Welcome to the first ever episode of Dysfunctional.

In this episode I wanted to introduce you to exactly how this podcast is going to work. Me going off on different tangents with no plan whatsoever. It's like a 45 minute personal voice note from my chaotic mind. In future, expect topics of discussion but for now, welcome to the wonderful world of me.

Oh and here is what AI makes of it all;

Welcome to Dysfunctional: Embracing Authenticity and Fear

In the inaugural episode of 'Dysfunctional,' Josh Connolly shares his journey into podcasting, emphasizing authenticity and embracing fear. He discusses his approach to balancing overthinking with action, the performance aspect of social media, and his desire for longer-form content to express himself more fully. Josh delves into his critiques of the wellness industry, his personal battles with validation, and his quest for living in the moment. He explains the philosophy behind his practices, including his experiences with addiction and public speaking, and opens up about his complex relationship with spirituality and social media. This first episode sets the tone for a raw, unfiltered exploration of Josh's mind, promising weekly insights and authentic conversations.

00:00 Welcome to Dysfunctional: The First Episode

00:56 Embracing Fear and Authenticity

02:23 The Purpose of This Podcast

04:38 Challenges in the Wellness Industry

08:15 The Role of Social Media

09:16 Personal Journey and Validation

30:52 Living in the Moment

42:52 Closing Thoughts and Future Plans

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I feel like the podcast has arrived with this episode. I go deep on the topics in the title and I think you are going to love it. Here is what AI said about it. - 

In this episode, Josh dives deep into his personal struggles and experiences surrounding people-pleasing, confrontation, and emotional intimacy. Despite technical difficulties, he remains authentic, discussing the impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships and self-awareness. Engaging with his audience, Josh answers questions about inner healing and dealing with toxic parental relationships. The discussion spans across various topics, including the mental health system, addiction, societal impacts on family dynamics, and practical steps for emotional well-being. Join the conversation as Josh navigates the complexities of healing from past wounds and finding balance in emotional intimacy.

02:47 Taking a Moment to Breathe

04:17 Discussing People Pleasing and Fear of Confrontation

07:47 Emotional Intimacy and Vulnerability

09:46 Impact of Childhood on Adult Behavior

19:43 Systemic Issues and Hypercapitalism

29:40 Skepticism Towards Media

35:24 Questioning Groupthink and Embracing Uncertainty

36:05 Exploring the Link Between Childhood and Addiction

38:25 Understanding Cravings and Addiction

41:24 Personal Struggles and Coping Mechanisms

44:06 Answering Listener Questions

50:26 Inner Child Work and Spiritual Experiences

59:04 Concluding Thoughts and Call to Action

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Once again I go deep on this one. The main topics are role models in the mens space and why young boys seems drawn to Andrew Tate. Then I look at why I say 'toxic parents' before the questions...there is of course loads in between. Here's what AI makes of it all -

In Episode 3 of 'Dysfunctional,' host Josh Connolly delves into various significant topics including the complexities of mental health, the power of the mind-body connection, and the profound influence of toxic family dynamics. Josh reflects on the differences between presenting struggles authentically and toxic positivity. He shares personal anecdotes about coping with pain, societal expectations on men, and the importance of role models. Josh also discusses the impact of estrangement from toxic parents and the loneliness it can cause. Answering listener questions, he offers insights on navigating familial relationships while maintaining personal well-being. Tune in for a raw and deep exploration of these pressing issues.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

01:53 The Struggles of Living with Pain

06:09 The Power of Mind-Body Connection

08:24 The Role of Positive Self-Talk

09:58 Western Medicine vs. Holistic Approaches

13:42 Celebrating Uncommon Man and Role Models

16:52 The Impact of Andrew Tate and Male Role Models

20:37 Navigating Male Identity and Societal Expectations

24:16 The Importance of Honest Conversations

30:44 Creating Authentic Spaces

31:31 Embracing All Parts of Yourself

31:57 The Struggle with Online Perception

33:17 Contradicting Emotions and Truths

35:19 Understanding Toxicity

39:02 The Impact of Toxic Parents

45:00 Navigating Family Estrangement

53:00 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections

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I said I would bring you my honest energy each time and I definitely do that here. You are gunna get to know me on deep level if you listen in to these every week that's for sure. An emotional one! Here is what our good friend AI has to say - 

Finding Belonging: Breathwork, Community and Authenticity | Episode 4

In this episode, Josh Connolly reflects on his first 'Belong' in-person event, discussing its significance, the importance of morning routines, and personal authenticity. He shares insights on social media pressures, the essence of genuine community building, and the emotional journey of creating supportive spaces. Josh also opens up about his past struggles and how events like 'Belong' aim to make wellness accessible and real. Join Josh as he navigates mental health, sobriety, and the profound impact of breathwork in fostering connection and understanding.

00:00 Introduction and Energy Update

00:49 Morning Routine and Mental Health

03:09 Social Media and Authenticity

06:45 Belong Event Recap

07:33 Emotional Impact and Human Connection

08:13 Challenges in the Wellness Industry

11:41 Community and Accessibility

27:15 Personal Reflections and Future Plans

33:03 Wrapping Up and Final Thoughts

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I have fully reignited my passion for supporting the plight of children of alcoholics and I dive into why in this episode. But this not before talking about spiritual bypassing and the problems it causes! 

If you are impacted by parental drinking you can find support at Nacoa.org.uk 

Here is what AI made of it all - 

Understanding Children of Alcoholics | Toxic Relationships & Recovery

In this episode, Josh Connolly discusses the impacts of growing up with alcoholic parents, the dynamics of emotional abuse, and the journey towards healing. Josh shares personal insights on the challenges children of alcoholics face, the complexities of forgiveness, and the importance of addressing the truth of one's experiences. He critiques certain spiritual and therapeutic approaches while emphasizing the need for comprehensive support for those affected by a parent's addiction. Join Josh as he navigates through addiction awareness, the stigma surrounding it, and the ongoing need for better conversations about recovery and healing.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Setup

00:31 AI Picture Controversy

01:47 Reposting the Toxic Parents Reel

02:44 Understanding Toxic Parents

05:30 Children of Alcoholics

07:06 Personal Reflections on Addiction

07:34 Critique of Online Gurus

09:10 The Struggle of Forgiveness

10:38 Spiritual Bypassing and Abuse

17:50 Challenges of Children of Alcoholics

28:27 The Need for Children’s Recovery

37:28 Conclusion and Future Plans

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There wasn’t going to be an episode this week but I was inspired by a conversation around difficult relationships with food and so here we are. 

