Coping with Ghosting – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Do you ever feel like you’re waiting for the "other shoe to drop," even when things are going well? If you grew up in a high-conflict environment, your nervous system may have been wired to view chaos as "home."

In this episode, host Gretta welcomes trauma therapist and author Dr. Tracy Hutchinson to explore the deep-seated impact of being raised in unpredictable, high-stress family systems. The habits we formed to survive these environments often follow us into adulthood, showing up as anxiety, self-blame, and a pattern of choosing unstable relationships. In this episode, we cover the following:

• How to know if you have high-conflict family members.
• Why over-apologizing, "people-pleasing," and fawn responses can show up as a result of trauma.
• Understanding how unhealthy family patterns affect adult professional and romantic lives.
• Cognitive dissonance: what it is and how to detect it.
• How ghosting and estrangement are different, when estrangement may be necessary, and when to repair a relationship.
• How to heal & make meaning.

Dr. Tracy Hutchinson is a psychotherapist, professor, and author specializing in recovery from sociopathic abuse, narcissistic abuse, and family trauma. Her latest book, Adult Children of High-Conflict Parents: Find Freedom from Your Past, Heal the Pain of Toxic Relational Trauma, and Cultivate Lasting Self-Love, is a roadmap for anyone looking to heal. 

Connect with Dr. Tracy Hutchinson:

Website | Facebook | Get the Book

Connect with Gretta:

Free Guide: What to Say To A Ghost
Free and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies to turn personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals.

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Does it ever feel like you’re dating the same person with a different name? If you notice that you’re often gravitating toward emotionally unavailable people, this episode is for you.

Joining Gretta to discuss attachment is Trevor Hanson, coach and founder of The Art of Healing. Trevor teaches relationship and attachment skills through the Secure Self Club. In this show, Trevor deconstructs common relationship dynamics and shares how to finally break the cycle of insecure attachment. 

This episode covers:

• How to move from an insecure attachment style to a more secure one.
• How anxious patterns can amplify avoidance.
• Why men who have an anxious attachment style may tend to get ghosted more.
• Insights on why men may be more prone to avoidant attachment.
• How porn and other addictions are often attempts to soothe unmet attachment needs.

If you’re ready to make powerful shifts in your life, this episode is for you. 

Connect with Trevor: 

Instagram | Trevor’s Website | YouTube | TikTok 

Connect with Gretta:

Free Guide: What to Say To A Ghost
Free and Private Facebook Support Group |  Instagram | copingwithghosting.com

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer:  This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools for your use. Coping With Ghosting is not providing health care or psychological therapy services and is not diagnosing or treating any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or other registered professionals.

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

This episode originally aired on April 4, 2021.

Want healthy ways to cope and heal after being ghosted? Listen as Gretta explains seven healthy ways to get over the ghost so that you can quickly move on with your life. These tips are practical, and ones that you can implement into your life today.

Want more ways to heal after being ghosted? Download your Free Coping With Ghosting Guide that pairs with this episode. 

Connect With Gretta

Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | coachgretta.com | Email gretta@copingwithghosting.com to request topics for the upcoming book about ghosting in love!

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies to help clients transform after heartbreak, betrayal, and life’s toughest moments. 

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

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Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Has your life veered dramatically off course from what you planned? Whether through ghosting, betrayal, or an unexpected life challenge, many of us find ourselves struggling with the gap between expectation and reality. This powerful conversation between Host Gretta and Kate Berski, mental health advocate, and author of "30 Phobia: Why Your 20s Suck and How to Get Unstuck," offers liberating perspectives for anyone feeling lost, behind, or simply different from the "normal" timeline. Learn about:

• The “expectation gap” that can make us feel behind in life
• Why social media comparisons fuel misery
• Why loneliness spikes during life transitions
• Mindset shifts for when you feel behind in career and finances
• The myth of the “arrival fallacy” and chasing milestones
• Kate’s 4-step framework for finding joy in the journey

Ready to break free from society's timeline and create a life that's authentically yours? This episode will help you redefine success on your terms and find peace exactly where you are.

Connect With Gretta

Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | coachgretta.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies to help clients transform after heartbreak, betrayal, and life’s toughest moments.

Connect With Kate Berski 

Kate's Website | Instagram | Read "30-Phobia" 

Kate Berski helps women take back their 20s and build a life that truly fits. She normalises being normal and busts societal ‘milestone myths’ with real facts and fresh data. 

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

“Loneliness doesn’t come from being single; it comes from believing the lies that you’re not enough on your own.” - Fanny Tristan  In this episode, host Gretta speaks with women’s empowerment coach and licensed trauma therapist Fanny Tristan, LCSW-R, for a powerful conversation about healing from loneliness, trust issues, and the pressure to be in a relationship. This conversation offers guidance and hope for women and everyone else alike.
 Together, Fanny and Gretta explore:

• How to push back against societal pressure to be coupled
• Practical strategies for self-soothing and moving forward when feeling lonely
• Ways to rebuild trust and create supportive community connections

Tune in to break free from cultural expectations and say “yes” to a richer, more fulfilling life.

Connect With Gretta

Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Fanny 

Fanny Tristan is the founder of Her Soul Supply and a licensed clinical social worker with over 15 years of experience supporting women of color through life’s transitions. Her deep understanding of the unique challenges faced by Black and Brown women fuels her commitment to empowering them to thrive—on their own terms.

