Dateable AF Show Notes: E3

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 3 Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell discuss the dating apps.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 2 Rachel & Dr. Kyle explain Lesbian dating and the tendency to move in after the first date.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: E1

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 1 introduces you to our hosts, telling a bit about their histories and their coming-out stories. Find out about Rachel’s current adventures as a single lesbian in the Dating Bee. You’ll also learn about Sarah’s history as a therapist and as a partner in a long-term relationship.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 4 Queer Dating Pool: Is it really that small?

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 4 Dr. Kyle and Rachel discuss the Queer Dating Pool and have great tips about dating!

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 5

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This episode, “Flirting For People Who Hate Flirting”, guides you through some specific flirting tips and steers you away from flirting fails. Learn the one thing that is absolutely essential to successful flirting, and hear some stories of flirting gone awry. Learn about #johngottman’s idea of bids for connection and how to use those.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Episode 16

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Datable AF — E16

“I’m Not Clingy, You’re Just Distant” — Dating With Different Attachment Styles

Sarah & Rachel unpack attachment theory (Ainsworth, Bowlby) and how secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious-avoidant styles play out in queer dating—without turning your date into a diagnosis.

In this episode:

• Why anxious/avoidant pairings create that chase/run loop—and how both people can pause the cycle.
• Simple repair moves: name your needs, take space with a return time, and actually come back.
• Texting rhythms: consistent ≠ constant. Don’t double-text in protest or stonewall to punish.
• Green flags of secure attachment: steady communication, empathy, flexibility, low drama.
• You’re not doomed by your style—therapy, self-awareness, and a secure partner help you shift.
• Quick IRL cues: anxious energy reads faster; avoidant can mask—meet offline to really see each other.

Go deeper: free attachment quizzes + books: Attached (Amir Levine), Wired for Love (Stan Tatkin), Hold Me Tight (Sue Johnson).

Live taping: Sun, Aug 24 @ 1972 Sports Bar (Austin, TX) — details soon. Season 2 tease: still dating, now adding long-term relationship deep dives. Share, rate, follow on Apple, Spotify, IG & FB @ Datable AF.

#Hashtags #DatableAF #QueerDating #AttachmentStyles #SecureAttachment #AnxiousAvoidant #WLW #Sapphic #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #Boundaries #Communication #AmirLevine #StanTatkin #SueJohnson

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Episode 15

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Datable AF — E15

Fun Drunk or Red Flag? Dating, Drinking & Compatibility

Sarah (now 5½ years sober) and Rachel unpack alcohol’s role in early dating: why that first drink can smooth nerves, why behavior usually shifts by drink three, and how presence—not what’s in your glass—makes or breaks connection.

They separate one-offs from patterns: overdrinking on a first date, needing booze for every plan, “cruddy” mornings, personality flips (sloppy, loud, angry), pressuring a partner to drink, or a sober person having “just one.” Patterns = red flags.

How to navigate mismatch: mix dry and sipped dates, name boundaries, avoid guilt in either direction, decide how you’ll handle “not tonight,” and know when to talk vs. walk. A kind script: “When you drink, it takes you away from the person I love.”

Context for queer women: bar culture and stress can nudge more drinking—but compatibility, safety, and respect matter most. Choose what keeps you present, connected, and datable AF.

Next up: E16 — I’m Not Clingy, You’re Just Distant: dating with different attachment styles. Share your funniest/worst “party girl” stories for the After Party, and follow on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube @ Datable AF.

#Hashtags #DatableAF #QueerDating #SoberDating #AlcoholAndDating #WLW #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #Boundaries #RedFlags #Sapphic

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 6

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 6 Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell discuss the Dating Vibes.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AFterparty Bonus Answering Listeners Questions and Comments

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This bonus episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel share listener's comments and questions

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC

Dateable AFter Party Episode 13

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This bonus episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel share listener's comments and questions.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: AFter Party

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel answer questions from listeners!

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AFter Party Episode 10

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This bonus episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel share listener's comments and questions

Here's the link to the article we mentioned about money and happiness: https://money.usnews.com/money/personal-finance/family-finance/articles/does-money-make-you-happy-the-latest-research-might-surprise-you

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Datable AF — E14

Lesbian Bed Death: Myth, Reality, or Just Bad Scheduling?

