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| How Parenthood Ruins Your Sex Life and How to Revive It | 30 Aug 2024 | 00:37:06 | |
In this episode, we discuss how childhood trauma impacts relationship intimacy, with a focus on the challenges faced by couples after having kids. We delve into topics such as intimacy after giving birth, the influence of pornography on intimacy, and the effects of early sexual experiences on adult relationships. We offer practical advice for new parents on maintaining intimacy and overcoming relationship challenges with the help of inner child work and psychodynamic therapy. This episode serves as a guide for understanding how having kids changes your relationship and provides valuable relationship advice for new parents to ensure a healthy and fulfilling partnership. 00:00 Introduction to Becoming Untriggered 01:09 The Impact of Birth on Intimacy 02:42 Navigating Post-Birth Intimacy Challenges 11:37 The Role of Trauma in Intimate Relationships 22:39 Early Sexual Experiences and Their Effects 26:57 Healing Through Intimacy 29:21 The Role of Pornography in Relationships 33:56 Final Thoughts and Takeaways – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ | |||
| Why Being SELFISH Will SAVE Your Relationship | 16 Aug 2024 | 00:39:23 | |
In this episode, we delve into surviving early parenthood and the importance of not losing yourself in the process. We discuss how prioritising self-care and being 'selfish' in relationships can prevent resentment and burnout. We also explore the negative effects of people pleasing, the crucial role of inner child work, and how understanding and addressing unprocessed traumas from childhood can help you navigate the challenges of parenthood. Tune in for insights on balancing responsibilities, managing guilt, and supporting each other as co-parents. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com/ https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ | |||
| How to Keep Stress from Ruining Your Relationships | 02 Aug 2024 | 00:34:36 | |
In this episode, we delve into the topic of stress in relationships and how to manage it effectively. We discuss the negative effects of stress and how it can manifest in daily life, often due to unprocessed trauma from childhood. By exploring inner child work and inner parenting, we provide practical tools to help you cope with stress, own it, and process it rather than projecting it onto your partner or children. Through our own personal experiences and examples from our clients, we illustrate how to recognise and deal with stress in a healthy way. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ | |||
| Why Your Kids Fighting Triggers You and How to Handle It | 19 Jul 2024 | 00:34:42 | |
In this episode, we uncover why your kids fighting triggers you and give you practical tools on how to deal with your kids fighting. We explore the common challenges faced by parents when their children fight, including sibling rivalry, name-calling, bullying and physical fighting. We delve into how these situations can bring up unprocessed childhood traumas and offer practical tools to help you become the calm, respectful parent you desire to be. We also offer step-by-step guidance on how to process unprocessed emotions, dealing with repressed anger, and maintaining a regulated nervous system even when your children fight.
Book a 3hr Relationship Recovers session with Lavinia and Andrew - https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ | |||
| Why Most Relationships Fail | 19 Jul 2024 | 00:38:46 | |
In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we dive deep into the common issues that lead to divorce and discuss how childhood traumas and unprocessed emotions can manifest as conflict in relationships. We also share personal experiences, insights on attachment trauma, and practical tools for reparenting your inner child to foster healthier, more present relationships. Tune in to learn how to navigate conflict in relationship, take responsibility for your emotional needs, and support each other in overcoming unconscious wounds. Resources mentioned: Book a 3hr Relationship Recovers session with Lavinia and Andrew - https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ | |||
| Welcome to Becoming Untriggered | 10 Jul 2024 | 00:00:31 | |
Welcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners. In each episode, you'll hear stories, practical tools, and strategies related to topics like healing your inner child, emotional regulation, overcoming childhood coping mechanisms, and so much more. Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 years of their own relationship experience and decades of working with both mothers and fathers. Together, they reveal how unconscious childhood trauma can manifest in adulthood, especially when life gets serious and committed relationships and children come on the scene. Join in fortnightly for practical tools, actionable advice and conversations that empower you to show up as the conscious parent and connected partner you want to be. Connect with Andrew at andrewlynn.net and Lavinia at laviniabrown.com. | |||
