Are you overthinking your relationship? Do you ever wonder if it’s love or just anxiety?

In this episode, I share my journey from relationship anxiety to building true inner safety and self-trust. I'm joined by Sarah Yudkin, creator of You Love and You Learn, to explore releasing fear, healing old patterns, and meeting your own emotional needs while staying open to love. If you’ve ever questioned your relationship or struggled to feel secure, this conversation will help you find peace, confidence, and a deeper connection.

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If your biological clock is ticking and dating feels stressful, this episode’s for you! I share real-life dating advice and relationship tips for managing timelines, trusting the process, and a reminder that love doesn’t need to follow a timeline.

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Episode 100 – A story about a woman who became a single mother by choice before getting married.

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I’m celebrating three years of the podcast and 3 million downloads by sharing the 10 biggest lessons I’ve learned from 200 episodes!!! THANK YOU FOR BEING HERE 💛

When I started this show in my kitchen in Seattle, I never imagined I’d be talking to hundreds of thousands of daters all over the world. Today, I’m reflecting on the advice that comes up again and again, from “you can date however you want” to “stop chasing the spark," and sharing the mindset shifts that will help you enjoy dating, stay grounded, and actually find the relationship you want. Whether you’re just getting started or feeling stuck in your love life, this episode will help you recenter on what matters and remind you that you’re not behind, you’re not broken, and dating really can be fun.

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I'm back from my wedding & honeymoon with some brand new episodes! This week, we're deep-diving into age gaps. What's a good age range to have when searching for a partner? How do you deal with judgment when dating someone way older/younger than you? And can it work if you're over 10 years apart in age? In this episode, you'll hear my advice on navigating age gaps and setting your age range and you'll hear from folks who have experience dating people over 10 years older than them.

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In this episode, you’ll hear from Alex Koren, my brother. We talk about how to approach dating in your 30s, moving on from relationships, and being yourself when dating. You’ll hear about how Alex is putting himself in situations where socializing is natural. And Alex shares what is important to him when messaging new women and going on dates. At the end, we do a “Why do men” segment and Alex shares what he wants to see more of in dating culture. 

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Hello from Greece! I'm on my honeymoon and thought this would be a great week to share an essential Dating Intentionally episode in case you missed it (or need to hear it again). This episode originally aired in November 2023.

Are you grounded in dating? Listen and learn what staying grounded in dating even means and what happens when we get completely carried away. I'm also getting into how to slow the process down and stay grounded in reality as you get to know someone you like.  At the end of the episode, I'm answering two listener emails.

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In this episode, you’ll hear from Shani Silver, a podcaster and author of A Single Revolution: Don't Look For a Match—Light One. We talk about singlehood, dating apps, and the balance between wanting to be single and wanting a partner. You’ll hear about how Shani changed her perspective on dating and being single. Shani also provides a ton of tips for folks who want to make connections without putting too much pressure on relationships. At the end, Shani shares what she wants to see more of in the dating world and what you can do to flip the script while dating.

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About Shani: Shani Silver is an author and podcaster originally from Fort Worth, Texas. Her name is pronounced like “rainy” with a “sh.” Her book, A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match—light one, helps singles reframe singlehood to see its value and validity, for as long as we happen to be single. She is not an advocate for singlehood, she's an advocate for people being happy while single, and there is a difference. Her podcast, A Single Serving Podcast, launched in April of 2019 in the hopes of giving single women content that—for once—didn’t revolve around dating, and to support singles around the world in shedding the societal shame of singlehood. Shani has lived and dated in Austin, TX, Los Angeles, CA, Chicago, IL, Philadelphia, PA, and Brooklyn, NY. She currently lives in New Orleans. Following ten years of use, Shani permanently deleted her dating apps in January of 2019. She has loved her life ever since.

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In this episode, I answer five dating dilemmas from listeners. Thanks to everyone who submitted dating dilemmas!

