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You can now watch this episode on YouTube! Host Birna Gustafsson invites Sexologist Natassia Miller on for a conversation about monogamy, desire, and how to measure when your sex life is really getting better. She reveals how to set SMART goals for sex (yes, really) and what to do when you feel more like roommates than lovers. Plus, how straight couples can benefit from ditching heteronormative scripts. 

This is your permission slip to rethink what satisfying sex can actually look like and how to start having it (or, having it again!). 

Check out more by my guest, Natassia Miller, Sexologist on her site, wonderlust.co or on Instagram at natassiamiller 

Wonderlust Mindful Intimacy Card Deck: https://www.wonderlust.co/intimacy-card-deck

Natassia Miller’s Desire Masterclass: https://www.wonderlust.co/desire-masterclass

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Note: For extended show notes, BeyondtheBedroom.org is changing to BeyondwithBirna.com For more from Birna, check out her socials, IG, TT, and Threads @ bbirna or reach out via birna.net

Now also on YouTube! Sex and relationship coach Catherine Drysdale joins Birna to talk about how mindfulness and somatic tools can shift how we experience intimacy. We dig into how to build a personal pleasure vocabulary, move through shame, and what it feels like to be multi-orgasmic. Plus, a listener question on mindset blocks in her first queer relationship.

Want more? A bonus full-length conversation is available at beyondwithbirna.com

Find Catherine at catherinedrysdale.com Instagram & TikTok: @iamcatherinedrysdale

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"Vibing Over Venus"

Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0

I break down real questions students ask me as a university-level sex educator, including: STI scares, awkard roommate encounters, drunk hookups, and how to survive being slut shamed. 

This episode reveals what’s really happening on campus and why it matters for everyone, not just students. Most people never get comprehensive sex ed, so I’ve also compiled my top tips for healthy, safer intimacy for young adults.

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NEW: Watch on YouTube! You’ve heard it a HUNDRED TIMES- just communicate, go explore! What does that mean? Where do you even start? 

In this episode of Beyond the Bedroom with Birna, I break down how to actually improve your sex life long-term in three solid steps. I guide you through where to begin exploring and how to tell your partner(s) what you really, really want. 

This episode will help you get out of that rut and kickstart your journey from good to great in bed (and beyond!). 

Don’t miss out! Bonus content at beyondwithbirna.com 

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Find me on Instagram and Threads @beyondbedroompodcast Full archive and articles at beyondthebedroom.org

BONUS content at beyondwithbirna.com

NEW: WATCH ON YOUTUBE @ BEYONDBEDROOMPODCAST! Did you just say "Mommy?" Mistress Lauren joins Beyond the Bedroom for a candid chat about what domming actually is (and isn’t). We answer listener questions about how to enjoy telling people what to do and receiving the care you deserve. Plus, domming from the bottom, why so many people insist they’re not REALLY into it (but they are). Plus, of course, some tales from the dungeon. 

Don’t miss out on a whole BONUS HOUR with Lauren, just for members at beyondwithbirna.com 

Mistress Lauren can be found on TikTok and X @ cherrybb333 

For longer show notes and more info head to beyondthebedroom.org

A Valentine's Day special! Birna plays the couple's question game "Pillow Talk," now available for free on beyondthebedroom.com/games 

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Some politicians want you to believe that sex is determined at conception—but that’s not how biology works. In this mini episode, I break down the science of gestational development, debunk the dangerous myth of "sex at conception," and explain how this misinformation fuels anti-trans and anti-choice policies.

I also unpack Trump’s 2025 executive orders targeting reproductive rights, gender-affirming care, and public health. What do these laws mean for trans and nonbinary people? How do they impact abortion access? And how can we fight back?

Amidst the frustration, I'm also bringing a message of hope and solidarity because science, community, and advocacy are on our side.

Check my discount codes, ask a question, or reach out on beyondthebedroom.org

To cheer us all up, Birna reacts to some fun and quirky questions from r/sex on Reddit. Topics include cockwarming, post-orgy guilt, and a drunk best friend begging to see a couple's sex tape. 

