— (1:27) The Big Hormone Self-Pres podcast — (3:37) Psychedelics as anti-depressants (correction: serotonin is a neurotransmitter not a hormone) — (11:26) COVID stories and launching the pod — (16:31) The great disillusionment  — (19:51) Trump and elon dork — (21:52) Synflow vs contraflow in autonomy conflicts — (33:30) Getting back into the wing series / 3w2vs3w4

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— (1:27) the john stream from the void — (5:22) consciousness experiencing itself and letting go — (8:45) complicated relationship to brotherhood — (18:10) a zone is always happening — (22:08) energy around male connection — (35:10) self-pres nerd out — (40:52) bhe guide to crashing out / menendez brothers parent killing — (45:55) zone stem updates and diddy freakoffs

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it’s the spice of life.

— (1:25) Frustration is the aesthetic of each center — (6:10) Frustration as the basis of human suffering and expression of personality  — (7:56) Bermuda Overlays and frustration as personalized flavor / rejection as the elemental substrate of each center — (14:25) Frustration doesn’t give up on their needs but unwilling to work with how to get its needs met / the knot of not having — (16:58) Rejection cut off vs frustration in relationships — (24:13) Everyone’s shitting on the thing they most want — (31:57) Rejection and attachment both have a self-erasing quality / ‘attachment as exposition, frustration as rising action, rejection as conclusion’ — (39:27) The social engagement of the world is low on frustration / you’re not a person if you don’t hate something — (42:16) 2 vs 4 love is not the same / frustration is essential to seeing someone’s personhood — (52:57) Attachment-rejection vs attachment-frustration strategies — (55:13) To be aesthetic means prioritizing your preferences over maintaining connection / 4 seeing people as aesthetic holograms — (1:00:50) Universal bread people attraction vs personal specific attraction

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We’re continuing our discussions on instincts, joined by Joseph and Alexandra, to get into the social stackings and DG’s insights with the Bhavachakra.

— (5:24) David’s intro to his SO/SX and SO/SP correlations on the  Bhavachakra — (18:21) The social types weigh in on the contrasts between their stackings — (30:34) How so/sp experiences so/sx and vice versa — (48:46) How social dominants get triggered by social middles and finding ease with social-lasts — (1:08:58) The contrast in how the social stackings approach ideology and politics 

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This week we’re discussing and answering your submitted loveline questions on John’s instinct book.

— (3:21) What might it look like when a type is faced with a situation that exemplifies the loss of essential quality? — (22:10) A critique about John’s use of the word individuation and hormonal comments about his hotness — (31:18) How is the instinct stacking determined and why does one instinct become dominant over another? — (43:56) What is the distinction between the loss of self of sexual and spiritual dissolving of the ego? — (48:44) What does secondary self-pres for sx/sp look like for people who are bad at self-pres? — (52:03) Where to find the music used at the end of the upisodes? — (53:08) How to type each type and we read the energy of each type? — (56:51) How aspects of personality contribute to people getting along with each other?

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We’re continuing our discussions on instincts, joined by my bb Beth, to get into the sexual stackings and DG’s insights with the Bhavachakra.

— (6:39) David’s intro to his SX/SO and SX/SP correlations on the  Bhavachakra — (14:35) Beth’s experience as a sx/so attachment type in contrast to social types and sx/sp — (26:21) What distinctly makes sx/so a sexual type — (35:30) Contrasting sx/so with so/sx — (49:54) Hungry ghosts (sx/sp) and Gods/Goddesses (sx/so) — (57:40) Personality and social genres as an attraction hook for sx/so

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This week we’re continuing our discussions on instincts with a dive into the self-pres stackings and DG’s magical abstractions with the Bhavachakra.

— (3:47) Intro to SP/SO, SP/SX, and David’s instinct discoveries with the Bhavachakra — (11:32) What exactly is the Bhavachakra and how is it a map for the instincts and stackings? — (19:00) The 6 instinct stackings are real and the collage exercise is an aesthetic manifestation of them — (23:07) David’s discovery of how each instinct overlays the  triangle on the enneagram symbol and each stacking on the hexad  — (25:28) SP/SO correlating to type 8 and SP/SX to type 5 — (31:47) The religion of SP/SO and every stacking is a lie — (39:01) Experiences and anecdotes of SP/SO and SP/SX — (53:53) Dogs (sp/so) vs cats (sp/sx)

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This week we’re joined by Czander to delve into his illuminating insight on the disconnect of attachment types. 