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In this episode, you’ll hear from Lily Womble, a feminist dating coach and author of Thank You More Please. We talk about being a decision maker in your love life, self trust, and digging deeper to find what you really want. You’ll hear about how Lily adapted essence based preferences in her work. And Lily provides a ton of tips for folks who want to see more success in their dating lives. We discuss Lily’s book and Lily reveals what inspired her to write it. At the end, Lily shares her thoughts on dating apps and what she wants to see more of in the current dating world.

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About Lily: Lily Womble is sparking a feminist revolution in the way we date and find love. She was one of the top matchmakers in the U.S., but after setting up hundreds of dates, Lily realized that the answer to finding love was much deeper than a setup, and that the way we are taught to date is still stuck in the patriarchal dark ages. She founded her company, Date Brazen, in 2018 and has since helped hundreds of women create love lives that are epic, settle-proof, and joyful-as-hell with her intersectional feminist approach.

She changes lives daily on TikTok, Top 4 Relationship Podcast- The Date Brazen Podcast , and sold-out coaching programs world-wide. Her debut nonfiction advice book, Thank You, More Please: A feminist guide to breaking dumb dating rules and finding love, comes out in June 2024 with Legacy Lit. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband, Chris.

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It's my wedding week! In this episode, I discuss how to know/decide that your partner is the one - meaning the person you will be with long-term and/or get married to. Even if you don't want to get married, this episode will walk you through the factors of deciding if the person you're with is someone you want to be with for the long haul. I address the mistakes we make along the way when making this decision and the pressure we put on ourselves. I also talk about how I decided/knew my fiance was the one and why I don't believe there is just one person for everyone.

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In this episode, you’ll hear from Whitni Miller, a couples’ intimacy coach and sex educator. We talk about desire discrepancy, speaking up during sex, and keeping it spicy in the bedroom. 

You’ll hear about how Whitni helps clients with different levels of desire start the conversation and work through it together. And Whitni provides a ton of tips for people pleasers who don’t want to fake orgasms anymore. At the end, we answer a dating dilemma about differing kinks and sexual likes early on. 

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About Whitni: Whitni Miller, also known as Bde.moves, is a distinguished figure in Queer couples' intimacy coaching and sex education, boasting over four years of expertise in guiding individuals and couples toward authentic pleasure. Grounded in principles of radical self-acceptance and relational communication, Whitni fosters transformative experiences, empowering clients to embrace their desires with confidence.

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In this episode, you'll get advice for starting and maintaining a long-distance relationship. I included advice from listeners who have successfully dated someone long distance, as well as advice from my own experience doing long distance for a year in my last relationship. You'll hear about how it works in the early stages of dating and how to strengthen and develop a long-term relationship even when you live far away from each other.

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In this episode, you'll hear from Ella Dawson, a writer and author, talk about what it’s like dating after leaving an abusive relationship and being diagnosed with an STI. She has made it her mission to break the stigma around herpes and other STIs because they’re a lot more common than you’d think. In this episode, Ella explains how to bring up STIs in a way that won’t result in an awkward silence or breakup. Ella also shares her advice for anyone who has experienced or is experiencing an abusive relationship and what tools you can use to prevent another relationship like that. And we chat about Ella’s new book, But How Are You Really? and what inspired her to write a novel! 

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About Ella Dawson: Ella Dawson is an NYC-based sex and culture critic whose work has been published by Elle, Vox, and Women’s Health, among others. She was once internet famous for having herpes, but that’s a whole other story. Ella is proudly bisexual, very anxious, and aspires to adopt a kitten. Follow her on social media and on Patreon as @brosandprose.

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In this episode, I sit down with Shaun Galanos (@thelovedrive) to discuss what it truly means to bring playfulness and honesty to dating. We dive into why dating actually gets better as you get older and how to embrace the messy parts of love without losing your sense of humor. Shaun shares the advice he gives his clients (that he still needs to hear himself), and we tackle some of your trickiest sex-related questions, including the ones that stump me. Plus, we wrap up with Shaun’s rapid-fire first date hot takes that will change how you think about getting to know someone new.

