Explorez tous les épisodes du podcast Dad Starting Over
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| Sexless Marriage… She Finally Agreed to Counseling. Then Used It Against Me. | 26 Jun 2026 | 00:14:17 | |
Tom finally got his wife to agree to couples counseling. He was hopeful for the first time in months. He thought they were finally going to address the real issues — the distance, the intimacy, the disconnection. Instead every session became a list of everything he's ever done wrong. Old arguments. Ancient history. Things he's already apologized for. And the actual problems — a year without sex, emotional withdrawal — never got touched. In this episode I break down what's actually happening when counseling gets weaponized, why the therapy room can become the most dangerous place in a struggling marriage, and what men in this situation need to understand before they walk into another session. If you've ever left a couples counseling session feeling worse than when you walked in — this one is for you. 📖 Get the Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.com | |||
| Divorce Truths Men Need to Hear (Before It’s Too Late) - With Karen McMahon (Journey Beyond Divorce) | 23 Jun 2026 | 00:48:11 | |
I went live with divorce coach Karen McMahon from Journey Beyond Divorce (https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com) and this turned into one of the most honest conversations I’ve had about what men actually go through during divorce. We talked about: Why “being a good guy” can destroy you in divorce The hidden damage of codependency Why men give too much away (money, custody, power) The fear that keeps men stuck in bad marriages What really happens after divorce (that no one tells you) Why jumping into a new relationship too fast backfires If you’re in a failing marriage, going through a divorce, or trying to rebuild your life after one… this is required listening. A lot of guys think they just need to “be nice” and everything will work out. It won’t. You need boundaries. You need clarity. And you need to get uncomfortable. Karen brings 16+ years of experience helping people through high-conflict divorce, and we break down what actually works—and what gets men crushed. 🔴 FREE: Fix Your Dead Bedroom (Instant PDF Download) 🔴 FREE COURSE: The Dead Bedroom Fix Course 🔴 NEW!: The Dead Bedroom Fix App 🔴 TAKE THE QUIZ: What's your REBUILD score? 🟢 JOIN THE BROTHERHOOD (Private Community for Men) | |||
| Sexless Marriage… She Says No Sex After Menopause Is Completely Normal | 19 Jun 2026 | 00:14:59 | |
A guy named Paul wrote in. His wife went through menopause three years ago. Since then — almost no sex. And every time he brings it up, she shows him articles and tells him this is just how it is now. So Paul started believing her. Started feeling like a jerk for even wanting it. In this episode I break down what's actually true about menopause and sex drive, why "it's biology" can become a conversation-ender that goes unquestioned, and what men in this situation are getting wrong when they accept the premise without pushing back. If you're in your 50s and feel like your needs have just been medically cancelled — this one is for you. 📖 Get the Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.com | |||
| She Was Different Before Kids — What Actually Happened to Your Wife | 12 Jun 2026 | 00:29:58 | |
Your wife changed after kids. You've felt it for years — the distance, the exhaustion, the version of her you remember from before that seems gone. She's not gone. She's buried. In this episode I break down what actually happens to women after having children — the hormonal shifts that suppress desire for years (not weeks), the identity collision that nobody warns her about, and the "touched out" phenomenon that makes her feel like her body isn't her own. I also share a personal story — a trip my wife and I took to Austin — that showed me exactly what was buried under all of it. And what it actually takes to bring it back. This isn't about fixing a dead bedroom overnight. It's about understanding what's actually happening, stopping the mistakes that make it worse, and learning to cultivate the conditions where connection — real connection — becomes possible again. Because a good marriage after kids doesn't look like the honeymoon. It looks like an EKG. There are spikes. Real ones. Your job is to learn how to make them more likely. 📖 Get the Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.com | |||
| Sexless Marriage… I Told Her It Was Over If Nothing Changed. She Laughed. | 05 Jun 2026 | 00:14:55 | |
