Ever felt like no matter how much you prepare for an important conversation with your partner, you still end up missing each other entirely? In the heat of tough conversations, even the best intentions can get lost as tension rises and defenses go up. It's all too easy for moments of misunderstanding to snowball, leaving both people feeling disconnected and unsure how to find their way back to each other.

In this episode, you'll discover a radically simple approach to transforming those tense moments into opportunities for true connection. Looking through the lens of openness, which the conversation calls the "aperture effect," you'll learn why slowing down, becoming mindful, and attuning to each other's emotional states can help you break free from unhelpful patterns. Explore practical techniques to foster emotional safety, collaboration, and presence so you can turn even challenging interactions into pathways for deeper understanding and closeness.

Kathryn Ford, M.D., is a psychiatrist, couples therapist, and author. Her work is a unique integration of mindfulness, psychotherapy, and neuroscience. After receiving her M.D. degree from Brown School of Medicine, Dr. Ford completed a residency in psychiatry at Stanford University School of Medicine. Her meditation practice and studies developed her understanding of the power of mindfulness for building deeper, more resilient relationships. She has taught at Stanford Continuing Studies, Stanford Medical School, and  Santa Clara University, and publishes regularly online in Psychology Today.

04:02 The Aperture Effect—an exploration at the intersection of psychiatry, mindfulness, and neuroscience.

09:40 What happens when openness shuts down in conversation?

11:26 The brain's role in relationship dynamics and mindful self-awareness.

15:23 Recognizing and responding to real-time emotional signals.

17:14 How our openness fluctuates moment to moment: Practical awareness skills.

21:08 Why slowing down changes everything: Strategies for connection over resolution.

26:06 Openness on a continuum: Tracking your state in challenging conversations.

29:16 Regrouping when things get rocky: Navigating pauses and timeouts.

33:53 Moving between vulnerability and defensiveness.

38:13 Vulnerability as the pathway to connection.

42:18 The power of naming your emotional state.

43:30 Learning and practicing aperture awareness and mindfulness.

• Practice mindful pausing: When you notice tension or confusion in conversations with your partner, pause for a deep breath to ground yourself and slow the interaction.

• Regularly check in with yourself during discussions. Ask, "Am I open or closed right now?" and observe your body for cues like warmth (open) or tension (closed).

• Use the "Two Sentences" exercise by limiting your speaking turns to one or two sentences and then pausing, giving both you and your partner time to process before responding.

• Be explicit about your emotional state, for example, saying, "I'm feeling a bit vulnerable discussing this," to invite empathy and understanding.

• When things get heated, intentionally slow down the dialogue. Avoid rapid-fire responses and give space for reflection.

• Call a timeout if needed: If either partner rates their openness as a 4 or lower (on a 1-10 scale), suggest a short break to allow both people to regroup and prevent escalation.

• Reassure and regroup: Offer reassurance like, "I didn't mean to sound harsh," and check if both partners feel ready to continue before moving forward.

• Acknowledge the need for ongoing conversations: Accept that not every topic needs a final resolution. Focus on maintaining connection, trust, and openness even when issues remain unresolved.

The Aperture Effect (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Polyvagal Theory (website)

Gottman Institute (website)

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) (*Psychology Today) (link)

ERP 340: The Essential Skill Of Tracking Openness in Relationship — An Interview With Dr. Kathryn Ford

12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)

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What if playing it safe is actually keeping you from the life and relationships you truly want? Too often, fear convinces us to stay small, avoid discomfort, and stick to familiar routines, especially when it comes to our most important connections. The result? Missed opportunities for deep intimacy, vibrant trust, and authentic connection. It's a paradox: the very quest for comfort may be the greatest risk of all.

In this episode, listeners are invited to challenge the idea that comfort equals happiness. Through inspiring stories and practical tools, the conversation explores how embracing courage, even in small, everyday ways, can lead to deeper, more meaningful relationships. Discover why facing fears (rather than running from them) is essential for personal growth and intimacy, and how a simple courage practice can transform both self-perception and connection with loved ones. Whether it's starting an uncomfortable conversation or supporting each other through life's uncertainties, this episode offers actionable steps to help anyone move from fear to flourishing in their relationships.

Scott Simon is a thought leader, TEDx speaker, bestselling author, and founder of the Scare Your Soul movement, helping people transform their lives through small daily acts of courage. He's worked with the UN, Nestlé, Ritz Carlton, Logitech, and the Cleveland Clinic to build braver teams and more connected cultures. When he's not leading keynotes or designing transformative retreats, you'll find Scott chasing live music, journaling in strange airports, or hunting down the world's best hole-in-the-wall restaurants.

04:24 Overcoming the tendency to shrink back and building momentum through bravery and courage.

09:20 How embracing discomfort leads to growth and creativity.

16:16 How small actions outside your comfort zone can build courage and lead to transformative outcomes.

20:08 Challenging relationship norms for deeper bonds.

28:47 Unlocking authenticity through vulnerability in relationships.

32:10 Aligning courageous choices with core values in relationships.

35:30 Personal examples of standing in your truth.

39:56 Practicing self-awareness and micro acts of courage for relational growth.

• Start a daily courage practice: Each day, do one small thing that scares you or takes you out of your comfort zone, just as the guest recommends.

• Pause and check in with yourself: Before difficult conversations, take a moment to breathe deeply and center yourself, allowing self-awareness to guide your next steps.

• Reflect on your core values: Use your values as a filter when deciding which courageous actions to take in your relationships.

• Initiate honest conversations: If you're holding back something important, practice being the one to "go first" and share vulnerably, even if it feels risky.

• Name your feelings in real-time: During tough moments, state what you're experiencing physically or emotionally (e.g., "My heart is racing right now"), to foster connection and authenticity.

• Seek support for brave actions: Engage a partner or friend to do something courageous together, which can increase commitment and make the experience richer.

• Replace silence with authentic sharing: Consider what keeping quiet is truly serving, and choose to communicate openly instead of bottling things up.

• Practice small acts of kindness: Try courage-building social acts, like initiating a friendly conversation or buying someone a coffee, to strengthen your confidence and connectedness.

Scare Your Soul (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

David Schnarch (*Wikipedia link)

Conscious Loving (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)

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Many of us move through life repeating the same painful relationship patterns—feeling unsafe, unseen, or disconnected, even when we're trying our hardest to "do everything right." Invisible wounds from early experiences quietly shape the ways we love, cope, and relate as adults. Instead of recognizing these patterns as natural adaptations, we often turn the blame inward, not realizing that our attachment styles and protective behaviors are rooted in the body and nervous system as much as the mind. Real healing isn't about forcing change or consuming endless self-help advice—it's about reshaping your internal sense of safety on a deeply felt, embodied level.

In this episode, we explore how secure, nourishing relationships begin with understanding the implicit memories, sensations, and patterns that live inside us. Learn how to meet old wounds with compassion, honor the protective parts that once kept you safe, and gently build new internal anchors of stability and trust. Using tools like the Wheel of Attachment and the practice of "finding your anchors," this episode offers both a clear roadmap and grounded encouragement for anyone ready to move beyond survival mode and experience connection that feels authentic, spacious, and truly supportive.

Jessica Baum is a licensed psychotherapist, certified addiction specialist, and Imago couples therapist with advanced training in EMDR, CBT, DBT, and experiential therapy. She founded the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and leads a global coaching company supporting clients worldwide. Passionate about trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology, Jessica helps individuals and couples heal and reconnect. Her bestselling book, Anxiously Attached, has made her a respected voice in nurturing secure, fulfilling relationships.

05:55 How early experiences shape our sense of safety.

07:48 Implicit memories and relationship patterns.

11:09 The importance of somatic (body-based) memory.

13:14 Reconnecting with the body for healing.

18:42 Understanding and honoring protective behaviors.

21:40 Building trust in healthier relationship dynamics.

25:00 The essential role of anchors in healing.

26:06 Why healing requires relationships, not willpower.

31:43 Finding and cultivating emotional anchors.

35:05 The Wheel of Attachment: A nuanced approach.

37:45 Earning security through supportive experiences.

40:31 Moving toward fulfillment: Real connection and support.

• Slow down and take mindful pauses to help connect with your body and increase present-moment awareness.

• Notice physical sensations during interactions, especially in moments of emotional intensity, to access implicit memories and attachment wounds.

• Practice developing interoception—your ability to sense internal bodily states—to better understand your emotional responses in relationships.

• Identify and honor your protective patterns ("protectors") rather than judging them; acknowledge they were there to support you.

• Seek out safe "anchors" or individuals who can offer emotional co-regulation and support your healing process.

• Use the "Wheel of Attachment" framework to explore how your early relational dynamics show up in current relationships.

• If you lack supportive anchors, resource from memories of secure figures (e.g., a teacher, grandparent) or pursue professional support.

• Engage in relationships and healing spaces where vulnerability, witnessing, and somatic attunement are encouraged, facilitating earned secure attachment over time.

Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships

Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love

SAFE (Interview and freebies link)

Nurturing the Heart (Dr. Bonnie Badenoch's website)

Conscious Relationship Group (Facebook group) (link)

Relationship Institute of Palm Beach

ERP 342: How Love Transforms Our Nervous System — An Interview With Jessica Baum

ERP 276: Understanding The Need For Both Self-Regulation And Co-Regulation In Relationship – An interview With Deb Dana

ERP 261: How To Strengthen Your Relationship From A Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges

ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson

12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)

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In the ongoing series on emotional immaturity, we continue our exploration by delving deeper into the intricate dynamics that underpin its development. Drawing from our previous discussions, we aim to build upon foundational knowledge and delve into the nuanced differences between emotional immaturity and emotional abuse. By shedding light on these subtleties, we provide listeners with invaluable insights that can help them navigate complex emotional landscapes with greater understanding and clarity.

Through a blend of insightful discussion and actionable advice, our goal is to equip our audience with the tools necessary to not only recognize but also address and ultimately overcome emotional immaturity. By fostering a deeper understanding of these concepts, listeners can cultivate healthier connections and embark on a journey of personal growth.

09:05 Understanding the interplay of childhood experiences, parental influence, and intergenerational impact.

13:11 Exploring the obstacles hindering parental emotional responsiveness, including mental health issues, physical illness, addiction, trauma, and bereavement.

15:39 Understanding the role of trauma in emotional immaturity: Impact, coping mechanisms, and caregiver dynamics.

19:26 The perpetuating cycle of abuse: Impact, coping strategies, and emotional stunting.

21:23 The impact of unhealthy examples and poor upbringing to emotional immaturity.

23:33 The fine line between emotional immaturity and emotional abuse.

Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents (Lindsay Gibson link) (book)

Signs of Emotional Immaturity: How to Identify and Support People with Emotional Immaturity

4 Types Of Emotionally Immature Parents

Tronick's Still Face Experiment (YouTube video link)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233

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Although divorce is legally permissible and widely acknowledged in modern society, it remains burdened with significant stigma. The mere mention of it evokes palpable discomfort, as it's often viewed as a failure in a culture that emphasizes perseverance in relationships at all costs, even in the face of significant challenges.

In this episode, we challenge this narrative by exploring the necessity of maintaining divorce as an option in relationships. We delve into the profound importance of setting healthy boundaries and prioritizing individual well-being within the context of partnership. Join us as we unravel the complexities surrounding divorce, challenging listeners to consider its role in fostering healthier, more sustainable relationships.

Sharon Pope is a certified Master Life Coach, and a seven-time best-selling author on love and relationships, including "Stay or Go: How to Find the Confidence & Clarity You Need to Either Fix the Struggles in Your Marriage or Move Forward without Regret," which has sold more than 300,000 copies worldwide, and host of the podcast, "The Loving Truth." Sharon's been a guest on many podcasts and is committed to helping women and men get the tools they need to improve, heal, or release their struggling marriages.

05:52 Sharon challenges the notion that every marriage should be salvaged at all costs.

07:56 From personal heartbreak to professional passion: Sharon's journey to relationship coaching.

10:32 Sharon reflects on her personal evolution from blaming her ex-husband to embracing self-awareness and personal growth.

12:57 Moving beyond surface efforts.

17:20 The importance of regular relationship check-ins.

21:52 The stigma and significance of divorce within relationships.

28:39 Strategies for interrupting negative patterns in communication within relationships.

38:03 Setting boundaries and timeframes for relationship evaluation.

41:40 Embracing divorce as an option for setting healthy boundaries.

Stay or Go: How to Find the Confidence & Clarity You Need to Either Fix the Struggles in Your Marriage or Move Forward without Regret (book)

When Marriage Needs an Answer: The Decision to Fix Your Struggling Marriage or Leave Without Regret (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

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Do you often feel like you're bearing the emotional burden in your relationship while your partner struggles to express their feelings and handle difficult conversations? If these dynamics sound familiar, you may be navigating the complexities of emotional immaturity in your relationship.

Welcome back to the Empowered Relationship Podcast, where we continue our exploration of emotional immaturity and its impact on relationships. If you missed part one of this multi-series, I highly recommend giving it a listen, where we explored five key characteristics of emotional immaturity.

In this episode, we're diving deeper into this topic by examining four additional characteristics. From struggles with healthy communication to difficulty engaging in hard conversations and conflicts, we'll unravel the intricacies of emotional immaturity and how it impacts intimate relationships.

