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Extracurriculars are meant to be fun, but they can be a source of tension for coparents. In this video, we provide practical advice to help you and your coparent make decisions smoothly. We cover everything from the importance of trial periods for new activities to setting boundaries for mutual respect, both on the sidelines and online. By working as a team, you can give your child the gift of a positive experience, preventing them from being soured on activities they love.

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A child's education is a critical part of their well-being, but for coparents a parent-teacher conference can quickly become an arena for conflict. This guide helps you put your child's needs first by equipping you with the professional-grade tools to navigate any difficult situation with grace. 

This video gives you a tactical roadmap to:

• A clear, 3-step plan for before, during, and after the conference.
• Ensure your child feels secure in a "two-parent" system, even after separation.
• Create a consistent academic plan across both households, minimizing stress for your child.
• Handle disagreements with your coparent in a way that models respectful behavior for your children.
• Transform the conference into an opportunity to celebrate your child’s victories together.
• Why demonstrating your ability to show up for your child's education is the ultimate win.

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Long-distance visitation and supervised visitation present huge challenges for coparents. The calls can become stale, the connection can fade, and the costs can be overwhelming. This video provides a tactical solve that most courts and lawyers don't even know about: Video Game Visitation. 

We cover the exact "why" and "how-to":
* Why maintaining a relationship with your child is so important, both for them and for your.
* Choosing the right, age-appropriate games. 
* Structuring the time to maximize connection and safety.

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If your coparent’s inconsistent rules are undermining your efforts and creating chaos for your child, this video is your step-by-step action plan.

Stop fighting the "my house, my rules" battle. Instead, implement a proven strategy to provide your child with the stability they desperately need—with or without your coparent's cooperation.

YOUR 3-STEP PLAYBOOK FROM THIS VIDEO:

DIAGNOSE THE PROBLEM: Pinpoint exactly how inconsistent environments force your child into a state of anxiety and manipulation.

ATTEMPT COLLABORATION: Use our "business meeting" framework and specific "we language" scripts to approach your coparent productively.

BULLETPROOF YOUR HOME: If collaboration fails, learn the calm, authoritative script to explain "Different Homes, Different Rules" to your child. This validates their reality, removes you from the middle, and establishes your home as a sanctuary of consistency.

This is just the start. To master the art of coparenting with a difficult ex, check our online courses, where we dive deep into strategies like this and more.
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You and your coparent have the same child... but you're raising two different kids. It's a maddening reality for millions of divorced parents, leading to blame and conflict. But what if the cause wasn't your coparent's "leniency" or your "rigidity"? What if it was a powerful psychological force ignited by the separation itself? Once you see it, you can't unsee it. This video reveals the subconscious reasons your child adapts their personality for each home and gives you the tools to stop fighting the dynamic and start fixing it.

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Are you winning parenting time but losing your child's heart? Many co-parents fall into the "Scoreboard Mentality"—fighting for what's "fair" instead of what builds a lasting relationship. In this video, we reveal the 3 most common traps (The Schedule Trap, The "It's My Time" Fallacy, and Weaponizing Your Right of First Refusal) that can damage your connection with your kids.

Learn the one simple question to ask yourself—The Tomorrow Test—that can shift your entire co-parenting approach from conflict to connection. Stop playing for the scoreboard and start building a foundation of love and trust that will last a lifetime.

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A popular coparenting Instagram creator has given parents a script for when their child complains about the other parent. It’s a common problem, but is their advice the whole story?

In this episode, family law attorney Ron Gore and therapist Connie LeBlanc watch the video and provide their expert reaction. They agree with some points but add crucial context that could save you from creating a bigger conflict.

You will learn:

How to validate your child's feelings without invalidating your coparent's right to have different rules.

The difference between a child complaining about a fair rule vs. being genuinely hurt by a comment.

Specific approaches for each scenario.

Why empowering a child to speak to the other parent can sometimes backfire.

Before you use a script you saw on social media, watch this expert breakdown to make sure it’s the right move for your family.