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I believe dating can be fun. In this episode, you'll hear eight different ways to enjoy the process more so you can stop deleting and redownloading dating apps every month. Some of these tips are practical, like tweaking your pre-date routine. And some tips are more about your mindset, like why you need to stop trying to be liked. I also included a bunch of the BEST date ideas according to you, the listeners. At the end, I answer a dating dilemma about what to do when someone says "let's be friends" after a few great dates.

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In this episode, you'll hear from Celia Gurney, a writer and creator who covers demisexuality and asexuality. We get into Celia's journey and how she discovered demisexuality, different resources that helped her along the way, and different levels of attraction. You'll hear about primary attraction vs. secondary attraction and how to approach dating if you need to develop an emotional connection first.

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Celia Gurney is a writer, educator, improviser, and content creator who just spent two years in France, where she co-founded an improv comedy collective. Her essay about discovering and embracing demisexuality can be found at Mangoprism.com, and links to everything else are on her Instagram (@ceelia_later). 

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Get ready to be inspired! In this special episode (yay 101 episodes!), you'll hear from 5 members of this community about how they've found success in their dating lives. Success in dating is NOT just about finding a relationship (or whatever you're looking for). We can define it however we want. I'm so excited to have made it to over 100 episodes of this podcast, thanks to YOU, and so I wanted this episode to be about your successes.

Episodes mentioned in this podcast:

• #23. How to stay grounded
• #53. Ghosting - why it happens and how to deal
• #54. Dating expectations (guest Damona Hoffman)
• #59. Top 10 green flags to look out for
• #68. Self-worth 101 (guest Jackie Glaser)
• #73. How to set boundaries
• #78. Dating skills you need (guests Julie & Yue from Dateable)

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In this episode, you'll hear from a Dating Intentionally listener named Sara who decided to take her future into her own hands and start a family on her own before meeting her fiance on Bumble. Sara walk us through how she decided to have a child on her own at age 40, then through her experience dating (even though it was so short - she met her fiance quickly)! I love this story because it's important to hear experiences from folks who don't follow what society deems is the right path (meet someone, get married, then have kids). You can do it in whatever order you want/makes sense for your life.

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In this episode, you'll learn about the most important thing you can do while single if you want to enjoy dating and learn how to detach from the outcome: embracing your life without a partner. I talk about how to date NATO (not attached to the outcome) and the major steps you can take to lower the stakes in your dating life. I speak from experience as I share the reflection questions I used to dream up an amazing life for myself without a partner... while looking for one simultaneously. Don't skip this one if you're single and want to shift your mindset.

QUESTIONS:

* If I don’t like it here, where should I live? 

* How do I want to spend my time? What do I want my lifestyle to be? 

* How will I make my life meaningful without a romantic relationship?

* What kind of friend and daughter do I want to be?

* How will I show up for the people in my life? 

* How do I want to spend my money and what are my financial goals as a single person?

* If I don’t meet anyone in the next few years, will I choose to have kids on my own? 

* If I don’t get married, what does the best version of my life look like?

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In this episode, you'll hear from Jemma Sbeg, the host of The Psychology Of Your 20's! We get into the psychology behind comparison and feeling behind, the paradox of choice and dating apps and navigating dating in hook up culture. Jemma shares the top two things daters need to be focused on if they want to get into a relationship, and tips for what to do when your date says they want to "go with the flow." I hope you enjoy this conversation!

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Let's say you meet someone you hit it off with, but they say they're not sure what they want. Or they're going through a lot and they can't focus on dating. Or they want to commit, but they're scared. Do you wait? Or do you move on? This episode breaks down when to walk and when to wait, and how to navigate conversations that come up in this sticky situation. At the end, I share wedding planning updates.

