You're waiting to feel ready. Waiting to feel confident. Waiting for the job, the title, the moment someone finally tells you that you belong — and then you'll show up fully.

But what if that's exactly why you're stuck?

SUMMARY

Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming 

(episode 29) 

In this episode of Her Career, Her Way, host Hazel Ann dismantles one of the most common traps ambitious people fall into in their 20s: waiting to believe before they act.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their early careers, EP 29 goes deep on the neuroscience of belief — why your brain resists change, how memory keeps you locked in old identities, and what it actually takes to become someone new.

Hazel Ann breaks down the science in the way your smart friend would — no jargon, no fluff. Just the framework you actually need.

This episode will help you understand why confidence isn't something you wait for — it's something you build by moving first. If you've ever held back from applying for the job, speaking up in the meeting, or calling yourself a leader before you had the title — this one's for you.

TAKEAWAYS

• Belief is learned, not manifested. Your brain needs real-world evidence to update what it thinks is true about you — visualisation alone won't cut it.

• The Belief–Memory Loop is why you stay stuck: perception → emotion → memory → belief → behaviour → repeat. No new action means no new memory, which means no new belief.

• Embodiment isn't pretending. It's acting as the person you're becoming before the belief fully exists — because that's the only way the belief ever forms.

• Speaking and journaling physically rewire belief. Language restructures emotional memory. Writing separates what happened, what you felt, and what you concluded — so you can update the story accurately.

• Flip the Have–Do–Be model. Most people think: once I have the outcome → I'll do the work → then I'll be that person. Daphne says the opposite. Be → Do → Have.

• Competence builds confidence — not the other way around. Action creates episodic memory. Episodic memory creates evidence. Evidence updates belief.

• Imposter syndrome shrinks through embodiment. You don't wait until you feel like you belong. You act like you do, and your brain catches up.

RESOURCES 

• Bridging the Gap Between Believing and Memory Functions

• Daphne De Baat 

QUOTES FROM THIS EPISODE

"Action creates episodic memory."

"Competence creates confidence."

"You are moving first, acting first."

THIS WEEK'S CHALLENGE

What's one way you can embody the next version of you today — and how will you describe it afterward?

• Pick one small action the person you're becoming would take. Do it before you feel ready. Then write it down.

DM @clearlybecoming on Instagram with what you did. Let's build accountability together.

CHAPTERS

00:00 The Power of Belief and Motivation

07:20 Embodiment: Acting Before Belief

13:53 The Do, Be, Have Framework for Growth

18:52 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome Through Embodiment

THIS WEEK’S CHALLENGE: 

What's one way you can embody the next version of you today — and how will you describe it afterward?

Pick one small action the person you're becoming would take. Do it before you feel ready. Then write it down.

DM @hercareerherway on Instagram with what you did. Let's build accountability together.

LET'S CONNECT

✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!

Hazel Ann — Host of Clearly Becoming 

Instagram: @clearlybecoming 

TikTok: @clearlybecoming 
YouTube: www.youtube.com/@clearlybecoming

Episode 28

Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming 

Your degree didn't prepare you for this. Neither did your internship. But this episode might.

One third global recruiters are already screening for AI literacy — and that number is climbing. If you're in your 20s wondering whether your career is going to survive the next five years, this episode isn't here to panic you. It's here to give you the clearest, most honest framework for what staying relevant actually looks like right now.

SUMMARY

In this episode, Hazel Ann cuts through the noise on one of the most anxiety-inducing topics for young professionals: AI and your career. Not with tech jargon, not with empty reassurance — but with science, real-world examples, and a practical framework you can apply this week.

Built for ambitious 20-somethings navigating the chaos of early careers, EP 28 explores the concept of cognitive offloading — why your brain naturally outsources tasks, how AI takes that to the next level, and why that's both your biggest advantage and your most dangerous blind spot. 

This episode will help you stop fearing AI, start thinking with it strategically, and understand exactly what employers are looking for in the era where what you know matters far less than how fast you can learn, adapt, and apply.

TAKEAWAYS

• ⅓ of global recruiters now screen for AI literacy — and it's rising fast

• Using AI without intention actively weakens your critical thinking and memory over time

• MIT found ChatGPT users had the lowest brain engagement and most repetitive thinking — the Brain-Only group had the highest creativity

• AI is persuadable and has zero consequence awareness — the Claude Vending Machine experiment proves it

• The most hireable people aren't the fastest AI users — they're the clearest thinkers

• Always draft first, then use AI to stress-test your reasoning — not replace it

• The 3 L's — Learn, Leverage, Lead — is your roadmap for staying relevant without losing your edge

CHAPTERS

00:00 - The Importance of AI Literacy in Hiring 

02:57 - Cognitive Offloading and Critical Thinking

07:42 - Leveraging Ai as a Collaborative Tool 

12:59 - The Ethical Implications of AI

16:56 - The Three L’s: learn, Leverage Lead 

26:36 – Conclusion: Use AI responsibly

RESOURCES

• How to Stop AI from Killing your Critical Thinking 

• The AI skills employers want — and what business schools teach

• Project Vend: Can Claude run a small shop? (And why does that matter?) 

• ChatGPT May Be Eroding Critical Thinking Skills, According to a New MIT Study 

• ‘Humanity needs to wake up’ to dangers of AI, says Anthropic chief 

• Relevant Episodes: EP 22 – How Personal Branding Creates Career Clarity in Your 20s 

LET'S CONNECT

✨ Did this episode shift something for you?

This week's challenge: 

Pick one task you'd normally outsource entirely to AI — and draft it yourself first. 

Then use AI to push back on your thinking. Notice the difference.

DM Hazel Ann on Instagram with what you chose and what happened. She reads every single one.

Hazel Ann — Host of Clearly Becoming 

Instagram: @clearlybecoming 

TikTok: @clearlybecoming 

YouTube: www.youtube.com/@clearlybecoming 

If this episode was useful, leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, it takes 30 seconds and helps another 20-something in the middle of a career spiral find this show. That's a pretty good trade.

Why do mistakes feel like proof you're not good enough? Here’s what your identity, pride, and brain chemistry have to do with it.

SUMMARY

Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her Way

In this episode, we dive into why mistakes feel so personal, how they trigger imposter syndrome, and the neuroscience behind why your brain reacts so strongly when you mess up. She unpacks the layers of identity that shape how you interpret failure, and how pride — both the healthy and unhealthy kind — can influence your response to setbacks.

