The version of you that is free from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting is one that feels confident, creative, compassionate, and calm.

These are not just pretty words; this is who you are at your core (as research has discovered)!

Now the question is, how do we connect more to this part of ourselves?
And how does picking, pulling, and biting both hold you back and help you get there?

This is where we turn our greatest struggle into our greatest teacher, and we don't do it through guesswork but through using well-researched therapeutic models (that actually help).

Listen in to learn:

• A powerful therapeutic model for chronic picking, pulling and biting that isn't CBT or HRT. 
• How to turn picking/pulling/biting into a tool for healing
• Who you are at your core (as research has discovered) 
• How to connect to these incredible core qualities in a tangible and practical way

Resources:

No Bad Parts by Richard Schwarz (book)

Clarity: Focusing on the 8C's of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy

IFS Website

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Did you know there is a specific brain function that is largely responsible for your chronic picking, pulling, and biting?

That's right, you're not broken. You never were. It's your brain over-functioning.

In fact, it's a really common struggle in this modern, overstimulated world.

Look at all the people who are overworking, overeating, overgiving, overexercising, overthinking, overgrooming.

We're all chronically overwhelmed and addicted to it.

And it's because of something called intermittent reinforcement.

In this episode, I share with you how this particular brain function is one of the key drivers behind your BFPA* + tangible steps to rewiring your brain.

These steps don't require force, are backed by science, and will pull on your heartstrings. Not to mention, they will actually help you to move forward towards freedom.

Journaling prompts from the episode

"Needs" list. Which one calls to you?

• Relief
• Escape 
• Comfort
• Stimulation
• Certainty
• Control
• Numbing
• Achievement
• Connection

Whatever stood out to you in the list above, ask yourself these Qs:

1. Why is that need so important to you right now?
2. What would it give you to make the space to meet that need for yourself?
3. How might this impact those around you?
4. What will it cost you to not make the space to meet that need?
5. What are 3 tangibles things you can do to meet that need in your life right now?

References & Resources

• Determinants of Addiction: Neurobiological, Behavioral, Cognitive, and Sociocultural Factors
https://www.sciencedirect.com/book/monograph/9780323905787/determinants-of-addiction

• Intermittent Reinforcement: Why Toxic Relationships Feel Addictive
https://reachlink.com/advice/relations/intermittent-reinforcement/

• Engineered Highs: Reward Variability and Frequency as Potential Prerequisites of Behavioural Addiction
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0306460323000217

• Wired for Want: How Dopamine Drives the New Epidemic of Everyday Addictions
https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Zoe-Wyatt/publication/391756047_Wired_for_Want_How_Dopamine_Drives_the_New_Epidemic_of_Everyday_Addictions

• Stuck in a Toxic Cycle? This Psychological Pattern Might Be Why
https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-why

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Chronic skin picking, hair pulling, & nail biting are the result of a disregulated nervous system.

So it only makes sense that part of healing involves learning how to regulate it.

This means learning how to slow down. AKA - Rest.

Easy peasy, right? Right??

Unfortunately, for people like you and me, we didn't really learn how to switch off.

Our system is constantly on go, and so it never feels like the right time to stop, or when you do manage it, it's accompanied with anxiety, restlessness, and guilt.

Don't panic. You're not broken. You just need an actual system and practice that can help you to learn how it's done. 

In this episode, we dive deeper into:

• The science behind why you can't slow down
• Where the real problem lies
• Experience a 5-minute guided somatic practice to help you learn how to switch off, slow down, and rest.

This has allowed me to go from a chronic overworker who has no time for self-care or leisure unless forced, to someone who now has an abundance of time for the things that make her heart sing... And I'm even more successful, efficient, and effective than when I was constantly on "go".

Allowing yourself to rest does not mean you get lazy.

Listen-in to heal xx

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

It's time to pull back the veil of what it's like to have healed from chronic skin picking so that we can set some realistic expectations and allow you to see how truly achievable it is!

Ready to be inspired?

