety for unicorns, ethics of unicorn hunting, “Dragons”, “Bulls” and so much more!

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Kathy Labriola is an author, nurse, counsellor, and hypnotherapist. Kathy is author of four books on consensual nonmonogamy: The Jealousy Workbook, Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, The Polyamory Break-up Book, and Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships. 

She has also provided affordable mental health services to alternative communities for the past 30 years. Kathy has been polyamorous for over 50 years and lives with her two husbands in Berkeley, California.

In today’s episode we discuss the importance of intergenerational conversation, whether she still struggles with particular emotions after 5 decades of polyamory, stigma against polyamorous grandparents, sex as an aging person, developing your own code of ethics, non-monogamy as an orientation, class and non-monogamy, advice for younger non-monogamous people, polyamorous elders and so much more.

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Today we're diving headfirst into the taboo world of cuckolding with Shy.

We'll be exploring the psychological and emotional complexities of this relationship dynamic through an intimate interview with Shy - a ‘cuckoldress” who is in a 24-7 cuckolding dynamic.

Get ready for an honest and insightful conversation that may challenge your understanding of love, sexuality, and the boundaries of relationships.

Shy is also a passionate relationship and intimacy coach specialising in open relating and kink.

In this episode we cover what cuckolding actually is, common misconceptions, the ideal cuck, chastity cages, female led relationships, communication and kink, common mistakes in cuckolding, how to share deep fantasies and kinks with your partner, the distinctions between hotwifing and cuckolding, and so much more…

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In today’s Premium episode, we discuss our recent creative adventures, erotic texting, an evening of life modelling and much more!

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Today’s episode features Jase, Emily and Dedeker from the renowned Multiamory podcast. With hundreds of episodes, millions of downloads around the world, and a thriving community Multiamory has been featured in numerous publications, including NPR, Vice, Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, and Elle.

In today’s episode we discuss Emily’s recent transition back to non-monogamy from a long term monogamous relationship, the history of Dedeker, Jase and Emily’s own romantic relationship, connections between creativity and non-monogamy, links between communication styles and music, how the success of Multiamory has impacted their own personal dating lives, Jase and Dedeker finding non-monogamous community in Japan, and so much more. 

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Dedeker’s Coaching

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In today’s episode we share our debut live show on the 26th July 2024 at the National Film and Sound Archives of Australia.

We field questions from the audience and guests Molly Roden Winter, Marie Thouin, Lawrence (Our Secret Spot) & Fernanda (Polycurious Podcast)

It was an evening full of vulnerability, laughter & raucous conversations.

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Marie Thouin

Fernanda (Polycurious)

Lawrence (Our Secret Spot)

Dr. Marie Thouin is a leading expert and scholar on compersion in consensual non-monogamy. She has authored two pioneering research studies, the first-ever encyclopedia entry on compersion, and has recently authored the first-ever scholarly book on compersion “What is Compersion?

Wether you are new to the concept of compersion or well versed, this conversation has something for everyone and raises some interesting questions and food for thought along the way. In this episode we discuss “What is Compersion?”, perceived and real fears, do we really need compersion?, is compersion selfish, reciprocal altruism and kin altruism, can you learn compersion, Liam proposes a new scientific study that involves refractory periods and compersive behaviours, Liam and I unpack our own experiences and so much more…

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"What is Compersion?" Book

Website

Instagram

On this weeks Premium Episode, Abbey reflects on her recent Salsa dancing night, drawing parallels between the world of dance and non-monogamy. Dancer Daddies, power dynamics, vulnerability, a dance with a lover and so much more…

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Alex Alberto is a queer and polyamorous storyteller and educator. They grew up in Montreal and currently live in upstate New York. Alex is the author of the genre-blending memoir, Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. They co-founded Quilted Press, a collective of independent authors who reshape traditional narratives of love, family, and identity. You can connect with Alex on Instagram and TikTok (@thatalexalberto), and learn more about their work at alexalberto.com 

In today’s discussion with Alex we talk intimately about Alex’s journey with identity, their upstate NY polycule, weaponizing metamour relationships, their journey into parenthood Alex’s unique and special bond with their partner Don, the concept of feeling “de-countried”, growing up French speaking and how it impacted their gender identity and the powerful Thanksgiving story of coming out as polyamorous to Don’s parents.