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Forced to have supervised visits with your kids? You're facing a choice: use a friend/family member for free, or pay a professional.

The answer isn't as obvious as you think.

In this video, we talk about the pros and cons of each so you can make the right decision for your family and your wallet.

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Are your coparenting conversations endless, draining, and unproductive? You're not alone. In this video, discover the "FACTS Only" communication tool – a simple, efficient way to streamline your discussions and focus on what truly matters: your child's needs. Learn how this powerful strategy, focusing on Feedback, Activities, Concerns, Transportation, and Supplies, can transform high-conflict exchanges into clear, actionable updates. We'll also cover essential tips for implementation, including the best communication methods (hint: ditch the texts!) and how to maintain your sanity even when your coparent doesn't cooperate. Take control of your coparenting narrative and build a strong foundation for your child's well-being.

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Are you a parent navigating different religious beliefs in your household, or worried about your child's exposure to a coparent's faith? This episode is for you.

In this re-edited version of Episode 5 of Coparent Academy, you'll hear the story of a child who found common ground between Southern Baptist and Muslim parents (it involves bacon!), and we'll break down a compelling Reddit post about a dad's fear of 'indoctrination.' Drawing from personal experience as a 'preacher's kid' who was discouraged from independent thought, we offer a refreshing perspective on religious upbringing.

Discover why children, even toddlers, aren't truly 'indoctrinated' in the way many parents fear, and how allowing exposure to different belief systems can actually foster resilience and open-mindedness. We share strategies for teaching your child to think critically and independently about faith, ensuring they can choose their own spiritual path when they're ready.

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In this episode, we answer a question posed by a mother who is concerned the child is moving to overnights with the father too quickly. The court has approved unsupervised day visits, and now he's asking for overnights. This mother is nervous, not just about the living situation but also about past behaviors. We talk about what truly constitutes a "stable enough" environment for a child's overnight visits, going beyond who's on the lease. Are class differences unfairly influencing perceptions? How can parents ensure their child feels safe and has their own space, even in unconventional settings? Join us for an honest discussion about navigating court orders, parental anxieties, and the child's perspective in complex family dynamics.

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Are you tired of the constant battles and high "transaction costs" in your co-parenting relationship? This episode dives deep into how cooperation, trust, and empathy can transform your coparenting interactions, making life easier for you and significantly benefiting your child.

We'll break down these important elements in the order they build on each other:

• Cooperation: Learn where to start with small, low-investment acts that can chip away at the "us vs. them" mentality. Discover how even minor adjustments, like meeting 30 minutes later or bringing a snack, can be perceived as major issues, and how taking the initiative can lead to a more reciprocal dynamic. We'll explore why a lack of cooperation is a "tax" that makes your life harder and how it negatively impacts your child.
• Trust: Understand how consistent cooperation can pave the way for greater trust. We'll discuss why creating an environment where your coparent feels safe to admit mistakes is so important, and how responding with grace, rather than judgment, can lead to more openness and a healthier relationship. Discover why rebuilding trust takes time and consistent effort, especially after a violation, and the hidden "administrative layer" it often requires.
• Empathy: See how a foundation of cooperation and trust makes empathy a natural next step. We'll explore how empathy can prevent small problems from escalating, incentivize honesty, and model positive pro-social behavior for your children.

Improving your coparenting relationship is not just about thinking differently, but doing things differently. We'll discuss why investing in cooperation, even when it feels like you're losing initially, is an investment in your own peace of mind, your coparenting relationship, and most importantly, your child's well-being and happiness.

You'll learn:

• Practical strategies to initiate cooperation without fear of disappointment.
• How to respond to coparent mistakes in a way that builds trust, not resentment.
• The long-term benefits of embodying empathy in your coparenting interactions.
• Why "borrowing trouble" from past experiences can hinder progress.
• How your children are keenly aware of parental cooperation (or lack thereof) and its impact on them.

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Making coparenting decisions can feel like a minefield, especially when you need to find common ground. In this video, we discuss practical strategies for successful coparenting. We'll show you how to build mutual respect, truly understand your coparent's perspective, and always put your child's well-being first.