The host, Hazel Ann, breaks down the real reason mistakes sting, drawing from personal stories and research to explain how your inner critic forms, why your 20s amplify self-doubt, and how reframing the meaning of mistakes can make your career growth feel less overwhelming.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 19 gives you the tools to understand your emotional reactions, unlearn fixed identity narratives, and use mistakes as data for growth rather than evidence of inadequacy.

TAKEAWAYS

• Mistakes are an inevitable part of growth, not evidence of failure.

• Identity is shaped by your experiences, roles, and the expectations you internalize.

• Imposter syndrome arises when your internal identity clashes with who you want to become.

• Pride can be authentic (grounding) or hubristic (fragile), and each affects how you process mistakes.

• Your brain has an error-detection system that makes mistakes feel physically uncomfortable.

• Mistakes should be viewed as information, not identity statements.

• Reframing self-talk disrupts limiting beliefs and supports a growth mindset.

• Resilience is built by choosing curiosity over self-criticism.

• Trusting the process—rather than rushing the outcome—creates sustainable confidence.

• Reflecting on your identity helps you understand why certain mistakes trigger you more than others.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Mistakes and Identity

02:23 Understanding Identity and Imposter Syndrome

08:15 The Role of Pride in Mistakes

10:37 The Science of Mistakes and the Brain

15:20 Reframing Identity and Embracing Growth

25:28 Practical Steps for Overcoming Mistakes

Resources Mentioned: 

• The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention (Clance & Imes )

• Learning From Mistakes: How Does the Brain Handle Errors?  

• Why Pride Is Nothing to Be Proud Of (Amodeo)

LET'S CONNECT

✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!

DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.

Host - Hazel Ann

Instagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠

TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠

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Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her Way

If you feel extra pressure during the holidays… it’s not just you.

Your 20s are a constant balancing act between who you are and who everyone thinks you should be.

SUMMARY

In this episode, we dive into the very real and often invisible pressure that 20-somethings carry — especially during the holiday season.

From family expectations to comparison spirals, to the quiet fear of “not being enough yet,” Hazel Ann unpacks why this chapter of life feels so heavy and what it actually means for your growth.

We explore the difference between healthy pressure vs. toxic pressure, how external validation rewires your motivation loop, and why chasing praise can leave you feeling empty after every achievement. Through metaphors, self-reflection tools, and gentle guidance, Hazel invites you to redefine success on your own terms — not society’s.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating uncertainty, identity shifts, and the emotional weight of early adulthood, this episode gives you permission to breathe, pause, and remember: ✨ you’re allowed to be in progress ✨ you’re allowed to not have answers yet ✨ your timeline is still valid

TAKEAWAYS

• The holiday season amplifies career pressure and expectations.

• Family gatherings can trigger the need to “prove” yourself.

• Healthy pressure inspires movement and comes from self-belief.

• Toxic pressure stems from comparison, fear, and proving your worth.

• External praise can hijack your internal motivation system.

• Growth pressure is intentional and aligned with your values.

• Cognitive reappraisal helps reframe stress and external expectations.

• Success must be defined by you — not others.

• Presence matters more than perfection.

• You’re allowed to sit in the unknown and still be on track.

LET'S CONNECT

✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!

DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.

Host - Hazel Ann

Instagram:⁠ ⁠@hercareerherway⁠⁠

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Your 20s aren’t confusing because you’re doing life wrong.

They’re confusing because you’re finally building a life that’s yours.

SUMMARY

Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her Way

Guest: Calyn Coleman

In this episode, we break down the emotional, mental, and identity-level chaos that makes your 20s feel like one long plot twist.

Hazel Ann sits with guest Calyn Coleman, who opens up about navigating family expectations, growing up as a twin, shifting from a pre-law track to fashion, dealing with competitive school environments, and the pressure to “have it all figured out.”

She candidly shares the role mental health, the pandemic, and taking uncomfortable risks played in redirecting her path.

This episode is for anyone who feels behind, confused about their career, or torn between who they are and who they’re expected to be.If you’ve been questioning everything… this conversation will feel like a permission slip.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating career confusion, self-doubt, and societal pressure, EP 17 reminds you:

✨ your dreams deserve space

✨ your wins deserve celebrating

✨ your path is yours alone

TAKEAWAYS

• Feeling confused in your 20s is normal — not a personal failure.

• Family expectations deeply shape your identity and decisions.

• Growing up as a twin or sibling comparison can blur your sense of self.

• School environments influence confidence far more than we think.

• Choosing passion over pressure leads to more authentic career paths.

• Mental health deserves priority, especially in high-achieving spaces.

• The pandemic created clarity for many young adults, including Calyn.

• Taking unconventional risks often leads to unexpected opportunities.

• Small wins matter — they keep motivation alive.

• You’re allowed to redefine your path at any point.

CHAPTERS

00:00 — Why Your 20s Feel So Overwhelming

02:58 — Identity vs. Expectations: Where Confusion Begins

05:46 — School, Confidence & Growing Up in Comparison

08:56 — Passion vs. Pressure in Career Decisions

11:54 — The Pivot: From Pre-Law to Fashion

14:50 — Academic Pressure, Perfectionism & Mental Health

17:57 — How the Pandemic Shifted Career Direction

20:58 — Taking Risks & Creating Your Own Path

23:43 — Celebrating Small Wins in Your 20s

Resources Mentioned: 

• The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention (Clance & Imes )

• Learning From Mistakes: How Does the Brain Handle Errors?  

• Why Pride Is Nothing to Be Proud Of (Amodeo)

LET'S CONNECT

✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!

DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.

Host - Hazel Ann

Instagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠

TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠

Guest - Calyn Coleman

Instagram: @cay_cole07

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If you’ve been doubting yourself lately, this episode is your reminder: your potential is real — and your next career step might be one mindset shift away. Today, we’re talking about the kind of self-belief that creates clarity, strengthens confidence, and helps you make better decisions in your 20s.

SUMMARY

In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down how self-belief directly impacts your career direction, confidence, and ability to take action—especially when you’re navigating the uncertainty of your 20s.

You’ll learn how your internal narrative shapes the opportunities you pursue, the risks you take, and the way you show up in your work. Hazel Ann shares practical reframes to help you shift out of low-confidence loops so you can make clearer decisions, feel more grounded in who you are, and rebuild momentum when you feel stuck.