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In todays episode we answer your “Would You Rather” questions that were submitted on Instagram.

* “Be monogamous for the rest of your life or have to eat a bowl of worms every morning?”

* “You never date someone again…. or Liam never date someone again?”

* “Date someone with a hot body or a great personality?”

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Casey Calvert is an award-winning Adult director, writer, performer, and content creator.  An eleven-year veteran of the industry, she won Director of the Year and Best Screenplay at the 2023 XBiz Awards - the "Golden Globes" of porn.

In today’s wide ranging conversation we discuss Casey’s own journey in non-monogamy and polyamory, porn stars’ approaches to monogamy, parasocial relationships, dating as a famous adult actress, the recent shifts in her marriage and the process of disentanglement, directing realistic porn, controversy with the title “Primary”, expressing eroticism in her personal life and so much more.

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In todays Premium “Ask Us Anything” episode we answer your questions and discuss Hillsong, “The Idea of You” and so much more.

Questions include:

* “Does it ever get tiring making the ENM thing your whole world?”

* “Do you actively look for people to connect with, or does it happen organically?”

* “How do you communicate you want more than friends with benefits?”

* “How do you and Liam get back into dating other people, after you have had a break from it?

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In todays episode we take the Love Languages Test LIVE on the podcast and discuss the questions and our answers in real time…

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In today’s episode we share about what has been happening for us recently. It is a different kind of episode, with a tone that is different to our usual discussions. This conversation covers how we approach conflict, the importance of space, external stresses on the relationship, communication styles and so much more*.

*We also manage to pivot the conversation at the end away from the heaviness and turn our attention to our obsession with F1 & Drive to Survive.

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To celebrate the re-release of her cult classic Queer novel, “WOMEN”, we are overjoyed to be joined by writer Chloe Caldwell.

Named one of Cosmopolitan UK's Best Erotic Novels of All Time, WOMEN intimately explores one young writer’s whirlwind and whiplash affair as she falls deeply in love with a woman for the first time.

In WOMEN, Caldwell lays bare the fierce obsession of addictive love, and asks the question: what, if anything, can who we love teach us about who we are?

Chloe’s essays have appeared in the New York Times, Vice, New York Magazine’s “The Cut”, Nylon and more.

Originally published by Short Flight/Long Drive books in 2015 on a limited print run, WOMEN quickly found a wide and dedicated audience. Emily Ratajkowski and Lena Dunham have cited it as one of their favorite books of all time, and Cheryl Strayed has called the book “magic.”

In this discussion we discuss Chloes own experiences with non-monogamy, Chloe navigating her Queer identity, pre menstrual dysphoric disorder, power play and dynamics and so much more…

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https://www.chloesimonne.com/

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Extra Resources:

Menstruality Podcast ft. Chloe Caldwell

https://www.redschool.net/podcast/32

Couplets: A Love Story

https://www.maggiemillner.com/

Dr. Eli Sheff is one of a handful of global academic experts on polyamory, and the foremost academic expert on children in polyamorous families. Specializing in diversity and underserved populations, Sheff is an expert witness, relationship consultant, public speaker, and author.

Her first book,  The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families was released in 2014 and details Sheff’s findings from the first 15 years of the Polyamorous Families Study. Stories from the Polycule: Real Life in Polyamorous Families (2015), Sheff’s second book, is an edited collection of stories from people in polyamorous families. Sheff’s third book, When Someone you Love is Polyamorous: Understanding Poly People and Relationships, is a brief introduction to polyamory using empirical evidence to start a conversation.

Dr. Sheff has given scores of radio, podcast, print, and television interviews with sources from The New York Times,  ABC News and CNN to The Atlantic, New York and Shape magazines.

You can find Dr. Sheff’s work here:

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https://elisabethsheff.com/

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On today’s Premium Video episode, Abbey and Liam reflect on Ashley Madison, the ethics of cheating, what constitutes infidelity in a non-monogamous relationship & more.

