Hosted by real life couple Will & Chiara, Deeper Sex is a fun and sexy podcast about deep love, exploration and adventure. It’s for those who crave connection that’s real, sex that makes you feel alive, and love that’s rooted in authenticity.
Our mission is to help passionate, growth-minded professionals get past their fears, and lay the foundations for deep, authentic connections, so you can increase trust in intimacy, and transform your romantic relationship for good, because the best sex of your life is in your future, and not in your past. With decades of experience in love and intimacy matters, specialised in ENM and open relationships, we’re here to share everything that we’ve learned about helping people unlock the Extraordinary in relationships and in sex.
Deeper Sex is part of Deeper Lovers™ - our coaching method created from our passion for love, connection, and sexual exploration. After testing it on ourselves and hundreds of other people, we can't wait to show you too what becomes possible when you become a Deeper Lover - and how you can get there. For more info, visit deeperlovers.com
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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationships.
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18:43 Every test you pass takes one fear off the list
22:12 Why chasing women makes them run away - and what you should do instead
29:25 You can love someone and still go months without speaking
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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationship.
The fine line making or breaking your sex life: 4 nervous system regulation hacks for wild adventures | E28
Saison 3 · Épisode 28
mardi 8 septembre 2026 • Durée 40:42
“Feeling safe” is what makes great sex possible: your nervous system needs to feel completely at ease to really let go — but when your intimate encounter gets too safe, too planned, too nice, it’s no longer sexy. No matter if you’re man or woman.
So how can you feel safe enough / provide the necessary “nervous system safety” to get sexy and maybe even a little kinky, without becoming boring? That's what this episode is about.
We discuss:
why your body won't do what you want on until it’s sure there's no tiger behind the tree
why decisiveness is sexy: how to lead in bed without taking away their choice
the nice guy paradox: how to stop getting friend-zoned now
how to ask for what you want without fearing rejection (hint: it's not about you)
If there's something you've been wanting to try, or say, and you haven't felt safe enough to go there yet, this is what you want to listen to today.
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CHAPTERS:
01:30 Why men need to feel safe too
02:43 How to ask for something that you want, and be ok with a NO
If anyone has ever said that to you "You should not be wanting so much sex" - related to how often you want it, a fantasy, or a desire that turned up uninvited — this one is for you.
We go straight to the point today: shame is the cause of almost every problem in a relationship.
We discuss:
how shame is something that we are not born with – but that is rather taught us – for good and, not so good, reasons
how body shame is a boner/libido killer
why you should trust your desires
how stop giving a fuck about what people think creates space for curiosity, endless possibilities, and new levels of pleasures
If you’ve ever found yourself fighting with your partner about how much sex you’re (not) having – listen to this and go back to that conversation.
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TIMESTAMPS
02:01 What is shame?
04:44 Shame is learned
07:09 What are you ashamed of?
10:46 Body image shame
12:40 Intimacy: the relationship with yourself, before anybody else
15:50 Stop giving a fuck and it will affect others
16:42 What happens on the other side of shame
18:15 Shame as an identity
19:17 Shame for kinks and fantasies
22:28 Trust your desires
24:58 Shame of craving intimacy with a partner
Open Or Monogamous Relationship? Neither Lasts Without These 3 Pillars — With Eva Di Pierro | E26
Saison 3 · Épisode 26
mardi 14 juillet 2026 • Durée 44:30
⚡️ FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "How To Share Your Secret Fantasies" — join Chiara live. Reserve your seat ⚡️
Today we are joined by Eva Di Pierro - a somatic practitioner and bodyworker who's spent over 15 years guiding individuals, couples and leaders into deeper connection and presence — we trained under her years ago and have been working with her since.
Will and I built our relationship on being open. Eva built hers on staying monogamous. We sat down to find out what actually makes a relationship work — and it turns out the model has almost nothing to do with it.
In this episode we explore:
what is a Sacred Relationship how to have one
why idolising your partner is a just a trap
how past fears impact your present relationship
the 3 pillars of a successful relationship (Intimacy, Polarity, Devotion)
whether monogamy is a "safer" option than an open relationship – but not necessarily the only “right” option
the difference between choosing from Love or from Fear (Chiara’s favourite)
people’s “craziest” fantasy – it’s not what you think!
Most people fantasise about being with someone other than their partner. That’s normal. The question is what you do with it.
In this episode, we get into one of the most common — and least talked-about — sexual fantasies: desiring variety in sexual partners.
We cover what ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) looks like in practice – with all its various flavours - and how monogamous couples can safely explore this territory without anyone doing anything with anybody else. This is one of the many things that become possible when you learn to share fantasies with each other.
We also end up in a surprisingly good conversation about "having a type" — where it comes from, why biology explains far less of it than you'd expect, and what you might be missing out on if you keep yourself constrained to a rigid checklist of qualities to tick off.
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TIME STAMPS
00:00 E25 Non-monogamy fantasy - having variety
01:25 Partners variety (ENM) is amongst the most common sexual fantasies
03:59 ENM structures: dating separately
04:32 ENM structures: dating together as a couple >> shared experience
05:08 ENM structures: polyamory
05:19 Fantasies as a tool to explore ENM for monogamous couples
What if the fantasy you've been hiding is the exact thing your relationship needs?
Most of us treat our desires like secrets — something to protect our partner from.
Today we are joined by Paris, a longtime tantric practitioner and facilitator who went from completely frigid to living out every fantasy she's ever had. She is one of Will and Chiara's main teachers.
