In this episode, I’m talking about what it really means when someone blocks you the confusion, the silence, and the way it can shake your sense of worth. I’ll share my own reflections and what I’ve learned about the psychology behind it why people cut others off completely, what it says about their emotional state, and how to shift the focus back to yourself instead of taking it personally. This episode isn’t about anger or blame. It’s about awareness, mindset, and reclaiming your peace. Because being blocked doesn’t mean you’re the problem it means your presence touched something they weren’t ready to face. 

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 This Halloween, I’m not talking about ghosts, I’m talking about something scarier: being with the wrong person. In this episode, I open up about what it feels like to be used, overlooked, and underappreciated and why that’s so much more haunting than being single.
Because being single isn’t the fear.
Losing yourself in someone who doesn’t value you is.

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We’re told: block them, delete them, unfollow, cut them out. But here’s the thing. You can remove someone from every physical part of your life and still have them living rent-free in your head. And that… is the part no one teaches you how to deal with.

So if you’ve been feeling frustrated because you’ve done “all the right things” but your mind won’t stop bringing them up, you’re in the right place. Because we’re going to talk about mental no contact what it is, why it’s so much harder than the physical side, and the exact tools I used to finally get my peace back.

This episode goes hand in hand with my No Contact Guide, which will be available to buy on the 17th of August. Follow the link below to my Stan Store.

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This is hard but inevitable. It sounds harsh but one day you will too. However if they moved on first, its always going to be tough on you. I go through what I faced & how I dealt with it. No one wants to see someone they thought would never move on, move on so please reach out should you need some more support. You are not on your own.

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I think everyone at some stage in their life deals with imposter syndrome. I have broken this episode down into two halves, imposter syndrome with running and then healing. I explore how I dealt with it & give you coping strategies that will empower you to embrace your true self, unburdened by the weight of imposter syndrome.

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I recorded this episode on my birthday so I could bring all the positive vibes. I talk about all the lessons I have learnt in the last year surrounding my life and my personal life. I also spend the second half of the episode going through the lessons I have learnt being single at 30. I am sure there will be so much more to add in the next few years. 

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After everything they did you would think that unloving them was easy. Wrong. Unloving someone is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. No one around you can understand why you don’t hate them & why you are still defending them. The truth is, its so tough however in this episode I talk you through some things that might help you start accepting that this will be the best thing that you do. 

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In this episode I talk about how I get back into running after time off or an injury. I also talk about the mental and physical benefits of running & why I think you should fall in love with it too. I also have some BIG news to announce & I hope you want to be a part of it all. 

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I get asked a lot by people who's breakup is fresh, how did you cope what did you do? In all honesty, I didn't. I lost myself however I learnt what I should of done overtime & now I am sharing that with you. I also have some exciting news to grow this community, together with the usual Loula catch up & chats. 

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When I was having days throughout my breakup where I just needed someone to validate my feelings I didn't know where to turn. When I felt like I wanted to reach out to my ex I didn't have anyone telling me not to. Therefore, I have made an episode that you can listen to on the days you aren't feeling your strongest. 

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If you are currently going through a breakup and feel overwhelmed by everything you have read online then this might be the episode for you. I go through how I navigated my way through no contact with my ex. I went against everything I read online to ensure that I wasn't inflicting more pain into my already painful situation. I also touch on social media and some practical tips on how I stopped contacting my ex. Together with the usual catch up and chats.

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We are the worlds worst for comparing our lives to someone else's, especially when you are going through a hard time. I made this episode so you can have some reassurance that you need to trust the timings of your life. The sooner you realise you are exactly where you need to be, the more enjoyable your life will become.

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In this episode I explore the topic of growth & fixed mindsets & apply it to running, however, you can have different mindsets for different situations in your life. I got through what both mindsets are and how you can potentially change having a fixed mindset. Together with a catch up & general chit chat.

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In this episode I am diving into something so many of you have messaged me about and that is the experience but often feel shame around: moving back home after a breakup. Whether it's your childhood bedroom or a spare room at a parent’s house, it can feel like you're going backwards while everyone else is moving forwards. But this episode is here to shift that mindset completely.

