Whale, another one bites the dust.

Not gonna lie, I digress a bit about a recent situation cus another bitch reared her ugly head and left my life.

But, the main point of this episode is because it got me thinking. Well shit, this keeps happening...between my family, and bitches disguised as friends, it's easy to think that we are surrounded by 'drama.' Is it ME??

I had some epiphanies and we chat all about it!

Spoiler alert..no, we do not start drama....

Song:

'Bless Your Heart'

~Megan Moroney

https://youtu.be/gJrCLjGIxXs?si=62Eg819epOh_MMN8

Hey girl heyyyy....guess what, just when I think I'm all good and I don't have any other issues lurking around in the shadows..BOOM...issues show up like, bitch, yes you do.

On this episode of the podcast we discuss things like:

~spending to the edge

~making rules for ourselves

~buying something new, but not using it right away

~having a plan b or escape plan

~grocery shopping as if a hurricane was coming

~Jumping back into a relationship after a fallout as if nothing happened

~constant self-criticism and critique

~assuming the worst of people

Oh you don't have any issues? Well then, consider this episode a confidence booster for ya.

Song:

"You Will Be Found"~ Natalie Grant & Corey Asbury

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjipTBGNTYE

You are not alone and you are certainly not the villain for walking away from you toxic family.

Keep walking friend.

Oh, the tales that our toxic family tell. They can swirl around and behind us like an impending storm. And we thought walking away would stop this!!! (aren't we adorable)

Also-let's be real...the tales are NEVER good.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we dive into how we can navigate this inevitable fallout on this no contact journey.

We discuss:

*Bracing for impact

*Our response

*Remembering the source

*Cultivating our peace

Also-who does this?!?!?!?! Oh yea..ourr families. As if we needed yet another reason to keep walking.

Let's get our heads in the game, remember our worth and keep walking.

Song: Chasing Rainbows: High Kings

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46jAXMq7esQ

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we talk about the good ol' apology.

Wait, you mean the kind I have to give?

No.

Ew.

Knock it off.

I am NOT here for that.

Omg, you feel that way about apologies too??

YES! WE CAN DO THIS!!!!

We grew up in a toxic family where an apology was:

~forced

~coerced

~weaponized

When in reality in a healthy and safe relationship an apology is:

~sincere

~genuine

~leads to both parties to being vulnerable

We talk about why we feel that ick associated with giving an apology and how we can get past it.

We got this...

On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast..

The bitch is BACK!

Oh, is it great to be behind the mic again!

On this episode, we talk about the multiverse.

NO, no...not in the Sci-Fi kinda way, but in the way it pertains to us on this no contact with toxic family.

The wonderings of:

*What would my life look like had I not had the childhood that I did.

*What would my life look like if my toxic family member could just be nice and loving (GASP!)

*What if our toxic family member could be present at milestone moments instead of being the absent ass holes that they actually are.

But all that matters is TODAY friend.

Join me in the multiverse, won't you?

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Song:

https://www.bing.com/search?pglt=41&q=lord+i+thank+you+for+sunshine&cvid=2c1f87a9ddd142cb8b7b66ddc7993d02&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqBggAEAAYQDIGCAAQABhAMgYIARBFGDkyBggCEAAYQDIGCAMQABhAMgYIBBAAGEAyBggFEAAYQDIGCAYQABhAMgYIBxAAGEAyBggIEAAYQNIBCDQwNzdqMGoxqAIEsAIB&FORM=ANNTA1&PC=DCTS

Show:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j6ucGt_Xp14

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about the haunting of our toxic family members that we have gone no contact with.

Ok, ok..I'm not talking about Ghostbusters shit. I'm talking about when we see, smell or hear something that reminds us of our toxic family.

Let's face it, we went no contact, but they are still a part of our past and our memories.

So...what should we do when they haunt. We will talk all about it.

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I have the honor of chatting with this beautiful light in the world, Founder & CEO of Beautiful Disaster Clothing, Christina DuVarney.

Christina DuVarney is the visionary force behind Beautiful Disaster Clothing, a brand that transcends mere fashion to become a symbol of resilience and empowerment. Drawing from her own journey of overcoming personal trials and traumas, Christina has transformed her experiences into the very essence of her brand. Beautiful Disaster Clothing is not just about stylish apparel; it's about wearing strength and confidence as a statement of empowerment.
As the founder and owner, Christina's mission goes beyond designing clothes; it's about encouraging women to move away from pain and towards happiness, to embrace their inner strength, and to find solace in the journey of self-discovery. With each garment she creates, Christina imbues a message of resilience, reminding women that they are capable of rising above any adversity they may face.
In Christina's vision, Beautiful Disaster Clothing isn't just something you wear; it's a wearable reminder of the strength that lies within every woman. It's about having a piece of confidence hanging in your closet, ready to be worn whenever you need a reminder of your own power and resilience. Through her brand, Christina continues to inspire women to embrace their flaws, celebrate their uniqueness, and move confidently towards a brighter, happier future.