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I'm so excited to bring you this highly requested episode topic: dating in a bigger body! Jasmine King, a plus-sized dater and the founder of Jas Explains, provides incredible insight, tips and mindset shifts for those who want to get the most out of dating, but fear their body size holds them back. Jasmine and I dive deep into how to build confidence and face the challenges of dating in a larger body, like being fetishized while using apps. No matter your body size, this episode will make you feel empowered in your dating life.

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Jasmine King is the founder of Jas Explains; a platform designed to foster open dialogue and empowerment. It serves as a vibrant hub where individuals can explore topics such as sexual wellness, relationships, personal growth, and empowerment, all within the unique context of Malaysia. Through Jas Explains, Jasmine endeavors to break down barriers, normalize conversations, and uplift communities, ultimately striving for a more informed, inclusive, and empowered society.

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Is it just lust or something more? Do you really like them, or just the idea of them? In this episode, I'm breaking down the difference between infatuation and genuine connection so you know when something is real (and when it's more of a fantasy). You'll also learn how to avoid infatuation and create connections that last. At the end, I share my bachelorette party experience in NYC!

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What if you could take the pressure off yourself to start a family by a certain age? In this episode, I chat with Dr. Srini Reddy at Spring Fertility all about freezing your eggs, how it works and what to consider if you're thinking about doing it. I learned so much in this episode and love that there are so many options available when thinking about starting a family and when to do it.

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Learn more about Spring Fertility: Spring Fertility is a full-service fertility clinic specializing in assisted reproductive technologies, such as IVF, as well as fertility preservation. Spring was founded in 2016 to increase access to personalized fertility care, because we believe our patients should never feel like a number. Spring has locations across the San Francisco Bay Area as well as in New York City and Portland, OR. 

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In this episode, I’m answering four of your real-life dating dilemmas! We’re talking about what to do when someone says they need to “find themselves” before committing, how to build emotional connection early on without scaring them off, and whether a partner’s pre-trip freak-out is a sign to walk away or just a moment of vulnerability. Plus, we tackle the dreaded slow fade (and what to do).

Stick around until the end for a personal update on my first year of marriage!! I'm sharing what surprised me, what challenged us, and what I wish I had known before saying “I do.”

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Isn't it so annoying when you hit it off with someone, and the connection suddenly dies? Or when a whole month goes by between your first and second date due to mismatched schedules? Keeping momentum is one of the many challenges in early dating. In this episode, learn how to keep the momentum going and why it's key to going from dating to getting into a committed relationship. If you've ever wondered, "how slow is too slow?" this episode is for you. You'll learn exactly how to build and maintain momentum in early dating.

At the end, I answer a dating dilemma about getting aligned on future plans and goals in a relationship.

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In this episode, I discuss making friends and building community as an adult with Rachel Saslaw, the founder of StoryTell. She also happens to be my childhood best friend! We talk about the difference between community and friends, how to be open to new platonic connections and the various ways Rachel has made new friends in cities that she has lived in. We also talk about being an "inviter" vs being a "participater" in a friend group, and the importance of focusing on what needs friendships can meet in your life.

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Are you obsessed with figuring out if your crush or date likes you back? Do you find yourself spiraling over someone who's sending mixed signals? This is the episode for you. I'm breaking down why we need to focus more on ourselves (our emotions, actions, and experiences) than on the other person's behavior in early dating. I provide tips on how to make this mental and emotional shift and what happens if you don't start dating more "selfishly." At the end of the episode, I answer a dating dilemma about getting ghosted after a great second date.

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In today's episode, I talk to Todd Baratz, LMHC, about the importance of self-awareness, why it's more than okay to be clingy in dating and relationships, and how our dating checklists hold us back from intimacy. We also discuss how we make dating more challenging for ourselves and how to focus our energy on analyzing other people's behavior inward instead. At the end of the episode, Todd shares his take on some of the most common dating advice on Instagram.

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About Todd Baratz, LMHC

Todd Baratz is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Learn more on Instagram under his handle @YourDiagnonsense.

