ADHD is one of the most misunderstood labels in modern parenting, often clouded by myths that undermine the real, scientific reality of the condition. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren take a warm, honest, and direct look at the ADHD journey specifically within the Dutch healthcare system. Joined by researcher Marlies Visser, we explore the persistent stigma surrounding the diagnosis and the emotional toll it takes on international families trying to find the right support.

We discuss the practical "how-to" of seeking a diagnosis in the Netherlands, the hurdles of accessing specialized care, and the vulnerable reality of parenting with ADHD. This isn't a clinical lecture; it’s a personal reflection on the diverse paths families take toward understanding. Whether you are at the start of the assessment process or have been living with a diagnosis for years, this conversation offers the solidarity and data-backed insights you need to challenge misconceptions and advocate for your family’s well-being.

The transition to motherhood is as profound as adolescence, yet the term "Matrescence" is still missing from many mainstream parenting conversations. To wrap up our month-long deep dive, Eva and Maren take a warm, honest, and direct look at what they’ve learned from experts like Dr. Naomi Gibson and Ilena Standring. This episode is a raw reflection on the emotional and physical upheaval of becoming a mother while navigating life abroad.

We discuss our key takeaways, the glaring gaps in current research, and why the "village" is more than just a nice-to-have—it’s a biological necessity. Whether you are currently in the thick of this identity shift or looking back on your journey, this conversation serves as a powerful reminder that the struggles you feel aren't personal failures; they are part of a massive developmental leap. Join us as we reflect on how to carry this conversation forward and ensure no mother in our community feels alone in her transformation.

In this episode, Eva and Maren guide parents through a powerful journaling exercise using the Brief Parental Self-Efficacy Scale, a tool designed to help parents assess their current strengths and pinpoint areas for growth. This reflective exercise invites parents to take a step back, acknowledge their challenges, and identify where they might need support—ultimately helping them build the confidence and skills they need to thrive in their caregiving role.

As they engage in this process of self-discovery, Eva and Maren discuss how this tool can empower parents to become more effective and resilient caregivers, providing them with a clearer understanding of their strengths and areas for improvement. The episode explores the connection between parental self-efficacy and confident parenting, offering practical advice on how to increase self-awareness and grow as a caregiver.

Key takeaways include:

• How to reflect on your parenting strengths and areas for improvement.

• The benefits of self-reflection for building confidence in your parenting abilities.

• Practical tips for becoming a more effective and resilient parent.

• How to use journaling as a tool for self-discovery and growth in parenting.

If you're looking to boost your confidence and self-efficacy as a parent, this episode is a must-listen for practical strategies and encouragement to enhance your journey.

Link:

I Know What to Do; I Can Do It; It Will Work

Finding out you’re pregnant is a whirlwind—even more so when you’re navigating a foreign healthcare system. In this inaugural episode of Dam Parenting, hosts Eva and Maren break down exactly what happens next. We offer a warm, honest, and direct roadmap for international parents in the Netherlands, from your first appointment to the moment you bring your baby home.

We dive into the essentials: the pivotal role of the verloskundige (midwife), the unique Dutch magic of kraamzorg (postnatal home care), and the practicalities of maternity leave policies. Beyond the medical, we discuss the cultural nuances of being "pregnant the Dutch way" and how to adapt your expectations to this trust-based model of care. Whether you just saw two lines on a test or are planning for the future, this episode is your essential primer for a confident pregnancy journey in the Low Countries.

Your child’s first day of school is just as big a deal for you as it is for them. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren welcome back educator Isabel Cruz to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the transition to the Dutch school system. Moving beyond just choosing a school, we dive into the practical "day-one" realities that make or break a smooth start.

Isabel shares the teacher-approved secrets to emotional preparation, from establishing a solid morning routine to the practical gear—like the "right" lunch boxes and clothes—that actually work in a classroom setting. We discuss how to ease separation anxiety and what teachers truly need from parents to help your child feel confident and safe. Whether your little one is starting next week or next year, this episode is packed with essential strategies to turn those first-day nerves into genuine excitement.

Welcome to Part 2 of our deep dive into the school process for our little ones starting in September. In Part 1, we talked about how we navigated the school search, dealt with the lottery system, and received our acceptance letters. Now, in this episode, we shift focus to what happens after the acceptance letter—what comes next in preparing for the big school transition.

Eva and Maren share their personal, contrasting experiences as they embark on this next phase of the journey. From multiple meetings and exploring the school with their daughter, to a more streamlined process with just one meeting and a trial day, this episode reveals the different approaches and gives you insight into what to expect as you prepare for your child’s school experience.

Key Takeaways:

• What to expect after receiving the school acceptance letter.

• The differences in school preparation processes (meetings, trial days, etc.).

• Questions to ask when visiting the school—things Eva and Maren wish they had asked.

• Practical advice for getting your child ready for their first day at school.

This episode will help ensure that you’re fully prepared with the right questions and knowledge for your child’s upcoming school journey—whether it’s through trial days or one-on-one meetings.

If you’re wondering what to expect next after that acceptance letter, this episode is for you!