ENJOY!!!

Shop the Beautiful Disaster clothing line here:

http://bdrocks.com/

Christina's Resources:

*Think & Grow Rich Book: https://a.co/d/07sfls4

*Think & Grow Rich Workbook:  https://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Workbook-Transforming/dp/158542711X

*Three Feet From Gold:

https://a.co/d/b2ljkuC

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we talk about the shrinking circle.

Ya know, when you have the bittersweet superpower of seeing:

~manipulation

~passive aggressive behavior

~gas lighting

~crazy making

And....you want to run but you can't because:

~you would be a bitch

~you've been friends with that person forever

~you would be like your toxic family

NO!

On this episode I am on a mission to change the societal perception that having ALLL the friends in the world defines you as a 'good person' and not allowing toxic friends to have access to you makes you a bitch.

I like to consider myself an exclusive club and no, I do not allow a lot of people in. But I am tired of making apologies for my boundaries and standards and keeping toxic people in my life because it's the right and nice thing to do.

We have let go of our toxic families and we are growing and evolving. Not everyone will be able to keep up and...that's OK!

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about that good ol' phrase I ask myself over and over...

Am I the problem?

Sigh....

That phrase used to haunt me.

Yes, it USED to haunt me.

Not that I feel I have achieved perfection (hell nah.)

I have just refused to comply to the balls of toxicity thrown at me anymore.

Things like...

'Oh, your family doesn't talk to you? YOU must be the problem.'

or

'Oh, your entire family has a problem with you? You must be the common denominator.'

We talk about how to NOT allow these things to bother us anymore cus let's be honest, we are critical enough on ourselves for the entire population, am I right?

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I chat with Cody who is not only intelligent and insightful, but also a really cool, down to earth dude.

He brings a fascinating perspective to how trauma impacts our mind and our body and how we can get to a place of becoming a 'human doing' and not just a 'human being.'

Cody is a seasoned entrepreneur at the forefront of AI and Mental Health. Armed with a degree in Cognitive Behavioral Neuroscience and trained in IFS Psychotherapy, he is the Founder & CEO of Mind, Brain, Body Lab. This groundbreaking Mental Health AI company specializes in treating Complex PTSD using AI/ML algorithms to analyze biometric and behavioral data.

Committed to bridging the gap between AI and human experience, Cody also heads MyCompanion, a Public Benefit Corporation providing a free, 24/7 conversational AI companion for healing Complex PTSD.

Cody disseminates daily Neuroscience and Psychology tools to improve mental and emotional health post-trauma. His mission is to help one billion people to find happiness and purpose in their lives.

Follow on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/mindbrainbodylab/

Check out the Mind, Brain, Body Lab website here:

https://www.mindbrainbodylab.com/

In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about SOME of the fucked-up things that we normalized while we were still in the trenches with our toxic family. Cus let's be honest, I could commit HOURS if we discussed all of the every single thing that we normalized, am I right?

But....those days are over, so now what?

We are also going to talk about what we need to start normalizing now that we are no contact. And sometimes, that leaves us holding our ground (but also doubting ourselves) losing toxic people (but also blaming ourselves) feeling guilty for speaking our needs and truth (cus ya know, I would be a not nice girl if I did that)

AHHHHHH!! I am VERY passionate about this topic you guys.

Know your worth and don't take any shit, we talk about it on this episode.

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

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Join me as I chat with Danu Morrigan. She is the daughter of a narcissistic mother and the author of five books on the topic of daughters and narcissistic mothers.

*'You're not crazy-it's Your Mother'

*'Dear Daughter of a Narcissistic Mother'

*'Notes From Your Inner Mother'

*'How to go No Contact'

*'Become a Boundaries Badass'

She is also the founder of the wildly successful website:

https://www.daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/

It is a wonderful hub of information no matter where you are on your journey. Be sure to check it out to learn more about Danu, order her books and even take a quiz to see if your mother is narcissistic.

She strives to give understanding, information, and validation to other daughters of narcissistic mothers.