If you're in this place right now, I want you to take a deep breath. This is not the end, this is a reset. 

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We all have that little voice on our shoulder when we are out running. No matter what sort of runner you are, those limiting beliefs will creep in from time to time. In this episode I explore how I combat them & turn them into positive thoughts. Together with the usual tangents and catch up chats.

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It is extremely hard to come to terms with a new start especially when it wasn't your decision. I go through 5 questions that helped me accept that my break up had to happen in order for me to live the life I am living now. Never forget that being single is a gift. As per usual I go off on numerous tangents & fill you in on my hectic but amazing new life.

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I am back from America & more inspired than ever. I talk about my trip & talk through some advice my brother in law gave me which I absolutely loved so I had to come and share it with you. Along with the normal chit chat & potentially getting my mum Elaine on the Podcast in the future... 

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Forgiveness can come in many forms. I find forgiving people really hard, however, I have spent time with my therapist & taken time to understand what forgiveness for me, really means. Hopefully this episode will help you find closure on a situation. Along with my usual catch up & general rambling.

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I think there is a lot online about healing through hard times however I believe that there is a missing element of how to practically deal with seeing pictures of ex's, or seeing them on social media etc. Its very easy to SAY just block them but in reality its not that easy. Yes you need to learn to love yourself however I have learnt a way of dealing with the practical steps in healing after a break up. I hope they too help you or someone you might know that is going through a tough time. Coupled with the usual Loula catch up, general distractions and the fear that my office desk was going to collapse...

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A topic that came up with my best friend this week was exercise guilt and how it effects me. I didn't realise how effected I am when I miss a run therefore I decided to talk on it and hopefully share some valuable coping mechanisms. A long with the usual Loula chats & general rambling.

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I am back after a week off because sometimes life gets in the way. This week I talk about climbing Snowdon, loosing a part of me & I go into why I have been feeling so anxious & how I dealt with it. I went to see my therapist this week & share some really interesting facts about dealing with PTSD & trauma. All along with the typical chat and Loula ramblings.

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Sometimes we all just need a laugh. This week I have unfortunately had to under another round of procedures. Instead of dwelling on the negatives I have tried to focus on the positives. I think it is so important to be able to have a good laugh even when life is tough so in this episode I read out some of the funniest running stories I found on Redit. If your driving home from a rubbish day or your out on a head clearing run/walk get this episode on its guaranteed to make you laugh.

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A little life update & a light hearted chatty episode. I have shared a lot on my running account & so sometimes I get DMs asking how I am. So I decided to talk through how my outlook on my situation has changed & share how I have been able to see so much positivity in such a heart-breaking situation. I then downloaded Threads half way through - the rest is history.

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I was a beginner once with a dream of completing a half marathon. I have since gone on to run many more and two marathons. You CAN do it, you just have to be serious about it. In this episode I talk through the practical steps that helped me. I also go though how I mentally get through the miles on race day and I finish with a few recovery tips. Running a half marathon takes time and training but like I always say ' You can achieve anything you put your mind to.'

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This episode has sat with me for a while. It’s about something we’re told to be from a very young age, but we’re never actually taught how to do it. Today we’re talking about being brave. Especially when everything’s crumbling. Especially when the relationship ends, your world shifts, and suddenly you have to stand up on your own again even though you're not sure you remember how. I learnt a lot myself whilst building with episode, I think it will provide reassurance and soothe & calm your mind.

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This isn't a quick fix, however its the best method I have learnt through therapy to really understand why certain things make me feel anxious. I think it is so easy to say something makes you feel anxious but understanding why is the most important part for combatting anxiety attacks and episodes. Finding out what triggers you can be hard and extremely uncomfortable so its important to take your time. Up until last year I had never suffered with anxiety or panic attacks therefore I am still learning so much about coping and living with them, however, I hope learning about this 5 stage method helps you as much as it helped me. 

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It is really easy to think you are the only person in the world going through a break up. It is also really easy to get comfortable with feeling sad, trust me I went through it last year. I still have sad days and there is nothing wrong with that. However, in this episode I go through a few things that have allowed me to find a lot of peace. These things are things I wish people said to me last year, therefore I am sharing them to help others who might be struggling with having to face a completely new life alone.