Her Soul Supply | Instagram

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Zaiah

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

In this episode of Coping with Ghosting, host Gretta Perlmutter is joined by Rahim Thawer, MSW, RSW, a racialized, queer social worker and author of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys: Skills to Cope and Thrive as Your Authentic Self. Together, they explore the emotional toll of ghosting specifically on gay, bi, trans, or queer guys, and how internalized shame, dating app culture, and communication gaps uniquely affect this community. Rahim offers insights from his new book, shedding light on how queer guys can navigate rejection, heal from ghosting, and reframe their experience. This candid conversation calls for more empathy and open dialogue in modern queer dating.

Connect With Gretta

❤️‍🩹Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Rahim 

🌈Read the book! The Mental Health Guide for Cis & Trans Queer Guys  |  Instagram | YouTube

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Have you or somebody you care about ever been in a toxic relationship? If so, it's possible that it was a trauma bond. Knowledge is power, and understanding and recognizing the signs of this type of relationship can be life-changing. In this show, host Gretta interviews Jordanne Sculler, LMHC, about trauma bonds and ghosting. Jordanne is a licensed therapist and mental health expert in New York City, and is dedicated to helping individuals and couples unlock their potential for growth, self-awareness, and authentic connection. 

Tune in to Discover:

• The Trauma Bond Stages: love bombing, trust and dependency, criticism, gaslighting, emotional addiction, loss of self, and resignation
• Why ghosting happens in trauma bonds and toxic relationships
• How to break out of a trauma bond and heal 

To anyone out there who is healing after being in a trauma bond: You can get better. Please take it one day at a time. 

Connect With Gretta

Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Jordanne 

Website |  Instagram

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

If you’ve been gaslit, manipulated, betrayed, ghosted, or are feeling emotionally distressed in a relationship, this episode is for you. Therapist Shannon Petrovich, LCSW, LISAC, BCD—who brings over 30 years of clinical experience—joins host Gretta to explore narcissistic and other toxic relationship dynamics. Together, they offer tools to help you set boundaries, release emotional pain, reclaim your strength, and start your healing journey.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

• Tell the difference between overt and covert narcissists
• Spot trauma bonds and manipulation tactics
• Understand why someone would ghost you without blocking you
• Outsmart a narcissist without losing your peace
• Reframe emotional triggers as healing guides

Shannon also shares grounded insights on emotional detachment, self-care, and practical ways to protect yourself from toxic patterns so that you can move forward with clarity and confidence.

Shannon Petrovich, LCSW, LISAC, BCD, is a therapist with 30+ years of experience. Through her work, Shannon helps women heal from narcissistic and other toxic relationships.

Connect With Gretta

Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect with Shannon

Out of the FOG, into the CLEAR; Journaling to Help You Heal from Toxic Relationships | YouTube

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

What if confusion is a virtue? In this episode, Host Gretta interviews Giovanna Silvestre—creator of Confused Girl in the City and author of the new book Confused Girl: Find Your Peace in the Chaos. Together, they explore how the uncertainty that follows ghosting and betrayal can become a springboard for positive transformation. Giovanna offers a refreshing, hopeful perspective for anyone who’s been ghosted and left questioning their worth.

Tune in to discover:
✨ How to reclaim your voice after being ghosted
✨ Practical strategies to rebuild self-love after betrayal
✨ How to cultivate self-worth without relying on external validation

Whether you’ve been betrayed in dating, friendship, or family relationships, this episode will help you find peace in the chaos. 

Connect With Gretta

What to Say To A Ghost - Free Guide | Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, a Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach, delivers evidence-based strategies for turning personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Giovanna 

Instagram |  Book Launch Maui Giveaway 

❤️Dating episode mentioned: Protecting Your Heart in the Digital Dating World

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."

Should you get back together with the person who ghosted you? How can you build a secure relationship after being ghosted? Whether you're dating or single, Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, has answers. Julie is a therapist, author, and creator of The Secure Relationship, a community dedicated to helping people build secure, loving relationships. In this show, she offers powerful insights on building secure relationships after experiencing the pain of ghosting. 

Discover:
• The four attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure
• Essential inner work for preparing for healthy relationships after being ghosted
• Managing triggers after being ghosted, conflict resolution skills and de-escalating arguments
• How to rebuild a relationship with the person who ghosted you...and so much more!

Ready to break free from painful relationship patterns? Secure, loving relationships are possible even after being ghosted. 

Connect With Gretta

Coping With Ghosting 101 | Free & Private Facebook Support Group | Instagram | YouTube | copingwithghosting.com

Host Gretta Perlmutter, MA, and Certified Post Betrayal Transformation® Coach delivers evidence-based strategies to transform personal betrayal into a powerful catalyst for growth and healing.

Connect With Julie

Julie's Website | Instagram

Special offer: Join Julies's Individual and Couples Group and use code: COLLAB10 on any order for 10% off! 

Music: "Ghosted" by Gustavo Ramos

Disclaimer: This information is designed to mentor and guide you to cope with Ghosting by cultivating a positive mindset and implementing self-care practices. It is for educational purposes only; it solely provides self-help tools. Coping With Ghosting does not provide health care or psychological therapy services and does not diagnose or treat any physical or mental ailment of the mind or body. The content is not a substitute for therapy or any advice given by a licensed psychologist or other licensed or registered professionals.

Support the show

Note to All Listeners: Ghosting is defined as: The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication (Oxford Languages). When you leave an abusive situation without saying "goodbye," it's not ghosting, it's "self-protection." When you quietly exit a relationship after a boundary has been violated, it's not ghosting, it's "self-respect."