— (8:56) Czander shares his comment on attachment and discusses his thought process on how he figured it out — (20:54) How attachment types make themselves feel not seen and supported so they can adapt — (37:15) Integrating the blindspot is the key to go from functioning (adapting) to being — (44:18) Attachment types seeing themselves as the problem and martyring themselves to persevere in difficult circumstances — (1:00:02) Attachment types projecting disconnect on others because they’re disconnected from themselves — (1:07:04) Attachment types having amnesia seeing re-occuring problems as new each time  — (1:18:02) Attachment types are attached to being disconnected from their emotions

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We’re back at it discussing John’s new instincts book, continuing where we left off with how to integrate the blindspot.

— (4:57) The social approaches — (25:10) Practices for integrating the self-pres blindspot — (37:48) Practices for integrating the sexual blindspot — (58:02) Practices for integrating the social blindspot

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We’re continuing where we left off with integrating the blindspot.

— (6:00) Hitting the soc-last pain back walls harder exploring our toxic traits — (26:18) Introduction to the instinctual approaches and needs — (40:20) Self-pres approaches — (51:20) Sexual approaches

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We’re continuing to discuss John’s new instinct book. This week we’re getting into the instinctual blindspot.

— (3:17) How we’re invested in not understanding or grasping what the blindspot really is — (5:17) Our experiences of our blindspots — (14:18) What happens when you start to see your blindspot — (17:52) How each blindspot threatens the dominant instinct — (28:55) Self-pres blind — (33:37) Sexual blind  — (43:28) The blindspot instinct as the most practical linchpin for transformation and accessing the heart — (53:12) You know you’re hitting your blindspot when you experience acute aversion and ignorance with that instinct

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John’s instinct book is finally here. The crew is back together to discuss the instincts book to rule them all. 

— (4:03) John’s thoughts and experiences writing new instinct material for his book — (7:58) The clarity of understanding how we’re seeking essential qualities through our instincts — (15:10) The needs and approaches as mechanisms instead of just descriptions of instinct — (27:42) Plans for future books — (32:09) John’s abbreviated Sexual 8 description — (43:29) Self-pres 9  — (54:58) Self-pres 3 — (1:02:02) Sexual 4

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We’re back with two contrasting social types thrust into a social hell in this surprise face/off between Koala CQ Alexandra and Untouchable Prince Joseph.

— (2:39) Social attachment vs social hexad — (5:36) How does Joseph navigate being social as a negative 4 — (13:56) Comparing and contrasting so/sx and so/sp — (31:15) What does closeness mean and what is the aim of social? — (39:22) What causes social anxiety and stress? The social 9 vs social 4 dynamic — (49:30) The social meta of this call and social types revealing themselves as a person — (58:19) Reputation, rumors, and macro-social stress around how you’re perceived putting yourself out there — (1:09:16) The social blind obliviousness roast — (1:18:37) How is social disruption during a connection experienced? — (1:26:37) Receptivity to the social milieu contrasts between attachment and hexad

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Alejohndra are back with tales of their Egypt trip.

— (1:25) John and Alexandra recap their retreat to Egypt — (9:05) What about the aliens? / the construction of the pyramids had to be an exercise in presence and intention  — (16:23) The femininity of Egypt — (21:04) Egypt peaked early and then fell off hard — (31:06) Special John the mystical guide / the inner quality of the group — (37:50) The descent down into the deep chambers  — (45:22) The acoustics of the pyramids — (52:55) A sacred culture that honors the divine and human animal nature — (58:48) Egypt activates something in you that values the sacred — (1:13:05) Hexad conversion therapy

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We’re descending into the hell of the self-pres instinct with this face/off between Dominatrix Nancy and Cult Daddy David

— (5:20) The hellish fear vs the comfort stages of self-pres — (9:09) The friction between the pursuit of money for a certain lifestyle and actually getting to live that lifestyle — (11:11) Nancy’s cottage core bi-sexual farm lifestyle goal — (19:37) Pushing the body to extremes is a self-pres high — (24:46) Energy conservation and keeping the blinders on to get the goods — (31:53) Creating a sense of home and why self-pres attachment types overwork — (38:03) How capitalism and self-pres sustainability shape politics and systems — (49:14) The war between the different instinctual worlds and empathy

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This week the enneagrammer boys got together to rant and share tips and tricks on the skill of typing. 

