What happens when you have to take a pause but centuries of social conditioning tell you you're not allowed to stop until your partner comes?? Follow Lina into the McDonald's drive-through and out of the endless reassurance spiral as we swirl together one of the weirder combinations of heartfelt advice and inappropriate imagery ever served up on this pod.

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Lina takes the mic this week to clarify a misunderstanding about the responsibility of subs in D/s dynamics, how both partners can bring 100%, and once again breaks the bad news that, yes, we have to talk to people about what we want if we want to get it (EW!).

If you're looking for Halloween stuff, sign up for a paid membership on patreon or substack to get Lina and Mr. Dune talking about the Hellraiser franchise, specifically 'Hellbound: Hellraiser 2.'

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Margeaux Feldman joined me for a deep dive into their work around trauma, sexuality, chronic illness, and queerness. Get Margeaux's upcoming book 'Touch Me I'm Sick' at your local indie bookstore or wherever books are sold. 

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A refresher on red flags and the radical notion that you don't have to put up with assholes to get your kink needs met.

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Thoughts on respecting all the connections in your polyamorous ecosystem when the sub swoons come calling.

Our next Deep Dive is on 9/12 at 3pm with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Rachel McCarthy-Moya! Get more info here.

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A listener wants to know how to navigate putting a dynamic on pause when one partner is Going Through It, and Lina offers ideas about boundaries and points of connection for the supporting partner.

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Vienna Farlow The Cuntsultant dropped by for an interview about the Fertility Awareness Method and the weird shift from not wanting to get pregnant to wanting to, and how to actually do it (or not do it!). We also talked about breeding kinks and how they're totally common, normal, and dare I say… fun?

Get the substack piece about baby fever here. 

Book Rec: Like A Mother: A Feminist Journey Through The Science and Culture of Pregnancy by Angela Garbes

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This week we're talking about how to approach conflict in a way that honors your D/s dynamic. So few of us have learned any strategies for respectful conflict, and translating the few we have into D/s language can be hard work. Let me help!

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Hurts So Good author Leigh Cowart joined me for a conversation about pervertibles, aka making kink tools out of what you've got on hand! We also talked about the ever-moving goal posts of masochism and how to make your journey sustainable, joyful, and ever-more perverse.

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

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A new kinkster asks Lina about the "empty headed feeling" that follows her scenes, and Lina explains how subby headspace can be anti-capitalist… and good for you!

Hurts So Good by Leigh Cowart | Conquer Me by Kacie Cunningham | Do Nothing by Celeste Headlee 

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Have you noticed online is just getting worse and worse? This week, kink celebrity and YouTuber Evie Lupine joins me to talk about how kinky people have seen this coming for miles, and what internet censorship means for newbies searching for their identities in the online kink world.

Get the full version of this episode on Patreon or Substack.

Get more info about the upcoming Deep Dive with Leigh Cowart on 8/2 at 5 PT here.  

Leigh previously visited us to discuss their book Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain On Purpose.

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Sometimes parting is just too much sorrow! This week Lina equips a listener with a strategy for lessening the blow of transitioning back into vanilla life without your Dom, and ask the question… maybe it's love?

Get my first interview with Leigh: teaser | full version

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Lina interviews a listener who got in touch to share the story of her custody battle with her sex-negative ex-husband, and the unexpected win that arrived at the end of her story.

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Today Lina reads a piece that's popping off on her substack about the intersection of The Hunting Wives, Susan Sontag, fascism, and Leather aesthetics. Why are we horny for what scares us? Well step right up to the erotic kaleidoscope and peer in at Malin Akerman's very Victoria's Secret-coded thongs with me. 

Read the article here | Get Elizabeth Rose Quinn's book Follow Me

LAUREN BOEBERT AT THE THE-A-TER HONEY

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A sub calls in wondering how to maintain a 24/7 spark when sometimes all you wanna do is curl up on the couch and cuddle. Spoiler alert: kink and the couch may not be as at odds with each other as we think.

For more 24/7 info check out my online course Conscious Kink that will walk you through building a dynamic of your very own!

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Trying to keep your kink gendy-neutch? Means of address can go a long way in creating that euphoric safe space for you. This week we're bringing you some Pride aftercare in the form of means of address inspiration.

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Lina comforts a listener who's seeking insight into the parallels between bi+ and non-monogamous identities. Lina also takes a second to address the difference between "unicorn hunters" and bi+ people looking to have a nice time.

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Zachary Zane, author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto stopped by to talk about bisexual sluttiness, rejecting bi assimilationism, and his hairy butthole. We had a ton of fun breaking down bi stereotypes and bringing some bi chaos to pride month.