This conversation is meant to feel like a reset—a reminder that your thoughts aren’t just thoughts; they’re the foundation of your clarity, your career growth, and the identity you’re building.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, this episode supports you in moving from:

• self-doubt → self-trust

• confusion → clarity

• hesitation → empowered decision-making

TAKEAWAYS

• You’re capable of having what you want — your self-belief is the starting point.

• Confidence isn’t something you wait for; it’s something you build.

• Your thoughts shape your actions, habits, and ultimately your reality

• When you shift your internal narrative, external opportunities shift too.

• Give yourself credit for your growth

CHAPTERS

00:00 — Navigating the Chaotic 20s

03:18 — Why Self-Belief Changes Everything

07:05 — Shifting Out of Destructive Thinking

11:44 — Empowerment Through Community

15:30 — Gratitude, Growth, and Final Thoughts

LET'S CONNECT

✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!

DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.

Host - Hazel Ann

Instagram:⁠ ⁠@hercareerherway⁠⁠

TikTok:⁠ ⁠@hercareerherway⁠⁠

🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:

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You can be talented, smart, and hardworking — but if you don’t speak up for yourself, opportunities won’t magically appear.

This episode is your reminder that advocating for yourself isn’t loud… it’s intentional.

SUMMARY

Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her Way

Guest: Eve Felder

In this episode, we dive into what it really means to stand up for yourself in your career — especially when you’re still learning who you are.

Hazel Ann sits down with Chef Eve Felder, whose journey went from acting to becoming Managing Director at the Culinary Institute of America. Together, they explore how self-advocacy shaped Eve’s path, how she pushed through deep shyness, and why clarity, courage, and self-belief matter more than having the “perfect plan.”

It’s a reminder that:

• Your voice is a tool — not a burden.

• You don’t need permission to take up space.

• Showing up for yourself is a lifelong skill, not a one-time decision.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 15 gives you a grounded, real conversation on risk-taking, networking with intention, and following your heart even when it feels unrealistic or scary.

TAKEAWAYS

• Advocating for yourself is a non-negotiable career skill.

• Taking risks often leads to opportunities you can’t plan for.

• Persistence + clarity = long-term career momentum.

• Overcoming your own barriers (shyness, doubt, fear) is growth.

• Networking works best when it’s a two-way relationship, not a transaction.

• Following your heart matters — especially in tough industries.

• Self-reflection keeps your choices aligned with your values.

• Movement + mindfulness clear mental clutter.

• Gratitude and self-care build long-term resilience.

Chapters

00:00 – Introduction & Guest Intro

00:03 – Early Career & Overcoming Shyness

00:09 – Entering the Culinary World

00:15 – Learning to Advocate for Yourself

00:21 – Persistence, Clarity & Career Growth

00:27 – Networking the Right Way

00:33 – Work-Life Balance & Boundaries

00:39 – Final Thoughts & Advice

LET'S CONNECT

✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!

DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.

Host - Hazel Ann

Instagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠

TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠

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What if all your distractions are actually disconnecting you?

SUMMARY

In this episode, we explore the unseen impact of overstimulation on your career clarity and sense of direction. If nothing in your life feels aligned lately, this conversation will help you understand why — and what your inner voice has been trying to tell you.

The host, Hazel Ann, breaks down how constant noise, scrolling, and consuming everyone else's opinions can quietly disconnect you from your values, purpose, and the deeper narrative you’re meant to lead. When you finally pause, silence becomes a powerful strategy — not something to avoid.

This episode is a reminder that your best ideas, clearest decisions, and most aligned career moves don’t come from doing more… but from tuning inward.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 14 guides you back to the voice that matters most: your own.

TAKEAWAYS

• The best thoughts and strategies come from silence.

• Silence allows for personal reflection and growth.

• Avoiding silence can hinder career progression.

• Finding your voice requires stepping back from external noise.

• Your mission and values are discovered in quiet moments.

• Self-reflection is crucial for career clarity.

• Listening to oneself is more important than listening to others.

• Career moves should be made from a place of inner knowing.

• Silence can lead to profound insights and ideas.

• Taking time for oneself is essential for personal development

CHAPTERS

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• Azarias, F.R., Almeida, G.H.D.R., de Melo, L.F., Rici, R.E.G. and Maria, D.A. (2025). The Journey of the Default Mode Network: Development, Function, and Impact on Mental Health. Biology, 14(4), p.395. doi:https://doi.org/10.3390/biology14040395.

• Carroll, J.C. (2020). Imagination, the Brain’s Default Mode Network, and Imaginative Verbal Artifacts. Springer eBooks, pp.31–52. doi:https://doi.org/10.1007/978-3-030-46190-4_2.

• Csikszentmihalyi (2022). Flow state: Definition, examples, and how to achieve it. [online] www.medicalnewstoday.com. Available at: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/flow-state#summary.

• Harvard Business Review (2025). You Need to Be Bored. Here’s Why. [online] YouTube. Available at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=orQKfIXMiA8.

• Menon, V. (2025). Redirecting. [online] Elsevier.com. Available at: https://linkinghub.elsevier.com/retrieve/pii/S0896627323003082 

• Riley, D. (2019). Why Do I Hate Being Bored? The Science Behind Life’s Most Uncomfortable State. [online] Medium. Available at: https://medium.com/@daniel_riley/why-do-i-hate-being-bored-the-science-behind-lifes-most-uncomfortable-state-1ccb4a1c62cd 

LET'S CONNECT

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DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.

Host - Hazel Ann

Instagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠

TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠

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What if the secret to everything you want lies in being comfortable in the discomfort? In this episode, the host, Hazel Ann, unpacks the mindset shift that changes everything — showing up before you’re ready. Together with guest Kevin Breitinger, a fellow 20-year-old who took on a 60-second public speaking challenge, they explore how stepping into fear can unlock confidence, clarity, and growth in every part of your life.SUMMARYThis week’s conversation dives deep into what it truly means to embrace discomfort. Kevin shares how facing his fear of public speaking redefined his confidence, communication skills, and self-belief — transforming fear into freedom.Hazel and Kevin talk about the power of consistency, accountability, and intrinsic motivation, and how these principles build both character and courage. You’ll hear real insights on overcoming the fear of judgment, improving self-expression, and creating ripple effects that impact your career, relationships, and purpose.They also discuss how travel and self-reflection shape perspective, why discipline matters more than talent, and how to define your own version of success — even when imposter syndrome creeps in.Whether you’re chasing a dream, starting a business, or simply finding your voice, this episode will remind you that discomfort is the classroom where growth happens.