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You've heard of the slow burn, but how do you take it slow in dating? This episode covers 10 of the most effective tips for taking it slow in early dating and not rushing the process. At the end of the episode, I discuss dating dilemmas such as asking for gifts in a relationship and dealing with a lack of physical affection.

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In this episode, you'll hear Matchmaker Maria and I get into a ton of topics, from social media's effect on today's dating culture to whether or not my fiance and I should combine finances. We talk about online dating, meeting people IRL and a lot about how her company's matchmaking services work. We also got into Maria's 12 Date Rule, Green Dress Theory and living with a partner before or after engagement. At the end, we do a rapid-fire round of "Ask A Matchmaker."

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Maria Avgitidis is the CEO of Agape Match, an award-winning matchmaking service based out of NYC, and the host of the dating and relationship podcast, Ask a Matchmaker. Maria’s dating advice has been featured on The NY Times, The Washington Post, Good Morning America, The Today Show, Esquire, Elle, and many other outlets. Her book, Ask A Matchmaker, comes out in 2025.

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If there's one mistake to avoid in early dating, it's following each other too early. In this episode, I explain why it's best to wait to connect on social media, how it amplifies our anxieties, and how it breeds miscommunication. I also share best practices for navigating connecting on social media in the early dating stages and how to talk about it. At the end of the episode, I answer two dating dilemmas about not feeling attracted to people right away and what to do when the people you date aren't prioritizing dating. I also share personal updates.

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In this eye-opening conversation with writer Jessica Slice, you'll learn what it's like to date with a disability and chronic illness. We get into so much in this episode, like when to disclose a disability, tips for using dating apps, where dating apps fall short when it comes to inclusivity for disabled folks and tips for what to do when you encounter someone in your dating journey who has a disability. We also talk a lot about Jessica's amazing new book, Dateable: Swiping Right, Hooking Up and Settling Down while Chronically Ill and Disabled.

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About Jessica Slice:

Jessica Slice is a disabled author and essayist who has published essays The New York Times's Modern Love column, in Alice Wong's bestselling Disability Visibility, The New York Times, The Washington Post, Hippocampus, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, and HuffPost.

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So, after a few months of listening to this podcast, you find yourself in a new relationship. Yay! Now, what do you do? This episode is about the four main things to focus on in the early stages of a new relationship after you've decided to officially become a couple. Listen and learn how to make the most of the honeymoon phase and keep learning about each other and integrate each other into your lives. I also get into handling conflict in the early stages of a relationship. At the end of the episode, I answer a dating dilemma about seeing someone on a dating app after they tell you they're not ready for a relationship.

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What kinds of questions are you asking on dates, and are they the kind that will help your date open up? In this episode, I talk to Topaz Adizes, Founder of The Skin Deep and creator of the Emmy award-winning series {The And} about how to have deeper, more intimate conversations. We get into the types of questions that lead to deeper conversations, tips for listening and more. This was such an insightful conversation!

Also - I am now partnering with The Skin Deep and offering a discount on their product, {The And} card decks! Check out their dating question card deck here. https://collabs.shop/co9ejf 

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About Topaz Adizes:

opaz Adizes is an Emmy award-winning writer, director, and experience design architect. He is an Edmund Hillary fellow and Sundance/Skoll stories of change fellow. His works have been selected to Cannes, Sundance, IDFA, and SXSW; featured in New Yorker magazine, Vanity Fair, and the New York Times; and have garnered an Emmy for new approaches to documentary and Two World Press photo awards for immersive storytelling and interactive documentary. He is currently the founder and executive director of the experience design studio The Skin Deep. Topaz studied philosophy at UC Berkeley and Oxford University. He speaks four languages, and currently lives in Uruguay with his wife and two children. For more about The Skin Deep, visit TheSkinDeep.com.

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In this episode, I’m sharing all my tips for dating outside your type! You’re going to hear what it means to have a “type”, success stories from other listeners about how they dated outside their type, why dating outside your type can work, and what I personally looked for on dating apps when using this approach. (It led me to meeting my husband, just saying!) You’ll also hear why this approach is not the same as settling. At the end, I answer a fresh dating dilemma from a woman who's not sure if a friendship could become something romantic.