Here is what ai makes of it all - 

Combating Food Addiction: My Journey from Alcohol to Sugar and Finding Balance

In this special Christmas podcast episode, I open up about my struggles with food addiction and binge eating, particularly during the holiday season. Inspired by a conversation in my online community, I discuss how my difficult relationship with food began when I quit drinking 12.5 years ago, and how it replaced alcohol as a comfort mechanism. I delve into the cycles of binge eating and calorie counting, and how both have affected my body image and self-esteem. I also share how I found a way to manage my food addiction through abstinence from refined sugar, resulting in significant positive changes in my life. Join me as I speak from the heart about overcoming addiction and striving for a healthier relationship with food.

00:00 Introduction and Christmas Day Reflections

01:22 Struggles with Motivation and Food Addiction

01:52 Personal Journey with Food Addiction

03:28 Binge Eating and Shame Cycles

09:17 Calorie Counting and Control Issues

16:42 Quitting Refined Sugar

23:28 Reflections and Advice

26:15 Conclusion and Holiday Wishes

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As promised I chat about the reality of Christmas for a lot of people but not before talking about debating on LinkedIn and the impact it had on me and why.

Also dive into to some toxic parent questions you sent in. And now here's what AI made of it all -

In this episode of The Dysfunctional Podcast, the host dives into various topics just before the Christmas holidays. He starts by discussing the controversial feedback on his podcast's picture, explaining his reasons for keeping it despite mixed opinions. Transitioning to a more serious topic, he reflects on holiday struggles, especially for those with difficult family dynamics. The host also shares his recent experience debating on LinkedIn about misinformation in podcasts, highlighting the importance of skepticism and personal research. Emphasizing self-awareness, he talks about personal triggers from his past and the need for open, respectful debates. Finally, he tackles listener questions about parental enmeshment, childhood dysfunction, attracting toxic partners, and maintaining self-worth as an adult. This episode offers a mix of personal reflections, practical advice, and thoughtful insights into navigating emotional and social challenges during the festive season.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Overview

03:36 Debate on LinkedIn and Misinformation

06:33 Personal Reflections and Childhood Experiences

18:26 Navigating Christmas and Family Dynamics

30:39 Q&A Session: Addressing Listener Questions

41:44 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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In this episode I list the 5 things I would change if I could wave a magic wand as we head into 2025. I also answer a couple of questions on toxic parents.

Here's what AI thinks about it -

In the final podcast of 2024, Josh Connolly begins with a calming breathwork exercise to address technical difficulties and set the tone. He reflects on the significance of community, especially how it has deteriorated over the years due to the loss of key social structures like pubs, community centers, and religious gatherings. Josh underscores the crucial role that emotionally available adults play in the healthy development of children. He delves into the over pathologization of mental health struggles, emphasizing the need to address social and systemic issues rather than just individualizing problems. Curiosity is championed over absolutes, advocating for open-mindedness and discussion in today's polarized world. Josh also stresses the importance of prioritizing children in societal decisions and highlights how accountability is essential for individual and communal healing. The episode concludes with Josh answering listener questions about handling contact with toxic parents and the use of terms like 'toxic' and 'narcissist.'

00:00 Introduction and Breathing Exercise

01:25 Understanding the Nervous System and Thoughts

06:10 The Importance of Community

18:32 Over-Pathologization of Struggles

24:34 Promoting Curiosity Over Absolutes

30:21 Prioritizing Children in Society

32:34 Promoting Accountability and Addressing Dysfunction

36:17 Q&A: Navigating Toxic Relationships

42:17 Conclusion and Future Plans

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This one was a tricky one to tackle and I could feel my anxiety throughout the episode which means it was a needed conversation. Buckle up for this one, because you might not agree with a lot of my points! Here is what AI thought about it - 

Are We Talking About Mental Health Too Much? - Exploring the Overwhelm and Societal Impact

In Episode 11, host Josh Connolly delves into the controversial question: Are we discussing mental health too excessively? Josh shares his personal experiences with overwhelm, anxiety, and hypervigilance. He also highlights the rise in self-diagnosis and the potential pitfalls of over-medicalizing everyday emotional struggles. The discussion touches on societal factors, the influence of pharmaceutical companies, and the importance of resilience. Josh emphasizes the need to balance emotional awareness with practical life strategies while questioning how current systems handle mental health and children's needs.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Kickoff

00:41 Personal Overwhelm and Anxiety

02:13 Hyperawareness and Internal Reflection

05:52 Critique of Social Media and Generational Bullying

11:01 Tony Blair's View on Mental Health

31:41 The Rise of Self-Diagnosis

35:17 Arguments For and Against Pathologizing Mental Health

46:46 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

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As I hit the 10th episode, I have decided to go out of mine and your comfort zone even more. No more playing safe. I look at what's happening culturally with DEI and peoples hysteria around misinformation before a deeeeep chat on scapegoats. Here is what AI thought of it all -

Embracing Uncomfortable Conversations:

In the milestone 10th episode of the 'Dysfunctional' podcast, host Josh Connolly reflects on his journey so far, revealing his desire to tackle more challenging and controversial topics. He discusses his views on diversity, equity, and inclusion (DE&I) initiatives scaling back in major corporations, the role of hysteria in society, and the importance of allowing open dialogue about diverse opinions. Josh underscores the significance of scapegoats in fostering societal change and delves deeply into the dynamics of power structures, both in family and societal contexts. The episode aims to encourage critical thinking and honest conversations around complex issues, urging listeners to continuously seek the truth, even when it means stepping out of their comfort zones.

00:00 Celebrating Episode 10: A New Direction

02:28 Diving into DE&I: What's Happening?

07:35 The Problem with Censorship and Misinformation

22:26 The Role of Scapegoats in Society

24:36 Understanding Power Dynamics and Abuse

44:19 Historical Scapegoats: Lessons from the Past

48:04 Final Thoughts and Reflections

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I have wanted to do a bit of a deep dive into forgiveness for a long time and so I am glad to be able to get to do it today. I have some strong opinions on this and having done a little bit of research, my opinions have only got stronger. If you feel like forgiveness is unfairly pushed on you, this one is for you. Here is what AI thinks about it all. 

Navigating Forgiveness: Exploring Accountability, Family Dynamics, and Toxic Relationships

In this episode, Josh Connolly dives deep into the complexities of navigating forgiveness, particularly within the context of toxic and abusive relationships. He discusses the unavoidable level of performance in content creation, the influence of social media, and the impact of negative comments on mental health. Josh also engages in a heated exchange with a commenter, exploring the generational differences in attitudes towards family dynamics. He stresses the importance of self-forgiveness, the historical roots and evolution of forgiveness, and highlights the need for accountability over forced forgiveness, especially in the context of parental abuse.