TAKEAWAYS

• Growth begins when you get comfortable in discomfort.
• The 60-second public speaking challenge builds real confidence.
• Fear of judgment blocks self-expression — facing it unlocks potential.
• Accountability to yourself matters just as much as to others.
• Intrinsic motivation drives long-term success.
• Communication is a learnable skill that improves every relationship.
• Public speaking enhances networking and leadership.
• Mindset shifts lead to lasting personal growth.
• Travel expands empathy and perspective
• Consistency creates mastery.

CHAPTERS00:00 Embracing Discomfort in Public Speaking03:54 The 60 Second Public Speaking Challenge06:25 Overcoming Judgment and Fear08:42 Commitment and Accountability in Challenges11:17 Intrinsic Motivation vs. External Validation14:06 Improving Articulation and Communication Skills16:26 The Importance of Listening and Silence19:06 Building Relationships Through Public Speaking20:45 Self-Reflection and Continuous Improvement22:23 Setting High Standards and Overcoming Imposter Syndrome23:59 Embracing Discomfort for Growth27:32 The Importance of Discipline and Consistency32:23 Defining Your Dream Life34:16 Finding Inspiration and Motivation37:43 Overcoming Fear and Self-DoubtRESOURCES MENTIONEDIs Public Speaking Really More Feared Than Death? LET'S CONNECT✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!

DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.

Host - Hazel Ann

Instagram: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠TikTok: ⁠@hercareerherway⁠Guest - Kevin TikTok: @1takekevin1🎧 Subscribe to the Her Career, Her Way YouTube channel:👉 youtube.com/@HerCareerHerWay

It's 4:30pm and already pitch black outside. Your motivation? Buried under blankets and a Netflix queue. Sound familiar?

SUMMARY

In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down the Winter Arc: a framework for turning the darkest, coldest months into your secret competitive advantage. We're talking seasonal affective disorder (the science behind why winter feels so hard), the cultural trap of "New Year, New Me," and the exact 4-step framework I used to stop hibernating my ambitions and start building momentum when it mattered most.

No toxic positivity. No "just push through it" nonsense. Just real talk about auditing your life, rewiring your brain with neuroscience-backed strategies, and taking micro-actions that compound into major career shifts by spring.

This isn't about doing more. It's about doing differently—when it counts.

If you've been feeling stuck, unmotivated, or like you're just surviving until the new year... this one's for you.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Winter isn't a write-off season—it's your competitive advantage
• SAD is real, and understanding it gives you power
• The "New Year, New Me" trap costs you 60+ days of potential growth
• Audit your life like a researcher, not a critic
• Your brain processes 11 MILLION stimuli per second but only focuses on 5-8 things
• "Act as if" isn't manifestation magic—it's neuroscience
• Small beats perfect every single time
• Your fears are road maps to your values

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• https://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/wellness/a62974419/winter-arc/
• The Jamie Sea Show - Quantum Leaping
• Hatch Light Therapy Lamp
• Vision Board

LET'S CONNECT

This episode hit different? I want to hear from you.

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Join the #WinterArcChallenge: Share your goals, vision boards, or micro-actions and tag me—I'm featuring your journeys all season long.

DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway from this episode or the ONE thing you're committing to this week. Let's build accountability together.

Ever feel like everyone else just "gets it" faster than you?

You're not broken. You're just using the wrong strategies.

In this solo episode, Hazel Ann is getting real about the moment that changed everything: sitting in her internship, nodding along as her mentor explained a process, then completely blanking two days later. The shame of asking "wait, how do I do this again?" while other interns just... remembered.

This episode breaks down the three research-backed strategies that took her from frantically taking notes and remembering nothing to actually retaining what she learnt. No more re-reading the same paragraph five times. No more pretending to remember something you don't.

You'll learn why "learning styles" are actually limiting you (with research to back it up), the neuroscience behind why your brain deletes information, and the exact frameworks to learn faster without burning out.

If you've ever felt like you're working twice as hard to learn half as much, this episode is for you.

💡 What We're Covering in This Episode

• Why "learning styles" are BS (and what actually matters instead)
• The real reason you forget everything you just learned
• Strategy #1: Test yourself instead of re-reading (50% better retention)
• Strategy #2: Space it out + mix it up (same time, way better results)
• Strategy #3: Make it matter (how to signal importance to your brain)
• Why mistakes are actually your learning accelerator
• How sleep is when your brain does the real work
• The "old you vs. new you" shifts that compound over time

📑 Chapter Timestamps

00:00 - The Internship Shame Story: When I Realized Something Was Wrong
03:15 - Myth-Busting: Why Learning Styles Are Limiting You
06:42 - How Your Brain Actually Works: The Science of Forgetting
10:28 - Strategy #1: The Testing Effect (Close the Tab and Explain It)
15:19 - Strategy #2: Spacing + Interleaving (Stop Cramming, Start Mixing)
20:34 - Strategy #3: Make It Matter (Attention + Emotion + Structure)
26:08 - Why This Matters Long-Term: The Compounding Effect
28:45 - Your Action Plan: Start With These 3 This Week

💬 Let's Connect

I'd love to hear from you! What's your "old you" learning habit that you're ready to leave behind? Or what was your biggest takeaway from this episode?

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DM me: I read every single message and love hearing your stories

If this episode resonated, please share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you're feeling generous, leave a review—it helps other people find the show!

Remember: You're not behind. You're not broken. You just didn't know these strategies yet.

New you starts today. Let's go. 🎙️

📖 Resources Mentioned:

• Sternberg, R. (1994). Thinking Styles.

• Reid, J. (1995). Learning Styles in the ESL/EFL Classroom.

• Riener, C. & Willingham, D. (2010). The Myth of Learning Styles.

• Hatami, S. (2018). Learning Styles — A Review of Concepts and Research.

• Huberman, A. (2023). Huberman Lab Podcast: Optimal Protocols for Studying & Learning.

• Brown, P., Roediger, H., & McDaniel, M. (2014). Make It Stick: The Science of Successful Learning.

• Dunning, D. & Kruger, J. (1999). Unskilled and Unaware of It.