Three years of a sexless marriage. He finally told her it was over if nothing changed. She laughed — then went back to watching TV. In this video I break down what that laugh actually means, why the "normal" behavior after a big conversation is the most dangerous window in a struggling marriage, and what men consistently get wrong in this exact moment. If you're in a sexless marriage and feel like nothing you say lands — this one is for you. 📖 Get the Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.com | |||
| Sexless Marriage… Now She’s Always Going Out | 29 May 2026 | 00:08:11 | |
A guy sent me an email that starts off like a lot of others… Sexless marriage. No intimacy. Growing distance. But then something changed. His wife started going out more. And he’s sitting at home wondering what the hell is going on. In this episode, I break down what it really means when a woman checks out of the relationship… and starts finding her energy somewhere else. We talk about: • Why behavioral shifts matter more than words If you feel like your wife is slowly building a life that doesn’t include you… this one will hit. Start here: | |||
| Sexless Marriage: She Was Different With Him | 22 May 2026 | 00:09:53 | |
A guy emailed me something that a lot of men are quietly thinking but don’t want to say out loud… “My wife used to be wild before me. Now she barely wants anything to do with me.” This one stings. Because it forces you to compare yourself to her past—and wonder what changed. In this episode, I break down what’s really going on when a woman who once had a strong sexual side suddenly shuts it down in a long-term relationship. We talk about: • The science behind the honeymoon phase and why it fades If you’re in a sexless marriage and feel like you’re not getting the version of her that other men got… this one will hit home. Start here: | |||
| Sexless Marriage… Wait, is My Wife Gay?! | 15 May 2026 | 00:10:16 | |
A guy reached out to me after 15 years of marriage and a completely dead bedroom. No intimacy. No desire. Nothing. Then one day, he finds out his wife is cheating. But not with another man… with another woman. Now he’s trying to make sense of it: Is she gay? In this episode, I break down what’s really going on when a woman checks out of a marriage and redirects her desire somewhere else. We talk about: • Why female sexuality tends to be more fluid than most men realize If you’re in a sexless marriage or feel like your wife has completely lost interest in you, this will hit close to home. Start with my book here: | |||
| Sexless Marriage… Then I Saw the Text Messages | 08 May 2026 | 00:11:43 | |
A husband wrote to me after 16 years of marriage. Their sex life had slowly faded until they were barely intimate at all. Then he noticed something strange. His wife became very protective of her phone. One day he looked. What he found wasn’t explicit cheating… but it explained a lot. In this episode we talk about: • Emotional affairs and how they begin If you’re dealing with a sexless marriage, start here: https://deadbedroomfix.com | |||
| Why Women Remember Everything | 01 May 2026 | 00:10:20 | |
Have you ever noticed how your wife or girlfriend can recall arguments from 10… 15… even 20 years ago with incredible detail? Not just the event itself. The exact words. Meanwhile you're sitting there thinking, “I barely remember last week.” In this episode, I explain why this happens and why women often remember emotional events in relationships far longer than men do. It’s not just a stereotype. There are real psychological and biological reasons behind it. We’ll talk about emotional memory, rumination, relationship pattern tracking, and why unresolved emotional injuries can stay alive in someone's memory for decades. Understanding this dynamic can completely change how you view long-term relationships and recurring arguments. If you’re dealing with a struggling marriage, resentment that never seems to go away, or a sexless relationship, this video will give you some useful insight. If you're struggling with a sexless marriage, check out my book: And if you want support from men dealing with the same issues, learn more about the Help For Men Brotherhood: We host multiple live meetings every week where men talk openly about marriage problems, divorce, dating after divorce, and rebuilding their lives. You're not alone in this. | |||
| Sexless Marriage… Now She Wants an Open Marriage | 24 Apr 2026 | 00:15:48 | |
A husband wrote to me after 18 years of marriage. Their sex life had slowed down like many long relationships. Then one day his wife said something he never expected: She wanted an open marriage. She said it could make their relationship stronger. He feels like the ground under his marriage suddenly shifted. In this episode, I discuss: • Why open marriage conversations often appear suddenly If you’re struggling in a sexless marriage, start with The Dead Bedroom Fix: If you want grounded support from men navigating similar situations, check out the Brotherhood: | |||