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

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Welcome to Season 3!!!!!

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we chat about celebrating our birthday while we are no contact with our toxic family.

Some years I am happy and some years I am fromp...

This year, I am fromp.

But, we are jumping right in and discussing all of the emotions that are associated with this no contact with toxic family journey.

You are not alone friend.

Song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PyfYvLeG0tc

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast, I dive into the muddy waters of...boundaries.

Does that body of boundary water feel like the Dead Sea to you? Yea, same.

How about as you are in the process of even THINKING about making a boundary you hear your narcissistic mother whisper: 'You are making this boundary because you are a spiteful bitch.'

UGHHHH!!! NO!

Do you struggle with setting boundaries?

I got you.

This week I had some epiphanies about boundaries that I am so excited to talk about.

Email me:

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Check out the website for useful info, the blog and how to reach me to schedule a chat.

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I am honored to host Mei Ling.

Mei Ling helps women who identify as the black sheep of their families move from feeling inadequate to becoming powerful cycle breakers by helping them reconnect with their unique soul’s agenda and divine support system, so that they can shine their light into the world, knowing they are deeply loved and valued for who they are.

As a mixed-race woman who inherited intuitive and psychic abilities through her Chinese lineage, Mei Ling is a bridge between the East and West, and between the earthly and spiritual realms. Growing up, she constantly felt like the outsider, never quite fitting in anywhere. As a child of divorce, the feeling was only exacerbated when she became the inconvenient addition to her parents’ new families. The spiritual journey that eventually led Mei Ling to become a professional intuitive started with one question - “Why me?”

Mei Ling shares her own personal stories of growing up as the black sheep and scapegoat and weaves in vulnerable, potent, and often funny insights from these experiences with the hopes that those listening feel less alone on their journeys. 

How to find Mei Ling;

Website:

https://meiling-intuitive.com/

To book your Soul Story Session:

https://meiling-intuitive.com/offerings/soul-story-session/

To connect on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/meiling.intuitive?igsh=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

Womp Womp...

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we talk about the fuckery of your toxic family choosing your ex over you.

But wait, did you normalize it like I did?

We also talk about how it's ok to look at the people in our life with fresh eyes and become ok with knowing our worth and making sure the people in our life are matching our energy.

You are worth it.

Their behavior may have been shitty and acceptable yesterday, but it doesn't have to be acceptable today.

You are not the same.

You are growing, evolving and don't get a medal for tolerating toxic treatment from anyone.

Email me at: characteroutspodcast@gmail.com

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If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast meet my chosen sister....Raya.

Who says you can't find family on social media??

Raya is a survivor, advocate, mama, sister and no contact with her mother. Raya is truly one of the most inspirational people I have met on this journey.

Her strength, beauty, intelligence and desire to help YOU hold your strength and power.

You will be inspired by her authenticity, her sweet countenance and the fire in her soul that is absolutely contagious.

Raya, I am honored to know you and blessed to be walking this journey alongside of you.

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*Raya's Resources:

RAIINE: They advocate and have many resources to help you get into contact with the right places in your area for sexual violence, abuse, and incest.

https://www.rainn.org/

National Domestic Hotline: They also help with resources. How to make a plan for safety, exit plans, and much more. I advise anyone to look into all of the local agencies you can. There are many out there, sometimes it just takes going through some hoops. 

https://www.thehotline.org/

Song: Dollhouse:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcVv9R1ZR84

Raya's Socials:

Tik Tok:

https://www.tiktok.com/@thefcknicequeen

Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/thefcknicequeen/

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

Keep walking friend.

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we discuss the concept of acceptance.

Accepting the fact that we won't ever have the family we wanted and certainly don't plan on welcoming back the toxic family we were given.

Where does that leave us? Do we stay in a place of sadness, bitterness...I hope not!

This episode takes a morbid turn as we discuss the worst-case scenario and about how we think we will feel when the family member we have been estranged from dies.

*Resources:

The story: "Acceptance and Happiness"

https://medium.com/@chinmaysy/the-alchemy-of-acceptance-4c279b3b1300

Information on reactive abuse:

https://nationallegalservice.co.uk/what-is-reactive-abuse/

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You got this friend, keep walking.

On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast we talk about all of the emotions that go with celebrating birthdays and holidays while being no contact with toxic family.

The feels:

*disappointment

*rejection

*relief

*shock

I just celebrated my birthday and another holiday with radio silence from my toxic family. I should be happy that they are respecting my boundaries, right? Yay to more peace and freedom!!!

