What a complete joy and privilege it was to spend time with a guest whose story embodies compassion, courage, and change. With over 30 years as a salon owner and stylist, she has witnessed first-hand the power of connection, trust, and empathy within the beauty industry. Her career has always been about more than transforming hair—it’s been about creating safe spaces where people can truly be seen and heard.

As a survivor of domestic violence, she understands the profound difference that one caring person can make. This insight inspired her to co-found Shear Haven, an initiative that trains beauty professionals to recognize the signs of domestic abuse and connect clients to help. To date, Shear Haven’s free training has reached over 150,000 individuals across more than 100 countries, empowering salon professionals to become a lifeline for those in need.

In 2020, her advocacy led to groundbreaking legislation in Tennessee, making this training mandatory for all licensed beauty professionals. Today, she continues to drive this mission forward through the bipartisan Salon Stories Act, working to ensure that every salon professional in the United States has access to this vital, life-saving education.

Her mission is clear and powerful: to reach every licensed beauty professional with the knowledge and tools to support survivors and help build safer, more compassionate communities. 

Follow: https://www.instagram.com/shearhavenywca/

Website: https://shearhaventraining.org/

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In this powerful episode, I sit down with the truly inspiring Ingrid Dutton — host of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Speaker, Nurse Practitioner, and Survivor. Ingrid shares her journey of resilience and purpose, using her voice to break the silence around domestic abuse through bold education, real talk, and unwavering strength.

This conversation is honest, real, and raw — a reminder of the power of truth, healing, and courage in the face of adversity.

Website: https://www.1in3podcast.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/1in3podcast/

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In this Bonus feature, you'll get a glimpse into the incredible day that was Breaking the Silence PEGS Conference 2025! From amazing speakers to engaged delegates, this was a day to remember. 

Raising awareness of Child to Parent Abuse, supporting parents, training professionals and influencing national policy. PEGS is a leading light in the conversation around Child to Parent Abuse. 

This is just a window into the day but DIP in and out with Lucy was honoured to be there! And here's to the next PEGS Conference.....

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Domestic Abuse Awareness Month: This month, I'll be releasing several episodes in honour of Domestic Abuse Awareness Month.

In this episode I sit down with Matt Horman, employed mentor for young people, public speaker, and advocate for lived experience of domestic abuse.

Matt was a Police Officer for Nineteen years within a variety of roles including National and Local support roles. He's a mental health advocate, Everymancan podcast host & CIC director.

Matt is passionate about helping others through his experience. 

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Domestic Abuse Awareness Month: This month, I'll be releasing several episodes in honour of Domestic Abuse Awareness Month.

In this episode I sit down with the truly remarkable Sharon Livermore - Founder of Domestic Abuse Education, Domestic Abuse Survivor, Public Speaker, Winner of Cambridgeshire SME Business Person of the Year 2023and Woman of the Year 2024! 

Sharon is a proud survivor of domestic abuse who has transformed lived experience into meaningful action. Her mission is to educate, empower, and inspire organisations to create safer, more supportive workplaces for all.

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Domestic Abuse Awareness Month 2025

This month, I'll be releasing several episodes in honour of Domestic Abuse Awareness Month.

In this episode, I have the pleasure of sitting down with the wonderful Lynn Stroud. Lynn is an experienced Paralegal, she's dedicated to empowering survivors of Domestic Violence, Coercive Control and Sexual Assault…..

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Jennifer C. Parker, MSSW, LCSW Author, Blogger, Presenter and so much more!

Sitting down with Jennifer was a true privilege. She gets it, she understands it and I found myself nodding to EVERYTHING she said during this episode. She is a light in the very dark world of domestic abuse and coercive control. 

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I was fortunate enough to sit down and talk with the inspirational Lee Cooper.

Lee is a photographer, writer, and founder using art to challenge silence and shift culture.

Through his project Victorious Voices, he creates space for CSA survivors to be seen, heard, and represented on their own terms. From portraiture to storytelling, his work centres visibility, dignity, and the quiet power of reclaiming narrative.