| Sexless Marriage for Years… Now She Doesn’t Want to Be Touched | 17 Apr 2026 | 00:13:06 | |
A 50-year-old husband wrote me after 20 years of marriage. The sex faded after kids. He stayed for their child. But nothing changed. I break down what’s really happening when a marriage goes cold and a man slowly becomes passive without realizing it. We talk about: • Why staying “for the kids” often creates long-term damage If you’re in a sexless marriage or feel like your wife has emotionally checked out, this one will hit home. If you haven’t read The Dead Bedroom Fix, start there: | |||
| Patriarchy Explained Without the Nonsense | 10 Apr 2026 | 00:08:56 | |
Everyone throws around the word “patriarchy” like it explains everything wrong with society. But what does it actually mean? In this video, I break down: We’re going to look at biology, psychology, history, and modern data without the emotional noise. Because if you care about truth more than slogans, this conversation matters. If you enjoy nuanced conversations about relationships, masculinity, culture, and self-improvement, subscribe and stick around. | |||
| Sexless Marriage: “I Love You… But I’m Not In Love With You” | 03 Apr 2026 | 00:11:38 | |
A 47-year-old husband wrote to me after 17 years of marriage. No big fights. Then one day she said: “I love you… but I’m not in love with you.” Their marriage isn’t completely dead — but it’s nearly sexless. Rare intimacy. No initiation. No spark. I break down: • What that phrase usually really means This is not about blaming women. If you’re in a sexless marriage or feel like your wife is emotionally drifting away, watch this all the way through. Start with The Dead Bedroom Fix: If you need grounded support from men who’ve been through this and won’t let you spiral, join the Brotherhood: You don’t want 20 years of polite indifference. | |||
| High-Conflict Divorce: What Men Get Wrong (w/ Chris and Lisa from "Been There, Got Out") | 27 Mar 2026 | 01:07:26 | |
Divorce isn’t just emotional — it can turn into psychological warfare. In this livestream, I sit down with Chris and Lisa from Been There Got Out, two of the most experienced voices I’ve spoken with on high-conflict divorce, legal abuse, and custody battles. We dig into: Why “being a good guy” often backfires in family court How false allegations gain traction (and why men are especially vulnerable) The biggest mistakes men make when communicating with their ex Why courts reward cooperation — even when the other side is acting insane Parallel parenting vs co-parenting (and what NOT to call it in court) How manipulators weaponize kids, restraining orders, and the legal system What to do if you’re terrified of custody evaluations or taking the stand Chris and Lisa don’t deal in theory. They deal with the worst cases — the ones that never “cool off” and never resolve on their own. If you’re in a contentious divorce, haven’t seen your kids, or feel like the system is stacked against you, this conversation will give you clarity, grounding, and practical direction. 👉 Learn more about Chris and Lisa’s work at https://beentheregotout.com This is one of those conversations every man should hear before things get ugly. | |||
| When Trauma Destroys Everything | 20 Mar 2026 | 00:13:51 | |
How does someone hold their life together at a high level for years — career, marriage, kids — and then suddenly blow it all up? I read a message from a follower whose wife unraveled after the death of her father. What followed was extreme weight loss, heavy drinking, multiple affairs, disappearing for days at a time, and eventually abandoning her family. I don’t interrupt the story. I read it straight through — then I explain what’s actually going on beneath the surface. We talk about unresolved childhood trauma, avoidant attachment, high-achievers who outrun their pain, and why some people seem to “change overnight” when their emotional scaffolding collapses. If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t recognize her anymore,” this video will help you understand what you’re seeing — and what it means for you going forward. I also talk about these dynamics in my book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man, and inside the Help For Men Brotherhood, where men work through this kind of fallout together instead of carrying it alone. 🔗 Join the Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join | |||
| Why Marriages Drift Into “Kids Only” Mode | 13 Mar 2026 | 00:10:09 | |