You'll learn to spot your deal breakers, grasp the real cost of conflict, and create an environment where your child can truly thrive. We're sharing practical advice on how to approach those tough conversations, avoid unnecessary conflict, and find solutions that work for everyone.

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Reconciliation therapy offers a path parents and estranged children to reconnect, but it's not without significant risks. Many parents assume there's nothing to lose, but an unprepared approach can actually worsen the situation, causing more pain for both parent and child, and potentially ending any chance of future reconciliation.

In this candid discussion, we dive deep into the often-overlooked dangers of entering reconciliation counseling without proper preparation. We discuss why it's important for estranged parents to be financially ready, emotionally stable, and to have addressed underlying issues like anger management, domestic violence, coercive control, and substance abuse. 

Learn why genuine self-reflection and a willingness to be vulnerable are essential for success. We also highlight the critical role of attorneys in guiding clients through this complex process, ensuring they are truly ready to engage constructively and, most importantly, safely for the child.

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What is child support really for? When a parent pays a set amount each month, does that cover every single expense for the children, including seasonal necessities like snow boots? We break down a viral Reddit post from a mom questioning the purpose of the $200 per child she receives monthly.  Her ex-husband claims his child support payments cover his half of new snow boots, even telling the kids he's already paid for them. 

Join us as we discuss the fundamental legal and ethical obligations of both parents when it comes to financially supporting their children.  We'll explore:

- The primary purpose of child support (Hint: It's for necessities like housing, food, and utilities). 

- Whether the paying parent has a right to control how the money is spent. 

- The damaging effects of discussing child support payments with your children. 

- How custody arrangements, like 50/50 splits, factor into the equation. 

Whether you're paying or receiving child support, this is a conversation you don't want to miss.

Disclaimer: This podcast provides general information and discussions about legal topics. It is not a substitute for legal advice from a qualified attorney licensed in your jurisdiction.

Chapters:
00:00:00 A Reddit Dilemma: "What is Child Support For?"
00:01:13 The Damaging Mistake Parents Make With Child Support
00:02:21 The Legal Obligation of Both Parents
00:04:42 Prioritizing Needs: Rent and Food Before Clothing
00:05:49 "It's None of Your Business How the Money is Spent"

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Having tough conversations with your coparent can feel overwhelming, especially when emotions run high or past conflict clouds your judgment. In this video a family law attorney and a therapist talk about practical, compassionate strategies to help coparents with difficult discussions.

Whether you're deciding on daycare, addressing new romantic partners, or managing your child's education, this video will help you:

- Recognize your own mixed emotions

- Prepare for conflict without defensiveness

- Break conversations into manageable steps

- Stay grounded when the other parent is dismissive

- Seek understanding instead of just solutions

This isn’t about “winning” the argument—it’s about improving communication, even in high-conflict situations.

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There’s a widely misunderstood belief that children can choose which coparent to live with once they turn 12. But the reality is far more complex—and emotionally loaded—for both kids and parents.

In this video we unpack the legal truth, emotional toll, and long-term consequences of involving children in custody decisions. You'll hear why children often say what they think adults want to hear, how parents sometimes weaponize a child's "preference," and how fragile adult self-esteem can result in heartbreaking consequences for the whole family.

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Mindfulness is a powerful tool for navigating high-conflict coparenting dynamics. In this episode, we talk with Karen Kranbuehl — a licensed clinical social worker and attorney — about how mindfulness can help coparents move from automatic, stress-driven reactions to more intentional and productive communication.

Learn how slowing down, being curious, and embracing non-judgmental awareness can unlock better outcomes for both you and your children.

Topics covered include:

• What mindfulness really means
• The science behind automatic stress responses
• Real-life examples of mindful coparenting
• Why noticing is the first step toward change
• How small self-care actions build trust in yourself

This episode is especially helpful for coparents dealing with emotionally charged situations, conflict resolution, or court-ordered communication platforms like parenting apps.

