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Adam finally gets put in the hot seat. On this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, Pris flips the script and grills Adam with rapid-fire, no-dodging questions about dating app reviews, his least sexy skill, jealousy, insecurity, and what really happened when they tried polyamory. It's raw, funny, and surprisingly honest ENM talk.

What's in this episode:

• Adam's brutally honest "dating app review" of himself
• His most useful (and least sexy) skill as a lifestyle husband
• The insecurities every guy feels early in the swinger lifestyle
• Why they tried poly, what they learned, and why they stopped
• How running The Bald Truth content keeps Adam "on the straight and narrow"
• Boundaries, jealousy, and how they navigate different connections in an open relationship

Join us live: Catch the FREE Beyond Monogamy livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — episodes, blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional.

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Upcoming event — Austin, TX: Swinger 101 Workshop at Forbidden Fruit on November 15th.

Upcoming event — Kansas City, MO: Krazy Winter Nights, February 19–21, 2027. Get tickets at krazykasbh.com and use discount code BEYOMONO for a nice little discount.

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Swinger lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy, and open relationship talk — this is Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris.

Ever feel like the swinger lifestyle has its own high school cafeteria? Adam & Pris are diving into the pecking order nobody likes to admit exists in the ethical non-monogamy community — and who keeps getting left off the invite list.

The lifestyle sells itself as open, sex-positive, and welcoming to everyone. But walk into any swinger club or house party on a Saturday night and there's a hierarchy in plain sight. Adam and Pris get real about the groups that get gate-kept, ostracized, or quietly ignored — and what you can actually do about it.

In this episode:

• The "unattainable couple" myth and why hot doesn't mean happy
• Why single men are the most gate-kept group in non-monogamy
• Ageism in the lifestyle — and why "old" is just a state of mind
• Body image, bigger bodies, and the pressure of "getting work done"
• Race, segregated parties, and building a truly mixed community
• How self-confidence (or the lack of it) creates your own exclusion

If this episode got you thinking, head to beyond-monogamy.com for every episode, our blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional line. Catch us LIVE every Thursday at 7PM Central, and you can also find us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2:00 and 7:00 PM Central.

Upcoming events:
Join us in Austin, TX on November 15th at Forbidden Fruit for our Swinger 101 workshop.
Then head to Kansas City, MO for Krazy Winter Nights, February 19–21, 2027 — use our discount code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com for a discount.

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Adam and Pris swap seats — and swap personalities. On this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, our favorite swinger lifestyle podcast hosts answer your ethical non-monogamy (ENM) questions as each other — same voice, same attitude, same opinions (or their best impression of them). No coaching, no interrupting, and absolutely no getting mad at the impression.

It's a fast, funny, surprisingly honest look at how two people fifteen years into an open marriage actually think — filtered through a hilarious role-reversal game.

What we cover:

• What first-timers need to know before their first lifestyle party
• Is jealousy something to avoid in non-monogamy, or something to work through?
• The biggest misconceptions about swinging and polyamory
• How to bring up a kink with your partner for the first time
• Rules vs. boundaries — and which one actually matters more
• Best advice for a married couple thinking about opening up
• Handling rejection at a party without making it weird
• Check-ins, aftercare, and the lifestyle myth we want retired forever

Plus: what Adam and Pris genuinely admire about how the other navigates the swinger lifestyle.

Catch us live: Head to beyond-monogamy.com for every episode, our blog, and our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2:00PM and 7:00PM Central.

Upcoming events:

• Krazy Winter Nights — Kansas City, MO, February 19–21, 2027. Use discount code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com for a discount on tickets.
• Naughty Nawlins — coming up in July! Link in the show notes and on our website.
• Swinger 101 Workshop — November 15th at Forbidden Fruit in Austin, TX. Local listeners, come say hi! Details on our events tab at beyond-monogamy.com.

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• SDC.com — the largest online community for open-minded adults. Make a profile and go explore. Use code 38236 at sign-up. Link in the show notes.
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Ethical non-monogamy, swinger lifestyle, open relationships — this is your weekly dose of real talk, straight from a couple actually living it.

Seattle just made history — and Adam & Pris are unpacking it. This past week, the Seattle City Council voted unanimously to extend anti-discrimination protections to people in polyamorous relationships, adding polyamory, pansexuality, and asexuality to the city's legal definition of sexual orientation. So on this episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam and Pris dig into what this means for the whole ethical non-monogamy (ENM) umbrella — polyamory, swinging, kink, and everything in between.

In this episode:

• The Seattle City Council's new law protecting polyamorous people from discrimination
• Is swinging covered under "consensual non-monogamy" too? Adam and Pris debate it
• Orientation vs. choice: are you born non-monogamous, or is it a decision?
• Real data — a 2025 survey found 61% of non-monogamous people report facing prejudice or discrimination
• Why so many in the swinger lifestyle and polyamorous communities stay closeted at work
• A candid, no-filter conversation between Adam and Pris about their own relationship dynamic

Whether you're poly, swinging, or somewhere in the beautiful gray area of ethical non-monogamy, this one's for you.

Catch us live every Thursday at 7PM Central for our FREE livestream, plus new episodes, blogs, and events at beyond-monogamy.com. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2PM and 7PM Central.

Upcoming events:

• Swinger 101 Workshop — Austin, TX at Forbidden Fruit, November 15th
• Krazy Winter Nights — Kansas City, February 19th–21st. Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com

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• The Pleasure Chest — sex toys, lingerie, and kink gear with an education-first approach. Locations in NY, Chicago, and LA, or shop online at thepleasurechest.com.
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• SDC — Austin-area swingers and ENM couples, use discount code 38236.

Got a question or confession? Send it through our 100% anonymous confessional at beyond-monogamy.com. Like, subscribe, and leave us a review — it helps more than you know!

Ever had to "behave" in a room full of vanilla people? In this QUICKIE episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris get real about the very specific chaos of being deep in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy... and then suddenly finding yourselves surrounded by vanilla friends who have no idea what you get up to.

They break down the wandering-hand incidents, the flirting instincts they had to swallow, the "swingers in the wild" story that started a real friendship, and why judgment from vanilla folks is usually a mirror, not a mic drop. Plus: objectification in the ENM community, who's really "calling the shots" in a swinger relationship, and why porn's objectification argument doesn't hold up the way people think.

• Behaving (or not) in vanilla settings as an experienced swinger couple
• The wandering-hand story that got Adam benched to "hands in lap"
• Spotting real-life swingers in a vanilla bar
• Objectification of women in the non-monogamy community — and the 50/50 problem
• Who calls the shots more: men or women in open relationships?

Catch us live: Head to beyond-monogamy.com for every episode, our blog, and our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio.

Don't forget to check the Events tab at beyond-monogamy.com for every upcoming chance to meet Adam & Pris in person.

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It's a mailbag episode! Adam & Pris skip the guest and dig straight into the inbox for two listener questions that could not be more different — one heavy, one fun, and both real talk about ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and the swinger lifestyle.

• A 20+ year married couple, 3-5 years into the lifestyle, hits a wall: he's thriving in non-monogamy, she's over it. Adam & Pris break down jealousy, trust, communication, and how to figure out what's actually fair for both partners.
• A newbie couple at their third lifestyle pool party watches his wife get swarmed while he freezes up. The question: what are the signals men miss, and how should a guy actually approach a woman (or couple) at a swinger party without being "that guy"?
• Real talk on setting boundaries, reading the room, non-monogamy jealousy, and open relationship communication tools you can use tonight.

Got your own question or confession? Drop it anonymously in the confessional at beyond-monogamy.com — no names, no pressure. While you're there, catch the free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central, check the blog, and browse past guests. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2PM and 7PM Central.

Upcoming events: Catch us at Club Eden on September 19th with our friend Pineapple Jen. And mark your calendars for Krazy Winter Nights in Kansas City, Missouri, February 19-21 — register at krazykasbh.com and use code BEYOMONO for a discount.

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Do you like it bald, or with a little fuzz? On this Wednesday quickie, Adam and Pris dive into one of the most-avoided topics in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy world: pubic hair. From sugar waxing versus hard waxing, to Adam's confession about an old insecurity sparked by a "hairy or bare" poll in a lifestyle group, this episode is a funny, honest look at grooming, body image, and self-acceptance in ENM.

• Sugar wax vs. hard wax, and why Pris is ready to quit cold turkey
• The trimmer that's actually worth the Amazon order
• Adam's "hairy or bare" story and why body-hair shaming needs to grow up
• Manscaping for hairy guys: the "penis-shaped underwear" problem
• FUPA talk: body insecurities, self-love, and loving your partner's curves

This one's a feel-good pubic ode of love: preferences are fine, but body-shaming isn't. Love your body, love yourself, and be comfortable with who you are.

Catch us live: Head to beyond-monogamy.com for every past episode, companion blogs, merch, and our anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional line. Join us for our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central, and catch us on FullSwapRadio too.