| The Impact Of Angry/Absent Dads and Anxious/Volatile Mums | 11 Oct 2024 | 00:45:18 | |
In this episode, we explore how childhood dynamics and parental influences shape adult relationships and parenting styles. The discussion delves into the effects of volatile and anxious mothers, as well as angry and absent fathers, on your attachment styles and relationship dynamics. Through psychodynamic coaching and inner child healing, we offer insights and healing techniques to address these deeply ingrained patterns and promote healthier family dynamics. Perfect for anyone on a healing journey who wants to understand how their parents can have an impact on their romantic relationships. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ | |||
| The Secret to a Smoother Back-to-School Transition | 27 Sep 2024 | 00:38:27 | |
In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we discuss the back-to-school season and its impact on both children and parents. We explore how unprocessed childhood trauma can influence parents' reactions and provide practical tips for supporting both your child and inner child through this transition. The conversation explores understanding the inner child, the challenges of parenting, and how to create a supportive environment for both your kids and yourself during the back-to-school transition. Perfect for any parent dealing with back-to-school anxiety and looking for parenting tips. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ | |||
| Stop Feeling Annoyed By Your Kids Neediness! | 13 Sep 2024 | 00:46:33 | |
In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we discuss the challenges of dealing with children's neediness. We explore the reasons behind why parents may find their children's neediness annoying, the childhood triggers linked to this, and how to overcome these feelings. This episode covers various ways children's neediness manifests, including clinginess, verbal demands, ungratefulness, and unhappiness, offering practical parenting tools and parenting advice to help parents process their emotions and create a more nurturing environment. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ | |||
| How to Talk to Your Teens About Drugs, Alcohol, and S8x | 20 Dec 2024 | 00:27:57 | |
Parenting tweens and teens is no easy feat, especially when navigating their rites of passage. Navigating teenage rites of passage can bring up questions like: How do I prepare my child to handle peer pressure around alcohol, drugs, or sex? How can I teach values without sounding authoritarian? In this episode, we address these and more by sharing personal stories, practical strategies, and actionable tips. We reflect on the importance of clearing our own emotional baggage to show up as the best version of ourselves for our kids, and discuss how to differentiate between helpful guidance and unintentional control. As a parent, you will leave with tools to foster open communication and guide their teens toward a responsible and empowered adulthood. Whether you're dealing with the challenges of social media influences, the allure of risky behavior, or the need to address modern issues like vaping and early relationships, this episode is a must-listen for parents. It’s packed with relatable insights and empowering advice to help you parent with intention, compassion, and confidence. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed | |||
| The Path to Becoming Untriggered with Melissa & Bryant | 06 Dec 2024 | 00:46:38 | |
In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we sit down with Melissa and Bryant, a couple navigating the intricate challenges of parenting, partnerships, and personal growth. They share their transformative journey of uncovering and overcoming individual and shared triggers that have shaped their family dynamic. Through honest reflection, they explore how childhood experiences, trauma bonds, and ingrained patterns influenced their roles as parents and partners. Their vulnerability provides a relatable and inspiring look at the ongoing process of healing and self-awareness. We also discuss the tools and strategies we helped them use to foster growth and understanding, from inner child work and inter-parenting to redefining relationship roles. While grappling with the chaos of raising kids and recalibrating expectations in marriage, their journey offers valuable insights for anyone striving to become their best self. Tune in for practical advice, profound reflections, and a testament to the power of perseverance and love in navigating life’s challenges. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed | |||
| Why Men and Women Approach Conflict So Differently | 22 Nov 2024 | 00:41:40 | |