The list of values Karen referenced can be found here:  https://www.actmindfully.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/Values_Checklist_-_Russ_Harris.pdf 

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Discipline done wrong can destroy your relationship with your child—and even land you in court. In this episode, we break down 8 common discipline mistakes that cost parents not only thousands in legal fees but also the trust of their children and coparents.

Whether you're going through a custody battle, coparenting after separation, or just trying to raise emotionally healthy kids, this video gives you actionable insights to parent wisely—without risking your legal standing or your child’s emotional wellbeing.

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Struggling with a high-conflict coparent?

You’re not alone. But while conflict in coparenting might be unavoidable it doesn't have to be destructive — to you or your kids.

In this episode, we’ll break down a powerful mindset shift to help you stay grounded during frustrating moments. Using the common (and infuriating) example of your coparent being late to a custody exchange, we’ll explore:

• Why your anger might not be about just being 10 minutes late
• How to use journaling to uncover and process emotional triggers
• A simple question to reframe the situation and regain control
• How your emotional response impacts your child — and your custody case
• When and how to communicate your boundaries without looking reactive

You’ll walk away with practical tools to protect your peace, show up better for your kids, and stop giving your coparent power over your mood.

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Are you tired of unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings with your coparent? Mindreading can be a major relationship killer, including your coparenting relationship. In this episode, we talk about 8 key reasons why you should never try to mindread your coparent. From avoiding miscommunication to promoting a healthier coparenting dynamic, we discuss the benefits of not assuming what's on your coparent's mind. Watch until the end to learn how to improve your coparenting relationship and create a more positive environment for your child.

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Is the Right of First Refusal good for your parenting plan—or a source of unnecessary conflict?

In this episode, we break down the controversial clause known as the Right of First Refusal in custody agreements.

You'll learn:

• What the Right of First Refusal actually is
• When it works—and when it causes more harm than good
• The impact on children, parental conflict, and coparenting dynamics
• Why we usually recommend against including it
• What to consider if you do want to include it in your plan

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Unnecessary communication is one of the worst unforced errors in coparenting. Learn what necessary coparenting communication actually looks like, how to avoid emotional traps, and how to stay focused on your child’s best interests.

You’ll learn:
✅ The difference between helpful and necessary communication
✅ How to respond to emotional or petty messages
✅ What to say when your coparent keeps over-sharing
✅ A journalistic method to keep messages clear and focused
✅ Why strict boundaries lead to healthier coparenting

🔑 Based on the first key from the "7 Keys to Better Communication" from Coparent Academy.
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This week a tornado hit our home. And I got COVID. I was reminded how fragile our window of tolerance can be when life throws everything at us all at once.

This week I found myself way outside of my own window of tolerance. In this episode I talk about what that looked like and how I found my way back.

In this episode, I talk about:

• The emotional and physical toll of back-to-back crises
• How trauma affects our ability to self-regulate
• The importance of relationships in helping us return to balance
• How these lessons connect with coparenting

Whether you're navigating your own personal storm or working to stay centered in a challenging coparenting situation, I hope this episode helps you feel seen—and maybe even a bit more prepared.

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Are you struggling to connect with your child during emotional meltdowns?
Feel like nothing you say helps them calm down or understand what went wrong?

In this video, we break down the powerful 4 Rs method — Regulate, Relate, Reason, Restore — based on the work of Dr. Bruce Perry (3 Rs) and trauma-informed parenting techniques. This simple, science-backed approach helps you de-escalate emotional outbursts and guide your child with empathy, connection, and calm.

✨ What You’ll Learn:

How to stay calm when your child is dysregulated

Why connection must come before correction

How to build trust even after conflict

The exact steps to create a safe, emotionally supportive environment for your child.

Chapters: 
00:00 Introduction
00:42 Regulate
03:23 Relate
05:55 Reason
07:31 Restore

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Why do kids suddenly explode with emotion—or completely shut down? In this episode, we look at how Dr. Dan Siegel’s Window of Tolerance model helps us understand emotional regulation in children.