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Mood

01:22 Navigating Online Interactions and Trolls

03:05 Engaging with Toxic Comments

14:37 The Concept of Forgiveness

18:19 Historical Perspectives on Forgiveness

20:43 Forgiveness in Religious Contexts

30:46 The Complexity of Forgiveness in Abuse

36:32 Final Thoughts on Forgiveness and Accountability

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My daughter is off school sick, so we are coming from my living room with little planning time so I used it to answer a bunch of your questions and there was some deep ones! There's also a bit of insight into my scattered mind and even stop to take some breaths at some point. Here is what AI made of it all -

In this episode of 'Dysfunctional,' Josh Connolly addresses common questions about growing up with toxic parents, the impacts of emotional abuse, and the complexities of estrangement. Filmed from his living room due to personal circumstances, Josh offers insights into dealing with self-hatred, the need to earn love, being the family scapegoat, and the concept of living grief. He also discusses practical steps to avoid becoming like a toxic parent by focusing on accountability. Join Josh as he candidly shares his thoughts and provides heartfelt advice for those navigating their own dysfunctional family dynamics.

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Setup

01:22 Answering Listener Questions on Toxic Parents

03:02 Understanding Toxic Parental Behavior

07:00 Dealing with Conditional Love and Manipulation

09:56 Coping with Emotional Abuse and Self-Doubt

19:53 Living Grief and Going No Contact

30:38 Final Thoughts and Conclusion

#toxicparents

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You can’t co-parent with a toxic person and it’s time we said that out loud.

In this episode, I’m naming what so many people live through in silence: post-separation abuse, control through communication, smear campaigns, financial manipulation, and the emotional destruction caused by toxic exes who weaponise the system.

I start by reading a real-life UK court case where a mother was forced to promote contact with her abusive ex, despite proven findings of sexual and domestic abuse. From there, I dive deep into what it actually looks like to parent alongside someone who uses your child as a pawn to keep control of your life.

If you're in it you’re not crazy. You're not alone. And no, it’s not “just a difficult co-parenting situation.” It’s abuse.

I’ll talk you through the signs, the tactics they use, and most importantly: what you can do about it. From the myth of co-parenting to parallel parenting and grey rocking this one is for every parent still trying to find peace in the chaos.

Parenting communication tool mentioned in the episode - https://www.neutrily.com/

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Alright, here we go... In this episode, I’m diving into what I believe might just be the most important conversation we need to be having right now...how do we actually change the system?

I talk about how we’re all living in a society that mirrors the same abusive dynamics so many of us grew up with in our families. We’re divided, disconnected, and constantly fighting each other which just helps those in power stay exactly where they are.

This one’s about community. Real community. Not the online echo chambers where everyone has to agree to belong , I’m talking about old school, village-style connection, where we come together because we’re different, not in spite of it.

I unpack how we ended up so fragmented, why disagreement shouldn’t mean disconnection, and why true change will never happen if we keep shouting sideways instead of looking up.

It’s not a polished TED Talk but it's me, raw and thinking out loud. Crunchy in places. Sweary in others. But hopefully, real enough to get us thinking.

Let’s start a revolution. Together.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Theme

00:45 The Family System and Society

02:08 Community as a Solution

05:37 The Evolution of Community

12:50 Challenges in Modern Communities

22:16 The Power Imbalance in Society

31:16 Call to Action: Rebuilding Community

36:48 Conclusion and Future Plans

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In this 20th episode of Dysfunctional, I’m going in on everything that’s wrong with modern-day spirituality.

This isn’t an anti-spiritual rant — I have a deep spiritual life myself — but I’m calling out what I see far too often: bypassing disguised as healing, whitewashed practices stripped of their roots, and a new wave of spiritual dogma that looks more like performance than truth.

We’ll talk about the misuse of words like “Aho” and “Namaste,” the pressure to forgive even when it’s harmful, and how healing spaces are starting to feel more like exclusive clubs than grounded communities.

And most importantly, I’ll share what I believe true spirituality actually is — messy, embodied, honest, and deeply human.

If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t belong in modern spiritual spaces, this episode might explain why.

Let’s pull it apart together.

00:00 Introduction and Future Plans

01:03 Diving into New Age Spirituality

05:08 Spiritual Bypassing and Emotional Complexity

13:41 Cultural Appropriation in Spiritual Practices

26:56 Toxic Positivity and Dogma in Spirituality

31:01 Defining True Spirituality

34:29 Final Reflections and Call to Action

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Not my longest podcast ever but boy do I go in! I am passionate about this and challenging the abusive system is my main passion from now on

Tackling Systemic Issues: Conversations on Economic Inequality and Mental Health

In this episode, Josh Connolly dives deep into systemic issues, focusing on economic inequality, mental health, and societal structures. He reflects on Gary Stevenson's insights from the 'Steven Bartlett Podcast,' discussing how the system is rigged against the working class and the role of socioeconomic factors in mental health challenges. Josh also critiques the notion that individual effort alone can overcome systemic barriers and emphasizes the need for collective action and structural change. He underscores the importance of community, political awareness, and collective healing in challenging and potentially transforming the system.

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast

00:26 Gary Stevenson and Economic Inequality

02:15 Mental Health and Systemic Issues

05:59 The Role of Power and Systemic Gaslighting

09:36 Critique of Individualistic Solutions

15:17 Simon Squibb's Reaction and Systemic Abuse

19:39 Economic Inequality and Hard Work

20:33 Challenging the Broken System

22:04 Historical Examples of Overcoming Oppression

26:25 The Role of Community in Healing

30:08 Systemic Gaslighting and Its Impact

32:24 Using Platforms for Change

35:38 Final Thoughts on Rebellion and Change

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Diving into your questions on toxic parents and dysfunctional relationships. Here is what AI thought -

In this bite-sized episode of Dysfunctional, Josh Connolly tackles listener questions about dealing with toxic parents, finding emotional independence, and navigating complex family dynamics. Josh offers practical advice on embracing one's true self, handling smear campaigns, and the challenges of caring for abusive parents. He also touches upon the difficulties of gratitude and finding personal worth. Tune in for an insightful discussion on healing from a dysfunctional childhood while maintaining personal boundaries and integrity.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:39 Upcoming Busy Week

01:52 Answering Listener Questions

02:20 Emotional Independence from Toxic Parents

05:10 Compassion vs. Consequence

08:20 Suppressing True Self in Relationships

14:31 Unconditional Love and Self-Worth

16:38 Caring for Abusive Parents

19:00 Struggles with Gratitude

21:18 Exposing Abusive Parents

24:09 Being the Only One Who Sees the Truth

27:27 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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I am highly sensitive person so this subject is definitely a passion one for me. I get into in this episode and y passion clearly shines through. 

Here is what ai thought - 

The Strength and Struggle of Highly Sensitive People | Episode 17

In this episode, Josh Connolly dives deeply into the topic of highly sensitive people (HSPs) and the unique traits and challenges they face. He shares his personal experiences and beliefs about the genetic and environmental factors that contribute to high sensitivity. Josh also talks about the distinction between sensitivity and being labeled 'disordered' by society. With reflections on the strengths of HSPs, like deep empathy and heightened intuition, and the cons, such as overstimulation and emotional exhaustion, this episode provides valuable insights. Additionally, Josh touches on how learning breathwork and setting boundaries can help HSPs manage their sensitivity. He addresses listener questions about complex feelings towards toxic family members and gives advice on trusting one's own emotions.