Are Men from Mars and Women from Venus? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we’re getting real about the differences between men and women—and how those differences can both challenge and strengthen our relationships. Drawing from our own experiences (like unpacking after a big move!) and our clients' stories, we uncover why men may seem withdrawn and women feel unheard. We’ll talk about those moments of frustration, the misunderstandings that escalate into conflict, and how shifting our perspective can foster compassion instead of judgment. This is an honest conversation about connection, communication, and what it really means to show up for each other. Whether you’ve been feeling distant from your partner or just want to understand them better, this episode will help you find the balance between honoring your needs and embracing your differences. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed | |||
| How to Navigate and Manage Parenting Conflicts with In-Laws | 08 Nov 2024 | 00:30:26 | |
In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we delve into the complexities of managing relationships with in-laws, especially around parenting approaches. Join us as we discuss the common triggers that arise, from differing parenting styles to struggles with boundary-setting. We explore why these tensions often stem from deeper dynamics with our own parents and how these relationships can serve as a mirror for unresolved childhood issues. Learn practical strategies for setting clear boundaries with in-laws while preserving family harmony, supporting your partner through these challenges, and approaching in-law relationships as opportunities for personal growth. Tune in to learn strategies for navigating in-law dynamics with patience and authenticity. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ | |||
| Does Gentle Parenting Actually Work? | Real Talk on Parenting Styles | 25 Oct 2024 | 00:33:45 | |
In this podcast episode, we explore whether gentle parenting actually works, diving into gentle or conscious parenting vs. authoritarian parenting, and their impact. Offering valuable parenting tips and exploring gentle parenting myths, we address common parenting mistakes including the balance between authority and collaboration. We also discuss why parents sometimes revert to authoritarian or authoritative styles and how to blend empathy with discipline. This podcast episode is packed with practical tips, expert guidance, and the pros and cons of various parenting approaches. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed | |||
| Do You Need Estrangement to Break Generational Traumas? | 03 Jan 2025 | 00:27:35 | |
In this episode, we dive deep into the often misunderstood topic of estrangement and ask the question: Do you need it to break generational traumas? We unpack what it means to create space in family dynamics—whether it’s reducing contact or going completely no-contact—and explore how this process can be a powerful tool for healing. Together, we tackle the generational trauma and societal norms that shape family relationships and keep many stuck in unhealthy cycles, offering actionable steps to create healthier connections. Our conversation examines the emotional weight of guilt and obligation, the courage required to set boundaries, and the importance of living as your adult self rather than being controlled by an inner child. With personal stories and relatable analogies, we show how estrangement, when approached consciously, can foster personal transformation and healthier family dynamics. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed | |||
| Is It Ever Too Late to Repair Your Parent-Child Relationship? | 28 Feb 2025 | 00:21:13 | |
In this episode, we explore the power of repair in parenting, what it means, why it matters, and whether there’s a point where it’s no longer effective. We dive into the difference between short-term and long-term repair, the role of unresolved trauma, and how self-awareness can transform your relationship with your child. Many parents struggle with guilt, wondering if past mistakes have caused lasting harm. We share our own experiences and expert insights on why repair is always possible, even if it feels too late. We discuss how acknowledging your mistakes, taking responsibility, and showing genuine effort can rebuild trust and connection over time. If you’ve ever felt like you’ve damaged your relationship with your child beyond repair, this episode will give you hope and practical strategies to mend the bond. Tune in to discover how your healing journey can create a ripple effect, fostering deeper connection, understanding, and resilience in your child. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:https://www.andrewlynn.net/ Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| How Your Inner Child Is Sabotaging Your Career | 14 Feb 2025 | 00:21:46 | |