— (3:53) Our experiences with self-typing — (10:01) How is it that we can type someone we don’t know? — (14:22) How to approach typings and feedback from family and friends — (17:30) The problem with overreliance on descriptions — (19:12) How do you figure out whether a typing is correct or not? — (22:56) How to impartially observe and not take personality personally  — (34:02) How do we know that we’re right? — (40:49) Why it’s necessary to enlist other perspectives to be an accurate typer — (43:52) How to become a better typer

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Continuing where we left off with Courtney on hexad vs attachment.

— (1:26) How do frustration types relate to one another? — (5:18) How attachment gets in the way of relating to others — (7:46) Hexad vs attachment perspectives and reactions to the typing process — (20:50) How attachment yes/no shows up in 6s — (27:16) Differences in how and why 6/3/9 override the other centers to make decisions — (36:59) The differences in what each attachment type needs to create an attachment — (54:56) Attachment and hexad from the perspective of the instincts 

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Courtney joins us to lend her insightful point of view to the hexad vs attachment discussion in this two part conversation.

— (1:26)  An overview of Object Relations and what hexad and attachment mean — (10:40) Why is attachment triggering to hexad types — (12:54) Attachment types figuring out who they are through relationship to someone or something else — (17:22) The limited box of hexad types addicted to frustration and rejection — (30:20) The yes/no dichotomy is a closed hexad point of view that isn’t open to what might unfold beyond the self — (32:44) The phenomenon of attachment types taking on feelings expressed by others as their own — (42:38) The disgust of 4 as the ego’s avoidance of the sense of being violated by unwanted external influences — (48:26) Hexad self-containment is a removal from self-renewal — (55:32) Exploring frustration, attachment, and rejection in child’s play — (1:02:38) How do rejection types relate to one another

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We’re back with new insights to share continuing our hexad vs attachment series.

— (1:26)  Revisiting the curious case of David Gray and his hidden very weird attachment — (9:09) Reviewing the last episode’s insights on the individuated vs attachment yes and no — (12:40) The premature yes of attachment vs the premature no of rejection vs the ‘yes, but no’ of frustration — (16:50) Emeka’s experience of the severing of rejection and ‘no’ as a baseline — (21:47) Nancy’s reaction and how the grass isn’t greener on the hexad side — (30:36) The latest on John’s book release and Courtney joining us next week to work her magic on hexad vs attachment

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We’re continuing our explorations of attachment with a face/off between Cult Daddy David and Undignified CQ Alexandra. Venture into this double 9 labyrinth and you *might* emerge from the mist with insights from below and above attachment.

— (7:26)  An examination of the internal yes/no tug of war from the perspective of attachment types — (15:42) Ideas on how attachment types might find their location sooner rather than later — (24:33) Alexandra and David’s complaints about hexad types — (34:25) Differences between Alexandra and David’s attachment and How ‘familiar’ attachment showed up for David as a young f*ckboi — (41:44) There was always a clear “No” — (47:49) Hexad types are too fixated because they lack an ‘external channel’ — (51:09) The gift of attachment is channeling — (55:48) How do 6s do it? — (1:00:42) Make attachment types great again

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We’re landing on major discoveries exploring hexad vs attachment. Undressing the invisible assumptions of attachment explains so much about how the world functions, and how oppositional hexad and attachment orientations are.