00:00 Introduction and Recording Setup

00:42 Discussing Highly Sensitive People

01:45 Deep Breathing Exercise

03:35 The Importance of Community

03:56 Exploring Sensitivity and Trauma

09:07 Personal Experiences with Sensitivity

16:57 Understanding Sensory Processing Sensitivity

26:40 Taking Responsibility for Your Emotions

26:53 Biological Basis of Sensitivity

27:23 Sensitivity in Animals and Evolution

28:58 Modern Society and Sensitivity

31:02 Pros and Cons of High Sensitivity

34:56 Understanding Empaths and Boundaries

38:20 Breathwork and Somatic Practices

44:05 Summary and Personal Reflections

45:49 Addressing Audience Questions

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After a post online about enabling therapists sparked some really powerful conversations, I had to take the opportunity to do a deep dive into therapy as we know it. Hold onto your hats because this one gets crunchy. 

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The Complex World of Therapy: Pros, Cons, and My Personal Journey

In this episode, Josh Connolly explores the intricate topic of therapy, inspired by a recent post he shared on social media. Josh discusses his own experiences with therapy, including both positive breakthroughs and negative encounters. He delves into the different types of therapy, such as IFS and CBT, and offers a brief history of one-on-one therapy, citing figures like Freud and Carl Rogers. He also tackles the notion that some therapists may be unhealed, abusive, or driven by inappropriate incentives like money. Josh emphasizes the need for open conversations about the complex dynamics of therapy, regulation challenges, and the importance of finding the right therapist for each individual. Ultimately, he urges viewers to be careful, thoughtful, and empowered in their approach to seeking and participating in therapy.

00:00 Introduction and Recording Assurance

01:04 Today's Topic: Therapy

02:02 Personal Experiences with Therapy

07:05 History and Evolution of Therapy

09:33 Concerns and Criticisms of Therapy

18:25 Therapist Misconduct and Abuse

25:29 Regulation and Credentialism in Therapy

39:27 Final Thoughts and Summary

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This episode is a deep dive into gaslighting, its origins, whether it is overused and why it is such an awful form of abuse. Here is what AI makes of it - 

In this episode, Josh Connolly discusses the concept of gaslighting, exploring its history, origins from a 1938 play, and its use in abusive relationships. He emphasises the importance of recognizing and understanding gaslighting, detailing its characteristics and impact on victims, particularly in toxic family dynamics. Josh also shares personal updates, including the launch of his online program Deeper you, upcoming breathwork sessions, and his book release in the United States. He provides practical advice for those experiencing gaslighting, encouraging them to trust their bodies and seek support.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates

00:40 Launching Deeper you and Upcoming Events

01:06 Introduction to Gaslighting

03:51 Origins of the Term 'Gaslighting'

05:34 Gaslighting Tactics and Effects

13:59 Recognizing and Responding to Gaslighting

27:32 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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I sat down and shared my experience of the a historic moment for children of alcoholics everywhere! 

Here’s what AI makes of it - 

Walking for Change: A 92-Mile Journey to Downing Street

Join Josh Connolly as he recounts his incredible three-day journey, walking 92 miles with over 215,000 steps to raise awareness for children affected by parental alcoholism. Starting from his home and culminating at 10 Downing Street, Josh shares the physical and emotional challenges he faced, the inspiration behind the walk, and the overwhelming support he received. He also highlights the pivotal moments, such as meeting policy advisors and gaining media attention, that made this more than just a walk. This episode isn't just about the steps taken, but the strides made towards real change and supporting those who need it most.

00:00 Introduction and Overview of the Walk

01:05 Returning Home and Recovery

03:15 The Idea and Planning Phase

08:24 The Start of the Journey

13:46 Challenges and Realizations

22:30 Struggling Through the Pain

22:56 Reaching Windsor and the Nacoa Social

24:44 The Final Day: Pushing to Parliament

26:54 Entering Downing Street

30:30 Meeting the Policy Advisors

34:23 Reflecting on the Journey

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It is coaweek - a week to raise awareness for children of alcoholics and as a proud ambassador for Nacoa I am shouting about it all week. This episode I dive into 21 traits of a child of an alcoholic. 

You can find Nacoa here - Nacoa.org.uk

To Sponser me go here - https://www.justgiving.com/page/josh-connolly-2

And for deeper you it is here - https://www.joshconnolly.co.uk/deeper-you

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Back from Illness: Raising Awareness for Children of Alcoholics

In this episode, Josh Connolly returns after recovering from a week-and-a-half-long illness. He begins with an apology for missing last week's podcast and announces changes to the podcast cover picture for future episodes. Josh also talks about the upcoming American release of his book 'It's Them, Not You: How to Break Free from Toxic Parents and Reclaim Your Story' and his online program DeeperU, aimed at fostering joy and reconnecting with one's inner child. He dedicates this week's podcast to Children of Alcoholics Week, sharing his long-standing involvement with NACOA (National Association for Children of Alcoholics) and raising awareness about the lack of specific governmental support for these children. Josh discusses his planned 93-mile walk from Wiltshire to London, delivering a letter to 10 Downing Street, and attending a Parliamentary meeting to advocate for change. Highlighting 21 traits common among children with alcoholic parents, Josh emphasizes the need for specialized support and recounts personal experiences and emotional challenges faced throughout his life. He concludes with a call to action for better resources and support for children affected by parental drinking.

00:00 Introduction and Apology

01:18 Podcast Picture Change

02:37 Book Release Announcement

03:01 DeeperU Program Launch

03:19 Children of Alcoholics Week

03:40 Walking to Raise Awareness

04:00 Government's Lack of Support

06:30 Traits of Children of Alcoholics

12:08 Hypervigilance and Trust Issues

15:12 People Pleasing and Fear of Abandonment

19:40 Perfectionism and Intimacy Issues

34:41 Control Issues and Hyper Independence

36:27 Caretaking and Emotional Challenges

39:07 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Back from the bank holiday chaos with a so-called “bite-sized” episode (spoiler: it’s not). I’m checking in after a couple of messy, kid-mode weeks—reflecting on how quickly I spiral into my childlike state and how the lows still hit me hard, even after all these years.

Then I’m answering some of your deep, messy, crunchy questions. Everything from “Is it ever okay to yell at a toxic parent?” to “Do narcissists know what they’re doing?” to “Why does the wellness industry feel so f*cking toxic?”

I also share where this podcast is going: we’re pulling the curtain back on toxic and dysfunctional systems, family, society, politics, wellness culture, the lot. If you’ve got guest ideas, I want them.