Join us as we uncover valuable insights to cultivate deeper connections and intimacy with your significant other.

9:27 Dependency and validation: Key characteristics of emotional immaturity.

13:15 Challenges of emotional engagement and relational depth in emotionally immature relationships.

20:34 Unilateral decision-making and emotional detachment.

23:00 Avoidance, defensiveness, and blame-shifting.

28:10 Communication challenges and manipulative behaviors.

​​11 Signs of Emotional Immaturity in Relationships & Ways to Deal

Signs of Emotional Immaturity

ERP 410: What Are the Signs of Emotional Immaturity in Relationship?

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In a previous episode, discussions surrounding emotional immaturity and its genderized portrayal sparked significant interest and feedback from listeners. Responding to this engagement, today's episode marks the beginning of a comprehensive multi-part series, committed to exploring emotional immaturity in depth. The series aims to shed light on this topic without resorting to labels or diagnoses, acknowledging emotional immaturity as a developmental facet existing on a continuum.

This particular episode focuses on unraveling the concept of emotional immaturity, shedding light on its definition and key characteristics. Dr. Jessica Higgins underscores the significance of cultivating awareness as a tool for establishing realistic expectations and effectively navigating the challenges that emotional immaturity may pose in relationships.

8:50 Defining emotional immaturity: Recognizing patterns and understanding the continuum.

9:59 Challenges in emotion regulation and stress management.

15:53 Navigating emotional impulsivity and reactivity: Outward expressions and consequences.

24:04 Exploring low frustration tolerance and rigidity in thinking.

26:24 Navigating emotional blind spots: Understanding the lack of self-awareness and empathy.

28:59 Navigating self-centric patterns.

The Gottman Institute

ERP 390: How to Recognize Emotional Immaturity & Abuse in Relationship — An Interview with Dr. David Hawkins

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Navigating conflicts with a romantic partner can feel like an impossible challenge for many couples. Disagreements are a natural part of any long-term relationship as each individual brings a unique set of experiences, needs, and communication styles to the dynamic. 

Conflicts often escalate quickly as defensiveness and hurt feelings take over, resulting in distance rather than resolution. Without tools to reframe discussions, truly listen without judgment, and repair misunderstandings, the relationship itself can be damaged over time by an accumulation of unaddressed issues.

In this episode, we offer valuable insights for effectively handling these challenges. Drawing on concepts from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we explore methods to deliberately slow down reactions and enhance self-awareness, uncovering the underlying dynamics at play. The principles of EFT guide individuals to navigate conflicts with empathy, fostering a genuine desire to fully understand their partner. Practical strategies are presented, providing a toolkit for fostering openings in challenging conversations.

Dr. Chad Imhoff is an EFT Certified Therapist, EFT Supervisor, and the director of the Arkansas EFT Community. He serves as Clinical Director of the Joshua Center, where he is also a therapist. Angela received her Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy and is a Certified Life and Relationship Coach. They have a passion for helping couples have relational transformation and are devoted to seeing healing and change happen among individuals, couples, and families.

6:04 The transformative journey of Dr. Chad and Angela Imhoff in relationship therapy.

17:07 The influence of attachment theory in relationship dynamics.

21:26 How appraisal theory shapes relationship dynamics.

32:22 Understanding and honoring attachment styles.

35:31 Real-life examples showing how couples continue to navigate and understand the details of their relationships over time.

49:55 Navigating relationship triggers: Transforming conflict into understanding and growth.

56:56 Advanced strategies for navigating triggers and fostering connection.

Dr. Sue Johnson

George Faller

Dr. Ryan Rana

Success in Vulnerability

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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Many people struggle with establishing boundaries in their close relationships due to a tendency to people-please at the expense of their own needs. This challenge often stems from early relational dynamics in childhood, leading individuals to prioritize the needs and desires of those around them over their own well-being. Worrying about  disappointing or upsetting others can make it difficult to assert one's boundaries, as well as to engage in topics of conversation where there is conflict or disagreement.

In this episode, we explore the pervasive impact of people-pleasing behaviors on the relationship. Dr. Dana McNeil and Dr. Jessica Higgins offer actionable guidance for overcoming this challenge by addressing how to; recognize people-pleasing behaviors, understand the importance of boundaries,  effectively communicate needs to partners, and negotiate differences in a way that fosters greater intimacy and understanding between partners. The discussion provides practical exercises and examples that can help listeners develop healthier relationship patterns centered around mutual care, respect, and fulfillment for both individuals.

Dr. Dana McNeil is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and founder of The Relationship Place, a group practice located in her hometown, San Diego, California. Dr. Dana's practice specializes in relationship therapy and utilizes an evidence-based type of couples therapy known as the Gottman Method. Dr. Dana is a certified Gottman Method therapist and Doctor of Psychology. She also leads training at the Gottman Institute to help clinicians master the art of couples therapy.

5:10 Dr. Dana McNeil's journey to therapeutic practice.

13:30 People-pleasing: Highlighting the challenges it poses in expressing needs and setting healthy boundaries.

20:25 Practical ways to identify and communicate personal needs, especially for individuals struggling with people-pleasing tendencies.

26:48 Building stronger relationships through open communication and honesty.

32:55 Setting boundaries, embracing vulnerability, and overcoming people-pleasing.

39:40 Embracing differences and talking through challenges.

D-Spot Conversations: Navigating Today's Complicated Relationships (download link)

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

Hendricks Institute

The Gottman Institute

ERP 269: How to Break Free from the Nice Guy Syndrome That Is Holding You Back – An Interview with Dr.Robert Glover

ERP 323: One of the Most Important Relationship Skills – Being Relational — An Interview with Terry Real

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The hookup culture is a societal shift characterized by casual, short-term sexual engagements, highlighting a reluctance to commit to long-term relationships. This cultural phenomenon, especially prevalent among young adults and college students, poses challenges rooted in an insufficient understanding of the physiological and emotional aspects involved. The immediate pursuit of pleasure, combined with societal expectations, frequently results in miscommunication, unmet expectations, and emotional turmoil, reshaping the dynamics of modern relationships.

In this episode, Dr. Joe Malone and Dr. Jessica Higgins share valuable insights and actionable steps to navigate this complex landscape, providing a nuanced perspective on fostering healthier connections amid the complexities of contemporary dating norms. Join us as we unpack the intricacies of the hookup culture and discover strategies to cultivate more meaningful and fulfilling relationships.

Dr. Joe Malone, The Sexual Integrity Scientist. holds a Ph.D. in Health and Human Performance with a minor in neuropsychology and a specialization in women's health and sexual wellness. He taught at Middle Tennessee State University from 2005-2017 and has guest lectured at Vanderbilt and Princeton as well as other major universities. He's the author of Battle of the Sexes: Raising Sexual IQ to Lower Sexual Conflict and Empower Lasting Love.

5:40 From fitness to sexual wellness advocacy: Dr. Joe Malone's profound journey and insights into hookup culture.

13:46 The impact of technology on hookup culture and the quest for genuine connection.

22:10 The desires and challenges of young men in building meaningful relationships.

26:52 Dr. Joe Malone advocates for the vital role of marriage in young men's lives.

34:56 The challenges young individuals face in understanding their sexual desires amid prevalent societal messages.

39:04 Exploring the influence of testosterone and oxytocin on sexual thoughts and bonding.

40:58 Empowering women to redefine relationship standards and prioritize quality over quantity.

47:23 Balancing tradition and individual expression in contemporary contexts.

Battles of the Sexes: Raising Sexual IQ to Lower Sexual Conflict and Empower Lasting Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

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According to research, in 39% of households, women contribute equally or more to the income compared to men. This transformation, while positive, marks a significant shift from traditional gender roles and poses a unique challenge when both partners are engaged in the workforce.

Historically, women often assumed the role of stay-at-home moms, responsible for all household chores. Women raised in such settings encounter the challenge of harmonizing these deeply rooted expectations with the pressures of a thriving career. As a result, the need to redefine the concept of a successful mother and wife becomes crucial, calling for collaborative endeavors from both spouses.

In this episode, we explore strategies and insights aimed at addressing this dynamic, guiding couples through the process of redefining gender roles and fostering mutual understanding.

Brian Page is the founder of Modern Husbands. He shares ideas on managing money and the home as a team. He is a former Milken National Educator of the Year, CNN Money Hero, and Working Group Member of President Obama's Advisory Council on Financial Capability. He consulted for state governments, universities, and various nonprofits.

He served a one-year term as a Visiting Scholar at the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau in the Office of Financial Education.

4:26 Brian Paige's personal journey into redefining relationship dynamics.

10:28 Navigating the learning curve: Redefining roles and managing mental load in modern relationships.

17:20 Streamlining life: Outsourcing, automating, and systematizing for reduced cognitive load in relationships.

21:14 Navigating division of labor and money in relationships

34:05 Striving for equitable leisure.

31:41 The power of regular household business meetings.

37:19 Empowering marriages with valuable resources: The modern husband's toolkit.

39:34 The significance of understanding the deep-seated beliefs and potential traumas that influence a partner's financial decisions.

Transition to Marriage Toolkit (course)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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In the previous episode, we delved into the intricacies of navigating challenging relationships with in-laws, particularly amidst the holiday season. We discussed valuable insights on emotional regulation and proactive communication.

Now, in part two, Dr. Jessica Higgins further explores the multifaceted nature of conflicts and disparities that can arise in these relationships. Drawing from client cases and personal anecdotes, she illuminates common challenges encountered.

In this episode, Dr. Higgins focuses on three key areas related to privacy within the context of in-law relationships. The overarching theme is the crucial need for partners to align their perspectives and establish a shared understanding, especially when it comes to issues like proximity, boundaries, and the level of disclosure within the extended family.

If you haven't listened to part one of this series, I recommend that you do. You'll find the link below.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

9:32 Navigating the delicate balance of privacy in in-law relationships.

13:13 Navigating differences in food etiquette with in-laws.

16:03 Navigating challenges of inclusion in family conversations.

19:06 Balancing time spent with in-laws.

20:14 Decision-making dynamics: Navigating influence and power in family interactions.

22:54 Navigating grandparental involvement in parenting: Balancing resources and boundaries.

30:24 Cultivating compassion and setting realistic expectations in in-law relationships

34:01 Self-care strategies for setting boundaries in family dynamics.

39:54 Cultivating generosity and kindness in family dynamics.

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

ERP 404: How to Manage Relationships with In-Laws More Effectively — Part One

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Navigating relationships with in-laws is often a subtle journey filled with its unique set of challenges, and it's a topic that has generated numerous requests from our audience. As we find ourselves on the brink of the holiday season, these challenges may become more pronounced, making it an opportune time to address the intricacies of managing relationships with in-laws.

In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins provides actionable insights and practical tips to empower listeners in navigating these relationships more effectively. Whether you're grappling with strained connections, seeking strategies for smoother communication, or simply aiming to enhance understanding within the family unit, this episode is for you.

Join us as we explore the nuances of in-law interactions, offering valuable perspectives to help you approach these dynamics with intention and foster healthier connections within your family circle.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

4:07 Navigating challenging relationships with in-laws during the holiday season.

8:49 A reflective inventory and setting realistic goals.

13:03 Relationship milestones, family expectations, and cultural considerations.

20:33 The influence of family structure on in-law relationships and the vital role of consensus in marital success.

25:56 A gentle approach to discussing challenges and setting healthy boundaries.

34:59 Tips for emotional regulation and proactive communication.

You Aren't as Close to my Family as You Think: Discordant Perceptions about In-laws and Risk of Divorce (*NCBI link) (research)

Marriage and In-Laws: Factors Influencing Marital Stability (*Adelphi University link) (research)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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Are you letting anxiety and the need to play it safe hold you hostage in your relationships and personal growth? Too often, fear—of rejection, failure, or the unknown—becomes the invisible fence shaping our actions. Perfectionism, procrastination, overthinking, and the constant urge to avoid discomfort can shrink our lives, leaving us disconnected from our true selves and the people we care about most.

In this episode, we explore how fear influences perfectionism, anxiety, and avoidance in our relationships and daily lives. Discover compassionate approaches to working with anxiety—learning why fighting it doesn't work, and how, instead, our willingness to acknowledge, understand, and even befriend discomfort can become a gateway to deeper connection and greater freedom. Through practical tools and real-world strategies like "uncertainty workouts," values-based action, and self-compassion, this episode aims to help you navigate the messy, beautiful process of showing up more authentically for yourself and those you care about.

Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona is on a mission to help people break free from ineffective, play-it-safe patterns so they can begin living rich, purposeful, and meaningful lives. A trained psychologist, she is the author of seven books and co-author of two more. Her expertise has led her to present workshops at both national and international conferences. She also runs a boutique therapy and coaching practice that specializes in the application of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for anxiety. Passionate about her work, she delights in creating personalized resources for every client she serves.

06:03 The interconnectedness of anxiety and its impact on life.

09:07 The importance of accepting anxiety instead of fighting it.

10:02 Using values to guide responses and reduce anxiety's control.

13:50 The need to tolerate discomfort in relationships.

18:53 Navigating fear of commitment and embracing uncertainty.

22:49 Building tolerance for ambiguity and uncertainty.

24:32 How avoiding uncomfortable emotions can increase suffering and relates to trauma and emotional regulation.