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Keywords: swinger lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy, ENM podcast, open relationship, pubic hair grooming, body positivity in non-monogamy, swinger podcast.

Kink Night at Club Eden just broke our brains — in the best way. On this Wednesday quickie, Adam & Pris recap their first-ever Kink Night at their home swinger club, where a dominatrix friend and her sub gave them a front-row education in flogging, electric wands, sounding rods, and the real meaning of consent and power exchange in the BDSM world.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about where kink and the ethical non-monogamy / swinger lifestyle overlap — and where they don't.

In this episode:

• Why Kink Night at Club Eden in San Antonio is nothing like the Saturday swinger crowd
• Meeting "Mistress Vampirella" and her sub, dressed head-to-toe in gear Adam & Pris had never seen up close
• Adam's Indiana-Jones-style flogging lesson (and why he couldn't bring himself to do it)
• The electric wand, nipple clamps, cock cages, and an intro to sounding rods (yes, really)
• Why humiliation play is about consent and power exchange, not cruelty
• Headspace, aftercare, and the biggest myths about the kink community
• Adam considering a future as a dom (maybe even a "dom porn star")
• A shout-out to their upcoming Shibari adventure: ShibART-i in Houston on November 14th

Ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and kink all live in the same neighborhood of judgment-free exploration — this episode is proof.

Catch us live: Every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central on FullSwapRadio, plus our FREE weekly livestream at beyond-monogamy.com.

Upcoming event: Join us at ShibART-i in the Houston area on November 14th — a Shibari art event we can't wait to experience (and yes, we're having the organizer on the show soon — stay tuned).

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Subscribe, share, and leave us a five-star review — and don't forget to catch us on YouTube too. Got a story, question, or confession? Drop it in our 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional at beyond-monogamy.com — we just might read it on the show.

Two brothers. Two very different kinks. One podcast that almost didn't happen. This week Adam & Pris sit down with Gryff and Jason, the real-life siblings behind the Kinky Bros Podcast — one gay, one straight, both deep in the kink world for years without ever telling each other, until a shared Netflix binge of "How to Build a Sex Room" blew the whole thing open.

In this episode, we get into:

• How two brothers accidentally discovered they were both kinky — and how it changed their relationship
• Rubber and latex fetish life: stealth wear, breathability (or lack of it), and Texas summers
• Jason's jockstrap-and-thong origin story (thanks to a mystery pack he almost didn't order)
• Raising sex-positive kids in a non-monogamous, blended household
• Houston's surprisingly thriving queer kink community, vac cubes, and CBT 101
• Compersion, jealousy, and hot wife dynamics — and why swingers aren't always as open-minded as they think
• Pegging, prostate pleasure, and why the swinging world still side-eyes it

This is a raw, funny, genuinely educational conversation about ethical non-monogamy, kink, and the family bonds that can come from finally being honest about what turns you on.

Find the Kinky Bros: search "Kinky Bros Podcast" on Apple, Spotify, iHeart, and Amazon Music, follow @kinkybrospodcast on Instagram & BlueSky, @kinkybrospod on X, or visit thekinkybros.com.

Upcoming event: Shibari E, a live rope art show & demo night from Bound HTX, hits Houston on Saturday, November 14th. Details to come at beyond-monogamy.com.

This episode is brought to you by SDC.com — the largest online community for open-minded adults. Make a free profile and start exploring. Use code 38236 at sdc.com.

Catch us every Thursday at 7PM Central for our FREE livestream at beyond-monogamy.com, and streaming live on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central on fullswapradio.com.

Do swingers still get nervous? After 15 years in the swinger lifestyle, Adam & Pris get real about nervousness, anxiety, and confidence in ethical non-monogamy. Spoiler: one of them still gets butterflies before every playdate, and the other struts through the club in lingerie like she owns the place. Guess who's who.

In this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, your favorite ENM podcast couple digs into why nerves hit so differently for men and women in open relationships — and how to actually get past them.

• Why Pris stopped getting nervous (and the exact moment her confidence switch flipped)
• Why Adam STILL gets nervous after 15 years — even with planned playdates
• The mind-body connection nobody warns guys about, and why "just get hard" never works
• People-pleasing, rejection, and learning not to care who likes you
• Confident vs. egotistical — where's the line?
• Adam's field-tested advice for nervous guys in the lifestyle: say it once, then be a friend
• Spicy pic etiquette in the swinger community: who gets one, who gets blocked, and why you should always ask first
• Body confidence, exhibitionism, and the world's least suave way to put your underwear back on

Whether you're new to swinging, curious about open relationships, or a lifestyle veteran who still feels the jitters, this episode is proof that nervousness is normal — and confidence can be built.

Watch us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — plus every episode and the blog.

On the radio: Catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2PM and 7PM.

Upcoming events: Lots coming — check the Events tab at beyond-monogamy.com and watch the socials.

This episode is sponsored by SDC — the largest online community for open-minded adults. Make a profile, explore, and find your people. Sign up at SDC.com with code 38236.

No script. No plan. Just Adam & Pris, a list of questions on a smartphone, and zero filter. This week on Beyond Monogamy, the swinger lifestyle podcast that says what everyone else is thinking, we free-flow through the questions couples in ethical non-monogamy actually ask each other — and the answers get real, fast.

In this episode of your favorite ENM and open relationship podcast:

• Bedroom dealbreakers — what we absolutely do NOT want partners doing during play (porn-style pounding, neck sucking, and teeth all make the list)
• Instant turn-offs — including the "no glove, no love" conversation too many new swingers skip
• Oral honesty hour — why "low and slow" wins and why you should ALWAYS speak up
• Swinger club etiquette — couch swaps, when it's okay to touch, and why just asking never kills the mood
• Playing separately — the two-hour gap, the "deer in headlights" look, and what's too intimate with someone else
• Could a girlfriend ever happen? — WLW relationships, sexual roommates (hard no), and keeping connections organic
• How to actually link up with Adam & Pris — plus who should proposition who in couple-on-couple play

Whether you're new to the swinger lifestyle or a full-swap veteran, this candid Q&A between real-life partners covers the consent, communication, and comedy that make non-monogamy work.

Watch us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — plus all episodes, the blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional.

On the radio: Catch us on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central.

Come hang out with us: Krazy Winter Nights in Kansas City, MO — February 2027! We're doing a LIVE show at the weekend takeover. Tickets at krazykasbh.com — use discount code BEYOMONO for a discount.

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Why are people so shitty? It's the question nobody can answer, but this week Adam & Pris sure try. In this candid episode of Beyond Monogamy, your favorite swinger podcast couple airs a little dirty laundry (no names, promise) about drama, bullies, and trolls in the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy community — and how to protect yourself without losing your fun.

In this episode:

• The 80–90% of the lifestyle community that's wonderful — and the tiny percentage that isn't
• A group owner gone rogue: platform bullying, minions, and a two-year obsession with fake profiles
• Why outing people in the swinger community is the one unforgivable sin
• Discretion vs. connection: why you can't be 100% anonymous and still succeed in the lifestyle
• How to vet new people (yes, including the video-with-your-name-and-date trick)
• Trolls, anonymous comments, and why Adam officially does not give a f***
• One bad apple doesn't spoil this bunch — it's a whole fruit salad

Watch us LIVE: Every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — chat with us free, drop a question in the 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional, and check the events tab.

Also on FullSwapRadio: Catch us at fullswapradio.com every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central, alongside a whole cavalcade of adult podcasters.

Come party with us: Krazy Winter Nights — February 2027 in Kansas City, Missouri! Register at krazykasbh.com with discount code BEYOMONO for a discount. Exact dates on the events tab at beyond-monogamy.com.

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That gorgeous couple sliding into your DMs? Yeah... about that. In this revisited episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris dive into catfishing in the swinger lifestyle — the fake profiles, filtered photos, and flat-out fictional people lurking in ethical non-monogamy spaces. With 15 years in the lifestyle, they've seen (and nearly fallen for) it all.

In this episode:

• Adam's AOL chat room days — and the too-perfect mystery woman who vanished
• Filters, angles, and 20-year-old photos: where does flattering end and lying begin?
• Why catfishing hits harder in the swinger lifestyle than in vanilla dating
• The "personality catfish" nobody talks about — fake nice, fake in love, fake experienced
• Scammers, bots, and the infamous $45 nail-money hustle
• Red flags in open relationships and swinger apps: no photos, model-only photos, stories that don't add up, dodging verification, pushing for nudes
• How to protect yourself: live video verification, Pris's date-on-paper photo trick, cross-referencing profiles, and trusting your gut
• Why trust, consent, and honesty are non-negotiable in ethical non-monogamy

Got a catfish story of your own? Share it at beyond-monogamy.com — Adam & Pris may read it on a future quickie episode!

Watch us LIVE: Catch the FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — plus episodes, blog, reviews, and all our socials.