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of sitting down with the wonderful Samantha Billingham and Jared Whitaker. 

Sam is the founder of Stronger Beginnings, she is a freelance Coercive Control Consultant and advocate for survivors of Domestic Abuse. 

Jared is an author, speaker, and advocate dedicated to raising awareness about the critical challenges men face, particularly in the realms of Domestic Abuse and narcissistic relationships.

This is the first time DIP has had two guests at the same time, and what an episode it is.... 

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NEW SEASON! And what a season it will be....

I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with the magnificent, Michelle John Founder of PEGS. Her aim is to reduce the impact of CPA by helping parents, training frontline professionals, impacting policy and raising awareness.

"Child to Parent Abuse is where a child (of any age) displays repeated abusive behaviours towards a parental figure. This abuse may be physical, verbal, economic, digital, coercive or even sexual - and it's thought to occur in at least 3% of UK homes, although the real figure could be much higher.

CPA is not 'normal' challenging behaviour experienced by most parents. It causes parents to feel fearful, isolated and like they're treading on eggshells, forces them to leave their careers and change their routines and lifestyles, and has a profound impact on families." https://www.pegsupport.co.uk/ 

Dr Aysha has so many roles, I couldn't fit them all in the title!

She is Founder & Director, Aasha Consulting, Independent Researcher, UN Women UK, CSW68 & 6, GlobalG100 Panelist, Trainer, Specialist, Domestic Violence & Minority Communities, Researcher at SOAS and Visiting Lecturer.

I have waited so long for this conversation! When I started DIP in and Out with Lucy, my main aim was to ensure that everyone was included in the conversation around domestic abuse.

Sadly, this is not always the case in society. BAME community, minority communities are overlooked or misunderstood. This episode - I hope goes some way in changing that!

Thank you Dr Aysha!

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I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with the wonderful Ann, who shared her own story of abuse. Do we ever stop to consider what domestic abuse looks like and feels like for those living outside the U.K. Well, here's your chance to find out.....Thank you Ann!Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

Anne Wintemute is a dedicated and visionary leader, currently serving as the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says, a sanctuary of support and empowerment for people impacted by relationship abuse. Aimee Says, is dedicated to helping individuals as they navigate the path towards safety and healing, not just for themselves but also for those they cherish.

Anne is passionate about transforming the discourse around intimate partner violence and advocating for a narrative that holds perpetrators accountable.

In 2023, founders Anne Wintemute and Steven Nichols saw that even the most dedicated human supports could never meet the scale of need. Abuse is widespread, its patterns are complex, and survivors often face their hardest moments in isolation. The two began testing whether advanced AI could recognize the recurring dynamics of power and control in abusive relationships—and respond with empathy, accuracy, and practical guidance at any hour of the day.

Find out more at Aimee Says: https://www.aimeesays.com/en/story

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Sandra and I share a passion - we both know the importance of speaking out about the challenges and impact post-separation abuse has on individuals.

"Just knowing you're not imagining this, that it's a thing and these are common patterns of behaviour......"

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Paul Maskall Strategic Fraud Prevention and Behavioural Lead at UK Finance and Professional Speaker.

You may think this seems like an odd pairing for a conversation around domestic abuse....but take a listen and you'll see why this is a conversation you need to hear!

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I was so fortunate to sit down with the wonderful Paula Hollstein Barría. She has a phD in law from the University of Warwick and to say that her research is fascinating would be an understatement.

This is an episode not to be missed!

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Jared is an author who write books around domestic abuse and narcissism. He is an avid campaigner trying to raise awareness around domestic abuse against men, and fight for equality for men and women with regards to these topics.Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

In this episode I chat to Mark who - among many other things, has 20 years experience in Occupational Welfare.

Want to know more about Solution Focus Brief Therapy?

Then take a look/have a listen to this episode.

Thank you Mark!

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Founder of SHIELD Derby | Safeguarding & Child Protection Specialist | Lived Experience | Trainer | Consultant | Public Speaker | Independent Supervisor | Independent Practice Educator | ASYE Assessor | Guest Lecturer.