For show notes, articles, and transcripts check out beyondthebedroom.org 

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Birna reviews the film "Babygirl" and discusses the kinky themes and layered characters. Plus, listeners's questions about communication and whether our childhoods can shape what we're into. 

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Birna reviews intimate resolutions submitted by listeners. Topics include better solo play, sober sex, honest communication, and much more. Plus, she shares her own resolutions for the year, including how to slow down her sex life. 

Check out beyondthebedroom.org for show notes, discount codes, and how to submit anonymous questions or voicemails for the podcast.

To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on any purchase. My favorites are Ollie, Puff, and Flick. Treat yourself in the new year and support Beyond the Bedroom!

This special bonus episode is full of holiday-themed listener questions, plus Birna's sex predictions for the new year!

Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org

To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase

Check out other links and submit a question and your new year's resolution: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

What should you do if you got the HPV vaccine but then had an abnormal pap? How do you gift lingerie without sending the wrong message?  In this episode, Birna breaks down new HPV data, lists the do’s and don’ts of gifting sexy items, &  helps a listener talk to his girlfriend about her less-than-stimulating oral skills.

Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org

To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase

Check out other links and submit a question or confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

What counts as unprotected if we both have vaginas? How do I handle a harness? Is scissoring real??

This week is all about vulva-to-vulva action, but you don't need to be a participant to enjoy this episode! Whether you're a seasoned pro, a curious newbie, or a total outsider with questions, I'll answer your questions all about V2V, lesbian, sapphic sex. 

Longer show notes and transcriptions can be found on beyondthebedroom.org

To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase

Check out other links and submit a question or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

Masks, tentacles, and roleplay, oh my! 

This mini-episode also answers listener questions re: sex magic, monster toys, and fantasizing about something against your values (spooky!!)

To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick, Ollie, or any other purchase

Check out other links and submit a question or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

Is it just me, or are there ads for erectile dysfunction meds everywhere lately? I investigate what this cultural shift means for male sexuality in the US. Plus, I answer listener questions about female Viagra, performance anxiety, and gimmicky ED supplements. 

To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on Flick or any other purchase!

Check out other links and submit a questions or Halloween confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

Challengers hit theaters and suddenly everyone wants two boyfriends and tennis lessons, and I don't blame them. I give my two cents on the film (minimal spoilers—don't worry!), discuss whether Gen Z really hates sex scenes, and answer questions about DP, sexting, and "overperforming" in bed. 

Recorded at Studio Friends in Tribeca, NYC 

To get a discount on my favorite sex toys, use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com on any purchase. Ollie and Puff are my top picks from Unbound! 

Check out other links, send me a question, and submit a confession: https://linktr.ee/bbirna

So, you've tried everything, but you're still not "getting there." In this episode, you'll learn about the possible causes of female anorgasmia and how to make adjustments to facilitate pleasure. 

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Find me on IG, Threads, and Tiktok @bbirna 

Check out more (chat with me on Sunroom!) or submit anon confessions and questions at linktr.ee/bbirna

I discuss the history of the prosthetic scrotum I saw at the spy museum, which sent me down a rabbit hole of sexual relations in intel operations. 

Plus: evolutionary theories on curved penises, why caffeine makes some people super horny, and my biggest dating "icks" 

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Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on my favorite sex toys! Ollie + Bender are amazing. 

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Find me on IG, Threads, and Tiktok @bbirna 

Check out more (chat with me on Sunroom!) or submit anon confessions and questions at linktr.ee/bbirna

Another cozy Q&A episode answering anonymous questions about penetration, flogging, negotiating something sexy, and the relationship between vaping and ED. A mixed bag of topics with plenty of personal details and hot takes dotted throughout. 

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Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on some of the best sex toys on the market 

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Find me on IG, Threads, and Tiktok @bbirna 

Check out more or submit anon confessions and questions at linktr.ee/bbirna

You asked, I answered. Except this time, I surveyed my friends (of the real-life and internet variety) to help me with some topics. Here's what my circle is chatting about this week: What are some modern-day don'ts when it comes to flirting? How can I tell if I want an open relationship or just enjoy the thrill of cheating? Why does prostate pleasure still weird us out? & more on condoms, lesbian sex, and daily life. 