On the radio: Catch Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris on FullSwapRadio, Thursdays at 1PM and 6PM.

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What's your dynamic? It's the one question every couple new to the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) needs to know how to answer — and Adam & Pris break it down in this Wednesday Quickie.

They dig into full swap vs. soft swap, same room vs. same roof vs. separate play, and why knowing (and stating) your dynamic up front saves everyone's time. Plus: mismatched libidos, menopause and the lifestyle, learning to say no, and why non-monogamy really is a team sport.

In this episode:

• What "dynamic" actually means in the swinger lifestyle
• Full swap vs. soft swap, and why the label matters
• Same room, same roof, or separate play — how couples decide
• Handling mismatched pace and comfort levels as a couple
• Talking openly about menopause, hormones, and desire in ENM relationships
• Why Pris handles "the no" and how they split roles as a team
• The one question to ask any couple at a swinger event or meet & greet

Whether you're brand new to open relationships or you've been in the lifestyle for years, this one will help you put words to what you actually want.

Keep the conversation going:

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• Check the events tab at beyond-monogamy.com for takeovers and meetups we're hitting up this month

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What were your first swinger experiences really like? A listener couple just entering the swinger lifestyle dropped that question in our anonymous confessional, and Adam & Pris answer it with zero filter. From a drunk Halloween party that went completely sideways to a first full swap that turned into a lifelong friendship, this is the ethical non-monogamy origin story we've never told on the show — mistakes, jealousy, death glares, and all.

In this episode:

• The Halloween party "non-experience" that almost ended everything — and the boxes every new ENM couple must check first (sober, communicating, on the same page)
• Pris's first single-guy experience, nerves on all sides, and why the equipment failing is almost never about you
• Adam's unauthorized round two — and the look Pris gave him that he calls "visual cyanide"
• The full swap couple who became forever favorites
• The strangest swap of all time: a historic mansion, uncontrollable laughter, and a velociraptor impression we cannot unsee
• Jealousy, disconnecting, and the communication lessons that saved their marriage

Got a confession? Leave it anonymously at beyond-monogamy.com — where you'll also find every past episode, clips, the blog, and the merch store. Catch our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central, right on the website.

We're also part of the lineup at FullSwapRadio — Thursdays at 2PM and 7PM Central.

See us LIVE in February at Krazy Winter Nights, hosted by Krazy Kasbah and Full Swap Radio. Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com for a discount — come say hi!

This episode is sponsored by 3Fun — the app for couples and singles who want to connect with like-minded people. Easy, low pressure, and way less awkward than figuring it out on your own. Download it here: https://www.go3fun.co/ad/TK11932

Birthdays hit different in the swinger lifestyle. On this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, Adam & Pris recap Adam's entire birthday weekend — from free sopapillas and a taco-house serenade to a full-blown celebration at their home club that proves ethical non-monogamy knows how to throw a party.

In this episode of your favorite swinger podcast:

• Birthday breakfast at Eddie's Taco House, where Adam campaigned like a politician for free sopapillas
• An intimate dinner with three other couples — and Adam's very honest confession about where his mind goes at the table
• Their friend Ray and her famous bag of toys: why so many women say no, and why Pris says yes
• Kink vs. fetish — Pris finally settles which one exhibitionism is (for her, anyway)
• THC lemonade math gone wrong: Pris gets sent to the moon
• Midnight lap dances, a double birthday treat, and the moment Pris created a scene straight off a vintage VHS cover
• The Odyssey, new-job news, and why the sexiest plans sometimes lose to cold sheets and leftover pizza

Whether you're new to the swinger lifestyle, curious about open relationships, or a longtime ENM couple, this non-monogamy podcast episode is a fun, candid look at how one real couple celebrates — together and with friends.

Watch us LIVE: Every Thursday at 7PM Central, totally free, at beyond-monogamy.com — chat with us in real time. Replays live on our Patreon, along with ways to support the show.

Also on FullSwapRadio: Catch us Thursdays at 2PM and 7PM Central at fullswapradio.com alongside a whole lineup of adult podcasters.

Upcoming event: We're doing a LIVE show in February from Krazy Winter Nights, hosted by Krazy Kasbh and Full Swap Radio! Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com for a discount — yes, it's spelled that way. We'd love to meet you there.

Sponsor — ProDX Health: At-home testing for STIs, hormones, and more. No waiting rooms, no awkward conversations. Use code beyomono at prodxhealth.com for 15% off year-round — even more during special events.

Got a confession, question, or story? Drop it (anonymously if you like) at beyond-monogamy.com — you might hear it on a future episode.

Swinger? Poly? Friends with benefits? If you've ever mixed them up, you're in good company — Adam's own barber had no clue. This week on Beyond Monogamy, real-life couple Adam & Pris break down the real differences between swinging, polyamory, and friends with benefits in the ethical non-monogamy (ENM) world — from a couple who has lived all three and collected a few red flags along the way.

In this episode:

• Why so many swingers think they want polyamory… when what they really want is friends with benefits
• Adam & Pris's five years of poly: unicorn hunting, red flags, and the girlfriend who texted way too much
• Pris's journey from not knowing her worth to discovering her inner dom
• The Great Date Debate: why "date" is now a forbidden word in their house (say hello to the "meetup")
• Jealousy in open relationships, hierarchy, and the rules they hold sacred — no vacations with others, no showering with others (unless it's content)
• Could they ever date another couple? The empty-nester master plan

Whether you're lifestyle-curious, a seasoned swinger, or somewhere on the open relationship spectrum, this candid, funny conversation will help you figure out which flavor of non-monogamy actually fits — before you learn it the hard way like we did.

Join us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday, 7–8 PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — full episodes, the blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio at fullswapradio.com every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central.

Come meet us: Krazy Winter Nights in Kansas City, February 19–21, 2027 — use code BEYOMONO for your discount. https://www.krazykasbh.com

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What actually makes a swinger club great? On this Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris throw open the doors of their home club — Club Eden San Antonio — for a candid, laugh-out-loud review of everything a lifestyle club should be. Whether you're a seasoned swinger or just ethical non-monogamy curious, consider this your field guide to on-premise club life.

In this episode:

• The #1 thing to look for in any swinger club (hint: it's not the dance floor)
• Why vigilant staff make or break a lifestyle club — and the single-men policy that keeps the playroom comfortable
• The ladies' restroom that's basically a rite of passage, stocked with wipes, mouthwash, and photo-op lighting
• The infamous toilet paper story from their very first club visit — Pris's nightmare scenario, fully realized
• BYOB culture, Jell-O shot generosity, relaxed dress codes, and dancing naked from the front door
• The BDSM room, the spanking bench Adam insists is a "horse," and the porn room that delivered seven orgasms
• Why you should ALWAYS tip the hardworking playroom "chambermaids"
• Loaded fries, pizza, and a friendly warning about eating before you play

If you've ever wondered what an open relationship night out looks like — or how to judge a swinger club before you commit — this ENM podcast quickie has you covered.

Join us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday, 7–8 PM Central, at beyond-monogamy.com — full episodes, the blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. You can also catch us on FullSwapRadio at fullswapradio.com, Thursdays at 2 PM and 7 PM Central.

Come see us: Krazy Winter Nights — Kansas City, February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for a discount! krazykasbh.com 

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This one's serious, y'all — but it's a conversation the swinger lifestyle needs. Adam & Pris pull back the curtain on one of the darkest corners of ethical non-monogamy: sexual predators in the lifestyle. It's not the highlight reel, but after seeing too much of it lately, they're saying the quiet part out loud.

In this episode of Beyond Monogamy, the swinger podcast for lifestyle-curious couples and ENM veterans alike:

• What actually makes a predator — the difference between an awkward newbie's mistake and a genuine pattern of circumventing consent
• The red flags: pushing past a "no," repeat asking to wear someone down, escalating touch without checking in, using alcohol to lower guards, and pressuring one half of a couple when the other said no
• The saga of the drunk single guy (and his big box of White Claws) who creeped out the whole club — and how a great club staff handled it
• The gut-punch of realizing people you called friends were grooming newbies and targeting the newly single
• Adam & Pris debate: do you blast a known predator to the community, or is that not your job? (Spoiler: Adam is not swinger Batman)
• Why CNC dynamics mean things aren't always what they look like — and the look that tells you something is genuinely wrong
• How to protect yourself: speaking up, partner check-ins, reading the room, and why verification (SDC, 3Fun, video-verified groups) matters in open relationships

Hang out with us LIVE: Free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — plus every past episode, the blog, the merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Full livestream replays are a Patreon-only perk.

Also streaming Thursdays at 2PM & 7PM Central on Full Swap Radio — fullswapradio.com.

Come party with us: Crazy Casba's Crazy Winter Nights 2027 is happening in February and we're doing LIVE shows! Lock in your spot at crazycasba.com with code BEYOMONO for a discount.

