In this podcast we put a pause on Conversations with Sierra to address the videos I posted this week! I'll get into the 4 skills of emotion regulation to prevent crashouts (self-compassion, BEND, hate lists, and forecasting your emotional weather) rumination, emotional eating, gratitude, and BRIEFLY financial generosity and emotional negligence. It is not a very organized episode, just a lot of me yapping!! But I hope you find some value and I plan to make these more put together in the future :)

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This is part 1 of Conversations with Sierra. Sierra is a vibrant, intelligent, goofy 25 year old who happens to be estranged from her mother. This is not necessarily uncommon in this day and age but the part of it that is...is that her mother posts about this estrangement online. Hear the story of how Sierra grew up, what led to the estrangement, and how she's found peace today. If you are struggling with your estrangement, she hopes to be an example of how it doesn't have to define you, no matter how extreme it is and becomes.

Sierra is on TikTok @orthsierra8

Find this episode on YouTube, Podbean, and Spotify. If you have any questions for Sierra or want to know more, leave a comment and we'll be sure to cover it in Part 2!

Kate and Kelly discuss. 

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Kate and Kelly discuss one of Kelly's biggest pet peeves- fitness influencers. Kelly starts off by mentioning a particular fitness influencer on TikTok, and explains how their message can be harmful to teenagers specifically. Kate has a different perspective and comes to the influencer's defense, having a social media following herself.  See what conclusions they come to and where responsibility lies in the spirit of "restoring relationships." 

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Kelly, 27 yo queer LPC, and Kate, 30 yo straight MFT masters student (both married to men), have an open dialogue about sexuality and gender. Watch them model how to directly discuss these things with friends with a tone of sensitivity, curiosity, and compassion.

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You met Chandler in episode 4a, and we circle back to get specifics on how he had the conversation about his pornography addiction with loved ones. Learn how he found recovery after starting porn usage at 14, getting help at 18, to now being 25, married, and a successful app creator.

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Our last episode in the series on Porn Addiction- see episode (4) for quick intro and context.

Kate met Blake through their MFT program in Nashville, TN. Blake has graduated and started his own counseling practice, where he primarily sees men. Kate called upon Blake to add another layer to the conversation around porn addiction, and he offers unique insight into the struggle.

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Continuing the series on Porn Addiction- see episode (4) for quick intro and context.

James is a regular guest on the show- you might remember him from episode 1, where he and Kate discussed differing theories on emotions. Kate wanted to involve him in the conversation about porn addiction, since it is part of what led him to therapy at 22. They discuss male friendship, emotional intimacy, and how systemic forces prevent the two. 

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See previous episode (4) for quick intro and context- 

Chandler struggled with porn addiction started at 14 years old. He got help at 18 and is now 25, married, and created an app called Relay to help others heal. We love a passionate GenZ going for it! Listen in as Kate first explores the ethics of altruistic sponsorship and influencing, leading to Chandler sharing his personal story and what started it all.

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90% of men use porn, regardless of their faith background. As an introduction to this series on the topic, Kate draws a parallel with eating disorders within women, and invites listeners to have compassion for the 3 guests featured on the next couple episodes. The last episode (4d) gives insight on how to have these difficult conversations. 

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(PART 2/2) Kate is going to a training on "sexual brokenness" and is trying to get Kelly, her great friend/episode 2 guest/queer mental health professional to go with her... If you're seeing this before 8 am CT on Thursday, Oct 6- go to @RRthepodcast on Instagram to VOTE and let us know what you think!

***TRIGGER WARNINGs- religious trauma and discussions around sexuality, porn addiction, shame& Christianity, white men in the church, and Tim Keller.

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Get a glimpse at what's to come this season...

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Kate sits down with fellow TikToker Sister Kathryn, a Muslim author and mom of 5. They initially did not have a very pleasant interaction, but wanted to turn it into a learning experience for others. Watch the TikTok that started it all, and then listen in as they discuss what therapists need to know about their Muslim clients. 

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(PART 1/2) You asked and we delivered... KELLY IS BACK and better than ever. We stumble through how we became friends, Kelly's background, and the difference between LPCs and MFTs. I added an extra little bit to show y'all how we resolve conflict and what ACTUALLY goes on behind the scenes. Stay tuned for Part 2 next Sunday where we discuss a very interesting training I'm going to...

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I'm baaaaack!!! Season 1.0 starts with Kate talking with James, MMFT and TikTok sibling, who initially challenged her on her view of emotions. Watch as they discuss different theories and why they believe what they do.