Does your career feel stuck, unfulfilling, or full of unnecessary struggle? You might be unknowingly sabotaging your success. The beliefs and patterns formed in childhood don’t just shape your personal life, they also dictate your career choices, job satisfaction, and professional growth. In this episode, we uncover how your inner child influences your professional choices, the jobs you choose, why you stay in unfulfilling roles, and how you show up at work every day. From seeking parental approval to struggling with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and burnout, we unpack the unconscious ways your past is controlling your present. Many high-achievers unknowingly run on outdated survival mechanisms, leading to burnout, dissatisfaction, and even chronic health issues. Recognizing these patterns is the first step toward breaking free from self-sabotage. By doing the inner work, you can release old patterns and step into a career that truly aligns with your authentic self. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:https://www.andrewlynn.net Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| How to Make Your Kids Feel Safe in an Unsafe World | 31 Jan 2025 | 00:25:07 | |
In this episode, we explore how to make your kids feel safe in an increasingly unsafe world. From natural disasters to unsettling news cycles and social media overload, modern parenting comes with unprecedented challenges. They discuss how these external factors impact children’s emotional well-being and why creating a secure home environment is more crucial than ever. You’ll learn practical strategies for balancing honesty and protection when talking to your kids about difficult topics. We not only share our perspectives on managing fear, regulating emotions, and fostering resilience in children, but also address the importance of parental self-regulation, showing how your sense of safety directly influences your child’s emotional stability. Tune in to discover actionable advice for building a safe haven at home, where your children feel seen, heard, and protected. Whether you're navigating global crises or everyday stressors, this episode will equip you with tools to help your family thrive in an unpredictable world. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads | |||
| Why Addiction Stems from Childhood Pain (And How to Heal) | 17 Jan 2025 | 00:31:38 | |
In this episode, we dive into the complex and often misunderstood world of addiction, exploring how it functions as a coping mechanism for unprocessed pain and trauma. From socially acceptable habits like workaholism and exercise to substance dependencies, we examine the many faces of addiction and how they impact both personal lives and relationships. Together, we unpack what it means to recognize and address these unconscious behaviors and ask: How can we replace coping mechanisms with authentic healing? Our conversation touches on the emotional weight of shame, the unhealed wounds from childhood, and the societal norms that reinforce addictive patterns. We explore the role of self-compassion, inner parenting, and emotional awareness in breaking the cycle of addiction. Whether you’re navigating addiction yourself, supporting a loved one, or seeking to understand how unconscious behaviors influence your life, you’ll learn how to identify your own triggers and take the first steps toward building conscious, healthier habits. – Resources mentioned: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed | |||
| The Path to Becoming Untriggered with Joanna Lindenbaum | 14 Mar 2025 | 00:36:12 | |
In this episode, we explore the power of somatic healing, what it is, why it matters, and how it can transform both personal growth and relationships. We also explore the role of deep inner work, the connection between mind and body, and how somatic practices can help navigate triggers in marriage and parenting. Joanna Lindenbaum shares her journey from the art world to coaching, revealing how a life-altering experience pushed her to embrace her true calling. Joanna is the founder of the Applied Depth Institute, where she trains coaches, therapists, and leaders in master-level facilitation and trauma-informed coaching. With over 20 years of experience in coaching, human behavior, and embodiment practices, she helps practitioners go beyond surface-level work to create lasting transformation. Her Sacred Depths Practitioner Certification empowers professionals to gain the skills, confidence, and depth that set them apart while also experiencing profound personal growth. Many high-achievers struggle with balancing ambition, family, and self-care. Joanna opens up about her own challenges as the financial leader in her household, the unexpected triggers that surfaced in her marriage, and the work it took to redefine her relationship dynamics. We discuss how somatic awareness, ritual practices, and emotional regulation can help break free from limiting beliefs and create healthier, more fulfilling connections. Tune in to discover how embracing discomfort, working through fears, and integrating somatic practices can lead to profound transformation in both your inner world and your relationships. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:https://www.andrewlynn.net/ Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Joanna: https://applieddepthinstitute.com/ https://www.facebook.com/joanna.lindenbaum https://www.instagram.com/joanna.lindenbaum https://www.linkedin.com/in/joanna-lindenbaum-25377929a 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| Why You Pick Your Partner: The Psychology of Attraction & Love | 28 Mar 2025 | 00:22:52 | |