This one’s raw, honest, a bit sweary, and definitely dysfunctional.

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In this deeply personal and vulnerable episode, Josh Connolly shares his journey to 13 years of sobriety. But this isn’t just a story about putting down the drink. It’s a story of survival, chaos, pain, and ultimately transformation.

Josh opens up about his early experiences with cannabis at age 12, the spiral into alcohol and hard drugs, and the chaos that followed — from blackouts and self-destruction to brushes with death. He recounts traumatic events, addiction-fueled madness, and his darkest moments, where the idea of escape felt like the only way out.

But this episode is more than just a retelling of a troubled past. It’s about healing. Josh reflects on how sobriety didn’t fix everything overnight, how emotional wounds ran deeper than the addiction itself, and how he learned to live with — and eventually love — himself.

Whether you’re struggling with addiction, supporting someone who is, or just curious about the raw reality of sobriety beyond the social media highlight reel, this episode is a must-listen.

🔹 Topics Covered:

• The raw reality of addiction — beyond the social media facade.
• The love affair with substances and the chaos that followed.
• The turning point — from suicidal despair to a life of service.
• The truth about sobriety — why it’s more than just quitting.
• Josh’s ongoing journey — the challenges and the gifts of 13 years sober.
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Listen now to hear the story behind the resilience.

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In the very first guest episode of Dysfunctional, I’m joined by writer and embodiment coach Leona Waller — and we go all in on the toxic side of self-improvement culture.

We explore how the wellness and personal development world can subtly (and not-so-subtly) feed the same control, shame and conformity that many of us grew up with. We talk about embodiment as an antidote — not the trendy version, but the real, messy, human kind. The kind that gets you out of your head, back into your body, and into a life that actually feels like yours.

We also dig into:

— Why gratitude lists can actually make things worse

— How capitalism hijacked healing

— Why being “zen” isn’t always the answer

— The problem with trying to meditate your trauma away

— And how embodiment can help you feel less crazy and more you

Leona Waller is a writer and facilitator helping people trust their own bodies and emotions more than Instagram wellness influencers. She’s the co-creator of The Body Knows, a newsletter and community using somatics and embodiment to help people stop optimizing life and start living it. With a background in neuroscience and emotional psychology, she creates spaces where people shed the shoulds and come home — to the power and joy that are their birthright.

Follow Leona’s work here:

🔗 The Body Knows on Substack

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Subscribe to Dysfunctional for raw, unfiltered conversations about healing, systems, and seeing clearly — because if you grew up in dysfunction, chances are, you’re still surrounded by it.

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What really happens when you cut ties with your own family?

In this episode, I’m joined by psychologist and author Karl Melvin, whose book Navigating Family Estrangement has been a lifeline for people trying to break free from toxic family systems. Together, we dive into the misunderstood world of family estrangement — exploring the deep grief, the guilt, the gaslighting, and the complex layers of going no contact.

We talk about:

• Why estrangement is sometimes the healthiest choice
• How society often sides with the abuser
• The pressure to forgive, reconcile, and “just move on”
• What healing can actually look like on the other side

Whether you’ve cut contact, are considering it, or are struggling to stay away, this conversation will help you feel seen, validated, and a little less alone.

Karl Melvin is an IACP (Irish Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists) accredited psychotherapist with an MA in Counselling and Psychotherapy. He has spent 14 years working with estranged adults of different perspectives, including adult sons and daughters, siblings and parents. He has spent several years training professionals on his own approach to understanding the complex reality of family estrangement in contemporary society and how to support clients through the various psychological, relational, and social challenges they face. 

He has published one paper in the Family Journal, entitled The Changing Impact and Challenges of Familial Estrangement, and his first book, Navigating Family Estrangement, published by Routledge, is a practical guide for professionals and estranged adults and is available from all book sellers now. 

Link to Book (There's sale on at the mo):

https://www.routledge.com/Navigating-Family-Estrangement-Helping-Adults-Understand-and-Manage-the-Challenges-of-Family-Estrangement/Melvin/p/book/9781032423067

Link to Workshop on Jun 5th (8 things everyone needs to know about family estrangement):

https://www.therapyacademy.ie/details/webinar/1673

Socials:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/karl-melvin-psychotherapist-ma-miacp-2a29679/

https://www.instagram.com/karl.melvin/

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If you’ve ever dealt with a toxic person online or in real life, this episode is for you.

Josh breaks down a recent Facebook interaction that perfectly illustrates the exhausting tactics toxic people use to wear you down — from word salads to projection, reactive abuse, triangulation, moral superiority, and weaponised vulnerability.

You’ll learn:

• Why you’ll never “win” against a toxic person
• How they twist your words, deny reality, and drag you into chaos
• The difference between true vulnerability and manipulative victimhood
• How these same toxic tactics show up in cult-like communities and spiritual spaces
• Why gray rocking might be the only sane response

It’s raw, honest, a bit messy — and definitely dysfunctional.

Whether you’re healing from family dysfunction, dealing with online trolls, or navigating toxic dynamics in your life, this one will help you feel a little less crazy.

00:00 Introduction to Toxic Relationships

00:57 Personal Anecdote: The Persistent Commenter

04:32 The Facebook Confrontation

07:59 Understanding Reactive Abuse

17:17 The DAVO Tactic Explained

20:01 Confrontation and Gaslighting

22:22 Understanding Word Salad

23:45 Triangulation in Toxic Relationships

25:22 Weaponized Vulnerability

29:26 Moral Superiority and Cult-like Behavior

36:45 Personal Reflections and Community Building

40:55 Final Thoughts and Podcast Wrap-up

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What if your burnout, your self-doubt, your struggle to belong weren’t personal problems, but symptoms of a system that was never built for you?

In this raw and powerful conversation, Josh is joined by master intuitive psychology coach Helen to dismantle the myth of individual healing in a broken society. Together, they explore how patriarchy, capitalism, and outdated leadership models disconnect us from our true selves and how coming home to our intuition is an act of resistance.

This isn’t just another coaching chat. It’s a call to break free from the systems that broke you. Expect uncomfortable truths, gut-punch insights, and a reminder that real change starts within but never ends there.

Find Helen here -

www.helendudzinska.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/helen-dudzinska-b75087184

Insta - @helendudzinska

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Josh is joined by IFS coach Kevin O’Neill — the man who guided him through 10 transformational sessions of Internal Family Systems work. Together, they explore what it really means to stop fighting your inner world and start leading from your Self. Josh shares the breakthrough that changed everything: realizing he was still judging himself through the lens of who he was at 22. They dive into shame, identity, addiction, inner protectors, and why even the messiest parts of us are just trying to help. This episode is a raw and moving deep-dive into parts work, masculinity, and what happens when you realise… there are no bad parts.