Ok, so why was I a little shocked and sad that I literally just don't exist in their eyes anymore. Meep.

Welcome to the ups and downs of no contact, right? We will get through this friend; we are not alone and refuse to look back and break this peace we got going!

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On this episode of The Character Outs Podcast I read Tya's story.

Tya is happily married and a stay-at-home mom of three.

She was also a daughter who gave and gave to a mother whom she thought was her best friend.

Join me as I read her story of awakening to the emotional abuse and manipulation of her narcissistic mother. The initial fear of going no contact and the lessons she has learned along the way.

Thank you, Tya, for sharing your story, it healed my heart. Wishing you love on your no contact journey friend. Never forget your worth and never forget that you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we ring in season 2 in the new studio!

I talk about what is new around here at the Character Outs Podcast. I also discuss, my vision for season 2 and this community.

We also talk about the concept of pivoting, evolving, changing and growing and how if you were raised by a toxic family, especially a narcissistic mother, how this concept can feel odd.

It is SO great to be back!!!!

Be sure to hit follow on Spotify to stay connected!

Come on over to the snark and fun over on Instagram as we navigate these no contact waters together!

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Would you like to be a guest on the podcast? Email me, looking forward to connecting!

characteroutspodcast@gmail.com

Incase no one has told you: it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I take a trip home.

Do you live close to the toxic family you are no contact with?

Well, I am not, and I must say....It is difficult to go back home! Well, I didn't go home...this is NOT that kind of podcast, haha.

But I did go to my hometown and man did it bring up some emotions that I did not expect.

Join me as I share some issues and emotions that came to the surface and how I walked through them.

In case no one has told you lately: it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.

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Join me as I read Kim's story.

Kim is a survivor of a toxic family, including the emotional abuse of her narcissistic mother.

Abandonment, triangulation with her younger brother at the hands of her narcissistic mother, the loss of her father, the lifetime effort to try and make it work, along with periods of no contact. All leading to the moment she realized her worth and said no more.

The moment of no contact is where her healing journey and search to make up for lost time began.

Kim is single, child free and works a corporate job. In her spare time, she writes fiction books that are either historical or contemporary lead by a strong female character, most of which have a family of choice (don't you love that-normalizing this no contact journey through fiction literature-amazing.) The overriding theme of her books features people being raised in less-than-ideal situations and triumphing later in life (sounds a lot like you dear friend.)

Kim's writing is like therapy, and she wouldn't be who she is without it. She also has a love for old cars and vintage aircraft. When she is not writing she enjoys photography and attending air and car shows.

Kim, thank you for trusting me with your story. Keep on walking friend.

You can find Kim's books here:

https://www.amazon.com/stores/K-A-Salter/author/B08W9GNPR9?ref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.

Yup.

That's right, my father was just diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.

Did anyone in the clown circle call me to let me know?

nope.

Am I going to break no contact?

nope.

What am I going to do? Talk about the fuckery with all of you.

Song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D5drYkLiLI8

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about trauma responses...ya know, we are all familiar with the four types of trauma responses right? Flight, fight, freeze or fawn.

Ok, ok..so I have said it before, and I will say it again...I am a proud survivor of narcissistic abuse from my mother and the rest of my family is out of control toxic. I am not a therapist, nor do I have a degree in mental health. Unless elementary education counts, haha.

But, recently I had a stressful and well, traumatic situation happen and my trauma response of fight was activated. Well, when the situation was over, I realized something that I don't hear many people talk about. The crash after the trauma response has been activated.

These are the four stages I just recently walked through:

*trauma response activated

*crash

*recovery

*badassery initiated

Join me as we talk about embracing each stage, giving yourself grace and helping to normalize these emotions that continue to follow us on this no contact journey. You are not alone friend.

*Resources:

https://www.health.com/fight-flight-freeze-fawn-8348342

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you are not alone, and you don't have to fix it.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we talk about the chaos and confusion that our narcissistic mothers created.

And honestly, it wasn't until I went no contact that I really saw how chaotic and confusing it was.

We talk about the ways our narcissistic mothers created internal chaos and confusion as well as external confusion in just about every aspect and relationship in our lives.

I talk about how my mother used urban legends as facts and elaborate stories riddled in fear in order to keep me in line.

I also talk about triangulation and how that affected the relationship with my older brother. How the damage our mother did over the years was ultimately too much for either of us to get past and have a healthy relationship.

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In case no one has told you, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I chat with my friend Gina. She is a mother of two, and a women's health advocate and coach. She is also author of the blog: The Connected Parent-a blog dedicated to providing resources and tips for healing in mind, body and spirit while parenting.