Have you ever wondered why you’re drawn to certain people? In this episode, we uncover the psychology of attraction and the unconscious reasons behind your partner choices. From childhood experiences to hidden emotional wounds, we discuss how early attachment styles and past relationships shape who we find attractive and why those patterns sometimes lead to relationship challenges. Attraction isn’t just about chemistry; it’s deeply influenced by trauma bonds, unmet childhood needs, and subconscious expectations. You will learn how these factors play out in romantic relationships, why certain traits that once felt comforting can later become triggering, and how to recognize patterns that no longer serve you. Whether you’re in a relationship or reflecting on past choices, this conversation will help you gain clarity on your love life. We’ll share practical strategies for breaking unhealthy cycles, deepening emotional connections, and building conscious, fulfilling relationships. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| Is It Your Personality or a Trauma Response? | 11 Apr 2025 | 00:23:29 | |
Have you ever wondered if the way you show up in the world is truly YOU, or if it’s a response to something you’ve been through? Many traits we consider “just who we are”, like people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional numbing, or hyper-independence, may actually be protective patterns shaped by past experiences. In this episode, we’ll unpack how unresolved trauma can wire the nervous system and influence your behaviors, reactions, and relationships. You’ll learn how to identify common trauma responses that often go unnoticed because they’ve been part of your identity for so long. If you’re on a journey of self-awareness, healing, or helping others do the same, this episode will help you draw the line between personality and past trauma. Tune in to uncover what’s really driving your responses, and how you can begin the process of healing and reclaiming your authentic identity. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme:https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme:https://www.andrewlynn.net Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session:https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| Parenting Tips to Manage More Than One Child | 25 Apr 2025 | 00:28:06 | |
Parenting more than one child is a beautiful and chaotic dance of energy, emotions, and endless learning curves. In this episode, we discuss the complex dynamics of raising multiple children, from juggling attention and managing birth order effects to uncovering unconscious triggers rooted in our own childhood experiences. With candid stories and heartfelt insights from raising our three kids, we reveal how subtle adaptations in each child can form based on how we parent them (or don't). We explore common patterns such as the “good” vs. “bad” child dynamic, sibling rivalry, and how birth order can shape a child’s role in the family system. We also shed light on how gender roles and societal expectations unconsciously impact how parents treat their sons versus their daughters. Whether you’re a parent of two or more, or thinking about expanding your family, this episode offers empowering strategies to parent with more awareness, compassion, and flexibility. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| Why Your Child's Defiance Triggers You (How to Break the Cycle) | 23 May 2025 | 00:25:22 | |
Does your child’s defiance trigger something deep in you? Maybe it’s backtalk, boundary-pushing, or refusal to listen—and suddenly you feel disrespected, overwhelmed, or out of control. This episode of Becoming Untriggered explores why your child’s behavior creates such a powerful emotional response and what it reveals about your own inner wounds. We take a trauma-informed approach to parenting triggers—like authoritarian upbringings, religious shame around obedience, and emotional neglect—to help you understand the real reason defiance hits so hard. You’ll discover how power struggles form, why your nervous system reacts like it’s under threat, and what to do instead. If you’re ready to stop reacting from survival mode and start parenting from grounded authority, this episode offers practical, compassionate strategies. Learn how to set boundaries without control, regulate your own triggers, and create space for emotional safety and connection in your home. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| Can Couples Therapy Make Things Worse? | 09 May 2025 | 00:26:01 | |