“Lesbian bed death” gets a rethink. Sarah (therapist) and Rachel (researcher) trace the term to an ‘80s, heteronormative study and offer a better frame: lesbian bed intimacies—expanding sex beyond “how often” to pleasure, variety, and connection.

They unpack what research and real life show: frequency dips over time for all couples, but many women–women pairs report higher satisfaction, more variety/romance, and longer encounters. They also name the blockers—body image and shame, past unwanted experiences, stress, illness, menopause, careers, and caregiving.

Practical takeaways for dating and long-term love: define what counts as sex (be honest if you’re seeing others), treat sexual health as shared, and talk early/often about turn-ons, turn-offs, and fantasies. Intimacy can be a slow-burn cuddle night or “just the destination”—both valid.

They also normalize scheduling sex (“let’s get naked and see what happens”) to create space for desire. Feeling like roommates? Try surprise romance, brave bids of desire, a gentle plan for handling “not tonight,” revisiting what turns you on now, and—when stuck—therapy.

Next up: E15 — Is She a Fun Drunk… or a Red Flag? Substance use, sobriety, and early signals to save you heartache.

Follow & share: Apple • Spotify • YouTube @ Datable AF

#Hashtags #DatableAF #LesbianBedDeath #LesbianBedIntimacies #QueerDating #WLW #Sapphic #SexAndRelationships #LGBTQPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #TherapistTips

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Bonus Episode- Answering Questions from Our Listeners

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This Bonus Episode, Dr Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell answer a question from a listeners about dating someone you would rather be friends with.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

We wanted to answer some questions and respond to some of the feedback we've been getting, so welcome to the second Afterparty episode!

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

We wanted to answer some questions and respond to some of the feedback we've been getting, so welcome to the first Afterparty episode!

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 13

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel discuss jumping the gun. Some says Hey and you start planning the wedding!

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 12

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

In this episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel deep dive into why we stay attached to people who don't actually show up. Here are the key takeaways:

• Create accountability for yourself to stop responding to folks who aren’t emotionally available
• Find positive ways to alleviate your loneliness. This isn’t one of them.
• Let go of physical and emotional artifacts
• Set and maintain boundaries for yourself

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 11

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This episode, Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel deep dive when there is no Chemistry. Boring Boring Boring! If your first descriptor is Nice- walk away.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 10

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This episode,Champagne Taste vs. Lone Star Budget: Dating Across Class Lines looks at differences in SES and how that shows up in dating relationships. We give our listeners tips, along with personal stories discussing ways to handle financial inequity.

• Summary of key points from the episode.
  • Pay attention to the way SES might subtly show up in your dating relationships
  • No need to match the other person’s lifestyle, but communicate clearly
  • Like so many other things, it’s about asking yourself if you can accept this person where they are today or if that’s too uncomfortable for you. Don’t expect them or their situation to change.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 9

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This episode, “Is That a Purse or a Red Flag?” features our first podcast guest, Michelle Casanova, and we’re so excited for you to get to know her! She is smart, funny, and single! Michelle discusses her participation in the dating bee, her experience with discrimination against purse-carriers, and her home-repair skills.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 8

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This episode, "She’s ‘Just a Friend’... Or Is She? Exes, Besties, and Blurred Lines" has a big reveal that our regular listeners will be eager to hear! We discuss various facets of the lesbian phenomenon of remaining best friends with all their exes.

Key Takeaways from this episode:

• It’s not about being cool with everything — it’s about being real with yourself
• If something feels blurry, be honest and check in about it
• Healthy relationships thrive on clarity, not guessing games
• Exes can be friends — if everyone is honest, respectful, and emotionally aware

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: Episode 7

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Please check out our website https://www.dateableaf.com/

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

This episode, “Avoiding the Situationship Spiral: When It’s Time to Define Things” addresses the importance of DTR (defining the relationship) and communicating directly about what you want. We have a good laugh about terminology and we give you some must-heed advice about what to never call the person you are seeing.