PS: There's a new function available to you 🥳 Above, you'll notice there's a "send us a text message" button. By clicking on this button you will be able to send a message straight to Raffaela's podcast account!

This is a really easy and simple way to share your thoughts on how you enjoyed this episode or this podcast as a whole or even ask questions! Raffaela is looking forward to hearing from you.

Enjoy🧡

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If you're struggling post picking, pulling, or biting session this episode is for you 💜.

In this episode, Raffaela guides you through a powerful, healing meditation to move through the frustration, sadness, shame, disappointment, embarrassment, and exhaustion we so often experience after a BFRB* session.

Here, the foundation will be laid for a transformative perspective shift that will allow you to move through these heavy moments with more ease and grace.

If you've already listened to this episode and you'd like to skip to the meditation here are the time markers:
Meditation start - 7:00 mins
Meditation end - 20:45 mins

If this is the first time you're listening, make sure you listen from start to finish! There are many golden nuggets that surround this meditation that will make it even more impactful.

Let Raffaela know what your experience was! She's patiently awaiting your mail 🧡 Send your experience here: connect@raffaelamarie.com

*BFRB: Body Focused Repetitive Behaviour

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If you've ever noticed that the urge to pick, pull, or bite at your body increases when you're "under the weather" and you'd like that NOT to be the case - then this episode is for you!

As always, Raffaela has a simple yet effective strategy to share with you on how you can navigate being sick so that you can reduce the frequency and severity of picking, pulling, or biting sessions.

Because we don't have to be at our best to make progress!

This is a real, honest, human approach that is easy to understand and sheds light on what might be going on in your mind when it comes to being sick and self-care.

This episode is deep, gentle, and practical.

Perfect for when you're not at your best.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

This episode is for those of us who struggle to say "no"...

Those of us who feel over-committed to others and under-committed to themselves...

Who feel like their life is chaotic and overwhelming...

If you're about ready to "put your foot down" and make some changes then listen-in to this episode!

Raffaela shares how incredibly essential strong boundaries are if you want to break free from a BFRB* PLUS she shares a simple yet deeply impactful strategy to identify WHERE you need boundaries and WHAT that boundary should look like.

It's time to put your foot down!

Here's the link to check out the survey mentioned in this episode:
https://thrivingcenterofpsych.com/blog/setting-healthy-boundaries/

*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviour

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

WARNING: If you're looking for a "quick fix" this episode is not for you.

Let's be real, if preventing falling into yet another picking, pulling, or biting session were easy... this episode wouldn't be necessary.

If we could "just stop" we would.

Most information and support you'll find on managing and healing from a BFRB are simply a collection of creative ways to AVOID your BFRB which only works for so long... until we snap and relapse back into the behaviour we have been avoiding.

There's a far more effective path that will give you back your power and help you to gradually reduce the length, severity, and frequency of BFRB* sessions until it is no longer a part of your life.

All is revealed in this episode!

*BFRB - Body Focused Repetitive Behaviour

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Find out on this episode how your attachment style has EVERYTHING to do with how you will heal from your body focused repetitive behaviour...

And get some solid advice on using this mind-blowing information to your advantage so you can make genuine progress in finding your freedom from this behaviour!

The answers you're looking for go so much deeper than the surface of your skin...

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Are you feeling lost, frustrated, disappointed? 

Knowing what to do after a picking or pulling session can be hard.

In this episode, let Raffaela guide you through the real-time process of caring for yourself after a picking or pulling session so that you can move through it with more ease.

This process will help you to reduce the severity and frequency of sessions in the long term.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Have you ever felt like you've made progress in healing from skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting...  and then the next day you feel like you're moving 10 steps backward?

This happens again and again and it feels like an exhausting, devastating, and painful cycle full of intense highs and lows that are somehow outside your control...

There is a better way to deal with this that no one is talking about EXCEPT right here in this episode!