I was completely blown away by this episode with Sharon. She is the founder and owner of SHIELD Derby, she is also a Safeguarding and Child Protection Training, Consultancy, and additional service's provider. If that isn't enough, she is also a qualified registered Independent Social Worker with a BA (Hons/DipSW) in Applied Social Work, an Advanced Trained Independent Sexual Violence Advisor (ISVA), Youth Justice Specialist, Trainer, Public/Keynote Speaker, Independent Supervisor, Independent Practice Educator, ASYE Assessor, and a Youth Mental Health first Aider.

WARNING: I have to warn viewers and listeners that they may find some content distressful. As part of our conversation, Sharon shares some information of her lived experience of child sexual abuse, and domestic violence and abuse. She is not ashamed to talk about it and I applaud her wholeheartedly for her determination in making a difference to so many.

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iTrust was formed to allow the voices of those with knowledge of wrongdoing to be heard in a safe, anonymous environment.

In this episode, Nick and I talk about the importance of speaking up!

Thank you Nick for joining me in this episode!

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Sam is one of the most inspiring people I have ever had the good fortune to meet! She is a domestic abuse survivor turned advocate raising awareness of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact. Lived experience speaker, founder of Stronger Beginnings to break the silence & empower survivors. Sam shares with me the journey she has been on since the early 2000's. Come with us on this journey and hear a story of tragedy to triumph!Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with the wonderful, Linda Kirk! Linda is Founder/Director for the Just for Women Centre, she's a member of the International Society of Female Professionals - 2018 Member of Worldwide Women's Association - 2019.The work that Linda does in supporting women in her local area is inspiring. And the conversation we had will stay with me for years to come......Thank you Linda!Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. Denton Performed by - Elrose

I had the pleasure of sitting down with the fabulous Rie Pearson. Rie is a retired police officer who has written a thought provoking guide to help teenage girls recognise abusive behaviours in intimate relationships. It's a brilliant episode with the odd dash of colourful language thrown in! Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

Do you know what the best kind of mornings are, they are the ones filled with energetic and lively conversation!

I had the pleasure of sitting down this morning with Anna Gatehouse from Pier Training to discuss Domestic & Sexual Abuse Support Worker Level 4 Apprenticeship alongside Matthew Embley, Jo Clay, Nasra Omar BSc, DIP and the wonderful Mollie and Chloe from the first cohort of learners. 

This was a BIG episode in more ways than one. Not only was it the most guests I've had in one episode but also the breadth of conversation we covered!

To find out more about the Apprenticeships available click on the links below: 

"APPRENTICESHIP PROGRAMMES - Pier Training https://piertraining.co.uk/apprenticeship-programmes/

L4 DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL ABUSE SUPPORT WORKER - Pier Training https://piertraining.co.uk/l4-domestic-and-sexual-abuse-support-worker/

L3 SAFEGUARDING SUPPORT OFFICER - Pier Training https://piertraining.co.uk/l3-safeguarding-support-officer/

APPLY TO JOIN THIS COURSE - Pier Training https://piertraining.co.uk/apply-to-join-this-course/"

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I had the pleasure of sitting down with Vanessa White who is an accredited Divorce and Relationship Coach. One of the most important topics we discussed, for me, was around victims and survivors having compassion for themselves.

And that we as a society, should also show compassion to those who have experienced domestic abuse.

So much blame and shame is experienced by victims and survivors, that it's time we changed the narrative.....Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

Sarie is a trained psychotherapist and coach who works with so many people to help them reduce their anxiety in order to live a life they deserve.

Sarie and I cover so many topics including anxiety, domestic abuse and the difficulties for those friends who want to help and support someone experiencing domestic abuse but are not sure what the best approach may be.I have known Sarie since we were 11 years old and I can honestly say when she talks about her work, you know she is speaking from a place of authenticity and honesty. This episode will make you feel as though anything is possible!Thank you Sarie! Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

I had the privilege of sitting down with Ruth to discuss her story which hit the headlines in 2021. Ruth talks about the abuse she experienced during her marriage and so much more...."So many support networks are available and there is no deadline. I almost need the support more now than I did in the very, very beginning."Thank you Ruth for recording this episode with me and for speaking out!Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

In this episode I sit down with the incredible Vickie Deeks. Back in the days of lockdown, Vickie delivered a session to her teacher colleagues on hearing loss and all the challenges and obstacles that, that entails. Out of this Sound Training Solutions was born! Vickie is one of the most remarkable people I have ever met.