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So you have signed up for a race, found a training plan now what? It is so easy to look at plan and be overwhelmed by the amount of time you are gong to spend training. If you are anything like me its easy to doubt yourself and immediately and think you are going to struggle to stick to something for that amount of time. In this episode I go through how I stick to all my training plans and give you easy and practical things you can do to ensure you stay on track. Coupled with my weekly debrief of my chaotic life and the usual laughs and chats.

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I missed an episode last week due to moving house so I thought it would be good to update you all on my current situation. I talk through the house move, my new house & neighbours. I talk about my June goals & running plans. I also tell you more on a few very exciting projects that I have been working on. So if your going out on a walk, run or you just need a nice friendly chat then please tune in.

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In this episode I go through why I would recommend running a virtual marathon. In 2022 I ran the London Marathon but I ran it virtually with my whole family around me. At the time, I was still trying to rebuild my life & the fact I was able to run my FIRST marathon surrounded by my whole family was so special to me. If you do not get a place for the next London Marathon I fully recommend you consider doing it virtually.

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In this episode I talk EVERYTHING mindset. This is my favourite topic to talk about. I talk you through 3 things I did to master my mindset in running but these things can be applied to your everyday life too. You don't have to be a runner to benefit from this episode. There is so much I want to say on this topic so I have just scratched the surface. Controlling your mindset can be hard but with the right tools you can become in a master in having a positive mindset and that should excite you!

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I would describe myself as being a confident person. However, when it came to running my confidence was non existent. I spent a whole year running 11 laps around a grave yard to ensure no one saw me. In this episode I go through how I gained my confidence to finally make it to road running which enabled me to go on and participate in races. I also touch on an exercise that my therapist introduced to me which helped me gain my confidence back in my every day life after it was completely shattered after my break up.    

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In this episode I talk about the things I did to fall in love with myself. Even though my ex put me through the worst pain, I now thank him for not loving me because I have finally learnt how to love myself. When you go through a break up it is very easy to become fixated on finding someone new to love. What you don't realise is that the person you need to love first is yourself. You don't have to be going through a break up to implement some of the things I talk about in this episode into your life. You glow differently when you are fully content with being on your own & are happy just loving you, trust me.

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I fully recommend you listen to this episode if you’re going to run a marathon OR if you need something to listen to during your marathon . This week I know I said I would start my breakup content, BUT I couldn’t let the Post Marathon Buzz go to waste. In this episode I talk through my second marathon experience, what I learnt from it and give you some practical tips if you are considering running a marathon… which you ABSOLUTLEY should. Come and join the 1% of the population that have done it. Will we ever stop talking about running a marathon? No, no we won’t! 

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I have changed up my episode content this week and decided I was going to talk everything marathons. After returning home after my final run before taking on the Manchester Marathon my excitement was just too much. I hope this episode either gets you though a bit of your marathon if you are taking part in one OR inspires you so sign up for your first race. I cover how I am feeling about Manchester and how I got through running the London Marathon virtually last year. Good Luck if you are racing either Manchester or London this year, I am sure you will SMASH IT.  

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In this episode I talk about how easy it is to lose yourself because you can't control what your ex is doing. But here’s the truth I want to anchor you in today: you can’t control what they did, or why they left, or even how they feel now. That’s all out of your hands. The only thing you can truly control is the way you choose to respond and that choice, every single day, is what will determine how strong you become on the other side.

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When I signed up to my first half marathon race, I had no idea that the training would be helping through a huge break up. 2 weeks into my training my ex fiancé unexpectedly left me and I still made it over the finish line. When I tell people that I was going through a huge break up when I ran my first ever half marathon race I am constantly asked HOW?! How did you find the motivation & strength to do it. In this episode I go into how I got to the finish line, go into some detail about some of the emotion I was carrying at the time & why that race will stick with me forever.  