Learn how to manage yourself in the lows so that you can move through these moments with more grace and gain a powerful perspective shift that will change how you view yourself and your BFRB forever!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Odds are you've probably already tried replacing skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting with something else, or you've at least been thinking about it. There's a reason why it never really works how we'd like it to. Find out why in this episode!

Shift your perspective on what it means to "replace" a BFRB* and learn 3 unconventional yet highly effective methods to help you do so.

* Body Focused Repetitive Behaviour 

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Adam Hudson is not only a great friend but also an incredible coach, dedicating himself to supporting women in their journey to reconnect with themselves and reclaim their personal power. His work extends to a mental health facility, where he assists individuals in recovery from drug and alcohol addiction as well as eating disorders.

In this episode, we delve into the deeper layers of addiction, including behavioral addictions like chronic skin picking. We shed light on the humanness underlying these struggles, emphasizing that, at our core, we are all fundamentally alike.

Ultimately, we explore the universal human experience of healing from addiction - great and small. Tune in to discover the essential components of this healing journey that all of us must undertake if we are to find freedom.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

We cannot have true safety, intimacy, and depth without hard conversations.

Yet many of us struggle to know how to have a hard conversation and, when we try, it just seems to make things worse rather than better.

So what's the point then?

The point is this: “The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.” - Esther Perel

The quality of how you communicate determines the quality of your relationships.

If your relationship is not where you want it to be, there is a high chance some issues are being swept under the rug in favour of "peace."

It's time to learn how to have hard conversations so that you can not only cultivate a deeper sense of safety and stability within your relationship, but also within yourself.

Not coincidentally, this is a big component of healing from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting too!

Here's what we cover in this episode:

🌟The 3 styles of couples when it comes to conflict 
🌟5 steps to resolve conflict and bring you and your partner closer together 
🌟Learn how to move beyond the biggest barriers in having hard conversations - your loved one's reactions
🌟Compatibility Dealbreakers - Read the signs of a relationship that simply won't work 

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Is there a link between BFRBs and ADHD?

There is! This episode explores how this impacts you and how you can become the master of your own mind and behaviour through ditching societal "norms" and learning how to live for yourself.

Raffaela explores this topic through sharing her story of learning to live harmoniously with ADHD and how it helped her to recover from chronic skin picking.

If you have ADHD or suspect you have ADHD, and you're also on your healing journey from a BFRB, then this empowering and inspiring episode is for you!

Here's the book that was mentioned:
The Girl Who Fell from the Sky  - by Emma Carey
https://www.emcarey.com/products/the-girl-who-fell-from-the-sky

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Hear it from someone who has lived it!

Athena is a former client of Raffaela and mother of 2 beautiful daughters, one of whom struggles with chronic skin picking (14yrs). This is her story of healing and transformation, going from being anxious and not knowing what to do to becoming a source of calm and secure guidance for her daughter as she embarks on her own healing journey.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Does your child chronically pick their skin or pull out their hair?

Are you a dedicated parent who wants to learn how to best support them in healing and leaving this self-destructive behavior behind? (Probably, or you wouldn't be reading this)

Then this is the episode for you!

Listen in and learn what you should and SHOULDN'T do and the KEY factors in helping your child heal from a BFRB. It's more instinctual than you think.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Learn the brain science behind motivation and how you can use it to become 
consistent in healing from your BFRB! (body focused repetitive behaviour life chronic skin picking, hear pulling, nail biting)

We all know the struggle of "consistency" on this healing journey.

It's like we KNOW what we should probably be doing but how do we stick to it long enough to create the positive change we're looking for???

In this episode, you'll learn how to become consistent by working WITH that incredible mind of yours so that you can start creating tangible growth and the transformation you've always desired.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Acne is a very real trigger for those of us with dermatillomania...

The great news is, you don't have to have perfect skin BEFORE you find freedom from skin picking!

In this episode, I share with you a highly effective strategy to help you pave the path to freedom DESPITE what your skin is doing.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Rest assured, if we didn't experience stress we wouldn't be picking apart our skin or pulling out our hair!