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To celebrate the Australian release of her New York Time’s Best Selling Memoir “More”, we are joined once again by Molly Roden Winter. With her today, we also have the fortune of being able to speak with her husband Stewart!

Since Molly joined us on Episode 23 of the Evolving Love podcast, she has quickly become a leading voice in non-monogamous discourse. “More” and Molly have appeared everywhere from the New York Times, Time Magazine, Savage Lovecast, The Washington Post, Wall St Journal and The Guardian.

As you will hear from this candid and at times raucous interview, Molly and Stewart have a remarkable connection and ability to deeply interrogate the way they move through the world.

We discuss parenting, the mixed receptions to the book, privilege, humour & sex, and Stewart and Liam’s upcoming polyamorous music soundtrack collab.

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On today’s Premium Video episode Abbey and Liam reflect on New Relationship Energy, Erotica, relationship gratitude and so much more.

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Lina Dune is a 24/7 collared submissive, kink writer, podcast host and a fairy sub-mother to all who seek her advice.

She is the voice, writer, and Meme-Queen behind the wildly popular “Ask A Sub” - an online platform and community that explores mindful and consensual kink.

In this conversation we talk about her journey into Kink, Subspace, fake doms, red flags, unicorn hunting, couples privilege, the balance of feminist principles and submission, heteronormative scripts, the shame voice and so much more.

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Website:

https://www.askasub.com/

Podcast:

Ask A Sub

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https://www.instagram.com/askasub2.0

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https://twitter.com/AskASub

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On today’s Premium episode Abbey and Liam asked for anonymous questions to be submitted on Instagram.

Question topics include non-monogamy and parenting, partners and vetoes, balancing different desires within the relationship, advice for broaching non-monogamy with a partner, therapy and more.

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Andrew Gurza is an award winning Disability Awareness Consultant whose written work has been featured on BBC, CBC, Daily Xtra, Gay Times UK & Huffington Post

As a host, Andrew presents the award winning “Disability After Dark” which shines a light on Disability stories and sexuality. He was nominated for a Canadian Podcast Award, a Queerty Award and was chosen as an honouree at the 2020 Webby Awards.

Andrew has appeared on Dan Savage’s Savage Love and Cameron Esposito’s Queery. He has spoken all over the world on sex, disability and what it means to be Queer and Disabled.

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Website:

https://www.andrewgurza.com/

Podcast:

Disability After Dark

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/andrewgurza6

Twitter:

https://twitter.com/andrewgurza6

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https://www.patreon.com/disabilityafterdark

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On today’s Premium episode Abbey and Liam reflect on their nine year wedding anniversary, the emergence of “podcast bros”, the concept of “body counts” and more!

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In today’s episode we talk with Tyson Yunkaporta. Tyson is an Indigenous scholar who belongs to the Apalech Clan from Far North Queensland.  He is the founder of the Indigenous Knowledge Systems Lab at Deakin University in Melbourne, and author of the acclaimed book “Sand Talk – How Indigenous Thinking Can Save The World”, and most recently “Right Story, Wrong Story”. His work focuses on applying Indigenous methods of inquiry to resolve complex issues and explore global crises.

Our conversation with Tyson is a wide ranging journey and flows in many different directions. We talk about the relationship structures of Indigenous communities, his honest reflections and critiques on his own award- winning books. He also shares personal reflections on his own relations hip structure, age gaps within relationships and power dynamics, and much more.

You can buy Tyson’s books at this link below:

Right Story, Wrong Story

https://www.textpublishing.com.au/books/right-story-wrong-story-adventures-in-indigenous-thinking

Sand Talk

https://www.textpublishing.com.au/books/sand-talk

Today we are joined by Kate Gordon. Kate competed at the Cross Fit Games in 2015 and 2019 and has since become a certified Cross fit trainer and certified nutrition coach. In 2021 she started CFK nutrition and also hosts two podcasts - Gone Rogue which explores her journey in non-monogamy, and the CFK nutrition podcast.