Most marriages don’t blow up overnight. They drift from us… Once kids enter the picture, something subtle but dangerous often happens: the couple stops being the center of the relationship. Not out of malice. Not because anyone planned it. It just happens. And in most marriages, if nobody actively protects the couple, the marriage slowly disintegrates. From what I see, this responsibility usually falls on the man — and when he pushes for dates, intimacy, boundaries, or adult connection, he’s often shamed for it. I break down:
If this topic hits home, you’ll want to check out my book The Dead Bedroom Fix and the Help For Men Brotherhood — where guys are having these conversations honestly, without being shamed. 👉 Join the Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join | |||
| Why Age Gaps Suddenly Became Creepy | 06 Mar 2026 | 00:11:13 | |
For most of human history, age differences in couples weren’t controversial at all. I break down the actual historical reality of age gaps, why people now claim they were “rare,” and why that argument doesn’t hold up when you look closely. We’ll talk about:
This isn’t about encouraging or condemning age-gap relationships. It’s about understanding why something that was once normal is now treated as suspect — and how that shift affects modern men navigating dating and relationships. If you’re confused by modern dating rules, you’re not broken. I see this confusion every day inside the Help For Men Brotherhood — men trying to make sense of relationships without losing their backbone or their sanity. If this video resonates, check out my book REBUILD and the Brotherhood at | |||
| When Vulnerability Ends a Marriage | 27 Feb 2026 | 00:12:58 | |
I got an email from a guy that perfectly captures a pattern I see over and over again. An anxious man. I break down:
If you’re in a dead bedroom, walking on eggshells, or afraid to say the wrong thing in your own marriage, this video will probably feel uncomfortably familiar. I also talk about how men rebuild after this kind of emotional and financial hit, drawing from my book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man, and why having other men around you — like inside the Help For Men Brotherhood — matters more than most guys want to admit. You’re not broken. | |||
| How Men Drift Into Sexless Marriages | 20 Feb 2026 | 00:09:39 | |
I want to read you a short email from a married man in a dead bedroom. There’s no cheating. I break down how a lot of men end up in sexless marriages not because they chose them — but because they slowly became passive. They stopped rocking the boat. They stopped advocating for themselves. They let things happen instead of taking control. We’ll talk about:
This isn’t about demanding sex or blaming your partner. If you’ve ever felt like your relationship just drifted into something you didn’t choose, this one will probably hit close to home. Join the Brotherhood! https://helpformen.com/join | |||
| The Real Reason Nothing You Try Ever Sticks | 20 Feb 2026 | 00:08:32 | |
Most men don’t feel like their life is falling apart. It just feels… off. Not bad enough to force change. So they try new routines, new habits, new motivation — and nothing sticks. I break down why that happens and what actually causes men to stay stuck for years without realizing it. This isn’t about discipline, hustle, or grinding harder. It’s about structure, identity, and the quiet patterns that keep pulling you back to the same place. If you’ve felt frustrated by starting strong and slowly drifting back, this video will probably hit close to home. If you want support applying this kind of work in real life — with other men dealing with marriage problems, divorce, rebuilding, and direction — the Help For Men Brotherhood exists for that: And if you’re in a rebuilding phase after a major life shake-up, my book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man was written specifically for that chapter. This isn’t about reinventing yourself. | |||
| Why Doing Everything Right Fails | 13 Feb 2026 | 00:09:35 | |
A lot of men reach a point where they say something quietly and honestly: “I did everything right… and it still fell apart.” I hear this all the time from men who showed up, stayed loyal, worked on themselves, went to therapy, avoided conflict, and tried to be good partners. And yet the relationship still deteriorated. I explain why “doing everything right” often becomes the problem. We’ll talk about:
This isn’t about blaming women. It’s about understanding how self-abandonment sneaks into long-term relationships — and why some men outgrow a relationship the moment they stop disappearing. If you’ve ever felt exhausted, resentful, or confused about how things still went wrong, this one will probably hit close to home. | |||
| Why Your Marriage Became Sexless | 06 Feb 2026 | 00:11:20 | |
Most men in sexless marriages did exactly what they were told to do.