In this episode we dive into the difference between regular stress and chronic stress and how you can become more resilient to it so that you can break free from this self-destructive behaviour and TRANSFORM your life.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviour*
*AKA = chronic skin picking, hair pulling, nail biting, and cheek biting*

We often think that if we could "just stop" picking our skin or pulling our hair that life will get exponentially better...

But instead of "just stopping" we find ourselves stuck in the cycle of wishing we could, trying, relapsing, and asking ourselves WHY we can't seem to manage it.

In this episode we uncover the WHY and then we dive into HOW you can begin to break free from this cycle so you can release toxic shame and get unstuck!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviour*
*AKA = chronic skin picking, hair pulling, nail biting, and cheek biting*

Questions people with a BFRB ask themselves...

WHY did I develop this disorder?
WHY can't I "just stop"??
WHERE do I start with healing???

All these questions can be answered by understanding the origins of your BFRB.

With this knowledge, we can cultivate curiosity, compassion, and understanding for OURSELVES, which is the FUEL we need to truly make progress!

It will transform your life.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You've tried gloves, covering mirrors, fidget toys, and maybe even CBT or habit reversal, but none of them really seem to get you the results you're looking for.

The problem is that they don't address the root cause.

Emotion is the driving force behind this behaviour, and when we don't address it, it continues to rule our lives.

This looks like urges you can't resist and frustrating patterns of procrastination, self-sabotage, and impulsivity that perpetually get in the way of you living.

Why? Because you have been trying to control your behaviour rather than work with the emotion that's fueling it.

In this episode, I will walk you through a practice that allows you to address what's under the surface.

It will not only empower you to take tangible steps forward in your healing but will transform how you show up in your relationships and with yourself.

This is healing.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

It's infuriating and confusing.

Why in the world, after a great day, do you end up ruining it with a big old session of picking, pulling, or biting?

The answer is actually pretty simple - you're disregulated.

AND the best way you've learnt how to calm yourself down is to squish your emotions back down into their box rather than feel them fully.

The problem is, knowing the "how" of meditation, breathwork, journaling, and going for a walk doesn't help you to know the "how" of feeling fully.

Logical understanding is not enough. There needs to be an emotional connection and understanding between your brain and your body.

In this episode:

• You'll cultivate a deep understanding of why you pick on a good day
• The broader consequences of squashing your emotions
• and I walk you through how to feel fully through cultivating a connection between your mind and body

Enjoy 💛

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You've tried time and time again to "just stop" picking, pulling, and biting at your body.

But if willpower were really the solution, something would have changed a LONG time ago.

So either you're a broken human being with no hope of ever feeling better or living better...

Or you're simply going about this the wrong way.

The first one we fear to be the truth. The second one is the actual truth.

The problem is not that you are a fundamentally flawed human being. It's that you've misunderstood how your brain works, why you engage in this behaviour, and what it takes to heal from it.

And to be fair, you haven't really "misunderstood"; you've been misinformed or haven't yet had guidance from someone who deeply understands the intricacies of what you're going through.

That absolutely makes things harder. No wonder you feel stuck!

It's time to remedy this and share with you what you're really searching for when you pick, pull, and bite at your body so that you can finally move forward in a way that lasts.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You've spent months, years, if not decades, trying to figure out why you pick, pull, or bite at your body...

And yet you STILL do it.

Why?

What's the missing piece to this infuriating puzzle?

It's actually pretty straightforward, though I wouldn't say it's easy, but neither is feeling stuck after all this time.

Let me tell you exactly what this missing piece is, and how to implement it into your life in the most effective, life-changing way.

Hint - it's about emotions, and the connection between your mind and body.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If there's one experience we can all agree on...

It's the feeling of hoping things will get better.

Hoping that this time will be different. That you'll stop picking. You'll let your skin heal, and you'll finally be free.

Except that never happens, and we find ourselves feeling afraid to hope and try because we've been let down so many times in the past.

But did you know that this is a cycle? And that this cycle has a name and a purpose much bigger than you would imagine?