— (2:41)  Parasocial relationships as a manifestation of attachment — (8:38)  Hexad inflexibility and self-containment is not attachable — (11:44) Agreement and meeting halfway as a feature of attachment — (29:51) How David’s does attachment online as a soc-blind  — (39:13) Comfortable attachment as a starting point to real attachment, but settling for what’s good enough for now — (44:42) The suffering of hexad types is the inability to adapt from their vision — (47:22) Aloneness from the perspective of attachment vs hexad — (1:05:55) The concept of a soulmate is a hexad perspective

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We need to talk about attachment some more. Interesting new questions and insights about attachment have emerged as a result of our soul intercourse series. Let’s spin.

— (4:03)  Inner disagreement and ongoing friction fueling attachment — (9:24)  The implications of attachment in politics and group dynamics — (14:44) The mechanics behind the hate/love relationship attachment types have with us — (20:42) How Nancy and DG self-locate their preferences — (33:15) Hexad vs attachment on arguments and disagreement — (40:57) Attachment types coming to terms with how they’re giving away their autonomy — (46:56) Putting it all together with how and why attachment types get lost in the sauce — (49:18) Why attachment types think hexad types are ‘cool’ and get triggered by them

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Continuing where we left off with our beloved CQ Alexandra joining us to excavate the challenges attachment types face in love, intimacy, and sexuality. 

— (4:17)  Attachment types individuating by facing fear, leaving ‘home’, and being alone — (14:37) Attachment types having to individuate by finding their soul family  — (21:33) Attachment types finding themselves by locating what moves and affects them and responding to it — (28:28) How humbling and exposing it is to be wanted just as you are vs what you’re manufacturing  — (38:01) How DG relates to the attachment type struggle

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The soul sex saga continues. Our beloved CQ Alexandra joins us to excavate the challenges attachment types face in love, intimacy, and sexuality. 

— (1:27)  Addressing excuses and deflections — (7:49)  What social blinds are missing and how that can be detrimental in love — (11:33) Sexual blinds seen as uncool by sexual blinds — (22:37) How attachment types hook others by seeing themselves through their eyes — (29:28) The dynamic of the pod needs more Nancy — (38:00) What's wrong with not having any attachment?  — (43:18) Attachment types remaining unaffected by chasing ‘gold stars’ in relationships they barely care about

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In this episode of WILTBY Josh interviews Louis.

— (4:50) Josh processing his 2-wing and meeting Louis at the zone / the team love vs team truth confrontation — (11:45) 3w2 facilitating and orchestrating connection vs 3w4 distant excellence — (16:35) The philosophy of truth vs love in psychotherapy — (20:49) Carl Rogers unconditional positive regard — (29:30) What Josh finds annoying about 4 skepticism of love and connection — (33:39) Louis’ identification with predator swag  — (42:24) 3w2 vs 3w4 in a team scenario / team vs self orientation  — (48:31) How Josh realized he had a 2-wing / Louis’ social mode of separateness and why he became a therapist — (57:41) Differences in processing negativity and aesthetic frustration — (1:09:51) The 3w2 tenet of always having something to appreciate about anything  — (1:24:08) The ideal ego fantasy for 3w2 vs 3w4

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This week we’re responding to your comments on our soul intercourse series. It’s gonna get spicy. 

— (2:59)  Can we discuss this topic from the queer perspective? — (5:48)  David’s favorite stripper with mother issues has an amazing sex life — (9:53) Confused rambler with nothing to contribute has some shit to say — (22:39) Is what we’re sharing triggering insecurities? — (31:57) Social 2 shares her experience making a soul connection with her partner — (33:50) Appreciative type 2 caller loves this topic and misses having this type of connection

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We getting all up in DG’s grille this week. What’s his deal with sexuality and relationships anyway? 

— (2:32)  David unpacks his significant age gap kink   — (7:01)  DG’s childhood and how that influences how seriously he takes himself as a partner — (14:03) The most intense soul level attraction DG ever experienced — (22:06) Is this too spicy for this pod or even relevant to ‘soul intercourse’? [soc-lasts clumsily attempt to read the room] — (30:18) How we’ve approached meeting the soulmate and David’s challenges with this idea as a 9 — (41:57) The insecurities of 9 and other attachment types getting in the way of love — (44:21) How David’s formative years and attraction dynamics with 'mothers' contributed to the inner message of not mattering — (57:00) Attachment types, individuation, and not feeling deserving of love — (1:01:58) Safeguarding your heart for the possibility of soulmate love

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We’re getting all up in your soul g-spot this week, exploring the different dimensions of sexuality and chemistry. How to meet someone energetically during sex.