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part 3/3 of the Class with Kate series on "being"

With all the tragedy and loss happening in the world, learning to just "be" kind of doesn't make sense. It doesn't seem useful or helpful.. like, what's the point? Well, I argue that life is about more than productivity and "doing." And "being" does NOT mean escaping to the mountaintop like a monk. Find out what it can mean for you and make sure to listen and give feedback on this episode's insta post.

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Do you identify with the term "empath" but are not sure what to make of it? If not "empath," what about highly sensitive person (HSP), codependent, or anxious attachment? If you've REALLY scoured the internet, you might've come up with the term "enmeshed." If any of these apply to you, you might struggle with boundaries and standing up for yourself. But the good news is, this is NOT YOUR FAULT. Listen in as we delve into the practical origins of empaths, and how to evolve if it's not working for you. 

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Do you not know how to just "be"? Does it feel either overwhelming or empty when you sit down and take a second to relax? If so, you are NOT alone- it is so common for high-functional people to go to therapy after feeling this way. But DON'T WORRY, this is fixable! Let's get you your "sauce" back.

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Welcome to all the new listeners!

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Kate (MFT student) and Kelly (LPC-temp) discuss the issue of diagnosing yourself from online mental health therapists. Kate, being an online content creator, gives these mental health professionals the benefit of the doubt. But Kelly is not so sure. Will they find middle ground?

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Kate meets with therapist, author, speaker, and fellow TikTok creator KC Davis. They met about 6 months ago, when Kate challenged one of KC's TikTok videos on anger and boundaries. KC responded, but a resolution between the two was not found. In part 1, Kate gets to know the person behind the creator, and part 2, airing on KC's platform "Struggle Care" November 6th, will answer the question- can they come to an understanding? 

Watch part 2 Monday, Nov 6 on KC's platform-  Struggle Care

Connect with KC-

- Get KC's book- How to Keep House While Drowning,

- watch her TedxTalk- How to do laundry when you're depressed

- find her on TikTok and Instagram

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Kate interviews Meg, who is the therapist behind the popular Instagram account, @antiworktherapist. In her private practice, Meg treats mostly therapists that are just burnt TF out on the "work" side of therapy. Listen in as Kate finds out what really happens in these sessions and how Meg navigates both her clients and her own mental health in the search for work-life balance.

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Intellectualizing is what is holding you back in your relationships! It can show up as defensiveness or being "logical" when the situation calls for presence, attunement, compassion and curiosity. It can hold you back in your relationship with your KIDS especially! Learn everything you need to know to change this behavior so you can finally learn the felt sense of connection. 

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In this episode I talk about revelations I've had this week... specifically about the role of "enmeshment" in issues of estrangement. In summary, enmeshment is the heart of EVERYTHING relationship problems and I believe MOST people are enmeshed. I explain what it is, what it looks like, how I believe it came to be, and examples of it/what to do about it. It is not the end for you!!!

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In this episode I'll answer people's submitted questions!

1. How do I help my 15/17 year olds detach and have their own boundaries?

2. How do I help my 18 year old with anxiety?

3. My adult daughter is blaming me for her relationship problems, where do I go from here?

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On this episode I cover a topic I am MOST passionate about- internalizing. Don't listen to this episode unless you're ready for some hard truths.... all said with love of course. This information might be the missing link to your emotional health that you've been looking for... I hope so at least!

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This episode was such a big deal for me to have out on time. I have been blocked and blocked from a creative standpoint but after using BEND and (many) hate lists I got right back on track. It's a heavy subject today.... but finally addressing physical abuse in estrangement and asking the tough questions that come from that.

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So I may have posted a controversial take on "meanness" and how to address it in parenting... and it triggered a LOT of people. I think these same people that were triggered by it would really benefit from how my take applies to their marriage. Listen and let me know!

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Shawna Lander is the crazy talented actor behind her skit series on family dynamics. It features characters Shawna, her husband John, her MIL Barb, SIL Jen, and others… I was lucky enough to connect with her and talk with her about her work and mission, motherhood, and most specifically, her extremely triggering character Barb! Hope you all enjoy this as much as I did!

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Listening is the #1 skill that transforms relationships in my opinion. Here I'll elaborate on what your role is when it comes to listening (whether that's with your own parents, in your relationship, and with your kids) and more specifics on how to do it. If you're a parent or a married man, guard your ego because I'm coming for it!

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Yeah.... we had to talk about it. Unfortunately, Abby and I have opinions that only the minority of people share regarding the whole "Kendra fell in love with her psychiatrist" fiasco playing out on TikTok. Abby is a therapist specializing in childhood trauma, specifically childhood sexual abuse, and we get into why we believe Kendra.