Gina comes from a large Italian family so as you can imagine, choosing to go no contact with her narcissistic mother 13 years ago has had its fallout among the family.

Gina discusses how she navigates cutting off toxic family members and how to cope with then being cut off by family members who choose to side with the toxic, instead of the cycle breaker.

Gina also shares invaluable advice on parenting and raising children as we ourselves are healing our own wounds from childhood.

You will feel like you are chatting with your bestie and be reminded that this no contact journey is emotional, but so worth it.

Protecting our peace and the peace of our children is paramount.

Follow Gina on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/gina.m.newton/

Find her resources here:

https://msha.ke/healingwithgina

Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance: McDaniel, Kelly: 9781401960858: Amazon.com: Books

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

Has that thought ever crossed your mind?

Oh fuck, am I acting like my mom right now?

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I share my stories and struggles when that question swirls in my head.

Yea..total ick.

We talk about the fact that yea...we are going to have some traits of our narcissistic mother. BUT here is the thing, we are so hyper cognizant of not being anything like her that when we exhibit a trauma response, a trait that she had or even a normal human response to a situation we can be left with pondering...am I like her.

If no one has told you lately..

YOU ARE NOT YOUR ANYTHING LIKE YOUR MOTHER!

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Struggling on your no contact journey, need to vent or have a question?

Or:

Do you want to be a guest on the podcast?

Email me at:

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Incase no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I chat with Dave.

He is a survivor of narcissistic abuse from multiple fronts and is also the creator of the platform: healing after a narcissist on Instagram.

https://www.instagram.com/healing.after.a.narcissist/

Are you ready to feel empowered, validated and feel the glorious confirmation that you are absolutely on the right path having left your toxic family in the rearview mirror?

We talk about childhood trauma, owning our own shit, refusing to remain a victim, and our duty as parents to protect our children from the insidious influence of our toxic family.

Hang on to your hats and...grab a pen to take notes for this one. Dave offers resources and pearls of wisdom throughout our conversation.

Dave, thank you for the work you are doing and for making ME feel validated and a little less of a villain for going no contact with my toxic family. Keep up the great work, I am blessed to call you friend.

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about:

toxic independence

Toxic huh? what?

Yea...ya know...the kind of independence that we who come from a toxic family and raised by a narcissistic parent can tend to have.

Wait, Terri..are you calling ME toxic?

Well, to be fair, I am calling myself toxic too.

We break down the difference between independence and toxic independence. What fuels each and how we can grab hold of the toxic aspects to independence and how we can start to receive some blessings that we may miss if we remain bitter and unhealed.

And...nobody's got time for that. I don't know about you but that reminds me of my narcissistic mother who I want to be NOTHING like.

*song reference: 'Seize the Day'-Carolyn Arends

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mwWy-T8WWFo

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone...keep walking.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we discuss the conundrum of recognizing that life with our narcissistic mom or dad wasn't ALL bad! sigh...

We talk about how to handle the emotions of the occasional warm memory that pops into our minds.

On this no contact journey, we know that these warm memories of our family can pop into our heads when we least expect it. And guess what, it is totally normal.

We also know that when this happens, the next step for us is NOT to pick up the phone and reconcile just because we have a warm memory and may be missing them.

But what do we do?!

Join me as we talk through it.

Resources: 'It Didn't Start With You.' Mark Wolynn

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=it+didn%27t+start+with+you&crid=2ZESSP3YOLK5C&sprefix=it+didnt+start+%2Caps%2C7419&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-doa-p_1_15

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been, you don't have to fix it and you are not alone.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I chat with Laura Bytheway (yes, that is her real last name!)

This girl...she is a coach, mom of three and host of the podcast: The Post-Narc Life with Laura Bytheway. She offers some fresh and beautiful insight and validation. She gives a beautiful approach to healing and redeeming the trauma that the toxic family member in your life has inflicted.

We hash relationships and the crap in our purses due to being raised in a toxic family.

Laura lost her narcissistic mother to suicide almost three years ago and shares her story of redemption, healing and growth during that dark time in her life.

She also shares some unique ways to cope and heal that will blow your mind!

Laura is refreshing, raw and honest and wait til you hear what she wants to shout from the rooftops about breaking free from the narcissist in your life.

Thank you, Laura! Until we raise our ginger ale glasses in 2025! :)

*If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts or ideations, please do not be afraid or ashamed to get help. You are not alone and your presence here in this world is needed and wanted friend. Help is available 24/7: 988.

