Becoming Wilkinson – Détails, épisodes et analyse

In this engaging conversation, David Wichman discusses his latest book, "The Four Rooms", which explores themes of sexual freedom and wellbeing, particularly for queer men. The discussion delves into the concept of the 'Four Rooms,' a framework for understanding the queer male experience, and emphasizes the importance of curiosity over judgment in navigating personal and societal challenges. Wichman also reflects on the current political climate, the significance of community, and the role of storytelling in fostering connection and resilience among marginalized groups. The conversation concludes with Wichman sharing his plans for promoting his book and engaging with audiences.


Bio :
David Wichman Also known as David-SF is an award-winning author, speaker advocate for sexual freedom and a long time sex worker.
Known for his raw intense passion in his online adult content  presence. David’s message and his work also explores the intersections of shame, desire, and self-acceptance with fearless vulnerability.
His memoir, Every Grain of Sand, earned many accolades including the 2024 American Legacy Book Award in LGBTQ+ Nonfiction, solidifying his voice within the LGBTQ+ community.
With over 18 years of experience as a sex worker, David brings a deeply personal lens to his writing, sharing stories that challenge comfort zones and highlight the complexities of sexuality and healing.
His latest book, The Four Rooms: An InQueery on Sexual Freedom and Well-being, invites readers to uncover the parts of themselves often silenced by shame and societal conditioning, offering a path toward deeper connection and self-acceptance.
Through bold storytelling and thought-provoking insights, David opens the door to meaningful conversations about identity, intimacy, and the journey to sexual well-being. His work continues to inspire and guide those seeking to embrace their full sexual selves with curiosity and compassion.

Contact David: http://www.davidsworld.me

Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2023

To contact Wilkinson:  BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

Chapters
00:00
Introduction and Background of Matt Nightingale
02:05
Understanding Identity and Early Realizations
05:57
Marriage and the Struggle with Sexual Orientation
10:00
Coming Out and the Journey of Acceptance
14:01
Reflections on Marriage and Family Life
17:49
Navigating Relationships with Children
19:57
Public Coming Out and Community Support
22:15
Coming Out and Its Impact
25:02
Navigating Relationships and Acceptance
28:01
The Evolution of Self-Acceptance
29:58
Finding Love During a Pandemic
36:58
Current Work and Spiritual Journey

In this conversation, Matt Nightingale shares his journey of self-discovery as a gay man raised in a fundamentalist Christian environment. He discusses his early awareness of his sexual orientation, the complexities of marrying a woman while grappling with his identity, and the challenges of living a double life. Matt reflects on his experiences in reparative therapy, the impact of his coming out on his family, and the evolution of his relationships with his children and ex-wife. He emphasizes the importance of acceptance and understanding within the LGBTQ community and the Christian faith. In this conversation, Matt Nightingale shares his journey of coming out as gay, navigating the complexities of relationships, and evolving his understanding of faith and spirituality. He discusses the challenges he faced during his marriage, the acceptance he found within himself, and how he ultimately found love during the pandemic. Matt also talks about his current work in ministry and his passion for supporting others in their spiritual journeys, particularly those deconstructing conservative Christian beliefs.

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LGBTQ, coming out, marriage, spirituality, identity, acceptance, Christian community, advocacy, personal journey, family dynamics, coming out, LGBTQ+, self-acceptance, relationships, spirituality, ministry, love, personal growth, divorce, community support

BIO
Matt Nightingale is a pastor, musician, speaker, writer, and spiritual director from San Francisco’s North Bay Area. He is founder and executive director of Common Sanctuary, and co-pastor (along with his long-time best friend, Tony Gapastione) of The Quest.
Matt’s musical/creative exploits have included performing a solo show at the Tulsa Jazz Hall of Fame, singing the national anthem at two 49ers games and a stint with the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus. His song, “Always Entertaining Me (The La-La Song)” was featured in the hit Korean drama IRIS, and his song, “Going Home” was recorded by Broadway star and Emmy winner Loretta Devine and is featured on the soundtrack of the short film “Neighbor.”
For seventeen years, Matt worked as a worship pastor in the Evangelical Covenant Church, serving churches in Redwood City, CA; Houston, TX; Tulsa, OK; Seattle, WA; and Santa Rosa, CA. He is a graduate of the Spiritual Director Formation Program at The Journey Center Association and a member of Spiritual Directors International.
As a gay Christian, Matt is passionate about the intersection of sexuality and spirituality, and he works to create safe, sacred spaces for people exploring these identities. His TEDx talk, “Choosing Gratitude and Hope,” with his former wife, Luanne Nightingale, tells their story of a mixed-orientation marriage, an evolving understanding of faith and sexuality, and the choice to divorce with gratitude and hope.