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Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount! You know my favorite, Ollie, is an Unbound wand!

Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com for a discount on some amaaaazing grooming and body products! I love their trimmer. 

Find me on IG, Threads, and Tiktok @bbirna 

Check out more or submit anon confessions and questions at linktr.ee/bbirna

What's it like running a sex shop? I sat down with my former boss, Saga Lluvia, owner of the sex toy store Losti in Iceland, to chat about peddling pleasure. We answered listener questions about the types of customers we encountered, the toys we recommend, and so much more. 

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Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount on sex toys (my fav is Ollie, wand mentioned in this pod) and to support the pod

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Find Saga and Losti on instagram at @losti.is or buy online (within Iceland) at Losti.is 

Saga's podcast "Losti" is this vibe but in Icelandic (and we share erotic stories!) 

Love is Blind may be reality TV, but the conversations about birth control, sexual values, and red flags are sparking real-life debates. We recap the show up until the last two episodes and ask ourselves: Is love really blind, and is love always enough? 

Saga Lluvia, the owner of sex shop Losti, joins in as an avid watcher and gives her perspective as someone in the sex ed space. 

Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount and to support the pod. 

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This week is a mix of serious and fun topics (isn't it always?) as I work through how reproductive rights restrictions are limiting our desire. Plus, I swap stories with listeners while answering the question, "Have you ever had crazy sexual chemistry with someone, and it surprised you?" 

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Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com for a 15% discount on all products from Fur (grooming, body care, trimmers, and more!) 

Leave a message for the podcast through the link in my IG bio (@bbirna) or DM me there with any questions you want answered in a future episode. 

The spiciest episode of the relaunch (so far)!! Enjoy this special edition of Beyond the Bedroom, answering all the spicy, steamy, fun questions I get from listeners. Bonus: lightning round of my favorite confessions of the week. Happy Valentine's Day! 

Plus, how-to's on keeping sex tapes safe, buying a powerful toy, and initiating that threesome with an eager friend. 

Use code BBIRNA at Unboundbabes.com for a discount and support the podcast (products mentioned this episode: Bender & Ollie)  

Use code BBIRNA at furyou.com for a 15% discount on all products from Fur (grooming, body care, trimmers, and more!) 

Leave a message for the podcast through the link in my IG bio (@bbirna) or DM me there with any questions you want answered in a future episode. 

This episode is all about ejaculation; I discuss both how it happens and how people feel about it. Does pineapple really improve the taste? Why do people shoot it at different speeds? Are breeding kinks real? What's the deal with blue balls? All of these listener questions are answered & more. 

Leave a message for the podcast through the link in my IG bio (@bbirna) or DM me there with any questions you want answered in a future episode. 

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Welcome back! I discuss the public perceptions of squirting by diving into my comment section and finding the nuance of "hate sex." 

Use code BBIRNA at Unbound to support the pod and shop with a discount! Products mentioned: Ollie (wand) and Puff (suction toy) 

Find me on socials @bbirna (IG, Tiktok, Threads) 

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Why did period underwear company Thinx get sued? Are my menstrual products toxic? And what the F are PFAS? In this episode, I answer these questions and more as it relates to the ongoing class action lawsuit against Thinx. I also give my advice as someone working in reproductive public health and who owned a few pairs myself. 

This podcast episode is sponsor/ad free. If you’d like to support the pod, check out linktr.ee/bbirna for my links, or pay a visit of beyondthebedroom.org 

Choose from four flirty games to try for free at beyondthebedroom.org/games 

IG for the pod: beyondbedroompodcast 

All personal socials: bbirna 

Have a sex question? Email me bbsexed@gmail.com 

What pulled you in, and what pushed you away? Is an orgasm a requirement for a second go-around? I review my audience's poll answers and share some fun stories about first-time hookups gone wrong. 