And next Saturday we're celebrating Adam's birthday at Club Eden in San Antonio — sign up on their site, come find our couches, and say hello. We love meeting listeners!

Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris — real talk on the swinger lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy, and open relationships.

Slut. It used to be the worst thing you could call someone. On this Wednesday Quickie, swinger lifestyle veterans Adam & Pris grab the S-word by the collar and ask: what actually makes someone slutty — and why are we still letting a word from the 1400s do our thinking for us?

In this candid ethical non-monogamy (ENM) conversation, the real-life couple behind Beyond Monogamy digs into slut-shaming, double standards, and why the swinger community doesn't just tolerate sluttiness — it celebrates it.

In this episode:

• Pris gets called a slut in sixth grade — and again as a freshman, for not giving it up
• The actual Merriam-Webster definition of "slut" and its 1400s origin story
• Alcohol vs. weed: which one actually lowers your inhibitions?
• Adam's hotwife kink and consensual "cheating" fetish — and what happens when the fantasy talk ends
• Pris discovers her "hot husband" dominant side ("You can borrow him. He's coming back.")
• Is being touchy-feely slutty? Is teasing? The couple debates what counts as slutty behavior
• The double standard: what do you call a man who acts the same way? "Just a man, baby."
• Slut-shaming inside the lifestyle — yes, it happens, and it's ridiculous

Watch us LIVE: Every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — full episodes, the blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Drop your lifestyle, ENM, or kink confessions and we might read them on air!

Also streaming on FullSwapRadio: Catch us at fullswapradio.com Thursdays at 2PM and 7PM Central.

Come see us: We'll be at Krazy Winter Nights in Kansas City, February 19–21, 2027!
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Kink 101: Fetish vs. Kink, Power Exchange & Hot Wifing with The Kink Consultant

We're stepping outside our usual non-monogamy lane and into the wide, wild world of kink with special guest Amanda Dames, aka The Kink Consultant. Amanda is a certified somatic sex & relationship coach and sexologist (and former NYC dominatrix!) who breaks down the real difference between a "kink" and a "fetish," why labels actually help you find yourself, and how power exchange, hot wifing, pre-claiming, and reclaiming sex all fit on the same spectrum. We also get into the light-bulb communication hack that took Adam's breath away, healthy boundaries around aftercare, and why justice might be Pris's real kink.

• Kink vs. fetish: what's actually the difference
• Amanda's journey from curious kid to NYC pro-domme to kink coach
• Foot fetishes, power exchange, and why "normal" kink is a spectrum
• The $20 light bulb trick for signaling dominant energy
• Hot wifing vs. hot husbanding, pre-claiming and reclaiming sex
• Compartmentalizing fantasy without cheating
• Aftercare, boundaries, and honest communication in ENM relationships

• Website: amandadames.com (grab her free guide, "Speaking Your Desires With Confidence")
• Podcast: The Kink Consultant Podcast
• Instagram: @the_kinkconsultant
• Facebook: The Kink Consultant
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• Email: info@thekinkconsultant.com
• Meet Amanda in Jamaica: swingcation.com - use code TKC50

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• Website: beyond-monogamy.com - full episode library, listener confessionals, and our brand-new live show launching soon
• Streaming Radio: Catch us live every Thursday at 2:00 PM & 7:00 PM Central on Full Swap Radio
• Beyond Monogamy Live at Club Eden San Antonio - join us in person!
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Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris — This week's Quickie tackles one of the most relatable topics in ethical non-monogamy: that flash of jealousy that hits in the moment, even when everything else feels solid.

An anonymous listener sent in a voicemail describing a familiar scene: a good time at a pool party or meet-and-greet, a partner doing something he thought he was okay with... and then that sudden hand squeeze or whispered "please don't." Adam and Pris read the voicemail live and dig into it — no filter, no judgment.

• Why in-the-moment jealousy is normal (even for people who don't consider themselves jealous)
• The "code" system Adam & Pris use to signal discomfort without killing the vibe
• How alcohol lowers inhibitions AND lowers your ability to process what you're feeling
• Why you shouldn't feel guilty for pulling back, even when your partner "attends to you well"
• The one time Adam & Pris broke up over a jealousy fight — and what fixed it

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Catch us at Krazy Winter Nights KC, February 19–21, 2027 — grab tickets at krazykasbh.com and use code BEYOMONO for a discount.

Catch us live on Full Swap Radio every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central at fullswapradio.com. And coming soon: our own live show, Thursdays 7–8 PM Central right on our website!

Visit beyond-monogamy.com for the full episode library, our listener confessional line, upcoming events, and everything Beyond Monogamy. Got a question, confession, or "does anyone else do this" moment? Leave us a voicemail — you might end up on a future Quickie!

She's been with over a dozen people in the lifestyle — and has never once had an orgasm with any of them. Meanwhile, her husband comes every time. More than once. At the club.

This week, Adam & Pris dive headfirst into one of the most common — and least talked-about — issues in the lifestyle: the orgasm gap. Is it a vetting problem? A communication problem? A men-are-oblivious problem? (Spoiler: yes, yes, and yes.)

• Why the orgasm gap is real — and gets worse in the lifestyle
• Why she comes easily at home but not at the club
• How to vet for pleasure-focused partners
• The power of over-communication before you ever get to the back room
• Toys, body language, cheat codes, and how to advocate for your own pleasure
• Is everyone just out for themselves? Adam & Pris give the honest answer

Find everything Beyond Monogamy at beyond-monogamy.com — including our 100% anonymous confessional. Drop your story and it might become our next episode.

Catch us on fullswapradio.com every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central.

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Episode Summary: Things got real this week on Beyond Monogamy. Adam and Pris pull back the curtain on what it actually looks like when financial stress collides with the swinging lifestyle — missed events, killed libidos, emotional eating, and the very adult decision to stay home and pay the bills instead of living that highlight reel.

They open up about skipping Naughty N'awlins 2026 and the Port Aransas beach takeover, navigating life on one income, the struggle to grow an OnlyFans when you actually have a full-time job, and how stress messes with your sex drive more than anything else ever could. Plus: Pris's big three-career plan, her Series 65 journey, and the mystery of why Buddies THC drinks are the unlikely hero of their recent club nights.

Raw, honest, funny, and deeply relatable — this one's for every lifestyle couple who's ever had to choose between the club and the electric bill.

In This Episode:

• Why Adam and Pris had to cancel Naughty N'awlins and the beach takeover
• Living the lifestyle on one income — what's actually possible
• The OnlyFans reality check nobody talks about
• How financial stress tanks your libido (and what to do about it)
• Pris's plan: financial advisor + lifestyle event planner + secret project for women
• Why Buddies THC seltzers are now a club night staple
• The St. Andrew's Cross history lesson nobody asked for (but got anyway)

Find Everything Beyond Monogamy:
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Upcoming Events:
🎉 Beyond Monogamy Live @ Club Eden San Antonio — details at beyond-monogamy.com
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Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris sits down with Stirling Cooper — former adult film star, ex-male escort, and now one of the world's most sought-after intimacy and sexual performance coaches for men. This one gets real, fast.

Stirling breaks down how he cracked the swinger scene as a single male in Australia, built a high-class escorting career, won awards in adult film, and then walked away from it all to help everyday men take control of their sex lives. We also find out what celery has to do with your semen volume (yes, really).

• How Stirling broke into the lifestyle as a single male
• From research scientist to male escort — his unexpected path
• What the adult film industry is really like behind the scenes
• Why he retired from porn in 2020
• Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction & the male refractory period
• Adam's very unique brain chemistry (no prolactin, who?)
• The supplement stack that can make you multi-orgasmic
• The celery trick that will change your semen game forever

• Men: stirlingcooper.com
• Women: stirlingforher.com — free Pleasure Blueprint guide

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• Website: beyond-monogamy.com
• Stream us: fullswapradio.com
• Events: Beyond Monogamy Live at Club Eden San Antonio | Krazy Winter Nights KC — Feb 19–21, 2027 at krazykasbh.com (code: BEYOMONO)

QUICKIE: When They Want My Spouse and Not Me

It stings. It's awkward. And if you've been in the lifestyle long enough, it's happened to you. In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris tackle one of the most relatable — and ego-bruising — moments in ethical non-monogamy: when a couple (or someone in the lifestyle) makes it crystal clear they're interested in your partner... but not really in you.

From getting iced out at meetups, to a couple literally texting only one of them with interest, to stare-downs at lifestyle events, Adam and Pris get real about the feelings, the stories, and how they've learned to handle it with (mostly) grace. They also dig into the role of delivery, communication, and why your partner sugarcoating the news might not be the betrayal you think it is.