And somehow, the sex life didn’t come back. In this episode, I explain why that happens — especially when you’re married to a dismissive-avoidant partner. We’ll talk about:
This isn’t about blaming women. If you’re confused, frustrated, or starting to question your relationship, this conversation will likely hit close to home. Check out my book! https://deadbedroomfix.com | |||
| Why Men Believe Women Cheat More | 30 Jan 2026 | 00:14:36 | |
A lot of men end up believing things like “women cheat more,” “women want sex more than men,” or “most women cheat”. Those beliefs don’t usually come from careful analysis. I break down why these stories feel so convincing — especially for analytical, system-oriented, and neurodivergent men — and why certainty often feels safer than ambiguity after betrayal, dead bedrooms, and relationship failure. We’ll talk about:
This isn’t about defending women or blaming men. It’s about understanding how the male brain copes with uncertainty — and why rigid, comforting stories often cost you more than they protect you. | |||
| My Live Chat with Melissa Vogel | 27 Jan 2026 | 01:21:05 | |
In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Vogel — fitness and mindset coach, podcast host, and a woman who’s been through divorce herself — for one of the most honest conversations I’ve had about modern relationships. We talk about what really happens to marriages after kids arrive, why men and women slowly disconnect without realizing it, and how good people end up emotionally checked out years before divorce ever happens. Melissa opens up about her own marriage, why she drifted away emotionally long before it ended, and what she wishes someone had told her when she was younger. We get into attachment styles, masculine and feminine polarity, why accountability is so rare, and why “love” alone doesn’t save a relationship. We also tackle the uncomfortable topics most people avoid:
This is the kind of conversation every couple should hear — especially before things break beyond repair. If you’re married, divorced, dating, or starting over as a man, this one will hit home. | |||
| Typical "Nice Guy" Behavior | 23 Jan 2026 | 00:06:30 | |
A lot of men don’t realize they’re codependent. I break down the real, everyday behaviors that point to codependency in men—especially how it shows up in relationships, dead bedrooms, anxious attachment, and emotional burnout. This isn’t about shaming men. If you:
This video is for you. I’ll explain why these behaviors develop, why they feel “right” in the moment, and why they usually lead to less intimacy—not more. If you want deeper conversations like this with other men who actually get it, check out the Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com/join | |||
| Your Avoidant Wife Had an Affair (Here’s Why) | 16 Jan 2026 | 00:11:32 | |
For an anxious guy, nothing is more confusing than discovering that your avoidant, seemingly asexual wife was having an affair. No touching. And yet… she was sleeping with someone else. I break down a real message from a man in a long-term dead bedroom who discovered his dismissive-avoidant wife had been cheating for years. We dig into anxious vs. avoidant attachment, why this dynamic is so common, and why the affair usually has nothing to do with you lacking masculinity, confidence, or sexual value. If you’ve ever wondered:
…this video will make things click. We’ll also talk about:
If you’re dealing with a dead bedroom, infidelity, or the anxious–avoidant trap, you’re not alone. 👉 Join the Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join | |||
| She Says She’s “Touched Out”… Except With Him | 09 Jan 2026 | 00:12:11 | |
In today’s episode, I read an email from a husband living one of the most brutal modern realities: his wife says she’s “touched out” and has no energy for intimacy… yet somehow has unlimited emotional energy for another man at the gym. This is the pattern I see over and over in dead bedrooms: She didn’t lose desire. If you're a man dealing with a sexless marriage, emotional disconnect, or a wife who has checked out but won’t leave — this one’s going to hit hard. Grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix: Join The Brotherhood here: | |||
| The Care & Feeding of Your Anxious Husband | 02 Jan 2026 | 00:07:03 | |
Today we’re talking about something that a lot of men won’t admit, but a lot of women quietly suffer through: living with an anxious husband. And yes, I’m going to make fun of us a little. This video is a tongue-in-cheek “instruction manual” for how to care for the anxious, approval-seeking, reassurance-addicted man. The guy who needs constant validation, panics at every text message pause, reads every word you say like a legal document, and assumes you’re leaving him if you’re quiet for more than 30 seconds. It’s funny… but it’s also painfully accurate. The point of this episode isn’t to shame anxious guys. It’s to shine a big bright spotlight on the behaviors that slowly choke the life out of a relationship. And more importantly, to show that these patterns aren’t permanent. You can fix this. You can rebuild your confidence, your identity, and your internal leadership as a man. If this video hits a little close to home, that’s good. It means you’re ready for change. 📘 Read my book, REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man: 👥 Join The Brotherhood – live meetings every week, private discussion forums, over 1,300 hours of audio content, coaching, and support from men all around the world: | |||