Raising a daughter to believe she can achieve anything is a transformative responsibility, but as girls hit their pre-teen years, research shows a sharp decline in confidence and sports participation. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with Sara from Project Fearless, an Amsterdam and Rotterdam-based organization dedicated to reversing that trend. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at how hands-on activities—from climate science to kickboxing—help girls aged 9–14 find their voice and break through stereotypes.

We discuss the vital link between physical activity and mental health, and why it’s never too early to start thinking about the environments our daughters will grow up in. Whether your little girl is still a toddler or approaching her teens, Sara’s insights provide a roadmap for fostering the bravery and ambition needed to lead. Join us to learn how we can all help the next generation of female leaders believe their dreams are truly limitless.

Research paper:

Leisure time physical activity is associated with better mental health among adolescents

Uk research: girls loose interest in sport as teenagers

Why does your child suddenly "flip their lid," and how can you help them find calm? In this edition of the DamGoode Bookclub, Maren and Eva are joined by award-winning librarian and children’s literature expert Elizabeth Goode to dive into the global bestseller The Whole-Brain Child by Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at how understanding basic neuroscience can transform your parenting from reactive to intentional.

We discuss the book's most practical "brain-based" strategies, including how to integrate the left and right brain to foster emotional regulation and resilience. Moving beyond traditional discipline, we explore how to communicate with clarity and compassion during high-stress moments. Whether you’ve read the book cover-to-cover or are just looking for evidence-based tips to better understand your child’s behavior, this episode offers the tools you need to nurture a developing brain with confidence.

We’re taking a short summer break, but we couldn't leave you without revisiting one of our most-requested conversations. In this "Best of" episode, we’re back with Eowyn Crisfield from On Raising Bilingual Children to tackle the topic that stays at the top of every international parent’s mind: multilingualism.

Navigating a household where Dutch isn’t the first language brings unique challenges, from "language mixing" to the fear of losing your native tongue. Eowyn joins Eva and Maren for a warm, honest, and direct discussion on how to make language learning feel natural rather than a chore. Whether you are just starting your bilingual journey or are deep in the school years, this episode offers the practical strategies and emotional reassurance you need to feel heard. Hit play, take a breath, and discover why your family’s linguistic diversity is a superpower. We'll be back with fresh episodes soon!

Matrescence is the developmental transition into motherhood—much like adolescence, it is a period of massive hormonal and psychological upheaval. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the "birth" of a mother. We move past the surface-level talk of baby gear and sleep schedules to explore the deep identity shift that happens when you transition from "you" to "us."

Naomi breaks down the psychological underpinnings of this phase, helping you make sense of the conflicting emotions and "lost" feelings that often accompany motherhood. We share personal reflections and offer a guided journal exercise (included in the show notes!) designed to help you reclaim your sense of self. Whether you are six weeks or six years into your parenting journey, this conversation provides the self-awareness and empowerment needed to navigate your own Matrescence with grace and clarity.

To help you reflect further on your own Matrescence journey, Naomi shares a journal exercise for times of transition, encouraging you to gain deeper self-awareness and clarity. Grab a simple notebook or use your phone notes, and answer one or more of these questions:

1. Reflect on a moment of joy from today as a mum.
   

2. Recall a challenge you overcame recently. What strengths did you use to get through it?
   

3. Think back to a moment when you felt proud of your parenting.
   

4. What’s surprised you most about becoming a mother?
   

5. How has your life changed since becoming a mother? What significant lessons have you learned along the way?
   

We’d love to hear how you get on! Stay connected with us on Instagram and share your reflections with us: Instagram: @damparentingpodcast | @drnaomipsychologist

As the holiday season settles in, Eva and Maren are taking a well-deserved break and revisiting one of the most-downloaded conversations in Dam Parenting history: the "Spoiling" episode. In this warm, honest, and direct replay, we tackle the guilt and confusion many international parents feel. Are we "spoiling" our kids with things to compensate for the distance from family, or are we simply parenting differently than the generations before us?

We revisit the heartfelt insights that resonated so deeply with our community, exploring the line between nurturing our children’s happiness and overindulging their every whim. Whether you’re currently navigating holiday wishlists or simply reflecting on your long-term parenting goals, this episode offers comfort, connection, and a reminder that you aren't alone in these questions. Pull up a chair and join us for a real conversation about what it actually means to give our children "the best" while living abroad.

As the summer holidays approach, parents are "taking the show on the road"—but does anyone actually get a rest? In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren are joined by resident psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the reality of family vacations. We move past the glossy travel photos to discuss the logistics of packing stress, the exhaustion of long road trips, and the heavy emotional pressure to create "perfect" memories.

Dr. Naomi shares strategies for managing the inevitable rollercoaster of emotions and offers practical tips for navigating the transition from home life to holiday mode. We explore how to set realistic expectations, divide responsibilities so everyone gets a moment of peace, and handle the unpredictability of traveling with little ones. Whether you're heading to the Mediterranean or staying local in the Benelux, this episode is your guide to trading holiday burnout for genuine family connection.

The big four is approaching! In this episode of DAMChats, Eva and Maren are in full birthday-planning mode as their daughters prepare to turn four. Navigating the toy aisles (or the endless scrolling of online shops) can be overwhelming, so we’ve done the homework for you. We both sat down separately to draft our "shortlists" and are now coming together for a warm, honest, and direct comparison of what we’re actually considering buying.

