A Thought I Kept – Détails, épisodes et analyse

In this episode of A Thought I Kept, I’m joined by Nicky Denson-Elliott for a conversation about the beliefs many women carry without ever consciously choosing them and what can shift when we begin to let those beliefs go.

We talk about the emotional weight of comparison, competition, and feeling like we have to stay small or agreeable just to feel safe. About confidence not as a personality trait, but as something that changes across the different life contexts. About money, worth and the subtle ways women are taught to doubt themselves — often in the name of being good, likeable, or successful.

Nicky brings a simple but powerful thought to the table: "In order for me to win, no one else has to lose". From there, we explore what it means to unlearn internalised ideas about scarcity, competition between women, and self-worth and how crafting a more generous belief system can change not just how we relate to ourselves, but how we relate to other women too.

This conversation is for anyone who has ever noticed themselves comparing, under-charging, holding back, or feeling uneasy when someone else succeeds. It’s about self-trust, emotional awareness, and creating more room — for rest, confidence, and connection — without needing to push or prove.

About Nicky Denson-Elliott

Nicky Denson-Elliott is a serial entrepreneur, founder of The Wilder Collective, host of the Women’s Business podcast, and a mum of two. 

Everything Nicky does is about lifting the voices of female founders, and she empowers her community of women to break down conventional norms and become free to explore the lives and careers they want. 

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About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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In this episode, I talk to Matthew Bellringer about what it can feel like to move through a world that doesn’t always seem to be made for you and how impactful it can be to realise that other people may be experiencing that same world in fundamentally different ways.

We talk about neurodiversity, but always through lived experience rather than labels. About overwhelm, burnout, boredom, joy, and curiosity. About what happens when you’ve spent years mistrusting your own responses, your own pace, your own needs and how self-trust can begin to rebuild when you understand that difference isn’t failure.

Matthew shares how a later diagnosis of autism and ADHD helped them make sense of patterns they’d carried for a long time, from emotional intensity and exhaustion to creativity, insight, and the pull toward unconventional thinking. We explore rest that doesn’t look like stillness, wellbeing that doesn’t come from forcing yourself to fit, and the relief that can come from finding spaces — and people — where you don’t have to explain yourself quite so much.

Matthew Bellringer is a neurodiversity and innovation specialist who believes it takes an unconventional perspective to engage with some of the trickiest problems we face. They work with neurodivergent professionals, executives and business owners; organisations which want to support neurodiverse innovation; and organisations delivering innovative services to a neurodiverse audience.

Matthew specialises in supporting work that addresses problems from a unique perspective, co-production, and regenerative working practices. Alongside their private practice, Matthew is Chair and Co-founder of NeurodiverseIT, a group for neurodivergent IT professionals within BCS, the Chartered Institute of IT and the organiser and founder of Curious Being. Matthew is a late-discovery autistic ADHDer.

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About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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In this special episode of 'A Thought I Kept,' host Claire Fitzsimons is joined by Amanda Sheeren, her close friend and co-founder of 'If Lost Start Here', a wellbeing company aimed at helping people navigate modern life's complexities with creativity, curiosity and humour. 

This episode centers on Amanda’s thought that even in the dark times there is light. They discuss how the hardest and best parts of life can coexist, touching on topics such as parenting, depression, Instagram, sobriety, and finding joy in small moments. Amanda shares personal experiences, underscoring the importance of embracing both positive and negative emotions. The conversation also highlights mindfulness, intentional living, and the significance of community and connection in wellbeing practices.

01:26 Navigating Life's Challenges

07:23 The Power of Tiny Joys

10:13 Balancing Emotions

21:28 Creative Practices and Wellbeing

22:32 Exploring the 10 Pathways to Wellness

23:45 The Challenge of Untethering from Technology

24:13 Navigating Connection and Purpose

24:33 The Dual Nature of Technology

28:28 The Sober Illustrator: A Journey of Connection

30:36 Misconceptions About Sobriety

33:53 Living a Values-Based Life

38:57 Finding Joy in the Present Moment

43:51 Concluding Thoughts on Wellness and Joy

About Amanda Sheeren:

Amanda Sheeren is with Claire Fitzsimmons the co-founder of If Lost Start Here. She is also a freelance writer, illustrator, and graphic designer from Marin County, California. Amanda is the creator of The Sober Illustrator and Okay, Yeah! Design.