29:52 Values-based exposure and compassionate approaches to fear.

33:41 Developing micro skills for managing difficult conversations.

35:41 Integrating self-compassion and Wise Moves for anxiety management.

38:01 Practical resources, parenting insights, and closing reflections.

• Take a moment to pause with a deep inhale and exhale, noticing sensations in your body before engaging in difficult conversations or when feeling anxious.

• Instead of fighting anxiety, recognize it as a protective part of your humanity and make room for it.

• When anxiety arises, ask yourself what truly matters to you in that moment to guide your response.

• Embrace uncomfortable feelings in relationships without avoidance, viewing them as essential for growth and authenticity.

• Intentionally expose yourself to uncertainty in small, manageable ways (like trying a new restaurant or activity) to build tolerance.

• When fear surfaces, actively choose actions that align with your core values—even if they feel difficult.

• Treat yourself with gentleness during moments of avoidance, procrastination, or anxiety, recognizing your effort and courage.

• When facing a fearful situation, pause and check in with your body and thoughts, then proceed with intentionality rather than rushing through.

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Acceptance and Commitment Skills for Perfectionism and High-Achieving Behaviors (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The ACT Workbook for the Anxious Procrastinator (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Dr. Z's Online Classes (link)

ERP 461: How to Increase Psychological Flexibility for Healthy Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Steven Hayes

ERP 238: How To Find Your Emotional Balance In Relationship

12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free relationship guide) (pdf)

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Spendthrifts and tightwads represent opposite ends of the financial spectrum. A spendthrift tends to be more liberal with spending, often embracing a carefree attitude toward financial matters. On the other hand, a tightwad tends to be more frugal, prioritizing saving and cautious spending. Navigating these distinct financial personalities can pose challenges in a partnership, requiring thoughtful communication, compromise, and understanding to create a balanced and harmonious approach to shared finances.

In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of these differing financial approaches, offering actionable strategies to foster collaboration between spendthrifts and tightwads. From exploring joint accounts with individual freedoms to deciphering the art of thoughtful gift-giving beyond monetary values, the conversation provides practical insights. By emphasizing the delicate balance between shared financial goals and individual autonomy, the episode aims to equip couples with tangible steps to navigate the complexities of money matters. Tune in for valuable guidance on building financial harmony and strengthening communication in relationships marked by diverse spending tendencies.

Dr. Scott Rick is the author of Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships. He is a marketing professor at the University of Michigan's Ross School of Business and holds a PhD in Behavioral Decision Research from Carnegie Mellon, where he was a National Science Foundation graduate research fellow. His research on consumer behavior has been covered in outlets such as The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal. He has published in premier journals spanning marketing, psychology, and economics.

5:49 Scott Rick's journey into exploring spending orientations shaped by spendthrift influences.

10:17 Navigating the dynamics of tightwads and spendthrifts in relationships: Understanding protective strategies and attraction.

20:18 Financial continuums, tensions, and the concept of financial translucency.

26:05 Balancing financial transparency: Navigating autonomy, trust, and communal approaches in relationships.

36:19 Unlocking the art of gift-giving: Thoughtful gestures, sacrifice, and relationship enrichment.

Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The 36 Questions That Lead to Love (*The New York Times link)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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Embarking on a journey of profound spiritual exploration, particularly through plant medicine, can be a transformative endeavor. However, with the promise of self-discovery comes the responsibility of navigating these realms with caution.

In this episode, we delve into the potential pitfalls of venturing into the depths of spiritual work, offering cautionary insights to those considering or already immersed in plant medicine journeys. A wealth of knowledge and experiences are brought to light, highlighting the risks linked to inexperienced facilitators and emphasizing the significance of traditional shamanic practices. Offering practical tips for a safer and more intentional approach, this episode aims to empower listeners on their spiritual quests, fostering a sense of awareness and responsibility in the pursuit of profound personal growth.

Megan and Nicole Michelena are Microdosing Institute-certified mental health experts specializing in psychedelic medicine. They are known as the @zenchronicity_sisters and are the co-founders of Zenchronicity, a plant medicine microdosing mentorship program that supports healing through psilocybin mushrooms. Megan is also a certified holistic nutritionist and health coach, and both are trauma-informed yoga teachers and experts in psychedelic medicine. They are also precious stone jewelry makers and crystal experts, and Megan is a gifted astrologer.

6:07 Navigating the terrain of plant medicine: Insights and considerations with Dr. Jessica Higgins.

12:55 Journey to mastery: The zen chronicity sisters on plant medicine, healing, and self-discovery.

18:51 Nicole's perspective on plant medicine and the inner journey to transformation.

29:29 Navigating microdosing and plant medicine with Zen Chronicity.

39:38 How psilocybin softens neuroplasticity and transforms consciousness.

43:40 Balancing energies: Navigating the dance of masculine and feminine in psychedelic healing.

55:52 Integrating plant medicine with traditional shamanic wisdom.

1:08:03 Practical tips for safe and transformative plant medicine experiences.

Zenchronicity Podcast (*Apple podcast link)

Plants of the Gods (*Apple podcast link)

Transaction Analysis by Eric Berne

Hamilton Morris (*Wikipedia article)

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

ERP 305: The Surprising & Powerful Benefits of Learning to Tolerate Discomfort — An Interview with Dr. Anna Lembke (podcast episode)

ERP 346: Accessing Relatedness & the Priority of Connection — An Interview with Gabriel Kram (podcast episode)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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The impact of sexual trauma on survivors often leaves a lasting imprint on both their emotional and physical well-being. Alongside grappling with feelings of fear, anger, and sadness, the trauma may be unconsciously stored in the body and unexpectedly reexperienced through somatic triggers during intimate moments. This can undermine a survivor's sense of safety, trust in others, and ability to freely experience closeness.

In this episode, we delve into an often unexplored topic of relationships—navigating the intricate terrain of supporting a partner who has endured sexual trauma. The episode not only sheds light on the challenges faced but also presents practical steps, fostering a sense of hope and connection for both survivors and their partners. Join us as we explore the profound impact of trauma on intimacy and how intentional, informed efforts can contribute to healing and strengthen the bonds within these relationships.

Megan Lara Negendank, LMFT, CST, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a certified sex therapist. She is the founder of Love Heal Grow, a relationship therapy center in Northern California where she specializes in trauma-informed, relationship-focused psychotherapy for survivors of trauma and their partners. She has been featured as a relationship expert on PBS, NPR, and in Sacramento Magazine.

5:15 Megan Negendank's mission to support survivors and partners through trauma-informed therapy.

9:49 Navigating the complexity of survivor experiences and partner support in the realm of sexual trauma.

17:02 Coping mechanisms, trust challenges, and partner support in sexual trauma recovery.

22:37 Communication, consent, and partner self-compassion in the aftermath of sexual trauma.

32:55 Building bridges to stability: Navigating trauma in relationships through co-regulation and secure functioning.

Loving Someone Who Has Sexual Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Supporting Your Partner and Improving Your Relationship (The New Harbinger Loving Someone Series) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

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The holiday season traditionally beckons gatherings with loved ones, friends, and family, often involving travel to reunite with those we haven't seen in a while. While these occasions can be overwhelmingly positive, the nuances of family and relationship dynamics often introduce challenges.

In this episode, we delve into the common tendencies of complaining, comparing, and criticizing, which can disrupt the joyous spirit of gatherings. We delve into insightful strategies to pivot away from these unproductive habits, offering practical solutions for a more positive and enriching experience. By exploring the three P's—pride, pleasure, and purpose—listeners are guided on a journey toward fostering deeper connections during festive occasions, enhancing the quality of interactions with loved ones, and ultimately cultivating a path to greater happiness.

 Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

5:29 The impact of holiday gatherings on our mental tendencies.

9:18 Negative thought patterns and their impact on relationships.

15:52 Applying Gottman's 5:1 ratio to strengthen connections in every relationship.

23:34 The impact of negative behaviors on relationships.

32:09 Cultivating happiness through connection and purpose.

First, let's clarify the three C's to avoid.

1. Comparing

We often find ourselves anticipating comparisons, preparing to evaluate and rank ourselves, and engaging in a subtle one-up/one-down competition.

Measures of Success:

• Career Achievements (promotions)

• Health and Fitness (body weight)

• Financial Status

• Attractiveness and Beauty (aging, wrinkles, clothing, hair)

• Knowledge (current events, politics)

• Social Engagements (events attended, people met)

• Fun (recreational activities, trips, etc.)

All these aspects contribute to an individual's sense of meaning, purpose, and pride. However, when the intention is to impress or compete to feel superior, it can lead to putting oneself above others, inadvertently diminishing their value.

Antidote: Practice expressing appreciation and gratitude for oneself, aiming for a list of 10 appreciations as a countermeasure.

2. Complaining

Expressing challenges is a natural way to seek attention and understanding, often as an attempt to bond with others who can relate to hardships. However, dwelling on difficulties, akin to sharing war stories, provides limited satisfaction in connecting.

Antidote: Counteracting complaints involves identifying at least 10 positive aspects overlooked in the situation, fostering a more optimistic perspective.

3. Criticizing

Judging someone's behavior, especially in family or friendship dynamics, can stem from underlying longings, needs, or vulnerabilities, with limited potential for change compared to romantic relationships.

Antidote: If change seems unlikely, self-support involves addressing personal needs and longings through alternative means or advocating for oneself, including setting boundaries. Additionally, acknowledging 10 positive qualities or attributes the person brings to your life can help shift the focus away from criticism.

The Negative Effects of the 3 C's

• Diminished Self-Esteem: Engaging in constant comparison and criticism can lead to feelings of inadequacy, lower self-worth, and diminished self-esteem.

• Strained Relationships: Continuous criticism and complaining can put strain on relationships, eroding trust, creating tension, and reducing the overall sense of safety and satisfaction.

• Dissatisfaction in Interactions: The repetitive nature of the 3 C's can leave interactions feeling less meaningful and satisfying, contributing to a sense of dissatisfaction.

• Avoidance and Disconnection: Over time, the cumulative effect of the 3 C's may lead to avoidance of certain individuals or a decrease in engagement, negatively impacting the connection in relationships.

• Missed Opportunities for Growth: Focusing on the negative aspects may lead to missed opportunities for personal and relational growth, hindering the exploration of positive and enriching experiences.

• Draining Interactions: Engaging in the 3 C's can be emotionally draining, both for oneself and others, as the emphasis on negativity outweighs the potential for positive and uplifting interactions.

• Empowerment and Blame Cycle: The cycle of blame, competition, and one-upmanship perpetuated by the 3 C's can create a disempowered mindset, hindering the celebration of others and fostering deeper connections.

• Lack of Meaning and Significance: Constant comparison and criticism may lead to a focus on surface-level attributes, overshadowing the potential for deeper connections and the meaningful aspects of relationships.

Now that we've explored the challenges posed by the three C's, let's shift our focus to the transformative power of the three P's.

The concept of the three P's — Pride, Purpose, and Pleasure — draws inspiration from Blue Zone research, examining communities globally recognized for longevity and well-being. Here are actionable strategies aligned with the three P's to foster a balanced and fulfilling life:

• Build Community Bonds: Connect with your community, nurturing positive relationships for a heightened sense of belonging and pride.

• Embrace Traditions: Celebrate cultural or community traditions to strengthen your connection to heritage and foster pride.

• Achieve Personal Goals: Pursue goals aligned with your values, cultivating a sense of pride and satisfaction.

• Share Your Successes: Acknowledge and share your accomplishments, reinforcing a positive sense of pride.

• Discover Your Ikigai: Explore your 'ikigai,' finding purpose at the intersection of passion, skill, societal need, and earning potential.

• Volunteer and Give Back: Contribute to causes aligned with your values, experiencing purpose through meaningful engagement.

• Set Long-Term Goals: Establish enduring goals reflecting your passions and values for a sense of purpose.

• Reflect on Core Values: Regularly align actions with core values, providing direction and purpose in life.

• Prioritize Social Bonds: Cultivate meaningful relationships with friends and family, crucial for overall happiness.

• Opt for Balanced Nutrition: Enjoy a varied, nutritious diet in moderation for physical and mental well-being.

• Incorporate Physical Activity: Integrate joyful exercises like walking or dancing into daily routines.

• Practice Mindfulness: Dedicate time to mindfulness practices, enhancing the enjoyment of the present moment.

• Embrace Nature: Spend time outdoors, connecting with nature for increased pleasure and well-being.

• Cultivate Hobbies: Engage in passion-driven activities, such as art or gardening, for a more pleasurable life.

By integrating these strategies, you can elevate your overall well-being, embracing the principles of Pride, Purpose, and Pleasure observed in Blue Zone communities. 

The Magic Ratio: The Key to Relationship Satisfaction

Blue Zones of Happiness, The: Lessons From the World's Happiest People (The Blue Zones) (*Amazon affiliate link) (book)

25 Days To Strengthening Your Love Through Kindness (free guide link)

ERP 125: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love (podcast episode)

ERP 128: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Two (podcast episode)

ERP 129: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Three (podcast episode)

ERP 130: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Four (podcast episode)

ERP 130: How Kindness Can Strengthen Your Love – Part Five (podcast episode)

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Entrusting our happiness to others implies depending on external validation or circumstances to feel content, fulfilled, or complete. Instead of finding intrinsic sources of joy and fulfillment within ourselves, we place the responsibility for our happiness on external influences. This reliance on external factors, especially in relationships, may result in emotional vulnerability and fragile self-esteem.