Want to connect with Laura? Follow her on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/laurabytheway/

Check out her podcast: The Post-Narc Life with Laura Bytheway:

https://open.spotify.com/show/2xkIlU8cJq7Iuab4qYxL2C?si=1a658d66311e4bba

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, it never has been, and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast we talk about SIX things that we are going to embrace in the new year!

1. we are no longer going to feel guilty that we walked away from our toxic family.

2. we are going to lean into every emotion associated with going, being and staying no contact with our toxic family.

3. we are going to talk to ourselves like we are our best friend! (we can be so mean to ourselves!)

4. we are not going to entertain conversations with anyone where we feel like we are in a defensive posture because of our choice to stay away from our toxic family.

5. we are going to lean into self-care because I don't care what our narcissistic mothers told us: it is NOT selfish!

6. we are going to embrace our true selves. what we like and what we don't like, apart from the influence of our toxic family.

*Credit to Lindsey Gurk for the leaf analogy:

https://www.instagram.com/lindseygurk/

In case no one has told you lately, it is not you, never has been and you are not alone.

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Happy New Year friends!

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I am pleased to bring to you all of YOUR responses from our Instagram poll:

What new holiday traditions have you embraced since going no contact with your toxic family?

You guys delivered!

The inspirational, encouraging and amazing responses blew me away and I am so excited to share them with you.

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

Hit follow on whatever platform you are listening to this podcast on, so you don't miss an episode.

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Merry Christmas friends..love all of you.

Join me as I chat with Marie Birtel. She is author of the book,

"I Love You When..."

This fictional narrative sheds light on the often

overlooked area of covert narcissism in families. Through the main character,

Emma, readers are given a glimpse into the

profound effects and insight into this subtle and insidious

force. The story emphasizes that healing from narcissistic

trauma is not only possible but crucial to breaking the cycle

of abuse in future relationships.

"I love you when..." is a story of hope, self-discovery, and

freedom.

To learn more about Marie, visit her website:

http://www.mariebirtel.com/

Order the book, "I Love You When..." :

https://amzn.eu/d/aNv0KRW

Connect with Marie:

https://www.instagram.com/i_am_maryc/

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I chat with Raven Scott. Spiritual mentor, author and host of the Empath and the Narcissist podcast. Raven shares her story of awakening and departure from her narcissistic ex-husband, her healing journey and some brilliant ways we can embrace this holiday season while being no contact with toxic family.

You will love getting to know Raven as she openly shares her past and current struggles with the narcissists in her life. She has a beautiful perspective on people and how we can set boundaries, all while knowing our worth and not allowing their toxicity to infiltrate our peace.

Find Raven's books, podcast and plethora of resources about healing and narcissism here:

https://ravenscott.show/home/podcast/season-6

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Have you joined the fun with the Character Outs community over on Instagram? What are you waiting for?

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Have a question? Need to vent? Want to share your story with me on the podcast? Email me at:

characteroutspodcast@gmail.com

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I have the privilege of sitting down with the sweetest of souls, Christie Hays.

Christie is a therapist, turned women's empowerment life coach who is on a mission to empower every woman who has come from a toxic family system remind her that she is not alone.

Christy was the victim of sexual abuse at a very young age. When Christy finally gained the courage to share her story, her narcissistic mother and enabling father, shamed her and implored her that she must stay silent for the sake of the family name.

Christie did not stay silent. In fact, she is now sharing her story of survival and hope.

She also offers insight and tips as to how we can navigate the holiday season being no contact with toxic family, and her raw and honest response if you are thinking about reaching out for the sake of Christmas.

Follow her on Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/toxic_mother_recovery/

If you would like to join her Facebook community for encouragement and laughs, click below:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toxicmotherrecovery

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In case no one has told you lately: it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I talk about:

when

they

call

Yea..when the narcissist who has discarded you decides to pop back into your life.

Oh the emotions.

Join me as I walk through how I handled a recent phone call from my covert narcissistic mother who discarded me almost 4 years ago and now.....I get a phone call.

Bitch please.

But also..ugh...

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In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I have a raw and honest conversation with my husband.

I feel like when we are raised in a toxic home, and especially, by a narcissistic mother, we have learned so many toxic ways that we look at life and deal with situations.

Good news is, we have control over these responses. And unlike our narcissistic mothers, the ability to reflect and grow. Who wants to stay stuck in the toxic that we came from, certainly not me.