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

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Sometimes it can be hard for us bi girls to name what we want and go after it, and this week Lina is unpacking all the varying forces that go into this common quandary. 

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A bi-for-bi open marriage, crossdressing, and a series of passionate artistic love affairs — no, it's not 2023, it's 1923! On this month's pride minisode I'm bringing you the story of bisexual it girl Vita Sackville-West, and the letters that made her a queer icon.

The Fabulous Forgotten Life Of Vita Sackville-West

Our next Deep Dive with bisexual author Zachary Zane is on 6/7 at 5 pacific.

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A Dom calls in wondering how to navigate his sub's dynamic with another Dom, and Lina talks about primary partner veto, as well as the ins and outs of navigating side-by-side dynamics. (Our deepest apologies for the title of this episode, we couldn't help ourselves)

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Hear all about the varied kink lives of our ask a sub community! From single folks to people married with kids, kink is a living, breathing practice that meets us where we are and infuses our lives with choice, meaning, and joy. 

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

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This week we're naming and confronting the pessimism that makes us think all potential sex partners are trash, then discussing what good, real Doms are actually like! They're out there!

Upcoming Deep Dive: Real Stories From The Kink World on 5/17 at 5 pacific

Mindful Masculinity Deep Dive

The Bisexual Ghost | Wife Swapping with Christopher Walken

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Today we're reclaiming our erotic power and studying a holy trinity of queer feminist writers: Adrienne Rich, Audre Lorde, and Gloria Anzaldúa. 

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A caller has gone no contact with her parents and wants to know how to be mindful with not projecting that trauma on her Daddy Dom. As a bit of an expert on this topic, Lina discusses the ins and outs of codependence versus interdependence, and caring for your inner child as revenge on the cunts who did this to you and the dicks responsible.

Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune. 

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A new sub wants to know how to manage jealousy when you're monogamous and your partner isn't. Aka, where is your place in the kink community if not at the so-called "cool kid's table?" Well, it's right here next to me.

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Join me and Luna Matatas for a discussion all about cultivating body confidence in a messed up world! 

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Find Luna online here.

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A sub wants to know how to communicate their changing needs in a longterm relationship, and Lina equips them with proactive, active, and reactive tools for sharing feedback and keeping the D/s container safe (but also spicy).

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A tour through the literary origins of masochism, as well as some modern mythbusting for the masochistically inclined.

Get my full interview with Leigh Cowart, author of Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain On Purpose, here.

Join our Deep Dive interview with Luna Matatas all about Diversity in Kink on 4/11 at 5 pacific / 8 eastern.

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Today we're tackling the question of how to share kink resources with vanilla people you encounter in your dating travels, strategies for protecting your energy as you do so, and how to hold out hope that you're going to convert seemingly vanilla folks into new kinksters.

How To Turn Your Vanilla Partner Into Your Dom | My free writing on kink| Book recs | Thich Nhat Hanh in context

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Safe Slut joined me to tell me all about her dating life as an HSV+ queen, shared her thoughts on disclosure, and gave us some insight into her first date rituals. Spoiler alert: an HSV diagnosis isn't going to end your sex life! In fact... it might make it even better.

How Herpes Became A Sexual Boogeyman (Slate)

Join Patreon at $11/month to get the complete interview here, as well as access to the archives of interviews with discussions ranging from how to find a sex positive therapist, to how to navigate your local kink scene, to the scientific origins of masochism. Oh yeah, and my only public recorded convo with Mr. Dune. 

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A sub wants to know how to bring forward feminine energy and suppress the masculine during aftercare. Lina's response? Gender is fake, privilege is real, and pegging your Dom is a submissive act. How did we get there? Guess you'll have to listen.

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The Endangered Celebrity Daddy (And The Pedro Pascalification Of My Mental Health): https://askasub.substack.com/p/the-endangered-celebrity-daddy 

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Music by Dan Molad

Cue up some disco and put on your finest assless chaps, we're taking a walking tour through the heart of leather culture in the 1970's - San Francisco's South of Market neighborhood (home of Folsom Street) and the many bars, clubs, and bathhouses that made it famous.

Check out my substack piece on the walking tour (which contains a link to download the PDF): https://askasub.substack.com/p/1970s-leather-culture 

Free & Public Friday Q&As: https://discord.gg/askasub 

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com

How to record a voice memo: http://www.askasub.com/podcast 

More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship

To join our live Q&A with Safe Slut on 3/12, join Patreon starting at $5/month: https://www.patreon.com/askasub 

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CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Today's episode is all about feeling your feelings. One sub asks whether it's possible to introduce kink to her partner in a non-sexual context, while another wants to know how to react in a subby way to conflict with their Dom. 

