Since the beginning of time, women have been treated as the more mysterious sex but can anyone really claim to understand the hearts, minds and other parts of men? Poppy Jay is on a mission to delve deep into the minds of what men want, what they really think and finally get some answers.

What Big Boy Energy? We're about to find out!

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In Rubina's last episode before maternity leave, she and Poppy celebrate their mothers. What do they wish they could tell them? How have they shaped them as women? And what sort of mother will Rubina be to her grown up children?

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How do you know what's right for you: to become a parent or to take the road less travelled? Is one choice more fulfilling than the other? And why do any of us have to justify our choices anyway?

In this episode, Poppy & Rubina discuss motherhood, childlessness and whether any of it is really a choice.

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Priya Sohanpal is a Punjabi Sikh (& Dom Fem) icon who's stealing the show in BBC Three's I Kissed A Girl. In this episode, she joins Poppy and Rubina to discuss kissing: how important is the first kiss? Where do they like to be kissed (other than the lips?) and can you fix a bad kisser? Also, are queer women better kissers?

They also chat labels, relationship drama and representation.

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Comedian, Henry Rowley, joins Poppy & Rubina to discuss the importance of humour in sex.

What's more important for a relationship: sexual chemistry or laughter? And what's harder to get back once lost?

Henry is a comedian who rose to fame with viral TikTok characters, like Minty and Hugo. He learns three important things in the episode, including the shape of a duck's penis.

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Poppy and Rubina are joined by beauty influencer Anchal Seda and founder of sustainable fashion brand By Rotation, Eshita Kabra, to talk about fashion, style, beauty - and attraction.

Anchal and Eshita have both carved spaces for themselves in the fashion and beauty industry so bring their many years of living and breathing in this field to Brown Girls Do It Too.

They discuss dress codes at weddings (Eshita had four different themes!), who they dress for (men, women or themselves?) and what the most expensive item of clothing is in their wardrobe.

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Poppy and Rubina are joined by comedian Fatiha El-Ghorri to talk about one thing they definitely got from their ancestors: intergenerational trauma and discuss remembering the smiles of their mothers as opposed to their scars.

If anything discussed in this episode impacts you, there are great resources available on bbc.co.uk/ActionLine.

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Poppy & Rubina are joined by Nas Majeed & Dev Bajwa to discussing dating, love & sex - from the perspectives of straight, brown boys.

Nas & Dev are both recently single. How should they approach today's dating scene?

Poppy & Rubina ask them: is there too much pressure on boys? Do they prefer to pay on the first date? Are they worried about giving someone the ick? And how do they know when to make a move?

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Money: it's a topic most people struggle to talk about openly.

Zing Tsjeng joins Poppy & Rubina to talk all things finance.

And they answer pressing questions such as: What is loud budgeting? Who has the most 'no spend' days: Poppy or Rubina? How much do we spend to get ready for sex? Who should pay on a first date? And how do you split finances in a relationship?

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Comedians Grace Campbell & Chris Hall join Poppy & Rubina to discuss sex mistakes and mishaps. Are some regrets inevitable? And why do some of us make the same mistakes over and over again?

Lessons learned include: always use protection; check if the guy you're hitting on is dating your best friend; sometimes the night bus IS better than a stranger's bed, and... not everyone fancies you but that's okay.

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Cuddling? Talking? Assessing the bed sheets? What is the perfect sex aftercare package? Poppy and Rubina delve deep into the often overlooked but important aspect of caring for your partner after sex. They talk about what they rate and slate when it comes to aftercare and how that differs when you're in a long-term relationship or casually hooking up.

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Dangerous messaging or innocent, aesthetic fun?

Poppy & Rubina unpack the Trad Wife internet trend with Reliable Sauce hosts and BBC journalists, Jonelle & Kirsty. What is a Trad Wife? Would any of them ever be tempted to live that way? How important is financial independence to modern women? And is Rubina too obsessed with Nara Smith?

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No awkward topic is ever off-limits on Brown Girls Do It Too so in this episode Poppy and Rubina get into a conversation about racism. They discuss what being British means to them, dealing with heightened racial tensions and how much has changed since their parents came to this country in the 1970's.

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Pain: it can be fleeting, chronic, visceral, dull, sharp, completely debilitating. Poppy & Rubina are joined by Naga Munchetty to discuss what women live with.

Naga has spoken publicly about her diagnosis of adenomyosis, and working as a top BBC presenter whilst experiencing debilitating pain.

One in 10 women is thought to have the womb condition, yet it can often go undiagnosed for years.

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How can you successfully navigate complicated politics of female friendships? Have you had to let go of some friendships simply because your lives became too different? Do friendships change as you get older?

Poppy and Rubina are joined by content creator Saroop Sangha and wellness girlie Juju Sheikh to dissect the sensitive nature of female friendships.

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What makes a girl a woman? When does it happen? Poppy and Rubina are joined by actress Charithra Chandran to discuss girlhood, aging, maternal influences and finding "the one".

Most people know Charithra for playing the elegant Edwina Sharma in Netflix’s Bridgerton. She is now set to make her West End debut in one-woman play Instructions For A Teenage Armageddon - a show about a misfit 17 year-old girl grappling with grief and everyday adolescent challenges.

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Poppy and Rubina are joined by podcasting royalty, Deborah Frances White, to discuss female shame (and eyelashes).

Deborah co-created The Guilty Feminist in 2015 and paved the way for podcasts like Brown Girls Do It Too. In this episode, they bond over the collective female experience of shame. What are their most secret shames? Can shame be a force for good? What's the difference between shame and guilt?