In this episode of 'Her Career Her Way', Lori Atwood, a certified financial planner, shares her journey into finance and offers valuable insights on budgeting, saving, and investing. She emphasises the importance of understanding one's relationship with money, the need for emergency funds, and the significance of tracking spending. Lori also discusses the realities of entrepreneurship and the importance of having a financial runway before starting a business. Her advice aims to empower individuals, especially younger generations, to take control of their financial futures.
Takeaways

• Empowerment comes from understanding personal finance.
• Budgeting should focus on happiness and satisfaction.
• Tracking spending can reveal underlying issues.
• Emergency funds are crucial for financial security.
• Investing in index funds is a smart strategy for beginners.
• Desire less and focus on what truly matters.
• Credit cards should be managed carefully to avoid debt.
• Savings should be a habit, not a one-off event.
• Entrepreneurship requires financial planning and runway.
• Financial literacy is essential for young adults.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Financial Empowerment
02:58 Lori's Journey into Finance
05:54 Understanding Budgeting and Scarcity Mindset
08:39 The Importance of Happiness in Financial Decisions
11:45 Saving vs. Spending: Finding Balance
14:42 Emergency Funds and Financial Security
17:31 Navigating Economic Uncertainty
20:34 Tracking Spending: The Autopsy Approach
23:25 Grocery Spending and Overconsumption
26:24 The Role of Credit Cards in Financial Health
29:17 Investing Basics: Starting with Index Funds
32:16 Managing Student Loans and Debt
35:13 Retirement Planning: 401k and Roth IRA
38:14 The Reality of Entrepreneurship
41:10 Final Thoughts and Financial Advice

SUMMARY

Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming

In this episode, Hazel unpacks the real reason you can't commit to a job, obsess over emails for hours, or feel paralyzed by career decisions — and no, it's not indecision. It's your attachment style.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 27 explores how the same psychological patterns that shape your relationships are secretly running your career decisions. From the hyper-independent girl who refuses to ask for help, to the over-researcher who polls everyone but still can't choose — Hazel breaks down the science of attachment theory and how your nervous system is keeping you stuck.

This episode will help you:

Understand why career decisions feel as emotionally intense as relationship drama

Identify your attachment pattern (avoidant vs. anxious) and how it's showing up at work

Build the psychological security you need to take bigger risks, negotiate boundaries, and finally move forward with clarity

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Your Brain Doesn't Separate Love and Work

• Security → Risk-Taking. Insecurity → Protection.

• Research shows: secure attachment = clearer vocational identity, more exploration, real confidence

• Anxious attachment = cognitive overload, choice paralysis, comparison spirals

• Avoidant attachment = extreme independence that limits network growth long-term

• Stable Relationships = Clearer Career Identity

• Czech study (21-year-olds): close parental ties early → vocational clarity

• Over time: romantic partner stability matters more than parents for career confidence

• Chinese research: self-differentiation (handling others' expectations without losing yourself) = psychological immune system

• The SECURE Framework:

• S — Stabilize support (anchor, advisor, peer)

• E — Examine your pattern (withdraw or spiral?)

• C — Create decision container (limit inputs)

• U — Upgrade self-differentiation (separate their fear from your desire)

• R — Regulate first (nervous system before logic)

• E — Engineer environment (you become the 5 people around you)

CHAPTERS

00:00 - Intro: You Don't Have a Career Problem, You Have an Attachment Problem

06:03 - The Two Types of Girls in Their 20s (And Why Both Are Stuck)

07:40 - The Science: How Your Brain Treats Career Decisions Like Relationships

12:26 - Czech Study: Secure Attachment = Vocational Clarity

14:19 - Chinese Study: Self-Differentiation as Your Psychological Immune System

15:06 - The Avoidant Girl: Why "I Don't Need Help" Is Holding You Back

16:26 - The Anxious Girl: Choice Paralysis & Comparison Spirals

20:06 - The SECURE Framework: How to Build Stability & Take Bigger Risks

23:26 - Close: Your Attachment Style Is Protection — Not Personality

RESOURCES

• Chinese Study on Self-Differentiation & Career Adaptability

• Czech Study on Emerging Adults & Vocational Identity

• The Neuroscience of Love: What’s Going on in the Lovestruck Brain? 

• Related Episode: EP 22 – How Personal Branding Creates Career Clarity in Your 20s

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In this bonus episode of 'Her Career Her Way', Hazel Ann reflects on five transformative lessons learned over the past year, emphasising the importance of self-acceptance, the power of starting despite fear, the influence of one's social circle, the significance of recognising personal strengths, and embracing uncertainty as a pathway to growth. The conversation encourages listeners to set intentions for their next chapter, focusing on authenticity, meaningful connections, and the beauty of life's journey.

Takeaways

• Let go of judgment to embrace personal growth.
• Confidence is built through action, not waiting.
• Surround yourself with like-minded individuals.
• Your self-worth is inherent, not tied to achievements.
• Embrace uncertainty as a space for opportunity.
• Trust the process and take aligned actions.
• Comparison should be a tool for self-improvement.
• Your 20s are a time for exploration and learning.
• You don't need to have everything figured out.
• Every experience contributes to your unique path.

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Chapters

00:00 Reflecting on a Year of Growth

02:57 Letting Go of Judgment

05:47 The Power of Starting

08:56 The Company You Keep

12:12 Owning Your Strengths

15:05 Leaning into Uncertainty

17:54 Intentions for the Next Chapter

In this episode of Her Career Her Way, Hazel Ann explores the concept of perfectionism, discussing its impact on self-worth and personal growth. This episode reframes perfectionism from a character flaw into a strength you haven't learned to channel yet.

We break down the science (30-42% genetic), explore the 5 perfectionist types, and expose why society wants women "balanced" instead of powerful. You'll get practical tools to transform perfectionism from prison to power—including self-compassion techniques, restoration strategies, and language shifts that separate your work from your worth.

Bottom line: Your perfectionism protected you. Now let it serve you differently.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

✨ Perfectionism is 30-42% genetic—you're wired this way, not broken

✨ 5 types exist: Intense, Classic, Parisian, Procrastinator, Messy—each needs different strategies

✨ Adaptive (playing to WIN) vs. Maladaptive (playing NOT to lose)—shift your approach, keep your standards

✨ Self-worth ≠ performance. "That didn't go well" ≠ "I'm terrible"

✨ The Balance Trap: Society limits women's bandwidth to limit their power

✨ Self-compassion reduces maladaptive perfectionism WITHOUT lowering standards

✨ Language matters: "This could be better" (opinion) vs. "I'm terrible" (self-judgment)

✨ You're not living in preparation—this IS your life

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📚 RESOURCES

• "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control" by Katherine Morgan Schafler
• Perfectionist Type Assessment

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Stop apologising. Start building. This is YOUR career, YOUR way.