And when you understand what's really going on, you can begin to set yourself free and feel the empowerment that's waiting beneath this perpetual turmoil.

You'll find out in the first 60 seconds of this episode what the name of this cycle is, and over the remaining 15 minutes, you'll find out what you can do about it.

Good listening and Godspeed!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

The #1 issue I work on with my clients is feeling shame and self-criticism after a picking, pulling, or biting session.

Why do I work with clients on this?

It's not just about feeling better; it's because how you treat yourself in these moments directly impacts the length, severity, and frequency of picking sessions!

When you learn how to lean into real compassion rather than criticism in these moments, you will take huge strides in your healing journey.

But there's a problem: most people have a deep-seated feeling that "Being kind to myself after I pick just excuses the behaviour," which holds them back from making this crucial progress.

If you resonate with this, let's work through this roadblock together so that you can access the next level in your healing journey.

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Here's the blog post I mentioned - Is self-compassion just making excuses? The science says no

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

I've healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking and have spent the past 5 years helping others, like you, to do the same.

These are the 6 most life-changing lessons I learnt about healing that I see continue to make a difference in the lives of my clients and those I speak to within this incredible community.

They're grounded in science and a deep understanding of what it's like to struggle and then heal from a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour.

Listen in to find out which you feel most drawn to because I guarantee it's probably what you need right now to take the next step in your healing.

Don't forget to click on the link below to submit your FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling assessment! 

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Stress is a big root cause of chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting.

With this in mind, a straightforward solution to being free from these behaviours would be: remove stress = FREEDOM!

It's partly true but mostly a total lie and deeply unhelpful.

Yes, there are probably some things in your life that cause unnecessary stress that you'd be better off removing...

BUT, we cannot remove stress altogether and trying to do so only causes more of it.

So what do we do?

We turn inward.

I can tell you that, without a doubt, my life is objectively more stressful than it was 5 years ago... and yet, 5 years ago I was in the throes of chronic skin picking.

Not only do I now have 10x the responsibility and pressure, but I also love myself and enjoy my life 100x more.

Let me share with you the exact steps I took to create this very real and very realistic inner freedom that you were born to have too.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

After this, if you want a guided meditation on how to drop into your body, listen to episode 108: Why You Can't Slow Down + Somatic Practice to Show You How. 

To truly regulate your emotions, you need to get out of your head and into your body.

The frustrating thing is that even if we understand this concept on a logical level, we can still be left feeling lost about how to implement it effectively and consistently.

This is because emotional regulation is a felt experience, not a thought process.

You've got to stop thinking about how to feel and instead allow yourself to experience it.

Like jumping out of a plane and floating to the ground far below. You can't truly appreciate the full experience unless you do it. Anything else is just living in our imagination rather than reality. 

So let's take that leap together and learn:

• The brain system that keeps you trapped in your head
• How the purpose of this system can be rooted in trauma
• What your inner child has to do with it all
• The steps to getting out of your head and into your body

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Hope is hard when you've tried for years to stop engaging in a behaviour that you logically understand is not good for you and yet seem to have no control over.

It's hard when you fail again and again to "be better."

I've spoken to so many incredible people inside this community who desperately want to hope that healing and freedom from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting is possible...

But their experiences have taught them otherwise.

Let me share with you why hope feels so elusive and what you can do to rebuild it in simple, easy steps so that you can move forward in your healing journey towards the life and the person you dream of being!

I believe you can heal. Let me help you feel that it's possible too.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Positive affirmations truly can help you to heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting BUT...

You've got to go about creating them in the right way.

Most people don't, and so they end up with affirmations that err on the side of toxic positivity. They give the "ick" and make people believe that affirmations are just useless fluff with no substance.

Toxic positivity is useless fluff, but true affirmations are deeply powerful and will help you to stay grounded as you navigate your way through the storms of healing.

• They're a reminder of your strength when you feel like you have none.
• They're a light in the dark when you feel lost.
• They're a warming touch when self-belief feels cold and distant.