In this episode, we explore the complexities of self-discovery and healing within relationships, delving into the significance of inner child work and its impact on our emotional well-being. We discuss the challenges of embracing vulnerability, acknowledging our shadows, and breaking free from the patterns that hinder personal growth. The conversation highlights the role of self-love and acceptance in fostering healthier connections with ourselves and others, emphasizing the importance of authenticity and genuine expression in our journey toward fulfillment.

Deb Blum is a visionary leader and the founder of The Whole Soul Way, a transformational program dedicated to empowering women on their journey toward self-discovery and authentic expression. Through her step-by-step process, Deb helps self-led, do-it-all women break free from fear, conditioning, and external expectations, enabling them to express themselves fully, therefore creating more success, emotionally fulfilling relationships, happiness, and inner peace without losing their edge or disrupting the lives they've worked so hard to create.

5:59 Introducing Deb Blum and her transformative program dedicated to empowering women through self-discovery.

11:17 Unveiling unconscious behaviors: Exploring tendencies to criticize, blame, or project onto others.

19:02 Deb Blum recounts how the pressure of motherhood and a desire for control brought projecting tendencies to light, leading to insights about her expectations and relationship dynamics.

28:41 Navigating identity attachments: Embracing the complexity of the human condition.

33:20 Unveiling the energy dynamics of repression and embracing the multifaceted human experience.

46:03 Nurturing wholeness through reparenting: The transformative journey.

51:48 The significance of overcoming defensiveness and creating space for genuine dialogue.

57:07 Support and resources.

The Whole Soul Way (*program sales page)

Out of the Shadows: A Shadow Work Starter Kit (*free resources)

Do-It-All Inner Power Animal Quiz (*quiz)

ERP 174: How to Experience More Love in Your Relationship With Byron Katie

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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In a society that highly values individual achievements and personal pursuits, the dynamics of maintaining emotional closeness within relationships undergo a subtle but significant transformation. Emphasizing autonomy, self-expression, and personal goal pursuit, societal norms shape how individuals navigate connections.

In this episode, we explore the nuanced dynamics of emotional intimacy within the context of contemporary societal norms that often prioritize individual pursuits. The discussion delves into the delicate interplay between autonomy and togetherness, shedding light on the challenges individuals face in maintaining meaningful connections while pursuing personal goals. The impact of trauma on relationships is unpacked, highlighting the complexities of healing in the realm of emotional closeness. 

Join us as we navigate the fine line between independence and the inherent desire for emotional proximity, unraveling the secrets to fostering meaningful connections in a culture that champions individuality.

Dr. St John is a psychotherapist, somatic fluid movement and meditation educator, and author of "Healing the Wounds of Childhood and Culture: An Adventure of a Lifetime". He overcame severe childhood trauma and has engaged in the healing process both personally and professionally for 60 years.

5:09 From brokenness to healing: Dr. Don St John's personal and professional journey.

11:30 The coherence model: Balancing freedom and cohesion in intimate relationships.

14:56 The importance of embracing both closeness and independence in a relationship.

27:09 Navigating change, personal growth, and cultural shifts.

32:47 Shifting from individual identity to cooperative connection.

50:06 Additional resources and information.

Healing the Wounds of Childhood and Culture: An Adventure of a Lifetime (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: 30th Anniversary Edition (The Covey Habits Series) (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

ERP 348: Access Intraconnection for Well-Being — An Interview with Dr. Daniel Siegel

Websites: pathsofconnection.com

Facebook: facebook.com/don.s.john.90

Instagram: instagram.com/drdonstjohn

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/don-st-john-36636a55

Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship 

Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins 

Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Grief is a deeply personal and often challenging emotional journey, one that can take on countless forms and manifest in diverse ways. When couples endure such heart-wrenching moments, they often discover that they grieve differently, which can strain their relationships. This can create a profound and sometimes bewildering disconnect in the relationship, leading to feelings of isolation, frustration, and confusion.

In this enlightening conversation, we delve into the complexities of grieving differently as a couple and explore valuable insights to help couples maintain and enhance their connections during these trying times. By recognizing the individuality of each person's grief, fostering open and honest communication, and seeking external support when necessary, couples can discover meaningful ways to journey through their mourning together, strengthening their emotional bonds in the process.

Kelly Cervantes is an award-winning writer, speaker, and advocate best known for her blog Inchstones. She is the immediate past board chair for the nonprofit CURE Epilepsy and also hosts their biweekly podcast, Seizing Life. Kelly currently resides in Maplewood, NJ, with her husband, Miguel Cervantes currently starring in Hamilton on Broadway, their children, and two dogs, Tabasco and Sriracha. Her book Normal Broken: The Grief Companion For When It's Time to Heal But You're Not Sure You Want To.

5:28 Kelly Cervantes' grief journey and its impact on relationships.

17:17 The importance of open communication and managing expectations.

21:12 The evolving nature of grief in relationships: Communication, acceptance, and moments of connection.

27:59 Navigating connection and intimacy amidst grief: The impact of a pandemic and prior experiences.

39:29 The significance of seeking and accepting support during the grieving process.

45:28 Creating shared meaning in grief: Finding moments of connection and support.

Normal Broken: The Grief Companion for When It's Time to Heal but You're Not Sure You Want To (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Grief Refuge (download link) (app)

Center for Loss & Life Transition

Websites: kellycervantes.com

Facebook: facebook.com/kellygc411

Twitter: twitter.com/KellyGC411

Instagram: instagram.com/kellygc411

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kelly-cervantes-6b3a7ba

Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/seizing-life/id1450310889

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Are you tired of sifting through an endless sea of relationship advice, much of which seems more unhelpful than beneficial? We're often bombarded with well-intentioned but sometimes misguided advice. You've likely heard phrases like "never go to bed angry" or "love will conquer all," but do these sayings truly hold the key to a thriving, enduring partnership?

In this episode, we'll explore the common cliches and one-size-fits-all solutions that sound good in theory but often fall short in practice. Discover the art of de-escalating conflicts, the power of emotional vocabulary, and how to recognize unhelpful advice that may be holding you back from deeper intimacy. If you're seeking to transform your understanding of relationships, this episode will empower you to question the common myths and embrace a more profound, lasting connection.

Zach Brittle is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC), a Certified Gottman Therapist (CGT), and a Certified Relational Life Therapist (RLT). He serves as the founder and co-host of Marriage Therapy Radio and has authored the best-selling relationship guide "The Relationship Alphabet" and the Marriage Therapy Journal. His marriage to Rebecca has been a source of happiness for 24 out of 26 years, with the 8th and 18th years proving to be rather challenging. They live in Seattle with their two adulting daughters.

4:55 A peek into Zach's journey: His work, podcast, and personal life.

9:21 Zack's unique approach to therapy.

14:23 Debunking the myth: "Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint"

19:20 The influence of language on behavior and choices within relationships.

26:33 Deconstructing defensiveness and criticism: An approach to authentic communication.

29:45 Challenging unhelpful relationship advice.

33:43 The importance of de-escalation and repair in conflict.

40:47 Connect with Zach Brittle and marriage therapy radio.

Marriage Therapy Radio (*Apple Podcast link)

Marriage Therapy Journal (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The Relationship Alphabet: A Practical Guide to Better Connection for Couples (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

ERP 344: How Our Language Can Steer & Shape Our Relationships — An Interview with Dr. Georgi Gardiner

ERP 058: Beyond the Wedding. What Is Marriage Really Like?

Websites: zachbrittle.com

Facebook: facebook.com/marriagetherapyradio

TikTok: tiktok.com/@marriagetherapyradio

Instagram: instagram.com/marriagetherapyradio/?hl=en

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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In recent years, the rise of the celebrated "mommy wine" culture has given rise to a pressing issue that provides a deceptively innocent escape for mothers. Yet beneath the surface, many mothers find themselves entangled in a web of excessive alcohol consumption that negatively affects their lives and relationships.

In this episode, Celeste Yvonne and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the challenging dynamics faced by couples when one partner decides to embrace sobriety while the other continues to drink. We explore the isolation and emotional strain often experienced by those navigating this complex terrain. The discussion offers actionable steps and resources to help couples communicate effectively, set boundaries, and ultimately find a path to understanding and connection amid the complexities of one partner's journey toward sobriety.

Sober mom advocate, Celeste Yvonne, is a writer and certified recovery coach (IAPRC) with over 20 years of experience as a communications professional in corporate America. Over five years sober and a founding host of the Sober Mom Squad, Celeste advocates for mothers who struggle with addiction and mental health.

3:20 Celeste Yvonne's journey from corporate professional to sobriety advocate.

8:08 Understanding the emotional impact of substance use in motherhood.

15:48 Honest conversations and support in navigating alcoholism and recovery.

20:54 The power of community in sobriety: Overcoming loneliness and isolation.

25:23 Strategies for addressing problematic drinking within relationships.

32:16 Creating empathetic conversations and finding support in challenging relationships.

48:27 Support for moms: Breaking free from the mommy wine culture.

It's Not About the Wine: The Loaded Truth Behind Mommy Wine Culture (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Websites: celesteyvonne.substack.com | sobermomsquad.com

Facebook: facebook.com/sobermomsquad

Instagram: instagram.com/theultimatemomchallenge | instagram.com/sobermomsquad

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Are you finding it difficult to communicate your emotional needs in your relationship, leaving you and your partner feeling like you're speaking different emotional languages? Sad to say, you are not alone in this struggle. Many individuals face the challenge of effectively expressing their emotional desires to their loved ones.

In this enlightening conversation, we delve into this very issue and explore actionable steps to improve your communication and connection. From recognizing emotional triggers to embracing self-soothing techniques, you'll discover how to build an environment of safety and openness in your relationship. Join us as we unravel the secrets to clearer communication and a deeper emotional connection.

Dr. Laura Louis, author of "Marital Peace," is a Licensed Psychologist with a Ph.D. from Howard University's APA-accredited Counseling Psychology Program. With over 10 years of experience in the field, she specializes in multicultural and couples counseling. Her expertise includes increasing intimacy, rebuilding trust post-infidelity, and enhancing communication skills. Dr. Louis also addresses various clinical issues, offers career counseling, and aids in acculturation for immigrants. Her background spans diverse settings, from psychiatric hospitals to elementary schools, where she focuses on improving sleep and stress management for individuals and organizations.

4:17 Introducing Dr. Laura Louis: A multifaceted expert in relationship counseling.

7:05 The foundation of expressing emotional needs.

15:02 Various factors that can unconsciously interfere with our ability to Express emotional needs.

22:13 A step-by-step approach to expressing emotional needs.

29:35 Navigating emotional risks in communication.

39:08 Practical aspects of recognizing emotional triggers and self-soothing techniques.

Marital Peace (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

Websites: atlantacoupletherapy.com

Facebook: facebook.com/AtlantaCoupleTherapy | facebook.com/groups/BlackMarriageMattersOfficial (*group)

YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCh2I0xywV8TuKM9xs4yqh2g

Instagram: instagram.com/dr.lauralouis

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Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com

If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Feeling unseen and misunderstood in your closest relationship can be one of the loneliest experiences, even when surrounded by family and friends. It's not uncommon for couples to fall into patterns of projection, reactivity, and defensiveness, leaving genuine intimacy and deep connection feeling just out of reach. How do we move from these cycles of blame and distance towards the kind of secure, transformative partnership that brings true accompaniment, dignity, and joy?

In this episode, you are invited to slow down and explore new pathways to presence and connection. Through practical tools, guided reflection, and insights rooted in transformative couples therapy, you'll discover ways to move beyond automatic reactivity and habitual defense, and instead cultivate curiosity, somatic awareness, and genuine intimacy. Whether you're looking to strengthen trust, improve communication, or rekindle the spark in a long-term bond, this conversation offers powerful guidance for anyone seeking more clarity, care, and lasting growth in their relationships.

Since 2008 Dr. David Mars has been the developer of Transformative Couples Therapy® (TCT). He leads seminars and training programs internationally on TCT. Affective neuroscience and attachment research are central to this experiential, somatically attuned and positivity-based method. Currently Dr. Mars also is the leader of a three-year project to quantify the results of TCT in preparation to offer published research on outcomes of the method. He is the Director of the Transformative Couples Therapy® Institute.

03:39 The impact of curiosity and projections in long-term relationships.

08:32 How attachment styles form early in life and opportunities for change.

10:05 The importance of somatic awareness, attunement, and slowing down in relationships.

15:42 Gender, stress, and the emotional costs of disconnection.

17:48 Strategies for setting boundaries and cultivating safe communication.

23:14 Transformation and growth through the I-Thou relationship.

24:43 Daily practices and the seven channels of experience in couples therapy.

29:49 Awareness of energetic imprints and somatic patterns from early life.

31:15 Navigating and embracing partner differences in relationships.

34:43 The role of journaling, self-regulation, and reverence in relational health.

40:57 Somatic-based modalities, resources, and generativity in relationships.

• Begin your conversations or sessions with your partner by sharing something you appreciate about each other to set a positive tone.

• Take a deep inhale and exhale together to ground yourselves and invite presence before important discussions.

• Communicate your feelings and needs using "I" statements to promote vulnerability and reduce defensiveness.