Use code BIRNA10 for 10% off your Maude purchase at getmaude.com

Learn more about your sexual wellbeing at beyondthebedroom.org 

Check out my Instagram and tiktok @bbirna, follow the pod @beyondbedroompodcast for updates on new episodes. 

Mal joins me as we share some fun yet insightful commentary on how corporations take up space during Pride Month. Use code BIRNA10 for 10% off your Maude purchase at getmaude.com

Learn more about your sexual wellbeing at beyondthebedroom.org 

Check out mal at @malcolmaldrich and me at @bbirna, follow the pod @beyondbedroompodcast for updates on new episodes. 

Hold on- an app that can give your strap on an erection?? When I heard about the VDOM I knew I had to have Glenise on the show and pick her brain. We chat about sex AI, how to engineer a sex toy, and how Atlanta shaped the development of her groundbreaking device. 

Pre-order or learn more about Glenise at: thevdom.com

They are on Instagram @the.vdom 

Check me out @bbirna or @beyondbedroompodcast 

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Do men want sex more than women? Do they actually bond with their partners less? Let's dive into some myths about men, as dismantling them makes sex way better (for all of us). Support this podcast and get a discount at getmaude.com with code BIRNA10 

Check out my sex ed courses: beyondthebedroom.org 

Book a session with me: birna.net 

Scottie Jeanette joins me on Trans Day of Visibility to shed light on coming out as trans after years of a gut-wrenching journey.  Check out her TedX Talk, books, and more on https://www.zuzubean.com/

Join me in celebrating Transgender Day of Visibility by checking out glaad.org/transgender/resources or matching my donation to Sylvia Rivera Law Project. 

Contact me at birna.net 

Check out my free ten-day program at beyondthebedroom.org 

I chat with artist and breakout OF star Susie Stellar about pussy eating, polyamory, the politics of squirting, and more - you don’t want to miss this juicy episode! 

Her Links: Twitter, onlyfans, and TikTok (google Susie Stellar for more)

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What happens at pelvic floor physical therapy? BTW- you can now watch this episode on youtube! I'll also chat about if penis size really matters, what my male clients are dealing with, and the latest sex ed drama here in Iceland (we need a "real housewives" show here stat). Use my code BIRNA10 at getmaude.com for a discount on something juicy. 

We can't always predict the future, but sometimes it's good to take off those rose-tinted glasses and see those warning signs. I open up about red flags I regret not noticing, along with some things to look out for in your own behavior! 10-day program: Beyond the Bedroom Book a session with me: birna.net BIRNA10 at Maude: getmaude.com Foria Wellness sex cbd: Use this link Free couple's game: BB Games

Worst first date stories, hooking up with exes, and sex toy advent calendars? Plus, a HUGE announcement at the end of the episode with my husband! BIRNA10 at Maude Shop Foria here Play couples' games here, beyondthebedroomgames.com   Book a session with me: birna.net 

Everything you want to know about boobie pleasure- with a special guest, Mal! Does breastfeeding change your nipple pleasure desires? How much sensation should I feel in my nipples? Why do men get left out of the nipple pleasure convo? When should I get a breast exam? Listen to this week's episode for some insight on all things chest pleasure.  Cultural commentator Mal can be found on ig @malcolmaldrich Shop Foria with my affiliate link here Shop Maude: use code BIRNA10 Instagram: @bbirna Reach out for a private session: birna.net 

The sexiest episode ever? I'm talking all things dirty talk this week! What matters more: what we say or how we say it? How do I find my sex voice? Plus, I share the phrases that give me butterflies... This week's homework is juicy, I promise.  Shop Maude Beyond the Bedroom Games Birna.net

Can you have sex with a ghost? What is a succubus? I share some spooky sex fetishes, find a book about demon sex on amazon, share my listeners' Halloween sex stories... along with my own personal experience with a set of vampire fangs. Use code BIRNA10 at getmaude.com Check out Beyond the Bedroom Games Book me or sub to the mailing list here: Birna.net

