3 Minute Assessment : https://linktr.ee/dramenkaurWhy can I help everyone else succeed but feel stuck in my own life? If you are a highly sensitive person, or you have been told your whole life that you are too sensitive, the answer is in how your brain is wired, not in your effort or your ability.
Highly sensitive people are not broken. They are more sensitive instruments. The same wiring that lets you read a room, feel what someone needs and solve their problem before they have finished speaking is the wiring that makes your own success feel exposed and painful to go after. That is why you can grow someone else's business, confidence or career and still freeze on your own.
In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur, trauma-informed coach, former scientist and host of Change Your Life, explains what the research says about sensitivity and what to do about feeling stuck.
What you will learn:
Why being sensitive is measurable and real. A 2003 brain imaging study at Wake Forest University (Coghill) gave people the same heat stimulus and found the people who reported more pain showed more activity in the pain-processing regions of the brain. Same input, different experience, visible on the scan. A 2014 fMRI study (Acevedo and Aron) found highly sensitive people show more activation in brain regions linked to awareness, empathy and action planning.
Why sensitive people help others succeed but stay stuck themselves. Most people carry a self-serving bias that softens criticism. Sensitive people often have less of it, so judgment of their own work lands fully. Eisenberger's 2003 UCLA research found social rejection activates brain regions that overlap with physical pain. Add scaffolding (Wood, Bruner and Ross, 1976), the way every skill is learned with someone holding the structure, and Lisa Hooper's research on children who became the carer in their family and grew up skilled at giving and unable to receive, and the pattern makes complete sense.
Why the usual advice fails sensitive people. "Put yourself out there" and "fake it till you make it" assume an average dose of confidence is enough. For a sensitive person it is not. Teresa Amabile's research at Harvard Business School shows simply expecting to be evaluated reduces creativity, and that the biggest driver of how people feel about their work is small progress on something that matters to them. The way through is to build where no one can see, until the evidence about who you are comes from you.
This episode is for you if you are a highly sensitive person, an empath, or someone who has been called too sensitive, and you are tired of helping everyone else move forward while your own business, career or next chapter stays on hold.
Free assessment: find out which part of you is carrying the most right now, your body, your emotions or your thinking, and where your core block actually sits. Go to lWhy can I help everyone else succeed but feel stuck in my own life? If you are a highly sensitive person, or you have been told your whole life that you are too sensitive, the answer is in how your brain is wired, not in your effort or your ability.
Highly sensitive people are not broken. They are more sensitive instruments. The same wiring that lets you read a room, feel what someone needs and solve their problem before they have finished speaking is the wiring that makes your own success feel exposed and painful to go after. That is why you can grow someone else's business, confidence or career and still freeze on your own.
In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur, trauma-informed coach, former scientist and host of Change Your Life, explains what the research says about sensitivity and what to do about feeling stuck.
What you will learn:
Why being sensitive is measurable and real. A 2003 brain imaging study at Wake Forest University (Coghill) gave people the same heat stimulus and found the people who reported more pain showed more activity in the pain-processing regions of the brain. Same input, different experience, visible on the scan. A 2014 fMRI study (Acevedo and Aron) found highly sensitive people show more activation in brain regions linked to awareness, empathy and action planning.
Why sensitive people help others succeed but stay stuck themselves. Most people carry a self-serving bias that softens criticism. Sensitive people often have less of it, so judgment of their own work lands fully. Eisenberger's 2003 UCLA research found social rejection activates brain regions that overlap with physical pain. Add scaffolding (Wood, Bruner and Ross, 1976), the way every skill is learned with someone holding the structure, and Lisa Hooper's research on children who became the carer in their family and grew up skilled at giving and unable to receive, and the pattern makes complete sense.
Why the usual advice fails sensitive people. "Put yourself out there" and "fake it till you make it" assume an average dose of confidence is enough. For a sensitive person it is not. Teresa Amabile's research at Harvard Business School shows simply expecting to be evaluated reduces creativity, and that the biggest driver of how people feel about their work is small progress on something that matters to them. The way through is to build where no one can see, until the evidence about who you are comes from you.
This episode is for you if you are a highly sensitive person, an empath, or someone who has been called too sensitive, and you are tired of helping everyone else move forward while your own business, career or next chapter stays on hold.
Free assessment: find out which part of you is carrying the most right now, your body, your emotions or your thinking, and where your core block actually sits. Go to https://linktr.ee/dramenkaur and tap Take your 3 minute free assessment.
Research mentioned: Coghill et al. 2003, Wake Forest University. Acevedo, Aron et al. 2014. Eisenberger, Lieberman and Williams 2003, UCLA. Wood, Bruner and Ross 1976. Hooper on parentification. Amabile, Harvard Business School, on evaluation and the progress principle.