Couples therapy is often seen as the fix for relationship problems, but what if it actually makes things worse? In this episode, we unpack why traditional couples therapy or marriage counseling might not work unless deeper emotional wounds are addressed first. We explore how unresolved attachment trauma, unmet childhood needs, and inner child work play a major role in how we show up in romantic relationships. You’ll hear how unconscious expectations, coping patterns, and childhood experiences silently sabotage even the most well-intentioned communication tools. If you’re considering couples counseling, or feel like it hasn’t helped, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of why healing must start individually, and what needs to happen before therapy can actually work. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| Why is It So Hard to Meditate? How to Start When It Feels Impossible | 20 Jun 2025 | 00:25:58 | |
You sit down to meditate, and instead of peace, you feel panic. Your mind races, your body buzzes, and every part of you wants to get up and do something else. If that’s you, you’re not failing at meditation—you’re likely trying to use it before your nervous system is ready. If you've ever thought “I can’t meditate,” this episode is exactly where you should start. In this episode, we talk about why meditation often feels impossible. We unpack the real reasons you can’t “just sit still”, from trauma response and nervous system dysregulation to inner child wounds and coping mechanisms that once kept you safe. You’ll learn how to start gently, how to use sensory tools to anchor when you’re overwhelmed, and how to stop comparing your practice to someone else’s highlight reel. Whether you’ve tried to meditate and given up, or you’re curious why it triggers you instead of calming you. You will learn how to build safety in your body first… so meditation can finally work for you, not against you. – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| Are You Emasculating Your Man Without Realizing It? | 06 Jun 2025 | 00:26:44 | |
Do you find yourself taking on the mental load of parenting and home life, and unintentionally treating your partner like a co-parenting assistant? In this episode, we unpack how emotional labor, gender roles, and break down the subtle—and not-so-subtle—ways women may be emasculating their partners while trying to manage the mental load of parenting and modern life. We explore what it really means to emasculate your partner, what is toxic masculinity vs healthy masculinity, what women want in a man today, how childhood trauma and generational patterns influence modern relationships, and why many men feel disempowered or unseen in their role. You’ll also learn how the pressure to “do it all” as a mother can create imbalance in your dynamic, and how to ask for help from your husband without making him feel emasculated. If you want to stop feeling like you're doing everything and start building a healthy, connected relationship, this conversation is a must-listen! – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| Coping with Sibling Estrangement | Healing, Boundaries & Growth | 22 Aug 2025 | 00:29:06 | |
Have you and your siblings grown apart? Do you wonder how you can repair that relationship without losing yourself? This episode unpacks the emotional complexity of sibling estrangement, including how unresolved childhood dynamics, parental favoritism, and generational trauma can shape fractured family bonds. You'll learn practical strategies to help you process anger, grief, and confusion without needing your sibling to be “on the same page”. We talk about reconciliation, holding boundaries, and seeking emotional peace. 01:30 - Why Siblings Grow Apart 03:20 - Childhood Perception and Parental Favoritism 05:10 - Why Siblings Have Different Childhoods 07:00 - Generational Trauma & Family Roles 11:00 - How Inner Work Triggers Family Conflict 16:00 - Sibling Jealousy and Injustice 21:00 - Why Estranged Siblings Often Misplace Anger 26:00 - Boundaries as a Tool for Emotional Safety This episode is for anyone navigating the pain of sibling fallout, whether you’ve been cut off, ghosted, or just feel emotionally distant. 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| Are You Dealing with a Narcissist? Spot the Signs & Protect Yourself | 19 Sep 2025 | 00:34:12 | |
Are you dealing with a narcissist? In this episode, we break down the key traits of narcissism, explain the difference between selfishness and narcissism, and answer whether children can truly be labeled as narcissists. Discover how to recognize narcissistic behavior without second-guessing yourself, heal the wounds of having a narcissistic parent or partner, set strong boundaries and stop draining cycles, and build secure attachment and reclaim your self-love. 01:00 – Narcissistic Traits 05:25 – Manipulation, Illness & Gaslighting Explained 15:30 – Can You Become a Narcissist? 20:00 – Why You Attract Narcissists 22:15 – Can Children Be Narcissists? 25:30 – How to Deal with a Narcissist Parent or Partner 30:00 – Protect Your Inner Child Whether you’ve asked “Is my partner a narcissist?” or worried “Am I a narcissist myself?”, this episode gives clarity and tools to finally stop the cycle. 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| How Repressed Emotions Cause Violence in Relationships (Generational Trauma) | 05 Sep 2025 | 00:25:57 | |