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In this episode I go into detail about how I started running 3 years ago. I explain the things I used to do in order to motivate myself to get out every week & how I built running onto my routine. I talk about how I stay consistent & give you some things to think about how you could fit running into your daily routine. I go into my hip dysplasia diagnosis & how I proved all my consultants wrong & how running has prevented me from having a major operation. I also get into how I went from running 5km to 10km, of course, with all the added typical 'Loula stories,' laughs & general chit chat.

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Calling this an ice breaker episode. In this episode I introduce myself and give an insight to what you can expect from this podcast. I give a brief background in when I started running, how I started my Instagram page and what I do for work. I go through what content you can expect, when I will publish each episode & the most asked question on my Instagram, HOW I came up with the name.

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In this episode I want to talk about something that I know so many of you are sitting with right now and I want to be really honest about it. It’s not just the heartbreak itself that hurts.It’s not just the missing them, or the confusion, or the grief.

It’s the frustration. The anger. The heaviness of knowing that no one else really knows what happened behind closed doors and no matter how many times you try to explain it, no one really gets it. And honestly? That can be one of the most isolating, rage-inducing parts of a breakup. 

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Sometimes, the hardest person to walk away from isn’t the ex who hurt you.
It’s the new connection that felt like a fresh start. The person who came along just when you thought your heart might be ready again.  In this episode I reassure you and remind you that trusting your gut is the most powerful thing you can do. 

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In this episode, I am getting honest about the emotional leftovers: the habits and beliefs we adopted in a relationship that no longer serves you. You’ll learn how to spot what’s not yours anymore, how to rewire your inner voice, and how to rebuild your identity on your own terms. No fluff. Just real talk, practical mindset shifts, and a few gentle nudges to help you come back home to yourself. 

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When I went through my breakup I wanted to know that it got better and if certain thoughts and feelings became easier. Now 3 years on I wanted to share with you how life looks and feels. I share some tips and some reflections that I have had recently. 

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I want to talk about something that a lot of us go through… but few of us talk about out loud. The day you were supposed to get married… but didn’t. The day you thought would be your anniversary… but became something else entirely. I talk about how to cope mentally and physically in this episode. I actually went away to Greece, but I talk about if I didn't - what I would have done instead. 

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On this episode I am talking about losing your firsts your first house, your first engagement, your first big love… and how to heal when the dream you built with someone else falls apart.

Maybe your ex left. Maybe you had to walk away even when your heart didn’t want to. Maybe the life you thought you'd live just… evaporated. I go through how I felt losing the first time I got engaged and my first house with someone. 

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I know how deflating online dating can be especially as we head into winter, Christmas, and New Year so I want to catch you early before you put all your effort into online dating and forget what you really deserve. This episode is my reminder to both you and me that our person isn’t missing… he’s just not on Hinge right now. I’m sharing how I’m keeping the faith, raising my standards, and manifesting a love that actually feels like home. This season isn’t about waiting it’s about becoming the person who attracts what we truly deserve.

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 Seeing your ex move on can feel like a setback, even if the breakup is old. In this episode, we talk about why it hurts, how to cope, and what it really takes to move forward. From practical steps to mindset shifts, this is a straight-talking, compassionate guide to letting go and choosing yourself again. If you’re stuck in the pain of watching someone else start over, this one’s for you.

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In todays episode I am talking about one of the hardest lessons to learn but also one of the most liberating: Let people show you who they are — and stop making excuses when they do.I know this can feel harsh. When someone you love hurts you or disappoints you, your brain wants to make sense of it. Your heart wants to protect the connection. And your nervous system wants to avoid the truth. But what if the most loving thing you could do for yourself… was stop translating their behaviour into something it’s not?

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In this episode we’re diving into something I know so many of us struggle with the fear of being single. Whether it’s fresh after a breakup or something that’s been lingering in the background for a while, that fear can feel all-consuming. But today, I want to help you reframe it, understand where it’s coming from, and give you the tools and mindset shifts to move through it feeling stronger, clearer, and more grounded in yourself. 

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I saw this quote on the back of a toilet door - details in the episode. It really resonated with me because for ages I have said I am starting from scratch and it is so normal to think so but in this episode I talk about why you arent, and why your experience will be like your blue print that you carry into a new relationship. 

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