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives. Claire writes on Substack under

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About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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In this episode of 'A Thought I Kept,' host Claire Fitzsimmons engages in a heartfelt conversation with Katharina Geissler-Evans, founder and editor-in-chief of heiter. The discussion explores how to find resilience during exhaustion and overwhelm, and how to create intentional and joyful connections in our increasingly online lives. Katarina shares how the philosophy 'if there's a will, there's a way' has guided her through challenges, and supported her through periods of perseverance. This conversation delves into the importance of small, joyful moments, and the value of community and gratitude practices during all life's seasons.

03:36 The Power of 'If There's a Will, There's a Way'

08:33 Overcoming Challenges and Finding Joy

10:31 Building a Community and a Brand

18:51 The Importance of In-Person Connections

23:17 Values and Future Plans 

About Katharina

Katharina Geissler-Evans is the founder & editor-in-chief of heiter, an independent lifestyle publication and brand with a strong focus on supporting others in finding and celebrating joy in the chaos. If Katharina doesn’t write, curate and talk about all things heiter, she spends her time exploring different aspects of intentional living in her own life as well as fashion styling for other brands and indie publications. Katharina, who describes herself as “a multi-passionate creative”, lives with her husband and their two kids in Edinburgh.

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About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission

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This is A Thought I Kept — Weekly conversations about the ideas that stay. Listen every Monday morning for a new thought to hold onto this week, especially when the world feels overwhelming.

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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Why do our hearts race at the sound of an email? Why does one glance at our phones send us into full-blown panic? In this episode, we're joined by massage therapist and author Carrie Ekins, who helps us understand what’s really going on in our bodies when everything feels like a threat.

Carrie shares how the nervous system can get stuck in survival mode and why modern life triggers ancient fear responses that were once meant to protect us from sabre-toothed tigers. Together, we explore simple, practical ways to return to safety, anchor ourselves in the present, and reclaim emotional steadiness in a world that often feels like too much.

You’ll learn:

• Why your brain can't tell the difference between an email and a real-life threat
• The hidden cost of being constantly “on” — and how to gently switch off
• What “safety” actually feels like in the body 
• Small, powerful tools to regulate your emotions

Whether you’re feeling fried, frantic, or just a bit untethered lately, this conversation offers a warm, human path back to yourself. You don’t need to meditate for 40 minutes or change everything about your life – just a few small shifts can make a big difference.

01:41 The Saber-Tooth Tiger Analogy

02:46 Carrie's Journey into Massage Therapy

05:10 Understanding the Stress Response Cycle

07:03 Techniques for Managing Stress

08:57 The Disembodied vs. Embodied Self

13:19 The Importance of Mind-Body Connection

20:32 Storytelling and Myofascial Release

24:40 The Power of Breath and Softening

26:02 The Magic of Being Present

28:09 Challenging Hustle Culture

29:43 Emotions and the Body

32:15 Building Emotional Safety

36:24 Navigating Midlife Changes

37:26 The Importance of Connection

41:47 Embracing Magic and Alchemy

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Polyvagal Theory by Dr. Stephen Porges
• Breath by James Nestor

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This is A Thought I Kept — Weekly conversations about the ideas that stay. Listen every Monday morning for a new thought to hold onto this week, especially when the world feels overwhelming.

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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In this week’s episode of A Thought I Kept, storyteller and creative leader Andrea Rathborne shares a memory so vivid, it feels like a short film stitched into the fabric of her life. This experience taught Andrea to appreciate the everyday small but meaningful moments, which she likens to a series of dashes and dots, forming a personal Morse code of memories. 

Host Claire Fitzsimmons talks with Andrea about what it means to notice deeply, to be changed by presence, and to hold onto the moments that quietly shape us — the ones we shelve in our own inner library, ready to return to when we need them most.

Together Claire and Andrea explore how her project Half Betty is creating space for midlife women to be seen, heard, and celebrated. We discuss the importance of intergenerational wisdom, and the power of sharing our stories.

This episode emphasizes the need to notice and cherish the beauty, joy, and even the sorrows in life, encouraging listeners to find connection in the everyday.