From open-ended play and Dutch-weather-friendly gear to gifts that spark creativity without cluttering your home, we’re sharing our top picks for this specific developmental stage. This isn’t a sponsored gift guide; it’s a candid conversation between two moms trying to find that perfect balance between "magical" and "practical." Tune in to hear our ideas, find out what we’re skipping this year, and then head over to Instagram to share the genius gift ideas we might have missed!

The holidays are approaching, and while the packing is a feat in itself, the actual journey is where the real challenge begins. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we sit down with ⁠JetSetGabrielle⁠ to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the art of traveling with kids. Gabrielle pulls back the "Instagram curtain" to reveal the messy reality of family trips and shares the practical strategies she’s mastered to move from survival mode to actually enjoying the ride.

We dive into the logistics of family-friendly travel, from navigating airports with multiple children to managing the emotional ups and downs of long-haul flights. Whether you're a first-time parent dreading that initial flight or a seasoned traveler looking for fresh gems, Gabrielle’s real-life advice will help you reclaim the joy of adventure. Travel with kids is never perfect, but with the right mindset and a few insider secrets, it can be a lot more fun.

We all enter parenthood with a vision of how we’ll raise our children, but what happens when exhaustion and reality take over? In this installment of the DamGoode Book Club, our resident librarian and writer, Elizabeth, revisits the influential book The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read. Having first read it during pregnancy, Elizabeth shares how her perspective has shifted now that her daughter is one.

Alongside Eva and Maren, we take a warm, honest, and direct look at the gap between parenting ideals and the daily survival of sleepless nights. This isn't just a book review; it’s a conversation about cultural perspectives, emotional triggers, and the camaraderie of doing our best. Whether you’ve read every page or haven't had a spare second to pick up a book, this episode offers vital takeaways on connection and breaking old patterns. Join the conversation on Instagram and tell us: which parenting books actually changed the way you show up for your kids?

How do you react when your child points out a difference in public? In this workshop-style episode of Dam Parenting, DEI advocate Isabel Cruz joins us to take a warm, honest, and direct look at raising culturally aware children in a diverse world. Living in the Netherlands offers a unique melting pot of cultures, but it also requires us to be intentional about how we discuss race, skin color, and heritage.

Isabel shares practical strategies for answering those "tricky" questions with honesty and compassion rather than hushed silence. We dive into a curated list of essential books—from Antiracist Baby to the works of Amsterdam’s own Mylo Freeman—and explore local resources like Colourful Goodies and the Bijlmer Bookstore. Whether you’re navigating a specific question or want to proactively build a more inclusive home library, this episode equips you with the tools to foster understanding and celebrate representation. It’s time to lean into the conversation.

Books to explore with your kids:

Antiracist Baby
Global Babies

All Are Welcome
Our Skin: A First Conversation About Race

I Walk with Vanessa

Saturday

Under My Hijab

My Family Your Family

Anything by Mylo Freeman (Instagram: ⁠@mylofreeman⁠)

Find some of these books at Monti's World - located in De Pijp, Amsterdam and other local stores like Colourful Goodies, Bijlmer Bookstore, and Indo Shop

Links:

This is a good article to share about why Mylo Freeman created the Princess Arabella series

Colourful Goodies in Noord specializes in books and dolls that offer a wide range of representation

Bijlmer Bookstore
Indo Shop
Kies Kleurig 

For more on the Keti Koti celebration in Amsterdam, visit:: https://ketikotiamsterdam.nl/

Resources for parents to raise anti-racist children:

• Books:

• Coretta Scott King Book Award Winners: books for children and young adults

• 31 Children's books to support conversations on race, racism and resistance

• Podcasts:

• Parenting Forward podcast episode ‘Five Pandemic Parenting Lessons with Cindy Wang Brandt’

• Fare of the Free Child podcast

• Integrated Schools podcast episode “Raising White Kids with Jennifer Harvey”

• Articles:

• How White Parents Can Talk To Their Kids About Race | NPR

• Teaching Your Child About Black History Month | PBS

• Your Kids Aren't Too Young to Talk About Race: Resource Roundup from Pretty Good

What happens to your birth plan when there is already a little one at home? In this installment of our Village Vibes series, we’re joined by Helen, a mom of two from England living in the Netherlands, to share the raw and real story of her second home birth.

Helen takes a warm, honest, and direct look at the logistical and emotional puzzle of birthing at home while managing the needs of her firstborn. We discuss the transition from the "ideal" birth plan to the reality of labor, the unique strength required to stay present, and how she navigated the Dutch maternity system as an international parent. Whether you are currently pregnant with your second or weighing the pros and cons of a home birth, Helen’s journey offers a roadmap for resilience and a reminder that every birth story is a vital piece of our collective village. Have a story of your own? Reach out—we’d love to feature you.

If you’ve ever felt discouraged by the "language gap" or worried that your child is losing their connection to your home culture, this episode is for you. Eowyn Crisfield returns to Dam Parenting to offer a warm, honest, and direct reminder: multilingualism is a marathon, not a sprint—and it is never too late to start or refocus.