Have you ever felt like there's never enough time—only to realise you've been managing the wrong thing entirely?

In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down why time management feels impossible and reveals the game-changing shift that transformed her productivity: stop managing time, start managing energy.

We dive deep into the psychology behind why your brain sabotages your schedule, the science of procrastination, and practical strategies that actually work with your brain instead of against it.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why you constantly underestimate how long tasks take (and how to fix it)
• The neuroscience behind why unfinished tasks haunt you at 2 AM
• How ADHD brains process time differently—and strategies that help
• The Eisenhower Matrix simplified: urgent vs. important tasks
• Why multitasking is actually destroying your productivity
• Evidence-based strategies: from micro-steps to body doubling
• Why procrastination is an emotional regulation issue, not a time management one

✨ Time is finite. Energy is renewable

✨ You're not bad at time management—you're using a broken system

✨ Working smarter (aligned to your values) > working longer ✨ Your time struggles aren't a character flaw, they're a design flaw

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Chapters

• 00:00 Why Time Management Feels Impossible
• 07:19 The Psychology Behind Your Time Struggles
• 14:29 Behavioral Traps & Environmental Factors
• 21:19 The Science of How We Relate to Time
• 28:45 8 Practical Strategies That Actually Work
• 36:12 Energy Management Over Time Management
• 42:30 Reclaiming Control in Your 20s

Have you ever talked yourself out of an amazing opportunity because you were terrified of making the "wrong" choice?

In this episode, Hazel Ann sits down with Gracie Rotman, who went from decision paralysis to living her dream life studying in Milan while building her own business. We dive deep into why our brains trick us into thinking there's only one "right" path—and how to move past that fear to grab the opportunities waiting for you.

Gracie is a Marketing graduate from the University of Florida. After a transformative internship at Coach, she took the leap to study abroad in Milan while launching her own networking business to help ambitious women network and build meaningful connections.

In this episode, you'll discover,

• Why your fear of making wrong choices is actually keeping you stuck
• The science behind why uncertainty feels so terrifying (hint: it's evolutionary)
• Gracie's real-time decision-making process when choosing between safety and her dreams
• Tips to move from fear to inspired action
• Why "misalignments" actually self-correct when you trust the process

✨ There are no wrong decisions, only different timelines✨ Your fear voice vs. your true self—how to tell the difference✨ Every choice is either a blessing or a blessing in disguise✨ Everything that is meant to happen, happens

Gracie's Socials:

• LinkedIn
• YouTube

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Chapters

• 00:00 Navigating Fear and Ambition
• 07:19 Understanding and Embracing Fear
• 14:29 The Complexity of Decision Making
• 21:19 Surrendering to the Unknown

This episode, Hazel Ann explores the real challenges of goal-setting in your 20s—from lack of clarity and fear of failure to the behavior-intention gap that keeps us stuck between what we say we want and what we actually do. She dives into the science behind habit formation, discuss practical strategies like keystone habits and understanding your "why," and explore how to break big dreams into actionable steps. The conversation emphasises the importance of self-awareness, planning, and embracing uncertainty as part of the growth process—because fear isn't a stop sign, it's often a signal that you're heading toward something meaningful.

Mentioned in the Episode:

"The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Power-Habit-Why-What-Change/dp/1847946240

In this episode of 'Her Career Her Way', Hazel Ann discusses the complexities of productivity, workaholism, and the importance of rest. She reflects on her personal experiences transitioning from a high-achieving internship to a period of downtime, exploring feelings of guilt associated with rest and the societal pressures surrounding productivity. Hazel Ann emphasises the need to reframe our understanding of productivity, recognising that rest is not a sign of laziness but a crucial component of creativity and personal growth. She offers practical solutions for achieving a balance between work and rest, encouraging listeners to embrace their unique career paths and the importance of self-reflection.

Works Cited

• Biwer, Felicitas, et al. “Understanding Effort Regulation: Comparing “Pomodoro” Breaks and Self‐Regulated Breaks.” British Journal of Educational Psychology, vol. 93, no. S2, 2023, pp. 353–367, bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/bjep.12593, https://doi.org/10.1111/bjep.12593.
• Dore, Madeleine. I Didn’t Do the Thing Today. Allen & Unwin, 5 Jan. 2022.
• Kreider, Tim. “The “Busy” Trap.” Opinionator, 30 June 2012, archive.nytimes.com/opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/06/30/the-busy-trap/.
• McKinsey & Company. “What Is Burnout? | McKinsey.” Www.mckinsey.com, 14 Aug. 2023, www.mckinsey.com/featured-insights/mckinsey-explainers/what-is-burnout.
• Szigeti, Zara. “What’s the Verdict on Academic Guilt? Separating “Doing” from Productivity.” RehabINK | a World of Rehabilitation Research, Practice, and Advocacy, 8 June 2021, rehabinkmag.com/previous-issues/rehabink-summer-2020-volume-1-issue-9/whats-the-verdict-on-academic-guilt-separating-doing-from-productivity/.

Internships aren’t always easy — but the challenges can teach you just as much as the wins. In this episode, I talk about handling tricky mentor relationships, learning how to ask for the feedback you need, and building intentional connections that last. I also share how I turned what once felt like “weaknesses” into strengths. This is the real behind-the-scenes of growing in your 20s — reminding you that setbacks are part of the process, and that your path forward is more within reach than it sometimes feels.

Wrapping up my internship felt surreal — I came in full of questions and left with lessons I didn’t expect. In this episode, I share how setting intentions early shaped my experience, the skills I built along the way (from Excel shortcuts to confidence in networking), and what working a 9-to-5 taught me about structure and balance. These takeaways are for anyone trying to make sense of the messy, exciting start of a career — with the goal of making it feel a little more clear and a lot more doable.

Check out this article for more information about the case study mentioned: https://jamesclear.com/implementation-intentions

Figuring out your passions in your 20s isn’t easy—especially when outside voices and endless choices drown out your own. In this episode, Hazel Ann Felder unpacks distractions (like thinking Suits meant law school was for me), and dives into psychology research and practical tools to help you tune into what you really want.

