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I often do this podcast with the hope that my stories, rantings, ramblings, and ravings are relatable to others and help them navigate the lifestyle. But the two topics I discuss today left me with more questions than answers.

- Are Eva and I at fault for a miscommunication involving a couple we hoped to see again?

- What should a guy do if he's playing with a woman and he is suddenly met with an uncomfortable surprise?

Our New Years celebration was "neutral." A very enjoyable evening with plenty of disappointment. Also: how something as simple as wearing a fedora could be a catalyst for fun with another couple.

Plus: Evan Swings gets a not-so-great review!

I have some brief updates from previous episodes and then I dive in to what money can't buy in the lifestyle. Spoiler alert: it's confidence.

My fourth episode in a seemingly endless series! Eva and I are kind of shy when it comes to in-person meetings. While some prefer going to clubs and events to meet new couples, we prefer to stick to lifestyle sites and apps to initiate conversations with potential matches. That unfortunately leads to a great deal of unexpected (or maybe I should say expected) interesting and infuriating interactions!

We have had a lot of good luck meeting awesome, compatible couples in the lifestyle. But lately, our luck has been awful. Today's episode is a story about a couple who seemed so perfect for us it was almost too good to be true. We hadn't met any new couples in almost a year so this was a breath of fresh air...that quickly went to crap. This is kind of a sequel to my club story from Episode 56. So feel free to check out that one before giving this one a listen!

Discretion seems to be a very important part of a couple's involvement in the lifestyle. Most couples say their vanilla friends and family are unaware (based on my experience of course). But what happens what happens when a family member discovers the secret...and tells others? In this episode I'll talk about a wild situation involving our son and how we handled it.

Going to a lifestyle club is something Eva and I love to do. It's a judgement-free environment where we can dance, drink, and be ourselves. We never go with the expectation that we will be hooking up with a couple. We have found that if you go with no expectations (except to enjoy the company of your significant other), there won't be any disappointment! This episode's story proves my point as our evening at a Halloween party proves to be very enjoyable.

There are some lifestyle topics that some people (not all) find uncomfortable to talk about. I feel it is important to address topics like these. It helps to "tear down the walls" and erase negative stigmas. That's what this episode is all about. In this episode I tackle some topics that some would shy away from. Included are:

1. Erectile Disfunction

2. STI's/STD's

3. Buttholes

4. Penis size

What happens when Eva and I meet a sexy couple who don't speak our language? Find out in this episode. I'll tell the story of how we met a couple from "Colombia" at a club and how, although language was a barrier, we eventually met them for a very fun play date. Some other updates as well.

I keep notes regarding topics I wish to discuss on this podcast. Well, sometimes the things I wish to talk about do not warrant an entire episode's time. So in this episode, I will talk about a few different topics about which I had been hoping to dedicate some time to. I call them "quick bits." They include discussion about:

1. Etiquette when planning to attend a club event with another couple

2. Wealth in the lifestyle

3. Unattractive "Eskimo Brothers"

4. A morbid thought that makes reclaim sex so important to Eva and myself

5. The mystery surrounding a couple frequently returning to our profile after breaking ties with us

There are several factors that can cause what I call "selective ED." In this episode I discuss those factors and how my brain is often my worst enemy when it comes to play dates.

If you did not listen to Episode 50, please do so before listening to this episode. It is part 2 of my story of Ivy and our hotel adventure...as well as Eva's adventure at the same hotel that very night. Eva joins me in the second part of this episode to tell you all about it! Apologies if Eva's voice is low at times. We don't record together often and haven't quite figured out the perfect mic position yet.

After many, many experiences with fakes, flakes, scammers, and sextortionists, this episode is all about an experience with a single lady...who was actually REAL. Fair warning: this episode is part 1 of 2. I have never ended an episode on a cliffhanger before...until now. But I had a lot to say about this adventure with many different moving parts, twists, turns, and interesting components. So I decided to divide it into two separate episodes. Hope you enjoy and come back for part 2.

In this episode I'll talk about something of which I just learned the meaning: wife poaching. I did not learn from experience, thankfully! So even though Eva and I have not been victims of wife poaching, I wanted to discuss it and give my take on it. I also share a couple of short annoying stories regarding couples with whom I have interacted online.

*Back after an extra week hiatus due to a family vacation.

In this episode I discuss taking chances and trying something new in the lifestyle. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it does not.

Kind of a bummer (sometimes a HUGE bummer) when you think things are going well with another couple and then they unexpectedly end things. In this episode I talk about a recent experience with this.