We cut through common myths about language delays and assimilation pressures, focusing instead on the profound gift of cultural identity. Eowyn shares simple, effective strategies to keep your home language thriving while living in the Netherlands. Whether you’re struggling with the daily "hard work" of bilingualism or feeling the pressure to conform, we’re here to remind you that the research is clear—the benefits are worth every effort. Join Eva and Maren for this essential follow-up to episodes 25 and 30. You are not alone in this journey; let’s keep pushing forward together.

Whether you call it a binky, dummy, or tutje, the pacifier is a beloved tool that helps many babies (and parents) survive the early years. But when is the "right" time to say goodbye? In this episode of DAMChats, Eva and Maren take a warm, honest, and direct look at the emotional and practical reality of weaning off the pacifier. We discuss the undeniable benefits—from soothing stress to aiding sleep—while tackling the common dread parents feel when it’s time to phase it out.

Sharing their own personal hits and misses, Eva and Maren explore various strategies for a gentle transition that respects your child’s need for comfort. From the "Pacifier Fairy" to gradual reduction, we break down how to handle the protest and provide the support your child needs to self-soothe without the "lovey." If you’re currently in the trenches of weaning or just mentally preparing for the day, this episode offers the solidarity and tips you need.

Being an international parent in the Netherlands means facing a unique set of hurdles, and sometimes you just need to know you’re not the only one struggling with them. In this warm, honest, and direct episode, Eva and Maren dive into the messages and "hot topics" that have been sparking conversations across our community. From the stress of choosing the right school to navigating the often-surprising cultural differences in Dutch parenting, we’re tackling the questions that matter most to you right now.

We share our own personal experiences—the wins and the awkward moments—while offering practical advice on making sense of life in the Low Countries. Whether you’re a newcomer trying to find your footing or a seasoned expat facing a new phase of parenting, this episode is all about connection and solidarity. Tune in to hear the voices of our community and get the support you need for your parenting journey in the Netherlands.

Matrescence changes everything—including how we see the skin we live in. Following our deep dive into body image with Ilena Standring, this episode offers a quiet, intentional space to process your own journey. We move beyond "bouncing back" and focus on a loving journaling exercise designed to help you appreciate your body’s resilience, its role in your self-care, and its evolving relationship with the world around you.

This isn’t just "toxic positivity"; it’s a practice rooted in the Expand Your Horizon research, a study dedicated to enhancing body image in mothers of young children. We invite you to find a quiet corner, grab a pen, and allow yourself the rare luxury of uninterrupted time. Whether you’ve been struggling with your physical identity or simply want to strengthen your self-connection, this direct and honest exercise will help you reframe your body’s story from the inside out.

If you want to find out more about this journalling exercise, please check out ExpandYourHorizon.org

Research from Enhancing body image in motherhood: A randomised controlled trial of Expand Your Horizon among mothers of young children

Becoming a parent is unpredictable enough without the added stress of the Amsterdam housing market. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren dive deep into a topic that has sparked endless conversation in our community: the housing struggle for international families. From the frustration of bids not being accepted to the heartache of finding a place that actually fits a growing family, we take a warm, honest, and direct look at the reality of the Dutch property hunt.

We share our personal experiences with housing uncertainty and offer practical advice on how to manage the emotional toll it takes on your well-being. Whether you’re currently scrolling through Funda or feeling the pressure of relocation, this episode is a reminder that you aren’t alone in this hurdle. Let’s talk about how to keep your family’s sanity in check while searching for a place to call home in the Netherlands.

Why are Dutch children consistently ranked as some of the happiest in the world? In this first installment of the DamGoode Bookclub, hosts Eva and Maren are joined by award-winning librarian and author Elizabeth Goode to dissect the iconic parenting guide, The Happiest Kids in the World.

From the "three R's" (rest, rhythm, and routine) to the famous Dutch teenage independence, we take a warm, honest, and direct look at what actually works in the Dutch parenting model—and what feels foreign to those of us raised elsewhere. As three mothers navigating life in the Netherlands, we share our personal reflections on integrating these local values into our own international homes. Whether you’re curious about the "hagelslag" culture or looking for practical strategies to lower your parenting stress, this episode offers a deep dive into the secrets of the Dutch upbringing. Note: While the English version is a global bestseller, check your local OBA for the Dutch edition!

What happens when the "new baby" excitement fades and the long-term reality of motherhood sets in? In this follow-up episode of Dam Parenting, we reconnect with Amsterdam-based postpartum doula Harriet at her own three-month milestone. When we last spoke, Harriet was preparing for her first child; now, she’s in the thick of it.

We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the "slump" that often occurs at 90 days—when hormones shift, support systems pull back, and the mental load feels heaviest. Harriet pulls back the curtain on her personal journey, moving from doula expertise to the raw reality of a first-time mom. We discuss navigating the emotional highs and lows, the physical recovery hurdles, and why it’s vital to acknowledge the "tough stuff" alongside the beautiful moments. If you’re feeling a bit lost in the post-newborn haze, this conversation offers the professional insight and sisterly solidarity you need.

You can follow Harriet on her instagram here

When life gets overwhelming, self-care is often the first thing to go—and nutrition usually follows. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with Amélie to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the powerful connection between what we eat and how we feel. As mothers, we often prioritize our children’s plates while neglecting our own, reaching for quick fixes that leave us drained.