• Speak directly to your partner, not just about them or through a third party, to foster genuine connection.

• Notice and share your body sensations (like a tight chest or warm hands) during emotional exchanges to heighten self-awareness and attunement.

• Approach your partner with genuine curiosity and try to witness their experience, rather than making assumptions or projecting your own perspective.

• If either partner feels overwhelmed or unresourced, honor the need to pause and agree on a time to revisit the conversation.

• Tune into the seven channels—sensation, emotion, energy, movement, auditory, visual, and imaginal—to enrich both your self-awareness and your communication with your partner.

Martin Buber (Britannica link) (biography)

I-Thou (*Britannica link)

The I-Thou Relationship and Unconditional Positive Regard (*Psychology Today)

Carl Rogers (*Wikipedia link) (article)

The 1957 Martin Buber-Carl Rogers Dialogue, as Dialogue (*Sage Journals) (study)

Beatrice Beebe (*Wikipedia link) (article)

*John Bowlby (*Wikipedia link) (article)

*John Beebe (*Wikipedia link) (article)

12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free relationship guide) (pdf)

Websites: tctinstitute.org

Facebook: facebook.com/p/Center-for-Transformative-Therapy-100087943999843

Instagram: instagram.com/transformativecouplestherapy/

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/transformative-couples-therapy

Power struggle is a phase in a relationship where couples face heightened awareness of their differences, needs, and unmet expectations. It represents a shift from the initial romantic honeymoon stage to a stage where partners become more aware of each other's flaws and unresolved issues. This stage is marked by emotional turbulence and communication breakdowns as couples navigate the complexities of their evolving connection. However, it's also seen as an opportunity for growth and transformation if approached with conscious effort and relationship skills.

In this episode, we explore dynamic strategies and practical tools to help couples overcome challenges in their relationship and foster a more peaceful, loving connection. Discover how to determine which stage your relationship is in, prioritize emotional safety, communicate with empathy, and deepen your mutual understanding. Join us as we discuss practical steps to strengthen your relationship and establish a robust foundation for lasting love and harmony.

Shan is an Imago Couples Therapist and Relationship Expert. She helps professional couples on the brink of divorce finally find peace in their relationship and put their wedding rings back on. She's authored the book "From Power Struggle to Peaceful Couple". Shan's on a mission to stop couples settling for unhappy relationships that drain their energy because she believes great relationships are the foundation for a great life. Shan works globally from England.

3:52 Shan's journey: From romantic dreams to relationship expertise.

14:08 Understanding and navigating the power struggle in relationships.

22:08 Embracing conflict as nature's savage gifts in the power struggle.

26:36 Emotional safety and communication in a relationship.

34:47 The imago dialogue: A structured path to safe and effective communication in relationships.

38:02 Using dialogue to improve communication in relationships.

45:13 Improving communication in relationships through empathy and respect.

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Imago Relationship Therapy

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

ERP 138: The Most Critical Ingredient for Relationship Success With Dr. Harville Hendrix & Dr. Helen Lakelly Hunt

ERP 303: How to Create Safe Conversations — An Interview with Drs. Harville Hendrix & Helen Lakelly Hunt

Websites: shanmerchant.com

Facebook: facebook.com/shannon.merchant.3

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/shan-merchant-couples-therapist-dating-relationships

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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In relationships, conflicts and disputes are virtually inevitable. However, it's not the presence of conflict that threatens our connections, but rather the way we react to it. Often, when tensions arise, our reactions can become automatic, triggering emotional patterns that can escalate discord and disrupt intimacy. Many times, these reactive patterns stem from our early life experiences and can profoundly affect our relationships, making it essential to understand and address them.

In this illuminating discussion, we explore a revolutionary method for addressing these deeply ingrained patterns. Discover how to identify, take ownership of, deconstruct, and reconstruct these patterns, ultimately gaining the ability to convert conflicts into chances for personal development, enhanced connections, and heightened intimacy within our relationships.

Join us as we explore practical strategies for minimizing reactive patterns in our relationships, and promoting healthier and more empowered connections.

Adele Spraggon is an award-winning author, thought leader, international trainer, and a fearless speaker. She has been awarded the 2020 Woman of Inspiration Award and in 2021 she was recognized as the Top Behavioural Expert of the Year.

Drawing on the most recent findings in brain research, along with inspiring stories of breakthroughs and triumphs from her coaching clients, Adele demonstrates that no matter how conflicted a relationship is there is a way to fall in love again by learning how to identify and upgrade your brain patterning.

 Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

3:18 Introduction to Adele Spraggon's distinctive method for rewiring brain patterns.

15: 44 Addressing the root cause: From software patches to hardware rewiring.

19:55 Cultivating compassion and understanding through repatterning

24:34 The role of deconstruction in rewiring the brain.

27:47 Navigating the unknown: Overcoming fear and embracing vulnerability.

33:09 The four-week repatterning process: Building awareness and trust.

38:22 Creating a new pattern: The secret to conflict-free change.

44:48 Healing childhood wounds and transforming relationships.

49:09 Resources for personal growth.

SHIFT: 4 Steps to Personal Empowerment (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Increase Relationship Skills (survey)

Websites: adelespraggon.com

Facebook: facebook.com/adele.spraggon | facebook.com/AdeleSpraggonRepatternist 

Twitter: twitter.com/AdeleSpraggon

YouTube: youtube.com/@AdeleSpraggon

Instagram: instagram.com/adelespraggon/?hl=en

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/adelespraggon

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Dominant and submissive roles within relationships have always carried an air of mystique and intrigue. Yet, more often than not, these roles are shrouded in misunderstanding, creating confusion and misconceptions that can leave couples navigating uncharted waters. In the intricate dance of intimacy, it's easy to fall prey to preconceived notions, equating dominance with control or submission with passivity.

In this episode, we delve into these intricate roles, unraveling the complexities and unveiling the truths that lie beneath the surface. By addressing common misconceptions and offering actionable insights, we hope to illuminate the path for couples seeking to understand and embrace these roles in their relationships. Through a deeper comprehension of the interplay between dominance and submission, couples can cultivate a more authentic, harmonious, and fulfilling connection with one another. Join us as we embark on a journey to demystify these roles and pave the way for healthier, more profound relationships.

Chris M. Lyon is a relationship expert and coach certified in applied neuroscience and brain health. She is the author of "Leading and Supportive Love: The Truth About Dominant and Submissive Relationships". She developed L/s (Leading/supportive) Types that define common behavioral patterns exhibited by many couples. Lyon has coached thousands through crisis, trauma, and leadership for over two decades. She's been featured in various media and teaches online courses at coachlyon.com.

 Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

5:32 Exploring Chris Lyons motivation behind the interest in dominant and submissive relationship dynamics.

7:58 Misconceptions and stereotypes surrounding dominant and submissive relationships.

14:51 The consequences of mismatched roles in daily interactions within dominant and submissive relationships.

18:39 Understanding relationship orientation on a spectrum.

24:10 Exploring attraction and cultural messages in relationship roles.

30:32 Trust, leadership, and the role of vetting in dominant-submissive relationships.

36:48 Navigating dominance: From skill development to cultural influences.

42:03 The interplay between dominance and submission in kink and relationships.

44:34 Addressing the issue of mismatched relationships.

50:26 Embracing authenticity in dominant and submissive relationships.

Leading and Supportive Love: The Truth About Dominant and Submissive Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (audiobook)

Leading and Supportive Love: The Truth About Dominant and Submissive Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

D/s Relationship Masterclass Collection

Increase Relationship Skills (survey)

Websites: coachlyon.com | linktr.ee/ChrisMLyon

Facebook: facebook.com/CoachLyon

YouTube: youtube.com/@TheChrisSea

Instagram: instagram.com/Chris_sea1

TikTok: tiktok.com/@chris.sea 

Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship 

Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins 

Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/

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Twitter: @DrJessHiggins 

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Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com

If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Emotional immaturity can be a subtle yet profoundly impactful issue within relationships, often remaining hidden beneath the surface until it begins to erode the connection between partners.

In this episode, we will delve into the nuanced aspects of emotional immaturity and abuse within relationships. Drawing from expert insights, we will explore the telltale signs and behavioral patterns that may indicate emotional immaturity, shedding light on the damage it can inflict on both individuals and partnerships.

By gaining a deeper understanding of these dynamics, we empower ourselves and others to navigate relationships with greater emotional intelligence, fostering environments of trust, respect, and genuine connection.

Join us as we embark on this journey to uncover the tools and knowledge necessary to recognize and address emotional immaturity and abuse in our relationships.

Dr. David Hawkins is a clinical psychologist, director of the Marriage Recovery Center, and a best-selling author of over thirty books. Dr. Hawkins has helped bring healing to thousands of marriages and individuals since he began his work in 1976. He is passionate about working with couples in crisis and helps them discover a new way of doing things to have a healthy and thriving relationship.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

9:36 Dr. David Hawkins: Pioneering the path to healing relationships.

19:16 The complex dynamics of emotional abuse in relationships.

29:06 Unpacking the lack of emotional connection: The role of avoidant tendencies.

36:03 Emotional abuse vs. Narcissism: Understanding the critical differences.

43:32 Dr. David Hawkins' insights into the readiness for change among individuals in relationships with emotionally abusive partners.

45:32 Navigating the complexities of emotional abuse: Seeking help and resources. 

When Loving Him Is Hurting You: Hope and Help for Women Dealing With Narcissism and Emotional Abuse (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

When Pleasing Others Is Hurting You: Finding God's Patterns for Healthy Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Increase Relationship Skills (Google Form) (Survey)

Website: marriagerecoverycenter.com

Facebook: facebook.com/marriagerecoverycenter

YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCKrmBnvqdvugfYpLS6r1AzA

Instagram: instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenter

Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mad-in-love/id1618828831

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Have you ever found yourself in a heated argument with your partner, feeling like you're speaking entirely different languages, even though you're using the same words?

In our increasingly hectic lives, the demands of work, family, and everyday responsibilities make it difficult to manage our stress levels. High stress levels take a toll on our emotional well-being and make it difficult to effectively navigate stress within our relationships. This challenge isn't just about handling personal stress; it's also about understanding how our partners respond to stress and, crucially, how we can bridge the gap in those moments of tension. Stress can easily disrupt communication and create emotional distance, making it vital to decipher and address the language of stress within our relationships.

This episode delves into the fascinating world of stress languages and how they impact our connections with loved ones. By unraveling the mystery of these stress responses, you'll gain valuable insights into your own and your partner's behaviors, ultimately leading to more harmonious relationships and a deeper sense of calm. Let's embark on this journey to decode the intricate language of stress and find the path to greater understanding and connection.

Chantal Donnelly founded Body Insight Inc. in 2006, a private clinic in Pasadena, CA, where she provides physical therapy and stress management services. She holds a Master's Degree in Physical Therapy, a Pilates Certification from BASI, and is a certified Resilience Toolkit Facilitator. Chantal has released two video programs: Pain-Free At Work and Strong Knees. She recently published her new book, Settled: How to Find Calm in a Stress-Inducing World.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

6:00 The myth of self-care as a one-size-fits-all solution to stress.

10:37 Observing stress patterns for enhanced awareness.

15:47 The five stress languages for improved relationships and self-care.

21:09 Creating safety and support for relaxation.

32:44 Navigating stress responses in relationships.

40:43 Recognizing stress responses in everyday interactions.

46:23 Fostering connection through nervous system regulation.

Settled: How to Find Calm in a Stress-Inducing World (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Befriending Your Nervous System: Looking Through the Lens of Polyvagal Theory (*Amazon link) (audiobook)

The Polyvagal Institute

Rhythm of Regulation

ERP 276: Understanding the Need for Both Self-Regulation and Co-regulation in Relationship – An Interview with Deb Dana

ERP 261: How to Strengthen Your Relationship from a Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Are you feeling stuck in your relationship, grappling with resentment, or sensing that you and your partner have unwittingly transformed into mere roommates? If so, you're not alone.

Maintaining a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship can be challenging in a world where the dynamics of love and partnership are constantly evolving. Relationship advice often comes from all directions and it's easy to find ourselves lost in a sea of conflicting guidance.

In this insightful conversation, Monica Tanner and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into practical strategies to address these challenges head-on. The conversation reveals that successful relationships require intentional effort, a commitment to understanding, and the courage to engage in constructive conflict. From cultivating curiosity and practicing vulnerability to navigating differences with grace, they offer actionable steps to reignite the spark in your relationship and avoid falling into the dreaded roommate syndrome.

Monica Tanner, Relationship Coach and host of the Secrets of Happily Ever After podcast, transforms marriages with simple communication, connection, conflict resolution, and commitment strategies. Her mission is to lower the divorce rate and improve marital satisfaction. Through her engaging podcast, vibrant social media community, and practical programs, Monica's expert guidance has impacted thousands of couples, by helping them ditch resentment and roommate syndrome and get back to living their happily-ever-after love story.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

5:46 Monica's quest to understanding genuine relationships.

8:38 The challenges of maintaining passion and longevity in modern relationships.

17:18 Nurturing healthy relationship dynamics through boundary setting.

23:16 Navigating emotional withdrawal: The impact of negative interaction patterns.

28:11 Recognizing and addressing hidden resentment.

41:24 Cultivating respectful disagreements and nurturing healthy communication.