Her hearing loss was the result of the abuse she experienced from a relationship when she was younger. Instead of focusing on what she lost, Vickie has turned everything she has experienced and everything she faces each and every day into the most amazing work and I'm proud to have had the opportunity to sit down and talk with Vickie.

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Maya is the founder of (SAHSDA) which stands for Safeguarding Animal & Human Survivors of Sexual and Domestic Abuse: www.sahsda.org

SAHSDA is an international guest speaking, training, research and consultancy organisation working to raise awareness of the use of companion animals as a tactic of coercive control as well as animal sexual abuse (zoophilia and zoosadism).I was so fortunate to sit down with Maya and discuss the complexities of her work and how much more she still wants to achieve. Thank you Maya!Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

Hollie Gazzard was murdered by her former partner, in February 2014. Her father, Nick Gazzard felt strongly that something positive should come out of Hollie’s death and so created the Hollie Gazzard Trust and The Hollie Guard App. The App is a next generation smartphone app that provides enhanced levels of protection. In this episode, Nick and I talk about how much has happened in the last 10 years and how many people have been helped and supported through the Trust and App, since Hollie's death. Beyond grateful to Nick for joining me in this episode.Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

Little-Mouse Finds a Safe Place is a children's storybook designed to help professionals support children who have experienced and witnessed domestic violence and abuse, and also contains guidelines on the key issues and how to use the story with individuals and groups. I was so fortunate to talk to Ann in the latest episode of DIP in and out with Lucy. What children see, hear and experience through domestic abuse has a huge impact on them and their future. Ann has created a beautiful and informative book. There really is nothing like it out there. Thank you so much Ann for joining me and sharing your incredible work!Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

*This episode was originally, Season 3 episode 3*

Navigating the Family Court System can be one of the most difficult and worrying times for victims and survivors of domestic abuse. In this two part episode, I sit down with the incredible Richard Port MBE to discuss the Family Court and all that it entails!

This two part episode gives hope and a light at the end of the tunnel!

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*This episode was originally, Season 3 episode 3*

Navigating the Family Court System can be one of the most difficult and worrying times for victims and survivors of domestic abuse. In this two part episode, I sit down with the incredible Richard Port MBE to discuss the Family Court and all that it entails!

This two part episode gives hope and a light at the end of the tunnel!

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"There's no one size fits all, all these small things that you might listen to here today might just guide you on another little path, add it to your toolkit and over time you might change situations, and your mindset and your thinking, perhaps." Join me and Sue while we navigate the complex world of divorce and children. Add domestic abuse to the mix, and it's a whole other situation....Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

In this episode of Season 7, I had the pleasure of sitting down with the wonderful Catherine Haworth who is an award winning Domestic Abuse and Children Act Solicitor, an advocate for victims of domestic abuse and sexual assault. She's also the owner and founder of Haworth Family Law. 

Anyone who has experienced the Family Court system will be able to relate to this episode on another level! 

Thank you Catherine for joining me in this fascinating episode! 

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This episode is one the you weren't expecting - but it's a MUST watch. Alec shares his experiences around his mental health and how he turned his fears into the most magnificent gift anyone could receive. This episode is not about domestic abuse. But it does show how whatever the difficult situations we can find ourselves in, there is one thing that remains. Hope.

I cannot begin to explain how much I admire and respect Anna's philosophy on life. AND her Audacious And! Anna coaches cycle-breakers and change-makers, she's a trauma-informed coach for activists, survivors and supporters who want to create real change AND live a liberated and joyful life. This episode will resonate with so many of you - enjoy!