Amélie explores how intentional food choices can improve mental clarity and emotional stability, providing the steady energy required for the demands of expat parenting. We discuss the real-world challenges of eating well when you're exhausted and share practical, easy strategies to incorporate nourishing foods into your daily routine. This isn't about "perfect" dieting; it’s about using food as a tool for mental health and remembering that your well-being is the engine that keeps your family running.

⁠ Motherhood is overwhelming for everyone, but for mothers with ADHD, the mental load can feel like a daily battle against executive dysfunction. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we are joined by Emma from ⁠ADHD Potential to explore why so many women are receiving ADHD diagnoses in their 30s and 40s—often triggered by the relentless demands of parenting.

We take a warm, honest, and direct look at how ADHD impacts emotional regulation, household routines, and the internal pressure to "do it all." Emma shares practical, ADHD-friendly strategies for creating structure that actually works, while emphasizing the importance of setting realistic expectations. If you’ve been struggling in silence or feel like you’re constantly "failing" at the basics, this conversation is a reminder to trade shame for self-compassion. Whether you are diagnosed or just suspect your brain works differently, join Eva and Maren for actionable advice on managing your mindset and your family.

Trigger Warning

Pregnancy loss is a deeply personal journey that is far too often navigated in silence. In this installment of our Maternal Mental Health series, Eva and Maren sit down with specialist Ilena Standring to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the emotional toll of miscarriage. We discuss the profound impact of loss on mental health, the complexities of grieving while living abroad, and the vital importance of seeking—and receiving—meaningful support.

Ilena shares her expert insights on how to process the unique grief of pregnancy loss and offers practical advice for those currently in the midst of it, as well as for friends and family looking to offer sensitive care. Whether you are seeking comfort for your own journey or looking to better support a loved one, this episode serves as a compassionate resource and a reminder that your grief is valid. You don't have to carry this story alone.

Ilena spoke about the article she wrote previously for Amsterdam Mamas which you can find here

When our children start school, we focus so much on their backpacks and big feelings that we often forget our own. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we’re joined by relocation counselor and coach Erin, who reached out after listening to ⁠episode 30: School and Languages⁠⁠, to explore the hidden anxiety parents face during major life transitions. Inspired by our recent discussions on the Dutch school system, we take a warm, honest, and direct look at the emotional impact these milestones have on us.

It’s easy to feel the pressure to "power through," but Erin reminds us that self-compassion is our most vital tool. We discuss how to acknowledge the vulnerability of letting go, the stress of new routines, and the importance of giving ourselves the same grace we offer our children. If you’re feeling the weight of an upcoming transition or the "unknown" of the school gates, this conversation offers the space you need to breathe, process, and parent with a more balanced mindset.

Motherhood is often painted as a time of constant connection, but the reality for many is a profound sense of isolation. In this candid episode of Dam Parenting, Eva and Maren sit down with resident psychologist Dr. Naomi Gibson to pull back the curtain on the loneliness so many mothers face but rarely discuss.

Whether it's the 3:00 AM feed, the repetitive park visits, or the rainy Dutch days that keep you indoors, we take a warm, honest, and direct look at the emotional toll of exhaustion and the "perfection" trap. Dr. Naomi shares her research on the link between self-compassion and loneliness, offering practical insights on how to be a kinder friend to yourself when you feel most invisible. If you’ve ever felt like you’re the only one struggling to "enjoy every moment," this episode is your reminder that your feelings are valid. You aren’t failing; you’re just human.

As long as you are self- compassionate, you will never walk alone

Self-compassion and loneliness

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses premature birth and the NICU experience. Please listen with care.

We all carry a vision of the "perfect birth," but what happens when the reality is a neonatal intensive care unit? In this moving installment of our Village Vibes series, well-known Amsterdam doula Toni steps out of her professional role to share her deeply personal story of her daughter’s premature arrival.

Toni takes a warm, honest, and direct look at the emotional rollercoaster of the NICU—the fear, the resilience, and the quiet strength required to support a "tiny fighter." We discuss how she and her partner navigated the Dutch medical system during a crisis and how they leaned on each other when the world felt upside down. Whether you are currently in the NICU, healing from a traumatic start, or supporting a friend, Toni’s story is a vital reminder that you are not alone. Plus, learn how you can support other families through the Ronald McDonald House.

Links:

If you would like to find out more about volunteering at theRonald McDonald house - click here!

The transition back to work is a massive milestone, but for breastfeeding mothers, it comes with its own set of logistical and emotional hurdles. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we sit down with breastfeeding expert and advocate ⁠Mama Ruth⁠⁠ to take a warm, honest, and direct look at balancing your 9-to-5 with your feeding journey.

We dive into the "how-to" of pumping at the office, from managing your milk supply to understanding your rights in the Dutch workplace. Ruth shares essential strategies for the first few weeks back, offering tips on everything from scheduling sessions to keeping your sanity intact during the juggle. Whether you’re feeling anxious about the transition or looking for ways to sustain your journey long-term, this conversation provides the expert guidance and solidarity you need to feel confident in your choices. You don't have to choose between your career and how you feed your baby—we’re here to help you do both.

Your body didn't just change; it underwent a profound transformation to bring life into the world. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Ilena Standring returns to join Maren for a warm, honest, and direct conversation about body image during Matrescence. We move beyond the "bounce back" myths to explore the real mental and emotional impact of seeing yourself differently after pregnancy.