In this episode we discuss:
🩶 why suppressing your fantasies makes them more obsessive, not less
🩶 how jealousy can turn into compersion (the opposite feeling to jealousy) — and what it takes to get there
🩶 the orgasm myths that's keeping millions of men and women from the best sex of their lives
🩶 tantric practices to expand genitals sensitivity and presence
🩶 how you transform your relationship when you start sharing out loud your desires
🩶 why men exploring their feminine side might be the sexiest thing you've ever witnessed (and how to get started)
🩶 the 21-day challenge that rewires how your body experiences pleasure
Sharing and going after your desires doesn't damage a relationship. It deepens it. Listen to this incredible episode to know how.
What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That Now) | E23
Saison 3 · Épisode 23
mercredi 1 avril 2026 • Durée 31:14
What’s the thing that scares the shit out of most couples? Being seen for who they really are. And in sex? Sharing their fantasies.
What’s the one thing that sits underneath every fantasy, every risk, and every deeply connected relationship? It’s TRUST.
Most of us simply don't trust what will happen when we share ourselves completely.
So, today’s episode is all about helping you doing exactly that. We cover:
the difference between fantasy and action
the reasons why "convincing" your partner never works
why a hard "no" today doesn't mean no forever
how to talk about what turns you on without pressing your partner
how the nervous system needs to hear something a few times before it stops treating it like a threat
The best relationships are not built on playing safe. They’re built on the kind of trust that lets two people tell the truth, stay close, explore, and grow together.
If you've been sitting on a sexy fantasy for a while but haven't found the way in yet, this episode is the conversation you need to hear – make it a date night to listen to it with your partner!
Most of us were raised to believe that sexual fantasies are shameful - or just plain wrong. But what if those forbidden desires weren’t signs that something’s broken?
In this episode, we get to the bottom of why so many people are turned on by taboos, what that says about our emotional wiring, and we share practical strategies to discuss fantasies with your partner in a way that builds trust, safety and - more importantly - turns them on, rather than scares them off.
We also openly share some of own fantasies and struggles with taboos, as well as real-life stories from our clients, from threesomes and being dominated, to consensual non-consent, emphasising the significance of curiosity and trust in deepening sexual and emotional connections.
If there’s something you’ve secretly desired but never dared to say out loud, today’s episode is your “how to” permission slip to get curious and start that super-hot conversation that you’ve always wanted to have.
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TIME STAMPS
04:55 Your fantasies are actually normal
06:45 Why do we avoid talking about taboos?
13:58 Stay curious
17:03 Should I "request" or "propose" a kinky fantasy?
23:34 How to suggest a fantasy to your partner
24:39 Domination fantasy
27:16 Masculine and Feminine in all of us
30:03 Slutty and proud
31:36 Consensual non-consent fantasy
33:29 Rape play fantasy
36:26 Sex in public fantasy
Why your intimacy issues aren’t caused by your partner with Puja Lepp | E21
Saison 2 · Épisode 21
mercredi 23 avril 2025 • Durée 36:21
Most people think the key to better sex and exciting relationships is learning the right moves or finding "The One".
In an interview with one of our teachers, Will and I talk about why the patterns that hold you back in bed are the same ones that limit you in life. Why lack of intimacy isn’t about the other person, the sex positions, or your performance. And why feeling stuck, unseen, or frustrated in your relationship often has deeper roots that go far beyond your partner’s behaviour.
Puja Lepp is an internationally sought after psychotherapist, retreat leader, and teacher. For over 30 years she has been supporting people through deep emotional healing and transformation. She is the founder of the Primal Childhood Deconditioning retreat, a seven-day immersive process designed to help participants access and release unprocessed emotions, break free from old survival patterns, and reconnect with their authentic selves.
In this episode she shares the powerful truth we’ve seen again and again in our own journey and with our clients: you can’t separate your relationship struggles from your personal healing. But when you start doing the work on yourself—when you drop the mask and learn to show up fully—that’s when everything begins to change.
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TIME STAMPS
04:03 How Inner Work And Sexual Healing Are Deeply Connected
08:32 Is This Type Of Work For You? The Impact on Romantic Relationships
12:26 Is "working on yourself" really harder than "pretending" and wearing masks of perfection?
13:27 We All Fear Not Being Loved
16:13 We can't Force Our Partner To Do The Work
19:07 Why Feeling Safe Is Key For a Successful Relationship
19:42 How To Help Your Parter Feel Safe With You
22:38 "Doing The Work" Has a Domino Effect On Your Life as A Whole
My partner doesn’t want sex. What should I do? | E20
To celebrate our podcast 1st anniversary, we address our clients’ most common questions in a live Q&A - from jealousy to sexual dynamics and open relationships.
Partner communication, establishing trust, and addressing underlying issues in a relationship are some of the things we are experts on, and our goal is to provide you with practical tips that will enhance your romantic connections.
If you feel even a little curious but shy, this is the episode for you.
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TIME STAMPS
01:38 Q1. My Partner Does Not Want To Have Sex: Should We Open The Relationship?
02:48 The Risks of Opening a Relationship
06:09 Work On Your Own Relationship First
07:49 Q2. How Do I Know If My Partner Is Into Kinks?
11:09 Q3. I am So Jealous! How Do I deal With Jealousy?
18:48 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe
19:51 Your Body Has All The Answers
21:53 Q4. Am I Bi-Curious?
25:46 Q5. How Can A Man Stay Confident During Sex When Another Man Is In The Room?
29:23 It's All About Boundaries
29:59 Sexual Conditioning: What Is (Not) Doing For You?
33:52 How to re-establish safety in long-term relationships – and get that New Relationship Energy back
36:49 What if I'm afraid of being rejected?
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E22 | How To Share Secret Sexual Desires & Why We're Turned On By Taboos - on Apple or Spotify
E23 | What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That Now) - on Apple or Spotify
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Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationships.