48:19 The role of curiosity, interest, and creative problem-solving in deepening intimacy and passion in relationships.

The Space Between: The Point of Connection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Free Intimacy Quiz

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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In a world where technology offers countless ways to be connected, why is it that so many of us still feel disconnected? Why is it becoming increasingly difficult to forge deep, meaningful connections with others?

In this episode, Dr. Jody Carrington and Dr. Jessica Higgins explore the intricacies of reconnecting and finding balance in relationships, along with the skill of nurturing genuine connections. Whether it's strengthening bonds with our children, partners, colleagues, or even within ourselves, they delve into the heart of building authentic relationships. From handling emotional challenges to embracing the significance of acknowledgment, they unravel the multifaceted nature of human interaction.

So, if you're ready to peel back the layers of disconnection and embark on a journey towards reconnection, join us on this episode.

Dr. Jody Carrington is a psychologist sought after for her expertise, energy, and approach to helping people solve their most complex human-centered challenges. Jody focuses much of her work around reconnection. Jody uses humor, and all she has learned in her twenty-year career as a psychologist to empower everyone she connects with. In her latest book, Feeling Seen, she dives into what it takes to reconnect a disconnected world.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

7:24 Dr. Jody Carrington's professional evolution: From first responders to child psychiatry.

15:55 The challenge of repairing relationships.

19:14 Building emotional language and regulation.

24:52 Identifying core motivators of disconnection in relationships.

30:52 The importance of acknowledging the various contributors to disconnection.

38:01 Indigenous teachings on land acknowledgment as a lesson in genuine bearing witness.

42:10 Fostering resilience in professionals to address the increasing emotional dysregulation in society.

53:28 Accessing Dr. Carrington's workshops and podcasts for accessible mental health conversations.

Teachers These Days: Stories and Strategies for Reconnection (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Kids These Days: A Game Plan For (Re)Connecting With Those We Teach, Lead, & Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Feeling Seen: Reconnecting in a Disconnected World (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Do you find yourself reacting in certain ways that you can't quite explain as if you're following a script written by your ancestors? Have you ever wondered why certain patterns persist across generations in your family? The complex web of family history, with its unspoken stories and unresolved traumas, can leave an indelible mark on our lives.

In a world where we strive for personal growth and healthier relationships, it's crucial to delve into the depths of our family tree and uncover the hidden influences that shape our behaviors and emotions.

In this episode, we delve into the profound connections between our family trees and our personal growth. From understanding the "ancestral alarm clock" to recognizing patterns of codependency and rediscovering our authentic selves, this episode offers actionable steps and resources to navigate the intricate journey of healing and growth through ancestral awareness.

Whether you're seeking to break free from generational patterns or unlock a deeper understanding of yourself, this conversation provides a captivating exploration of how our past shapes our present and future.

Johanna has been connected to the world of separation and divorce for decades, originally due to her personal situation, then as a systemic therapist focusing on restoring relationships for the past 12 years. Johanna is the founder of The Family Imprint Institute with an international private practice.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

4:47 Introduction to Johanna Lynn's journey: From personal curiosity to professional expertise.

9:06 Unmasking familiar patterns: The importance of fresh perspective in relationship dynamics.

14:12 The link between language and the body: Tracing patterns from thoughts to somatic sensations

19:50 Empathy and understanding in addressing subconscious influences.

30:48 Ancestral Alarm Clock: Life Stages as Opportunities for Healing and Growth.

37:52 Balancing autonomy and intimacy.

42:51 Sustaining connection through art and symbolism

47:47 Navigating complex family structures.

It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

About Banyan (*Wikipedia) (article)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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In today's complex dating landscape, finding real connections and lasting partnerships has become a tough puzzle to crack. This challenge is particularly pronounced in the context of high-value individuals seeking meaningful relationships while managing their careers and personal growth.

In this episode, seasoned relationship experts Glenn Sandifer and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the complexities of this issue, shedding light on actionable strategies that individuals can implement to overcome hurdles and achieve their relationship goals. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, the significance of aligning with like-minded individuals, and the value of having mentors and role models to guide one's journey.

By exploring the depths of these topics, this enlightening conversation offers a roadmap for those striving to create fulfilling relationships and unlock their full potential within the context of modern dating dynamics.

Glenn, a strategist and executive leader with over 20 years of experience, developed The Middle Ground to help professionals understand the roadblocks that often conflict with professional success. He believes that understanding the reasons behind relationship breakdowns is crucial for success in dating and overcoming restarts. Glenn is a Christian, husband, father, HBCU Alumnus, Omega Man, and Viking, residing in Nashville, Tennessee with his wife Takeena and two children.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

5:59 From personal experience to professional insight: The journey that inspired the book.

11:42 Categorizing and understanding six types of men and women

16:30 The middle ground paradigm: Departing from extremes for lasting and fulfilling relationships.

21:12 Transforming toxic mindsets: Embracing cooperation, service, and duty in relationships.

26:37 Three phases of development: Building discipline, skill, and leadership.

34:15 The importance of modern women choosing partners who align with their values and goals.

39:42 The dynamics of high-value relationships: Symbiotic connection between high-value men and women.

45:40 Cultivating a supportive network: Nurturing relationships with like-minded and mentors.

The Middle Ground: How To Get Great Dating Outcomes in a Modern World Part 1 (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The Middle Ground: How To Get Great Dating Outcomes in a Modern World Part 2 (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

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Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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Many couples often find themselves stuck in repetitive cycles of miscommunication, defensiveness, emotional struggles, and unmet needs. It's a common challenge that can leave even the most committed partners feeling lost and uncertain about how to navigate these issues effectively.

We are here to help, in this eye-opening episode, we delve deep into the transformative power of secure attachment and intentional communication. Discover how curiosity, empathy, and a willingness to co-create can turn conflict into a connection and pave the way for a loving, compassionate partnership.

Whether you're just starting a new relationship or seeking to reignite the flame in your existing one, this conversation offers invaluable insights and practical tools to foster a lasting, fulfilling, and thriving bond with your significant other. So get ready to equip yourself with the knowledge and strategies to strengthen your relationship like never before!

Christine Eartheart, Co-Founder of the Center for Thriving Relationships, joins her wonderful husband to help couples create the kind of love they've always wanted. They offer retreats, online courses, and private sessions and train and certify others in their Thriving Relationship Coach Certification program. Christine is the host of the Thriving Relationships Show, a TEDx speaker, and has been featured in Psychology Today, Happify, Thrive Global, NBC, ABC, and CBS. Learn more at CenterThrive.com.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

6:41 From blissful love to challenging times: Christine's journey in supporting couples.

12:15 The impact of repetitive patterns on relationships: The pursuer-withdrawer dynamic.

16:35 Embracing the two-sided coin: Appreciating the beautiful strengths and challenges in relationships.

27:21 How Christine and her husband cultivated a growth-oriented relationship.

32:37 Creating secure attachment leads to transformative healing in relationships.

39:01 A powerful tool for fostering connection and collaboration in relationships.

46:19 Shifting from defensiveness to collaboration.

49:02 The importance of making a commitment to work on the relationship and shift towards constructive communication.

55:17 Learn more about building thriving relationships.

Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment (*Amazon) (book)

Resurrecting Sex: Solving Sexual Problems and Revolutionizing Your Relationship (*Amazon) (book)

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships (*Amazon) (book)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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This episode marks an incredible milestone—the 500th episode of the Empowered Relationship Podcast. To celebrate, Dr. Jessica Higgins and her husband, Reid Peterson, sit down for a heartfelt and revealing conversation about what it really takes to cultivate a truly empowered partnership.

If you've ever wondered why, despite your best intentions, emotional honesty and vulnerability can feel so risky—or why differences and conflict so often create distance instead of closeness—you're not alone. The path to authentic connection is filled with challenges that test even the strongest relationships.

In this special episode, Jessica and Reid open up about the principles and practices that have helped them build a foundation of trust, love, and growth throughout their years together. They share personal stories, practical strategies, and honest reflections on navigating tough conversations, supporting each other's emotional needs, and finding clarity in uncertain times.

Whether you're learning to handle conflict, embrace vulnerability, or co-create a meaningful vision for your life together, you'll discover insights and tools to transform relationship challenges into opportunities for deeper connection and lasting love.

04:58 Building safety and trust through honesty in partnership.

09:15 Jessica shares how vulnerability early in dating deepened their intimacy.

11:47 How honest conversations help reduce shame and strengthen connection.

14:11 How different personalities shape communication in relationships.

19:52 Strategies to navigate conflict with calm and empathy.

35:51 Building clarity, connection, and purpose through joint visioning.

44:08 Strengthening relationships through further exploration and resources.

• Practice speaking honestly about your core feelings, emotions, and needs—even when it feels risky or uncomfortable.

• Pause during moments of tension to take a few deep breaths, center yourself, and check in with what you're feeling before responding.

• When conflict arises, communicate the need for space calmly and agree on a time to revisit the discussion to avoid sweeping issues under the rug.

• Seek reassurance or a quick check-in from your partner during periods of disconnection to help reduce anxiety and foster trust.

• Cultivate attuned listening—focus on truly understanding what your partner is expressing beyond the words, and ask clarifying questions when needed.

• Name whether you're seeking comfort or solutions in conversations, so your partner knows how best to support you.

• Regularly engage in shared visioning exercises together to clarify mutual values and dreams, and support each other in the process—even when values differ.

• Download and use the "12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love" guide to gain clarity and practical strategies for your relationship.

12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free relationship guide) (pdf)

Relational Health Assessment (quiz)

As we navigate the highs and lows of being in a relationship, it's essential to cultivate and nurture the connection we share with our partner. Whether you're a newly formed couple or have been together for years, there's always room to deepen the love and intimacy you both experience. 

In this episode, we'll explore four powerful and actionable steps to enhance your bond, foster open communication, and create a more fulfilling and loving partnership. 

Let's embark on this journey together and discover the keys to a more profound and intimate relationship with your loved one.

Eri Kardos is the founder of Relearn Love, LLC. Her mission is to help people experience ease with love and relationships for more fun and fulfilling connections. She works with clients across six continents, ranging from top tech executives and Hollywood celebrities to ordinary people living extraordinary lives.

Eri is the author of the best-selling book, Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

5:45 Erin Cardoso's mission to enhance fulfilling connections. 

10:41 Balancing masculine and feminine energies in relationships. 

16:33 Embracing conflict with respect and love: A transformational journey. 

21:11 Exploring the relearn love model: From curiosity to celebration. 

25:53 Cultivating knowledge and learning tools. 

33:43 Making sustainable and joyful changes in your relationship. 

39:08 The power of acknowledging and celebrating progress in relationships.

45:29 The importance of being present and focused on the now. 

Teammates (*free masterclass)

Relationship Agreements: A Simple and Effective Guide for Strengthening Communication, Reducing Conflict, and Increasing Intimacy to Design Your Ideal Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Imago Relationship Therapy

ERP 303: How to Create Safe Conversations — An Interview with Drs. Harville Hendrix & Helen Lakelly Hunt

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. 

Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. 

Thank you!  

*With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

Understanding and connecting with the evolving needs of newer generational men has become a crucial aspect of modern relationships.

In this enlightening episode, we shed light on relationship dynamics and the shifting nature of modern masculinity, providing valuable insights and guidance for fostering meaningful connections.

The discussion delves deep into the complexities of relating to younger generational men, emphasizing the significance of vulnerability and open communication. Amidst the impact of technology and social media on relationships, striking a balance between tradition and progress emerges as a key theme, unveiling powerful tools and strategies to strengthen bonds.

Join this transformative journey into the heart of modern masculinity and discover how to enrich your relationships with the younger generation of men by embracing their unique perspectives and desires. Gain a deeper understanding of their needs and experiences, and pave the way for more fulfilling connections in your relationships.

Sulonda has been a licensed psychotherapist for 27 years who also focuses on helping people in long-term committed relationships and married couples. She helps couples improve their communication skills and specifically helps men to communicate in a way their significant other understands.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

6:51 Generational differences in men's experiences.

12:42 The damaging effects of confining oneself to a narrow window of acceptable gender expressions and the need for a more inclusive approach to emotions and experiences.

17:46 Finding your tribe and embracing authenticity.

21:37 The fear of experimenting and self-doubt.

26:42 Breaking free from societal expectations.

31:48 Changing trends in partnerships.

37:15 Seeking happiness and being in flow of everything.

42:01 The importance of healthy parent-child relationships and supporting younger generations, particularly young men.

48:35 How to ask instead of assuming.

55:00 The power of a hybrid course.

Today's man is different from Yesterday's man | Sulonda Smith | TEDxLSSC (*Youtube video)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. 

Thank you!  

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In this special episode, the Empowered Relationship Podcast deviates from its usual format of interviewing experts to provide dedicated attention to addressing a listener's thought-provoking questions.

The question centers around a familiar dynamic often observed in relationships, where one partner finds themselves leaning away from the relationship while the other remains invested and leaning in.

1. "How do you come to terms in a marriage of holding true to your commitment of loyalty for life, sticking through the "for worse", and being able to trust your judgment at the time you chose your spouse? Specifically the self-blame of trusting yourself on the decision of who to marry, and/or breaking your own promise of being true to your word at the time."