We unpack the societal pressures that fuel postpartum insecurity and share practical strategies for fostering self-compassion when you don't recognize the person in the mirror. From navigating dietary restraint to the sociocultural pressures unique to modern motherhood, this episode is a reminder that your worth isn’t tied to a pre-baby shape. Whether you’re months or years into your journey, join us as we discuss how to embrace your physical self with kindness while raising the next generation. It’s time to stop fighting your body and start honoring the journey it’s been on.

The first day back at work after maternity leave is a life-changing milestone that rarely gets the emotional credit it deserves. In this empowering episode of Dam Parenting, we’re joined by Angela from Every Mother Knows to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the transition from full-time motherhood back to the professional world.

We dive into the practicalities of Dutch labor rights—including pumping breaks and flexible hours—but we also go deeper into the psychological shift of "becoming" a working mother. Angela shares expert strategies for reclaiming your confidence, battling imposter syndrome, and managing the emotional tug-of-war between your career and your baby. Whether you are counting down the days until your return or already back in the office feeling a bit lost, this conversation offers the solidarity and tools you need to thrive in both roles. Your career hasn't ended; it’s just evolving.

Between the school runs, work deadlines, and the constant hum of domestic life, when was the last time you truly checked in with yourself? In this episode of Dam Parenting, we sit down with Katia to take a warm, honest, and direct look at "mental health hygiene." We explore why taking care of your mind shouldn’t be a luxury saved for a spa day, but a non-negotiable daily practice to prevent burnout.

Katia shares practical, bite-sized techniques to help you recalibrate your body and reset your nervous system—even on your busiest days. We discuss how to tune into your body’s signals before you hit a breaking point and why small, intentional moments of awareness are the key to long-term resilience. Stay tuned until the very end for a guided body scan designed to help you ground yourself and find a moment of peace. It’s time to step off the hamster wheel and start pouring back into your own cup.

"Sleep when the baby sleeps" is the world’s most frustrating piece of advice. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we take a warm, honest, and direct look at the grueling reality of sleep deprivation—a challenge that research shows can last until a child is six years old. We’re joined by ⁠Dr. Naomi⁠⁠ and Camille from⁠Little baby go to sleep⁠⁠ to discuss why the mainstream "one-size-fits-all" approach to sleep training doesn't work for everyone.

We explore the long-term impact of broken nights on parental mental health and offer a holistic perspective on infant sleep that respects your unique parenting style. If you’ve felt pressured to follow traditional sleep training methods but they don't sit right with your gut, this conversation is for you. Learn practical tips for managing the exhaustion while protecting the bedtime bond. You aren't "doing it wrong"—you’re just finding your own way to rest.

This conversation is to highlight, like in DAMChats episode 10 The Bedtime Bond how everyone has their own approach and not to feel like you should be doing something you may feel is mainstream if you are not comfortable with it.

It's European Baby Wearing week ! In this episode of Dam Parenting, we’re joined by baby carrier expert ⁠⁠Zyanya⁠ to take a warm, honest, and direct look at why keeping your baby close is about so much more than just freeing up your hands. For international parents navigating life in the Netherlands, a carrier isn't just a piece of gear—it’s a lifeline for mobility and emotional connection.

Zyanya breaks down the developmental benefits of babywearing, from soothing a fussy infant with your heartbeat to supporting healthy physical growth. We discuss the mental health perks for parents, the bonding benefits for caregivers, and practical tips on how to choose a carrier that actually fits your lifestyle and body. Whether you’re curious about wraps, buckles, or slings, this conversation offers the insights you need to wear your baby with confidence and comfort. Tune in and discover how to make your parenting journey a little lighter and a lot more connected.

Postpartum is one of the most transformative seasons of your life, yet it’s the one we often prepare for the least. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we sit down with Amsterdam-based postpartum specialist Heather Berry to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the "fourth trimester."

Forget the nursery decor—we’re talking about the human infrastructure you need to thrive. ⁠Heather Berry⁠⁠ explains why building a solid support network before the baby arrives is crucial, especially for international parents living away from family. We dive into the physical and emotional realities of recovery, how to identify your "people," and why asking for help is a skill you need to practice. From professional resources to local community ties, this episode provides a realistic roadmap for navigating the unpredictable days after birth with grace and confidence. You don’t have to do this alone, and this conversation shows you how to ensure you won’t.

In the Netherlands, home births are often celebrated as the gold standard, but what happens when that vision doesn't align with your personal sense of safety? In this episode of Dam Parenting, we welcome ADHD coach and advocate Emma to share her birth story—a powerful reflection on choosing a clinical, sterilized environment over the traditional Dutch home-birth model.

Maren and Emma take a warm, honest, and direct look at how cultural expectations, past experiences, and personal preferences shape our labor choices. We dive into the "Expectations vs. Reality" of delivery and discuss why there is no one-size-fits-all approach to bringing a baby into the world. This conversation is an invitation to strip away the "shoulds" and focus on what you truly need to feel supported and secure. Whether your birth went to plan or took an unexpected turn, this episode offers a compassionate space to reflect on the diverse ways we all become mothers.