What causes violence in relationships? In this episode, we explore the connection between repressed childhood emotions, generational trauma, and violence in relationships. We’ll unpack how repressed anger from childhood shows up as rage in adult relationships, the difference between your own stuck emotions vs. “carried emotions” from parents, why trauma bonds make it so hard to leave unhealthy dynamics, and how to help your children express anger safely without passing on your own trauma. 00:00 – Violence and Anger in Relationships 02:00 – Repressed Anger From Childhood 04:00 – Repressed Emotion and Carried Emotion 12:00 – Trauma Bonds in Relationships 18:20 – Inner Child Work 22:00 – Helping Kids Express Emotions Safely Whether you’re struggling with your own anger, in a relationship with someone who is violent, or simply want to break free from generational patterns, we give you practical tools to heal. 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.instagram.com/andrew.g.lynn | |||
| The Path to Becoming Untriggered with Jane Hardwicke Collings | 14 Nov 2025 | 00:38:52 | |
How do rites of passage shape women’s lives? In this episode, midwife, teacher, and feminine wisdom keeper Jane Hardwicke Collings joins Lavinia Brown to explore how menstrual shame, birth trauma, and menopause have shaped women’s identities for generations, and how we can reclaim these rites of passage as sources of power, not pain. Learn what really happens when we don’t honor our transitions — from menarche (first period) to motherhood and menopause — and how these experiences silently teach us what our culture believes about women’s worth. Jane shares her life’s work guiding women to heal the wounded feminine, reclaim birth as ceremony, and restore connection to the body’s cycles as a pathway to freedom, wholeness, and intergenerational healing. 00:00 – Intro 02:00 – Why Rites of Passage Matter for Women and Men 06:00 – Menstrual Shame & Supporting Our Daughters 12:30 – Birth as Rite of Passage and Emotional Teacher 25:00 – The Wounded Sisterhood and How Patriarchy Divides Women 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Jane: www.schoolofshamanicwomancraft.com Instagram - @janehardwickecollings Facebook - ‘Jane Hardwicke Collings’ Spinning Wheels App (iPhone): https://apps.apple.com/us/app/spinning-wheels/id1540698472?platform=iphone Spinning Wheels App (Android): https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=au.com.cocreations.moonsong&hl=en 'Dear Dad' blog: https://janehardwickecollings.com/dear-dad-an-open-letter-to-men-with-a-daughter-approaching-her-menarche-first-period/ 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert | |||
| Healing Toxic Shame: The Real Reason You Feel Not Enough | 17 Oct 2025 | 00:27:43 | |
No matter how much you achieve, there’s a quiet voice saying you’re not enough. In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew unpack the hidden roots of toxic shame, what it is, how it forms in childhood, and practical steps to begin healing today. You’ll learn how toxic shame forms in childhood through criticism, emotional neglect, or the belief that love must be earned, and how it turns into patterns of self-judgment, people-pleasing, or burnout. This episode gives you practical tools to start healing toxic shame, reconnecting with your inner child, and building genuine self-compassion so you can finally feel enough, as you are. 00:00 – Intro: What Is Toxic Shame and Why It’s So Hard to Spot 01:20 – How Shame Becomes Part of Your Identity 02:45 – Childhood Roots: Where Shame Really Comes From 10:45 – The Two Faces of Shame: Anger vs Self-Destruction 13:40 – People Pleasing and Activism as Shame in Disguise 16:40 – How to Heal: From Shame to Self-Compassion 22:20 – How Subtle Shaming Shows Up in Parenting 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: | |||
| Healing After Betrayal: How to Stop Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns | 12 Dec 2025 | 00:28:39 | |
Why do I keep ending up with the same type of partner? Why does betrayal hurt this much? Healing after betrayal isn’t just about letting go of what happened, it’s about understanding why the same patterns keep repeating. In this episode, we break down the deeper emotional and psychological layers behind betrayal, including attachment wounds, trauma bonds, and the unconscious beliefs that shape who we choose and why we stay. We explore why betrayal hurts so deeply, how childhood experiences influence our adult relationships, and why ignoring red flags becomes a familiar pattern. You’ll learn how to recognise the root of your pain, where your anger and resentment come from, and how to finally take back your emotional power without blaming yourself. Whether you’re healing from deception, infidelity, emotional neglect, or the collapse of trust, this episode guides you toward the inner work needed to break the cycle! 00:00 – What Betrayal Really Means & Why It Hurts 04:00 – Types of Betrayal: Lies, Secrets, Addictions & Broken Values 06:42 – Why We Ignore Red Flags & Repeat the Same Patterns 13:12 – Childhood Wounds and Attachment Trauma 17:24 – Attracting Dysfunctional People & Repeating Cycles 19:48 – Healing Betrayal Inside a Relationship vs. Walking Away 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: | |||