This episode originally aired in April 2024.

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If dating were easy, this podcast probably wouldn't exist. This episode is packed with reminders and mindset shifts to help you stay positive on your dating journey, even when you keep striking out. I discuss believing vs. hoping, checking our own expectations, and examining the reality of what's actually happening in your dating life, despite how it feels.

At the end I answer two dating dilemmas! One is about maintaining a FWB while looking for a long-term partner, and the other is about talking to your partner about a phrase they keep using that bugs you.

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It's always so interesting to hear dating advice from a different perspective. This episode features Blaine Anderson, the founder of Dating By Blaine who was recently featured on Shark Tank! Blaine spills the tea on what men look for on women's profiles on dating apps, why they're hesitant to approach women in public and what women can do to be more approachable. We also broke down her adorable meet cute story with her husband, who she met at Barry's Bootcamp. This conversation was truly eye-opening, and one thing is clear: everyone has really similar challenges in dating, regardless of gender and sexuality.

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I'm switching it up this week with a new format! I answer five of your dating dilemmas. Submit your dating dilemma below to have a chance of getting it answered on the pod! In this episode, I answer questions about needing more words of affirmation, making the decision to pursue single parenthood in your mid-30s, how to define the relationship, dealing with a dry texter in early dating, and what to do if you're not getting past the first date. I also talk about how I've been dealing with rejection lately, even though I'm not currently dating.

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Shame holds us back from what we truly want and need in dating, sex, and relationships. Jessica Stahl shares how she transformed her shame into something else - something way more empowering in the form of a feminist cartoon named Vanillacooldance, which takes on taboos around female sexual pleasure, normalizing bodies, speaking up for yourself in dating, and so much more. Jessica and I talked about how she created VCD, how to address shame around sexual pleasure, and how to speak up for your needs. We also discussed how to have more self-compassion and heal from a toxic relationship with self-development.

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You've done so much healing work, so why do you still feel so emotionally triggered? In this episode, I get into why you still feel so emotionally triggered in some situations, despite all the work you've done on yourself and how to manage it in a relationship. I talk a lot about what has triggered me in my current relationship and how I deal with it. At the end, I share wedding updates! Three months to go.

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Today's episode features the amazing hosts of Dateable Podcast, Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick. They have been sharing their dating advice for 8 years with thousands of daters everywhere. We get into super practical tips for having better conversations on dates, the importance of screening your matches, and the mindset shifts you need to be more curious and less attached to the outcome. We also talk about the common thing that successful daters have: wanting a relationship, not needing one, and knowing what your "north star" is in dating. At the end, we do a rapid-fire round of "Is it a red flag if?".

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Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are the co-hosts and creators of Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. As active daters turned dating insiders, they’ve interviewed thousands of daters and world-renowned experts over the last decade to understand why we date the way we do. But more importantly, with this information, share how you can rise above modern dating culture, get out of this dating apocalypse, and DIY the love life you’ve always wanted. Subscribe to Dateable on all podcast platforms and visit dateablepodcast.com and @dateablepodcast as your go-to source for modern dating.

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Have you ever been on that nightmare date where they don't ask you a single question or make an effort to get to know you? Unfortunately, it's a pretty common situation. In this episode, I explain why your date (usually it's men) doesn't ask questions and share various ways to handle that situation. I also provide ten of my favorite date questions for your next date!

At the end of this episode, I answer two listener questions. The first one is from a woman who could never convince her ex-BF to go to trivia night with her friends and then saw him at that exact trivia event after they broke up. The second one is from a woman who adores her partner, but they don't have the same needs and expectations in the bedroom.

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Did rom-coms ruin how we view relationships? This new series, Rom Com vs. Real Life, featuring my fiance and fellow film nerd Johnny, examines that question.