00:36 Introducing Andrea Rathborne

02:22 Andrea's Thought: Life as a Series of Moments

05:27 A Memorable Encounter in Greece

12:20 Reflections on the Experience

31:48 The Inspiration Behind Half Betty

Andrea Rathborne is a storyteller, creative leader, and cultural voice whose work has always lived at the intersection of imagination and human connection. With more than two decades shaping the identities of purpose-led global brands, she is now the founder and host of Half Betty, a podcast and storytelling platform exploring identity, reinvention, and the quiet (and sometimes unruly) strength of midlife.

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Claire Fitzsimmons is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives. Claire writes on Substack

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This is A Thought I Kept — Weekly conversations about the ideas that stay. Listen every Monday morning for a new thought to hold onto this week, especially when the world feels overwhelming.

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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In this episode of A Thought I Kept, host Claire Fitzsimmons invites Anya Pearse, a coach, mentor, and creative thinker, to discuss a thought that's stayed with her: 'Am I feeling my thinking?' 

The conversation explores the origins of this thought, inspired by the works of Byron Katie and Michael Neil, and explores themes of self-awareness, self-compassion, and acceptance. Anya shares personal anecdotes and insights into how this thought has impacted her understanding of emotions and thinking. 

This episode emphasizes the complexity and interconnectedness of ideas, thoughts, and feelings, and how understanding these can transform one's life. It also highlights the importance of accepting ourselves and the generous sharing of ideas to cultivate a richer, more connected life.

00:24 Meet This Week's Guest: Anya

01:37 The Thought: 'Am I Feeling My Thinking?'

02:03 Exploring Byron Katie's 'The Work'

04:02 Michael Neil and the Three Principles

15:51 The Ecosystem of Ideas

About Anya Pearse

Anya Pearse MAPP is a Positive Psychology Practitioner, intuitive advisor, coach and writer. She has an MSc in Applied Positive Psychology and is the host of The A to Z of Happiness podcast. Anya is the community host at The Happy Startup School and has worked with the Museum of Happiness, Hay House and The Neurodiversity Education Academy.

www.anyapearse.com

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps people navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives. Claire writes on Substack about all things wellbeing at MoreGoodDays.

People, Thinkers & Teachers Mentioned

Byron Katie: The Work, “Judge your neighbour, write it down, ask four questions, turn it around.”

Michael Neill: Coach and author. TEDx talk:

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This is A Thought I Kept — Weekly conversations about the ideas that stay. Listen every Monday morning for a new thought to hold onto this week, especially when the world feels overwhelming.

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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In this conversation, Claire Fitzsimmons and Emma Simpson explore the profound question of 'What's the worst that can happen?' as a guiding principle in life. Emma shares her journey of transforming fear into adventure, resilience through grief, and the balance between safety and freedom in parenting. They discuss the importance of emotional energy in nurturing friendships and the challenges of making connections as adults. The conversation emphasizes the value of community, the courage to embrace change, and the necessity of facing life's uncertainties with a positive mindset.

Takeaways

• The phrase 'What's the worst that can happen?' can shift from fear to adventure.
• Resilience is built through experiences of grief and loss.
• Emotional energy is crucial in nurturing relationships and friendships.
• Finding a balance between safety and freedom is essential in parenting.
• Embracing change can lead to fulfilling new paths in life.
• Community and connection are vital for overcoming loneliness.
• It's important to invest in friendships and seek nurturing connections.
• Life's challenges can be faced with a positive mindset and adaptability.
• The journey of personal growth often involves taking risks.
• Emotional energy can be replenished through creative expression and meaningful interactions.

Chapters

01:02 The Power of 'What's the Worst That Can Happen?'

02:35 Evolution of a Mindset: From Fear to Adventure

05:43 Resilience Through Grief and Loss

08:33 Balancing Safety and Freedom in Parenting

11:22 Embracing Life's Waves: Adapt and Overcome

14:27 Taking Risks: A New Chapter in Life

17:26 Facing Fear and Embracing Change

19:48 The Emotional Energy Exchange

24:36 Nurturing Friendships and Connections

28:54 Overcoming Loneliness and Finding Community 

 About Emma Simpson

Emma Simpson is an award-winning debut author, wild swimmer and tea sommelier. Having spent a couple of decades being distracted by a career in air traffic control, and experiencing two life-wrenching events, Emma rediscovered her pen and her passion for storytelling at the same time as discovering how transformational cold-water swimming was for her health, wellbeing, and sense of connection with the wor

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This is A Thought I Kept — Weekly conversations about the ideas that stay. Listen every Monday morning for a new thought to hold onto this week, especially when the world feels overwhelming.