In this episode:

• Real stories of being the "less preferred" partner — from both sides
• Why delivery matters more than the message itself
• The four-way connection — lifestyle unicorn or overrated requirement?
• How Adam handles it when he's into a woman but unsure if Pris will vibe with her husband
• Pris's ADHD-fueled honesty about getting sour — and why she owns it

🎙️ Listen live on Full Swap Radio — Thursdays at 1:00 PM & 6:00 PM Central at fullswapradio.com

📍 Upcoming Events:
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Beyond Monogamy Live — Club Eden, San Antonio

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Episode Summary

Adam and Pris sit down with Natasha Helfer, AASECT-certified sex therapist, author, and founder of Symmetry Counseling, for one of the most powerful conversations in Beyond Monogamy history. Natasha spent three decades helping people untangle religious trauma, sexual shame, and purity culture — and then made national headlines when she was excommunicated from the LDS Church for speaking openly about sex, faith, and mental health.

In this episode, we dig into why so many people leaving high-demand religions explore ethical non-monogamy, how shame rewires our nervous systems, the myth of sex addiction in religious communities, and how to reclaim your erotic identity no matter where you came from.

Topics Covered

• Purity culture and long-term sexual shame
• Natasha's excommunication from the LDS Church
• Why people leaving religion pursue ENM
• The sex addiction myth and its religious roots
• Navigating faith AND non-monogamy simultaneously
• Mom guilt, mismatched libido, and the orgasm gap
• How communication transforms relationships

Connect with Natasha Helfer

• Website: natashahelford.com
• The Sanctuary – Salt Lake City, UT
• Fantasy Lifestyle Cruise – February classes

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Find Us

• Website & links: beyond-monogamy.com
• Live radio: fullswapradio.com — Thursdays at 2PM & 7PM Central
• Events: Krazy Winter Nights KC – Feb 19–21, 2027 | Code: BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com
• Beyond Monogamy Live at Club Eden San Antonio

Feeling the pressure? 🍍 So are we.

On this Wednesday Quickie, Adam & Pris get real about one of the lifestyle's most overlooked problems — pressure. Whether it's a spouse pushing their partner on someone else, over-serving drinks to loosen inhibitions, or just the unspoken expectation to perform at events, pressure in the swinger lifestyle is more common than anyone wants to admit.

Adam confesses he was that guy early on — pushy for experiences. Pris calls him out. Repeatedly. Lovingly. Brutally. They also dig into the pressure of being recognized as podcasters at lifestyle events, the stress of finances and job searching while keeping the lifestyle going, and whether Pris is actually retiring at 50 (spoiler: Adam says absolutely not).

• Pushiness in the lifestyle — from newbies AND veterans
• Why asking for your partner instead of letting them speak is a huge red flag
• Adam's inability to say no (Pris has receipts)
• The pressure to drink, perform, dress the theme, and be "on"
• Real talk: financial stress and the lifestyle

July 8–13 in New Orleans — we'll have an exhibitor booth! Day passes still available. CLICK HERE for tickets!

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What does it take to build the world's largest lifestyle event from a house party to a 3,000+ person New Orleans takeover? Adam and Pris sit down with Bob Hannaford, founder and CEO of Naughty Events and the mastermind behind Naughty N'Awlins — the most iconic swinger and kink convention on the planet. Bob pulls back the curtain on 28 years of growth, the Cathedral of Kink dungeon, the Sexual Freedom Parade, consent culture at scale, and what makes Naughty N'Awlins unlike any event in the lifestyle.

In this episode:

• How Naughty N'Awlins grew from a 175-person house party to a sold-out global event
• The Sexual Freedom Parade — why it makes grown adults cry in the streets
• Consent at 3,000+ people: required tests, independent advocates, and 20+ pages of policy
• The Cathedral of Kink, the Dark Room, and the new Afterglow after-hours lounge
• Tips for anxiety sufferers navigating a massive lifestyle event
• Why New Orleans is the perfect city for sexual freedom

Naughty N'Awlins 2026 — July 8–12 in New Orleans — is SOLD OUT. Get on the waitlist and start planning for 2027 at naughtyevents.com.

Beyond Monogamy will have an exhibitor booth at Naughty N'Awlins — come find us!

📍 Beyond Monogamy LIVE at Club Eden San Antonio — June 20th! Details at beyond-monogamy.com

🎉 Krazy Winter Nights Kansas City — February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com

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New episodes every week at beyond-monogamy.com.

The guest didn't show up. The mics were already hot. What happened next became one of our most real, unfiltered episodes yet.

In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris got caught mid-conversation while waiting on a no-show guest — and what started as backstage small talk turned into a deep, raw, hilarious dive into ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, swinging, jealousy, compersion, and what it actually looks like to evolve as a couple in the lifestyle.

They cover:

• Why they didn't do polyamory "right" the first time — and what they'd do differently
• Pris dropping the bomb: she's open to trying poly again
• The wild list of stipulations Pris has for any future partners (spoiler: it's a lot)
• Jealousy, compersion, and the difference between rules and boundaries
• What successful polyamory actually looks like — and why it doesn't have to mean dating someone

This one was never supposed to be recorded. That's exactly why you need to hear it.

🌐 Find everything Beyond Monogamy: beyond-monogamy.com

📻 Catch us on Full Swap Radio every Thursday at 2PM & 7PM Central: fullswapradio.com

🎉 Upcoming Events:

• Beyond Monogamy Live @ Club Eden San Antonio – June 20
• Naughty N'awlins – July 8–12, New Orleans (come find us at our booth!)
• Krazy Winter Nights – Kansas City – Feb 19–21, 2027 | Code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com

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She had rules. She had walls. She had a clipboard full of hard limits. Eighteen months later? Adam pulled the receipts — and Pris had some explaining to do.

In this episode, Adam flips the script and puts Pris in the hot seat for a long-overdue evolution check-in. Armed with direct quotes from Episode 1, he revisits every bold declaration Pris made when Beyond Monogamy launched — and finds out just how much has changed after 18 months in the ENM and swinger lifestyle.

What we cover:

• From "I don't need men" to fully bisexual and genuinely open — and the shroom trip that helped get her there
• The sleepover rule: is it still a hard no? (Spoiler: not exactly)
• Separate play, jealousy, and how Pris went from anxious to actually okay with it
• Healing from shame after two marriages that left real damage
• Sexual confidence: from "I don't get on top" to full exhibitionist energy
• How an ADHD diagnosis changed everything socially in the lifestyle
• Where Pris actually stands on polyamory today

Raw, honest, funny, and full of real growth. If you're somewhere in your own ethical non-monogamy journey wondering if the hard parts ever get easier — this episode was made for you.

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📅 Upcoming Events:
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Two confessionals. Two very real situations. One Quickie you'll want to text to your partner immediately.

Adam and Pris are back in the booth answering two anonymous submissions from the Beyond Monogamy community. First up: a newbie wife wants to know how to pull off an immersive stranger roleplay in Houston AND how to handle unwanted attention at an upcoming hotel takeover — without killing the vibe or looking like the weird couple in the corner. Then things get deeper: a woman engaged to a 20-year swinger veteran realizes their connection styles may be fundamentally incompatible, and wonders if her partner is actually more poly than either of them signed up for.

• How to fully commit to a stranger roleplay (separate Ubers, people — commit)
• Handling unwanted attention at lifestyle events without being rude or a pushover
• Kitchen table vs. parallel play — what's the real difference?
• When your swinger needs deep emotional connections with every play partner
• Adam and Pris get personal about their own five-year poly chapter
• Why "you're not insecure — you had an agreement" might be the most validating thing we've ever said on this show

📩 Have something on your chest? Drop it in our 100% anonymous confessional at beyond-monogamy.com. No name, no login, no receipts — just you being honest. It might be the next episode.

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This week, Adam and Pris sit down with the hosts of one of the most respected podcasts in the non-monogamy space — Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Sotelo Matlack of Multiamory. Over a decade of real, research-backed content, and they're still going strong. We get into where polyamory and swinging actually overlap (and where they absolutely don't), the truth about unicorn hunters across both communities, jealousy, toxic masculinity, the one penis policy, and why swingers are just more fun at parties. Dedeker even calls us out. It's that kind of episode.

In This Episode:

• How Dedeker, Jase, and Emily became a trio — and how a collapsing quad turned into a decade-long podcast
• Poly vs. swinging: same umbrella, very different vibes
• Unicorn hunting: fun fantasy or ethical minefield?
• The one penis policy and toxic masculinity in the lifestyle
• Jealousy, compersion, and why everyone has their price
• What to do when partners are mismatched — one wants sex, one wants connection

Find Multiamory:
🌐 multiamory.com
🎙️ Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and everywhere you listen
📸 Instagram: @multiamory_podcast
💬 Community: multiamory.supercast.com
📚 Book: Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships — available on Amazon, Audible, Barnes & Noble, and at your local bookstore

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When Your Body Says Yes But Your Agreement Said No — In this Quickie episode, Adam and Pris tackle two real listener questions: What do you do when you cross a boundary in the heat of the moment? And what happens when you and your partner just don't want the same things in the lifestyle?