The upside-down pineapple. The most common, well-known symbol associated with the lifestyle. Four years ago when Eva and I first started our lifestyle journey, we had no idea of its significance. It was like a well-guarded secret. Now, it seems like the cat is out of the bag. Everyone, whether involved with the lifestyle or not, now seems to recognize what it means. It is no longer a secret. In this episode I'll discuss some ideas for a NEW symbol. A way for swingers to recognize each other "in the wild." I'll also share a brief story about an online interaction I had recently with another couple that left us shaking our heads.

Has anyone had success with finding a unicorn? A single lady willing to play with you and your significant other? That is something that still alludes us in the lifestyle. It seems LOTS of couples are interested in finding a unicorn...and the scammers know it. And they are getting better and better at posing as single women. Thankfully, since we were previously the victims of attempted "sextortion," I have grown wiser and more aware of red flags. This episode is all about a con job that I avoided.

There's nothing really more to write. This is all about the worst kissers ever. Eva and I feel that kissing is an important part of play. So if you suck at it, it ruins the whole play date. We had the unfortunate experience of playing with the worst kissers...maybe on the entire planet.

Eva and I are shy when it comes to meeting people in person. We find it difficult to walk up to new people and introduce ourselves. Therefore, when we go to clubs, we like to attend with other couples...so we're sure to have others to talk to! But in this episode, find out what happens when we step out of our comfort zone and attend...just the two of us.

Episode 42: Eva and I love the Friends With Benefits dynamic of the lifestyle. But sometimes, that leads to unexpected feelings.

If you are in a strictly monogamous relationship, your chances of hooking up with a hot co-worker are 0%. But if you are a swinger...it's not out of the realm of possibility. In this episode I talk about taking a risk, exposing myself as a swinger to a very attractive co-worker, in hopes that one day it might lead to spicy date.

Never been to a hotel takeover? Hear all about them in today's episode. Eva and I have been to somewhere between 5 and 10 takeovers since joining the lifestyle. I'll talk about what to expect (including cost and themes) and discuss the pro's and con's. One thing is for sure: if you have never been to one, you should definitely give one a shot!

Will they ever stop? Part three of my (I guess) ongoing series of stories of our online interactions with couples. I can't make these up. These are all real stories. Eva and I love being in the lifestyle. But sometimes you run into people that make it less than fun.

Eva and I have discovered that we love occasional solo play. It is exciting for both of us. Sadly, it has been almost a year since I have been able to experience it due to a lack of options. Eva has had several opportunities with more on the horizon. A bit frustrating when you are eager to experience something again...but are unable to...while your partner gets to. Recently, I thought my solo play drought was about to end...but I was wrong. This episode will tell you all about it!

Have you ever been threatened with public physical assault in lifestyle? I have. In this episode I tell the tale of a dude who threatened to slap me the next time he saw me at a club or event. This is what happened when I tried to call someone out on their BS and it went badly.

After a long time, Eva finally joins me for again as co-host! In this episode we will talk about our very first MFM threesome we had recently. Please note: Eva and I have not done this together very often. We are still trying to figure out the best setup (mic position, seating arrangement, recording settings, etc.) for optimal audio. Apologies for the occasions in this episode where our speaking volume is low. We'll get it right one day.

Eva and I have a rule: we don't play with a couple the first night we meet them. But it HAS happened (earlier) in our lifestyle journey. This is the story about one of those rare occasions.

Eva and I have been in the lifestyle for three and half years now. One might think we would have it all figured out at this point. Not the case! We are still learning. Still discovering. This episode is all about the stuff I/we haven't figured out in the lifestyle.

What is sextortion? As a member of the lifestyle, you probably have a profile on a lifestyle app or site. What if your profile was hacked? What if the hacker threatened to make your profile and pics public? Or what if you were tricked into sending someone photos by someone with devious ulterior motives? It happened to friends of ours. Then it happened to us. Sometimes people really suck.

Episode 32: I didn't think it was possible due to my anxiety about playing at a sex club. But thanks to an amazing couple and a super fun evening, I overcame my inhibitions. I can now officially say I have had sex at a club...and would probably do it again! So this episode is all about that experience...BUT...make sure you listen to the latter part of the episode to hear a crazy side story from that evening!

With so much negative stigma surrounding the lifestyle (in the vanilla world), our involvement in the lifestyle is a secretive one. But that doesn't stop me from WANTING to talk about it with some of my closest vanilla friends. I am "compelled to tell" them about it...but I can't. In this episode I'll dive into some of the hoops Eva and I have had to jump through to keep our lifestyle involvement a secret and why it has to be this way.