Learn:

- What causes kids to "flip their lid"
- How to spot hyper- and hypo-arousal
- Practical tools to bring your child back into their window of tolerance
- How to expand your child's window of tolerance

Perfect for coparents, guardians, educators, and anyone working with children.

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Are you struggling to connect with your child after a divorce or separation? Do you feel like parenting issues may lead to problems in your coparenting relationship? In this episode, we discuss a powerful, trauma-informed approach to connection called PACE (Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity, and Empathy).

Originally developed by Dr. Dan Hughes for children in the foster system, PACE can help strengthen your bond, rebuild trust, and support your child through emotional challenges—even in high-conflict situations.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• How to create a safe emotional space for your child
•  The 4 key elements of the PACE approach
•  How to use playfulness to repair disconnection
•  The difference between accepting feelings vs. behaviors
•  How curiosity and empathy can help your child feel heard

Parenting through separation or divorce is tough, but with the right tools, you can build a stronger, healthier relationship with your child.

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Coparenting is challenging, but what truly matters for your child's well-being? In this video, we break down Dr. Emery’s adaptation of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs for children in two homes. We’ll discuss what matters more than simply having two parents and how you can create the best possible environment for your child—even after separation or divorce.

🔹 Learn why one good parent is more important than two conflicted ones
🔹 Understand the biggest risk factors for children in co-parenting situations
🔹 Discover how to minimize conflict and support your child's emotional health

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Have you ever reacted to your child in a way that surprised you? Do you sometimes feel frustrated with how you parent? The answer might lie in something deeply ingrained—your internal working model.

In this video, we explore:
🔹 What an internal working model is and how it’s formed
🔹 How your childhood experiences influence your parenting style
🔹 The difference between secure and insecure attachment
🔹 How to recognize and reshape unhelpful parenting patterns

Our early experiences shape how we see the world, relationships, and even ourselves. These unconscious scripts don’t just affect us—they influence how we raise our children. By understanding and adjusting them, we can build stronger, healthier connections with our kids.

 Watch now to learn how to break unhelpful cycles and parent with more awareness and confidence!

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Have you ever wondered about kids whose behaviors don't neatly fit into traditional attachment theory categories? Those are the "unclassifiable" children first observed by Mary Ainsworth during her "Strange Situation" tests. This video looks at how these unclassifiable reactions led researcher Mary Main to identify a new attachment style known as "disorganized attachment."

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Have you ever wondered how your child truly sees you—not just on the surface, but deep down? The way you interact with them forms their inner working model—a blueprint that shapes their future relationships, self-worth, and emotional well-being.

In this video, we break down:
✅ How early experiences shape attachment and trust
✅ The impact of secure vs. insecure attachment styles
✅ Parenting habits that foster emotional security
✅ Practical strategies to help your child build confidence and resilience

Your parenting choices today shape how your child sees the world tomorrow. Join us as we explore the power of connection and how small changes can make a big difference.

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Do you ever worry about whether your child feels secure with you—or with your coparent? You're not alone. While there isn’t a simple questionnaire to measure a child's sense of security, attachment theory provides valuable insights into how children form relationships with their caregivers.

In this episode, we discuss the Strange Situation—a groundbreaking assessment developed by Mary Ainsworth to evaluate a child's attachment style. We break down what different attachment styles reveal about the parent-child relationship and their long-term effects on emotional well-being.

Key Takeaways:
🔹 Secure Attachment: Indicates a responsive, emotionally available caregiver. Leads to healthy relationships and emotional regulation.
🔹 Insecure-Avoidant Attachment: Suggests emotional distance from the caregiver. Can result in difficulty with intimacy and emotional expression.
🔹 Insecure-Resistant/Ambivalent Attachment: Reflects inconsistency in caregiving, leading to anxiety and excessive clinginess.
🔹 Disorganized Attachment: Often linked to fear, neglect, or trauma, creating confusion and emotional struggles in the child.

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Attachment isn’t just about emotions—it’s a survival strategy wired into our DNA. From the moment we’re born, we rely on our caregivers to shape how we connect with the world. But how does this work? And what happens when those connections break down?