In this episode, avoid the common mistakes most people make, ground into your greatness, and learn how to build your own unique, healing affirmations through a deep exploration of you.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

We all have a few abandoned and neglected HEALTHY habits weighing on the back of our minds...

"I should journal more, meditate more, exercise more, eat better, or finally get back into that hobby."

We know they'd be good for us if we just did them more regularly.

If thinking about these neglected habits makes you feel kinda shitty about yourself, then this episode was recorded for you.

Find out what might be the real culprit holding you back from following through and what you can do about it that will truly make a difference to your life.

It's not as complex as you might think!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

There's a 99% chance you've been in this trap.

In the three years I've been supporting people heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting, I have yet to meet someone who hasn't struggled with this too.

I did for years, and I still catch myself slipping into this self-sabotaging and degrading way of thinking.

If you want to feel more content, present, and fulfilled in your day-to-day life, make sure you listen to this because navigating this mental trap is a MUST!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

This is what really works.

And it's got nothing to do with willpower or expensive therapeutic treatment.

I discovered this at one of the lowest moments in my healing journey and, to this day, it continues to change my life for the better.

Because the truth is, you're not struggling with chronic skin picking, hair pulling, or nail biting - you're struggling with shame.

And I guarantee, the skin picking became a problem because you needed help coping with the shame (and stress and overwhelm), NOT the other way round.

To truly heal - feel better in ourselves and finally be able to relax and just "be" - we need to approach healing differently.

What I share with you in this episode is the approach that makes all the difference.

I can't wait for you to gain this invaluable tool!

Questions from this episode to save in your phone:
- What do I need right now?

- What is this moment trying to teach me?

- Is there anything I'm avoiding doing or saying in my life right now?

- Is there a hard conversation I know I need to have?

- Is there a boundary I'm not setting that my heart is telling me I need, but I'm afraid to act on?

- Where am I putting too much pressure on myself?

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Most people set really crappy goals for the new year and wonder why, by mid-March, they seem to be no further than they were on January 1st.

I personally don't love the idea of New Year's resolutions, but I absolutely love goal setting and teaching others how to do it effectively because goal setting is a skill that will genuinely transform your life!

In this episode, I share with you:

1. The top 3 areas you need to focus on to heal from chronic skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting in 2026.
2. How to turn them into personalised goals
3. And the absolutely vital components of goal setting you must learn to ensure you follow through, stay consistent, and actually create the change you wish to see.

Everything I share with you in this episode is science-based methods and skills that I'm constantly using in my day-to-day life.

Without them, I wouldn't be who I am today, and my clients wouldn't be getting the incredible results that they do.

Listen in to set yourself up for real change in 2026!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Trying to get them to “just stop” isn’t working. In fact, it’s probably making things worse.

There is a right way and a wrong way to support someone with a chronic body-focused repetitive behaviour (BFRB). Unfortunately, there isn’t much information out there explaining what the right way actually is. That’s why I created this episode.

It’s short, because supporting your loved one effectively is much simpler than you might think.

You may even discover a thing or two about yourself while listening!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

It's not because of genetics, or because you lack willpower, or because you're just a malfunctioning human being.

It's because you didn't learn this one vital skill.

This skill lies at the core of why you pick, pull, & bite and learning it is the most powerful and effective path to healing you can take.

Listen in to find out what this skill is, why you never learnt it, and how you can truly start!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

You'll be surprised how this is also making you pick, pull, and bite at your body...

Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, we lost that zest for life. Rather than waking up looking forward to the day, we wake up not wanting to get out of bed, dreading what the day might bring, or feeling an underlying sense of urgency, like we're already behind.

Here's what the solution is not...

It's not doing more and trying harder, or quitting your job, selling all your belongings, and moving to a cabin in the woods.

The solution is not so drastic or dramatic.

In truth, it lies in learning how to slow down despite the never-ending to-do list.

It's easier said than done, but when you learn the simple yet powerful practice inside this episode, it will feel so much more achievable than ever before.

Oh, and it will help you to reduce picking, pulling and biting.