Episode 30. I take pride in discussing all lifestyle topics on this podcast. Even sensitive ones. This episode is all about a hotel takeover experience Eva and I had in August 2024. We had a fantastic time with two fantastic couples. But there was just one protagonist in this story: ED. I had a lot on my mind that night as you will hear. But guys (and gals)...it happens.

In August 2024, Eva and I visited a clothing-optional resort in Mexico. This is a review of that resort. My hope is that is serves as a "what to expect" episode for anyone ever interested in going to a clothing-optional, all-inclusive resort. Even if it isn't this particular resort. My assumption is that most are similar. Note: if you have no interest in hearing about this type of resort, this may be an episode you skip! I'll get back to a more "meat and potatoes" episode in two weeks! There are a couple interesting tidbits in this episode though...like a contest where several women sit on the edge of the pool, then I am blindfolded and have to guess which woman is my wife by feeling their boobs!

Eva and I decided to take a vacation adventure to Desire Maya Riviera Pearl: an all-inclusive, clothing optional resort outside of Cancun. This episode is about a fun experience we had with a couple at the resort as well some other not-as-fun experiences. Next episode, I will discuss the resort itself (kind of like a review).

Episode 27: The sequel to the original hit podcast episode "Interesting & Infuriating Interactions." So many stories of interactions gone wrong. Or just plain interesting. I hope you enjoy because part 3 is already in the works!

Remember my episode "Evan Screws Up?" Well, guess what. I redeemed myself. Here's the story!

Jealousy can be a strange and complicated feeling in the lifestyle. It can rear its ugly head unexpectedly, even with couples who don't usually experience issues with jealousy. We have heard many tales of jealousy from other couples in the last three years. There has only been one time that I have experienced true jealousy in the lifestyle. This episode is the story of that experience.

Episode 24: One of the hardest things about the lifestyle is finding a 4-way connection with another couple. The process can be interesting...and at times infuriating. In this episode I'll talk about some of the recent interactions we have had: both interesting and infuriating.

Production Note: As many of my listeners know, I am a teacher. School is starting back up for me this week. Therefore, I think it will be easier for me to start publishing episodes on weekends going forward. Still sticking with the bi-weekly format, but will now publish every other weekend.

What happens when 3 of the 4 people on a playdate are super shy and uncomfortable? I'll tell you all about it.

Eva joins me in the episode to discuss her sexual orientation. We have had trouble finding a term that accurately describes it. Then, we share a hotel takeover story about how she was cock blocked...quite literally.

What is the fizzle? In this episode I will explain as well as discuss how I answered a question someone asked me regarding jealousy.

If you were having trouble listening to this week's episode due to the low volume, please try this alternate version. I have increased the volume a bit. Hope that helped! Still a novice with podcasting audio tech!

Episode description: Yup. I screwed up. I tried to do something very nice and very sexy for Eva. But I botched it. This is the tale of that screw up.

Episode 19: The lifestyle can be cyclical. Eva and I have experienced times when we had lots of interest and options for potential dates...and other times (like now) where we are not able to find couples we match with. There are highs and lows. In this episode I talk about why it is sometimes so tough to find new potential matches.

Cue the Etta James music. After 3 years in the lifestyle, Evan finally fulfills his two biggest fantasies.

Eva and I would love to meet more local lifestyle couples. A few just haven't worked out. In this episode I talk about an interesting experience we had with a local couple. Before that story, I touch again on my desire to tell some vanilla friends about our involvement in the lifestyle...and also the perils of doing so.

In this episode I share a quick story from my college days which prove I never lived life to the fullest. I then discuss an experience involving an insult that ended a friendship we had with a lifestyle couple.

*Note: Eva does NOT have a gigantic ass. Listen to this episode and you'll understand what I mean by that.

So happy to welcome back my sexy wife Eva to the show! We'll discuss the differences between parallel play, soft swaps, and full swaps. We learned that we are definitely not into soft swaps...but we share our only experience(s) with soft swapping.

*Note: Eva's audio is a little low. Sorry for the inconvenience. We are still novices at this whole podcasting thing and hope to upgrade to better recording equipment in the near future.

Thankfully Eva and I have had very few regrettable experiences since joining the lifestyle. Looking back, of those few, there was one where I probably should have pulled the plug. This is the story of that experience.

Ever run into annoying single guys in the lifestyle? Or just plain ol' stupid guys? Or a combination of both? Eva and I have. These are some of those stories!