— (4:02)  Emeka’s revelation about his sexuality   — (9:32)  How Nancy senses a sexual partner’s energy and soul  — (16:10) Soul level attraction and introverted vs extroverted sexuality — (27:14) What makes good sex good? — (28:08) The feminine sexuality of being penetrated and taking someone’s energy in — (30:36) Nancy’s experience of having soul intercourse with her partner — (34:57) How to deeply meet someone sexually — (37:44) Self-love to deepen a sense of your body’s arousal  — (42:57) Being present and naked with yourself in order to energetically meet someone — (45:05) The masculine having reverence for feminine energy and surrendering to body to body chemistry

Don’t be scurred, call the Loveline with your comments and thoughts about this episode at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com with a voice note.

This week we’re getting hormonal with your submitted horny kinks and sexual fantasies. Hide yo kids, it’s about get hot in here.

— (3:56) David’s ‘Daddy who buys shit for stockholms’ kink — (10:14) Breeding kink and sexual selection — (21:30) Uncontrollable desire for a woman who loves her hubby — (23:52) Being forced to watch my partner have sex with someone I hate — (27:42) Animal magnetism and sex matching my energy — (35:26) Service topping 8

Don’t be scurred, call the Loveline with your secret kinks and fantasies at (323) 696-0647 today. Or you can also email bhepodcast@gmail.com with a voice note.

This week we’re joined by two twos, Alex Giroux and Fay Willow, to unpack our negative bias against 2s. We attempt to atone for our sins. Forgive us for we shall sin again.

— (10:06) The collective shadow that type 2 represents culturally — (19:40) Emeka and John reacting to their mothers being 2s — (29:58) How Alex experiences her own neediness as a social blind 2 — (38:00) 2s feeling like they have to offer something to justify their existence as rejection types — (43:40) How our 2s interpret the notion that their love is conditional and is giving to get — (53:27) The friction between 2s giving love and kindness vs their authentic preferences in the moment  — (1:08:59) Fay and David’s intense conversation about allowing him to give hold space for her without her giving anything first — (1:19:53) 2s are formidable and not fragile or weak

It’s episode 69, give and you shall receive. Anonymously call the Loveline with with your type related kinks and sexual fantasies. The number is (323) 696-0647. Or you can email a voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com.

This week we’re getting into the objective competency triad as we wrap up our series exploring the harmonic groups.

— (5:32) What makes a competency type competent? — (10:20) 3s needing parameters to gauge performance — (13:12) Nancy’s swirl as a Bermuda 3 from lack of parameters — (16:40) How Jesse got into university without a high school degree with 5 off-the-grid competency — (23:56) What are the competency types giving up if they indulged in positive or reactive stances? — (36:34) What gets a rise out of Jesse? — (40:08) How have our competency types been led astray by seeking competency? — (45:06) How does the forward progress of competency manifest in 5s? — (53:13) How forward progress competency manifests in type 1 — (55:50) The over-assumption that all 3 competency types are making — (1:06:34) How competency shows up romantically — (1:19:29) How reactive types frame their romances

This week, after another heart-opening transformative meetup in the zone, we’re discussing our experiences with breathwork. 

— (3:24) We recount a powerful spontaneous breathwork session in The Zone — (7:52) What is a breathwork session and how does it work? — (23:00) How processing and releasing trauma is like exorcising demons — (27:42) David’s breathwork session with John — (38:05) Emeka’s breathwork session with John — (47:58) Nancy feeling parts of her body function as they were intended after her breathwork session — (50:08) Resources and recommended breathworkers 

This week we’re diving into the often negative reactive types as we continue our series exploring the harmonic groups.

— (3:42)  What are the assumptions of the reactive type lens?   — (6:06)  How each harmonic group is disconnecting from the heart and presence — (13:52) Why do reactive types focus on the negative story behind things — (20:38) The story the competency type lens focuses on — (22:44) The contrast of reactive types in each center from John, Emeka, and Courtney — (43:10) How do David and Nancy experience reactive types — (49:55) How our reactive types relate to other reactive types — (59:26) The power dynamic in 8 reactivity  — (1:09:00) 6’s head confusion and self-judgment around their reactivity

We’re back at it with another thirsty LoveLine Q/A episode.