2. "Understanding wife say I just want to be roommates, we work great as a team co-parenting kids and taking care of the house, and what this means coming on the heels of an affair?"

"In the initial wake of the revelation, I thought wow I was an awful person as she brought up things I didn't do or when she felt hurt, but through a year of discussions with a psychologist and an independent therapist I realized a lot of these are coming from her insecurities and anxiety and attempts at justifying her affair. I'm not without fault - I was not emotionally available as much as I needed to be for her and during our marriage she felt like I did things that made her feel like she needed to change things about herself in order to be someone who she thought I wanted her to be. (If that makes sense?). I've learned a lot of tools I can use, but a lot of them seem to work within the confines of making the marriage better, but right now she's not there yet.

My wife came clean about an emotional affair she had and exhibited all the traits of limerence by blaming me for it, rewriting our history into a negative sentiment override, "I care for you but not in love with you", and now maintains the position that she felt like we were roommates before the affair,  so she wants to keep living like that now while she works on herself. She's been clear that she doesn't want any deeper emotional discussions (unless it's about the past), zero physical affection in any way, no "I love you's" or pet names, etc.

We did 5 sessions of MC and got to the point where the counselor said we have a lot of great things between us but if she's not committed to the marriage,  then it'll be hard to do the work. The most striking line he said to my wife was "The problem isn't with your husband, the problem would be with whoever happened to be sitting in this chair. " She acknowledges she's broken, gave too much of herself, and lost who she was as a person, but she's in a highly stressful job and doesn't want to seek a therapist or help on her own, she has said she just needs the space to figure out who she is and what she wants. She seems to want/expect feelings to come back naturally if it's meant to be while we remain in this "friend" state and doesn't want to force things between us.

I appreciate the work you do in helping couples and look forward to your podcasts each week."

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

7:40 Listeners's questions on how to come to terms with unrequited love.

13:57 Coping with the pain and uncertainty of a partner pulling away.

17:00 Identifying the relational cycle and understanding the underlying dynamics in your relationship.

22:47 Embracing ambivalence: Discovering new paths through discernment counseling.

32:34 Rediscovering commitments and finding meaning in marriage.

43:18 The importance of developing fresh approaches to relating with your partner.

Disclaimer: Please note that the insights and feedback provided by Dr. Jessica Higgins are based solely on the information provided by the listener. Assumptions have been made regarding the listener's willingness to work on the relationship, the duration of their partnership, and the absence of specific clinical diagnoses. As each individual's circumstances are unique, the guidance offered should be considered general and not personalized advice. Dr. Jessica Higgins will do her best to address the listener's question given the available information.

Acknowledge the Pain

Discovering that your partner has been unfaithful and witnessing their emotional detachment from the relationship can be an incredibly painful and disorienting experience. It's natural to feel a wide range of emotions, including shock, anger, desperation, and sadness. During this time, seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be immensely helpful in processing these emotions and providing stability for both you and your children.

Identify the Cycle Together 

Understanding the dynamics of your relationship is crucial to finding a way forward. In the aftermath of an affair, it's essential to recognize that there may have been underlying issues and unmet needs that contributed to the breakdown of trust. This might include the experience of limerence, a state of infatuation or fantasy that can cloud judgment and lead to emotional affairs. By exploring these dynamics together, through exercises such as those found in the book "Hold Me Tight," you can gain insight into each other's perspectives and work towards rebuilding trust.

In situations where one partner expresses a desire to be roommates and wants to focus on personal growth, it's crucial to create space for ambivalence. Discernment counseling, a specialized form of therapy, can be beneficial in helping couples gain clarity and confidence in determining the future of their relationship. This process allows both partners to explore their true desires and intentions while relieving the pressure to make immediate decisions. It also presents an opportunity for individual self-reflection and personal growth.

Throughout this journey, it is vital for both partners to engage in self-reflection and personal growth. This involves examining your own contributions to the relationship dynamics and acknowledging areas where improvement is needed. While it may be tempting to place blame solely on the partner who had the affair, it's important to take responsibility for your own emotional availability and commitment to the relationship. This introspective work can pave the way for creating a healthier and more fulfilling partnership moving forward.

Hold Me Tight by Dr. Susan Johnson (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

*EFT Therapist Finder

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

ERP 015: Do You Have a "Unity" or "Journey" Mindset in Relationship?

ERP 058: Beyond the Wedding. What Is Marriage Really Like?

ERP 372: How to Work Together in Relationship for a Strong, Secure Connection — An Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin

ERP 373: How to Embrace Ambivalence When Making Big Relationship Decisions — An Interview with Rachel Zamore

Discernment Counseling

Identify The Cycle

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Do you often find yourself struggling to navigate the complexities of life and relationships? Perhaps you feel disconnected from your own thoughts, emotions, and desires, and it's affecting your overall well-being.

In a world filled with stress, anxiety, and constant distractions, it's easy to lose touch with our true selves. But what if there was a way to deepen your contact with yourself and transform every aspect of your life, including your relationships?

In this episode, we delved into the powerful practice of meditation and mindfulness, exploring how they can help you develop self-awareness, regulate emotions, and build healthier connections.

Join us as we uncover practical steps, insights, and valuable resources to guide you on this transformative journey of self-discovery and personal growth. Get ready to unlock the potential within you and experience profound positive changes in your life and relationships.

Madhur-Nain Webster is a licensed marriage and family therapist, specializing in the integration of eastern and western philosophies for mental health for individuals and couples. Her first book, The Stressless Brain (2018), makes a scientific argument for the positive influence meditation has on the psyche; she is currently working on her second book. In addition to releasing over 60 meditation singles, Madhur-Nain maintains international outreach by appearing on podcasts and holding meditation workshops.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

5:57 Madhur-Nain Webster and her work in integrating Eastern and Western philosophies.

15:25 Finding what works: Exploring different forms of meditation.

20:39 Changing relationship dynamics and prioritizing needs.

26:25 The importance of practicing meditation even when it feels challenging or uncomfortable.

31:53 The influence of early upbringing and trauma on meditation practice.

36:16 The influence of meditation on the endocrine system and well-being.

39:54 Amplifying the benefits: Togetherness and community in meditation.

43:11 Couples meditation: Connecting through synchronized breath.

48:28 Self-reflection and emotional recognition: Navigating feedback and challenging toxic shame

52:03 Understanding the difference between anxiety and stress.

The Stressless Brain: Reducing Stress and Anxiety through the Power of Meditation and Psychology (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The Feeling Good Handbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

Type Of Relationship Support (survey)

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Are you yearning for a relationship that brims with passion, connection, and a profound level of intimacy that goes beyond the physical?

Many individuals find themselves longing for a deeper bond with their partners, seeking to break free from the stagnation of routine and reignite the spark that once ignited their love.

In this insightful episode, we delve into the transformative power of embracing honesty in sexual intimacy as a means to cultivate a stronger connection, unlock hidden depths of intimacy, and rekindle the flames of passion within your relationship. Discover how this pathway of honest expression can pave the way for a more fulfilling and passionate love life, where pleasure, trust, and genuine connection thrive.

As a relationship coach for 20 years, Shana James has humbly discovered the causes of disconnection in relationships and how to keep the passion alive. Shana has a Master's in psychology, DISC, and Positive Intelligence certifications, and has facilitated decades of Authentic Relating workshops. Shana specializes in helping people after divorce and hosts the Man Alive podcast. She is the author of Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive and her TEDx Talk is "What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women."

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

5:41 Shana James' impactful journey of empowering men in love, sex, intimacy, and connections.

10:57 Expanding the understanding of sex: From fast food to four-dimensional experience.

16:57 Moving from reaction to response: Effective communication about sex for deeper intimacy.

22:23 Building agreements and teamwork for open communication.

26:00 The power of affirmation: Guiding conversations with virtues and requests.

31:40 Shifting from criticism to gratitude.

36:48 Overcoming exhaustion and rebuilding intimacy.

41:20 Embracing non-sexual forms of intimacy.

52:38 Free resources and ways to connect with Shana.

Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal by Shana James (*TEDx on Youtube)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

Websites: shanajamescoaching.com

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Cultivating personal and relational well-being can be a challenging task, especially when faced with negative communication patterns and misunderstandings. However, it is essential for individuals to prioritize their innate mental health and create a bond of love and connection with their partners.

In this episode, Dr. Kalen Hammann and Dr. Jessica Higgins delve into the intricate challenges that couples face while building and sustaining lasting intimacy. They provide valuable insights into transforming negative communication patterns into connected communication. They also shed light on the different phases of therapy, the significance of building positive energy, and the importance of recognizing fear and learning to calm down through relaxation techniques.

After getting a Ph.D. in Social Psychology, working as a psychotherapist, and teaching business executives in over 50 Fortune 500 companies on five continents how to get along better, Dr. Kalen Hammann discovered that NONE of that helped him save his own marriage! He's here to tell us what HAS helped him and his wife and now is helping other couples get off the Road to Divorce and find their way to "Happily Ever After."

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

05:43 From corporate America to intimate relationships: Journey of personal and professional growth.

09:09 Finding hope in the Modello approach: A story of overcoming marriage problems.

12:58 Roger Mills' success story in improving Florida's housing project.

19:02 Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde: Our positive qualities obscured by negative emotions.

24:26 A guide to cultivating personal and relational well-being.

26:01 Settling the conflict and finding insights: A mindful approach to disagreements.

33:26 The power of Long exhales: Calming the nervous system and cultivating inner peace.

35:59 Building positive energy: Turning towards bids and small actions in relationships.

39:55 Recognizing our fear: Understanding the root cause of negative emotions.

46:41 Rediscovering love: Finding your way back to love and happily ever after.

Date Your Mate: How to Save Your Marriage from "The Blahs" and Live Happily Ever After (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Modello: A Story of Hope for the Inner City and Beyond: An Inside-Out Model of Prevention and Resiliency in Action (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

Websites: lessfightingmoreloving.com

Calendly: TalkWithKalen.com

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Relationships are beautiful, intricate webs of connection and understanding, but they can also be challenging to navigate, especially when gender differences come into play.

In this episode, we delved into the complexities of how gender dynamics can impact our interactions with our partners. From the importance of attunement and nurturing attitudes to recognizing and addressing each other's needs, we explored valuable insights that can help foster healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

One of the key takeaways from this discussion was the significance of being in service of the greater good within a relationship. Rather than getting caught up in defending opposing views or trying to win arguments, it's essential to shift our focus towards understanding and supporting each other's deeper needs and desires.

By harnessing this nurturing attitude and seeking to understand our partners on a deeper level, we can build stronger foundations of support and care.

Dr. Ricky Arenson is a highly regarded Endocrinologist specializing in hormones and Geriatrician. He has been happily married to Katherine, an ER specialist and medical inventor, for two decades. Together with their four children, they live in Perth, Western Australia.

Dr. Arenson is a multi-award-winning medical leader, holding the esteemed position of Head of the Department of Geriatric Medicine at Royal Perth Hospital, where he also serves as a Hospital Director. Additionally, he has authored the thought-provoking book, "Women are Superior to Men," and showcases his comedic talents as a freelance comedian.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

6:39 Hormone-related issues can cause relationship problems.

11:38 From teaching doctors to writing a book: The journey of Dr. Ricky Arenson

15:27 Common gender differences that affect relationships and strategies for negotiating conflicts.

22:19 Challenging stereotypes: Embracing individuality within gender differences.

25:57 Fluidity and diverse aspects of gender: Recognizing the masculine and feminine within.

29:58 Evolutionary perspectives and gender roles: Exploring differences and complementary attributes.

35:34 The importance of taking care of each other.

41:40 The importance of timing and understanding what you want.

45:18 Bringing humor and enjoyment into the relationship space.

Women Are Superior to Men: The Real Secret to a Fantastic Marriage, Joyful Parenting & Better Sex! (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Type Of Relationship Support (survey)

Websites: drrickyarenson.com

Facebook: facebook.com/drrickyarenson

Podcast: open.spotify.com/show/1IYdw1kwt8l7CKUaERFiC0

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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In today's fast-paced and overwhelming world, it's no surprise that emotions often become a tangled web, hindering our ability to authentically connect with ourselves and others. With a staggering 90% of people never receiving regular counseling or therapy, the need for accessible tools that can reach a wider audience becomes paramount.

Join us in this thought-provoking episode as we delve into the vital topic of processing emotions for greater clarity and connection. This conversation uncovers the common obstacles individuals face when attempting to navigate their emotions effectively. More importantly, we explore an innovative approach to emotional processing that aims to bridge this gap, allowing individuals to tap into their innate capacity for connection.

Don't miss out—tune in and unlock the keys to processing emotions for a more fulfilling and connected existence.

Drs. Glenn and Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of marriage living disconnected. Dr. Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school and became a Marriage and Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. It wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of their disconnect. From there, Dr. Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes which is a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute tool.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

5:10 The journey to unveiling The Connection Codes Framework.

12:07 The power of vulnerability: Unveiling deeper layers of understanding.

17:22 Glenn and Phyllis' individual journeys within their relationship.

22:06 The importance of emotional breakthroughs.

26:40 The birth of the Core Motion Wheel and its transformative impact.

34:48 The breakthrough: Reversing disconnection to foster connection.

37:53 Real-life application and global impact of emotional tools.

44:37 The importance of processing emotions for regulation and well-being.