Listener Zoya sent a voicemail asking how to stay present in her agreements when things get hot and heavy — and Adam and Pris get real, personal, and surprisingly funny about it. Then a TikTok follower asks about navigating mismatched wants in a couple. Spoiler: you've got more in common with them than you think.

• Why "horny brain" is real and what to do about it
• How to set up a rescue signal with your partner
• The power of the debrief — before AND after
• Why slow is a superpower in the lifestyle
• Mismatched interests as a couple — normal or dealbreaker?

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This week on Beyond Monogamy, Adam and Pris sit down with Myrina and Tristan from The Accidental Swingers — and yes, the name is exactly as real as it sounds.

These two didn't plan to become swingers. They didn't plan to start a podcast either. And yet here we are. In this episode, they share the full origin story, how they accidentally stumbled into the lifestyle (hint: Uber rides, a dance floor, and a very confused neighbor couple), and what they've learned about jealousy, emotional connection, and aging in the ENM community.

Myrina also serves as the Naughty Headmistress for Naughty Nawlins — one of the largest lifestyle events in the world — and gives us the inside scoop on what to expect for 2026.

In This Episode:

• The wild origin story behind The Accidental Swingers name
• How a secret audio diary became a podcast with thousands of listeners
• Real talk on jealousy — what it feels like, how to navigate it
• Menopause, aging, and keeping the lifestyle alive through life's curveballs
• Everything you need to know about Naughty Nawlins 2026
• Accidental Swingers Discord community for Naughty attendees

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Don't have Discord? No problem — just create a free account and you're in. Once inside, you'll have limited access until you work through the information channels and click the right buttons. Start in the #-welcome channel, then head to #-further-instructions to introduce yourself in the #-2026-meet-the-group channel and unlock all the Naughty Nawlins 2026 channels.

👩 Ladies: Sign up with your own account and profile, then DM Myrina once you're in the group and she will add you to the private Women's Only Chat Group!

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What happens when a perfectly normal lifestyle club night suddenly goes sideways — and someone ends up leaving in an ambulance? That's exactly what happened to Adam & Pris this past weekend, and they're holding absolutely nothing back in this week's Quickie.

It started as a fun night at the club — good friends, some friendly competition between cubbies, and seriously enthusiastic playtime. Then things took a wild, unexpected turn. One person in their crew ended the night with EMTs, an ER visit, and a wife asking the most legendary question ever uttered at a lifestyle club: "Did you kill my husband?"

Spoiler: Pris did not kill anyone. But it absolutely led to a real, honest conversation about lifestyle safety — hydration, knowing your limits, medical conditions, drug and alcohol use at clubs, and what it actually means to look out for each other in this community.

• The full, unfiltered story of the night everything went sideways
• What actually caused the medical emergency (hint: it was NOT Pris)
• How Club Eden's staff handled it — and handled it beautifully
• Real talk on lifestyle safety: hydration, heat, drugs, alcohol & underlying health conditions
• Adam asking Pris THE most uncomfortable question on the walk to the van
• Why nurses secretly run the swinging world

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What if somebody finally made the documentary that explains ethical non-monogamy the way it always should have been explained? No sensationalism. No clipboard outsiders. Just real people, real experts, and real community — with humor baked in.

This week, Adam & Pris sit down with the three-person creative team behind More Than Monogamy: director Dillon Birdsall of All the Birds LLC, and Urvashi & Kama from Spark Erotic — award-winning erotic filmmakers with 25 films and 11 years in the game.

In this episode:

• How infidelity led Urvashi & Kama into ENM — and why it worked
• Dillon's origin story: virgin → sex club faster than anyone expected
• Why they ditched the titillation and went full sex-ed
• Polyamory vs. polygamy — the confusion that's still hurting the community
• Jealousy as an early warning system, not just a villain
• Compersion confessions from all three guests (Pris drops some truth bombs)
• How Spark Erotic is redefining ethical erotica — from both male and female perspectives
• Why the kink section got cut (and why that was the right call)
• The five-year journey — including the mental health walls Dillon had to climb through to finish it

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Feeling lost in the lifestyle? You're not alone — and this Quickie is proof.

This week, Adam and Pris crack open a confessional from a listener known as Wandering Aimlessly — a woman new to the lifestyle whose husband just changed the entire playbook on her. She came in wanting a bi experience while he watched. Now he wants to play with other women. Cue the jealousy spiral she didn't see coming.

In this episode:

• Why jealousy is NOT the villain — and how to actually navigate it
• The communication you absolutely must have BEFORE your first experience
• How to approach women when you're brand new and bi-curious
• The "kid in a candy store" guy mentality and how the lifestyle humbles men fast
• Newbie + newbie pairings: Adam and Pris hilariously disagree on this one
• Predatory couples — what they look like and how to spot them before they spot you

Whether you're brand new or a few steps in, this one is for every couple who has ever felt completely lost and too scared to ask the questions they really need answered.

You're not wandering aimlessly. You're just getting started.

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Adam and Pris sit down with Dr. Andy Kogelnik — MD, PhD, and infectious disease specialist — to tackle the thing the lifestyle community talks about but rarely does consistently: STI and hormone testing. Between clinic appointments, waiting rooms, insurance paper trails, and plain old anxiety, the system has built more barriers than most people can realistically clear. Dr. Andy built ProDx Health to fix that.

Dr. Andy's credentials are serious: MD from Emory, PhD in bioengineering from Georgia Tech, fellowship training in infectious diseases at Stanford, and founder of the Open Medicine Institute. He took the same lab infrastructure he built during COVID and turned it into a CLIA-certified, doctor-reviewed, at-home testing service with 24–48 hour turnaround. No appointment. No waiting room. No insurance claim.

The episode breaks down how the kits actually work — a fingertip-sized blood collection device and simple swabs that test for up to 13 pathogens at once, including Mycoplasma genitalium (MGEN), an increasingly common STI most doctors don't even test for. Dr. Andy also explains why oral and rectal sites need separate swabs — something virtually no primary care doctor orders — and how to choose the right panel for your risk level.

The conversation takes a surprising turn into PASS certification — the gold standard used by the adult film industry. ProDx is the first lab ever to offer PASS-certified home testing, complete with facial verification and molecular profiling to prevent sample substitution. It's a level of rigor most clinics don't come close to matching.

Privacy gets a full treatment too: no medical record, discreet plain-white-box packaging, fully anonymous ordering, and built-in group result sharing for event organizers and play partners.

Adam and Pris close with a promise: they're doing the test live on a future episode. Consider this part one.

Key Takeaways

• 42% of STIs present with zero symptoms — testing is the only way to know
• Most primary care doctors run panels too narrow for people with multiple partners
• MGEN is rising and requires 2+ weeks of antibiotics — and most doctors skip testing for it
• Oral and rectal sites need separate swabs — genital/urine tests alone will miss infections
• ProDX uses a tiny shoulder patch device — no clinic, no phlebotomist, no big needle
• First lab to achieve PASS certification for home-collected samples
• Fully anonymous — no insurance trail, discreet packaging, group sharing built in

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Adam and Pris just got back from a week-long Florida trip — Disney World with the kids by day, and a night at the Florida Tree House lifestyle club that completely blew their minds. This episode covers all of it: the rides, the food, the play, a very forward woman who gave Adam the blueprint he never knew he needed, and a real conversation about feeling unsexy when life is piling up.

Disney World Recap
Yes, World — not Disneyland (Adam got corrected fast). Six miles a day in brutal humidity. Pris goes deep on the layered kettle corn with chocolate drizzle, M&Ms, and cookie crumbles. Adam eats a turkey leg solo during the parade and has zero regrets. Adam also takes a 100mg gummy before entering the park, panics when security dogs appear at the gate, and nearly bails. He recovers. They ride Tron first.

Swingers at Disney
Full lifestyle groups organized specifically around Disney trips exist and are thriving. Pris was pineapple-spotting all week. They also debate Disney-themed club nights — Pris draws a firm line. Adam is less opposed.

Florida Tree House — Full Venue Breakdown
Hidden on private acreage 45 minutes from the city. ID check-in, locked gates at 10pm, indoor playrooms stocked with everything you need (you flip your own sheets), a massive screened-in pool deck, fire pits, BDSM stations, hot tub, sunroom playroom with an 8-person shower, two treehouse playrooms with green/red occupancy signs, a swing bed under the tree, and a vintage firetruck gutted and converted into a play space. Also potluck — someone brought fried chicken.

The Play
They played twice. A man watching said no when invited, then came back later clearly regretting it. Another approached mid-scene asking for a turn — Pris shut it down cleanly. Management was actively watching rooms all night. Pris shares honest thoughts about single men at lifestyle events.

"Slutty Behavior" — A Real Conversation
A woman at the end of the night was aggressively flirtatious in a way that finally gave Adam the blueprint to explain what he's been trying to tell Pris for years. Pris grabbed the bags in the moment. Afterward — she got it. New chapter unlocked.