Support the pod at http://www.patreon.com/askasub

Free & Public Friday Q&As on Discord: https://discord.gg/askasub 

Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com

How To Record A Voice Memo: http://www.askasub.com/podcast 

More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship

Subscribe to the subby substack: https://askasub.substack.com

On this month's Deep Dive interview, Brat Whisperer Lola Jean joins me to talk all about how to find your inner brat and, more importantly, negotiate the conditions that will allow (controlled, joyful) chaos to reign. You are a cute puzzle! 

Going patreon at $11/month to get the full hour-long interview here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/brat-motivations-79112905 

Or join at $5/month to join us live for our next Deep Dive interview with @safeslut all about STI's, safer sex, and her life as an HSV+ queen!  https://www.patreon.com/askasub 

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com

More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship

Subscribe to the subby substack for free short form content: https://askasub.substack.com 

Free & Public Friday Q&As: https://discord.gg/AvkZ9f6BtY 

Follow Lola: Instagram | Twitter | Her Website 

It's summer. It's hot. It's sexy. And what's more hot and sexy than… endless scheduling and calendars? A caller wants to know how to stay sane while single and it seems that everyone in the dating pool is already partnered. Answer? Maybe some people need to take a hard look at their poly saturation point!! 

Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.

Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo.

Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here.

Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

Lina ponificates on curating kinky community beyond the algorithm, then stands at the crossroads with a listener who wants to go from book learning to street smarts. And finally, some thoughts on overthinking, and the perfectly nice orgasms it chases away.

Submit questions for this podcast as voice memos to podcast@askasub.com

Free & Pubic Friday Q&As: https://discord.gg/AvkZ9f6BtY 

More on my breakup with Instagram: https://askasub.substack.com/p/my-last-abusive-relationship

Subscribe to the subby substack for free short form content: https://askasub.substack.com 

To join our live Q&A with Lola Jean all about Brats, join patreon starting at $5/month: https://www.patreon.com/askasub 

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

New weekly episodes of ask a sub coming 2/17. Send your voice memo questions, comments, prompts, anecdotes and success stories to podcast@askasub.com <3

Masculinity and Dominance - some say they cannot peacefully coexist. But the men and masc-identifying folks of the ask a sub discord community say different. These are their voices on a deeply important and under-discussed topic. Together let's explore the ways Dominance can transform toxic masculinty into mindful masculinity, and bring men and masculine people deep healing and joy.

Join Patreon here, or at patreon.com/askasub. Once we hit 2K subscribers the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force!

Sign up for patreon at
http://www.patreon.com/askasub  

To access the full length recording of this episode go here:
https://www.patreon.com/posts/deep-dive-healed-72468088

Every wondered how to find a good therapist? And actually get your needs met by said therapist? What about sleeping arrangements for your 4 person polycule? Non-Monogamous therapist Rachel Wright has your back in this lovely interview.

Join Patreon here, or at patreon.com/askasub. Once we hit 2K subscribers the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force!

Our next Deep Dive with Gaby Herstik all about sacred sex and witchcraft is on 10/20 at 5PT. Join Patreon at $5/month to listen live, and at $11/month to get the recording. 

Sign up for patreon at
http://www.patreon.com/askasub  

To access the full length recording of this episode go here:
https://www.patreon.com/posts/deep-dive-how-to-70767312 

Socials / Links:

https://www.instagram.com/thewright_rachel/ 

https://twitter.com/Thewrightrachel 

Rachel also hosts donation based non-monogamy support groups which can be found here:

https://rachelwrightnyc.lpages.co/nm-support-group-landing-page/ 

It's official! Once we hit 2K subscribers on Patreon the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force! In the meantime I want to share a teaser of a series I'm doing for Patreon members called DEEP DIVE. 

Deep Dive is a monthy series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

Pain is a sensation that is heavily stigmatized in our culture. It can be hard to understand why masochists do what they (we) do when you're working from that cultural understanding alone. Which is why I brought in Leigh Cowart, science reporter and self-proclaimed masochist, to explain to us not only why humans pursue pain on purpose, but how it all works in your brain and body. And they have all the answers, having written one of my favorite books on a kink-related topic, Hurts So Good: The Science And Culture Of Pain On Purpose.