— (2:22) What archetypes and myths do we each identify with and how does the shadow show up in relationships? — (33:16) Criticism that we could end up going off the rails with the potential for bullshit — (55:10) Trifix essential qualities — (59:49) How to tell the difference between an 8 with a 6 fix from a 6 with an 8 fix — (1:08:03) Is Countertype legit?

To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email in a pre-recorded voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com 

This week we’re diving into Manhunter and Silence of the lambs to explore the perspective of the image center as represented by these serial killers. 

— (6:19)  Overview/summary of Silence of the Lamb/Manhunter — (11:00) The Manhunter serial killer as a sexual 4 — (27:24) Hannibal Lecter as a  3 and Clarice as a type 6 or 9 — (37:24) Idealized androgyny as a form of self-transformation — (39:31) Lecter’s social 3 fancy boi sensibilities — (41:18) What it means for image types to try to be themselves — (45:26) The difference between the 3’s adaptability in identity vs the 4’s overly defined point of identity — (55:09) How Dolarhyde is an example of a very fixated 4   — (57:58) The core need behind the display of sexual types and how that gets in the way of a real relationship

We watched Poor things right before recording our impressions and thoughts. Call the nota4 hotline at (323) 696-0647.

— (2:40) Overview of Poor Things and its ode to the head center — (8:40) The surgeon is a 5 — (13:22) 6 reactivity leveling the playing field with negativity — (16:30) hexad vs attachment response to suffering in the world — (23:45) The artifice of polite adulthood as a hindrance to growth — (30:52) The necessity of conveying complex ideas and orientation through symbol — (36:31) Bella developed so quickly because of her hunger for experiences like a child who views enjoyment as a necessity  — (49:34) Social hexad vs attachment orientation with parents and formative attachment figures — (56:35) Bermuda adjacent hexad types seeming more hexad by pushing off attachment

Enneagrammer — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Josh Brolin, Frank Herbert, and the Bermuda Overlays and get typed at: https://www.enneagrammer.com/

Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com

Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers

Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here: https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray

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This week we’re diving into the not so sunny positive outlook types as we start off a series exploring the harmonic groups.

— (8:05) What is the positive outlook harmonic group? — (13:53) How 9’s self-erasing makes them seem less positive than 2 and 7 — (17:14) Why it’s named harmonics — (24:40) How positive outlook gets in the way of inner work — (31:12) The positive type premature expert — (33:08) The 9’s brand of know it all narcissism  — (41:02) The negative shadow of positive types  — (42:44) The dark side of 9 — (47:01) The shadow of 7 — (48:01) How David and Emeka experience their positive outlook influences — (56:04) The negative shadow of 2

We’re continuing where we left off to get more specific with how the average levels of health operate.

— (8:36) Everyone is at average levels of health — (16:34) What does it mean to be at Level 4? — (20:54) Type 4 at level 4 — (23:48) Type 9 at level 4 — (29:13) Type 3 at level 4 — (33:56) The real difference between level 4 and level 3 — (38:47) Type 8 at level 4 — (47:00) The transition to level 5 from level 4 — (55:16) How 9s compartmentalize conflict and disengage at level 5 — (1:05:24) Level 6

This week we’re diving into the often misunderstood levels of health.

— (3:38) Health is not a measure of positive outcomes or attitudes — (7:32) History of the levels of health and what it means — (12:08) You don’t overcome your type as you go up the levels — (13:26) The shock between going from level 4 to level 3 — (17:27) What it means to do inner work to liberate attention  — (26:49) Just being aware of your type is not freedom from it — (33:18) Gurdjieff as a healthy 8 who wasn’t always a ‘good’ person — (38:42) Inner and outer considering — (42:06) David’s story about an experience of inner freedom — (48:22) Health as an experience of the divine through the higher centers — (59:05) Freedom from personality doesn’t always make you feel good — (1:01:08) Freedom/Health as ego deaths — (1:06:33) Awakeness represented in ancient Egypt as the union between Horus and Set

As promised, this week we’re diving into the nuances of #nota5 in response to one of your voicemail questions.