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Getting divorced is a tense time for most people. Add domestic abuse and dealing with finances to the divorce and believe me, you need to listen to this podcast!
Thank you to the amazingly talented Tamsin Caine for joining me. It was a privilege to record an episode with you!
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We all worry about our children at the best of times. So when we think of children and young people who have been impacted by domestic abuse, can we even comprehend the challenges they face? In this episode, I sit down with Sam Hallam, Education Mental Health Practitioner to discuss those challenges and learn more about how we can support children and young people who have been impacted by domestic abuse.Intro and Outro Music:Look At Me Words & Music by P.J. DentonPerformed by - Elrose

Join me and Caron Kipping, Divorce and Separation Coach while we discuss the importance of recognising the various elements of domestic abuse and how you can live the life you deserve. And much more!

Here, I talk to the wonderful Monika Labich, Alcohol Dependency Specialist and Counsellor about drug and alcohol dependency and some of the similarities in how we view domestic abuse.

Tony Blockley is Professor of policing at Leeds Trinity University, and is responsible for the leadership of School of Criminology, Investigation and Policing.He is involved in research projects including the evaluation of risk in domestic violence. A former senior police officer and Head of Crime; nationally accredited Senior Investigator focused on major and serious crime investigations with an extensive background in complex policing operations. Lucy and Tony talk Domestic Homicide, the risk factors involved. And so much more.....

A profound DIP in and out with Lucy talking about domestic abuse with the exceedingly eloquent, Alice Smith!

Tracy worked for many years as a police officer. She is now a senior lecturer in Policing at the University of Derby. Her insights into the issues that surround domestic abuse are invaluable. And she is helping to shape the police officers of tomorrow!

When we think of Domestic Abuse and Stalking, we tend to think of this as something that occurs in person. But due to an increase in our use of online technology, cyber stalking is also on the rise.

In the latest episode of DIP in and out with Lucy, I chatted to Charlotte Hooper, Helpline Manager & USA Pilot Lead at The Cyber Helpline, Cybercrime and Online Harm Specialist, Diana Award Winner 2023 about what is cyber stalking and what advice could Charlotte give.

And the episode does not disappoint!

After enduring marriage to the infamous “Wolf of Wall Street,” Nadine Macaluso, PhD, has made it her life’s work to help other women understand, escape, and heal from their trauma bonds with pathological partners. Her own toxic relationship inspired her to become a psychotherapist, specializing in narcissistic abuse, trauma bond relationships, and complex PTSD. And her private practice quickly flooded with women recounting an all-too-familiar story of abuse. 

Her book, Run Like Hell, offers the reader both her personal experience and professional expertise to explain the behaviors of pathological lovers (PL), reveal the traits of women who become the “victims” of PLs, how women can leave safely, and most importantly, heal. 

Nadine shows how women can be "surthrivers" of these trauma bonds and go on to have healthy, positive relationships and lives armed with knowledge and awareness.

This was such a great episode to record and I'm grateful to Dr Nadine for taking the time to sit down and record with me. 

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This is such an important conversation with Rachael, sharing her own experience of domestic abuse.

Thank you Rachael for sitting down with me and sharing such a powerful story.

And thank you for your valuable insights along the way.

A fantastic DIP in and out with Lucy podcast with the wonderful Rosie Lyon, Vulnerability and Financial Abuse Specialist.

From financial and economic abuse to what banks can do to support victims and survivors. And much more!

Male victims and survivors of domestic abuse are often overlooked. I had the pleasure of sitting down with Mark Brooks OBE to talk about male victims and survivors of domestic abuse.

The more we open up the discussion around domestic abuse, the more chance we stand of victims and survivors accessing the help and support they so vitally need!

What an absolute pleasure is was to sit down with Carrie Bower, VictimFocus Accredited Trainer, Domestic Abuse Lead & Safeguarding Manager at Age UK National and Trustee at Age UK Cheshire to talk about domestic abuse and older people.

This is a subject that is not discussed nearly enough!

Validating the experience of an older person who has been impacted by abuse is so important.

Let's keep the conversation going!