Along the way, we’ll explore:✨ The Asch conformity experiment on why we follow the crowd✨ Dan Gilbert’s paradox of choice and how too many options keep us stuck✨ Why, as Ben Hardy writes, achieving goals doesn’t always equal fulfilment✨ Insights from Rick Hanson on why pleasure is fleeting✨ Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

Come away with tools to sift through the noise, reconnect with what excites you, and take small steps toward clarity—without the pressure to have it all figured out.

Ever feel like no matter what you do, it’s still not enough? From feeling guilty about downtime to comparing ourselves to family or peers, the pressure to constantly “do more” is real—especially in your 20s. In this episode, Hazel Ann Felder and Gracie Rotman unpack where that pressure comes from, how it shows up in everyday life, and why women are often taught to shrink themselves.

We’ll walk through practical tools—from journaling your daily “receipts,” to time blocking, self-affirmations, and reframing worst-case scenarios—that help remind you that you are, in fact, enough.

Ever looked at your resume and thought: “I’ve worked hard… so why doesn’t this sound impressive?”

This episode is for anyone in their 20s who feels underqualified, overlooked, or unsure how their experience actually translates into career growth.

SUMMARY

Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming

In this episode of Clearly Becoming, the host, Hazel Ann breaks down one of the biggest career myths holding ambitious young professionals back: that they don’t have enough experience.

Built for individuals navigating the chaos, pressure, and self-doubt of their 20s, this episode explores why it’s not about lacking experience, it’s about knowing how to articulate it.

Using customer service as a powerful example, Hazel unpacks how everyday roles quietly build skills like resilience, adaptability, communication, and problem-solving — the very skills employers are actively seeking.

You’ll learn why familiarity bias causes you to undervalue your own experience, how psychology and neuroscience explain why lived experience wires confidence faster than theory, and how to use storytelling to translate what you’ve done into language employers understand.

This episode introduces a practical, repeatable framework to help you extract value from any role you’ve had, so you can show up clearer, more confident, and more compelling in interviews, resumes, and career conversations.

TAKEAWAYS

• Feeling overwhelmed by your resume is common — especially in your 20s

• You don’t lack experience; you lack translation

• Customer service roles build highly transferable career skills

• Familiarity bias makes you underestimate what comes naturally to you

• Resilience and adaptability are top skills in today’s job market

• Storytelling turns experience into evidence

• Confidence grows from clarity, not credentials

• You don’t need multiple jobs to be hireable

• Career upskilling starts with reframing what you already know

• Lifelong learning and adaptability are non-negotiables for long-term growth

  
  

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• The Neuroscience of Customer Experience - Paul J. Zak
• Judgment under Uncertainty: Heuristics and Biases - Tversky A, Kahneman D.
  

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If interviews make you overthink, freeze, or feel like your entire future is being judged in 30 minutes, then this episode is for you.

SUMMARY

Host: Hazel Ann | Clearly Becoming | Her Career Her Way

This episode is part of the Career Upskilling Series — where we build the skills that actually move your career forward.

In this episode, Hazel Ann breaks down why interviews feel so overwhelming in your 20s — and why struggling in interviews doesn’t mean you’re unqualified or “bad at them.”

Instead of teaching you what to say, this episode focuses on how to show up: grounded, present, and confident without forcing it.

Built for ambitious twenty-somethings navigating career uncertainty, EP 25 reframes interviews from high-pressure performances into intentional conversations. You’ll learn why over-preparing can actually hold you back, how interviewers really remember you, and how to prepare in a way that makes you feel calm, clear, and adaptable, even when nerves show up.

This episode will help you stop faking confidence and start building it through preparation that actually works.

TAKEAWAYS

• Why 85% of candidates fail interviews due to ineffective preparation — not lack of ability

• Over-preparing and memorising answers can make you more rigid and less natural

• Interviews land better when they feel like conversations, not performances

• Nerves don’t mean you’re failing, they can actually help you stay alert and present

• Interviewers remember how you made them feel more than perfectly worded answers

• Empathy, presence, and curiosity leave a stronger impression than perfection

• Self-judgement during interviews makes it harder to think clearly

• Preparing flexible stories gives you confidence without scripting yourself

• Researching people and culture matters more than memorising company facts

• Confidence grows from action, practice, and intention 

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Interview Challenges

05:45 Why Flexibility Beats Perfect Answers

13:57 Tactical Preparation That Actually Works

25:28 Key Takeaways & Final Reframe

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How many times have you actually chosen your next career move — or have you just been reacting?

SUMMARY

In this episode of Her Career, Her Way, host Hazel Ann breaks down why proactivity is one of the most underrated career skills, especially for ambitious individuals navigating their 20s.

Many young professionals feel constantly busy — applying to jobs, preparing for interviews, responding to emails — yet still feel stuck, exhausted, and powerless. Hazel Ann explains why this isn’t a motivation problem or a lack of effort, but a lack of agency. Careers don’t stall because you’re not working hard enough — they stall because you’re stuck in reaction mode.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 24 introduces a practical, grounded framework to help listeners shift from reacting to choosing. Hazel Ann walks through three key mindset shifts — from silence to clarity, outcomes to inputs, and future-focused anxiety to present-moment ownership — and shows how proactivity is about deciding before chaos hits, not doing more.

This episode will help you regain confidence, take ownership of your career path, and start building momentum intentionally — without burnout, perfectionism, or hustle culture pressure.

TAKEAWAYS

• Careers stall due to a lack of agency, not effort

• Proactive careers reward intentionality over talent

• Assertiveness is clarity — not confrontation

• You can’t control outcomes, but you can control inputs

• Your career is built by both what you do and who you become

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• Crant, J. M. (2000). Proactive behavior in organizations

• The University of Edinburgh (2025). Being Proactive 

• how to slow down time (the neuroscience of time perception) by Yana Yuhai 

• Huzzah Recruit (2026). Getting Noticed at Work Starts by Developing Your Proactivity Muscle

• Tracy, B. (2023). The Power of Being Proactive: 5 Ways to Develop This Surprising Skill

• Your mindset reset - Dr Shade Zahrai

LET'S CONNECT

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• biggest takeaway

• ONE thing you’re committing to this week

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Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her Way

If your mood rises and falls with emails, interviews, or job titles — this episode is for you.

Detachment isn’t about caring less.