Working with Kevin was life changing for me and you can find out more about him and how to work with him yourself here -

www.nobadparts.coach

On instagram here - https://www.instagram.com/no_badparts/

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Today, I’m joined by the brilliant Dr. Genevieve von Lob – clinical psychologist, conscious parenting coach, and author of Five Deep Breaths: The Power of Mindful Parenting. Genevieve is a powerful voice for highly sensitive people (HSPs), and she's on a mission to create healing spaces for parents and children who’ve never felt like they fit the mould.

In this raw and deeply validating conversation, we explore what it really means to be highly sensitive in a world that often gets it wrong. We talk about the link between sensitivity and misdiagnosis, the emotional toll of being pathologized, and the damaging impact of growing up misunderstood.

Genevieve shares why many sensitive children end up labelled, punished, or shamed – and how their intense emotional world can actually be their greatest gift. We discuss addiction, bullying, co-regulation, parenting struggles, empowered sensitivity, narcissistic abuse, and why true healing happens in community, not isolation.

This is one of those conversations that might just change how you see yourself – or your child – forever.

Find out more about Dr Genevieve von Lob here - 

www.drgenevieve.com

@drgenevievevonlob (instagram) https://www.linkedin.com/in/drgenevieve/ (linkedin)

01:00 Introduction to Dr. Genevieve Von Lobb

02:59 Discovering High Sensitivity in Children

06:19 Personal Journey and Understanding Sensitivity

09:28 Challenges of Highly Sensitive Children

13:21 Recognizing and Supporting Sensitive Children

25:04 The Western Medical Model and Sensitivity

34:19 Bullying and Sensitivity

40:30 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact

41:59 The Dilemma of Highly Sensitive People

42:35 Ignoring Red Flags and Gut Instincts

45:38 Energetic Entanglement and Boundaries

47:12 The Reality of Bullying and Narcissism

50:03 The Journey to Empowerment

01:03:30 The Importance of Community Healing

01:04:57 Final Thoughts and Future Plans

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions of childhood sexual abuse, religious trauma, suicide attempts, and domestic violence. Please listen with care.

In this powerful episode of Dysfunctional, Karinne shares her story of surviving a childhood shaped by the Jehovah’s Witnesses — a group she now calls a cult — and parents who were both abusive and narcissistic.

Kicked out at 16 after being groomed and blamed for it, Karinne found herself completely alone in the world, trauma-bonded to the very people who harmed her, and struggling to make sense of a reality she was never prepared for.

What follows is a conversation about real healing — not the Instagram version with matcha and mantras, but the messy, angry, beautiful kind that happens when you start telling the truth.

Together we explore:

What it’s like growing up in a high-control religious cult

The impact of narcissistic parenting and spiritual abuse

Purity culture, fear-based control, and enforced submission

The trauma bond and why it’s so hard to break

What healing actually looks like — day-to-day, years on

Karinne is funny, fierce, and real. She’s not here to sugarcoat anything. This is what healing sounds like in real life.

📲 Connect with Karinne on insta - @girl_inshambles

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Most people think they’re broken. Most people think dysregulation is a problem. Most people think the answer is to regulate, reframe, or reset.

But what if all of that is just another distraction?

Another way to bypass what actually needs to be felt?

This episode is a full-bodied dismantling of the healing and wellness world as we know it — with the brilliant Sam Miller, who teaches Mind-Body Recovery through a trauma-informed, Jungian, and deeply embodied lens.

We talk about:

Why your symptoms might actually be your body healing

How emotional repression creates chaos in the system

Why "cognitive reframing" is like shouting to the basement from the attic

The cult of regulation and fake safety in the healing space

Performative masculinity, football fights, and the grief men won't feel

And how real emotional healing often looks more like screaming, shaking, and collapsing into a ball in a sauna than it does cold plunges or coaching frameworks

We also dig into the absolute state of the wellness industry — the bypassing, the ego-led facilitators, and why a lot of what’s branded as “healing” is just a new costume for the same old disconnection.

This one goes deep. It’s raw. It’s real.

It’s Dysfunctional.

Best place to find Sam is here - https://youtube.com/@the_mindful_gardener?si=WasM11Ci0DIGsXCg

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What if the same coercive control you grew up with in your family is playing out on a societal scale—and no one’s supposed to name it?

In this unapologetically raw episode, I’m joined by political punk artist Hyphen to call out the hidden systems most people are too afraid to touch. We unpack classism, manufactured consent, and how we’ve all been programmed to blame individuals instead of broken structures.

Hyphen shares how losing a close friend, burning out in finance, and growing up as the child of Indian immigrants shaped his activism—and how political punk gave him a voice loud enough to be heard.

We get into:

• Why being angry is the only sane response to injustice
• The truth about “freedom” under capitalism
• How systems mirror abusive family dynamics
• Why 3.5% of people are all it takes to ignite change
• And how slogans like “Hate Yachts, Not Dinghies” can become rallying cries for a generation
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This one is for the misfits, the scapegoats, the question-askers.

This is Dysfunctional. And we’re not here to behave.

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In this raw and emotional episode, I sit down with Lulu and Georgina—two sisters who grew up in the chaos of having a father in prison. What starts as a conversation about parental imprisonment unfolds into a powerful exploration of shame, silence, systemic failure, and the unbreakable bond between siblings who carried each other through the storm.

We talk about what it’s really like for the children left behind:

The raids.

The media frenzy.

Being judged by teachers, friends, and strangers.

And the complete absence of support.

Georgina was arrested at 17—just for being related to the man who committed the crime. Lulu was a child being searched at prison visits, isolated by her peers, and silently carrying the burden of a family under siege.

Together, they’ve turned pain into purpose—becoming advocates for Children Heard and Seen, a charity supporting children affected by parental imprisonment.

This conversation is a call to action. It’s about seeing the invisible victims of crime, breaking the cycle of silence, and reminding every child out there who’s been impacted: It’s not your fault.

Key Topics Covered:

Living with media stigma when a parent goes to prison

The trauma of police raids and prison visits as a child

The emotional toll of secrecy, shame, and being judged

Attachment wounds and survival responses

How families hold each other together in chaos

The desperate need for better support and resources for children of prisoners

Why advocacy matters and what needs to change

Trigger Warning: This episode contains emotional conversations around childhood trauma, imprisonment, police raids, and systemic neglect.

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In this bold and unfiltered episode, I’m joined by Christian John — a truth-teller who walked away from a toxic family system and now uses his platform to speak the things most people are too afraid to say out loud.

Together we explore:

• What estrangement really means — and why it’s often an act of survival
• How narcissistic abuse in families mirrors the dysfunction of society
• The performative trap of modern healing spaces
• Rage, grief, identity, and the reclaiming of personal truth
• How capitalism gaslights the nervous system and commodifies healing
• And why consciousness without community is just another echo chamber

This conversation is real, raw, and deeply validating for anyone who’s been scapegoated, silenced, or made to feel like they’re the problem.