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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In this episode of Thought I Kept, host Claire Fitzsimmons welcomes journalist and author Rosamund Dean, creator of the brilliant Substack Well, Well, Well. They discuss the complexities and contradictions of wellness including Rosamund's mindful approach to drinking and her experience with breast cancer. 

This conversation explores how to make health choices fun and sustainable, the impact of competitive PE classes on kids, and the importance of community and playfulness in wellness. 

It's a candid and timely discussion about experimenting with health habits, social connections, and redefining wellness on our own terms.

00:37 Exploring Wellness and Midlife

01:00 Rosamund's Career and Books

01:26 Conversation on Wellness Habits

02:51 Strength Training and Menopause

04:26 The Journey to Mindful Drinking

06:33 Reframing Health and Wellness

17:56 The Role of Social Connections

21:41 Embracing Personal Preferences in Wellness

22:16 Defining Personal Wellbeing Goals

22:40 The Impact of Early Menopause and Cancer on Health

22:59 Shifting Mindsets Post-Illness

24:32 Modeling Healthy Behaviors for Children

25:27 Reevaluating Physical Education and Activity

30:57 The Concept of a Modern Wellness Person

33:31 Writing About Wellness: Keeping It Real

38:04 The Practice of Drinking Less Alcohol

About Rosamund Dean:

Rosamund Dean is a journalist and author with a special interest in human behaviour and relatable wellness. Previously deputy editor of Grazia, she writes for The Times, Telegraph, Women’s Health and Vogue. She is the founder of popular wellness Substack, Well Well Well, as well as author of Mindful Drinking: How Cutting Down Can Change Your Life, and Reconstruction: How to Rebuild Your Body, Mind & Life After Breast Cancer. 

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, some

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This is A Thought I Kept — Weekly conversations about the ideas that stay. Listen every Monday morning for a new thought to hold onto this week, especially when the world feels overwhelming.

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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In this episode of A Thought I Kept host Claire Fitzsimmons talks to Eleanor Tweddell, a writer, speaker, and change consultant. Eleanor discusses what it was like to write and publish her new book, Another Door Opens: Five Steps for Navigating Change in Life and Work. 

The discussion ranges from the importance of pausing, the reassuring nature of messiness, and holding space for magic during transitions. Eleanor shares her experiences with the fluctuating nature of work and personal projects, emphasizing that meaningful change requires asking rather than rushing to answer questions and being intentional when we’re ready to do so. 

The episode encourages listeners to navigate change thoughtfully, leaving space for unexpectedly positive outcomes.

01:38 The Launch Day Experience

02:38 Letting Go and Embracing Feedback

04:48 Always Leave Space for Magic

09:47 The Importance of Pausing and Resting

18:27 Navigating Unexpected Changes

19:58 Staying Calm in Chaos

20:38 The Power of Self-Talk

21:30 Exploring Archetypes

21:57 The Doers, Ponderers, and True Pausers

25:08 Intentional Living

25:52 Navigating Transitions

28:33 The Journey of Change

33:54 Celebrating Achievements

37:16 Embracing the Messiness of Change

About Eleanor Tweddell

Eleanor Tweddell is a change specialist - helping us to find joy and opportunity amongst messy changes in our life. After 20 years of corporate life, Eleanor decided to set up her own business, Another Door Opens, after being laid off in 2016. She is the author of the books Why losing your job could be the best thing to ever happen to you, and Another Door Opens. Eleanor encourages us not to fear change but embrace all the messy, uncomfortable feelings that come with it, and allow ourselves to have hope that it might just work out to be more than OK.

Website: www.another-door-opens.com

Substack: https://anotherdoor.substack.com/

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lo

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This is A Thought I Kept — Weekly conversations about the ideas that stay. Listen every Monday morning for a new thought to hold onto this week, especially when the world feels overwhelming.

About Claire Fitzsimmons

Claire is the host of A Thought I Kept, a wellbeing writer and the co-founder of If Lost Start Here, a company on a mission to get people to a better place, sometimes literally. As an ICF Associate Certified Coach and a certified Emotions Coach Practitioner, Claire helps women navigate the everyday lost moments of their lives and all the feelings, from anxiety to grief, overwhelm to loneliness. For personal coaching, reach out to Claire here.

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