Not Feeling Sexy
Adam is 30 pounds up. Pris is in mommy makeover consultation territory. They get honest about showing up in the lifestyle when life stress, finances, and fatigue are all hitting at once — and why they went out anyway.

Coming Up
Naughty N'awlins in July. A spicy Wednesday quickie confessional episode dropping soon.

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Your profile is your first impression — and Adam & Pris have seen some impressively bad ones. On today's Quickie, they break down exactly what makes a swinger and ENM profile actually attract the right people — and what sends everyone running.

In this episode:

• Why your cover photo being a ceiling fan is costing you connections
• The face pic debate — privacy vs. actually getting matches
• What a great bio actually looks like (and what "ask me anything" says about you)
• Full-body shots, filters, and the danger of catfishing your way into a meetup
• Why "open to anything" tells people nothing — and specificity is actually sexy
• The unsolicited explicit opener — just don't
• Tips for men, tips for couples, and a reminder that there's a lid for every pot

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What starts as a listener confession about prostate massage turns into the most honest, vulnerable, and surprisingly hilarious conversation Adam and Pris have ever had on mic — completely unscripted, completely real.

A brave listener wrote into the Beyond Monogamy confessional to share what prostate massage actually feels like — and his words were hard to ignore: "earth-shaking," a "full-body orgasm," with increased intensity, duration, and volume of ejaculate. He said he was completely incapacitated afterward.

That letter opened a door neither Adam nor Pris expected to walk through on this quickie.

Adam admits he has never had prostate play done — and he explains exactly why: a past experience where it happened without his consent left him with a lasting emotional association he has carried for years. Pris, meanwhile, reveals she has actually done it before (to her first husband, no less 👀). Together, they work through the anatomy, the stigma, toxic masculinity, vulnerability, and the very real question of whether this is something they will explore together.

Spoiler: Adam Googled "what is a prostate" in real time on mic. You're going to want to hear this one.

• What the prostate is and what it actually does
• The P-spot — why it's called the "male G-spot" and how stimulation works
• Internal vs. external stimulation (the taint is a real starting point)
• Adam's past experience and why consent is the real issue
• Toxic masculinity and the "I ain't gay" barrier so many men face
• Whether prostate play should be a lifestyle boundary or an open one
• A practical beginner's guide for curious couples

Even if you're brand new to this topic, here's where Adam and Pris landed with their practical takeaways:

1. Have the conversation first — no surprises, ever. Both partners need to be on the same page before anything happens. Don't cause trauma where there doesn't need to be any.
2. Start slow and stay external. External pressure on the perineum (the area between the scrotum and anus, sometimes called the taint) is a low-commitment entry point. It gives you a sense of whether there's something worth exploring further — without diving all the way in.
3. If going internal: hygiene and preparation matter. Short nails, gloves if preferred, and lube — always lube. Always.
4. Check in throughout. Communication during is just as important as communication before. This should feel like an upgrade to intimacy, not something anyone is white-knuckling through.
5. If it's not working, you stop. Full stop. And if it's incredible? Talk about that too — then hit up the Beyond Monogamy confessional and let us know how it went.

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Stop what you're doing. Seriously. Pull over if you have to, because this episode features one of the most iconic voices in the history of sex education, adult entertainment, and the non-monogamy movement — and she showed up ready to talk about everything.

Adam and Pris sit down with the legendary Nina Hartley — adult film performer, sex educator, activist, and someone who has been living intentional non-monogamy since before half of you were born. We're talking decades of swinging, triads, and fearless advocacy for pleasure, consent, and honest human connection.

This one goes deep. Like, deep deep.

• How Nina knew she was non-monogamous before she even knew what sex was — and what middle school dreams about "a room full of naked people" have to do with it
• Her first triad at 22 — and why it ended (spoiler: it wasn't the three-person structure, it was the two people she picked)
• Being the youngest swinger in every room by 15 years — in the 1980s
• Why pleasure is a birthright — and how Zen Buddhism and mindfulness connect directly to your sex life
• The truth about forgiveness nobody wants to hear (you don't have to, and Adam's mind was genuinely blown)
• Nina's breakdown of why porn is "a weird amalgamation of Monster Truck rallies and bad dinner theater" — and why it's ruining how young people approach the lifestyle
• The manosphere, toxic masculinity, and why men need to start calling out other men
• Practical gang bang planning: timelines, the audition process, the five-guy framework, and the genius concept of the gang bang doula
• Performance anxiety in the lifestyle — what Ro actually does (and doesn't) do, and why some guys just should not go to swing parties
• Does size matter? Nina breaks it down by the percentages
• Narcissistic abuse — and why it took Nina 18 years to leave
• "Man-keeping" — the concept that explains a whole lot about modern dating

Nina Hartley is sharp, funny, brutally honest, and genuinely one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had in our chairs. This is one of those episodes you'll probably listen to twice.

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QUICKIE: We Skipped Consent at a Lifestyle Club (And Pris Owns It)

Pris went full chaos agent at a lifestyle club — and she owns every second of it.

In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down a real moment that happened to them recently: Pris spotted a hot couple, approached the woman, confirmed she was bisexual, and somehow ended up in a play room within about 60 seconds — all before anyone had a real conversation about it. The good news? She caught herself, pumped the brakes, apologized on the spot, and followed up the next day.

What came out of that moment is a genuinely important conversation about the difference between enthusiasm and enthusiastic consent, how to exit a situation you're not feeling, the pressure people face when they don't know how to say no, and what real accountability looks like in the lifestyle.

TOPICS COVERED

[00:01:00] — How it started: complimenting the couple from across the room
[00:02:00] — The approach: Pris confirms the woman is bi, grabs her hand, and... goes
[00:03:00] — The cubby: everyone's in, nobody knows what's happening
[00:03:45] — Pris reads the room and pumps the brakes
[00:05:00] — The apology, in real time and the next morning
[00:07:00] — What Pris did right (the initial approach was actually solid)
[00:08:30] — Enthusiastic consent vs. enthusiasm — they are not the same
[00:11:00] — The bathroom exit: a smooth and underrated escape tactic
[00:14:00] — Building a pre-approach ritual with your partner
[00:16:00] — Creative ways to exit a situation when saying "no" feels hard
[00:17:00] — When men assume something is owed to them (and why that's a problem)
[00:20:00] — The guy who gave Adam a high five mid-sex and the friend who just... chatted
[00:23:00] — What defines you in the lifestyle: how you handle your mistakes

KEY TAKEAWAYS

- Enthusiasm is not consent. Always get the enthusiastic yes before things move forward.
- The bathroom exit is a completely valid escape — and kudos to anyone who uses it gracefully.
- Real accountability is rare in this community. Owning your mistake, apologizing, and following up is not just the right move — it's actually kind of hot.
- Build a pre-approach ritual with your partner so spontaneity doesn't turn into a consent gap.
- Saying no is hard for a lot of people. Don't ever put someone in a position where they feel like they can't.

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Today we are going there. Full send.

Adam and Pris sit down with Courtney Brame — founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), host of a podcast with over 350 episodes, 500-hour certified yoga teacher, co-author of a sex education book, and one of the few men of color leading the national conversation on HSV stigma. Courtney was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 in 2013. Instead of shrinking from it, he turned that experience into a full-on movement — one that has helped thousands of people reclaim their identity, their sexuality, and their sanity after a herpes diagnosis.

This episode is not just for people who are HSV positive. It is for anyone who has ever had sex, is having sex, or is planning to have more of it. Which, if you're in the lifestyle, is all of you.

• Courtney's origin story — how a Saturday morning at his grandmother's house led to founding a 501(c)3 nonprofit that has saved lives
• Why 36% of people report suicidal ideation after a herpes diagnosis — and why Courtney decided that was unacceptable
• The truth about HSV-1 vs. HSV-2 — and why your middle school health class completely failed you
• Cold sores. Yeah. Those. We're going there.
• The lifestyle's unspoken assumption that "nobody here has anything" — and why that assumption is the actual problem
• How to have the disclosure conversation — Courtney literally walks us through his real-life script, word for word
• Why communicative sex is the safest sex — and what that actually looks like before clothes come off
• The 360-degree analogy that reframes everything you think you know about what a diagnosis means for your identity
• How yoga therapy became a cornerstone of Courtney's healing framework — and why nervous system regulation matters more than you think

Plus: Pris gets completely honest about her own ignorance around HSV, Adam gets real about the "turn off the anxiety brain mid-play" problem, and both of them leave the conversation humbled, educated, and genuinely better equipped to have these conversations in the community.

Find everything Courtney is building at spfpp.org — support groups (Mondays, separate men's and women's), one-on-one peer support, yoga therapy, ongoing surveys, resources, and more. Go find your people. They are there.