Key Takeaways from this episode:

• It’s okay to be in a situationship as long as both people agree that’s what it is
• Don’t be afraid to ask for clarification about what the relationship is
• If you’re staying in something that’s unfulfilling ask yourself why: Are you scared of losing them or do you really want to keep them?
• It’s okay to walk away in order to take care of yourself. As always, be kind in walking away.A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E11

Rachel and Sarah discuss Ethical Non-Monogamy (1)

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Contrary to popular belief, ethical non-monogamy isn’t a free-for-all — it’s more like a team project with a lot of Google Calendar invites. 🗓️✨

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel unpack what ethical non-monogamy (ENM) really means — and spoiler: it’s not just about sex. It’s about honesty, consent, emotional growth, and learning that love isn’t a limited resource.

We cover: 💡 What ENM actually is — from open relationships and swinging to polyamory and relationship anarchy. 🚫 Common misconceptions — “It’s an excuse to cheat,” “ENM people don’t get jealous,” and “It never works long-term.” ❤️ Why people choose ENM — curiosity, freedom, emotional honesty, and yes, better communication. 🧭 Keys to making it work — radical honesty, emotional regulation, clear boundaries, and (you guessed it) Google Calendar. ⚠️ When it goes wrong — saying “yes” when you mean “maybe,” using ENM to avoid commitment, or forgetting empathy along the way. 🌈 Advice for the curious — how to explore the idea safely, talk it through, and decide if it’s actually for you.

Because being open isn’t about loving more people — it’s about learning to love more honestly. 💖

💭 Discussion Prompts

• On a scale of 1–10, how open are you to the idea of non-monogamy?
• What parts of openness feel appealing — and what parts make you nervous?
• How do you define “honesty” and “boundaries” in your relationships?

We love hearing your thoughts and stories — send them to us on Instagram or via email for a chance to be featured in our next AFterparty episode! 💌

🎧 Next week: “Sealed with a Mess” — why kissing can be magic… or a total red flag.

💌 Thanks for tuning in to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E10

Rachel and Sarah discuss emotional micromanagement.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

If your “boundary” sounds more like a threat or a rule for someone else, it’s not a boundary — it’s emotional micromanagement. 💅

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel break down why so many people get boundaries wrong — and how to set ones that actually work. From the “revenge boundary” to over-explaining your limits, we’re diving into the messy middle between control and self-respect.

We cover: 🧠 What a boundary really is — it’s not about controlling them, it’s about protecting you. 🚫 Why we get it wrong — childhood patterns, fear of being “mean,” and confusing limits with ultimatums. 💬 How to set boundaries that stick — identify the behavior, decide your action, communicate clearly, and follow through. 🔥 Real-life examples:

• “If you cancel last minute again, I’ll make other plans.”
• “If this topic keeps coming up, I’ll end the call.” 💔 Common backfires: over-explaining, expecting gratitude, or trying to “teach” someone a lesson. 💞 Boundaries in dating: why consistency builds trust and flexibility keeps it human.

Because here’s the truth: a real boundary doesn’t control anyone else — it defines what you will do.

💭 Discussion Prompts

• Talk with your partner about times you notice yourself trying to influence or control their behavior.
• Reframe it: How could you set a boundary for yourself instead?
• What’s one boundary you’ve been scared to enforce — and what would “follow-through” actually look like?

Send us your thoughts for a chance to be featured in our next AFterparty episode — DM us on Instagram or email your story! 💌

🎧 Next week: “Open for Business” — a discussion of ethical non-monogamy (and why it’s more about honesty than chaos).

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

Dateable AF Season 2 Episode 1

The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

This show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

It’s Never Just About the Dishes — petty fights = deeper needs.

• Proxy arguments: Surface tiffs (TP roll, “text me when you land”) mask needs like autonomy, security, being seen.
• Perpetual problems: Many issues are ongoing value/style differences you manage, not solve (Gottman).
• Physiology matters: The first minutes set the tone; if nervous systems spike, pause and regroup.
• Queer twists: Mismatch on being out, blurred home roles, and double attunement can mean double resentment.
• Look for what’s right: The “red truck” effect—what you scan for, you’ll see.
• Tools: Name the need; check pattern vs one-off; use humor or a code word (“cinnamon”); validate feelings without “losing”; ask for what you want; let small stuff go; do regular check-ins.

Examples: Travel-call tug-of-war (connection vs autonomy), dinner indecision (passive control), recycling righteousness, the goldfish ultimatum.

Share your funniest dumb fights (anonymous!): 📧 info@datableaf.com | 📸 @datableaf

Be bold, be kind, and… don’t text your ex. Stay Datable AF.