Matt is the husband of Alejandro and the father of four adult children: Joshua, Jacob, Emily and Zachary.

CONTACT:
Matt's website:  http://www.mattnightingale.com. 
Matt is also @mattnightingale on Twitter, Bluesky, Instagram and FB.

To contact Wilkinson: BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

In this engaging conversation, James Jardine shares his transformative journey from a corporate banking career in Southern California to embarking on adventurous road trips and working on a fishing boat in Alaska. He discusses the challenges and experiences he faced at sea, including a harrowing incident involving a capsizing boat. The conversation also touches on personal growth, the importance of saying yes to new opportunities, and the exciting new venture of creating content together on platforms like OnlyFans. As they reflect on their past adventures and future plans, both James and Wilkinson emphasize the value of living life to the fullest and embracing change.

Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2024
To contact Wilkinson- email him at BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

Shawn Smith shares his stories of coming out in the rural midwest.

His involvement in an emerging Gay college campus organization began a path of LGBT activism, advocacy, and community-building as the Gay Rights Movement began to coalesce in the mid-70's across America.

Lured by the freedom and anonymity of big city life, Shawn shares his adventures along the road to freedom of sexual expression.

A writer and storyteller by trade, he's now quasi-retired and slacking poolside: A dirty old man enjoying the free and Fabulously Gay life that Palm Springs has to offer.

Contact Shawn at: macgizmoguy@hotmail.com 

Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2022

Opening and closing music courtesy the very talented Zakhar Valaha via Pixabay.

To contact Wilkinson- email him at BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

Aaron Jay Young grew up in a very conservative, religious home in Pennsylvania.
He escaped at age 19 and he's spent his adult life on a journey of growth and self-discovery.  Today he's an amazing portrait photographer based in LA and Palm Springs.  I'm proud to have had the chance to get to know and interview this beautiful soul.

In Aaron's own words:
"My work is my passion. It is a culmination of all my life experiences - the pain, the trauma, the work I’ve done to find forgiveness, love, and compassion - not just for myself but for others. The process allows me to see other people, their pain, their joy, their vulnerability, and capture it authentically. It is with my camera that I take this journey; through self-portraits and through portraiture of others. 

It’s a very intimate experience; when a subject is in front of me, whether it’s for 30 seconds, or much longer. There is an undeniable connection that is established. We exchange a sense of trust. All other distractions fall away and it is my sole purpose to see them and to capture those moments of truth. 

Self-portraits are a way for me to expose not only my own inner world, but the inner world of others; to capture emotional states that are not encouraged to be shown in our society. Yet this is the very essence of what everyone can relate to throughout their own moments in life".  
Aaron Jay Young

Web:  https://www.aaronjayyoung.com
Email:  aaron@aaronjayyoung.com


Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2022

Opening and closing music courtesy the very talented Zakhar Valaha via Pixabay.

To contact Wilkinson- email him at BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

Matthew Hardy is a New York City based actor and musical theater writer. His musicals can be seen Off-Broadway, at theaters across the United States and as far away as Poland. As an actor he has performed in theater, film and television but has recently made the leap to the tiny screen where you can find him on tiktok singing impromptu songs in his underwear.

www.matthewhardy.org

www.tiktok.com/@matthewahardy

Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2022

Opening and closing music courtesy the very talented Zakhar Valaha via Pixabay.

To contact Wilkinson- email him at BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

Rob Ollander-Krane

Rob grew up in New Jersey where he met his husband Jason 43 years ago at 19 years old! It was there that he also started his career in retail and Human Resources…a career that led to Harvard Business Case creating a case study that focused on the innovative work he did in Performance Management.