— (3:46) Why people mistype as 5 and the common misconceptions — (9:28) The contrast between the intellectualism of 9 and 6 vs 5 — (11:33) 5’s obscure discovery vs 6’s referential truth — (18:14) 6’s orientation to intellectual integrity   — (26:30) 5s are not always smart or intellectual — (30:41) David and Emeka’s body type impressions of 5 — (41:00) Queen’s Gambit as a fictional example of 5 detachment and disconnect — (43:06) 9s and 6s relating to the detachment of 5 — (47:23) The pain and suffering of 5 — (50:57) Famous examples of 5s and #nota5s (Einstein being a 9) — (1:00:24) 5’s inability to connect   To have your question featured on a future episode leave us a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or send a pre-recorded voice message to bhepodcast@gmail.com.

We’re back at it with another thirsty LoveLine episode.

— (2:19) How can sexual blinds recognize when someone is attracted to them? — (28:02) What is it like to date your instinct stacking and the other stackings? — (50:09) What type would say yes to marriage for a green card and will Nancy accept his proposal? — (56:44) Can we do a riff on #nota5? YES, we’ll devote of all the next episode to it.

To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 or email in a pre-recorded voice note to bhepodcast@gmail.com.

We’re wrapping up our Michael Teachings talk with Shepherd by diving into the overleaves.

— (2:37) Action axis // Warrior and King roles — (8:54) The bossiness of the King role in a normal person — (12:36) Goal of acceptance — (16:15) Goal of flow — (17:16) Goal of discrimination — (25:17) Goal of dominance — (27:51) What are sliding overleaves?  — (28:54) Goal of submission — (31:01) Spiritualist Attitude — (32:30) Nancy/Emeka/John having the skeptic attitude — (42:07) The idealist attitude — (44:20) Reserve and Passion mode — (48:08) Caution and Power mode — (51:52) How different overleaves cause friction in relationships — (54:19) What it’s like for a role to have high frequency — (56:44) Attraction to members of our entity or cadre — (59:38) The significance of previous cycles and soul age

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This week we’re diving into the nuances of channeling and souls with Shepherd.

— (6:06) How is channeling different from intuition? The difference between channels, mediums, and psychics — (9:34) The different planes one can channel from — (12:14) How does Shepherd know he’s channeling Michael — (18:49) How does Shepherd get information when he’s channeling the Michael Charts — (21:30) What is the Akashic Record? — (25:45) Why don’t we remember what our soul chose? — (30:04) Is channeling something anyone can learn to do? — (36:38) What role does bias and discernment play? — (43:36) Channeling entities other than Michael — (46:01) What’s the felt experience of channeling? — (50:58) Can people channel without realizing it? — (53:09) Channeling negative spirits and entities — (55:32) Energy fields and aural hygiene  — (1:00:17) Souls who won’t let go after death. What it’s like to die — (1:05:36) Hell in the astral plane and paying back karma — (1:14:12) Why is this system of choosing lifetimes set up this way? — (1:20:45) Do animals have souls?

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Get your Michael chart channeled here: https://shepherdhoodwin.com/michael-charts/

We’re starting off the year diving into Michael Teachings with Shepherd Hoodwin. 

— (6:53) What is channeling — (9:37) History of Michael Teachings and how Shepherd started channeling — (21:04) Do the roles have something they’re trying to accomplish? — (25:26) Soul type characteristics and inputs — (32:20) Inspiration/Expression/Action/Assimilation Axis — (36:47) The definition of the soul in MT vs Gurdjieff  — (39:48) Why the name Michael and why do they care? — (46:39) Positive/negative poles and the chief obstacle — (51:42) Essence role distribution in groups — (54:20) Scholar role with the different centers — (60:08) David as an example of the Chief Obstacle of greed — (64:02) How to interpret the chart as a whole? — (68:22) How does casting work? — (83:58) Attraction between roles and body types — (95:58) John not relating to jovial/lunar body type — (99:58) Body types genetics and attraction — (103:12) Casting and attraction — (107:10) Scholar neutrality and versatility

Everyone’s charts for reference; https://www.dropbox.com/s/p5z86kdo7p5u5y6/BHE%20MT%20Charts.pdf?dl=0

Info on getting your chart: https://shepherdhoodwin.com/michael-charts/

Ya girl and boys are closing out the year with a very lit unsober wrap party. We’re looking back on the year and its most memorable parts and of course talking shit. Grab a drink and/or a smoke and join us as we look back on the beautiful train-wreck that was 2020. 