| Rejection Sensitivity: Why You Overthink Everything | 26 Dec 2025 | 00:16:06 | |
Rejection hits some men harder than others. For a lot of guys, it’s not just discomfort—it feels like danger. One cold look from your wife. One delayed text. One “Can we talk later?” from your boss. Suddenly you’re spiraling, apologizing, chasing, overreacting, or completely shutting down. This isn’t weakness. It isn’t you being dramatic. In this episode, I'll break down: — Why some men live relationships on “hard mode” If you’re neurodivergent (ADHD, autism, etc.), this is going to make even more sense. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) is something I see constantly in men in my audience and inside The Brotherhood. You’re not broken. You’re trained. And you can retrain yourself. If you want deeper work on this, my book REBUILD and our Brotherhood community are powerful tools to help you break out of this pattern and build confidence, boundaries, and emotional stability. ► Get my book REBUILD on Amazon (hardcover, Kindle, or audiobook for members): ► Join The Brotherhood – private men’s community, daily Zoom groups, 1,300+ hours of audio, coaching, and more: | |||
| It’s Not Fair — I Did Everything Right! | 19 Dec 2025 | 00:15:18 | |
A lot of men struggle with the realization that they don’t actually have full control over how life or their marriage turns out. In this episode, I talk about why that happens, and why it’s not a sign that you failed. Life isn’t fair… and that includes relationships. I also share a real message from a man dealing with a sexless, disconnected marriage due to his wife’s ADHD and perimenopause, and we unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface. If this hits close to home, you’re not alone. Join The Brotherhood — a private support community for men struggling in marriage, divorce, or dating after divorce. | |||
| REBUILD is now available in audiobook format! (here's a free sample) | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:04:39 | |
"REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man" is now available in audiobook format! Here is a quick sample for you to enjoy. Want to hear more? Check out the links below: Amazon: https://a.co/d/0k5nxmv | |||
| Why Women Had More Sex Under Socialism | 12 Dec 2025 | 00:09:37 | |
I recently read a New York Times article claiming that women under socialism had more sex and better orgasms than women in capitalist Western countries. Sounds wild, right? But when you dig deeper, the real message is actually something I talk about all the time: Women shut down sexually when their lives are full of stress, chaos, financial pressure, and mental overload. This has nothing to do with politics — and everything to do with the realities couples face today. If you need a deeper dive into this, grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix — and if you’re ready to actually change your life, join The Brotherhood at https://helpformen.com/join | |||
| Stop Forcing Closeness – How Anxious Men Kill Intimacy | 05 Dec 2025 | 00:16:11 | |
If you lean anxious in relationships, this one’s for you. I see it all the time—guys who crave closeness so much that they choke the relationship. You text too much, talk too much, try too hard to keep things “good.” But that desperate energy ends up pushing her away. I’ll show you what’s really happening under the surface—why your attachment system freaks out when she pulls away, and how to stop feeding that panic. You’ll learn how to regulate yourself, stop chasing reassurance, and build the kind of calm confidence that actually creates attraction. If you want more depth, grab my book The Dead Bedroom Fix or check out The Brotherhood, our private men’s community with live meetings, courses, and 1,000+ hours of member-only content: | |||
| Andrew Wilson’s Meltdown Caught Live | 28 Nov 2025 | 00:15:00 | |
Today we’re digging into something wild: how a guy who talks about masculinity, strength, and “doing it right” completely lost his cool when his own story was challenged. That guy is Andrew Wilson. If you’re rebuilding your life, your identity, or trying to walk the line of integrity after a setback—I promise you: this matters. We’ll cover:
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| Why You Feel So Needy (And How to Stop) | 21 Nov 2025 | 00:08:55 | |