It’s about learning how to regulate your nervous system, stop overthinking, and make clearer career decisions without burning out.

SUMMARY

In this episode of Her Career, Her Way, Hazel Ann explores why so many ambitious people in their 20s feel emotionally attached to their careers — and how that attachment often fuels anxiety, overthinking, and burnout.

Using neuroscience, psychology, and real career examples, Hazel breaks down detachment as a skill, not a mindset. You’ll learn how over-identifying with your job keeps your nervous system in survival mode, why chasing clarity actually blocks it, and how letting go of false control creates calm, confidence, and adaptability.

Hazel Ann  introduces a 4-step detachment framework designed to help you interrupt anxious thought patterns, stop chasing validation, clear mental loops, and redirect your energy toward long-term growth — without losing ambition.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating career uncertainty, job pressure, and identity shifts in their 20s, this episode will help you feel steadier, clearer, and harder to break in an unpredictable job market.

THIS EPISODE WILL HELP YOU:

• Stop tying your self-worth to career outcomes

• Calm career anxiety and overthinking

• Make clearer decisions without emotional spirals

• Detach from outcomes without losing motivation

• Build adaptability in a changing job market

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• A Step By Step Guide to Removing Your Self Doubt with Dr Shadé Zahrai

• The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael Alan Singer

LET'S CONNECT

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DM me on Instagram/TikTok with: 

• your biggest takeaway, or

• the one thing you’re committing to this week

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Host - Hazel Ann

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Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her Way

Personal branding isn’t about reinventing yourself.

It’s about understanding who you already are — and learning how to communicate that clearly.

SUMMARY

In this episode of Her Career, Her Way, Hazel Ann breaks down what personal branding actually means for ambitious individuals navigating the uncertainty of their 20s.

Using a clear, grounded framework, this conversation explores how self-awareness, values, consistency, and communication shape the way others experience and trust you — long before you speak in an interview or apply for a role.

This episode reframes personal branding as an internal clarity practice, not a performance. Hazel walks listeners through how to identify their core values, bridge their inner identity with their external presence, and communicate intentionally — without forcing confidence or faking certainty.

Built for those feeling stuck, overlooked, or unsure how to position themselves, this episode offers reassurance, structure, and a practical path forward.

TAKEAWAYS

• Personal branding is about establishing who you are — not performing

• Clarity makes decisions easier and careers more sustainable

• First impressions matter, but they’re built long before the moment

• Your personal brand should evolve as you do

• Communication is a skill — not a personality trait

• Uncertainty isn’t a flaw; it’s often proof of growth

• Relationships and trust compound over time

LET'S CONNECT

✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!

DM me on Instagram with your biggest takeaway or the ONE thing you’re committing to this week — let’s build accountability together.

Host - Hazel Ann

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Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her Way

Guest: Urmi Hossain

Your identity isn’t something you “figure out” once — it’s something you intentionally design. And the more clarity you have on who you are, the more aligned your career becomes.

SUMMARY

In this episode, we dive into how identity shapes your career — and how your career, in turn, reshapes your identity.

Hazel Ann sits down with Urmi Hossain, a corporate finance professional, CFA + CAIA charterholder, author, content creator, and women’s empowerment advocate. Urmi shares how she’s built a multidimensional career across corporate finance, leadership, and personal branding — all while staying grounded in intention, adaptability, and self-expression.

From navigating cultural expectations as a Third Culture Kid to designing a career using visualization, subconscious work, and her “3 P’s” framework, this conversation is a must-listen for anyone in their 20s questioning who they are, where they’re going, and how to build a career that actually feels like them.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 21 explores identity, ambition, and what it really means to design a career with intention — not pressure.

TAKEAWAYS

• Identity isn’t fixed — it evolves as you invest in yourself

• You don’t need to choose between being “corporate” and “creative”

• Personal branding starts with clarity, not confidence

• Adaptability is a career skill, not a weakness

• How cultural identity and upbringing can shape ambition

• Why feeling “lost” in your 20s is more common than you think

• The 3 P’s: Passion, Purpose & Power as an identity-building toolkit

• How visualization, journaling, and subconscious work turn intention into action

LET'S CONNECT

✨ Did this episode hit differently? I want to hear from you!

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Host - Hazel Ann

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Guest - Urmi Hossain

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/urmihossain/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@urmihossain

My Book: Discovering Your Identity: A Rebirth From Interracial Struggle – Available on Amazon

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/urmamio/ ( personal)

Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/storiesbeyondborderspodcast/ 

Women in Leadership: https://www.womeninleadership.ca/montreal

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Host: Hazel Ann | Her Career, Her Way

Feeling lost, behind, or unsure if you’re on the “right” path?

This episode is your reminder that uncertainty isn’t a weakness — it’s proof you’re growing.

SUMMARY

In this episode, we dive into why uncertainty feels so uncomfortable in your 20s — and why it might actually be your biggest advantage.

The host, Hazel Ann, explores the psychology behind feeling “not enough,” the pressure to have everything figured out, and why chasing clarity, titles, or external validation often leaves us feeling emptier, not more fulfilled. She breaks down the difference between inner growth and outer growth, explains why progress is never linear, and reframes rejection and setbacks as data points for self-discovery.

Built for ambitious individuals navigating the chaos of their 20s, EP 21 offers a mindset shift around ambition, confidence, and success — helping you stop waiting for certainty and start building trust in yourself, right where you are.

This episode will help you reframe uncertainty as momentum, redefine success on your own terms, and move forward with intention instead of fear.

TAKEAWAYS

• Uncertainty can be leveraged as an advantage, not a flaw

• The gap between where you are and where you want to be is part of growth

• Progress isn’t linear — every step forward or backward is information

• Rejection is often redirection toward better alignment

• Ambition is a sign of hope and possibility, not pressure

• Every setback provides data for smarter decisions

• Inner growth (learning, identity, self-trust) matters more than outer milestones

• Patience is essential when building confidence and clarity

• Learning is one of the most powerful tools for self-discovery

• You don’t need everything figured out to be on the right path

CHAPTERS

00:00 Navigating Uncertainty in Your 20s

01:28 The Gap Between Aspirations and Reality

06:17 Understanding the Psychology of Uncertainty

15:13 Inner Growth vs. Outer Growth

21:50 Actionable Steps to Leverage Uncertainty

27:04 Finding “Enough” in the Midst of Uncertainty

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