🔗 Follow Christian on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hype.r.vigilance?igsh=MXUwbnJ6NzNiemlndA==

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In this episode of Dysfunctional, Josh sits down with Debra Paynter — business manager, single parent, and advocate — for a raw conversation about raising her son, Teddy, who is autistic and has a learning disability.

They explore:

Why SEND families are so often failed by schools, local authorities, and society

The difference between a tantrum and a meltdown, and what public judgement really feels like

How lockdown became a turning point in Teddy’s development

The exhausting fight to secure the right school place and legal protections

What society could do — right now — to better support SEND parents

The unexpected joy, connection, and resilience Debra has found in her journey

This is a conversation about courage, love, and truth-telling — and it will make you think differently about SEND parenting.

Follow Debra:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debs.does.asana/

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In this raw and unfiltered conversation, Josh sits down with Dr. Sherrie Campbell — psychologist, author, and unapologetic disruptor in the toxic family space — ahead of their joint Come Home to Yourself event in Los Angeles on October 4th.

What starts as an excited chat about the event quickly dives deep into some of the most taboo and misunderstood truths about healing from family abuse:

• Why forgiveness can become a weapon that keeps you trapped.
• How anger is an emotion of justice — and why you need it to set real boundaries.
• The myth that boundaries can “fix” toxic people.
• How bypassing, “love and light” culture, and the obsession with being nice can actually harm survivors.
• The danger of therapists colluding with abusers (often unintentionally).
• The reality of parental sadism and why you may never get a satisfying “why.”

Dr. Sherrie shares the most vulnerable moment of her healing journey — the day she realised her mother had no respect for her because she kept forgiving her — and how that moment became a turning point toward freedom.

This is not a conversation for those looking for sugar-coated healing. It’s for those ready to face the truth, drop the audition for love, and come home to themselves.

🎟 Come Home to Yourself — Los Angeles, October 4th

A full-day interactive experience with Josh & Dr. Sherrie featuring deep teaching, inner child work, live Q&A, and a powerful breathwork session for emotional release.

Spaces are limited: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/come-home-to-you-tickets-1461867257319?aff=oddtdtcreator

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In this episode of Dysfunctional, I’m joined by therapist and childhood trauma expert Patrick Teahan for a raw and powerful conversation about healing from toxic family systems.

We explore:

• Why estrangement can be necessary for healing — and the grief that follows
• How toxic parents keep control through subtle emotional tactics
• The long-term impact of growing up in dysfunctional family systems
• The limits of 12-step recovery when it comes to childhood trauma
• Why grieving the parent you never had is a turning point in recovery
• How society mirrors toxic family dynamics — and what it takes to break the cycle

Patrick also shares insights from his group therapy model, the Relationship Recovery Process, and reflects on his journey from early therapy to becoming a leading voice in the trauma recovery space.

If you're healing from family dysfunction, this one will land deeply.

Find Patrick here - https://linktr.ee/patrickteahan

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In this episode, Josh sits down with Theresa and her son Cody for one of the rawest and most hopeful conversations yet.

Cody shares what it was like to grow up with an alcoholic mother, the emotional estrangement that followed, and how he once decided, “I don’t have a mom anymore.” Theresa opens up about her alcoholism, early recovery, the shame of realizing she had become the toxic parent she swore she wouldn’t be, and the painful accountability required to begin repairing.

Together, they talk honestly about the darkest years of their relationship, the role of recovery and IFS (Internal Family Systems) in healing, and how they slowly rebuilt trust—not through excuses, but through deep accountability, boundaries, and a willingness to really listen.

What emerges is a story of hope: proof that repair is possible, even after estrangement and years of hurt.

Whether you’re an adult child of a toxic parent or a parent carrying shame for the harm you’ve caused, this conversation offers both validation and possibility.

Teresa is now a a Somatic Wellness Practitioner who uses the Triad of Healing which is Parts Work, Breathwork, and Somatic Release to gain the full spectrum of emotional healing. Teresa says she does this as a profession because of the healing it brought her in her life. She works with anyone overcoming any kind of trauma.

Teresa can be found here -

www.energiesinmotion.com

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What if everything you’ve been told about mental illness… isn’t true?

In this raw and uncompromising episode of Dysfunctional, I sit down with psychologist and best-selling author Dr. Jessica Taylor to tear apart the myths and corruption within psychiatry and the wider mental health industry.

We talk about:

👉Why so many psychiatric “truths” are based on weak science (or none at all)

👉How labels and diagnoses can keep people trapped instead of free

👉The profit-driven systems that benefit from keeping people sick

👉 true healing might look like outside of psychiatry

👉Why being human has been pathologised — and how we can reclaim it

This conversation is not comfortable, and it’s not supposed to be. Some of you will feel liberated. Some of you might feel defensive or upset. Wherever you land, I invite you to sit with it, question it, and decide for yourself.

🔗 Connect with Dr. Jessica Taylor:

Website: https://www.drjessicataylor.com

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Lauren Smallcomb grew up the “golden child” at home and in church. When compassion widened and questions came, the role cracked. We get into:

• Golden child vs scapegoat dynamics and why families swap those seats
• Conditional love, estrangement, and the pressure to “get back in line”
• High control religion, missions in Thailand, and leaving the system
• The body keeping the score: hives, chronic symptoms, and slow repair
• Rebuilding through mind body work, movement, breath, and safe love
• Her new book and who it’s for

Work with Lauren and Luke: Flourish Therapy (mind body practice, global)

• Instagram & Facebook: @flourishtherapy
• Website: flourishtherapy.co

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Old friends. Real talk. A mini 115 Miles reunion.

Hasan Khair joins me to unpack why work feels like a moving target and what to do when the ladder you were climbing gets ripped from the wall. We get into how school trained us for compliance, how hyper capitalism rewards harm, and why AI is speeding up a reckoning in every industry.

This is not doom. It is a plan. We get practical about midlife pivots, redundancy, belief, and the tiny actions that rebuild confidence. If you feel stuck, dehumanised by job boards, or scared to start again, this one will help.

In this episode

The real shift in work since 2008 and why restructures never stop

AI and automation. Why senior roles are getting cut first

School as a factory model. How it kills agency and creativity

Confidence and class. The advantage of environment

Hasan’s story. Failing A-levels, Blockbuster, Virgin, executive roles, redundancy, reinvention

Panic vs purpose. How to pause and design a different path

Ikigai without the fluff. What you love. What you’re good at. What the world needs

Nano steps. Not grand gestures

Why community multiplies belief

Hasan - https://www.linkedin.com/in/hasankhair/

Tyllr - https://tyllr.co

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In this solo episode of Dysfunctional, Josh asks a raw question:

Is the world actually worse, or are we just being fed constant content that keeps us triggered?