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We got a message that stopped us in our tracks — and honestly, it took us right back to the beginning. A listener found us on TikTok and sent in one of the most thoughtful, honest questions we've ever received: How do you prepare as a couple for your first lifestyle event when one of you is pumped and the other is... cautiously optimistic?

In this QUICKIE, Adam and Pris dig into the confessional of a married couple — 20 years in, incredible communication, and gearing up for a Halloween hotel takeover as their very first lifestyle event. She's got concerns. He's got excitement. And together? They've already got more going for them than they know.

We're covering the real talk around what it's like to jump into the deep end, why consent culture in the lifestyle actually makes it safer than you think, how to start receiving compliments without flinching, and the one thing every couple should do before they even walk through the door.

• Why this guy's approach to bringing up the lifestyle deserves a standing ovation
• What it actually feels like at a hotel takeover as a new couple — Adam's truth vs. Pris's truth
• Meet-and-greet events: why starting here changes everything
• The pressure to "perform" at big events — and why it's all in your head (mostly)
• How to learn to take a compliment without wanting to run
• Pre-event conversations every couple should have before the night begins
• Why the lifestyle is woman-centric and how husbands can stop pouting about it
• Pris's tunnel vision trick for feeling confident in any room
• Safe words, scenarios, and baby steps that actually work

Whether you're two weeks from your first event or two years in and still figuring it out — this one's for you.

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This one's a little different, y'all.

We recorded this episode live — and we mean live — straight from the floor of the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in San Antonio. Microphones up, audience in the room, Whataburger being delivered to the door at midnight, and absolutely zero filter. Just the way we like it.

The plan was to cover two things: hotel takeover etiquette (the unspoken rules nobody puts in the welcome packet) and how to keep your relationship the priority when you're surrounded by a weekend full of gorgeous, consenting, very enthusiastic humans. Important topics. Stuff we genuinely wanted to dig into.

And then our audience showed up.

What followed was 45 minutes of the most gloriously unhinged live conversation we've had on mic — themed room judging, murky pool horror stories, open-door vs. closed-door policies, Pris casually announcing her gang bang goals to a room full of people, Adam admitting he cannot say no when a woman corners him, and an entire tangent about Martha Stewart that nobody asked for but everyone enjoyed.

Fair warning: because this was a live recording and we were feeding off the crowd's energy, we went all over the place. That's what makes it real — it's exactly what a hotel takeover feels like in the moment. But it also means we didn't get to go as deep as we wanted on the actual etiquette content.

We're going to revisit this topic in a proper dedicated episode where we can actually slow down and give you the breakdown you deserve. Think of this one as the chaotic, hilarious, only-slightly-informative preview. The main event is coming.

In this episode:

• What actually happens at a hotel takeover (spoiler: it's not "housekeeping, can I come in?")
• Themed rooms, scavenger hunts, and the Fiesta room Pris is still talking about
• Open door vs. closed door — and what it means when every door is shut and silent at 1 AM
• Pool etiquette we shouldn't have to explain… and yet
• The pre-event conversation every couple needs before pulling into that parking lot
• Fantasy vs. reality of showing up thinking you're going to absolutely wreck the whole weekend
• The murky pool story from their very first takeover (you've been warned)
• Pris's birthday orgy, her gang bang bucket list, and an extended Hitachi Magic Wand tribute
• Why Adam talked big the entire drive there and then immediately said "don't leave me" upon arrival

This episode was recorded in front of a live audience at Texas Desires Hotel Takeover. Shoutout to everyone who was in that room. Y'all made the show.

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This past weekend, Adam and Pris were at a hotel takeover. Not just attending — they were there working, recording a live podcast episode in front of a room full of lifestyle people who were very much already in party mode. That full live show drops this Sunday, and trust us, you're going to want to hear it.

But here's the thing about recording a live show at a hotel takeover full of beautiful, festive, very distracted humans: you don't exactly get to deliver a thoughtful breakdown of what hotel takeovers are and how to navigate them. You get energy, chaos, laughter, and moments that make for great radio — but the actual nuts-and-bolts guide? That's what this QUICKIE is for.

Consider this your homework before Sunday. The real talk primer. The survival guide nobody hands you at the door.

In this episode of the Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE, Adam and Pris break down everything you need to know about lifestyle hotel takeovers — fresh off of attending one themselves just this past weekend. From what they actually are, to what you should pack, to how to handle jealousy when your husband is making out with someone across the pool while you're just standing there. (Asking for a friend. The friend is Pris.)

• What a hotel takeover actually is — and no, it's not as intimidating as it sounds. Think of it as the world's best adult sleepover.
• Who goes — couples, single women, and the very specific situation with single men (we keep it real on this one).
• What to bring — protection, lube, toys, a cooler full of snacks, your waterproof blankets, and maybe a hoodie because someone's wife is always cold.
• The money talk — expect $500–$800 for a full weekend, and plan for zero food on premises. DoorDash is your co-pilot.
• Consent, discretion, and closed doors — just because it's a takeover doesn't mean everyone is available to you. Rules still apply.
• Communication before, during, and after — including the debate over whether or not you need a code word (and why "figgy tree" is apparently not the answer).
• How to handle jealousy in the moment — spoiler: Pris has opinions, a snarky comment ready, and absolutely zero shame about it.
• The debrief — one of the most underrated relationship tools in the lifestyle, and why that car ride home matters more than you think.
• How to find hotel takeovers — SDC, local Facebook groups, Telegram, Discord, and yes, even TikTok.

Listen to this one today, then tune in this Sunday for the live show recorded right there at the takeover. Two episodes. One unforgettable weekend. You're going to want both.

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What if your penis could tell you whether you're about to have a heart attack? Sounds wild, right? That's exactly the kind of conversation we had this week, and it did not disappoint.

Adam and Pris sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, entrepreneur, and founder of Firm Tech — one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had on the show. Dr. Justin is on a mission to bring real, data-driven sexual health tools to men and women, and the technology he's building is genuinely mind-blowing.

We're talking about a wearable cock ring — yes, you read that right — that tracks nocturnal erections, measures firmness during sex, and generates health data that could literally save your life. And that's just the beginning.

• How Dr. Justin went from having an electrode implanted near his own pubic nerve (yes, on himself) to building the world's largest erection database
• Why nocturnal erections are one of the most powerful leading indicators of cardiovascular health — and why your doctor has never told you that
• The shocking truth about erectile dysfunction: most men who think they have ED... don't. They just lose it. There's a difference, and it matters enormously
• How a cock ring works better than Viagra for most men — and why putting more blood in isn't the same as keeping blood in
• The Firm Tech ring: what it does, how it works, why Dr. Justin's wife inspired its design (yes, really — bra hooks and a stress ball), and why it's been used over a million times during sex
• The Ring Mate — a vibrator attachment designed for women during penetrative sex, invented by Dr. Justin's wife
• Female sexual dysfunction: 54% of women over 50 report sexual health issues, and why clitoral engorgement data could be a game-changer
• Why SSRIs are "dick and clit killers" — and why Dr. Justin is openly hostile to that class of medication
• Why every single supplement they've tested (12 of them) has failed to improve erectile function in controlled data
• Performance anxiety, the death grip debate, porn addiction myths, and why men in the lifestyle need to open their minds about cock rings
• Pris reveals she's in early menopause, they talk testosterone for women, and Dr. Justin has thoughts

Dr. Elliot Justin is a physician, researcher, and the founder and CEO of Firm Tech, a sexual health technology company. He has published multiple peer-reviewed papers on erectile health, nocturnal erections, and sexual wellness wearables. His device has tracked over 220,000 erections on nearly 4,000 men — making it the largest erectile health database in the world. He lives in Montana, rides horses with questionable skill (by his own admission), and is genuinely one of a kind.

Find Dr. Justin and the Firm Tech ring at myfirmtech.com or email him directly at elliott@myfirmtech.com.

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Use code BEYOMONO at checkout for 15% off any Firm Tech order at myfirmtech.com.

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Everyone loves talking about the fun parts of the lifestyle — the dates, the connections, the experiences. But what about everything that has to happen BEFORE any of that?

The messaging. The vetting. The scheduling. The follow-up. All of it takes time, energy, and emotional bandwidth. And in most couples? It doesn't fall equally.

On today's QUICKIE, Adam and Pris get real about how they divide the emotional labor of connecting with other couples — who does the messaging, who handles vetting (and why Pris's gut is basically a superpower), what it looks like to stay in the loop without losing your mind, and why making it intentional beats letting resentment sneak in through the back door.

In this episode:

• Why Adam carries most of the online conversation weight
• Pris's vetting process — and the story behind her eerily accurate intuition
• Online chemistry vs. in-person chemistry and how they experience it differently
• The DADT tendency that sneaks into their setup (and how they're working on it)
• What "staying in the loop" actually looks like in practice
• Why you need to talk about this stuff before resentment makes the decision for you

Whether you divide things the same way or totally differently, the point is: make it intentional. Don't just let it default.

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