Season 3 of Beyond the Bedroom is more personal, edgy, and way more... me. Does the clitoris really have 8000 nerve endings? Is my fantasy normal? What even happens at a kink class? Use my code BIRNA10 to shop at Maude (product mentioned: Rise Plus)   Play online at Beyond the Bedroom Games Book a session with me at birna.net

Bonus content! I play 10 minutes of a bonus. I talk about my journey through Masturbation May so far, discuss the results from the Instagram polls, and give some advice on how to talk about self-touch. Check out more of my work on my site or my Instagram @beyondbedroompodcast 

What did this week’s poll questions have in common? They’re common topics often left out of traditional sex ed models but are so vital for young adults (and everyone) to learn. Voting in the poll isn’t a prerequisite for listening, I’ll go over the results and share how I voted along with my input. Shop Maude with my code BIRNA10 for a discount and to support the podcast. Resources are all listed in this week’s show notes, available on my site here. Check out my work at Birna.net and @beyondbedroompodcast to get in touch. 

Do you have go-to moves for oral? Have you been on medications that affected your arousal? Have you thought about someone else during sex? I review the results of these questions I posed to my audience and more, while I reveal how I voted with some sex-educator advice. Use my code BIRNA10 at Maude to support. For show notes and links head to birna.net/podcast or click here. 

Bonus episode this week! I have written and organized so much for sex workers' rights, it's about time I record an episode about it- and I couldn't think of a better time than now, as I respond to Iceland's national discourse and debate about onlyfans. Main takeaway: if you are against sex work, provide compassion and resources and listen to sex workers' demands. Resources listed: Thriving in Sex Work by Lola Davina, my reading list on birna.net, and you can use my code BIRNA10 for Maude here

It's time for hot topics again! This week, I asked my audience to vote on a series of questions tackling intimacy. Do you find giving and receiving equally as pleasurable? Do you zone out during intimacy? Doing it on the counter: hot or not? I add my own two cents along with some personal experiences as I discuss the results. Use code BIRNA10 for 10% off of your purchase at Maude, click here to shop! Check me out on Instagram, @beyondbedroompodcast 

Instagram killed the podcast star. RIP bbirna, but you can keep up with my antics @ beyondbedroom podcast on Instagram. I’m hoping to get my account back, but in this unfiltered and unedited episode, I chat about censorship, FOSTA/SESTA, and why the F my IG was taken down. Use code BIRNA10 for 10% your entire order on Maude: getmaude.com Check out my site birna.net to sign up for my newsletter 

What is your favorite sex scene? In this episode, I chat with Chelsey, an intimacy coordinator and sex educator in training, about what really goes down behind the scenes. We discuss what intimacy coordination or coaching is (and isn’t!), what they feel is missing from the industry, and even dissect our favorite steamy scenes.  To find out more about Chelsey, head to mxcmorgan.com and for more on me, head to birna.net 

Released in time for Valentine's Day, but applicable all year round... I'm chatting about love languages. I'll go into the history of the term, the science behind it, and how each love language applies to your sex life. Yes, this episode of Beyond the Bedroom goes backward (but isn't that always more fun?) as I give some tips on how each way to express love can show up under the sheets. Check out some bonus personal content on Patreon.com/bbirna and get in touch with me @bbirna on IG. 

For this episode, I put my lab coat back on as I go into the science behind the effects of cannabis and the ways in which it can impact our sex lives. I'll review what your cannabinoid system does, what the deal is with CBD lube, and why there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach. Check out patreon.com/bbirna to hear bonus content (scandalous story!! lol, my personal experiences with weed). As always, you can get in touch on my website birna.net or on my Instagram @bbirna 

This week, I have my friend Mal (they/them) on the show to discuss the connections between modern relationships and social media. Have you ever looked up a potential date's social media? What were you looking for? We delve into these questions plus topics like jealousy, catfishing, and more. This is my first episode after launching my Patreon, so go show some love. If you want to check it out, head to patreon.com/bbirna or my website, birna.net to show your support and gain access to exclusive content.