| How to Raise Authentic Kids (Not Mini Versions of You) | Parenting Tips | 16 Jan 2026 | 00:25:50 | |
In a world where “success” is often defined by grades, achievements, and fitting into a predefined path, many children grow up disconnected from who they truly are. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we explore how to raise authentic kids, children who feel safe being themselves rather than becoming mini versions of their parents or living out inherited expectations. Support your child’s individuality, build emotional safety, and guide them without controlling who they become. 01:05 – When Parents Project Their Own Dreams Onto Their Children 03:40 – Academic Pressure, Grades & Identity in Children 05:00 – Why Anxiety Shows Up When Kids Aren’t Being Themselves 10:20 – School Systems, Pressure & the Rise of Childhood Anxiety 13:00 – How Parents Can Guide Without Controlling 14:20 – Simple Daily Practices to Model Emotional Self-Care 19:10 – Healing the Wounded Inner Child to Raise Authentic Kids 21:30 – The “Magical Child” & Natural Joy in Kids 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: | |||
| Have Our Leaders Been Hijacked by Their Wounded Inner Child? | 13 Feb 2026 | 00:28:08 | |
Why do some leaders seem reactive instead of regulated? Why does the news trigger anxiety? Why does the world feel so overwhelming right now? In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we dive deep into why so much in the world feels chaotic, corrupted, and out of control, and what that has to do with unhealed childhood wounds. We explain the concept of conditional versus unconditional love, and how lacking true emotional safety in childhood can lead to self-worth being tied to achievement, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and external validation. You’ll also walk away with practical tools to manage fear, build safety in your body and relationships, and regulate your nervous system—so you don’t carry external chaos into your home and inner world. This conversation is especially relevant if you’re struggling with anxiety, powerlessness, or just want to understand the emotional climate of our times. 00:30 – Are Leaders Acting from Childhood Trauma? 04:00 – Conditional vs Unconditional Love Explained 09:50 – How Lack of Self-Love Impacts Empathy: Trauma Patterns 12:30 – Reacting vs Responding (Emotional Regulation) 16:00 – Why the News Triggers Anxiety 20:15 – How to Heal Your Inner Child to Stay Regulated 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: | |||
| Why Men Avoid Therapy & Emotional Healing in Relationships | 15 May 2026 | 00:28:24 | |
Many men don’t seek therapy or emotional support until their relationship is breaking down, their stress becomes unbearable, or they reach a personal crisis point. In this episode of Becoming Untriggered Podcast, Lavinia and Andrew explore why men avoid therapy, suppress emotions, and struggle to ask for help, the role women often take in relationships when they become emotionally aware first, and how this impacts relationships, marriage, parenting, mental health, and emotional connection. 01:10 – Why Men Wait Until Crisis to Ask for Help 06:00 – Childhood Trauma & Emotional Repression in Men 09:30 – Men Look for External Solutions Instead of Healing 11:50 – Traditional Therapy Doesn’t Work for Many Men 14:47 – How Men & Women Process Emotions Differently 19:00 – Conflict in Relationships Can Trigger Healing 22:00 – How to Raise Emotionally Healthy Boys 24:00 – Men Need Better Emotional Tools 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: | |||
| Are You Raising an Entitled Child? | How Childhood Trauma Shapes Your Parenting | 12 Jun 2026 | 00:30:24 | |
Are you raising an entitled child, or are deeper emotional wounds being triggered beneath the surface? In this episode, Lavinia and Andrew explore how childhood trauma shapes parenting and why many of our strongest reactions to our children's behavior have less to do with them and more to do with our own unresolved experiences. If you've ever felt triggered by your child's behavior, struggled with emotional regulation as a parent, or wondered how to break unhealthy family patterns, this conversation offers a compassionate and practical perspective on raising emotionally healthy children while healing yourself in the process. 01:15 – Authoritarian vs Permissive Parenting 02:10 – What Emotional Safety Really Means for Children 03:30 – Why Parents Struggle to Accept Certain Behaviors 08:20 – Childhood Trauma, Emotional Baggage & Parenting 20:00 – Why Criticism Damages Self-Worth 22:00 – Authentic Behavior vs "Bad" Behavior 26:00 – Attuned Leadership: A New Parenting Model 👉 For more support, connect with us on Instagram @becoming_untriggered_podcast – Resources: Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session – 📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 📱 Connect with Andrew: | |||