Dad Starting Over – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Your wife changed after kids. You've felt it for years — the distance, the exhaustion, the version of her you remember from before that seems gone.

She's not gone. She's buried.

In this episode I break down what actually happens to women after having children — the hormonal shifts that suppress desire for years (not weeks), the identity collision that nobody warns her about, and the "touched out" phenomenon that makes her feel like her body isn't her own.

I also share a personal story — a trip my wife and I took to Austin — that showed me exactly what was buried under all of it. And what it actually takes to bring it back.

This isn't about fixing a dead bedroom overnight. It's about understanding what's actually happening, stopping the mistakes that make it worse, and learning to cultivate the conditions where connection — real connection — becomes possible again.

Because a good marriage after kids doesn't look like the honeymoon. It looks like an EKG. There are spikes. Real ones. Your job is to learn how to make them more likely.

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Three years of a sexless marriage. He finally told her it was over if nothing changed. She laughed — then went back to watching TV.
Four days later she's acting like nothing happened.

In this video I break down what that laugh actually means, why the "normal" behavior after a big conversation is the most dangerous window in a struggling marriage, and what men consistently get wrong in this exact moment.

If you're in a sexless marriage and feel like nothing you say lands — this one is for you.

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A 47-year-old husband wrote to me after 17 years of marriage.

No big fights.
No confirmed cheating.
Just slow emotional drift.

Then one day she said:

“I love you… but I’m not in love with you.”

Their marriage isn’t completely dead — but it’s nearly sexless. Rare intimacy. No initiation. No spark.

I break down:

• What that phrase usually really means
• Why sexless marriages often slide into “roommate mode”
• The role of new relationship energy
• Why becoming “safer” makes things worse
• What a man must do if there’s any real chance of rebuilding desire

This is not about blaming women.
It’s about understanding the dynamic clearly.

If you’re in a sexless marriage or feel like your wife is emotionally drifting away, watch this all the way through.

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You don’t want 20 years of polite indifference.
You want to be chosen.

A follower reaches out to tell the story of his very chaotic and dysfunctional relationship. Like most, he had many opportunities to make a course correction, but he kept choosing the wrong turn each time. Cheating, divorce, dead bedroom, getting back together, more dead bedroom... It's not good!

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A man reached out with a gut-wrenching confession: His wife is sick, and he’s doing everything to take care of her… but their marriage was broken long before the illness. For over a decade, he’s been doing everything alone—working, cooking, cleaning, and raising kids—while she slowly disconnected from the relationship. Now he’s at his breaking point, and even his own children are telling him to leave.

But how does a man walk away without guilt?
How much should a man sacrifice before enough is enough?
And at what point does ‘honoring your vows’ mean destroying yourself in the process?

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A follower reaches out with a story that no man wants to hear: His wife told him that he wasn't big enough. To add insult to injury, she compared him to a much bigger ex-lover. Ouch. Why on earth would a wife say that to a husband?! Let's talk about it.

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Ant, a follower, reaches out with his story of complete chaos. This is the perfect example of a naive man who marries a probably borderline wife, and the many examples of making the wrong decision at very crucial points in their relationship together. It all started from day one, and went downhill from there.

This one... in painful to listen to.

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In this video, I am responding to commenters who tell them that they shouldn't HAVE to put in effort to maintain a relationship and attraction. You just stick around with your spouse because that's what you're SUPPOSE to do... not because you two genuinely want each other. Is that a good mindset for a married couple to be in? I don't think so.

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Our pal "Wordsmith" is back with a new "Dear DSO" submission (https://deardso.com). He's perplexed by his soon-to-be ex-wife's erratic behavior. Why is she doing these things? Why is she suddenly liking and not liking certain things? Why is she hot and then cold? Very common questions!

We also go into Wordsmith's difficulties with handling the stress of the split and his loneliness. Hang in there, Wordsmith! We're here for you.

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A "Dear DSO" follower reaches out to share his frustration. He's at a loss. His married sex life has stopped completely for the past two years. The reason? Menopause. The wife says that menopause is a "medical condition" that he needs to respect, and she has unilaterally decided that their married sex life is over. What is he to do?

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