— what our most listened to episodes are — what nancy really thinks about podding with a bunch of soc-last dudes — shout-outs to all our guests, reviewers, and patrons — Ideas and plans for 2021 (nota4, the loveline, and book launches)

Happy New Year!

Our very first LoveLine pod is here. Hats off to the four brave pioneers who sent in voicemails for this seminal work. We see you Sarah and we honor you. How to not be awkward as a sx-blind head type? How do we deal with jealousy and is it type or instinct specific? What type would David mail-order as a companion on a desert island? And finally, what’s the most triggering breakup we’ve had? To be featured on the next LoveLine episode leave a voicemail at (323) 696-0647 today. 

They don’t want you to know.

— (3:10) Nines are everyone’s least favorite mud cattle — (6:38) Sixes are annoying cult maintainers — (11:13) Sevens are the slutty surprise suicide

Enneagrammer — Become dangerously perceptive and skilled at seeing types clearly. Watch recent classes on Josh Brolin, Frank Herbert, and the Bermuda Overlays and get typed at: https://www.enneagrammer.com/

Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram readings and content at her new website https://www.saturnruled9.com

Rediscover the centers of intelligence and object relations with John and Josh’s 6-part class https://www.theenneagramschool.com/developmental-centers

Get John’s book on the instinctual drives on amazon or barnesandnoble: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578784971/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_glt_fabc_VZ3VZVEG0M1RY42AWN2T

Buy David’s Trifix Booklet here: https://www.enneagrammer.com/store/trifix-venn-booklet-david-gray

Help us fund new equipment here: venmo - @bighormone https://paypal.me/bighormone

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In this bonus pod, Emeka and Joseph get you started on this thing called Michael Teachings. An interesting deep spiritual system we’ve been very much into. We start off with how we got into it. What is Michael Teachings and what is channeling? (4:38). How do I know this isn’t bullshit? (6:48). Roles (10:53). Essence Twin (19:24). Cadence Positon/Casting (22:04). Goal (28:40). Attitude (31:01). Mode (32:12). Chief Obstacle (33:34). Body Type (35:16). Center (37:41). Soul Age (38:02). Summary/Recap (38:28). Why we care about Michael Teachings (42:47).

https://shepherdhoodwin.com/michael-charts/

https://www.amazon.com/Journey-Your-Soul-Explores-Teachings/dp/1583945490

Artwork: Tomasz Alen Kopera

This week we’re joined by Curtis, an actor, jungian dreamworker, and therapist who leads John’s jungian men’s group. Curtis takes us on a journey of masculine issues from an archetypal and mythological lens, as a continuation of the discussion we had on the serial killer pod. The individuation process and why leaving mother and integrating the feminine is important for the masculine. How men unconsciously self-sabotage as way to instigate in the ritual of individuation. How men cling to archetypal insecure masculinity in the absence of an individuation process. The relationship between rage and intimacy in men. The “death mother” and the encounter with the shadow. What should men do? And finally, How dream work can be a gateway to accessing the unconscious.

This week our friend Corinna, a sexual 5, is joining us to roast the worst parts of dating the head types. Don’t forget to sign up for John’s session on the centers at this week’s Global Enneagram Summit using his link:https://shiftnetwork.infusionsoft.com/go/egs20/JohnL . We start off where we left off roasting type 4. Then we get into it with Corinna with 5 (26:27), 6 (52:50), finishing off with 7 (71:11). Remember to hit up our BHE Love Line voicemail with your comments and/or questions to be featured in a future episode. Call (323) 696-0647 today.

Episode Art [Lambis Stratoudakis]