Maternal mental health is just as critical as physical health, yet nearly 20% of women will face psychiatric challenges during or after pregnancy. In this essential episode of Dam Parenting, we are joined by Professor Birit Broekman from the POP-poli at OLVG in Amsterdam. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at the specialized care available for mothers dealing with depression, anxiety, or psychosis.

Professor Broekman explains the "POP" (Psychiatry, Obstetrics, and Pediatrics) approach—a holistic model where specialists work together to manage medication, therapy, and infant health under one roof. We discuss how to access these services in the Netherlands, the safety of medication during breastfeeding, and why seeking help is the strongest choice you can make for your family. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the transition to motherhood, tune in to learn about the multidisciplinary support system designed to catch you.

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You can find a list of all POP Polis clinics in the Netherlands here

The six weeks following childbirth are some of the most intense and transformative days you will ever experience. In this kickoff to our Maternal Mental Health series, we welcome back Amsterdam-based midwife Chandelle to take a warm, honest, and direct look at the "Fourth Trimester." While midwives are experts in your physical recovery, they are also vital witnesses to your transition into matrescence—the deep identity shift of becoming a mother.

Chandelle shares practical insights on what to expect during those first forty days and how to build a partnership with your midwife that prioritizes your emotional well-being. We discuss how to speak up about your mental health, the importance of holistic self-care, and why your midwife is your strongest advocate during this vulnerable time. Whether you’re currently pregnant or in the thick of newborn haze, this episode offers the guidance you need to navigate early motherhood with confidence and support.

We’ve hit a major milestone! Six months and 55 episodes later, Dam Parenting has become the go-to resource for international families in the Netherlands. In this special announcement episode, Eva and Maren reflect on the journey so far and reveal our most ambitious project yet: the Maternal Mental Health Series. Throughout the entire month of May, we are releasing over 15 episodes dedicated to the emotional and practical realities of pregnancy, birthing, and parenthood abroad.

Navigating these transitions is daunting, especially when you’re facing language barriers and cultural shifts without your original support network. This series is designed to eliminate the "search and struggle," connecting you directly with local experts and service providers who understand the expat experience. Whether you’re currently expectant or navigating the "thick of it" with a toddler, tune in to hear how we’re shining a light on the support you deserve. Together, let’s embrace parenthood with confidence and grace.

Why does becoming a mother feel like a total overhaul of your soul? It’s called Matrescence. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we are joined by doula and advocate Ilena Standring to explore this profound developmental transition. Coined in 1973, Matrescence describes the hormonal, physical, and psychological transformation that rivals adolescence in its intensity.

Ilena takes a warm, honest, and direct look at the "becoming" of a mother, offering a roadmap for the joys and identity crises that follow. For international parents in the Netherlands, navigating this shift without traditional family support can feel isolating—but you aren't alone. We discuss shifting relationship dynamics, the evolving sense of self, and how to move through this chapter with resilience. This episode also features Ilena’s powerful reflection questions to help you process your own inner transformation. Whether you are expecting or years into the journey, join us as we name the experience and reclaim our power.

You can find out more on Ilena on her instagram:

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Be sure to share this within your community, mothers to be and mothers alike - we are all in this together. Being a parent is hard enough, doing it in another country without the support from our family and close friends is a tough journey many of us are trying to figure out. Let's do it together.

Ilena's reflection questions:

[ ] In the 12-24 months before I became pregnant, I was preoccupied with...

[ ] If I reflect back to my pregnancy, these are the ideas, the ideals and the topics, that I was preoccupied with

[ ] As I look back now, on those 12-24 months before pregnancy, and that period in pregnancy, I wish I had spent more time exploring...

[ ] As I glance back into my Matrescence journey thus far, these are the things that spring to mind as the most surprisingly fulfilling aspects of my inner and outer transformation.

[ ] These are the realisations about the way I was parented and how Matrescence was modelled to me as I have been on the journey through Matrescence

[ ] As I look forward to the next 12 months of my identity expansion, beyond the every day parenting, I would like to explore these aspects of my identity and of my experience of Matrescence

What happens when the expert becomes the student? In this episode, seasoned postpartum doula Harriet returns for a warm, honest, and direct 6-month check-in on her own journey through matrescence. After years of supporting Amsterdam families through the "Fourth Trimester," Harriet shares what it’s actually like to live through the identity shift, the emotional highs and lows, and the self-discovery of the first half-year of motherhood.

We dive into how her personal transformation has reshaped her professional perspective and what she’s learned about "enoughness" and resilience. Whether you are currently in the thick of the six-month transition or preparing for your own path into motherhood, Harriet’s reflections offer a compassionate mirror to your own experience. Join us for a conversation about the beauty and the burden of becoming a mother, and why we need to talk more about the person being born alongside the baby.

Looking for a postpartum doula to support your own journey? Reach out to Harriet at Nourish and Nest or follow her on Instagram for more information and support.

Instagram: @nourishandnest

Summer is finally hitting the Netherlands, and we have something special to keep you company during those sunny park days or long travel stretches. In this episode of DAMChats, Eva and Maren are joined by Elizabeth Goode from Goode Writes and Reads to announce the DamGoode Bookclub. We’ve handpicked three essential parenting books to dive into over the summer, and we want you to read along with us.