The two left New Jersey for the greener pastures of California and settled in San Francisco in 1987. Two years later, they were among the first gay men to both legally adopt a child. Their son Craig, now 37, lives in Virginia with his wife and 4-year-old son. Rob is a real gay grandpa!

A few years back, Jason and Rob relocated to Palm Desert and retired. But that hasn’t slowed Rob down. Since moving here, he has become a singer/songwriter, penning three songs after unsuccessfully trying to write songs for many years. The trick he discovered…a song writing camp in the Catskills run by his favorite band, the Milk Carton Kids. 

But if that wasn’t enough, he also started a gay country western dance space called Palm Springs Country Dance Association where he and 50 others dance every Friday night. 

Seems Rob is a bit of a renaissance man. What will he do next?

Come dance at the Palm Springs Country Dance Association: https://www.facebook.com/groups/3149602058688600

Listen to Rob’s favorite band: https://www.themilkcartonkids.com

And check Rob out at Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/rob.ollanderkrane


Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2022

Opening and closing music courtesy the very talented Zakhar Valaha via Pixabay.

To contact Wilkinson- email him at BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

Ram Charan has been passionate about exploring consciousness through meditation and healing work for decades. 

A native of New York, he has spent the greater part of 30 years in India where he gained a deep appreciation and understanding of spiritual awareness practices and intuitive wisdom, which finds expression in his practice of integrative bodywork and transformational coaching. 

He combines this with extensive training in multiple holistic therapeutic approaches. He received his coaching training and certification through Coacharya in Chennai, India. His bodywork and coaching styles integrate his skills in a wide variety of manual techniques with a subtle understanding of the healing value of deep presence and conscious dialogue. 

He teaches and works extensively internationally and is based on Cape Cod from Spring through Autumn. 

For more information about his coaching and bodywork services, see: 

www.healherenow.com

www.adamramcharan.com

Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2022

Opening and closing music courtesy the very talented Zakhar Valaha via Pixabay.

To contact Wilkinson- email him at BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

RUSSELL POE
When he was a young man, Russ Poe had a professor who told him not  to follow his passion of becoming a teacher.  Years later, with a lot of life experiences under his belt and with three children of his own, circumstances in his life changed and he was able to once again come back to his passion. He returned to school, obtained the necessary teaching credentials and began teaching.

That was twelve years ago.  having moved from the Chicago suburbs to the desert, he now teaches middle school in Desert Host Springs.

He shares some insights from teaching middle schoolers and also manages to share a few life lessons with us.

Borrowing a line from a Ben Rector song, he says:

"I'm living my best life
I wake up with the sunrise
It does not look a thing like I thought that it would
I've been getting my steps in
And I sleep with my best friend..."

Russ says that he feels like he's cheating at life.  His second chapter is starting so well...

He lives with his wife and three children in Cathedral City, CA.

Contact Russ via email: russp1968@gmail.com

Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2022

Opening and closing music courtesy the very talented Zakhar Valaha via Pixabay.

To contact Wilkinson- email him at BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com

RICKY REIDLING
Ricky was born in the small southern town of Winder, Georgia on May 15th. Doing local theater productions since he was a kid he got his first real break when he was 15 when he was asked to audition for "Annie Get Your Gun" playing 'lil Jake, Annie's brother. He won the audience's over with great reviews to follow. Ricky continued acting in various productions throughout his career and finally decided to make the move to California where he was referred to a talent agent by a well known casting director and appeared in several films. Ricky then decided to start his own entertainment company where he would write/produce/direct and act in some of his own productions.

Ricky is a filmmaker, writer, actor and creator of the Cable series BoysTown, the feature film HEELS and the T.V. pilot Some Kind of Wonderful.

Some Kind of Wonderful  Website:   www.skowseries.com

Ricky's IMDB profile and info:
https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1579379/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_0

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ricky.reidling

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rickyreidling/

Photo: Copyright Wilkinson/2022

Opening and closing music courtesy the very talented Zakhar Valaha via Pixabay.

To contact Wilkinson- email him at BecomingWilkinson@gmail.com