* Watch this episode on YouTube (https://youtu.be/7ecu1EYplTU?si=Qvaw4zrCHd4xYpri) 

In this episode, we discuss: 

• Why attachment is a survival mechanism, not just a bond.
  
  
• How parents shape their child’s emotional security.
  
  
• The Still Face Experiment—a powerful study on caregiver responsiveness.
  
  

Understanding attachment helps us build stronger, healthier relationships—from childhood to adulthood. It's the science of connection.

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Your baby’s brain develops at an astonishing rate during the first two years of life, and two powerful forces are at play: genetics and experiences. We discuss how these factors work together to shape your baby’s brain architecture and how toxic stress can disrupt this delicate process.

Learn the science behind brain development and find out why to protect your baby from the harmful effects of stress.

Topics Covered:

- The role of genetics and experiences in brain development
- How toxic stress affects brain growth

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This is Episode 2 in our Raising Emotionally Resilient Children series. 

In this episode we dig into the epigenetic effects of stressors on children during pregnancy. 

We discuss: 

• The Diathesis-Stress Model
• Epigenetics
• Prenatal Brain Development
• Prenatal Programming (aka DOHad or the Barker Hypothesis)
• Examples including the epigenetic effects of the:
  • Descendants of Holocaust survivors; and 
  • Children born to mothers who were pregnant with them during the Quebec Ice Storm of 1998

 
Check out the Youtube version of this episode for some additional visual content and links to research articles reviewed and/or relied upon for the content in this episode.

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This is Episode 1 of our Raising Emotionally Resilient Children series.

In this episode we give an overview of how the emotional brain develops, based on the work of Dr. Allan Schore. Next week, we'll get into the details of how the brain develops and what brain scans of mothers and their infants interacting can teach us about attachment.

This week we introduce our new series, Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids.

This series is designed to help you better understand your child’s emotional development so you can support them in becoming resilient, emotionally intelligent, and secure.

Dr. Allan Schore (Dr. Allan N. Schore)  Known as a pioneer in affective neuroscience and attachment theory, Dr. Schore’s research on how early interactions shape the developing brain is foundational to this series. His book The Development of the Unconscious Mind is a major resource.

Watch Dr. Allan Schore's podcast with Andrew Huberman

Watch Dr. Schore give an academic lecture on this topic 

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This week we introduce our new series, Raising Emotionally Resilient Kids. 

This series is designed to help you better understand your child’s emotional development so you can support them in becoming resilient, emotionally intelligent, and secure.

The series focuses on two key themes:

1. The Science of Emotional Development – We’ll explore how a child’s brain develops, from before birth through early childhood and beyond. You’ll learn how the emotional brain works and how your actions as a parent or co-parent shape their future.
2. Practical Parenting and Coparenting Strategies – We’ll discuss how to apply this knowledge in real-life parenting situations, with a special emphasis on coparenting dynamics.

The materials in this series will be drawn from the following experts, among others:  

1. Dr. Allan Schore (Dr. Allan N. Schore)
   • Known as a pioneer in affective neuroscience and attachment theory, Dr. Schore’s research on how early interactions shape the developing brain is foundational to this series. His book The Development of the Unconscious Mind is a major resource.
2. Dr. John Gottman (John & Julie Gottman - About | The Gottman Institute)
   • The renowned psychologist and author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child brings us practical tools for teaching kids emotional intelligence and managing conflict as coparents.
3. Dr. Robert E. Emery (Robert Emery | Department of Psychology)
   • As the author of Two Homes, One Childhood, Dr. Emery offers invaluable insights into managing separation and creating stability for children in shared parenting situations.
4. Dr. Tina Payne Bryson (https://www.tinabryson.com/)
   • Co-author of No-Drama Discipline, Dr. Bryson provides guidance on how to discipline in ways that nurture emotional development instead of harming it.
5. Dr. Richard C. Schwartz (Richard C. Schwartz, Ph.D. - The Founder of Internal Family Systems | IFS Institute)
   • The creator of Internal Family Systems (IFS), Schwartz helps us understand how our own emotional wounds and inner dynamics influence parenting and coparenting.