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The million dollar question... plus some BIG NEWS on a personal front. But beware... it's not all fun and games, I talk about the controversial video I posted this week regarding Israel/Palestine and its structural similarities to the parent-child dynamic. 

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THE MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION... what is the gray area when your partner is exhibiting harmful behavior AND is resistant to change. Hopefully this perspective helps the journey... because it truly is one.

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The MOST misunderstood topic IN THE WORLD in my opinion.... emotions. In this episode I'll tell you how to understand them and how to process them.

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We hear sooooo much about emotion regulation but nobody talks about how to do it in a practical and actually USEFUL way. Introducing... my BEND method. BEND is an acronym that stands for behavior, emotions, needs, and desires. 

This is the first episode of a series on BEND, so let me know your questions so I can answer them in the coming episodes! Click to sign up for more info- https://forms.gle/kaqH2qk9sgcrFRMM9

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Sooo you know that feeling your feelings it the key to changing your behavior, but you don't know where to start. It feels like going into the abyss. I have the solution for you... A HATE LIST. Yes, I said it, a HATE list. In this episode I talk about what it is, why it works, and how you can implement it into your life. 

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So I made a video that said "stop telling your kids how their behavior makes you feel" and it got a lottttttt of pushback. Let's discuss what emotions are and how to handle them in the relationship contexts of parenting, marriage, and with your own parents/estrangement situations.

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One thing from this week's videos stood out to me... what is your emotional state BEFORE you get on social media? Do you even know? And the biggest question.. are you aware of HOW that affects the meaning you make from what you see?

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We all know the "nice guy" trope is NOT GOOD. But why and how does being "nice" translate to imploding relationships? And also, how do you handle it if your partner is a "nice guy"... listen and find out.

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Emotional neglect is the number one FIXABLE issue affecting families, children, and marriages today. And it is also the cause of estrangement IMO. Defining the problem in this way makes the solution apparent. Listen while I discuss some examples of how NOT to do this in your family to restore your relationships from the inside out.

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Ok ok thank you everyone for bearing with me through the evolution of my podcast and now SHOW- Class with Kate! In this first episode I talk with Mary, a married mom of one who just completed a cross-country move... back to her and her husband's hometown. And YES her in-laws live 5 minutes from her.

Here she seeks to answer the question, "ok so my MIL is very toxic.. how do I respect my husband's love for her while protecting my peace?" We go through some of their issues and reach some form of hope... Listen and comment here!

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So a mom made a video that has since gone viral about her toddler "being mean" to her... and here's what I have to say about it.

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In this episode I discuss the details of self-regulating and co-regulating.. and the differences with your kids, your spouse, and yes... your parents. Let's talk about how you can heal your trauma responses (and the stuckness you feel in your childhood role!) to make this Thanksgiving one that will definitely be... a new experience :) Tell me how it goes!

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If you're still super activated post Thanksgiving with the fam... I got you. Here I cover a range of topics to help you through this- attachment, 'name it to tame it,' codependency, BEND, grief.. and so much more!

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SHOCKER... I know. But it's developmentally TRUE, and even appropriate sometimes! And sometimes you need to be told. I hope this episode, like all of my other estrangement-related content, empowers you to stand up for yourself and what you need. You might just need some specifics to get there. I'll be talking about this more and more in the coming weeks, especially leading up to my new class in January, "Overcoming your Inner Estranged Parent"!!

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If you're struggling to understand repair in your relationships, this episode is for you. It contains all of the 101s of what you need to do this well. You're not alone if you haven't known how to do this before... no one taught you.

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The Sherrone Moore situation, how to repair with adult kids, and managing sibling dynamics- this episode is JAM PACKED with info! This is the last episode of 2025 before I jump into 2026 with streaming, a call-in show, and more class offerings. It's been an amazing year and I'm so excited to see what the new year has in store for all of us! Stay studious people...

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In Kate's first call-in show, Kate helps Toni navigate being estranged from parents while they're still alive and wondering what happens when they die. Kate explores the weight of generational pain, the guilt of protecting yourself while everyone else stays stuck, and why the magic might already be happening in the relationships you've chosen to heal.

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Kate breaks down what actually happened with Mona and John—and why "emotional volatility" is the wrong way to frame it. She introduces her BEND method for understanding your own unwanted behaviors from the bottom up, then draws the line between what's yours to work on and what's his entitlement to own. If you've ever been told to "just leave," this one's for you. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com

Mona calls in about her husband's refusal to engage in therapy after a decade of navigating their daughter's severe medical needs. Kate gets real about tolerating behavior that makes you unsafe. Find more @CodependencyKate on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok www.codependencykate.com