In this episode, we're looking at the film He's Just Not That Into You and what it's teaching viewers about dating, relationships and how it all works. This move is packed with rules, exceptions and marriage-obsessed women.

What is this movie teaching us about dating and relationships? Is it helping or hurting the way we perceive long term partnership? What's realistic, and what's not? We get into it all in this first episode.

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In today's episode you'll hear from confidence and assertiveness expert Talia Bombola, who's also a professor and LMFT. We get deep into where confidence truly comes from, why we look for it in a partner and an unexpected way to start building it up on your own. We also talk about the importance of assertiveness and why it's tough for women specifically to practice, as well as ways to use assertiveness on dates (you know, when your date just won't stop talking about themselves). Finally, we discuss what it means to have an abundance mentality in all areas of life, not just dating.

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Talia Bombola, The Confidence & Assertiveness Specialist™, is a Certified Psychodynamic, Licensed Psychotherapist, and Relationship Mentor for Women. She has won Newport Beach’s Best Therapist 3 years in a row, 2022-2024 and is in the Business Hall of Fame. Her work centers around helping anxious women feel secure by increasing self-worth, confidence, and assertiveness & rewiring beliefs about themselves, men, and relationships. She helps you heal the "not enoughness" that prevents you from living a life overflowing with satisfaction and self-worth.

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Maybe you've heard the advice "date multiple people," but you have no idea how it works, if it's even possible for you, or why you should try it in the first place. This is the episode for you! I'm breaking down exactly how to approach talking to multiple people and entertaining a handful of potential matches before committing to one person. This approach doesn't work for everyone, but it worked for me. It's worth trying if you tend to get attached quickly, can easily get dates and want to speed up the vetting process a bit, or want to try a different approach.

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In this episode, I talk about one of the most frustrating parts of modern dating: mixed signals. I break down why people send mixed signals, why they can feel so addicting (even when we know better), and how to spot them early so you don’t waste your time. You’ll hear real listener examples of hot-and-cold behavior, learn the difference between mixed signals and a slow burn, and get practical strategies for deciding when to walk away. We’ll also cover what clear, green-flag signals actually look like so you can focus on what you do want. This week’s dating dilemma is from a listener who feels like a late bloomer and worries that their lack of dating experience is holding them back from finding a meaningful relationship.

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If you're using dating apps or thinking about creating a dating app profile, this is the episode to listen to. Erika Ettin, the founder of A Little Nudge joined me on the podcast to talk all things dating apps. We get into what makes a good profile, how to swipe more effectively, what mistakes to avoid when using dating apps and so much more. At the end we play a game I made up called "Erika Explains" where she answers a bunch of your dating questions.

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Erika Ettin holds a BA in economics from Cornell University and an MBA from Georgetown University. Since launching her online dating consulting business, A Little Nudge, Erika has helped hundreds of clients in the United States and abroad find happiness. She currently lives in Washington, D.C.

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Do you feel like you're being harsh when you set boundaries with people you date? Are you scared of saying no? You're not alone. If you tend to be a people-pleaser, starting to set boundaries feels strange. Maybe you even feel a little guilt for having and setting boundaries. This episode breaks down what boundaries are, what they're not and why they're important. I talk about what boundaries are good to have in early dating and how to enforce them in a direct way (not a mean way).

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Whether you're sober or sober-curious, this episode is packed with sage advice from Tawny Lara, the Sober Sexpert. Tawny shares insights from her sober dating journey that will open your eyes to how much alcohol permeates dating culture and what you can do to decide if how much you drink in your dating process is working for you or not. We get into how to date (and who to date) when you're sober, how to support someone who is sober if you're not and the best dry date ideas. We also discussed alcohol's role in sex and how to evaluate whether or not you're safely consuming alcohol in the context of physical intimacy.

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Tawny Lara, AKA The Sober Sexpert, is the author of Dry Humping: A Guide to Dating, Relating, and Hooking Up Without the Booze, co-host of the Recovery Rocks podcast, and co-founder of the vinegar-based botanical beverage, (parentheses)

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