I look forward to bringing you information gathered from these experts and others to help you understand how your child's emotional brain develops and how you can help them to grow into emotionally regulated, secure adults capable of loving and lasting relationships. 

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This week is the last in our holiday replay series.  Next week, I'll introduce our new series on the development of children's emotional brain, attachment, and what that all means for coparents. 

The replay this week is part 2 of our conversation with Brad Baldridge.

Brad Baldridge, CFP®, is a College Funding Consultant specializing in late-stage college funding planning and the chief podcaster of Taming The High Cost Of College.  He provides customized planning using the latest financial aid, tax, cash flow and academic strategies.

In this conversation, we dig into the details of what coparents should be considering in funding their child's college education, whether college is years away or started last year. Linda and I were blown away by all we didn't know about college financial planning, and this was an extremely informative conversation.

Learn more about Brad and his services at his website, tamingthehighcostofcollege.com. Be sure to check out the several college financial planning calculators and tools on the Resources page of his site.

Also, please check out Brad's podcast:  https://tamingthehighcostofcollege.com/category/podcast/

At the end of this episode, you will hear important disclosures Brad asked us to make available in the recording.

Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

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This week we begin a replay of our two-episode conversation with Brad Baldridge.

Brad Baldridge, CFP®, is a College Funding Consultant specializing in late-stage college funding planning and the chief podcaster of Taming The High Cost Of College.  He provides customized planning using the latest financial aid, tax, cash flow and academic strategies.

In this conversation, we discuss the difficult situation of college funding during and after a divorce, starting with the foundational information any parent needs to know when planning for the financial realities of their child's college education.

Learn more about Brad and his services at his website, tamingthehighcostofcollege.com. Be sure to check out the several college financial planning calculators and tools on the Resources page of his site.

Also, please check out Brad's podcast:  https://tamingthehighcostofcollege.com/category/podcast/

At the end of this episode, you will hear important disclosures Brad asked us to make available in the recording.

Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.  To learn more about becoming the best coparent you can be, visit coparentacademy.com.

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This week we conclude the replay of our conversation with Licensed Professional Counselor Jaime Vogt about Extended Forensic Evaluations (EFE). In this episode, Jaime discusses in detail the process she uses to conduct an EFE.

Jaime is a licensed professional counselor in the state of Oklahoma. She has conducted over 3,000 forensic interviews of children for frontline investigations. 

Prior to starting her private practice she began her work with children as a therapist with Family and Children's Services in the Family Sexual Abuse Treatment Program .  She later became the Children's Services Director and Forensic Interviewer for the Child Abuse Network at the Children's Justice Center.

Jaime appears regularly as an Expert Witness in Criminal, Juvenile and Civil proceedings regarding Forensic Interviewing and Child Abuse Issues. She has testified for both prosecutors & defense attorneys in criminal proceedings in both district and federal courts . She trains mental health professionals and attorneys in child interviewing and related topics.

Ms. Vogt has served on the board for the Oklahoma Association for Collaborative Professionals and is currently a member of the Quality Assurance Panel for the Tulsa County Courts.

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This week we continue our end of year replay of some of the interview episodes that aired over the past two years. 

This episode is Part 1 of a two-part conversation about extended forensic evaluations with Jaime Vogt. 

Jaime is a licensed professional counselor in the state of Oklahoma. She has conducted over 3,000 forensic interviews of children for frontline investigations. 

Prior to starting her private practice she began her work with children as a therapist with Family and Children's Services in the Family Sexual Abuse Treatment Program .  She later became the Children's Services Director and Forensic Interviewer for the Child Abuse Network at the Children's Justice Center.

Jaime appears regularly as an Expert Witness in Criminal, Juvenile and Civil proceedings regarding Forensic Interviewing and Child Abuse Issues. She has testified for both prosecutors & defense attorneys in criminal proceedings in both district and federal courts . She trains mental health professionals and attorneys in child interviewing and related topics.