Let’s talk about neediness — what it really is, where it comes from, and how to stop letting it ruin your relationships. Neediness isn’t about “having needs.” It’s about trying to make one specific person fix your emotional state on demand. That’s not love — that’s panic. I’ll walk you through what’s actually happening inside your nervous system when you feel desperate for someone’s attention or affection… and how to train yourself to stay calm, confident, and grounded instead. We’ll cover:
If this one hits home, grab a copy of my book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man at https://readrebuild.com | |||
| Man Discovers Wife’s Affair Years Later — What Now? | 14 Nov 2025 | 00:12:53 | |
Infidelity doesn’t just destroy trust in the present — it rewrites your past and makes you question everything you thought was real. In this video, I respond to a man who discovered that his wife cheated years ago… and now her old lover has confessed everything. What happens when your entire marriage suddenly looks like a lie? What do you do when the woman you trusted most betrays you — and your gut told you the truth all along? If you’ve been through betrayal or are struggling to move forward, you’re not alone. This video will help you understand:
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| The One Thing Everyone Misses About Dead Bedrooms | 07 Nov 2025 | 00:14:07 | |
Most guys in sexless marriages miss the most important piece of the puzzle. In this episode, I break down one of the biggest overlooked truths about dead bedrooms. We’ll talk about:
If this topic hits home, check out The Dead Bedroom Fix at https://deadbedroomfix.com 🎧 Get all my books, 1,300+ hours of members-only audio, live Zoom calls, and more. | |||
| When Your Wife Changes After the Baby: Why So Many Men Fall Apart | 31 Oct 2025 | 00:12:59 | |
In this episode, I dive into one of the hardest truths many men face after becoming fathers: the woman you married may not be the same woman after the baby arrives. For a lot of men—especially the more sensitive or anxiously attached ones—this change feels like emotional whiplash. The affection disappears, the intimacy vanishes, and suddenly you feel like a stranger in your own home. I read and discuss a real Reddit post from a man who experienced this after 20 years of marriage... and what his story reveals about millions of couples worldwide. We’ll talk about:
This is a brutally honest but deeply empathetic look at one of the most misunderstood transitions in modern marriage. 👉 Learn more and join our private men’s community: helpformen.com/join 👉 Read related articles on attachment and marriage: helpformen.com | |||
| REBUILD – The Beginning of a New Chapter | 24 Oct 2025 | 00:14:24 | |
In this special episode, I read the introduction to my latest book, REBUILD: The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man. This book is the culmination of over a decade of working with men—through coaching, the Brotherhood community, and my other books. REBUILD is for every man who’s been knocked down by life—divorce, heartbreak, failure—and is ready to rise again stronger, wiser, and more grounded. If you’ve ever felt lost or unsure of your next step, this episode is the perfect place to start. 👉 Get your copy of REBUILD at readrebuild.com | |||
| The White Knight Who Couldn’t Stop Saving Women | 20 Oct 2025 | 00:12:06 | |
Some men can’t stop trying to “save” broken women. They think it’s love. They think it’s noble. But it’s an addiction — a way of escaping their own pain. In this episode, I read a powerful letter from a man trapped in the “White Knight” pattern and delivers some tough love on how rescuing others can destroy you, your marriage, and your peace of mind. If you’ve ever tried to fix someone who didn’t want to be fixed, or confused pity for love, this one’s going to hit home. Join the Brotherhood! https://helpformen.com/join | |||
| Stop Blaming the Affair Partner — She Made the Choice | 17 Oct 2025 | 00:09:44 | |
A lot of men direct all their anger toward the other guy — the affair partner — when they find out their wife cheated. I get it. It feels easier to hate the outsider than to face what your wife actually did. But at some point, we need to be honest about where the real responsibility lies. In this episode, I respond to a man who wrote in saying he’s still furious at his wife’s affair partner, years after the infidelity ended. We talk about why misplaced anger keeps men stuck, why some “nice guys” absolve their wives of all wrongdoing, and what it really takes to let go and move forward. We also get into his second question: why his wife, who cheated and moved out, still hasn’t followed through with the divorce. Spoiler — she doesn’t get to decide your future. If you’ve ever struggled with letting go after betrayal, this one’s for you. | |||
| John’s Breaking Point: Why Some Men Stay in Miserable Marriages | 13 Oct 2025 | 00:10:07 | |