#DatableAF #QueerDating #RelationshipSkills #ProxyArguments #Gottman #Communication #AttachmentNeeds #ConflictRepair #LGBTQPodcast #SapphicRelationships

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Dateable AF Show Notes:

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 2 Rachel & Dr. Kyle explain Lesbian dating and the tendency to move in after the first date.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E9

Rachel and Sarah deep dive Being Bisexual in a Binary World

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

When people ask, “So… do you like men or women?” the answer is simple: Yes. 💅

In this episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel take on the myths, misconceptions, and magic of being bisexual in a binary world. From being told it’s “just a phase” to getting side-eye in queer spaces, we’re unpacking what it’s really like to live (and date) beyond the either/or.

We cover: 🌈 The myths — “Bi people are confused,” “It’s 50/50,” “You’ll eventually pick a side,” and other outdated nonsense. 💋 The reality of dating while bi — not gay enough for some, not straight enough for others, and constantly explaining that attraction ≠ infidelity. 📺 Representation matters — how bi celebs like Niecy Nash, Sara Ramirez, and Stephanie Beatriz are changing the narrative. 💡 Practical takeaways — how to own your identity, find inclusive spaces, and navigate relationships without letting stereotypes define you.

Because bisexuality doesn’t mean “undecided” — it means expansive. It’s not confusion; it’s capacity. 💖

💭 Discussion Prompts

• Have you ever felt “in between” when it comes to sexuality or identity?
• How do you define your own orientation on a spectrum, rather than a category?
• What helps you feel seen and supported in queer spaces?

Share your thoughts or stories — we might feature them in a future mini-episode! 💌

🎧 Next week: “Open for Business” — a deep dive into ethical non-monogamy (and why it’s more about honesty than chaos).

💌 Thanks for tuning in to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating — don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

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Dateable AF Show Notes: E2

Rachel and Sarah have an AFter Party for you! The answer questions about No RSVP Required: Coming Out Late in Life

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Episode 2 Rachel & Dr. Kyle explain Lesbian dating and the tendency to move in after the first date.

A huge thanks to our sponsors and trailblazers at Shody Media LLC.

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Dateable AF Show Notes: E2:E8

Sarah and Rachel discuss Coming Out Late in Life! Please reach out to Sarah and Rachel- they would love to hear from you all! The Dateable AF podcast is hosted by Dr. Sarah Kyle and Rachel Howell.

Producer: Jordan Cannon & Shelly Silvey Grabe

Theme Song: Cade Kyle

Cover Photo: Mackenzie Mowat

Dateable AF is a podcast about all things lesbian dating—or queer dating—or women-who-date-women dating. Whatever letter you vibe with, if you're a woman who dates women, this one's for you.

Hosted by two longtime friends, this show dives into the wild, wonderful, and often WTF world of dating women—with honesty, humor, and zero shame. Expect smart takes, relatable stories, and the occasional U-Haul reference.

Turns out, some parties start later… but they’re still worth showing up to. 🎉

In this heartfelt and funny episode of Dateable AF, Sarah and Rachel talk about what it’s really like to come out later in life — sometimes after marriage, kids, or decades of living by someone else’s script.

We unpack:

🌈 Why this happens — cultural expectations, lack of representation, and how attraction can take time to surface.

💔 The emotional rollercoaster — relief, grief, fear, and joy all rolled into one big coming-out journey.

👩‍❤️‍👩 How it affects relationships — navigating divorce, parenting, shifting friendships, and newfound freedom.

💡 Dating tips for later-in-life lesbians — from finding your people to flirting again after years off the market.

💬 Real talk on authenticity — it’s never too late to show up as yourself.

Because there’s no RSVP required for self-discovery — you can arrive at your own party whenever you’re ready. 🥂

💭 Discussion Prompts

• What was your coming out process like — internal or external?
• If you’re partnered, do you know each other’s coming out stories?
• What do you see as the pros and cons of coming out earlier vs. later in life? Share your stories with us — we love hearing from our listeners! 💌

🎧 Next week: “Open for Business” — our take on consensual non-monogamy (and yes, it’s consensual, not chaotic).

💌 Thanks for listening to the Dateable AF Podcast, where we help you find your happy ending. Remember: be bold, be kind, and for the love of queer dating, don’t text your ex.

Stay Dateable AF. 💙

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