Connection Codes (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Type Of Relationship Support (survey)

Websites: https://www.connectioncodes.co/

Podcast: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/connection-codes/id1613594520 (*Apple podcast)

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Intimacy in a relationship is a beautiful and fulfilling experience, but finding harmony between a deep connection and maintaining a sense of self is a delicate dance that many couples strive to master. It's a journey of self-discovery and growth that requires navigating the fine line between connection and autonomy.

In this thought-provoking conversation, relationship experts Amber Price and Dr. Jessica Higgins, unravel the complexities of this subject, offering valuable insights and practical advice for individuals seeking to preserve their individuality while fostering a deep bond with their partner.

The discussion delved into the concept of emotional fusion, sharing personal stories and exploring strategies to break free from its grip. With a focus on open communication, self-awareness, and conscious decision-making, this conversation provides a roadmap for cultivating a strong sense of self within the context of a loving and intimate relationship.

Amber Price is a relationship expert, educator, and researcher who teaches people to build better relationships without losing who they are. She is currently finishing a PhD in Marriage, Family, and Human Development, and she's also a mom to four boys and wife to a chemistry professor who loves baking and eating cookies and drinking hot chocolate.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

6:32 Amber's journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

9:07 Unpacking grumpiness: Overwhelm, exhaustion, and the need for self-care.

10:51 Balancing relatedness and autonomy.

14:23 The role of relationship security in developing autonomy.

17:07 Challenging cultural expectations particularly among women or individuals who identify as women.

19:34 The fine line between conscious choice and unhealthy pressure in caregiving.

23:32 Accessing conscious choice: Stepping back and examining priorities.

25:26 Recognizing and challenging unconscious patterns for personal growth.

30:40 Rediscovering authenticity: Exploring personal values and joy.

37:21 Connecting through shared experiences: The power of authenticity.

41:14 Finding balance and cultivating emotional autonomy.

Reclaiming ME (mini-course)

Authentically YOU (course)

Type Of Relationship Support (survey)

Websites: amberaprice.com

Facebook: facebook.com/amber.a.price.authenticallyyou

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Military couples face a unique set of challenges that can put their relationships to the test. From long deployments and frequent relocations to the emotional toll of separation and the weight of responsibility, they often find themselves in situations where maintaining connection and emotional well-being become paramount. But despite the extraordinary circumstances they face, military couples exemplify unwavering strength, commitment, and love.

In this episode, Bree Carroll and Dr. Jessica Higgins explored how to maintain a healthy relationship amidst the demands and stress levels experienced by these couples, highlighting the remarkable resilience, intentional efforts, and unwavering commitment demonstrated in their quest to nurture love and sustain a thriving partnership.

Bree Carroll, military spouse, event strategist, and speaker, transforms spaces and hearts through experience design and purposeful planning. As a voice in the military community, she holds the title as 2020-2021 AFI Air Force Spouse of the Year and advocates to strengthen military marriages. Bree is the founder of Military Marriage Day, a national holiday celebrated annually on August 14th.  More than a holiday, this movement supports military families with resources through its app, insight with the Hearts & Stripes Podcast, and connection through its annual events and virtual programming. Bree's mission is to encourage and equip couples, especially our service couples, so that they may intentionally thrive in their marriage relationship.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

8:31 Understanding the unique challenges of military couples.

16:47 The importance of strengthening military marriages and supporting service families.

25:07 Proactive approach to strengthening military marriages and providing resources.

30:11 The power of storytelling and proactive support in military marriages.

35:59 Insights from a military marriage study: Challenges and hope.

42:35 The power of celebration: Elevating Military Marriage Day.

49:52 Taking action and spreading hope.

Military Marriage Day (*Apple Appstore) (app)

Type Of Relationship Support (survey)

Websites: militarymarriageday.com

Facebook: facebook.com/militarymarriageday

YouTube: youtube.com/@militarymarriageday

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Ever feel like you know all the "right" things to do in a relationship, but when the moment comes, your body is flooded with stress, your voice tightens, or you just shut down? Many of us long for deep connection and trust, but when life gets real, our nervous system can hijack our best intentions. The invisible forces of old wounds, protective patterns, and the lightning-fast reactions of our bodies can make true safety in love feel just out of reach.

In this episode, you'll discover practical ways to bridge the gap between knowing and feeling safe and connected with your partner. Drawing on insights from attachment and polyvagal theory, somatic psychology, and real-world relationship experiences, the conversation sheds light on what "embodied safety" truly means—and why it's the foundation for intimacy, trust, and even passion. Listeners will come away with tools to notice their body's cues, co-regulate with a partner, and develop relational intelligence that supports lasting, resilient love—even when challenges arise.

Aubrey Aust is a writer and master's candidate at NYU studying relational psychology and philosophy. Her work explores how emotional safety, embodiment, and relational intelligence shape intimacy and trust. Drawing from attachment theory, polyvagal theory, and somatic psychology, Aubrey helps individuals and couples understand how to build safety in relationships through both the mind and the body. She is passionate about making complex psychological insights practical, soulful, and deeply human.

08:38 How our bodies subconsciously sense safety or danger in relationships.

10:32 The importance of nonverbal cues and body sensations in emotional communication.

16:50 Identifying and changing self-protective behaviors that block intimacy.

19:10 Accessing vulnerability for co-regulation.

21:54 How consistency shapes true relational growth.

26:32 Navigating the tension between meeting others' needs and self-care in daily life.

28:08 How curiosity about intense emotions can help heal shame and estrangement.

32:04 How understanding core needs brings freedom and new options in relationships.

35:17 Rewiring your reactions: How noticing your nervous system transforms relationships.

38:39 How small shifts in attention can instantly calm your nervous system.

41:30 Unlocking the power to heal and evolve through relationship challenges.

• Take conscious pauses to slow down and deepen your breath, helping you regulate stress and become more present in relationships.

• Practice tuning into your bodily sensations during interactions—notice tension, breath patterns, or relaxation—to better understand your felt sense of safety.

• Build somatic awareness by gently observing your physical reactions when you feel unsafe or activated, such as tightness, speeding up, or shutting down.

• Create check-in rituals with your partner to attune to each other's nervous system cues, like noticing changes in body language, tone, or energy.

• Normalize and expect moments of rupture or conflict, and view them as opportunities to build relational trust through repair and open communication.

• Get curious about your protective patterns (such as people-pleasing, avoidance, or hyper-independence) and consider when they may no longer serve intimacy.

• Use subtle self-regulation techniques in social situations, like grounding your feet, gently pressing your fingers together, or scanning the room to calm your nervous system.

• When you feel dysregulated in a conversation, ask clarifying questions or take a brief pause to gather yourself instead of reacting from a place of activation.

It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Social Baseline Theory (National Library of Medicine article)

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) (Psychology Today)

Polyvegal Theory (Polyvagal Institute)

ERP 261: How To Strengthen Your Relationship From A Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges

ERP 276: Understanding The Need For Both Self-Regulation And Co-Regulation In Relationship – An interview With Deb Dana

Evolve in Love (program)

Evolve In Love Discovery Session with Dr. Jessica Higgins (Acuity booking link)

Websites: aubreyaust.com

YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCozW2k08GkMQbjs1vyN_Fkw

Instagram: www.instagram.com/aubrey__aust

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/aubrey-aust-8b7744174 

Newsletter: aubreyaust.com/newsletter

Relationships often confront us with moments of uncertainty, where conflicting emotions and wavering decisions leave us feeling overwhelmed. But, what if we could view ambivalence as an opportunity for personal growth, self-discovery, and empowered decision-making?

In this enlightening discussion with relationship expert Rachel Zamore and Dr. Jessica Higgins, we explored profound insights into navigating the intricate landscape of ambivalence in relationships. From recognizing the significance of self-care to cultivating compassion, this episode provides a roadmap for embracing ambivalence and making impactful relationship choices with clarity and confidence.

If you currently stand at the crossroads of a significant relationship decision, unsure of which path to choose, join us on this transformative journey. Together, we will uncover empowering principles that guide you towards embracing ambivalence and making choices that honor your personal growth, authenticity, and overall well-being.

Rachel Zamore is a leading practitioner in discernment counseling, a process that helps couples on the brink gain confidence and clarity about the next best steps for their marriage. Rachel's compassionate, nonjudgmental approach empowers honest self-reflection and welcomes each person right where they are. Drawing from 15 years as an integrative psychotherapist, relationship guide (Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy & Discernment Counseling) and trainer, Rachel coaches individuals and couples online and at private retreats worldwide.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

5:55 Igniting a passion: Rachel Zamore's journey to empower couples in ambiguous relationships

10:19 Rachel's revolutionary approach to couples in crisis.

12:31 Common mistakes in couples therapy unveiled.

16:51 Appreciating ambivalence and embracing complexity in relationship dynamics.

20:39 The transformative power of providing a supportive container for couples grappling with difficult and anxiety-provoking issues.

25:05 Unpacking the cumulative effect of ambivalence in relationships.

30:26 Discernment counseling: Differentiating hard and soft reasons, and individual growth.

35:59 About Rachel's intensive sessions and retreats, individual and relational growth.

39:49 Outcomes and statistics of discernment counseling.

45:11 Encouragement and advice for finding clarity and well-being.

Type Of Relationship Support (survey)

Websites: relationshipcrossroads.com | innerwell.org

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/rachelzamore

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins

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If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

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Building a strong and secure connection within a romantic relationship is a goal shared by many. We strive for harmony, understanding, and a deep bond that withstands the test of time. But with human nature being what it is - aggressive, warlike, moody, and easily influenced - it can be a challenging task.

So, how do we achieve this level of connection? Is it about finding the perfect partner or following a set of rules?

In this episode, Dr. Stan Tatkin and Dr. Jessica Higgins embark on an enlightening exploration of human behavior within relationships shedding light on key elements that foster a strong and secure connection. Join us as we delve into the strategies and insights that can help you and your partner work together to create a solid foundation of love, trust, and mutual support.

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the upcoming, In Each Other's Care.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

6:01 In Each Other's Care: Practical Guidance on Applying the Principles of Secure Functioning

10:56 Normalizing stressful situations and creating purpose-centered relationships.

15:36 Preserving relationships through proactive engagement.

26:05 Creating purposeful relationships: moving beyond psycho-biology to action.

30:37 Embracing a collaborative stance: Exploring partner's needs and approaching conversations with mutual interest.

Type Of Relationship Support (survey)

In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Learn How to Interact When Conflicts Arise (excerpt)

We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Relationship Rx (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

ERP 291: How "Love Is Not Enough" – An Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

Websites: thepactinstitute.com

Facebook: facebook.com/drstantatkin

Twitter: twitter.com/DrStanTatkin

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/stan-tatkin

Instagram: instagram.com/drstantatkin

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins

Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship 

Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins 

Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/

Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation 

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins 

Twitter: @DrJessHiggins 

Website: drjessicahiggins.com  

Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com

If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. 

Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. 

Thank you!  

*With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

You've probably heard the well-meaning relationship advice to "learn to compromise." It seems like a reasonable solution to navigate differences and find middle ground. But what if I told you that this popular advice might be doing more harm than good?

In this thought-provoking discussion with Dr. Jessica Higgins and Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, we explore why the conventional wisdom of compromise may not be the ultimate solution for relationship harmony.

If you're tired of settling for less and yearn for a relationship that thrives on passion, understanding, and unwavering closeness, then this episode is an absolute must-listen. Prepare to embark on a journey towards uncompromising intimacy, where compromise takes a backseat, and authentic connection takes center stage.

Known as "The Intimacy Doctor," Alexandra Stockwell, MD, is an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching ambitious, successful couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships. She is the bestselling author of "Uncompromising Intimacy," host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program.

Dr. Alexandra has been featured in the Huffington Post, Rolling Stone, USAToday, Cosmopolitan, Business Insider, Thriveglobal, Mindbodygreen, FOX NEWS, and many more.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

5:17 Dr. Stockwell's personal journey that led her to focus on relationships and intimacy.

12:46 The significance of personal transformation and setting positive examples for others in fostering healthy relationships and self-discovery.

17:21 Challenging the notion of compromise in marriage: Discovering a vibrant and satisfying intimacy.

27:41 Uncompromising intimacy: The Key to vibrant and fulfilling relationships.

32:53 The impact of unspoken compromises: Nurturing vulnerable honesty for deeper connection.

38:40 Embracing authenticity and empowering relationships through uncompromising intimacy.

51:11 Cultivating sensory awareness and unleashing the power of pleasure in intimacy.

56:07 Connect with Dr. Stockwell and learn more about the tools and principles for a committed partnership and creating lasting and fulfilling connections.

Uncompromising Intimacy: Turn Your Unfulfilling Marriage into a Deeply Satisfying, Passionate Partnership (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

The Intimate Marriage Podcast (*Spotify link) (podcast)

Aligned and Hot Marriage (program)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

Websites: alexandrastockwell.com

TikTok: tiktok.com/@intimacydoctor

YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UC_NFfwXTz2n6C_2QdmrfEVg

Instagram: instagram.com/intimacydoctor

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins

Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship 

Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins 

Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/

Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation 

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins 

Twitter: @DrJessHiggins 

Website: drjessicahiggins.com  

Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com

If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the "Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins" button here. 

Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship. 

Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here. 

Thank you!  

*With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.