In this discussion we discuss the impact of Kate’s Crossfit journey on body image, shifting perspectives on fitness and aesthetics, influences of external relationships on body perception, finding lifestyle compatibilities with future partners, body acceptance at sex parties, social media, self-acceptance and so much more.

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Website

Athlete Instagram

Nutrition Instagram

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On today’s Premium episode Abbey and Liam discuss whether non-monogamy is “hard work”, open phone policies and secrative monogamous behaviours, Abbey accepting a role starring opposite Theo James, Liam touring with Emily Ratajkowski, and much more!

Kyron Kruger is a fetish model and kinkster. He is known widely for his creative work that explores latex fetish wear, and he is seen collaborating with Australia’s best photographers & creatives.

In this episode we talk to Kyron about how he found his way into the world of BDSM, his ability to honour his fetishes alongside his masculinity, assumed compatibilities, the future of the sex industry and AI, the economics of being a creative in the sex industry, and so much more.

You can find Kyron’s work here:

Instagram: @King_kruger_

On today’s Premium episode Abbey and Liam discuss the story featured in Abbey’s most recent article.

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In this episode we talk with Intimacy Coordinator Elle McAlpine.

Elle is fresh from working on the 11 x Oscar-nominated film “Poor Things” which stars Emma Stone in the leading role. We discuss how she became an intimacy coordinator, all things consent, boundaries and holding space for actors, cast and crew on Movie and Television sets.

You can find out more about Elle’s work at:

https://www.ekintimacy.com/

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On today’s Premium episode we asked the Evolving Love Project community to submit anonymous questions to Instagram.

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In this episode we talk with New York Times Best-Selling Author Dr. Christopher Ryan.

We discuss "Sex at Dawn", "Civilized To Death", psychedelics, the current state of Polyamorous discourse, Ryan's appearance on Australian TV & being invited to the 100th Birthday of the creator of LSD.

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https://chrisryan.substack.com/

https://chrisryanphd.com/

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In this episode we discuss Evolving Love Project, reminisce and look ahead to the exciting things on the horizon for Evolving Love.

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On today’s Premium episode we recount one of our wildest stories from our journey in non-monogamy.

A wild adventure of catfishing, travels, trust and non-monogamy.

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In this episode we talk with New York Times Best-Selling Author Molly Roden Winter

We cover a wide range of topics including non-monogamy and motherhood, writing her acclaimed polyamorous memoir “More”, “stealthing”, Ashley Madison and so much “More”…

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On today’s Premium episode we play a game, drawing inspiration from the New York Times article “36 Questions That Lead To Love”.

Will we fall deeper and more madly in love? What does the perfect non-monogamous day look like? Who is Abbey’s dream Scientist dinner date? Listen and find out!

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We handpicked some of our 2024 guest highlights to round out a big year for 2024 and Evolving Love.

This episode features Andrew Gurza, Chris Ryan , Alex Alberto , Molly Roden Winter , Lina Dune , Multiamory, Dr. Constantine R. Campbell, Casey Calvert, Kyron Kruger & Normalizing Non-Monogamy.

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Andrew Gurza

Chris Ryan

Alex Alberto

Molly Roden Winter

Lina Dune

Multiamory

Dr. Constantine R Campbell

Casey Calvert

Kyron Kruger

Normalizing Non-Monogamy

“Can you be a Christian and also be Non-Monogamous?”

In this episode we talk with Biblical Scholar Dr. Constantine R. Campbell.

We cover a wide range of topics including Non-Monogamy & The Bible, sin and morality, moving away from Evangelical Christianity & Christian hedonism.

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On today’s Premium episode we discuss Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) and how it shows up in our Non-Monogamy and relationship. We share about our frustrations when compersion is absent and discuss how we navigate the tensions that arise.

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On today’s episode we plot, scheme, dream what Non-Monogamy will look like for us in 2024. We discuss Poly cheerleaders, the taboo of infidelity in Non-Monogamy, the joys of dating Non-Monogamous mothers, online dating, reconnecting with old flames and more!

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On today’s episode we discuss our recent appearance on national television in Australia. We talk about the process of filming our short documentary for Channel 10's "The Project", and unpack the reactions and comments that we have received since the show aired.

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