Listen in to find out how and why!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

When you STOP venting, you'll take huge steps towards accessing freedom from chronic skin picking and hair pulling.

And when I say "venting", I mean the cathartic act of complaining or offloading about your problems onto a loving and listening ear.

We've all done it/do it. Don't even try to deny it!

I struggled with chronic skin picking for 15 years, and venting was one of those hidden behaviours that was holding me back.

Is it doing to you what it did to me?

Find out in this episode what venting really is, how it might be affecting you in BIG ways, and how to transform this cathartic yet limiting behaviour into healthy communication, wholesome emotional regulation, and powerful growth.

While you may not be able to "just stop" picking and pulling right now. Many other areas of growth are within your control. This is one of them!

Listen in to heal 💛.

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

This is why the typical treatments for OCD - CBT and habit reversal - just don't seem to work.

You've been falling through the cracks of ill-fitted treatment and blaming yourself for being a hopelessly broken human being.

It's not your fault.

You've just been misinformed and going about healing the wrong way.

If this resonates, then odds are you'll find hope and a path forward in this episode.

You'll learn:

🌟How a behaviour can become an addiction
🌟Where addiction comes from
🌟How you can heal the root cause + the three core components that facilitate this

Resources:

Intermittent Reinforcement - article
https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-why

In the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Mate - book
https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/617702.In_the_Realm_of_Hungry_Ghosts

Behavioral Addictions: Signs, Symptoms, and Treatment Options - article
https://americanaddictioncenters.org/behavioral-addictions

Introduction to Behavioral Addictions - study
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3164585/

The Difference Between an Addiction and a Compulsion - article
https://www.verywellmind.com/the-difference-between-an-addiction-and-a-compulsion-22240

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Skin picking, hair pulling, and nail biting won't stop without this vital piece.

I've spoken to hundreds of people like you in this community, and they all want the same thing: relief, a break, the space to be themselves without this behaviour constantly getting in their way, like a shackle around their legs or a thorn in their side.

What I've noticed is that this "vital piece" holds the key to their chains, and yet almost every person I speak to is missing it, OR they're not as connected to it as they could be.

What I'm about to share with you completely transformed my life at 15 years old and has continued to guide me ever since.

Listen in to find out what it is and be guided through a powerful exercise to help you access it for yourself today!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Are you making this big mistake too?

"When I stop picking, I'll be free, I'll be able to relax and just be."

Yes, finding freedom from skin picking and hair pulling will have a drastically positive impact on your life, BUT what most people describe as freedom is usually not based in reality and is actually keeping them stuck.

So is it truly possible to be free? Or have we got our heads in the clouds?

Listen in to find out.

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If you’ve been feeling moody, foggy, or struggling with PMS or menopause symptoms, this episode is going to shift the way you see your body.

My guest, Vanessa Kerr, is one of Australia’s most respected strength coaches and the owner of Hills Barbell Club. She’s also the NSW Head Coach for the High Performance Team and a team coach for the Australian Weightlifting Federation. Vanessa has spent over a decade proving that strength training doesn’t just transform your body, it transforms your hormones, confidence, and long-term health.

Together we unpack:
 💪 Why lifting weights is one of the most powerful tools for hormone balance
 🌙 How it supports women through perimenopause and menopause
 🧠 The truth about the “bulky” myth (and why it’s so hard to build muscle as a woman)
 ⚡ The connection between strength, mental health, and confidence
 🥤 What new research reveals about creatine and women’s brain + hormone health

Vanessa also shares practical advice for women who want to start lifting, from finding the right coach to learning how to listen to your body and train intuitively through different seasons of life.

Whether you’re 25 or 55, it’s never too late to build strength, stability, and confidence in your body.

✨ Listen now to discover how weight training can fix your hormone issues and help you feel like yourself again!

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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Most people try to “fix” skin picking or hair pulling by focusing on the behaviour, but that’s why we stay stuck in it.