As as we put it in the interview, we're all just goopy primates trying to have some fun in our meat sacks. So cue up this interview and let the goop between your ears understand a little bit more about itself :)

Sign up for patreon at
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To access the full length recording of this episode go here:
https://www.patreon.com/posts/deep-dive-all-of-69147471

Socials / Links:

http://www.instagram.com/voraciousbrain

http://www.twitter.com/voraciousbrain

It's official! Once we hit 2K subscribers on Patreon the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force! In the meantime I want to share a teaser of a series I'm doing for Patreon members called DEEP DIVE. 

Deep Dive is a monthy series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

What does it take to scandalize Lina Dune you ask? Cory Bush and Adam Rei Siegel's sex life. These two people have the most remarkable scene planning energy and I can't wait for you to hear about all their exploits in great detail. Do not listen in public unless you're ready to BLUSH. HARD.

Sign up for patreon at
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To access the full length recording of this episode go here:
https://www.patreon.com/posts/creative-scene-68384204

Socials / Links:

Cory: http://www.instagram.com/thecorybush

Adam: http://www.instagram.com/adamreisiegel

The Library: http://www.instagram.com/thelibrarynyc

It's official! Once we receive 2K subscribers on Patreon the Ask A Sub podcast is coming back full force! In the meantime I want to share a teaser of a series I'm doing for Patreon members called DEEP DIVE. 

Deep Dive is a monthy series where I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink and alternative sexuality communities, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work. Not only are these interviews fun and informational, but with your support we're creating an oral history of kink at this moment in time. Exciting stuff!

May's Deep Dive was with Shamanatrix Dia Dynasty, and William the founder of kink space Temple NYC. We talked about co-topping, their favorite scenes, why responsible tops love newbies, and how kink allows us to resist the influence of capitalism. They also invited us into the magical world of FemDom Farm, a kink-influenced commune-style space that is resurrecting the Matriarchy.

Sign up for patreon at
http://www.patreon.com/askasub  

To access the full length recording of this episode go here:
https://www.patreon.com/posts/66799037

Socials / Links:

Dia: Instagram / Twitter / Website

William: Instagram / Twitter

Temple NYC: Instagram / Website

FemDom Farm: Instagram / Twitter

Media Recs:

Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and The Teachings Of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer

Your Relationship Is A Garden: Codependence & D/s Dynamics by Lina Dune

While I work on bringing you a second season of Ask A Sub, in the meantime I want to share a teaser of a patreon-exclusive series I'm doing called DEEP DIVE.

Deep Dive is a monthy series wherein I'll bring you deep conversations with luminaries in the kink community, always with the focus of asking them educated, insider questions about their work.

In April I had the honor of kicking off this series with the legendary nightlife curator Venus Cuffs. We covered play parties from every possible angle, from the organizing side to the attendee side, and gave listeners tips and tricks for attending kink events. Then Venus told us all about female-led D/s relationships and the beauty therein. 

Sign up for patreon at http://www.patreon.com/askasub  

To access the full length recording go here: https://www.patreon.com/posts/venus-cuffs-on-65023115

Our next patrons-only Q&A will be on May 19th at 5pm PST with will be with with dominatrix Dia Dynasty and William of @tiemetightly / the founder of Temple NYC. They will talk Dominance, rope, and FemDom Farm. See you there!

In our season finale, we wade into the waters of respect, romance, and all things mushy gushy. First, hear Lina's thoughts on training collars and creating contracts – how to set up expectations, needs, and all the rice-kneeling moments in between, including a little peek into Lina's accidental protocol misinterpretation at the start of her own dynamic! Next, Lina talks about something we don't hear covered often – the romantic side of D/s dynamics and what happens if you fall in love with your Dom(me). Finally, Lina offers advice on how to kinkify a wedding and marriage as a whole. And make sure to stay tuned to the end for the big, juicy reveal y'all have been waiting for! 

Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon to show your support for the show and to join the kinky party as we wait for season 2! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

Check out Voodoo's Flower Power vibe at voodoo.toys and use promo code "ASKASUB30" for 30% off your entire online order! 

Get 20% off Lina's Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

This week, we cover all the basics of dating and finding kinky people to play with. First, Lina covers the FAQs of dating app profiles – what to do if you're looking for your ideal Dom(me), how to signal to people that you're kinky without screaming "I'M A SUB" (but also totally cool to do this too), and how to connect from there. Next, Lina offers tools and criteria to navigate how to safely transition from apps to IRL to explore your kinks. And finally, Lina serves up some radical advice while covering the dilemma of getting you someone who can do both – aka, be your Dom(me) but also be a compatible partner outside of a scene. 