Ms. Vogt has served on the board for the Oklahoma Association for Collaborative Professionals and is currently a member of the Quality Assurance Panel for the Tulsa County Courts.

Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com.

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This episode is a replay of our first ever shared podcast.  Linda and I sit down with an amazing couple, Justin and Alexis Black.  Listen to Justin's podcast, ROSE from Concrete:  ROSE From Concrete (buzzsprout.com)

Justin and Alexis are the authors of Redefining Normal: How Two Foster Kids Beat The Odds and Discovering Healing, Happiness, and Love.

Their book is a powerful memoir that takes the reader through their harrowing childhood experiences, which included abuse, neglect, and years in the foster system.  More importantly, however, their book details their commitment to overcoming the odds stacked them and ending the generational cycles of abuse and addiction they were born into.

Justin and Alexis take you into the rooms where things happened, and their searing accounts will stay with you.  Be warned, their story contains factual depictions of domestic violence, trauma, sexual assault, and other difficult issues faced on the road to healing.

Linda and Ron were profoundly affected by the time they were privileged to spend with Alexis and Justin. Everyone can benefit from listening and reading their compelling and inspirational stories.

Learn more about Justin and Alexis and buy their powerful memoir at:  Buy Now | Redefining Normal (re-definingnormal.com).

Listen to Justin's podcast, ROSE from Concrete:  ROSE From Concrete (buzzsprout.com)

Follow Justin and Alexis on social media at:

Instagram: Redefining Normal (@re.definingnormal)
TikTok: Redefining Normal (@re.definingnormal)
Facebook: Redefining Normal | Facebook

Email Justin and Alexis at info@re-definingnormal.com 

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This week we start our slide into the New Year with a replay of an episode from 2022 in week we interviewed author Teresa Harlow. For each of the next several weeks as we close out the year, we'll be replaying some of the episodes in which we interviewed guests, including authors, an attorney, and a therapist.  

We spoke with Teresa about her techniques for transforming combative relationships into collaborative partnerships.

Check out her most recent book, Combative to Collaborative: The Co-Parenting Code at https://promethean-publishing.square.site/

To learn more about Teresa, visit her at:
https://teresaharlow.com/
https://www.facebook.com/teresaharlow123
https://twitter.com/teresaharlow123
https://www.instagram.com/teresaharlow123/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/teresaharlow/

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In this episode, we talk about how to focus on your child's needs during the holidays to avoid conflict and help your child have a wonderful holiday season.

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In this episode, we talk about what a parenting coordinator is and how one can help coparents improve communication and reduce conflict. 

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In this episode, we talk about separation anxiety for children in separated families, focusing on anxiety related to visitation transfers.

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In this one-episode break from our current series on Separation Anxiety in children, we replay one of our most popular episodes from 2023. Linda and I discuss a Redit post in which a mother asks for advice about how to communicate with her high conflict coparent.
 
Next week we'll return to our series with an episode defining and describing separation anxiety, particularly in children living in two homes.

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In this episode, we talk about anxiety in children, from an infant's fear of strange faces to a teenager's fear about fitting in. We distinguish everyday worries from maladaptive anxiety reactions that may require professional intervention.

Next week we specifically on defining and describing separation anxiety, particularly in children living in two homes.

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This week starts our new series on separation anxiety. This is a phrase family law professionals often hear as both a sword and a shield in coparenting conflict.

In this series, we'll address what separation anxiety actually is, how to recognize it, and how best to deal with it as coparents. This week's episode is an overview of the topic, which we'll break down in greater detail in future episodes. 

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In this episode of our effective discipline series, we discuss how improper discipline can lead to litigation over custody and visitation. We touch on the difference between discipline and abuse, including the damaging effects of corporal punishment, fear, and emotional manipulation, even when they seem legal or commonplace. Learn how consistency in discipline practices can make all the difference in your children perceiving the discipline they receive to be fair, and why it's important to avoid punishing your child as a way to get back at your coparent. 

Thanks for listening!  If you have questions, comments, or concerns, please email us at podcast@coparentacademy.com

To see our courses, visit https://coparentacademy.com