Starting in June, we’ll explore the secrets of "The Happiest Kids in the World" (the Dutch way!), followed by Philippa Perry’s deep dive into family patterns in July, and ending with the neuroscience of "The Whole-Brain Child" in August. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at why these titles made the cut and how they can help you navigate the unique challenges of raising kids abroad. Tune in for our monthly synopses on the first Monday of each month and join the conversation on Instagram!

The books chosen are:

June: The Happiest Kids in the World: Bringing up Children the Dutch Way by Rina Mae Acosta and Michele Hutchison 

July: The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read And Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did by Philippa Perry

August: The Whole-Brain Child : 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J Siegel

Becoming a parent doesn't just add a new role to your life—it completely rewrites your identity. In this episode of Dam Parenting, Maren and Eva sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Naomi to discuss the profound and often destabilizing "identity shift" that comes with motherhood.

For international parents in the Netherlands, this transformation can feel even more intense as we navigate new cultural norms alongside a changing sense of self. Dr. Naomi offers a warm, honest, and direct exploration of the emotional and psychological changes that occur when you transition from "me" to "mom." We discuss how to embrace this evolution with self-compassion, navigate the strain it can put on relationships, and build resilience in your new role. Whether you are mourning your pre-baby freedom or struggling to recognize the person in the mirror, this episode provides the expert guidance needed to grow through the shift with confidence.

You can find out more about Dr Naomi here

Raising a family abroad means you don't have the luxury of "dropping the kids at Grandma's." In this honest and direct episode of DAMChats, Eva and Maren tackle the stigma around outsourcing parenthood. From the competitive hunt for a gastouder or nanny to the decision to hire a cleaner or use a meal delivery service, we explore why paying for support is a practical necessity rather than a sign of laziness.

We pull back the curtain on the social media pressure to be a "perfect" parent who does it all, and instead, focus on what actually serves your family’s unique needs and mental health. Whether it’s reclaiming an hour for yourself or finding reliable childcare in a city with year-long waiting lists, we discuss how outsourcing can actually provide you with more high-quality time to spend with your children. It’s time to stop comparing and start building the village you deserve.

In Amsterdam, the search for a primary school doesn't start at age five—it begins long before your child’s third birthday. In this episode of Dam Parenting, we’re joined by Isabel Cruz of Kaleidoscope Consulting to demystify the "kaleidoscope" of Dutch education.

Isabel offers a warm, honest, and direct roadmap through Amsterdam's unique school lottery system, explaining the critical deadlines (like the March 11th cutoff for many 2022-born children!) and the eight-school priority rule. We explore the diversity of educational philosophies—from Montessori and Dalton to Vrije schools—and discuss how to choose a path that aligns with your family’s values. Whether you’re overwhelmed by "AlleCijfers" data or wondering how to handle a school tour, Isabel provides the clarity you need to move forward with confidence. Check the show notes for links to Kaleidoscope Consulting and essential school-ranking resources.

Find out more:

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Numbers showing which secondary school the children progress to

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The wait is finally over! Eva and Maren both held their breath alongside thousands of other parents in the Netherlands, and today they’re sharing the big news: they both secured their first-choice schools. But once the initial "phew" wears off, a new mountain of paperwork arrives. In this warm, honest, and direct DAMChat, we’re opening up those acceptance emails and comparing exactly what the schools are asking for.

From medical history and emergency contacts to "getting to know you" questionnaires, we break down the standard (and the surprising) requirements for enrollment. Whether you’re currently clutching your own acceptance sheet, still waiting for the lottery results, or just curious about how different Dutch schools handle the transition, this episode gives you an inside look at what to expect. Join us as we navigate the leap from "lottery winner" to "school parent" and help you get your paperwork—and your peace of mind—in order.

In honor of Cesarean Awareness Month, we’re peeling back the curtain on surgical births in the Netherlands. Join Eva and Maren as they sit down with Dr. Deurloo, a renowned OBGYN at Utrecht’s Diakonessenhuis, to discuss a more human-centered approach to C-sections.

Dr. Deurloo is a leading voice in "mother-assisted cesareans," a practice where the birthing parent plays an active, physical role in the delivery. We take a warm, honest, and direct look at how the Dutch medical system prioritizes maternal agency, even in the operating theater. From the initial decision-making process to the specifics of postpartum recovery and skin-to-skin contact, this episode demystifies the procedure. Whether you are planning a C-section or simply want to be prepared for every birth path, Dr. Deurloo’s insights will empower you to view a cesarean not just as a medical event, but as a profound birth experience.

You can find him on Instagram as kldloo

He is also found as an expert for Ouders van nu and How About Mom

We’ve all seen the "perfect" morning routines on social media, but what does sanity actually look like in a real, international household? In this episode of DAMChats, Eva and Maren get warm, honest, and direct about the small habits that keep them grounded. Coming from two very different mindsets, they each share three "Sanity Savers"—the practical rituals, mental shifts, and tiny hacks they use to navigate the daily grind of life in the Netherlands.

From reclaiming five minutes of silence to the power of a specific "reset" habit, this conversation moves away from aspirational wellness and into the reality of busy parenting. We want to know: what are the tips and tricks that help you get through the day? Listen in to hear our favorites, then head over to Instagram to share your own. Let’s learn from each other and build a collective toolkit for staying sane while raising our families far from home.