This episode is brought to you by Pure App, the shameless, sex-positive place to date! Visit https://puredating.app.link/jklrkuzrFlb for your dating needs! 

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you'd like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

We got a write-in question from a Patreon member wondering how to prepare for a big public kink event like Folsom, and Lina gets into creating a plan for regulation, connection, and what to do when you get super horny seeing a human doggy peeing in the gutter (FOR EXAMPLE). 

Sub On The Street: Folsom 2023 | TikTok Cat Video

Become a Patreon member to gain access to all the Ask A Sub benefits including our discord server, archive of premium audio and written posts, as well as our new podcast within a podcast, OTK with Lina and Mr. Dune.

Submit questions for this podcast by going to memo.fm/askasub and recording a voice memo.

Subscribe to the subby substack here. See the paid post archive here.

Get 20% off your order at http://www.momotaroapotheca.com with code LINADUNE

Twitter | @Lina.Dune | @askasub2.0

CREDITS

Created, Hosted, Produced and Edited by Lina Dune

With Additional Support from Mr. Dune

Artwork by Kayleigh Denner

Music by Dan Molad

CW for the Episode: Assault–please skip to 16:14 to go straight to question 2. 

Lina starts this week's episode by talking about how trauma informs Kink and BDSM, and the healing aspect that can come along with it. But big spoiler alert, there is no magical cure for trauma. And that's okay! In fact, your trauma doesn't need to even be involved with your Kinkiness at all if you so choose. Next up, Lina covers what loneliness can look like in BDSM and the self-shaming tendencies we have towards figuring out our roles and desires–and provides validation in having likes and dislikes and how to address those needs as submissives. And finally, hear Lina wax on the poetics of Cucking and what it can bring to the Kinky table, especially as a potential bridge between monogamy and non. And what to do about that lil thing called jealousy and how best to address it in moving towards threesomes, cucking, and/or ENM together. 

Esther Perel's Mating in Captivity: https://bookshop.org/a/14567/9780060753641

Ethical Slut: https://bookshop.org/a/14567/9780399579660

Dan Savage: https://www.thestranger.com/savage-love/2020/01/14/42559563/savage-love 

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you'd like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

Get 20% off Lina's Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

CW for the Episode: CNC–please skip to 13:50 to go straight to question 2.

This week, Lina breaks down Consensual Non-Consent – what it is, where the fantasy comes from, and how to safely proceed in play while still feeling seen and taken care of. Her secret?Starting slow. Lina then pivots to BDSM collaring, how it has changed over time, what it means now, and what it signifies to you and your dynamic. Over at Ask a Sub HQ, we personally love collars so strap in for your options and permission to do whatever kind of collaring works for and empowers you. And finally, Lina addresses the dilemma of a 24/7 sub in an ethically non-monogamous relationship who wants to maintain their protocols and stay true to their Dom's wishes, but also meet the needs of their other partners.

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you'd like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

Get 20% off Lina's Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner

This week on the table of sub wisdom is something a lot of subs historically have a past with – people pleasing. There is no magic solution, but Lina does her best to unpack it like the classic algebra problems that we definitely don't miss from highschool (but can we all agree that sexy problem-solving would have made the class a whole lot more fun?) Like what if "X" was monogamy and "Y" was kink–how do we get to "Z"?? And how about if "X" is people pleasing, and "Z" is being a Good sub, what is the value of "Y?" Okay, maybe too far but Lina still gets to the bottom of why people pleasing isn't healthy and how to try to shut it down, stay authentic to yourself, and go on to live your happy submissive life. And finally, Lina discusses what to do if you experience shaming from your friends and/or family about your kinky ways (no algebra here, we promise, just straight facts and support). 

Have a question about BDSM, sex, dating, relationships, Dom/sub dynamics, and anything else you'd like to ask Lina? Submit yours by emailing a voice memo to podcast@askasub.com - there is no question too bizarre or too basic!

Still thirsty for community? Join us on the Ask a Sub Patreon and have access to the most wholesome and kinky discord community! Check it out over at www.patreon.com/askasub

Get 20% off Lina's Conscious Kink course with code PODCAST at checkout https://www.askasub.com/conscious-kink 

You can follow Lina over at @askasub on both Instagram and Twitter! 

Make sure to subscribe, drop us a 5-star rating, and tell all your filthy friends about the show!

Host, Producer - Lina Dune | Producer, Editor - Stella Hartmann |

Producer, Research - Caroline Stephens | Music - Dan Molad 

Art by Kayleigh Denner