Our marriage has had its ups and downs and while it does take two to tango, I certainly brought some deep programmed responses that were hindering my personal growth, as well as my relationship with my husband.

My husband will share some ways in which he has learned to navigate and deal with my trauma responses because let's face it....I was simply transposing my pain onto him.

All that to say, we are desperate to be nothing like our toxic families or our narcissistic mothers, and sometimes, it takes those that we love to help us rewire our brains and our hearts. And for me, teach me that not everyone who says they love you...leaves.

In case no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I talk about...

Thanksgiving

I revisit my first Thanksgiving after being kicked out of the house by my narcissistic mother.

I discuss how we can navigate the emotions of sadness during this holiday.

But most of all, this episode is brought to you by members of the Instagram community.

I wrote a post asking what YOU are most thankful for since having gone no contact with toxic family and I will read what everyone has shared.

It is so important to focus on the good that surrounds us, instead of grieving the holiday that we thought we should have.

Let's create a new tradition, let's stay focused on the path ahead.

Thank you for all of you who took the time to contribute to this episode, I am so thankful for this community and each and every one of you!

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

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On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I am honored to sit down with Dr. Sajad Vahedi.

Dr. Sajad is a coach who specializes in CBT & Schema Therapy. He helps his clients stop the toxic relationship cycle and build healthy intimate relationships. And the way in which he goes about the process is fascinating.

For us who come from a toxic family and were raised by a narcissistic mother, he offers insight to ways we can heal from the trauma we sustained as children and carry with us as adults How? By going right back to where it all began, our childhood.

On this episode you will find validation and comfort in the conversation that we share. And no...he is not going to tell you that you need to go fix things with your toxic family. In fact, he offers a fresh approach to the term reconciliation.

Enjoy this video episode (Spotify) and this conversation with this brilliant and passionate man whose whole purpose is to help others break free of their traumatic past and begin building a healthy life.

Be sure to follow Dr. Sajad on Instagram:

Dr. Sajad Vahedi (@_sajad.vahedi) • Instagram photos and videos

To learn more about Dr. Sajad, you can visit his website:

https://vahedisajad.wixsite.com/inlook/home

To schedule a call to speak with Dr. Sajad and discuss how he can help you, visit the link below. Be sure to mention PROMO CODE: 'TERRI2023' when booking to receive a free training document, as well as 15% off any coaching package.

https://calendly.com/dr-sajadvahedi/free-coaching-session-valued-at-300?month=2023-11

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Incase no one has told you: it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I talk about some of the personality traits that I have as a result of growing up in a toxic family and being raised by a narcissistic mother.

I rattle off a list of things that I have noticed about myself and discuss how my narcissistic mother exacerbated these traits. And as if I didn't feel abnormal enough because I came from a toxic family, I came to the realization that there are parts of my personality that do not look like the majority of the population. Ahhhh the gifts of the narcissistic mother just keep on giving.

I also discuss some of the trauma responses that we can still carry into adult hood that can make us shut down.

But our story does not end with a list of traits, trauma responses, our fucked-up childhood, or our incompetent mother.

On this episode, I hope to make you feel less alone, remind you that you are not crazy and encourage you to embrace the parts of your personality that may be a bit quirky and feisty and to reign in the toxic parts that are not serving you.

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On this episode, I read a letter written by Alice that details her journey of survival and hope. Alice is the scapegoat, oldest daughter of four.

She is a survivor of the evil, sadistic, and insidious emotional abuse of her narcissistic mother.

While her mother tried to destroy her and almost did, Alice prevailed.

As she says, 'Going no contact has allowed me the opportunity to prioritize my mental health for the first time."

Her bravery, strength and will to carry on is astounding. Alice hopes that her story will leave you feeling less alone and empowered.

Thank you, Alice, you are amazing.

Would you like to share your story?

Email me at characteroutspodcast@gmail.com

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

Soooooo.......

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, I speak from a place of vulnerability.

Imma lay it all out there friends...I am in a funk this week.

Recently, something triggered me on a deep level and opened some unhealed wounds that took me a minute to process.

This left me feeling extremely vulnerable and giving me all the feels of abandonment, unworthiness, you name it.. ya know..all that crap that we felt from our toxic families.

What I realized while in my funk is:

*Holy shit, I have given people grace and qualities they don't deserve and actually forget the shitty way they have treated me

*My healing and ability to power through my funk will never be a result of reaching back to my toxic family

*If you were raised in a toxic family, damn we learned to stuff shit, and we learned to stuff it well

Join me as I am just well, me. Navigating these no contact with toxic family waters just like you. Some days are great and other days...not so much. But what kind of host would I be if I told you everything was great all the time..it's not.