It's something Poppy and Rubina have wanted to get into since the Brown Boys Do It Too episode in Series 4 - in which said brown boys, Eshaan Akbar and Jernade Miah, revealed they didn't feel any shame about sex.

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It's the ultimate battle of Millennials vs Gen Z - who will come out victorious?

Poppy and Rubina are joined by viral content creators (and Gen-Zers!) Kajal and Karishma who have built very successful careers online and getting into whether they're having less fun, oversharing more, being their own boss and answering what an SMCC is!

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The dancefloor should be a safe space for everyone so why is it often the opposite? Poppy and Rubina discuss existing as a woman in this world and the first times they felt unsafe around men.

This episode features conversations about sexual assault and harassment. If you feel impacted by anything discussed, there are lots of great resources available at www.bbc.co.uk/ActionLine

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Are dating apps dead? Poppy and Rubina invite author of 'The Situationship', Taylor-Dior Rumble, and content creator, Chiara Perera, to their funeral for dating apps and ask: is there any chance of survival?

They also ask: what would happen if the government decided to ban all dating apps? Would going out 'in the wild' help? And where did it all go wrong?

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This episode contains very strong language and adult content.

Poppy and Rubina are joined by Brown Girl royalty, Jameela Jamil, to discuss many things: like, how to have good sex, how your body image impacts your libido and the concept of being a “Girl’s Girl”.

What makes someone a “Girl’s Girl”? Who decides who makes the cut? And does Jameela consider herself one?

Jameela first caught Poppy and Rubina's attention while presenting T4, she was the cool and aloof girl everyone wanted to be - and now she's the cool and not-so-aloof Hollywood star everyone wants to be. Why was she, in her own words, a misogynistic slut-shamer? And how did she grow from her mistakes?

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Poppy and Rubina are back to ask: What’s worse for one’s sex life? War, the Climate Crisis, or not being trusted to borrow your mum’s car?

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Poppy and Rubina heard you guys are in a crisis, they’re on their way.

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Poppy and Rubina are joined by content creator Ayamé to talk feminine allure, how some women have mastered the art of being mysterious and why do some people find the chase to be so thrilling? They also talk about the opposite of being a 'trad wife'!

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What's better than sex? This series finale is an ode to everything but. Kissing! Eye contact! Dancing with a stranger! Everything but sex.

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Could you pay Poppy and Rubina to go back to their 20's? What does growing older and evolving actually feel like? Poppy and Rubina joined by Poorna Bell chat about the different stages (and ages!) of life and if they'll ever reach a moment of absolute contentment and if it's even possible.

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Poppy & Rubina get candid about obsession: thinking about someone all day, every day.

They aren't talking about your everyday crush. This episode is about the kind of infatuation and lust that takes over your life. Something both Poppy and Rubina have experienced at different stages in their lives.

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What is dating like for queer brown women in 2023? Char Bailey and Sharan Dhaliwal join Poppy and Rubina to discuss intense relationships, supportive nanis and Bollywood crushes.

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Is love written? Do Poppy and Rubina believe in kismet? How does what you're looking for in a partner change as you get older?

Priya Asha from Netflix's hit show Indian Matchmaking joins Poppy and Rubina to discuss all that and the importance of compatibility.

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Red Alert: boys in the BGDIT studio! Poppy and Rubina reluctantly let comedian/actor/writer, Eshaan Akbar, and R&B singer/model Jernade Miah join the fun.

They talk about love, shame, oral sex, bad relationships and paying for porn with your father’s credit card.

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Poppy and Rubina are still on a break but the Shagony Aunts are here for you. This week: wedding night nerves.

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Poppy and Rubina are on a short break but the Shagony Aunts are always here!

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Poppy and Rubina quiz art critic Zarina Muhammad on the cultural merits of sex. Can it be artistic? And is most art about sex?

They discuss Anthea Hamilton's the Squash, Alberto Giacometti, kitsch Islamic art, the art of texting, and the performative elements of sex.

Zarina is one half of the team behind everyone's favourite art criticism platform - the White Pube.

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Poppy & Rubina speak to Raj Kaur from the Pink Ladoo project about growing up as daughters. How much of an impact does sexism still have on South Asian women? And is there a solution?

They discuss double standards, the lack of male allies growing up, the Pink Ladoo project and Angela Saini's 'The Patriarchs'.

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Poppy & Rubina on anger, angry sex, female rage, male rage, brown girl rage- a lot of rage, basically. Is anger always a bad thing? How do we express it in a healthy/constructive way?

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Poppy and Rubina channel Carrie Bradshaw to ask: what is love? And where does it go when a relationship ends?

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Has technology completely taken over the dating world?

Poppy & Rubina meet their ultimate brown girl, Meera Syal! Yes, they fan-girled... hard!

Poppy & Rubina discuss important issues like frugal dating and the sexiness of recycling

Something to whet your appetite as you wait for Poppy and Rubina to return...

Poppy and Rubina discuss positions, expectations and role play

The time has come...

Poppy and Rubina express gratitude for their exes and share tips for surviving heartbreak.

Poppy and Rubina learn about psychosexual therapy with the Sex On the Couch therapist

It's Rubina's turn to answer questions from Poppy: Who is she? When did she become cool?

Flirting: how does one get it right? And what happens when it goes wrong?

Munveer Jabbal has learnt a thing or two about flirting this summer, mostly AFTER leaving the Love Island Villa. Is he any better at it than Poppy and Rubina though?

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Rubina interviews Poppy about her life: What has she learned? Does she have regrets?

Poppy and Rubina are taking a vow of celibacy... or a mid-series break

Is ethical non-monogamy the answer to lasting love?

Poppy and Rubina ponder whether BDSM has become mainstream in modern dating