In today’s Dear DSO episode, I read a letter from a guy I’ll call John. He’s reached the end of his rope. His wife drinks heavily, refuses therapy, hasn’t been intimate with him in years, and contributes nothing to the family or household. Meanwhile, John’s doing it all — cooking, cleaning, parenting, working full-time — and he’s still trying to “make it work.” If you’ve ever found yourself trapped in a relationship like this, wondering what’s wrong with you for staying… this one’s going to hit home. I talk about why so many men hang on to something that’s clearly dead, the psychological trap that keeps them stuck, and why the real work isn’t about fixing her — it’s about fixing yourself. I also share what I told John privately about the importance of therapy, male friendships, and finding a group of men who will call you out and help you rebuild your life. 👉 Join the Brotherhood: helpformen.com/join 👉 Get early access to my upcoming book REBUILD – The Complete Guide to Starting Over as a Man: helpformen.com/rebuild | |||
| When Chaos at Home Turns You Into Someone You Don’t Recognize | 10 Oct 2025 | 00:09:33 | |
In this episode, I share a powerful story from a listener who has lived through 17 years of marital chaos. On paper, he’s a hardworking, successful man—a career in medicine, a thriving real estate business, and five kids. But behind the scenes, his marriage has been a war zone: false accusations, secret fertility treatments, volatility, and finally his wife moving three hours away with the children. In the middle of all this, he admits he lost himself—turning to affairs and even escorting—becoming a man he barely recognizes. Now, with his teenage daughter reaching out about her mother’s abuse, he’s finally facing the truth and taking steps to fight for custody. This is a raw reminder that living in dysfunction doesn’t make you stronger—it makes you weaker. If you’re in chaos, you need to draw the line before you lose everything, including yourself. Submit your own story: deardso.com | |||
| When She Denies the Affair and Calls You “Insecure” | 06 Oct 2025 | 00:08:33 | |
In this episode, I respond to a listener email from a man who caught his wife sneaking around with ‘just a friend.’ Even when confronted, she flips it on him and calls him insecure. Why do cheaters deny and gaslight instead of owning up? I break it all down—and talk about what men need to do in this situation. Submit your own story to Dear DSO. | |||
| When a Wife Walks Away After 30 Years: Midlife Crisis, Perimenopause, or Something Else? | 03 Oct 2025 | 00:14:54 | |
In this episode, I respond to a listener email from a man whose wife left him after 33 years of marriage. She had an affair, moved 2,000 miles away, and says she’s finally living for herself. Is this midlife crisis? Perimenopause? Or just long-simmering resentment finally boiling over? I break it all down—and more importantly, talk about what men can do when blindsided like this. Submit your own story to Deardso.com | |||
| “30 Years Married… But Now Just Roommates” | 29 Sep 2025 | 00:10:21 | |
A man wrote in after 30+ years of marriage. Three kids, a successful career, a busy and interesting life—he’s fit, adventurous, and still chasing growth at 61 years old. The problem? His wife has completely checked out sexually. No intimacy, no affection, not even a kiss on the cheek. Even hormone therapy hasn’t changed anything. He loves her, doesn’t want divorce, but he’s dying inside. | |||
| “I Have It All… But My Wife Doesn’t Want Me” | 26 Sep 2025 | 00:11:29 | |
I got a “Dear DSO” email from a guy who, on paper, checks every single box: tall, fit, wealthy, educated, successful, funny, a family man… and yet, his wife treats sex like a chore. She’s overweight, disengaged, and more interested in romance novels than her husband. His question: If you’re not a porn star, is this just the life you have to accept? | |||
| Are You ADHD? Why Your Brain Is a Dumpster Fire (And Your Wife’s Had It) | 22 Sep 2025 | 00:06:39 | |
Most of the guys who find their way to my videos have two things in common: their relationship is falling apart… and their brain feels like a blender stuck on “purée.” Turns out, a huge number of men struggling with marriage or divorce also have undiagnosed ADHD. In this video, I break down the real signs of adult ADHD in men—no TikTok self-diagnosing nonsense—and show how it wrecks your relationships, ramps up obsession, fuels hypersexuality, and often overlaps with autism. I also talk about what you can do without burning your life down or living in a van to find inner peace. Spoiler: you're not broken. But understanding how your brain works might just save your marriage—or your sanity. 👇 If this hit close to home, you’re not alone: 👥 Join the Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join | |||
| "She Slept With Me… So I Guess We’re Fine Now?" | 19 Sep 2025 | 00:05:24 | |
A guy books an emergency coaching call. Says his marriage is hanging by a thread. He's sleeping in the guest room. She won’t talk to him. Full panic mode. Then when we finally meet? Let me tell you something, fellas — if a single act of pity sex is enough to make you cancel your plan to fix your marriage… then the marriage was never getting fixed in the first place. In this video, we’re talking about:
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