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If no one has told you lately, its not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs Podcast we are going to talk about six things we are NOT going to embrace this year.

1. Minimize, belittle or downgrade ourselves to make someone feel better.

2. Thinking that loving our family more would have made things different.

3. Saying yes to things we don't want to do.

4. Beating ourselves up for saying no to things we do not want to do.

5. Embracing where we are on this journey and the mood we are in.

6. Not giving people who fuck up and keep on trucking a second chance.

Song: Phil Collins, 'I Don't Care Anymore'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xLpfbcXTeo8

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I chat with Mac who I like to call-Batman. Mac is a Dad of 2, host of the podcast: Dimming the Gaslight and currently in the fight of his life to protect his children, defend his character and find others who have suffered emotional abuse at the hands of their narcissistic spouse. He gives insight to the emotional hijacking, parental alienation and false allegations of his NEX (narcissistic ex.) This amazing human is on a mission to set the narrative straight, find those who are in the trenches and help those who have endured abuse at the hands of their NEX. You will love his story and his heart. 🔥Follow him on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dimming_the_gaslight/ 🔥Support Mac and his mission and grab some merch here: https://dimmingthegaslight.myshopify.com/ 🔥Listen to Dimming the Gaslight here: https://open.spotify.com/show/3ZzjctwcNDr3nMKYh4PQA5?si=NAjVfPJ-RgSl2i9v8muIjg Join the Character Outs community on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/characteroutspodcast/ Struggling, have a question, want to share your story? Email me: characteroutspodcast@gmail.com If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we will talk about how to handle the people who cannot handle that we have gone no contact with your toxic family.

You know the type:

Oh, my goodness, you don't talk to your family? But:

*it's your mom?

*you need for forgive

*you will feel bad when they die

Yea...

This episode is about empowering YOU!

I share a few concrete things that you can do to build your strength as you are faced with people who just don't get it.

We are going to get you strong in your:

*WHY YOU WENT NO CONTACT

&

*KNOWING YOUR WORTH

That way, you will be strong and IF and only if you want to answer why you have gone no contact, then you will be ready. And if you don't, well, that is your business. And you owe no one an explanation.

We will talk about concrete ways in which you can build your why and your worth.

We also talk about a viewpoint that sometimes we as survivors align with that could potentially leave us with a victim mentality. It is just my opinion, the way I view life and what I've been through, perhaps you can resonate as well.

Come join the party on Instagram: Character Outs Podcast ~Terri | toxic family support (@characteroutspodcast) • Instagram photos and videos Struggling, have a question? Email me: characteroutspodcast@gmail.com

If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast I have Doug Buggle back for part 2!

Doug takes a deep dive into the abuse that he endured while married to his covert narcissistic ex-wife Tammy. We talk about the ways in which she insidiously invaded the relationships with his children. The controlling, humiliating and abusive ways in which she treated Doug. And, what happened to his relationships when Tammy was removed from the equation, particularly with Jim, Tammy's ex-husband.

We discuss where he is today, and how he got to a place of healing. We also discuss the moments in which he realized there was something very wrong with the woman he was married to and how he had the strength to get out.

He also goes into detail about what compelled him to write his book.

"Third Time Was Not a Charm: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse"

His book can be found here:

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/third-time-was-not-a-charm-teddy-bowers/1144075587

Here is the podcast Doug referred to that helped him understand the narcissism:

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/

Enjoy this powerful story and amazing human.

Surviving covert narcissistic abuse whether it be from a spouse, partner or parent is overwhelming. As victims of emotional abuse, we were silent for too long. Our power is in sharing our story, there isn't something wrong with us and it happened exactly as we remember.

*If you would like to share your story on the pod, email me at characteroutspodcast@gmail.com

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If no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone.

Ready for adulthood? Not if you had a narcissistic mom.

On this episode of the Character Outs podcast, we discuss ways in which our narcissistic mothers failed to prepare us for adulthood. From the lack of character-building conversations, to enabling us, and making us dependent upon her. To teaching us that the only relationship that was important in life was......our relationship with her.

This episode is for all of you who got to adulthood, went no contact with your toxic family, specifically your narcissistic mother and you looked around and went, wait, what?

Have questions?

Want to share your story with me on the pod?

Email me at characteroutspodcast@gmail.com

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And if no one has told you lately, it's not you, never has been and you are not alone friend.