In this episode, I share a radically different approach: how looking at your life as a whole can reveal the real root of your BFRB (body-focused repetitive behaviour) and what’s keeping you stuck in the cycle. You’ll walk away seeing your healing in a completely new light! One that’s grounded, empowering, and deeply personal.

Listen to discover:
 • Why surface-level tips don’t create sustainable results
 • The hidden stressors silently fueling your picking urges
 • How to begin healing in a way that actually lasts

💛 Plus: I share a special opportunity to receive a personalised holistic assessment. Available for a limited time only!

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🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics

📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist

🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Are evenings your weak spot for picking? You’re likely overstimulated, not "weak" or “failing.” 

In this episode, I break down why modern-day overload drains impulse control and heightens emotional reactivity, making nights the hardest. You’ll learn simple somatic practices to reduce daily overstimulation so you can arrive in the evening more grounded, present, and in control.

What you’ll learn

• How all-day head noise and nonstop “go” prime your brain for nighttime picking
• Why overstimulation hijacks the prefrontal cortex and amps the amygdala
• The micro-pause: a 5-second body check-in that builds regulation through your day
• The “doorway plan”: decide your first three actions before you get home
• Slow-the-body rituals that gently pull you out of autopilot in the evening

You don’t need more willpower. You need less overload and more presence. Grab my free guide below, Stop Chronic Skin Picking: 5 Somatic Exercises + 2 Insider Tips, and start feeling calmer tonight. If this helped, a quick 5-star review means a lot!

💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me

🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics

📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist

🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

Many strong, driven, and high-achieving women still find themselves holding back, worried about coming across as rude, arrogant, or “too much.”

In this conversation with Harriet Bratt, international speaker, trainer, Firewalk Guide, & global best-selling Co-Author, we explore why high-achieving women often silence themselves and how to reconnect with your authentic voice.

You’ll learn:
 • What “finding your voice” really means (and why it’s not a one-time event)
 • How early experiences shape your ability to speak up
 • The difference between authentic expression and emotional reaction
 • How to know when to share and when silence is self-respect
 • Why confidence grows through practice, not perfection

This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever been told you’re “too much,” “too loud,” or "too quiet."

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💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me

🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics

📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist

🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

If “just stop picking” hasn’t worked, this episode reveals why and what actually does.

I share how somatic practices helped me move from coping to healing, so even on hard days filled with stress, migraines, and breakouts, I no longer turn to picking. You’ll learn how reconnecting with your body builds emotional resilience and true self-trust.

What we cover:

• Why BFRBs are stress responses, not bad habits.
• What somatics are and how to practise them daily.
• The #1 mistake people make when starting somatic work.
• How to expand your emotional capacity and stay grounded.
• A powerful resource to help you heal from your BFRB!

Somatic healing isn’t a cure; it’s a relationship with yourself. Tune in to learn how to build it!

💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me

🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics

📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist

🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.

When you’re passionate about personal growth, it can feel frustrating if your partner isn’t on the same page. Many growth-minded people unknowingly make a mistake that actually pushes their partner away, sabotaging the very connection they want to build.

In this powerful conversation with women’s empowerment coach Adam Hudson, we explore what happens when one person in a relationship is growing and the other isn’t, why trying to “coach” or “fix” your partner doesn’t work, and the simple shift that creates real closeness instead.

What you’ll hear in this episode:

• Why growth in relationships often feels uneven (and how to navigate it)
• The #1 mistake that creates distance instead of connection
• How to balance compassion with clear boundaries
• Practical shifts that build deeper understanding and trust
• Why love thrives on acceptance, not control

If you’ve ever wondered why your partner pulls away the more you try to help, this episode will show you a better way to connect.

💌Share your story - Book your FREE BFPA* Support Call with me

🌟Download your FREE Guide to Stop Skin Picking Using Somatics

📝FREE Holistic Skin Picking & Hair Pulling Assessment - Join the waitlist

🎯Join the 7-Day Skin Picking Recovery Challenge

🙋‍♀️Send me a message here

My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.