As a highly sensitive person, Josh reflects on how algorithms exploit empathy, why stress has become a hidden addiction, and how our compassion is being stretched to breaking point. He dives into the danger of compassion fatigue, the blurred line between activism and doomscrolling, and why protecting your nervous system matters more than ever.

This is a conversation for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the state of the world — and who needs reminding that caring doesn’t mean carrying everything.

#highlysensitiveperson

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Maike is the author of The Confession: A Journey to Acceptance, her memoir of growing up with a father with undiagnosed mental health issues who went on to take his own life. She is a lived experience speaker and volunteer for Survivors of Bereavement by suicide

When Maike Mullenders was eleven years old, her dad sat her down and told her he was going to end his life — and made her say goodbye.

He survived that night. But ten years later, he died by suicide and left behind a confession to the police saying he’d “been inappropriate” with her — something Maike had no memory of.

In this conversation, we talk about what happens when your childhood forces you into the role of caretaker, and how that shapes everything that follows. We explore dissociation, survival, and what it means to grow up reading every tone of voice in a room just to stay safe.

Maike shares how decades of therapy, yoga, and community work helped her reclaim her body, her boundaries, and her right to take up space — even without ever knowing the full truth about her past.

We talk about:

Surviving a parent’s suicide attempts and living with the aftermath

The lifelong impact of emotional enmeshment and hypervigilance

Parenting after trauma and breaking generational patterns

Acceptance versus forgiveness — and why you don’t need both

Learning to feel safe in your body through movement and presence

The healing power of community and self-compassion

This episode is about what real healing looks like — messy, nuanced, and deeply human.

It’s about learning to live with not knowing, and finding peace anyway.

Please take care of yourself while listening.

Find Maike here -

https://www.linkedin.com/in/maike-mullenders-3021232b7/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091853840552

#suicideawareness #mentalhealth

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We call it “mental health,” but what if the real diagnosis is a sick system?

Wellness anthropologist Aurora Leigh joins Josh to argue that disconnection — not individual defect — sits under our crises of addiction, anxiety, and depression. We dig into stoicism as emotional shutdown, the trap of pathologizing pain, and how somatic, community-based healing outperforms label-and-medicate approaches.

Expect Rat Park, the Roseto effect, sexual trauma as an ignored root cause, and Aurora’s “Somatic Regeneration” blueprint for moving the nervous system from survival to open, curious, connected. We finish with practical tools listeners can use today — and a challenge to rebuild policy, schools, and healthcare around safety, love, and belonging.

Find out more about Auroara here -

https://www.skool.com/simply-sacred-wauroara-leigh-2570/about?ref=9e5561a6facc4f2586229fc89b4fbee6

www.simplysacred.ca

https://youtube.com/@auroaraleigh?si=Xl7bT3OHHHEyy3s-

#mentalhealth

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This episode includes candid references to suicide, depression and self-harm.

It’s just been World Mental Health Day. I’m asking a hard question with no easy answers. Is the mental health conversation helping… or are there places it’s making us worse?

I talk about the tension between compassion and consequence. The risk of romanticising suffering when public figures die. How awareness can accidentally normalise behaviours. Princess Diana speaking about bulimia and what followed. The pathologisation of being human. My own swings, labels I once clung to, and what it takes to pull myself out of a spiral without shaming the struggle.

This isn’t anti-awareness. It’s a call to evolve it. Less performance. More truth. Fewer labels as identity. More community and responsibility. Let’s bring the pendulum back to the middle.

In this episode

• The double-edged sword of public compassion after tragedy
• When “normalising” crosses into normalising the thing itself
• Labels, identity loops and the algorithm effect
• Appropriate pain vs “mental health” language
• Finding the line between care and a loving push to move

If you’re struggling

Please reach out to someone you trust. You can also contact crisis support in your country (e.g. Samaritans in the UK, CALM, or your local emergency services). You don’t have to carry it alone.

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Children with a parent in prison are some of the most invisible kids in the country. In this episode, I sit down with Sarah (founder of charity Children Heard and Seen) and Felix (communications officer) to talk about what really happens to those children when a parent goes to prison, and why nobody is officially keeping track of them.

We talk about:

How Children Heard and Seen supports kids in the community with mentoring, groups and one to one support

The shocking reality of children left completely alone at home when a parent is sent to prison

Why there is no national data on which children have a parent in prison

The role of media, stigma and vigilante attacks on already vulnerable families

Why support must be child led, not focused on “fixing” the parent or forcing contact

The first ever Children with a Parent in Prison Day (25th November) and the national conference

If this episode moved you, please share it, talk about it with someone, and check out Children Heard and Seen to see how you can support or spread the word.

Link to the conference:

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/hear-me-see-me-parental-imprisonment-lived-experience-conference-tickets-1700692921309?aff=oddtdtcreator

Link to our website:

https://childrenheardandseen.co.uk/

Lived Experience Blogs written by adults who had a parent in prison as a child:

https://childrenheardandseen.co.uk/hidden-voices/

#parentalimprisonment

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In this episode Josh talks about:

Why the phrase “toxic person” makes some people more uncomfortable than abuse itself

The difference between “people doing toxic things” and people who are mostly harmful

How spiritual bypassing and “it’s all trauma” language can erase accountability

Why victims get to choose the language for what happened to them

Empathy with no boundaries and why it’s self-destructive

Healthy shame vs toxic shame

Why it’s okay to walk away and even hate someone who hurt you

#toxicpeople

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What if those moments where you’re convinced you’re a horrible person who “shouldn’t even be here” aren’t proof that you’re broken… but that you’re in what my guest calls a shame storm?

In this episode I’m joined by Melinda Delisle, MS LCCE – clinical nutritionist, former childbirth educator, and someone who has spent years navigating intense emotional dysregulation herself. We talk honestly about what it actually feels like inside a shame storm, why some of the most popular “healing tools” can make it worse, and how food, supplements and nervous system health quietly drive so much of our emotional world.

We get into:

- The difference between a shame swamp, a shame spiral and a full-blown shame storm

- Why gratitude lists, mindfulness and “just be present” advice can feel like gaslighting when you’re in survival mode

- How trauma, high sensitivity and people-pleasing set us up for chronic hypervigilance

- The link between nutrition, B vitamins, SSRIs and emotional dysregulation

-- Mistaking familiarity for safety – and why so many of us feel unsafe even with “nice” people

- Self-parenting, accountability and facing the ways our own dysregulation can make us the “toxic” one at home

Melinda also shares a free upcoming 4-week program she’s creating to help people build awareness, have better conversations around triggers and start finding their way out of constant dysregulation.

Substack: https://melindadelisle.substack.com/

Free 4-week program: https://melindadelisle.com/foundation/

Instagram: @melindadelisle

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melinda-delisle/

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